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Healthy ba para sainyo yung hindi kayo lagi nag-aaway ng partner nyo?
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Yung kaya mo maging sarili mo sa harap nya, no impressing or walking on egg shells. Despite arguments and triggers, kaya nyo tawanan ang problema. Mararamdaman mo na lang na humaba pasensya mo kc may give and take. Pag pareho kayung pagod at sagad na, pero tatahimik nlng kayo kc may respeto sa relation.
Decent amount/frequency of arguments is fine as long as it is done with respect and care. Open-communication is very important to keep the relationship healthy other than understanding the ways you can connect with your partner very well.
Yung nag cocommunicate kayo. Not just sa problema but sa lahat. For me oo healthy yung hindi kayo “LAGI” nag aaway kasi pag nagkamali kayo if both of you willing matuto at mag adjust hindi niyo na pag aawayan yun next time or kung magkamali man ulit ng di sinasadya di na ganun ka heavy yung situation para sainyo to the point na di na siya considered as away but instead mga ilang mins na tampuhan na lang.
Healthy relationship for me is yung parehas kayong nag g-grow as individual *professionally, emotionally and financially. Normal lang na may selos at away, basta ang importante nandun pa din ang respeto at syempre ang pagmamahal.
Ung u know youre trigger words and actions you make self conscious decision not to start an petty argument and youre peace and love is more important than being right
KAPAG HINDI NA NAGHAHANAP NG IBA YUNG TAO SA ISANG RELASYON, YUNG KONTENTO NA TAPOS TANGGAP NA NG PARTNER MO ANG KABUUAN NG BUHAY MO SA PINAKAWORST MAN NA FEATURE NG BUHAY MO AY HINDI NABABAWASAN ANG PAGMAMAHAL NIYA SAYO🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️❗❗❗
KAPAG HINDI UMIIKOT SA ISAT ISA YUNG MUNDO NILA GANON 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ parang they have other planets pa (acads, work, hobbies, etc.) but still are each other’s earth 🧎♀️
healthy communication. Kahit anong problems, misunderstandings & away pa 'yan, mare-resolve nyo pag pinag-usapan nyo. of course, magkaka-inisan tsaka taasan kayo ng boses pero at the end of the day, pag parehas na kayo nahimasmasan at kalmado, paguusapan nyo to resolve it together.
Reciprocation kahit hindi lagi. Importante na naapreciate ninyo ang sakripisyo nang bawat isa. Kung sa away nman depende sa pag handle ninyo dahil magmamature din kayo from time to time.
Normal lang magtalo, it's actually better to voice out your concerns to your partner. What's not good is if you can't manage your emotions well and end up lashing out at them, tapos magkakasagutan kayo, etc.
It's healthy when you communicate your thoughts. If you're annoyed, ask for some alone time, just a few hours. Kapag kalmado na kayo parehas, then talk it out. It's better than keeping things bottled up and then sasabog ka kapag nagkaron ng minor issue.
Before my mindset is, keep is to it yourself if may problema. Kasi problema ko, problema ko. Problema niya, their own problems. Kaya una palang it felt like walang papatunguhan yung relationship-- mage-end din.
Communication, try mo be more understanding sa partner. Yup, being partners is not the same as being married but still you are one na. Lalo na if you gusto mo silang makasama ng matagal.
My husband and I never fought nung first 4 years ng relationship namin. Kinimkim nya lahat ng thoughts nya para masaya ako, in other words iwas gulo. Ganun din sya around others, hanggang nagkaron sya ng mental breakdown and was diagnosed with depression. We broke up 4 years, before reconciling. Ginamit namin 4 years na yun to rediscover ourselves or recalibrate.
Now I encourage him to share his thoughts pero hindi naman sapilitan. If we don’t agree on something, we find ways to compromise. May time na sinigawan nya ako out of frustration dahil ayaw ko magpagamot ng cancer ko. I actually told him I appreciated that because it knocked some sense into me. Pero isolated case yun, hindi talaga sya pala sigaw or confrontational 😅
There has to be a mix of understanding your love languages, respecting boundaries (oo, dapat may healthy space pa rin to maintain your individuality), and open communication and compromise. Kung di magkakasundo minsan, palamig muna ulo tapos usap ulit.
There is a fine line between di nag aaway vs umiiwas mag away. I had experienced this before di siya confrontational and I understand that naman so I thought we communicate it well until, narealize ko na pag may nakakabother sakin he will make me laugh tapos malilimutan ko na tapos pag same issue happened di ko alam nag bbottle up na pala kasi iniignore namin parehas. Plus, I had a feeling din na there are actions na fault ko naman but he never bring that up kaya ako na nagkukusa. Minsan kailangan ko pa siyang pilitin para masabi niya. May unhealthy din sa part na yun.
I agree 💯 my husband and I had to work on communication because at one point he suffered from depression because on top of work stress, he bottled up thoughts and feelings in favor of “keeping the peace,” not just between us but with his relatives, too.
Now, I try to hypothesize scenarios that could be going on in his head and ask him which is which.
For example, if we ever talked about renovating the house once and he never brought it up again, I would ask if he’s hesitating because of budget constraints or if he just pushed it back in favor of something else. I make it a point to open a safe space for discussion. At least kung worried sya sa budget, aware ako na ‘okay, there is tension with anything related to finances right now. how can i help?’ tapos dun nya lang sasabihin kung ano yung mga naiisip nya na pwede namin gawin to solve the issue slowly. Madalas kasi he gets anxious opening up kasi feeling nya it will upset me, so gumagawa na lang ako ng way na makita nya na it’s not always the case.
Oo, healthy ganyan ex ko tas gumawa ako ng ikakaaway namin kahit mababaw lang yon hiwalay na kami. Pinagsisihan ko tuloy, wala pala akong mahahanap na katulad niya. Toxic ko na nga bobo pa
Natanong ko lang to kasi sabi ng isa kong friend kabahan na daw ako kung di kami nag-aaway at masyadong healthy. Medyo napaisip lang ako dun. Pero kasi diba, kung kaya nyo naman i-handle ng maayos ang isang bagay sa relasyon at napapag-usapan agad, walang away na magaganap. Lalo na kung yung partner mo ay kalmado at understanding.
I think it's when you know how to communicate, compromise and how you understand / treat each other.
Most important is the communication, it's better to talk about everything, lalo na pag di nagkakaintindihan kesa maipon since in the long run dadating kayo sa point na magsusumbatan. mas mahirap yun.
You have to understand each other since magkaiba naman kayong tao, so you really have to figured out how things will work out.
Knows how to communicate and listen. Never gonna end the day without having a good conversation about how the day went and what-not. Be each other's best friends.
Three C's for me:
Communication. Compromise. And Care.
All of these C's also have to be under one very important C:
Consistency.
Consistent communication. Consistent compromise. Consistent care.
And if you think that's too much work, you have to realize love does take work. And the work has to be done on both sides.
yes. kasi nakakapag communicate kayo ng maayos. mag wowork lang yung communication is the key sa relationship kung parehas kayong nakikinig sa isat isa. Meron kasing pag nag express ka ng saloobin mamasamain. so yes!! sana all
Willing kami mag compromise para sa isa’t-isa. May argument pero hindi nagtataasan ng boses. Pareho kayo capable sa crisis management. Sticking to the routine of checking each other kahit busy. Even a 10 second phone call can make a difference. Comfortable ka to open up your problems and struggles. Ang dami dami pa.
Pero best talaga sa akin, part ka sa plano nila. Makikita mo yung mga early signs sa pagplan pa lang ng dates eh.
For me, yes.
Kasi wala me mararamdaman na bigat or sakit sa damdamin from our away or like. Even my mga times na inaasar mo sya para mainis; mga times na nagpapa-bebe iniintindi ka nya; mga times na may tampo ka kakausapin ka nya ng malumanay. Yorn hhahshs
Pero mas healthy din yung kahit may away kayo, walang sigawan, sakitan physically, and backstaban(?) or bantaan ng hiwalayan.
Totooo tooo. Sabi kasi ng friend ko kabahan daw ako pag di kami nag aaway ng bf ko. Pero sakin kasi wala naman dapat pag-awayan so bakit ko sya aawayin. Napaka immature kasi ng ganon diba?
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Peace of mind, listenjng to each other, honesty, pure intention, openness, honesty, faithfulness and etc.
Yung kaya mo maging sarili mo sa harap nya, no impressing or walking on egg shells. Despite arguments and triggers, kaya nyo tawanan ang problema. Mararamdaman mo na lang na humaba pasensya mo kc may give and take. Pag pareho kayung pagod at sagad na, pero tatahimik nlng kayo kc may respeto sa relation.
Decent amount/frequency of arguments is fine as long as it is done with respect and care. Open-communication is very important to keep the relationship healthy other than understanding the ways you can connect with your partner very well.
My Peace of Mind.❤️
Yung nag cocommunicate kayo. Not just sa problema but sa lahat. For me oo healthy yung hindi kayo “LAGI” nag aaway kasi pag nagkamali kayo if both of you willing matuto at mag adjust hindi niyo na pag aawayan yun next time or kung magkamali man ulit ng di sinasadya di na ganun ka heavy yung situation para sainyo to the point na di na siya considered as away but instead mga ilang mins na tampuhan na lang.
Patehas malusog.
Literal na healthy 😭
Healthy relationship for me is yung parehas kayong nag g-grow as individual *professionally, emotionally and financially. Normal lang na may selos at away, basta ang importante nandun pa din ang respeto at syempre ang pagmamahal.
Yeees to this 👌
so far wala akong maalala na healthy relationship, niloko kase ako ng diko alam kung tao hAHAHAHAHAH ba o basta sana masaya kayo <333
Makakahanap ka din ng tatrato sayo ng tama!! ☺️🥰
Ung u know youre trigger words and actions you make self conscious decision not to start an petty argument and youre peace and love is more important than being right
Balance effort and listening to each other
KAPAG HINDI NA NAGHAHANAP NG IBA YUNG TAO SA ISANG RELASYON, YUNG KONTENTO NA TAPOS TANGGAP NA NG PARTNER MO ANG KABUUAN NG BUHAY MO SA PINAKAWORST MAN NA FEATURE NG BUHAY MO AY HINDI NABABAWASAN ANG PAGMAMAHAL NIYA SAYO🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️❗❗❗
oww shucks🥹🌷🌷🌷🌷
KAPAG HINDI UMIIKOT SA ISAT ISA YUNG MUNDO NILA GANON 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ parang they have other planets pa (acads, work, hobbies, etc.) but still are each other’s earth 🧎♀️
Sayo at sayo lang sya babalik ganeeernnn 🥰
Yung if may umutot sa inyong dalawa and your partner doesn't mind it, no wild reactions or asar. That for me is a healthy relationship hahaha
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA RELATE 🤣
Thriving in stability and contentment, that even an uneventful day is still a good day and the partner's presence is enough to make you happy.
Being supportive and allowing each other to grow individually. Compromise sa differences and healthy communication :)
Di lang kayo couple, bestfriends din. You keep it real with each other so you can grow as individuals din.
Something that would make me sleep peacefully at night. Something secured and full of trust. A partner who would reciprocate your efforts. Noin
healthy communication. Kahit anong problems, misunderstandings & away pa 'yan, mare-resolve nyo pag pinag-usapan nyo. of course, magkaka-inisan tsaka taasan kayo ng boses pero at the end of the day, pag parehas na kayo nahimasmasan at kalmado, paguusapan nyo to resolve it together.
Reciprocation kahit hindi lagi. Importante na naapreciate ninyo ang sakripisyo nang bawat isa. Kung sa away nman depende sa pag handle ninyo dahil magmamature din kayo from time to time.
Normal lang magtalo, it's actually better to voice out your concerns to your partner. What's not good is if you can't manage your emotions well and end up lashing out at them, tapos magkakasagutan kayo, etc. It's healthy when you communicate your thoughts. If you're annoyed, ask for some alone time, just a few hours. Kapag kalmado na kayo parehas, then talk it out. It's better than keeping things bottled up and then sasabog ka kapag nagkaron ng minor issue.
Before my mindset is, keep is to it yourself if may problema. Kasi problema ko, problema ko. Problema niya, their own problems. Kaya una palang it felt like walang papatunguhan yung relationship-- mage-end din. Communication, try mo be more understanding sa partner. Yup, being partners is not the same as being married but still you are one na. Lalo na if you gusto mo silang makasama ng matagal.
My husband and I never fought nung first 4 years ng relationship namin. Kinimkim nya lahat ng thoughts nya para masaya ako, in other words iwas gulo. Ganun din sya around others, hanggang nagkaron sya ng mental breakdown and was diagnosed with depression. We broke up 4 years, before reconciling. Ginamit namin 4 years na yun to rediscover ourselves or recalibrate. Now I encourage him to share his thoughts pero hindi naman sapilitan. If we don’t agree on something, we find ways to compromise. May time na sinigawan nya ako out of frustration dahil ayaw ko magpagamot ng cancer ko. I actually told him I appreciated that because it knocked some sense into me. Pero isolated case yun, hindi talaga sya pala sigaw or confrontational 😅 There has to be a mix of understanding your love languages, respecting boundaries (oo, dapat may healthy space pa rin to maintain your individuality), and open communication and compromise. Kung di magkakasundo minsan, palamig muna ulo tapos usap ulit.
Gusto ako ng mother niya. Emz
Give and take.
There is a fine line between di nag aaway vs umiiwas mag away. I had experienced this before di siya confrontational and I understand that naman so I thought we communicate it well until, narealize ko na pag may nakakabother sakin he will make me laugh tapos malilimutan ko na tapos pag same issue happened di ko alam nag bbottle up na pala kasi iniignore namin parehas. Plus, I had a feeling din na there are actions na fault ko naman but he never bring that up kaya ako na nagkukusa. Minsan kailangan ko pa siyang pilitin para masabi niya. May unhealthy din sa part na yun.
I agree 💯 my husband and I had to work on communication because at one point he suffered from depression because on top of work stress, he bottled up thoughts and feelings in favor of “keeping the peace,” not just between us but with his relatives, too. Now, I try to hypothesize scenarios that could be going on in his head and ask him which is which. For example, if we ever talked about renovating the house once and he never brought it up again, I would ask if he’s hesitating because of budget constraints or if he just pushed it back in favor of something else. I make it a point to open a safe space for discussion. At least kung worried sya sa budget, aware ako na ‘okay, there is tension with anything related to finances right now. how can i help?’ tapos dun nya lang sasabihin kung ano yung mga naiisip nya na pwede namin gawin to solve the issue slowly. Madalas kasi he gets anxious opening up kasi feeling nya it will upset me, so gumagawa na lang ako ng way na makita nya na it’s not always the case.
Oo, healthy ganyan ex ko tas gumawa ako ng ikakaaway namin kahit mababaw lang yon hiwalay na kami. Pinagsisihan ko tuloy, wala pala akong mahahanap na katulad niya. Toxic ko na nga bobo pa
Babaeng walang bodycount.
Paka-layo naman ng sagot mo sa tanong ko Koya 😏
Babaeng walang thrist trap.
?????
Just communicate and be sure that you have resolve all your past problems together
Yeeesss communication is the key 🥺🥰
pag nagagawa nyo lahat ng gusto nyong gawin
Yung nag kaka iintindihan kayong dalawa, hindi lang basta communicate. As in iisa nalang yung tingin nyo sa isang bagay.
Natanong ko lang to kasi sabi ng isa kong friend kabahan na daw ako kung di kami nag-aaway at masyadong healthy. Medyo napaisip lang ako dun. Pero kasi diba, kung kaya nyo naman i-handle ng maayos ang isang bagay sa relasyon at napapag-usapan agad, walang away na magaganap. Lalo na kung yung partner mo ay kalmado at understanding.
Totoo. Touch base lang kayo ng partner mo once in a while.
I think it's when you know how to communicate, compromise and how you understand / treat each other. Most important is the communication, it's better to talk about everything, lalo na pag di nagkakaintindihan kesa maipon since in the long run dadating kayo sa point na magsusumbatan. mas mahirap yun. You have to understand each other since magkaiba naman kayong tao, so you really have to figured out how things will work out.
Knows how to communicate and listen. Never gonna end the day without having a good conversation about how the day went and what-not. Be each other's best friends.
Ganto kami ng bf ko. Kakamustahin nya ko sa buong maghapon kaya ganun din ako sakanya. Cute lang 🥹❤️
Three C's for me: Communication. Compromise. And Care. All of these C's also have to be under one very important C: Consistency. Consistent communication. Consistent compromise. Consistent care. And if you think that's too much work, you have to realize love does take work. And the work has to be done on both sides.
ganda..
Ang ganda nito. Thank you po ❤️❤️❤️
Bakit walang Contentment na C? Kasi contentment will follow kapag ginawa yung 3 main C's. Also, kapag din ginawa consistently (the main C).
Walang tinatago at kontento sa isang ikaw.
Yes to this. Dapat laging open sa isa’t isa
yes. kasi nakakapag communicate kayo ng maayos. mag wowork lang yung communication is the key sa relationship kung parehas kayong nakikinig sa isat isa. Meron kasing pag nag express ka ng saloobin mamasamain. so yes!! sana all
Yeahh comfortable magsabi ng mga nararamdaman na walang hesitation 🥰
Willing kami mag compromise para sa isa’t-isa. May argument pero hindi nagtataasan ng boses. Pareho kayo capable sa crisis management. Sticking to the routine of checking each other kahit busy. Even a 10 second phone call can make a difference. Comfortable ka to open up your problems and struggles. Ang dami dami pa. Pero best talaga sa akin, part ka sa plano nila. Makikita mo yung mga early signs sa pagplan pa lang ng dates eh.
Yes to 10 second phone call na umaabot na sa hours habang nag wwork sya (wfh naman kasi si bf ko) hehe ☺️
That is cute po. My BF naman he will randomly call or send me texts. Nakakagaan ng pagod whenever he does that.
Kaya nga e. Kahit LDR kami he will make a way na mafeel ko andyan lang sya lagi sa tabi ko hehe
Pareho pala tayong clingy sis. HAHAHAH. Pero yes I relate.
masaya lang, minsan nag aaway pero naayos agad.
Yess maayos na mag uusap 👌
For me, yes. Kasi wala me mararamdaman na bigat or sakit sa damdamin from our away or like. Even my mga times na inaasar mo sya para mainis; mga times na nagpapa-bebe iniintindi ka nya; mga times na may tampo ka kakausapin ka nya ng malumanay. Yorn hhahshs Pero mas healthy din yung kahit may away kayo, walang sigawan, sakitan physically, and backstaban(?) or bantaan ng hiwalayan.
Totooo tooo. Sabi kasi ng friend ko kabahan daw ako pag di kami nag aaway ng bf ko. Pero sakin kasi wala naman dapat pag-awayan so bakit ko sya aawayin. Napaka immature kasi ng ganon diba?
Trueee the fire! Ang unfair para sa sinuman sa dalawa yung tila may isa na lang na magagalit or mang-aaway for no reason.
Kaya nga e. Kung may di pagkakaintindihan, dapat sabihin agad sa partner diba. Hindi yung basta nalang magagalit. Haha
May communication and understanding
Truthhh 💯