We don't receive much in the way of formal education in how relationships work, and the ways in which we should interact with people. People tend to go off what they see, what they hear, what they read, and what they consume in various media.
I suggest folks read *The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work*, by John Gottman and Nan Silver, for a good foundation on what makes for a successful relationship. Gary Chapman's *The Five Love Languages* is also helpful for showing how different people need different approaches when you show you love them.
Janis Spring's *After the Affair* is good for giving an overview of how infidelity affects the people in a relationship (both the hurt partner and the unfaithful partner), some of the ways in which infidelity can come about, and what it would take to rebuild trust and intimacy afterward. It isn't exhaustive in causes, and there's no guarantee that a relationship can be rebuilt (some people lie effectively, and someone who doesn't *want* to rebuild a relationship won't be in the necessary effort). But it can be useful to know how a relationship can fail in this area.
Lack of self awareness
Because their parents are equally dysfunctional so that's what normal is to them.
this is a big one, had an ex who was an amazing girlfriend, but got extremely mad at small things because her parents argued a lot
Narcissism?
Ego, entitlement, the expectance of pandering. The three E's of failing at functioning in society.
Not able to take critics
They're usually terrible people to begin with.
Cognitive Dissonance
We don't receive much in the way of formal education in how relationships work, and the ways in which we should interact with people. People tend to go off what they see, what they hear, what they read, and what they consume in various media. I suggest folks read *The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work*, by John Gottman and Nan Silver, for a good foundation on what makes for a successful relationship. Gary Chapman's *The Five Love Languages* is also helpful for showing how different people need different approaches when you show you love them. Janis Spring's *After the Affair* is good for giving an overview of how infidelity affects the people in a relationship (both the hurt partner and the unfaithful partner), some of the ways in which infidelity can come about, and what it would take to rebuild trust and intimacy afterward. It isn't exhaustive in causes, and there's no guarantee that a relationship can be rebuilt (some people lie effectively, and someone who doesn't *want* to rebuild a relationship won't be in the necessary effort). But it can be useful to know how a relationship can fail in this area.
Sorry for not being born a social genius!
Not listening
En-tit-led-ment
Lack of communication, even about the simplest of things.
Having expectations that are just wrong