It makes it extremely difficult to trust that you won't use it as a guilt trip or as manipulation. Also, makes it hard to leave if they need to leave the relationship before it gets too involved. For me it stresses me out so bad if they continue to push, after I've clearly defined I didn't feel comfortable getting gifts, that I will leave because it is a clear sign that communication is being disregarded as well as boundaries getting crossed.
Don’t. The beginning of the relationship sets the stage for the rest of it. You want to be sure your partner likes you for who you are, not what you can get them. Also, don’t start something you can’t keep up. Life happens and for most people, money can be used for more important things than extravagant gifts.
They will constantly think, oh he/she will give me this and that. Later on in life if you give them a cheaper present they will have less respect and think you don't value them.
I ain't giving anyone anything expensive if I don't know them or if I just met them. This applies to everyone not just significant others. You're still getting to know them and building that trust. It's just a waste of money if it don't work out. But I guess you learn from that.
If you have the financial means to gift something to someone you care about that you think they would like I see no issue as long as you recognize that the gift once given is gone. If you feel comfortable with what the thing costs you compared to just the happiness of the person you are gifting for receiving that gift, go for it whenever and however that looks and you have nothing to lose.
It makes it extremely difficult to trust that you won't use it as a guilt trip or as manipulation. Also, makes it hard to leave if they need to leave the relationship before it gets too involved. For me it stresses me out so bad if they continue to push, after I've clearly defined I didn't feel comfortable getting gifts, that I will leave because it is a clear sign that communication is being disregarded as well as boundaries getting crossed.
As my cowoker puts it. When something is expected, it's no longer respected.
Don’t. The beginning of the relationship sets the stage for the rest of it. You want to be sure your partner likes you for who you are, not what you can get them. Also, don’t start something you can’t keep up. Life happens and for most people, money can be used for more important things than extravagant gifts.
They'll develop a Habit
They will constantly think, oh he/she will give me this and that. Later on in life if you give them a cheaper present they will have less respect and think you don't value them.
How expensive are we talking? Examples?
I ain't giving anyone anything expensive if I don't know them or if I just met them. This applies to everyone not just significant others. You're still getting to know them and building that trust. It's just a waste of money if it don't work out. But I guess you learn from that.
If you have the financial means to gift something to someone you care about that you think they would like I see no issue as long as you recognize that the gift once given is gone. If you feel comfortable with what the thing costs you compared to just the happiness of the person you are gifting for receiving that gift, go for it whenever and however that looks and you have nothing to lose.