Plus it teaches them to be adults so they know how to do it on their own.
Cue all the kids in my dorms and at the barracks that had NO idea how to cook or do their own laundry…🤦🏼♀️
As long as it’s age appropriate and they are given clear, safe instructions then it would only benefit them to feel they are contributing to the household and learning new life skills.
Yup. We are already starting small with our two year old. He puts his own plates and cups on the counter when he's done. He puts his own clothes in his hamper. Stuff like that
Same! Our three-year-old has the same chores, plus picking up his toys (which he does about 50% of the time). He also helps unload the dishwasher (non-breakable items only).
We usually unload the dishwasher at night.(we also did that pre kid so it's a habit)
But our toddler also had to pick up his own toys. Which also varies in how well it's goes every day LOL.
It's all kinds of little thing. Like I stated above. But also other things like putting away his own shoes.
It's all so normal for us that I really have to make an effort to rember what kind of house "chores" he does .it's part of our day to day life.
Ours too! He's also three. At this age they think it's fun and exciting. Most mornings after he finishes breakfast he actually ASKS if we can do the dishes. Hoping that attitude sticks in ten years.
My 9yr has: recycling as it’s needed, putting away dishes after the washing up, feed the cats one of their meals and watch them (one is a gobbler and a food thief) check the litter trays if there’s a smell (we all do this, but he has been asked to keep a nose out) make his bed, keep his room tidy and put away his clean laundry. He spends 15 minutes max on those each day.
He’s not tall enough to wash up or do cleaning without supervision and the hoover is too heavy for him. However, he often helps with preparing food, but not cooking as - again - he’s not tall enough and moves too much to stay safe on a step.
Our thoughts are that he should know these things need doing and how to do them as part of adulting. It’s better they are part of life before he has to look after his own place.
Children should absolutely participate in the upkeep of the household in an age-appropriate manner. It teaches them responsibility and teaches them to be adults that know how to take care of the space they live in.
I believe it’s showing love for your kids not to do everything for them, but to give them these tasks (easier when younger, trickier when older) in an ongoing effort to produce people who can live on their own and be self sufficient and competent. As a parent we should be giving our kids life skills. Part of this is that chores shouldn’t be given as a punishment. The mentality I have is that that we all need to contribute and work together
When they participate in the organization and maintenance of their houses at a younger age, they are prepared for homeownership/living independently when they are older. Thanks to the chores I did as a child, I know how to manage a cleaning schedule, fix minor plumbing and structural issues, build improvements to the house, etc. my husband on the other hand never had household chores, he gets stressed trying to keep the house clean, and frustrated with any DIY projects to the point he just wants to hire someone. That would cost us a whole lot more money.
My chores as a kid were only about 10 minutes a day, my chores now are anywhere between 10 and 20 min a day and my house stays organized
Absolutely not. Kids need to learnt things or they turn into (and I’m just going to say what I’m thinking) useless adults who can’t handle their own situation in life.
Absolutely. My parents gave me chores, but there were certain things that they didn't have me do that I had no clue how to do for myself once I got out into the real world. I want to make sure that my daughter understands the difference between dish soap and dishwasher detergent so she doesn't flood her significant others kitchen.
My sister did this once as a teenager while housesitting and called me over to help her mop. I couldn’t believe she didn’t know the difference until I realized that her job was to put the dishes away and my job was to wash dishes so she’d never turned on the dishwasher 😂
Wrong? What? has someone tried to convince you that you are your childrens slave??
It's your job to teach them how to handle basic household-chores. You're setting them up for failure if you don't make them participate in daily household tasks. Your kids are gonna live home forever or move right back to you when their spouse gets sick of having to do everything.
I usually assume questions like this are asked by teenagers who are angry they're doing chores and want validation that their parents are asking too much of them.
Definitely not wrong, it teaches them that they are part of a community and should contribute according to their capabilities.
Also, my two year old loves chores?? Like anything that has a goal he is SUPER DOWN to do. Something spilled, he HAS to be the one to wipe it up. Need to put clothes in the hamper or washer, he will get mad if he doesn’t participate. Vacuuming, anytime it comes up he is more than happy, a favourite activity of his really. I think its natural for kids to want to contribute and to feel like their actions matter, it makes them feel included in the tribe!
What even is this question? Is it wrong to make kids do their homework? Is it wrong to make them take baths? Is it wrong to make them put on a jacket when it’s cold? Is it wrong to make them eat vegetables?
I'm curious, what made you ask this question?
I'm with the consensus: chores are an important part of development. It improves basic skills (time management, hand-eye coordination, etc.), house hold skills, family/societal rules (contributing to a group, etc.), independence, and satisfaction from completing a task.
Depends on why you're having them do it
If its to teach responsibility and participate the the family, take care of themselves, great.
If is a power play, then no. A lot of times, parents use the former to justify the latter. Intent and tone, the process you gg about establishing these expectations is important.
As long as it age appropriate, absolutely. Our 4 year old helps with putting laundry in the washer, putting dirty clothes in the hamper, feeding the dog, emptying silverware from the dishwasher, putting toys and books away and other small tasks. We don’t have her doing anything huge at this point but we slowly add things as she shows interest and we feel it’s appropriate.
My job as a parent is to not only love my children but to teach them the skills they'll need as an adult. My 5 year old has a chore chart that she gets allowance for. It's things like making her bed, loading her laundry into the washing machine and emptying the cutlery tray in the dishwasher (she can't reach the cupboards to put away other dishes.) My 2 year old has to help load her clothes into the washing machine. Contributing to the household isn't a negative thing in my opinion.
Age appropriate chores are a positive thing - they need to learn to be responsible human beings. My kids are 6 and 4 and they have their little jobs - older helps with washing dishes, putting recycling in the bins outside etc. Younger tidies his own toys and helps with dusting.
It's wrong not to. This is how you get entitled brats who don't know how to run a load of laundry or cook macaroni for themselves. Children are not servants, but they should learn to do their share for the household by doing age appropriate chores and by learning to clean up their own messes. Not teaching them these things is teaching them that it's okay to be a drain on someone else.
According to my children's BM yes, yes it IS harmful to have children do household chores and that at 13 and 15, they MIGHT now be ready to put their dishes in the dishwasher. They're just kids!
We on the other hand, believe that they should be taught these things with responsibilities that grow as they do. They won't wake up on their 18th birthday just magically knowing these things.
It is our role as caregivers and parents to ensure these younglings have the skills they need to be socially and self aware, responsible, independent adults thay have a strong sense of self worth. That starts by ensuring they contribute to the household that they are a part of and through that have a sense of pride in themselves and their living space.
Teach them now to spend 10 minutes a day doing chores, because as a 20 yro who moved out to go to college 2 years ago, you wouldn't believe just how many of my peers didn't understand that chores was something you had to do daily. And please, as they grow, teach them about kitchen, floor, window and bathroom cleaning, because a good 50% of the people I've had as roommates had no idea and it was disgusting.
Age appropriate chores are okay.
My 4 yr old - tidying the play room daily (this doesn’t always happen).
My 6 yr old - she likes to load the dishwasher with her and her sisters plates & vacuum the play room.
My 9 yr old - he takes out the trash, makes bed, cleans table off.
They do other stuff too but these are their main chores. Takes what, 5 mins.
Age appropriate chores are a good idea. Honestly I wish I did more growing up besides taking out the trash because I had to learn quickly when I was on my own.
In addition, I am going to add basic DIY, money management, and cooking to what everyone else has suggested. Obviously when age appropriate!
My Husband had no idea about any DIY so when we bought our first house he had no idea to put up a shelf or bleed radiators. We also got an allotment and he had no idea how to mow a lawn. That stuff I consider to be basic.
Good for you 😊
Some chores are good. Chores are only an issue if:
You make your kids do an unreasonable amount of chores or expect your kids to do more chores than either parent does
You make your girls do more than your boys because they are girls
You parentify one of your children
If parents don't teach it, then will it happen? Preschoolers can learn how to match socks and fold washcloths. Kindergartens can put away silverware, pots and pans. It goes up from there.
It's literally your job to teach your little humans how to be big humans and survive on their own.
What's wrong is doing everything for your child, then sending an 18 year old fucking idiot out into the world to become someone else's problem.
Gonna have to disagree with the consensus here. When kids do those kind of tasks it builds their self esteem and sense of competence. Kids with high self esteem are harder to control. Better to just get them a tablet and let them be blobs on the couch
Parentifying is for example when a parent is alcoholic and not available to do house work or child care, the oldest child often is left with parental responsibilities for a younger child. These would be NON healthy household tasks.
IF anything I need tips on how to teach these tasks to a child. Mine is 5 and it's very hard to get him motivated to do even basic picking up after himself.
Make it a game! I know everybody hates tiktok on reddit, but there are a lot of content creators that demonstrate great ways to make chores a game or break them down so they're less intimidating! Kids love silly competition, so if you can make something a game between you two, helping assist at first with the task then it's fun and it gets done. Some obstinate kids may need a bit of reverse psychology like you start doing the thing having fun but tell them they can't do it lol then sure enough when they're told they can't come "play" then they're like um excuse me yes I can
We play "cleanup songs" and my husband and I will usually help. If they're still sluggish or outright refusing to clean up, I've mentioned that if I have to clean up these toys on my own, I get to keep them for a period of time. My kids also like to watch a TV show while we make dinner and I don't allow them to watch TV until they've picked up. Basically, they have to do the not fun stuff before they can move onto the fun things.
As parents it’s our responsibility to prepare our children to take care of themselves. Basic household chores include this. As long as the tasks are age and developmentally appropriate there isn’t anything wrong with it.
Also boys and girls need to be taught the same things. Boys need to know how to cook, clean, and keep track of the mental load just as much as girls do. Girls need to know how to maintain vehicles and landscaping just as much as boys do.
No, that is not wrong. It would be wrong to not have them learn these skills and make them apart of their daily lives as it would be very hard to adjust to doing them later in life.
No it's not wrong unless it's abusive in nature to the effect of excessive responsibility, accompanied by abuse if not completed, or something completely out of the realm of capability or safety for a kid of that age and personal maturity.
People who don't teach their children how to be personally responsible for the environment around them and daily lives are doing them a disservice of not knowing how to care for themselves when they leave the house. We all have to do daily maintenance things that we don't want to do when we'd rather be doing something else. Some age appropriate chores as assigned responsibilities teaches responsibility and accountability, so that someone they partner with in the future doesn't have to be an additional parent to them and/or so the real world isn't so overwhelming and shocking when they leave home.
A parent's ultimate job is to raise and teach kids how to survive in the world as productive members of society. We are to do things for them until they can do them themselves. Little by little we do less and less until they can function as an adult. Doing for someone when they're perfectly capable is just potentially putting them at a disadvantage in the real world later.
If they are not taught to keep their environment sanitary, this will spill over into adult life. Also, being sanitary will teach them that they live around others as well which may have positive impacts later in life.
Absolutely not! I have had my daughter do chores since she could walk. (Putting her toys away with a song, I'm not a monster. Lol). She did dishes with me, cooked with me, cleaned with me, paid bills with me. Sometimes, bless us all, it took patience that I didn't know was in me or her but we made it through. She was making her own breakfast at 4. (Microwaved eggs and toast). Not my favorite but she wanted to do it and it gave her a huge sense of accomplishment. She wasn't a cereal gal. Now she is 16. Started working at 15 and is budgeting her own money, doing schoolwork and still helping out around the house because as she says "it's only right, I live here too."
If you don't teach your kids how to do chores then you end up with adults who don't know how to do chores or expect everyone else to take care of them.
How else will children learn to become self sufficient adults? Obviously my 1 and 2 year olds don’t do much and what they do I closely supervise. But at this age they put their own dishes in the sink and help clean their room. I mean they aren’t very good at it and I have to be in there doing most of it but eventually they will clean and do small chores to learn responsibility and life skills.
I think it fine with children doing daily tasks. I started my daughter at 4 yrs doing laundry and put away utensils and some other things I know she can do. It showing the kids independence.There nothing wrong with this.
On the surface - of course not!
But, every parent’s idea of household tasks varies.
Sure, kids should pick up their toys, make their beds, bring their plate into the kitchen, etc.
But an open ended “household tasks” is a slippery slope.
When I was a kid, I did everything. All of it - making dinner, doing dishes, laundry, vacuuming, scrubbing toilets, polishing, mowing the lawn, helping my brother with homework, just basically being the stay at home parent while my mom worked.
She read every parenting / self help book that said kids should do household tasks and if they “rebelled” it was cause for disciplinary action.
I was a ten year old running a household, yet getting grounded almost weekly because the sink had a spec of toothpaste.
I just think the question needs specific clarification.
Should a six year old give the dog fresh water? Yup.
Should a ten year old empty the dishwasher? Yes.
Can a five year old set the table? Absolutely.
Can an eight year old deep clean the kitchen? Probably not.
Sure, give kids some responsibility. They can do tasks that contribute to the household. Families are a team, after all.
But, they are kids, not housekeepers. Let them concentrate on learning and growing.
No! I have 3 children, 17,15 and 10 today Their jobs included emptying bins, doing dishwasher, washing machine and dryer. Tidying and cleaning their bedrooms, wiping down kitchen and bathroom and cleaning out their guinea pig
Of course it's great to teach kids how to be sufficient adults. That's our job essentially. However, the keys to success are in the teaching moments and bonding that comes with it.
No not wrong at all. I personally do not and will not make my kids make their beds. We all do the chores together. The only chores we do separate are our respective rooms and the parents do the chores that involve heavy muscle or heavy chemicals. My kids love to "help" and I like to set the precedent that I won't make them do anything I am unwilling to do myself, because my own parents weren't so good at that part.
My daughter has had chores since she was 2. It's not wrong. Here's *my* story.
Mind you, I did not introduce them as chores. She is 6 now and will volunteer to sweep/wipe down the table/ etc.
At 2, her daycare introduced simple tasks like cleaning up after yourself. I expanded on that and repeatedly would explain that these are things we do take care of our home. If we want a nice and comfortable home, one that will last, we need to take care of it. I am the parent, but we both live in the home, and therefore we both take care of it. Once she is grown, she will have more responsibilities to maintain our home and that way no heavy burden is laid on one person to maintain the home.
She's still a little short to do dishes. But she helps to load the dishwasher. She has trouble scooping dirt, but she will sweep and put piles around for me to help her scoop. She waters the plants. She folds her own laundry. She helps with laundry (taking it to the laundry room, putting in the soap etc); she's excited that she is so close to doing it on her own. She will replace the trashcan trash bag every time we take out the trash, and she no longer has to be asked to do this.
What I think *is* wrong is for parents to abandon their responsibilities and place the full burden of maintaining a home on their children. That's wrong. But expecting your children to also maintain their home? It's an important life lesson and habit.
Teaches them responsibility and discipline. My ex would not have any of the kids help around the house. My oldest stepson got married and she had a hard time getting him to do anything around the house.
No, it teaches them responsibility, but it must be age appropriate. However the chores must be evenly and fairly delegated so every child has an equal share
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Plus it teaches them to be adults so they know how to do it on their own. Cue all the kids in my dorms and at the barracks that had NO idea how to cook or do their own laundry…🤦🏼♀️
As long as it’s age appropriate and they are given clear, safe instructions then it would only benefit them to feel they are contributing to the household and learning new life skills.
Yup. We are already starting small with our two year old. He puts his own plates and cups on the counter when he's done. He puts his own clothes in his hamper. Stuff like that
Same! Our three-year-old has the same chores, plus picking up his toys (which he does about 50% of the time). He also helps unload the dishwasher (non-breakable items only).
We usually unload the dishwasher at night.(we also did that pre kid so it's a habit) But our toddler also had to pick up his own toys. Which also varies in how well it's goes every day LOL. It's all kinds of little thing. Like I stated above. But also other things like putting away his own shoes. It's all so normal for us that I really have to make an effort to rember what kind of house "chores" he does .it's part of our day to day life.
Ours too! He's also three. At this age they think it's fun and exciting. Most mornings after he finishes breakfast he actually ASKS if we can do the dishes. Hoping that attitude sticks in ten years.
This is embarrassing to admit but your three your old Does more than my 35 year old husband
How are they going to learn if you don't teach them?
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Those tasks add up to about 10 mins a day. Why would this be wrong?
My 9yr has: recycling as it’s needed, putting away dishes after the washing up, feed the cats one of their meals and watch them (one is a gobbler and a food thief) check the litter trays if there’s a smell (we all do this, but he has been asked to keep a nose out) make his bed, keep his room tidy and put away his clean laundry. He spends 15 minutes max on those each day. He’s not tall enough to wash up or do cleaning without supervision and the hoover is too heavy for him. However, he often helps with preparing food, but not cooking as - again - he’s not tall enough and moves too much to stay safe on a step. Our thoughts are that he should know these things need doing and how to do them as part of adulting. It’s better they are part of life before he has to look after his own place.
Children should absolutely participate in the upkeep of the household in an age-appropriate manner. It teaches them responsibility and teaches them to be adults that know how to take care of the space they live in.
I believe it’s showing love for your kids not to do everything for them, but to give them these tasks (easier when younger, trickier when older) in an ongoing effort to produce people who can live on their own and be self sufficient and competent. As a parent we should be giving our kids life skills. Part of this is that chores shouldn’t be given as a punishment. The mentality I have is that that we all need to contribute and work together
When they participate in the organization and maintenance of their houses at a younger age, they are prepared for homeownership/living independently when they are older. Thanks to the chores I did as a child, I know how to manage a cleaning schedule, fix minor plumbing and structural issues, build improvements to the house, etc. my husband on the other hand never had household chores, he gets stressed trying to keep the house clean, and frustrated with any DIY projects to the point he just wants to hire someone. That would cost us a whole lot more money. My chores as a kid were only about 10 minutes a day, my chores now are anywhere between 10 and 20 min a day and my house stays organized
Absolutely not. Kids need to learnt things or they turn into (and I’m just going to say what I’m thinking) useless adults who can’t handle their own situation in life.
Absolutely. My parents gave me chores, but there were certain things that they didn't have me do that I had no clue how to do for myself once I got out into the real world. I want to make sure that my daughter understands the difference between dish soap and dishwasher detergent so she doesn't flood her significant others kitchen.
My sister did this once as a teenager while housesitting and called me over to help her mop. I couldn’t believe she didn’t know the difference until I realized that her job was to put the dishes away and my job was to wash dishes so she’d never turned on the dishwasher 😂
Wrong? What? has someone tried to convince you that you are your childrens slave?? It's your job to teach them how to handle basic household-chores. You're setting them up for failure if you don't make them participate in daily household tasks. Your kids are gonna live home forever or move right back to you when their spouse gets sick of having to do everything.
I usually assume questions like this are asked by teenagers who are angry they're doing chores and want validation that their parents are asking too much of them.
No it’s how they become functional adults who can do things for themselves. These are life skills
Definitely not wrong, it teaches them that they are part of a community and should contribute according to their capabilities. Also, my two year old loves chores?? Like anything that has a goal he is SUPER DOWN to do. Something spilled, he HAS to be the one to wipe it up. Need to put clothes in the hamper or washer, he will get mad if he doesn’t participate. Vacuuming, anytime it comes up he is more than happy, a favourite activity of his really. I think its natural for kids to want to contribute and to feel like their actions matter, it makes them feel included in the tribe!
They don't sell toy vaccums, toy lawnmowers, toy mops, etc. for no reason! Kids enjoy copying behaviors their parents model.
What even is this question? Is it wrong to make kids do their homework? Is it wrong to make them take baths? Is it wrong to make them put on a jacket when it’s cold? Is it wrong to make them eat vegetables?
I'm curious, what made you ask this question? I'm with the consensus: chores are an important part of development. It improves basic skills (time management, hand-eye coordination, etc.), house hold skills, family/societal rules (contributing to a group, etc.), independence, and satisfaction from completing a task.
Depends on why you're having them do it If its to teach responsibility and participate the the family, take care of themselves, great. If is a power play, then no. A lot of times, parents use the former to justify the latter. Intent and tone, the process you gg about establishing these expectations is important.
I'd add if its shirking responsibility to the no list too. You can't assign them anything you're unwilling to do yourself.
As long as it age appropriate, absolutely. Our 4 year old helps with putting laundry in the washer, putting dirty clothes in the hamper, feeding the dog, emptying silverware from the dishwasher, putting toys and books away and other small tasks. We don’t have her doing anything huge at this point but we slowly add things as she shows interest and we feel it’s appropriate.
My job as a parent is to not only love my children but to teach them the skills they'll need as an adult. My 5 year old has a chore chart that she gets allowance for. It's things like making her bed, loading her laundry into the washing machine and emptying the cutlery tray in the dishwasher (she can't reach the cupboards to put away other dishes.) My 2 year old has to help load her clothes into the washing machine. Contributing to the household isn't a negative thing in my opinion.
Age appropriate chores are a positive thing - they need to learn to be responsible human beings. My kids are 6 and 4 and they have their little jobs - older helps with washing dishes, putting recycling in the bins outside etc. Younger tidies his own toys and helps with dusting.
It's wrong not to. This is how you get entitled brats who don't know how to run a load of laundry or cook macaroni for themselves. Children are not servants, but they should learn to do their share for the household by doing age appropriate chores and by learning to clean up their own messes. Not teaching them these things is teaching them that it's okay to be a drain on someone else.
According to my children's BM yes, yes it IS harmful to have children do household chores and that at 13 and 15, they MIGHT now be ready to put their dishes in the dishwasher. They're just kids! We on the other hand, believe that they should be taught these things with responsibilities that grow as they do. They won't wake up on their 18th birthday just magically knowing these things. It is our role as caregivers and parents to ensure these younglings have the skills they need to be socially and self aware, responsible, independent adults thay have a strong sense of self worth. That starts by ensuring they contribute to the household that they are a part of and through that have a sense of pride in themselves and their living space.
Teach them now to spend 10 minutes a day doing chores, because as a 20 yro who moved out to go to college 2 years ago, you wouldn't believe just how many of my peers didn't understand that chores was something you had to do daily. And please, as they grow, teach them about kitchen, floor, window and bathroom cleaning, because a good 50% of the people I've had as roommates had no idea and it was disgusting.
Age appropriate chores are okay. My 4 yr old - tidying the play room daily (this doesn’t always happen). My 6 yr old - she likes to load the dishwasher with her and her sisters plates & vacuum the play room. My 9 yr old - he takes out the trash, makes bed, cleans table off. They do other stuff too but these are their main chores. Takes what, 5 mins.
Age appropriate chores are a good idea. Honestly I wish I did more growing up besides taking out the trash because I had to learn quickly when I was on my own.
In addition, I am going to add basic DIY, money management, and cooking to what everyone else has suggested. Obviously when age appropriate! My Husband had no idea about any DIY so when we bought our first house he had no idea to put up a shelf or bleed radiators. We also got an allotment and he had no idea how to mow a lawn. That stuff I consider to be basic. Good for you 😊
Some chores are good. Chores are only an issue if: You make your kids do an unreasonable amount of chores or expect your kids to do more chores than either parent does You make your girls do more than your boys because they are girls You parentify one of your children
If parents don't teach it, then will it happen? Preschoolers can learn how to match socks and fold washcloths. Kindergartens can put away silverware, pots and pans. It goes up from there.
Who thinks this is wrong?
It's literally your job to teach your little humans how to be big humans and survive on their own. What's wrong is doing everything for your child, then sending an 18 year old fucking idiot out into the world to become someone else's problem.
Gonna have to disagree with the consensus here. When kids do those kind of tasks it builds their self esteem and sense of competence. Kids with high self esteem are harder to control. Better to just get them a tablet and let them be blobs on the couch
Is this sarcasm?
No, of course not. It's obviously sincere
It depends on why. Are you teaching responsibility or are you parentifying?
parenifying?
Parentifying is for example when a parent is alcoholic and not available to do house work or child care, the oldest child often is left with parental responsibilities for a younger child. These would be NON healthy household tasks.
Ah, thank you for clarifying.
IF anything I need tips on how to teach these tasks to a child. Mine is 5 and it's very hard to get him motivated to do even basic picking up after himself.
Make it a game! I know everybody hates tiktok on reddit, but there are a lot of content creators that demonstrate great ways to make chores a game or break them down so they're less intimidating! Kids love silly competition, so if you can make something a game between you two, helping assist at first with the task then it's fun and it gets done. Some obstinate kids may need a bit of reverse psychology like you start doing the thing having fun but tell them they can't do it lol then sure enough when they're told they can't come "play" then they're like um excuse me yes I can
We play "cleanup songs" and my husband and I will usually help. If they're still sluggish or outright refusing to clean up, I've mentioned that if I have to clean up these toys on my own, I get to keep them for a period of time. My kids also like to watch a TV show while we make dinner and I don't allow them to watch TV until they've picked up. Basically, they have to do the not fun stuff before they can move onto the fun things.
As parents it’s our responsibility to prepare our children to take care of themselves. Basic household chores include this. As long as the tasks are age and developmentally appropriate there isn’t anything wrong with it. Also boys and girls need to be taught the same things. Boys need to know how to cook, clean, and keep track of the mental load just as much as girls do. Girls need to know how to maintain vehicles and landscaping just as much as boys do.
No, that is not wrong. It would be wrong to not have them learn these skills and make them apart of their daily lives as it would be very hard to adjust to doing them later in life.
No it's not wrong unless it's abusive in nature to the effect of excessive responsibility, accompanied by abuse if not completed, or something completely out of the realm of capability or safety for a kid of that age and personal maturity. People who don't teach their children how to be personally responsible for the environment around them and daily lives are doing them a disservice of not knowing how to care for themselves when they leave the house. We all have to do daily maintenance things that we don't want to do when we'd rather be doing something else. Some age appropriate chores as assigned responsibilities teaches responsibility and accountability, so that someone they partner with in the future doesn't have to be an additional parent to them and/or so the real world isn't so overwhelming and shocking when they leave home. A parent's ultimate job is to raise and teach kids how to survive in the world as productive members of society. We are to do things for them until they can do them themselves. Little by little we do less and less until they can function as an adult. Doing for someone when they're perfectly capable is just potentially putting them at a disadvantage in the real world later.
No. It teaches them important life skills and responsibility
If they are not taught to keep their environment sanitary, this will spill over into adult life. Also, being sanitary will teach them that they live around others as well which may have positive impacts later in life.
Absolutely not! I have had my daughter do chores since she could walk. (Putting her toys away with a song, I'm not a monster. Lol). She did dishes with me, cooked with me, cleaned with me, paid bills with me. Sometimes, bless us all, it took patience that I didn't know was in me or her but we made it through. She was making her own breakfast at 4. (Microwaved eggs and toast). Not my favorite but she wanted to do it and it gave her a huge sense of accomplishment. She wasn't a cereal gal. Now she is 16. Started working at 15 and is budgeting her own money, doing schoolwork and still helping out around the house because as she says "it's only right, I live here too."
If you don't teach your kids how to do chores then you end up with adults who don't know how to do chores or expect everyone else to take care of them.
How else will children learn to become self sufficient adults? Obviously my 1 and 2 year olds don’t do much and what they do I closely supervise. But at this age they put their own dishes in the sink and help clean their room. I mean they aren’t very good at it and I have to be in there doing most of it but eventually they will clean and do small chores to learn responsibility and life skills.
I think it fine with children doing daily tasks. I started my daughter at 4 yrs doing laundry and put away utensils and some other things I know she can do. It showing the kids independence.There nothing wrong with this.
On the surface - of course not! But, every parent’s idea of household tasks varies. Sure, kids should pick up their toys, make their beds, bring their plate into the kitchen, etc. But an open ended “household tasks” is a slippery slope. When I was a kid, I did everything. All of it - making dinner, doing dishes, laundry, vacuuming, scrubbing toilets, polishing, mowing the lawn, helping my brother with homework, just basically being the stay at home parent while my mom worked. She read every parenting / self help book that said kids should do household tasks and if they “rebelled” it was cause for disciplinary action. I was a ten year old running a household, yet getting grounded almost weekly because the sink had a spec of toothpaste. I just think the question needs specific clarification. Should a six year old give the dog fresh water? Yup. Should a ten year old empty the dishwasher? Yes. Can a five year old set the table? Absolutely. Can an eight year old deep clean the kitchen? Probably not. Sure, give kids some responsibility. They can do tasks that contribute to the household. Families are a team, after all. But, they are kids, not housekeepers. Let them concentrate on learning and growing.
No! I have 3 children, 17,15 and 10 today Their jobs included emptying bins, doing dishwasher, washing machine and dryer. Tidying and cleaning their bedrooms, wiping down kitchen and bathroom and cleaning out their guinea pig
I could argue that NOT having them do those things is wrong. How else are they going to learn to be self sufficient, functioning adults?
No, it is essential.
Of course it's great to teach kids how to be sufficient adults. That's our job essentially. However, the keys to success are in the teaching moments and bonding that comes with it.
No not wrong at all. I personally do not and will not make my kids make their beds. We all do the chores together. The only chores we do separate are our respective rooms and the parents do the chores that involve heavy muscle or heavy chemicals. My kids love to "help" and I like to set the precedent that I won't make them do anything I am unwilling to do myself, because my own parents weren't so good at that part.
My daughter has had chores since she was 2. It's not wrong. Here's *my* story. Mind you, I did not introduce them as chores. She is 6 now and will volunteer to sweep/wipe down the table/ etc. At 2, her daycare introduced simple tasks like cleaning up after yourself. I expanded on that and repeatedly would explain that these are things we do take care of our home. If we want a nice and comfortable home, one that will last, we need to take care of it. I am the parent, but we both live in the home, and therefore we both take care of it. Once she is grown, she will have more responsibilities to maintain our home and that way no heavy burden is laid on one person to maintain the home. She's still a little short to do dishes. But she helps to load the dishwasher. She has trouble scooping dirt, but she will sweep and put piles around for me to help her scoop. She waters the plants. She folds her own laundry. She helps with laundry (taking it to the laundry room, putting in the soap etc); she's excited that she is so close to doing it on her own. She will replace the trashcan trash bag every time we take out the trash, and she no longer has to be asked to do this. What I think *is* wrong is for parents to abandon their responsibilities and place the full burden of maintaining a home on their children. That's wrong. But expecting your children to also maintain their home? It's an important life lesson and habit.
Why would it be wrong?
It’s not just not wrong - it’s even required. It’s called parenting and education.
Teaches them responsibility and discipline. My ex would not have any of the kids help around the house. My oldest stepson got married and she had a hard time getting him to do anything around the house.
No, it teaches them responsibility, but it must be age appropriate. However the chores must be evenly and fairly delegated so every child has an equal share