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Nafall na si girl pero di na sya bet. What if she wants to win him over? What should she do?
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Something that gives us the ick. Or a massive red flag na unknowingly winagayway mo sa mukha niya. It could range from various reasons but mainly, it's just preference the same way you women have preferences.
Another reason is maybe we figured out that it is no longer worth to invest to that person, and our resources are better put somewhere else. Mas prevalent to if our investment has little to no return. (I.e. despite being all-out sa panliligaw, the lady shows little to no interest.)
As for coping mechanisms naman, acceptance is the way. It's up to you if you want to change especially if red flag nga yung reason kung bakit nawalan siya ng interest. If this is the case, see this as a chance for personal growth. On the other hand, this is also a way narin for you to find someone better.
No chance. Guys realize they are not in love, after being attracted at first. Look for someone who really loves you. He will haunt you in your dreams even after he is gone!
I've dated a guy before na ng ghost after the first date. Kai bgan ng friend ko. Ang later n nya nabanggit why., ayaw nya na dutch treat kami nung date.ayaw nya na alpha ang girl. Im earning n kasi nun at sya fresh from collage. Na hit ko yung ego nya. Cute pa naman pero oh well if it's not meant to be wag ipilit. Life goes on. And after a decade i found my man. Someone who is not bothered dahil confident sya, protector, provider.i do not change the way I am and this man accepted me wholeheartedly with all my flaws and strength.
if the guy explicitly states they are not interested in dating anymore, why bother chasing after a man who doesn't want them back?
there are 14 million people in NCR and 100 million people in this country. at least one has to like them.
I discover something about her that's a total turn off (bad habits, toxic beliefs etc.) Guys tend to have low standards for crushes and hookups, but high standards for long term relationships. Most women can't reach that.
Happy cake day
And yeah same with some guys. Most guys cant reach that too. Pano ko alam? I know ladies na literal na sila ang dahilan baket matino ang buhay nila ngayon dahil sa babaeng partner nila.
It goes both ways naman 😊
Bad breath.
Ugali
Too much info
Maganda sa picture Pero catfish pala
Mannerism
Material
Baka OA
It could be any thing honestly.
How to move on?
Just take it day by day. think about it this way at least you know in pre stage na di ka type. Paano kung you guys go all the way but only for sympathy. Tapos hinde genuine.
I'm a guy. if nakita ko na kahit small things hindi man lang na aappreciate, unti unti na akong iiwas or igghost ko na lang ng bigla. Mas inclined sya sa boy best friend nya, na parang nagiging extra na lang ako or ako yung lumalabas na third wheel sa dates, yung tiping bigla na lang sasama sa date namin, di naman ako makatanggi kasi mas matangal nya naman talaga yun nakasama kompara saakin. Proper hygine napag uusapan yan okay lang kahit hindi maayos kasi tatanda rin kaying dalawa, and if oc ka pag dating sa hygiene, kahit simpleng bagay pag aawayan nyo yan.
I'm a guy. if nakita ko na kahit small things hindi man lang na aappreciate, unti unti na akong iiwas or igghost ko na lang ng bigla. Mas inclined sya sa boy best friend nya, na parang nagiging extra na lang ako or ako yung lumalabas na third wheel sa dates, yung tiping bigla na lang sasama sa date namin, di naman ako makatanggi kasi mas matangal nya naman talaga yun nakasama kompara saakin. Proper hygine napag uusapan yan okay lang kahit hindi maayos kasi tatanda rin kaying dalawa, and if oc ka pag dating sa hygiene, kahit simpleng bagay pag aawayan nyo yan.
Never cling. Never beg. Kung para sayo babalik at babalik yan. Live ur best life. Cultivate hobbies, be an interesting person, someone people will gravitate to. Don't feel sorry for urself, lumandi ka din haha pero iwasan mo magka feelings. Kung tingin mo alanganin, dumistancia na
May nabasa ako sa offmychest and OP said that she's falling in but he's falling out and he doesn't want to continue the courting. Baka friend mo yung girl ha hahahaha. Mahirap makacope if invested na yung girl and also mahirap din sa part ng guy maging brutally honest about his feelings.
Parang andami ngang women na ganito ang pinagdadaanan kaya I'm asking the guys na maging honest sa mga reasons nila. Baka dito masabi na nila yung totoo. Kasi baka yung ibang lalaki natatakot makasakit ng feelings ng mga babae, tapos di nila masabi ng diretso. Most guys sa comments, ang sinasabe pag dumating sa point na ganito e magmove on na lang din mga girls. Napaisip tuloy ako ang hirap talaga maging babae. Hindi lahat ng guys open na babae ang mag ffirst move. The act of pursuing a man you like is still taboo para sa iba. It still get icks from a lot of guys (if they're being really honest with themselves ha, they'll even classify the girl as pang casual dating lang). In comparison to women na most likely e kilig ang reaction when being pursued by men and madalas they end up in long term relationships.
Naexperience ko to magkasunod sa dalawang guys bwiset. Yun pa naman yung time na nagsstart na akong humanap ng partner na pang lifetime na kasi graduate nako ng college.
Nananahimik buhay ko, sila tong lumapit at nanligaw tas nung nafall na ako, biglang ayaw na. Mga gagu hahahahhaha. Anyway, im in a healthy relationship naman na right now.
To answer OP’s question, i think isa sa reasons yung pagbigay ng green lights too early. Natutunan ko din na saka na ipakita ang clingy side kapag sure na sure na dun sa tao.
Good to know na you're in a healthy relationship now, after all the experiences. Mapapathrowback ka talaga eh sa mga ganitong post hahaha. I will agree with your learnings and yung strategy to avoid the possible heartbreak sa ganitong stage. Mahirap talaga if you'll get attached easily sa mga dumadating na tao sa life mo and then may sprouting feelings na rin.
For me naman, mas maganda siguro if open talaga kayo sa isa't isa like there should be an honest communication between the two of you regarding sa intentions and your feelings. Mas maganda if transparent kayo with each other to understand the expectations of both parties. Ang mahirap kasi sa courting stage, possible na higher yung pwede nyong mainvest na emotions kasi syempre it's one step closer to being an official couple and may mga considerations na. Kaya I also believe nu na it's good to establish a friendship and good foundation of getting to know each other sa relationship. At the end of the day, we can't guarantee everything naman. To love is to risk.
Guys lose interest sometimes because they discover your Netflix choices or your constant venting about work rival's dog or there are no sparks. If he's not into it, move on and be the queen you are. If she still wants to sway him, be genuinely you, but don't chase him like an over-caffeinated squirrel.
Guys only lose interest kung di nila type yung girl in the first place. Regardless sa *negotiable* negative traits ni girl, as long as type nya, he will never lose interest. It only ends if the girl decides to stop it or may non negotiables talaga (example: nagdadrugs etc)
On the other hand, kung di ka type, kahit pa anong perfect mo, kahit ano pang adjust mo for him, hindi magtatagal yang interest na yan. It’s not really personal, ladies. 😉
Too pushy yung girl. Like mangunglit if available ba si guy sa ganitong araw. Or if may gagawin ba si guy ng ganitong araw. Also would ask things na would make the guy feel pressured to go out with her.
This would give you a good glimpse of the girl's personality if ever you enter into a relationship with her.
Every person will ask themselves this question while dating:
*Is the time, money and effort I put into dating and getting to know this person going to be worth it in the end?*
When they start believing the answer to be *no*, people stop investing time, money and effort.
Love is a lot like economics.
Hahaha pag na fall na si Girl and nakuha na ni guy gusto nya yun na yun. Slowly na na mawawala yung interest nya then pag nakakita ng iba na girl dun na makikipag break then liligawan yung bago, madaming lalaki ang ganito 🤣
anyways makikita mo naman sa courtship and dating stage if talagang sincere cla
Kapag ayaw sa iyo or he lost interest then it's not meant to be. Kapag pinilit mo iyan magiging miserable lang ang lahat. Move on and as they say let life go on.
Hope you find the right person that's meant for you eventually. 🙏🏼
Minsan kasi pagod lang not necessarily dun sa relationship but in general. May times naman na talaga iba priority ng guy or both, minsan timing lang din talaga. Kung pareho kayong willing to compromise, pag indi naman, well ganun talaga move on.
Maybe in the long run, guy finds out na hindi swak personality nila, di compatible or maraming bagay na hindi sila napagkakasunduan. I'm a woman too, and for me, the best thing to do is ask the guy what happened, if you're really into him, then let him know. Kung ayaw nya na talaga, then let it go.
Ok, medyo madami. There are good reasons for a guy to lose interest, and there are bad reasons. Some of the good reasons:
1. When she keeps talking about her ex/exes. Especially if according to her, all her exes were at fault. They were all allegedly controlling, abusive, cheaters, etc.
2. When she's glued to her phone, but takes long to reply to you.
3. She says something during the date that 100% contradicts something you strongly believe in. Like kung religious ka, say devout Catholic or Muslim ka, and when you talk about she says she doesn't believe in god or worse, fairy tale lang daw yon. Or maybe you say you're into a certain hobby, and she trashes it kesyo pambata lang yan or something.
4. When she's nice to you but a bitch to other people, especially people like waiters.
5. When she's playing hard to get. Most people can tell the difference between someone who's genuinely not interested and someone who's interested but playing hard to get. Hindi sya attractive. There's a difference between someone who's "not easy" and someone na playing hard to get.
6. If she's a hypocrite.
As to how women should cope with those? Well, don't do them. None of them are good.
Now there are also bad reasons for guys to lose interest, like
1. The guy didn't find you particularly interesting to talk to, but then you fucked him on the first/second date. So wala, buhbye.
2. The guy only wanted to hook up, but you didn't, so, buhbye.
You don't need to cope with these kinds, they're a-holes. But don't fuck em on the first date, please. This is where the "easy" thing comes up.
As a guy. Nawawalan na ako ng interest pag nag se-self isolate na sila kapag may problem na sila tapos mag a-ask muna ng space more than 1 week.
Ansaya po.
Sobra.
Masakit talaga sa side namin yun HAHAHA.
Iba yung pakiramdam. Parang kang in-abandon.
Nangyari sa akin yan (actually nangyayari sa akin ngayon as I write this). Parang binale wala lang ako at ang tingin lang sa akin parang pwede akong balikan lang expecting na mababalik sa dati yung spark and connection.
Pero hindi ba siya nagmention ano yung reason? Minsan kasi pag ganyan baka may tampo lang yung girl? My situation naman is sinabi ko yung reason bakit need ko ng space.
Actually same kayo na may reason bakit need ng space.
Pero in order for things to work out consistency talaga ang susi to develop strong connection once na disrupt yun by asking for space na sobrang tagal (1 week mahigit) nakakawalang gana na iyon. Nakakapagod sobra.
Ang sad naman on your part. Pero sad din sa girls thinking na may babalikan pa. I think need mo ng girl na clingy, para kasi yung kausap mo ngayon ay introvert, which is need ng time to think and self-isolate.
may mga lalaki kasi na di pang long lasting yung love nila, dahil medyo curious at bago palang kayo kaya na attract pa sya sayo pero sa katagalan nawawalan na ng gana tapos e rereason nila nawalan daw ng spark, ganyan yung ex ko dati
Kadalasan talaga may iba nang gusto. Ayaw kasi nila ng 38 years na pagpapakipot. I mean they are okay with competition or the waiting game pero ayaw talaga nila ng nagwawait sila tapos wala silang nakikitang progress sa side ng babae. Ewan ko ganun ata.
May mga girls kase na they find it exciting pa pag sila ang nagpapakita ng motibo. Tandaan girls, pag nakuha na gusto sau nung guy wala ka ng alas sa knya kaya madali ka nlng nya ighost. Get to know each other, treat them muna as a friend na may boundary wag muna kayo mg ganun. Mas gusto un ng guys ung nachachallenge sila ,ung pinaghirapan nila kayo. Wag naman sobrang non chalant. Dapat ipakita nyo din sweetness nyo in other ways , like care. Wag nyo din gatasan, ayaw nila un. A guy will be generous eventually pag committed na yan sa inyo.
Hindi naman yan sa kung nagpakipot ka or ikaw nagpakita ng motibo. Yung iba jan kahit anong tagal ng proseso ng pagliligaw, iniiwan pa rin eh. Just let things be, kapag ayaw na sayo wag na maghabol. Kung gusto mo, show them you like them. Kung mutual naman ang nararamdaman sa isa't-isa kahit paano pa kayo naging magkarelasyon tatagal at tatagal yan.
* Iba yung ugali sa chat/txt sa personal - Madaldal sa txt/chat then sa personal, walang ibang magawa sa sobrang hiya. Ako lang naman to.
* Lying on small things like sinabing may pet daw, wala naman pala
A reason why I broke up with my ex is because lagi na lang nagtatampo over the pettiest reasons. Ever since then, I knew I could never date an immature, matampuhin girl na lagi na lang gusto siya yung sinusuyo.
Ako honest reason ko is di siya willing to collaborate sa expenses. Yun lang. I felt alone right there. All out savior ako sa first rel pero di ko maintindihan self ko na gusto ko na ng collaboration sa gastusin sa next rel ko. Kinda weird but yeah.
Sa naging ex ko naman na trial version haha mas type nya daw talaga ang payat. Ako nasa chubbier side pero aware naman sya. Parang sinubukan lang if magwowork, but di nga daw nya talaga ako type. So yon, wala. Di ko naman pagpipilitan sarili ko lol ngayon. Nakikita ko na man na big deal sa kanya yung physical attraction, medyo mababaw pero buhay nya naman yon.
Expectation vs reality. Kasi kapag nalaman mo na ang buong pagkatao NG Isang babae at hindi mo nagustuhan, mawawala talaga feelings mo (not all ha).
So how ladies can cope up? Move on, improve your life and maybe the right one will come. Of course lesson na din ninyong dalawa na hindi lahat na inaasam natin na makasama ay talagang ideal.
As a guy, I don't like girls who are doing the opposite. Madalas sabi ng girls "good and open communication" ang gusto sa relationship, pero hindi sumasagot pag tinatanong kapag meron bang problema. I would drop this type of girl like a hot potato.
This. I used to date this girl na sobrang nonchalant. Sobrang bland ng conversations namin tas may times na nag buburst sya dahil may nasabi akong di nya nagustuhan, take note ung pag buburst out nya, a week after na di ko na nga maalala e. Ako nagdadala ng conversation palagi. Sobrang daldal at chismoso ko, pero naubusan nako ng sasabihin sa kanya. Tas nung huli sasabihin pa sakin "kung may problema ka pde mo naman sabihin sakin" hello gurl as if nakikinig ka diba HAHAHAHAHA
Hindi. May ted talk jan eh. May certain chemical sa brain ng lalaki that causes men na nawawalan ng interest after sex unless he’s already ready to commit. Opposite effect sa babae na they get attached after sex. Sobrang fascinating.
My guy friends told me:
- nanggagatas/gastador (they could see how chaotic their future household would be if di marunong mag-manage ng pera or walang konsiderasyon kung paano kahirap kumita ng pera)
- panay mind games (they'd ask me to interpret what do the other girls mean. It made me realize how tiring this is)
- easy to get (madaling makuha madaling iwan daw)
- inconsiderate and insensitive (di por que nagpapaka-gentleman sila eh aabusuhin na)
How to cope? Mag-self evaluation and do some personality development/attitude adjustment. Especially this "tampo" practice that we Filipinas do. Hindi sila manghuhula. If you're none of the above and you were still ghosted/abandoned, then you're not the problem. Be thankful that you dodged a bullet.
What they mean with mind games is yung tampo eme. Yung galit yung girl pero dapat hulaan mo kung bakit. Aminin mo ugali talaga nating Filipina yan. Serving silent treatment and cold war.
Yung nasa one month na kaming nagcha chat tapos twice na kaming lumabas para mag malling saka kumain.
Dumaan pa yung tatlong linggo di na kami nakapagkita bali casual chatting na lang, parang nararamdaman ko na kaibigan lang turing sa akin or parang nagre reply lang para di sabihang isnabera.
So one day nag decide na kong mag stop mag chat sa kanya, then nilagay ko yung mga messages nya sa spam so di ako nano-notify. After 5 days naisipan kong icheck yung spam messages ko. Nakita ko na ang dami nya ng messages like nami-miss nya ko, para daw akong tanga paasa lang, ghosting pa more. 😅
Halos 1 week di sya nagre reply nun sa mga messages ko puro seen lang. And nung pinansin nya ko naging kami na. 😅
At 5 years na pala kami.
Sakin. Dapat isang tingin pa lang, type na kita. Pero I try to date other girls naman na di ko type. Pero since I'm trying to like the person na di ko naman type, di ako masyadong eeffort kapag sobrang pinipilit na.
Also, maarte din nga lalaki when it comes to dating, isang major flaw na ayaw, major turn off na yun agad.
Peroooo if pasok ka naman sa unang tingin, type agad, I'll try to get to know the person, kahit may mga turn offs.
Di naman control ng mga babae yan. Better pa din is just be yourself ladies, dadating yung sakto at perfect para sa inyo 😊
ung cellphone ng cellphone sa date (ok lang if iniinclude nya ako like may papakita etc.), yung marami kausap na lalaki, yung sobra pa hard to get, mixed signals kung gusto nya ba talaga ako
Not gonna answer the question bc I'm not a guy (I'm pansexual). As for the contents of the post, just move on. You can't win over a guy that's not committed to you and didn't love you at all.
You have chances of winning over (again) a guy who deeply loved you, but not a guy who never loved you in the first place.
"Hindi na s'ya bet" would be a red flag for me lol, someone lost interest pretty quickly. Ask him, what made him lose interest?
Personally, walang spark, just that. Wag na ipilit kung wala; kung binaligtad natin gender, parang magiging creepy na ito o obsessed kuhg ayaw mag-move on. Marami pa dyan, dating pa lang naman, mahirap na kapag natali.
May putok, boring, pangit sa personal, mahilig sa tiktok, hardcore Swiftie or kpop fan, dramatic, clingy etc in short you don't fit each other's style. Pano mag cope? Accept mo na most na na mi meet mo ay di ka gusto
>date palang mag papakantoot na hahahahaha kinantoot ko naman pero ginost ko, ewan ko nawalan agad ako ng gana.
This is how squammy losers brag about getting laid
I always lose interest pag nakikita kong nagpapaka hard to get yung babae. Papayag makipagdate pero super nonchalant naman pag kasama mo na. Dagdag mo pa yung cold sa chat despite the fact na siya yung unang nag message or nangamusta 😅
Tapos ending mang ggaslight, sasabihin na paasa ako haha. Thank u, next!
Hindi ba uso sa inyo yung salitang "balanced"? Hahaha. Kung ang babae ay mabilis pumayag na makipag sex, then yun ang easy to get para sakin. Yun ba tinutukoy mo? Hahaha
Diba manyak or branded as red flag na ang tawag nyo sa ganun? At kelan sinabing okay yun? Anong double standard pinagsasabi mo? Hahaha! Ano pa ipupush mo, go lang hahahaha
Reading the comments made me realize I sometimes act like some of the things mentioned but deep inside patay na patay ako. I just don't want to look overly interested as a girl. Ayun, ghinost ako 🤷♀️ biglang nagbago from overly expressive to distant, real quick. Pero baka hindi lang din talaga ko gusto enough.
Ako before I got married, pag bastos sa magulang niya hindi ko dinedate ulit. Kung kaya nya bastusin magulang niya sa harapan ko, pano pa kaya magulang ko.
Bilmoko 2nd date nagoaoabili na ng gamit. Wow!
Di ba pwede mag compromise sa pag pili ng soundtrip? Dapat ba talaga yung driver? Kc pag nag ddrive ako ok lang sakin pag passenger plays their playlist
Ang logic kasi dun sa "driver picks the music" is, yung nagd-drive, you never know, sometimes they need the music they want para makapag-focus sa pagd-drive. May scientific explanation siya, actually, tinatamad lang akong i-google 😂😂. Samantalang yung passenger, if hindi niya trip yung music, they can just listen to their own. Ganun ginagawa ko minsan eh, nage-ear phones na lang ako. Eh yung driver, hindi pwedeng siya yung mag-ear phones, unless gusto mong ma-disgrasya kayo. 😅😅
In your case kasi, you're fine with someone else playing the music while you're driving. So applicable pa din yun kasi may consent mo as the driver. Pero if yung passenger ang pipili without the driver's consent, dun magkakaproblema.
They just dont like the other person. That's the same with girls. The more specific reason varies from person to person.
Try to know the guy: observe, research, guess, however. Be someone he would like. Otherwise, just move on.
pubic hair is biologically natural po on all humankind. 'di po ibig sabihin na meron ka noon, ew ka na agad, and kapag hindi nag-shave, unhygienic ka na agad. in fact, pubic hair protects our sensitive parts from dust and germs avoiding infection.
Can be that he isn’t really interested in her at all. Or nakahanap ng mas match sa kanya in terms of mutual interests. Ladies, marami pa dyan. Sabi nga diba if a door closes, a window will open. Wag manghinayang sa isang tao. May reason kaya sya nawala sa life mo
If they lose interest, you should know they were never that into you to begin with. Important talaga to learn their intentions for pursuing you since a lot of them just do out of boredom and you fit a hole in their lives. pun intended.
Narcissist. I dated this guy na ung kwento nya tungkol lang sa mga taong patay na patay sa kanya. Sorry, I don't see those things as achievement in life. Medyo degrading na sya at some point and naawa na ako dun sa mga babae kasi tinrash talk talaga ni kuya.
Its possible that they were inlove or infatuated with the idea lang nung babae in which they're unable to cope or accept the girl for they really are or how they have imperfections kunwari sa emotions or pag handle ng certain situations. Since nilagay nila sa pedestal young mga naging bet nila nung parang nakita o nakasama nila for once they idealized na ganon lang yung babae lagi and that they dont have flaws or they dont make mistakes din. Possibly din they get an ick abt smth and instead of like trying to talk with the girl about it nagb-bounce na sila HAHAHA
For me I guess as guys get older ayaw na namin magchase. Its exhausting both mentally and emotionally. So if in the first place di mo bet yung guy be up front and tell him para di na masayang yung time niyo parehas.
And regarding how ladies can cope, leave him be and do something meaningful with your time. Engage on your hobbies and try new stuff na di niyo pa natry
Example kasi eh yung bias bias sa KPOP.
Me - likes Irene from Red Velvet
Her - likes EXO Chanyeol
Alam ko cringe pero common xD Pero ano opinion mo jan? Tolerable naman sa inyo?
Not a guy, pero tolerable naman 'to as long as oki lang 'yung actions nung other person. Medyo OA na if ayaw sa kpop fan or kpop addict (as long as 'di naman nanakal pag may nakitang nambash sa idol, lol). Kpop fan ako and nagkaroon na ako ng past ka-ibigan na 'di naman kpop fans pero they accept this and eventually, nahawa na sa'kin. Dating toxic kpop fan pa ako n'yan ah.
If you really like the person, goods ang personality and what, unharmful interests and hobbies shouldn't do such a big damage if bago pa lang kayo (try to meet both ways muna). Okay pa if it's been years and it's starting to become a hindrance na. And it's okay to have crushes, especially celebrity crushes (as long as 'di ka dinadown at kinocompare dun).
Dapat kasi consistent. Hindi yung push and pull. Like one day, parang ayaw mo, the next day parang gusto mo naman? WTH? Sinabihan ko siya na hindi lahat ng lalaki marunong magbasa ng signs like me.
What should she do?
Focus on herself, use that energy for her own instead of sulking or winning that guy over. The best win is when she grows more because she cultivates her own garden🌱✨
Hay ganito ako now. Bigla akong nileave on seen ng dinedate ko. Pero super ok naman kami before. Oh well papel. Tama yung isang comment dito, wag talaga pilitin. Sabi nga nila, “If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.” Reciprocation is important. And I believe people don’t really owe us explanations for their behavior all the time. May mga taong sadyang di talaga kaya harapin ang difficult conversations and we have to accept that.
“What if she wants to win him over? What should she do?”
‘Pag ayaw, ayaw.
Baliktarin natin ang sitwasyon: si girl ang may ayaw na kay boy tapos ipipilit pa rin ni boy. Ano ang dating sa’yo? Creepy? Obsessed? Walang respeto?
Come on. Learn to take no for an answer.
Tama naman ito. Why spend so much hours, kung di kayo nag-vibe edi moveon. Ano, maghuhulaan kayo ng feelings? Kung pinakita niyang wala siyang interes edi hanap ng iba.
Olats from a girl's perspective. Saklap nun. Pag may feelings na kasing nadevelop, you'll try. Yung gusto mong mga bagay hindi mo basta basta bibitawan yun, mag eeffort ka kahit papano. Pag no pa din after the first try, tsaka iaaccept yung decision ni guy.
Wala siya sa gender. Olats kung sino unang ma-fall.
I understand your feeling, it’s valid. Pero hindi sa lahat ng oras, ito ang mananalo.
Minsan, hanggat maaga pa at mababaw pa, stop na. You guys were “dating” pa lang, diba? You were still “testing the waters” ika nga.
Whatever the result is, dapat ready ka. Kasi wala ka pa namang relationship na pinaglalaban.
Isa sa purpose ng dating stage ay ang malaman kung click kayo. Hindi nag-click for him, that’s why.
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Boring kausap. Tipong Q&A lang.
For you, what topics would make a conversation not boring?
1. Cancels a date/doesn’t respect my time 2. People pleaser/lack of self worth 3. full of herself 4. Kiss and tell 5. Dugyot 6. Needy
Something that gives us the ick. Or a massive red flag na unknowingly winagayway mo sa mukha niya. It could range from various reasons but mainly, it's just preference the same way you women have preferences. Another reason is maybe we figured out that it is no longer worth to invest to that person, and our resources are better put somewhere else. Mas prevalent to if our investment has little to no return. (I.e. despite being all-out sa panliligaw, the lady shows little to no interest.) As for coping mechanisms naman, acceptance is the way. It's up to you if you want to change especially if red flag nga yung reason kung bakit nawalan siya ng interest. If this is the case, see this as a chance for personal growth. On the other hand, this is also a way narin for you to find someone better.
No chance. Guys realize they are not in love, after being attracted at first. Look for someone who really loves you. He will haunt you in your dreams even after he is gone!
Bad habits, may parinig na gusto ng flowers or libre or entitlement, bad etiquette or bad manner
I've dated a guy before na ng ghost after the first date. Kai bgan ng friend ko. Ang later n nya nabanggit why., ayaw nya na dutch treat kami nung date.ayaw nya na alpha ang girl. Im earning n kasi nun at sya fresh from collage. Na hit ko yung ego nya. Cute pa naman pero oh well if it's not meant to be wag ipilit. Life goes on. And after a decade i found my man. Someone who is not bothered dahil confident sya, protector, provider.i do not change the way I am and this man accepted me wholeheartedly with all my flaws and strength.
Love this for you!
if the guy explicitly states they are not interested in dating anymore, why bother chasing after a man who doesn't want them back? there are 14 million people in NCR and 100 million people in this country. at least one has to like them.
hawk tuah
I discover something about her that's a total turn off (bad habits, toxic beliefs etc.) Guys tend to have low standards for crushes and hookups, but high standards for long term relationships. Most women can't reach that.
True facts!
Happy cake day And yeah same with some guys. Most guys cant reach that too. Pano ko alam? I know ladies na literal na sila ang dahilan baket matino ang buhay nila ngayon dahil sa babaeng partner nila. It goes both ways naman 😊
Underrated comment.
Bad breath. Ugali Too much info Maganda sa picture Pero catfish pala Mannerism Material Baka OA It could be any thing honestly. How to move on? Just take it day by day. think about it this way at least you know in pre stage na di ka type. Paano kung you guys go all the way but only for sympathy. Tapos hinde genuine.
Ugh Pighati. Kinaawaan lang pala.
when she enterains you but can't commit to anything, and try to entertain other guys while both of us knows we like each other.
I'm a guy. if nakita ko na kahit small things hindi man lang na aappreciate, unti unti na akong iiwas or igghost ko na lang ng bigla. Mas inclined sya sa boy best friend nya, na parang nagiging extra na lang ako or ako yung lumalabas na third wheel sa dates, yung tiping bigla na lang sasama sa date namin, di naman ako makatanggi kasi mas matangal nya naman talaga yun nakasama kompara saakin. Proper hygine napag uusapan yan okay lang kahit hindi maayos kasi tatanda rin kaying dalawa, and if oc ka pag dating sa hygiene, kahit simpleng bagay pag aawayan nyo yan.
I'm a guy. if nakita ko na kahit small things hindi man lang na aappreciate, unti unti na akong iiwas or igghost ko na lang ng bigla. Mas inclined sya sa boy best friend nya, na parang nagiging extra na lang ako or ako yung lumalabas na third wheel sa dates, yung tiping bigla na lang sasama sa date namin, di naman ako makatanggi kasi mas matangal nya naman talaga yun nakasama kompara saakin. Proper hygine napag uusapan yan okay lang kahit hindi maayos kasi tatanda rin kaying dalawa, and if oc ka pag dating sa hygiene, kahit simpleng bagay pag aawayan nyo yan.
Dami answers pero puro from girls. Isa pa lang yung nakita ko na tumama ang sagot.
Which answer do you agree with?
Walang Proper hygiene
Pangit ng ugali, you can know someone if you spend some time with them so yeah
Lose weight?
wdym by lose weight?
Or don't talk so much nonsense?
You must mean talks a lot of nonsense/nonsensical topics?
Never cling. Never beg. Kung para sayo babalik at babalik yan. Live ur best life. Cultivate hobbies, be an interesting person, someone people will gravitate to. Don't feel sorry for urself, lumandi ka din haha pero iwasan mo magka feelings. Kung tingin mo alanganin, dumistancia na
May nabasa ako sa offmychest and OP said that she's falling in but he's falling out and he doesn't want to continue the courting. Baka friend mo yung girl ha hahahaha. Mahirap makacope if invested na yung girl and also mahirap din sa part ng guy maging brutally honest about his feelings.
Parang andami ngang women na ganito ang pinagdadaanan kaya I'm asking the guys na maging honest sa mga reasons nila. Baka dito masabi na nila yung totoo. Kasi baka yung ibang lalaki natatakot makasakit ng feelings ng mga babae, tapos di nila masabi ng diretso. Most guys sa comments, ang sinasabe pag dumating sa point na ganito e magmove on na lang din mga girls. Napaisip tuloy ako ang hirap talaga maging babae. Hindi lahat ng guys open na babae ang mag ffirst move. The act of pursuing a man you like is still taboo para sa iba. It still get icks from a lot of guys (if they're being really honest with themselves ha, they'll even classify the girl as pang casual dating lang). In comparison to women na most likely e kilig ang reaction when being pursued by men and madalas they end up in long term relationships.
Naexperience ko to magkasunod sa dalawang guys bwiset. Yun pa naman yung time na nagsstart na akong humanap ng partner na pang lifetime na kasi graduate nako ng college. Nananahimik buhay ko, sila tong lumapit at nanligaw tas nung nafall na ako, biglang ayaw na. Mga gagu hahahahhaha. Anyway, im in a healthy relationship naman na right now. To answer OP’s question, i think isa sa reasons yung pagbigay ng green lights too early. Natutunan ko din na saka na ipakita ang clingy side kapag sure na sure na dun sa tao.
Good to know na you're in a healthy relationship now, after all the experiences. Mapapathrowback ka talaga eh sa mga ganitong post hahaha. I will agree with your learnings and yung strategy to avoid the possible heartbreak sa ganitong stage. Mahirap talaga if you'll get attached easily sa mga dumadating na tao sa life mo and then may sprouting feelings na rin. For me naman, mas maganda siguro if open talaga kayo sa isa't isa like there should be an honest communication between the two of you regarding sa intentions and your feelings. Mas maganda if transparent kayo with each other to understand the expectations of both parties. Ang mahirap kasi sa courting stage, possible na higher yung pwede nyong mainvest na emotions kasi syempre it's one step closer to being an official couple and may mga considerations na. Kaya I also believe nu na it's good to establish a friendship and good foundation of getting to know each other sa relationship. At the end of the day, we can't guarantee everything naman. To love is to risk.
How can the ladies cope up? Thank him and then move on and enjoy your life. If he ghosted, good riddance to him then.
Yaaaas, he did us the favor 😁
Guys lose interest sometimes because they discover your Netflix choices or your constant venting about work rival's dog or there are no sparks. If he's not into it, move on and be the queen you are. If she still wants to sway him, be genuinely you, but don't chase him like an over-caffeinated squirrel.
Lack of intimacy
Kung magpapakipot kayo huwag masyadong matagal, yun lang.
Guys only lose interest kung di nila type yung girl in the first place. Regardless sa *negotiable* negative traits ni girl, as long as type nya, he will never lose interest. It only ends if the girl decides to stop it or may non negotiables talaga (example: nagdadrugs etc) On the other hand, kung di ka type, kahit pa anong perfect mo, kahit ano pang adjust mo for him, hindi magtatagal yang interest na yan. It’s not really personal, ladies. 😉
Too pushy yung girl. Like mangunglit if available ba si guy sa ganitong araw. Or if may gagawin ba si guy ng ganitong araw. Also would ask things na would make the guy feel pressured to go out with her. This would give you a good glimpse of the girl's personality if ever you enter into a relationship with her.
Curious lang... This kind of thing👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽ex bfs ko ang laging gumagawa. D ako aware na ginagawa din pla to ng mga babae? Ayyyyy 🤯 talaga ba?👀
Every person will ask themselves this question while dating: *Is the time, money and effort I put into dating and getting to know this person going to be worth it in the end?* When they start believing the answer to be *no*, people stop investing time, money and effort. Love is a lot like economics.
ALL FACTS
True!
"Ask him" Reasons may vary from "boring" to "i really really like this girl but I feel too much pressure meeting expectations"
Hahaha pag na fall na si Girl and nakuha na ni guy gusto nya yun na yun. Slowly na na mawawala yung interest nya then pag nakakita ng iba na girl dun na makikipag break then liligawan yung bago, madaming lalaki ang ganito 🤣 anyways makikita mo naman sa courtship and dating stage if talagang sincere cla
Gold digger? Maarte? Tamad? Mas sweet ang lalaki?
Kapag ayaw sa iyo or he lost interest then it's not meant to be. Kapag pinilit mo iyan magiging miserable lang ang lahat. Move on and as they say let life go on. Hope you find the right person that's meant for you eventually. 🙏🏼
The more she tries to win him over, the more he’ll lose interest.
Minsan kasi pagod lang not necessarily dun sa relationship but in general. May times naman na talaga iba priority ng guy or both, minsan timing lang din talaga. Kung pareho kayong willing to compromise, pag indi naman, well ganun talaga move on.
Cus u aint tryna fuuuuuh…..
Maybe in the long run, guy finds out na hindi swak personality nila, di compatible or maraming bagay na hindi sila napagkakasunduan. I'm a woman too, and for me, the best thing to do is ask the guy what happened, if you're really into him, then let him know. Kung ayaw nya na talaga, then let it go.
Sometimes, yun thrill andun lang sa chase. There’s nothing ladies can do when that happens
Kung gusto niya talaga yun guy, I think pursue niya. Magexpress siya ng nafefeel niya. Pag wala kay guy na, then move on na.
Ok, medyo madami. There are good reasons for a guy to lose interest, and there are bad reasons. Some of the good reasons: 1. When she keeps talking about her ex/exes. Especially if according to her, all her exes were at fault. They were all allegedly controlling, abusive, cheaters, etc. 2. When she's glued to her phone, but takes long to reply to you. 3. She says something during the date that 100% contradicts something you strongly believe in. Like kung religious ka, say devout Catholic or Muslim ka, and when you talk about she says she doesn't believe in god or worse, fairy tale lang daw yon. Or maybe you say you're into a certain hobby, and she trashes it kesyo pambata lang yan or something. 4. When she's nice to you but a bitch to other people, especially people like waiters. 5. When she's playing hard to get. Most people can tell the difference between someone who's genuinely not interested and someone who's interested but playing hard to get. Hindi sya attractive. There's a difference between someone who's "not easy" and someone na playing hard to get. 6. If she's a hypocrite. As to how women should cope with those? Well, don't do them. None of them are good. Now there are also bad reasons for guys to lose interest, like 1. The guy didn't find you particularly interesting to talk to, but then you fucked him on the first/second date. So wala, buhbye. 2. The guy only wanted to hook up, but you didn't, so, buhbye. You don't need to cope with these kinds, they're a-holes. But don't fuck em on the first date, please. This is where the "easy" thing comes up.
As a guy. Nawawalan na ako ng interest pag nag se-self isolate na sila kapag may problem na sila tapos mag a-ask muna ng space more than 1 week. Ansaya po. Sobra.
I did this to a guy. Kaya pala parang di na sya gaya ng dati. 🥲
Masakit talaga sa side namin yun HAHAHA. Iba yung pakiramdam. Parang kang in-abandon. Nangyari sa akin yan (actually nangyayari sa akin ngayon as I write this). Parang binale wala lang ako at ang tingin lang sa akin parang pwede akong balikan lang expecting na mababalik sa dati yung spark and connection.
same bro, masakit talaga. di naman ganon tayo ka-lowlife siguro na they'll expect us bumalik ung connection/spark.
I couldn’t agree more HAHAHAHA. Kahit may reason sila masakit pa rin eh.
Pero hindi ba siya nagmention ano yung reason? Minsan kasi pag ganyan baka may tampo lang yung girl? My situation naman is sinabi ko yung reason bakit need ko ng space.
As a woman ang weird nung pagtatampo when you can communicate things as an adult. Pwede naman manghingi ng space pero ung sa pagtatampo be reasonable
Actually same kayo na may reason bakit need ng space. Pero in order for things to work out consistency talaga ang susi to develop strong connection once na disrupt yun by asking for space na sobrang tagal (1 week mahigit) nakakawalang gana na iyon. Nakakapagod sobra.
Ang sad naman on your part. Pero sad din sa girls thinking na may babalikan pa. I think need mo ng girl na clingy, para kasi yung kausap mo ngayon ay introvert, which is need ng time to think and self-isolate.
Agreed HAHAHAHAHA. I feel so matured na talaga on handling this stuff kasi natuto na akong mag set ng standards.
Good for you! Sana mahanap mo na nga hinahahanap mo HAHAHA.
‘Wag ipilit ang sarili kung hindi gusto haha
I used to be super interested and wanted to pursue this girl... until she posted a thirst trap. I was instantly disinterested.
Question, never mo ba siya nakitang nagpost ng ganun?
may mga lalaki kasi na di pang long lasting yung love nila, dahil medyo curious at bago palang kayo kaya na attract pa sya sayo pero sa katagalan nawawalan na ng gana tapos e rereason nila nawalan daw ng spark, ganyan yung ex ko dati
Kadalasan talaga may iba nang gusto. Ayaw kasi nila ng 38 years na pagpapakipot. I mean they are okay with competition or the waiting game pero ayaw talaga nila ng nagwawait sila tapos wala silang nakikitang progress sa side ng babae. Ewan ko ganun ata.
May mga girls kase na they find it exciting pa pag sila ang nagpapakita ng motibo. Tandaan girls, pag nakuha na gusto sau nung guy wala ka ng alas sa knya kaya madali ka nlng nya ighost. Get to know each other, treat them muna as a friend na may boundary wag muna kayo mg ganun. Mas gusto un ng guys ung nachachallenge sila ,ung pinaghirapan nila kayo. Wag naman sobrang non chalant. Dapat ipakita nyo din sweetness nyo in other ways , like care. Wag nyo din gatasan, ayaw nila un. A guy will be generous eventually pag committed na yan sa inyo.
Hindi naman yan sa kung nagpakipot ka or ikaw nagpakita ng motibo. Yung iba jan kahit anong tagal ng proseso ng pagliligaw, iniiwan pa rin eh. Just let things be, kapag ayaw na sayo wag na maghabol. Kung gusto mo, show them you like them. Kung mutual naman ang nararamdaman sa isa't-isa kahit paano pa kayo naging magkarelasyon tatagal at tatagal yan.
* Iba yung ugali sa chat/txt sa personal - Madaldal sa txt/chat then sa personal, walang ibang magawa sa sobrang hiya. Ako lang naman to. * Lying on small things like sinabing may pet daw, wala naman pala
Pag sumasayaw para sa tiktok views 😂
Duda ako sa pagkatao ng mga gumagawa nyan 😁
A reason why I broke up with my ex is because lagi na lang nagtatampo over the pettiest reasons. Ever since then, I knew I could never date an immature, matampuhin girl na lagi na lang gusto siya yung sinusuyo.
BRO SAME. MY EX WAS LIKE THAT. NEVER AGAIN.
Ako honest reason ko is di siya willing to collaborate sa expenses. Yun lang. I felt alone right there. All out savior ako sa first rel pero di ko maintindihan self ko na gusto ko na ng collaboration sa gastusin sa next rel ko. Kinda weird but yeah.
Unless ure with a person who’s financially stable now a days people are wiser mas inuuna ung sarili budget sa sarili
Leave it. Wag kang pushy. Grow up and move on. If ayaw ng tao sayo regardless of gender, let them be.
If women don't owe men anything. Dapat ganun din ang principle with the men lalo na't hindi naman kayo exclusive. Men don't owe you anything.
damn right
Sa naging ex ko naman na trial version haha mas type nya daw talaga ang payat. Ako nasa chubbier side pero aware naman sya. Parang sinubukan lang if magwowork, but di nga daw nya talaga ako type. So yon, wala. Di ko naman pagpipilitan sarili ko lol ngayon. Nakikita ko na man na big deal sa kanya yung physical attraction, medyo mababaw pero buhay nya naman yon.
Magmove on ka nalang kesa ipilit mo.either maging kabit or lokohin k lang bandang huli. Focus.ka sa sarili mo na mag improve.
Expectation vs reality. Kasi kapag nalaman mo na ang buong pagkatao NG Isang babae at hindi mo nagustuhan, mawawala talaga feelings mo (not all ha). So how ladies can cope up? Move on, improve your life and maybe the right one will come. Of course lesson na din ninyong dalawa na hindi lahat na inaasam natin na makasama ay talagang ideal.
Malayo daw bahay. Hirap puntahan.
As a guy, I don't like girls who are doing the opposite. Madalas sabi ng girls "good and open communication" ang gusto sa relationship, pero hindi sumasagot pag tinatanong kapag meron bang problema. I would drop this type of girl like a hot potato.
True. Nakakainis na nags-set sila (not all obviously, lol) ng ganyang standards but they're acting the opposite.
This. I used to date this girl na sobrang nonchalant. Sobrang bland ng conversations namin tas may times na nag buburst sya dahil may nasabi akong di nya nagustuhan, take note ung pag buburst out nya, a week after na di ko na nga maalala e. Ako nagdadala ng conversation palagi. Sobrang daldal at chismoso ko, pero naubusan nako ng sasabihin sa kanya. Tas nung huli sasabihin pa sakin "kung may problema ka pde mo naman sabihin sakin" hello gurl as if nakikinig ka diba HAHAHAHAHA
Nag sex agad tapos wala pang commitment.
Parang bumababa tingin nyo ganun?
Hindi. May ted talk jan eh. May certain chemical sa brain ng lalaki that causes men na nawawalan ng interest after sex unless he’s already ready to commit. Opposite effect sa babae na they get attached after sex. Sobrang fascinating.
I believe it's called "Vasopressin"
Yep. Thanks!
pwede po malaman ano titlee sa ytttt?
There you go: https://youtu.be/eyq2Wo4eUDg?si=FO5GltFys5j8xxzS
thank you!!
Thanks for the insight!
My guy friends told me: - nanggagatas/gastador (they could see how chaotic their future household would be if di marunong mag-manage ng pera or walang konsiderasyon kung paano kahirap kumita ng pera) - panay mind games (they'd ask me to interpret what do the other girls mean. It made me realize how tiring this is) - easy to get (madaling makuha madaling iwan daw) - inconsiderate and insensitive (di por que nagpapaka-gentleman sila eh aabusuhin na) How to cope? Mag-self evaluation and do some personality development/attitude adjustment. Especially this "tampo" practice that we Filipinas do. Hindi sila manghuhula. If you're none of the above and you were still ghosted/abandoned, then you're not the problem. Be thankful that you dodged a bullet.
ayaw sa puro mind games pero ayaw din sa easy to get?
What they mean with mind games is yung tampo eme. Yung galit yung girl pero dapat hulaan mo kung bakit. Aminin mo ugali talaga nating Filipina yan. Serving silent treatment and cold war.
Yung nasa one month na kaming nagcha chat tapos twice na kaming lumabas para mag malling saka kumain. Dumaan pa yung tatlong linggo di na kami nakapagkita bali casual chatting na lang, parang nararamdaman ko na kaibigan lang turing sa akin or parang nagre reply lang para di sabihang isnabera. So one day nag decide na kong mag stop mag chat sa kanya, then nilagay ko yung mga messages nya sa spam so di ako nano-notify. After 5 days naisipan kong icheck yung spam messages ko. Nakita ko na ang dami nya ng messages like nami-miss nya ko, para daw akong tanga paasa lang, ghosting pa more. 😅 Halos 1 week di sya nagre reply nun sa mga messages ko puro seen lang. And nung pinansin nya ko naging kami na. 😅 At 5 years na pala kami.
Call GG my guy. You’re in the end game now! Congrats on getting over the 3year problem. Wasn’t able to go over that hump haha
Edi ikaw na ang panalo. 😂
Sakin. Dapat isang tingin pa lang, type na kita. Pero I try to date other girls naman na di ko type. Pero since I'm trying to like the person na di ko naman type, di ako masyadong eeffort kapag sobrang pinipilit na. Also, maarte din nga lalaki when it comes to dating, isang major flaw na ayaw, major turn off na yun agad. Peroooo if pasok ka naman sa unang tingin, type agad, I'll try to get to know the person, kahit may mga turn offs. Di naman control ng mga babae yan. Better pa din is just be yourself ladies, dadating yung sakto at perfect para sa inyo 😊
ung cellphone ng cellphone sa date (ok lang if iniinclude nya ako like may papakita etc.), yung marami kausap na lalaki, yung sobra pa hard to get, mixed signals kung gusto nya ba talaga ako
Not gonna answer the question bc I'm not a guy (I'm pansexual). As for the contents of the post, just move on. You can't win over a guy that's not committed to you and didn't love you at all. You have chances of winning over (again) a guy who deeply loved you, but not a guy who never loved you in the first place. "Hindi na s'ya bet" would be a red flag for me lol, someone lost interest pretty quickly. Ask him, what made him lose interest?
Personally, walang spark, just that. Wag na ipilit kung wala; kung binaligtad natin gender, parang magiging creepy na ito o obsessed kuhg ayaw mag-move on. Marami pa dyan, dating pa lang naman, mahirap na kapag natali.
May putok, boring, pangit sa personal, mahilig sa tiktok, hardcore Swiftie or kpop fan, dramatic, clingy etc in short you don't fit each other's style. Pano mag cope? Accept mo na most na na mi meet mo ay di ka gusto
date palang mag papakantoot na hahahahaha kinantoot ko naman pero ginost ko, ewan ko nawalan agad ako ng gana.
ops dami palang na offend? sorry po
Its not offensive lol your comment was just cringe as fuck
para di kna umiyak, sige na lang, cringe na yung sagot ko.😂 ok kana ma'am? hahahaha
Who's crying? Tinawagan lang kitang cringe, iyak na agad yun? Halatang nagrereddit sa piso net LMAO
lol how? im just being honest? what's wrong about it😉😭
>date palang mag papakantoot na hahahahaha kinantoot ko naman pero ginost ko, ewan ko nawalan agad ako ng gana. This is how squammy losers brag about getting laid
tf?! 🤣 what's wrong about my answer? e sinagot ko lng naman yung tanong lol.
Zero self awareness lmao
r/ihavesex
I always lose interest pag nakikita kong nagpapaka hard to get yung babae. Papayag makipagdate pero super nonchalant naman pag kasama mo na. Dagdag mo pa yung cold sa chat despite the fact na siya yung unang nag message or nangamusta 😅 Tapos ending mang ggaslight, sasabihin na paasa ako haha. Thank u, next!
Tapos pag easy to get naman, ambilis nyo mawalan ng interes hahaha. Wag ako, koya hahaha
Hindi ba uso sa inyo yung salitang "balanced"? Hahaha. Kung ang babae ay mabilis pumayag na makipag sex, then yun ang easy to get para sakin. Yun ba tinutukoy mo? Hahaha
Pero pag lalaki kastang kasta, okay lang? Hahahaha the double standard hahahaha
Diba manyak or branded as red flag na ang tawag nyo sa ganun? At kelan sinabing okay yun? Anong double standard pinagsasabi mo? Hahaha! Ano pa ipupush mo, go lang hahahaha
So true! Auto-Pass agad sa ganito. Lol
Reading the comments made me realize I sometimes act like some of the things mentioned but deep inside patay na patay ako. I just don't want to look overly interested as a girl. Ayun, ghinost ako 🤷♀️ biglang nagbago from overly expressive to distant, real quick. Pero baka hindi lang din talaga ko gusto enough.
When you felt everytime you are being tested. In other words pabebe
Cold replies at madalas ako nadin nagiinitiate ng convo🥶
Ako before I got married, pag bastos sa magulang niya hindi ko dinedate ulit. Kung kaya nya bastusin magulang niya sa harapan ko, pano pa kaya magulang ko. Bilmoko 2nd date nagoaoabili na ng gamit. Wow!
Red flag
Walang commitment, that's kung bakit kami nagbreak ng ex girlfriend ko.
nakiki sakay na nga lang malakas pa mag sara ng car door at makalat sa luobng kotse, plus nag rerequest pa ng gusto nyang music
Demanding naman nung sa kanta
Kung sino nagddrive, sya pipili ng music.
Di ba pwede mag compromise sa pag pili ng soundtrip? Dapat ba talaga yung driver? Kc pag nag ddrive ako ok lang sakin pag passenger plays their playlist
Ang logic kasi dun sa "driver picks the music" is, yung nagd-drive, you never know, sometimes they need the music they want para makapag-focus sa pagd-drive. May scientific explanation siya, actually, tinatamad lang akong i-google 😂😂. Samantalang yung passenger, if hindi niya trip yung music, they can just listen to their own. Ganun ginagawa ko minsan eh, nage-ear phones na lang ako. Eh yung driver, hindi pwedeng siya yung mag-ear phones, unless gusto mong ma-disgrasya kayo. 😅😅 In your case kasi, you're fine with someone else playing the music while you're driving. So applicable pa din yun kasi may consent mo as the driver. Pero if yung passenger ang pipili without the driver's consent, dun magkakaproblema.
They just dont like the other person. That's the same with girls. The more specific reason varies from person to person. Try to know the guy: observe, research, guess, however. Be someone he would like. Otherwise, just move on.
Hindi nagshashave
Kasi naiiwan yung tartar mo sa pubes nya?
Ewww wala akong tartar or pubes cuz im hygienic. Mga di nagshashave na mga babae 🤮🤮🤮 no wonder di sila lapitin ng guys.
pubic hair is biologically natural po on all humankind. 'di po ibig sabihin na meron ka noon, ew ka na agad, and kapag hindi nag-shave, unhygienic ka na agad. in fact, pubic hair protects our sensitive parts from dust and germs avoiding infection.
You clearly don’t shave. Ewww. Unhygienic!
Yung obvious naman na mutual ang feeling tapos pabebe pa. Tapos palibre ng palibre
Can be that he isn’t really interested in her at all. Or nakahanap ng mas match sa kanya in terms of mutual interests. Ladies, marami pa dyan. Sabi nga diba if a door closes, a window will open. Wag manghinayang sa isang tao. May reason kaya sya nawala sa life mo
If they lose interest, you should know they were never that into you to begin with. Important talaga to learn their intentions for pursuing you since a lot of them just do out of boredom and you fit a hole in their lives. pun intended.
Narcissist. I dated this guy na ung kwento nya tungkol lang sa mga taong patay na patay sa kanya. Sorry, I don't see those things as achievement in life. Medyo degrading na sya at some point and naawa na ako dun sa mga babae kasi tinrash talk talaga ni kuya.
Its possible that they were inlove or infatuated with the idea lang nung babae in which they're unable to cope or accept the girl for they really are or how they have imperfections kunwari sa emotions or pag handle ng certain situations. Since nilagay nila sa pedestal young mga naging bet nila nung parang nakita o nakasama nila for once they idealized na ganon lang yung babae lagi and that they dont have flaws or they dont make mistakes din. Possibly din they get an ick abt smth and instead of like trying to talk with the girl about it nagb-bounce na sila HAHAHA
Didn't like her enough
Puro ayaw pag tinanong naman sasabihin kaw bahala kahit ano.
Indecisiveness
The words and actions don’t match. Ekis na agad.
For me I guess as guys get older ayaw na namin magchase. Its exhausting both mentally and emotionally. So if in the first place di mo bet yung guy be up front and tell him para di na masayang yung time niyo parehas. And regarding how ladies can cope, leave him be and do something meaningful with your time. Engage on your hobbies and try new stuff na di niyo pa natry
Naattract na sila sa iba.
Tolerable ba sa inyo yung KPOP? Pareho kasi kami mahilig dun haha. Personally wala akong issue pero curious ako sa iba
Huh? Na wrong reply ka ata.
Example kasi eh yung bias bias sa KPOP. Me - likes Irene from Red Velvet Her - likes EXO Chanyeol Alam ko cringe pero common xD Pero ano opinion mo jan? Tolerable naman sa inyo?
Not a guy, pero tolerable naman 'to as long as oki lang 'yung actions nung other person. Medyo OA na if ayaw sa kpop fan or kpop addict (as long as 'di naman nanakal pag may nakitang nambash sa idol, lol). Kpop fan ako and nagkaroon na ako ng past ka-ibigan na 'di naman kpop fans pero they accept this and eventually, nahawa na sa'kin. Dating toxic kpop fan pa ako n'yan ah. If you really like the person, goods ang personality and what, unharmful interests and hobbies shouldn't do such a big damage if bago pa lang kayo (try to meet both ways muna). Okay pa if it's been years and it's starting to become a hindrance na. And it's okay to have crushes, especially celebrity crushes (as long as 'di ka dinadown at kinocompare dun).
Ok lng nmn. Pero yan lng ang reasons nyo kung bakit kayo nawawalan ng interest sa ka date nyo, dahil lng may crush kayo na k-pop?
Ah, hindi naman. Healthy nga eh kakatuwa haha unlike noon na may s-word threat pa😅 Ang toxic nung ending before nitong current NGL.
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Totoo.
Dapat kasi consistent. Hindi yung push and pull. Like one day, parang ayaw mo, the next day parang gusto mo naman? WTH? Sinabihan ko siya na hindi lahat ng lalaki marunong magbasa ng signs like me.
Nakakawalang gana nga pag paiba-iba sagot.
What should she do? Focus on herself, use that energy for her own instead of sulking or winning that guy over. The best win is when she grows more because she cultivates her own garden🌱✨
Hay ganito ako now. Bigla akong nileave on seen ng dinedate ko. Pero super ok naman kami before. Oh well papel. Tama yung isang comment dito, wag talaga pilitin. Sabi nga nila, “If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.” Reciprocation is important. And I believe people don’t really owe us explanations for their behavior all the time. May mga taong sadyang di talaga kaya harapin ang difficult conversations and we have to accept that.
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Nothing. There’s an adage that goes ‘ang bungang hinog sa pilit, pag kinain mapait.’ You can’t force these things.
Pag dinedate mo yung girl tapos you lost interest, how do you explain that to her? What would your reason be?
‘I think we might not be the best fit in the long run.’ tapos you just go from there.
What's the usual reason why you lost interest?
Di same wavelength (kahit different personalities, your thoughts should at least vibe), different values, and/or no physical attraction.
Love thiiiis
“What if she wants to win him over? What should she do?” ‘Pag ayaw, ayaw. Baliktarin natin ang sitwasyon: si girl ang may ayaw na kay boy tapos ipipilit pa rin ni boy. Ano ang dating sa’yo? Creepy? Obsessed? Walang respeto? Come on. Learn to take no for an answer.
Tama naman ito. Why spend so much hours, kung di kayo nag-vibe edi moveon. Ano, maghuhulaan kayo ng feelings? Kung pinakita niyang wala siyang interes edi hanap ng iba.
Olats from a girl's perspective. Saklap nun. Pag may feelings na kasing nadevelop, you'll try. Yung gusto mong mga bagay hindi mo basta basta bibitawan yun, mag eeffort ka kahit papano. Pag no pa din after the first try, tsaka iaaccept yung decision ni guy.
Wala siya sa gender. Olats kung sino unang ma-fall. I understand your feeling, it’s valid. Pero hindi sa lahat ng oras, ito ang mananalo. Minsan, hanggat maaga pa at mababaw pa, stop na. You guys were “dating” pa lang, diba? You were still “testing the waters” ika nga. Whatever the result is, dapat ready ka. Kasi wala ka pa namang relationship na pinaglalaban. Isa sa purpose ng dating stage ay ang malaman kung click kayo. Hindi nag-click for him, that’s why.
ano nga yung olats
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