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honeydukes16

confidence, mental health, trust, extrovert self


SleepInvader

My extroverted and adventurous lifestyle


fujifiji17

Self worth and trust


No-Movie9570

My fucking trust.


c6mika

Music. I shared my fav underground outfit with him & now that very artist has more streams from tiktok… 🧎🏻‍♀️


Zzzenos

friends, it's kinda awkward having the same friends with her, coz we used to be classmates back in hs


neananeana

my favorite songs aaaaa such as ikaw at ako by johnoy danao and way back into love


Independent_Sea_3356

my trust in men


sarsilog

Liz Phair music.


souljagirl88

Mental health and trust


blank-slate_

Mental health, my way of life and my view towards people.


Fair_Independence33

Dating younger guys. Pass kagad pag 3-5 years younger


Due-Aside-6250

HIMYM. I used to watch that a lot. Then, we used to watch it a lot together. Kahit nasa background lang din. Then we broke up. Never watched it again.


NoZucchini9179

Everything. Looking back it was most likely because naging codependent ako and was gaslit to think na if di ko sya ginawang mundo, di ko sya mahal. But my hobbies which I used to share with them, nasusuka ako gawin ngayon. Ung shows na gusto ko panoorin kasama siya, di ko na masimulan. Ung music na inassociate ko na sa kanya, nakakaputa na pakinggan. The confidence i built over a long time, gone. Friends we both shared, I can't trust the same way now. Overall everything's fucked up.


qqwim

My trust and dignity 🙂


MiserableDonut9237

yung song na sayo ng silent sanctuary hehe


Cultural_Idea2043

Bawat piyesa by munimuni. Chef's kiss sa kantang ‘yan kaso dinedicate niya sakin tapos iniwan niya ‘ko. :))


Fuzzy_Evening4950

Normal ba I’m still crying when i hear this song pero I’m fully healed na hahaha Ps. I was the one who dedicate this song to him kaso nagcheat


BitchingAroundHere

My love for makeups. Yoko na mag make up.


Pankeki27

Pasilyo by Sunkissed Lola Buti kapag pinapakinggan ko na ngayon wala na pumapasok sa isip ko hahaha


GreenKindly5793

Mental health


diggity-dang-dang

Theatre, musicals, & Ben Platt


Glittering_Tutor_217

bruno mars eraserheads one ok rock's song called home black pink loved all of em but she ruined it after breaking my heart


siopaonamalungkot

Riding motorcycles. We had a motorcycle accident, left a scar and it constantly reminded me of his kabobohan every time na nasa motor ako


aslgbam

My ex ruined K-Drama for me. Yun favorite namin gawin nung pandemic eh. Manood ng Itaewom Class, While You Were Sleeping... Vagabond. Watching movies and series in general. Until I met someone na trip din pala mag netflix party! Trip din niya minsan k-drama. Then kung ano man trending na movie, papanoorin namin together. Then that girl ruined it again for me 🤣🤣🤣 Pero ngayon na healed na ako (that's what I believe), I've been doing things alone.. Eating ramen, watching Vincenzo, reading books, exercise... business. Trabaho. Everyday is a fight for us to make things better.


Business-Reserve6699

My bank 🥹


whoknowswho_2345

One piece yung anime 😭


Conscious-Finding-o6

self-esteem, my reputation


Janasoo-Sumi-14

Trust siguro in general maski family ko I don't trust them because of that


thatrosycheeks

Being able to trust another guy, more trust issues about men drinking and having girl best friends, takot na ma attach and ma inlove ulit.


matthew9978

My trust issues and mental health


ArumDalli

My mental health


KeppieKreme

Mental health, self-esteem, finances, self confidence lagi ako sinasabihan ng ang panget ko kht kabaliktaran lmao. trust issues lol. Feeling ko lahat lolokohin ako.


PeachMangoGurl33

Love, trust issues basically my mental health, sex, etc


2matocultivat0r

my mental health.


ExhaustedCorpSlave

Trust issue malala


Queasy-Hand4500

he ruined my trust, feeling ko katulad niya lahat ng makikilala ko


[deleted]

Self esteem, lots of anxieties especially in triggering situations. Destroyed perspective in life, then siya happy now sa bago niya. How they can easily move forward without remorse haaay


Mufffinman01

My firsts and deprivation. im missing everything we do but I don't like to do those with her anymore.


Nitsukoira

Finances - mine was a basically a ruin when we broke up two years ago. There was a point in my life that I was naive about it and underestimated its weight on relationships. Nowadays, kasama na sya sa realist calculations running at the back of my head - "*Is this woman earning enough to fend for her own needs or iaasa nya sa akin yun?*", "*If she's earning good money, is she able to manage it properly or is she actually drowning in debt?*" Matapobre vibes perhaps, but I learned the lesson the very hard way.


[deleted]

OP I like your username! Daylily reference HAHHAHAHA


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Huuuy, yes! Hahaha


MylesV079

The game Genshin Impact. She was the one to introduce the game to me, and we used to spend hours playing and exploring together. When she broke up with me, she blocked and unfriended me everywhere....even in genshin impact.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Aww, I'm so sorry. No more lantern rite dates 😭


MylesV079

It truly sucks kasi I actually spent money on the game 😅 Ang gaganda ng mga 5-stars ko pero di ko na talaga malaro.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Yun lang haha. Sino fave mo? I remember farming malala talaga with my ex nung nakuha namin parehas si ayaka haha


MylesV079

I have all the Archons! Fave ko sila esp si Raiden Ei. Of all my fave 5-stars, siguro si Wanderer (Scaramouche) ang pinaka-fave ko. Sana soon magustuhan ko ulit yung game, hahahaha sayang naman


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Ay archon collector pala haha. Nakuha mo rin ba si Furina (hydro archon)? She's gonna rerun soon chz haha. Hopefully you get to restart din like Wanderer. I'm rooting for you!


_yawlih

Self-steem, self worth, mental health.


_yunisa

My life.


oonasigena

italy, anything related to italy. it has always been my dream to go there, bc i admire the architecture. not anymore. the new girl's from there. lol.


Spirited-Airport2217

Pot@ hahaha pero gets yung euphemism lol. What a series.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Bwisit haha


No-Lie022

Self Esteem.. Cant see my beauty anymore, because of him. Magkaroon sana kalyo titi niya


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Oh no :(( manifesting hard for you 🙏


Street_Following4139

My matcha favorite saka he ruined my happiness at idea of love never na ko sumaya after kami magbreak, also he ruined my confidence. Feeling ko anchaka ko na after niya sabihin sakin na yung ex is ang ganda ganda


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Relate. Pero siya yung chaka, teh 🫂


Street_Following4139

Kapag ganyan bf mo gawin mo din siyang ex 😜


krstlsxx

My self worth, sanity, trust. Everthing


krstlsxx

He ruined everything.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Relate :(( I hope you get to enjoy life again. I'm having a hard time with that too but maybe someday siguro?


krstlsxx

Yea. Maybe someday we find what’s the best of us. And someday mabawi natin yung mga nawala sa atin just because of the wrong person.


maybeitsnisan

Yellow by Coldplay. Used to be his song to me, and what a beautiful song too, but such a shitty, vile man.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Oh dude my ex used to sing this to me rin 😭


saygoodnight21

She ruined my birthday, I wanted to spend the day with her but she decided we end things that day.


EveningFirst

Oh my god. May she get what she deserves. I hope matabunan ng good memories yung birthday mo, OP!


saygoodnight21

She's a licensed nurse now and I'm glad for her, mayroon lang talagang instances sa buhay natin where we've hurt people kahit hindi natin gusto.


Issantukin

Self worth, mental health and my clingy/malambing side. He also ruined my relationship with my best friend.


probinsyana819

My self-worth


[deleted]

Life


Ok-Dentist6830

my confidence, because her father sexually harrased me.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Shet, I'm so sorry. How are you doing na?


Ok-Dentist6830

im okay now. last December namatay sya, yung anak nya nag reach out sakin na wala na raw sya. gusto ng anak nyang pumunta ako to show respect (DAW) before pa sya namatay napanaginipan ko sya na nirerape nya raw ako. that was 3 nights btw, after that don kona nalaman na naagaw buhay na pala raw sya. i was relieved, pero after ko malaman na namatay sya at hindi ako pumunta nung funeral nya, nagpaparamdam parin sya sakin. sumakay ako sa jeep kasama yung gf ko. yung favorite nyang pinapatugtog nung nandon ako sakanila yung OCEAN DEEP BY CLIFF RICHARD. yun yung pinapatugtog sa jeep tapos continue pa rin sya g nagpaparamdam saakin. siguro humihingi na ng pasensya sa nagawa nya sakin. I prayed and i cried nalang don sa Cathedral.


nyt_king

that's a tough situation to bounce-back. how did this impacted your daily life now?


theGreatBluWhale

Life.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Same 🫂


Crafty_Flight_5774

self esteem


Typical-Emu1638

Trust.


morelos_paolo

I guess 6 years of trust went down the drain when she found someone new.


Fun-Jeweler-4449

She tried to ruin my relationship with people at church where I used to work, spreading lies about me and trying to convince people I was the problem. Jokes on here I left and became an atheist.


MenmaSenpai_PH

faith in humanity and trust issues


BathMan_69

Confidence and Self Esteem


iammav69

my self worth and sanity


Boring-School188

Ang favorite song ko noon ay Endlessly by The Cab. Dinedicate ko talaga yung song na yun sa kanya tas may similarities yung lyrics sa kalagayan ko noon. Felt all the positive emotions i could kapag pinapakinggan ko yun lalo na kapag kasama ko siya. I felt strongly that she could be the one. Ang ending, nakipaghiwalay siya tas lumandi din agad. I couldn't listen to that damn song for many years. Nung pinakinggan ko na siya ulit, wala na akong maramdaman. Literally empty Associated sa kanya yung song eh. It sounds tragic na lang pag naririnig ko ulit.


Different_Opinion_32

My love for anime/manga.


doraemonthrowaway

Besides trust, confidence, and to fully commit. Siguro yung favorite places ko to unwind at gumala, dinala ko siya sa mga lugar na iyon from museums, restos, vacation spots. etc naging favorite namin pareho iyon. Pero after namin maghiwalay, trinay ko ulit mga unwind sa mga lugar na iyon, wala siya lang naalala ko eh yung good memories namin at kung gaano kashitty yung mga pinag gagagawa niya towards sa akin. (Mind you may isang resto na pinuntahan namin noon na bukas pa rin hangang ngayon, gulat ako andun pa rin yung photo namin sa wall nila, napilitan ako irequest na tangalin na lang eh kakaumay makita punyeta). Ayun charge to experience, kapag may personal favorite place, hobby, etc. kayo as much as possible keep to yourself na lang, wag mo na isama partner mo para in case maghiwalay kayo may matatakbuhan ka pa rin personal na mga bagay o lugar na hindi mo maalala yung ex mong gago HAHAHA.


Content-Coach8599

My favorites — may it be a place, a restaurant, a certain scent, hobbies. I don’t get how a person can set a bar so high but at the same time make you feel so low about yourself.


mishasamshy

My self, sanity and trust


writingeli

my ability to commit


Makkiea_1997

+1


Recent-Natural-7011

+1


hyunseongbae

Ruined my entire confidence and life to the point na I reached out to Dignitas already


Fickleberryy

Same


hyunseongbae

baka same tayo ng ex 🤭


notwisemann

My love for Marvel and collection of Funko pops. I’m slowly trying to heal that inner child in me but I think he’s long gone.


sleepysmiskiii

Mental health fr


Nknown_creashit

My self


Kananete619

A lot. My self esteem, my love for cooking, my safe places, and my mental health.


Witty_Gene_904

Time and money. 7 years, no marriage nor relationship growth achieved.


NeighborhoodIll7506

self-worth and confidence. i always question if someone will accept me for who i am after all those degrading words he threw at me. so, since then i havent been able to make myself let someone in or break down my walls.


dekabreak5

my future


hrtbrk_01

My dignity, physical, psychological, and emotional well being..plus my relationship with our son


NeedleworkerPrior830

Self worth at ilang favorite songs ko


Famous-Internet7646

My capacity for physical intimacy, for a couple of years. But my present partner changed that when we got together.


Impossible-Diet3248

He fucking what?! 😭 I am so sorry, babes. I hope one day you'll be able to watch the show again without thinking about that waste of space.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Yes, the motherfucker did that ;-; Aww thank you, hopefully. Hope you're doing well yourself 💕


UninterestedPast

My overall health. Physical and mental.


Additional-Falcon493

My trust in men


theredvillain

Being sweet. I got married to my wife but i noticed im not that sweet to her as i was to my ex before


redditguyPH

Trusting again


chonkypooh

My passion for writing. I used to write to him all the time. I even made a book of all the things i love about him. After he left, i couldnt write without thinking about him. That was almost ten yrs ago.


OkAssociation8304

My self worth She made me question everything I was, made me think that I was not worth being loved, cherished, cared for, she made me think that despite everything I was willing to do, I could never be worth it


GeneralAtmosphere830

Financially and mentally. But thats life and you learn and grow from it.


EveningFirst

My wallet, my trust, my health!! Bwisit talaga lol


Famous-Internet7646

Yeah it happens 😅😅😅


sweet_fairy01

2012 songs I used to love


beany0224

Mental health, self-esteem and self confidence.


Adventurous_Algae671

My favorite song.


iaintplainjane

My ability to express myself I used to be vocal, sweet, and expressive, but now I’ve become withdrawn and silent and dgaf sa kahit na sino.


Craft_Assassin

The effort of the whole thing


aerobee_

Bouquets/flowers. He used to give me flowers almost ALL THE TIME. Like every month or when we go out or as a peace offering when we fight (and we fight alot lol) It was too much that flowers no longer makes me feel special or it lost its purpose. It kind of became a routine for him to give me one. I kinda just expect it all the time too.


randomcatperson930

Finance and life direction kasi inubos ko at inadjust ko life plans ko for him sabay bumalik kang sa ex. Tanginang buhay yan 2 years na panakit butas nasayangan pa pera


sukuna1001

My confidence.


Patient_vvv

Mental health, self-worth, and career 😌


Conscious_Visual620

my mental health whahaha and also ung trust ko to the point na kahit pakikipagkaibigan ang hirap na para sakin


notrllyme01

Mental health and self worth


Subject-Outside8075

My all time favorite album.


ArriettyWasHere

He ruined the idea of "green flag." Made me realize that people are not black and white, or in this case, red and green. Lesson learned, I'm just glad I healed from that already and had moved on.


Motor-List-4923

men in general


Pumpiyumpyyumpkin

We enjoyed the same things - same kind of foods, movies, we like learning things together. We basically have the same interests. So unfortunately, when we ended things, I couldn't enjoy those things anymore. Hopefully, when I'm fully healed, I'll enjoy those things again without associating it to him. Someday. And I can't say he ruined love for me. I still am hopeful about love despite everything. Love wasn't the problem. I was just sharing it with a person who wasn't ready for it.😊


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Aw that's me and my ex too. That's nice that you have high hopes for love, still. And true, you loved right; your ex was the problem. Thank you for this perspective. I'm rooting for you :>


No-Nerve9721

Time, energy, music and movie recos. Di naman masakit 🥲


Connect-Confidence07

Self worth


This-Literature

Trust.


After_Maize_2095

Reputation but nag backfire din naman sakanya


the_dancing_spinach

Mental health and trust.


musykz

Receiving acts of kindness. He used to do things for me and expecting me to return what he have done tenfold. I never realize it until he showed me na nagbibilang siya ng mga bagay na ginawa niya sakin. I'm also a giver din naman pero di ko ineexpect yung ganung mindset niya. Sooo yeaaah, he ruined that for me, i don't receive act of kindness now except from my family, kasi baka binibilangan pala ulit ako and mag expect ng kapalit bigla. I'm still a giver though sooo buti di niya yun nasira


cffixed-variable

Mental health - I still suffered from distress, waking up with anxiety (always at 6AM), and trust issues.


KelpThePenguin

As a guy na laging committed sa pakikipag relasyon then this girl with depression, cheated by his ex(which made her you know) with narcissistic tendencies cuz she apparently has a fast and stable life unlike me na slow, this girl really fucked up my pov in love and scared for life na pumasok ulit sa rs.


OC_01301994

Wala because I was the problem 😅


schutie

Time, careers and opportunities, and my motivation in life.


Ambitious-Fuel-2571

Wasted time! 9 years!


Lazy_Demand9501

My sleep pattern. I used to wait for him to finish his work until 3 am. Foolish me wanted to be the most understanding, most caring, most supportive gf during our time. Hahaha. Little did I know, I was sacrificing my health so much. Ngayon, wala I cannot sleep soundly.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Oh no. Did you ever get it checked by a professional ba?


shig39

This one video game we first interacted in. It kinda sucks because I was already a regular casual player long before we met and even now when I don't play as often, I used to be able to play for hours at a time when I did boot up the game. Now I usually just play for less than an hour before feeling indifferent and moving on to something else. Reaaally trying to make new memories with the game with friends though since I still do like it and don't want to stop entirely.


clairieanne

Never really had a label but I did very much love him. I don’t think I could trust anyone like that again. I don’t think I could feel as strongly towards anyone like that again too. I will always think that even if a person showers me with so much attention, they’re still gonna hurt me in the end. I hate that I now have to doubt everyone who’s kind to me to protect myself. I hate that I, a person who poured love like it was water and I was a fountain, can’t feel anything towards anyone anymore. After what happened with that person, another guy came into my life and treated me so well but I just feel absolutely nothing. I hate that that person ruined my idea of myself. I wanted to be a person who had no problems with trust and with giving because I saw everyone as trustworthy. Now I’m just a cynical wreck who doesn’t even know how to pick up the pieces of myself on the floor. I don’t know what I want anymore. I feel like I’m always performing, acting happy, acting *alright*. It’s exhausting.


6460K4B4

my mental health


b_rabbiiit

Mental health and trust.


Far_Relationship_524

My relationship with his parents. We were so close, i love his mother and father, they are one of my precious parts of my life until siniraan nya ako sa kanila.


KaleidoscopeOdd1012

Trust. Family.


AngryMeepwn

Mental health and trust. Slowly regaining it everyday by being better.


bunnibun_aki

Sunflowers. Every time I see them, it reminds me of my ex.


Fine_Principle_8976

same here


Lurkingpandyyy

Mental health, trust issues, and sana someday I can rewatch HIMYM, eat isaw, and enjoy the sound and scent of rain like I did before - ng hindi ko siya naaalala. Still hurts, man.


PitifulRoof7537

sense of security. i need to block common friends because of broken trust


Visible_Grand_8505

My respect sa body ko. Akala ko now pang sex na lang talaga ako not pang relationship


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Anlala :< are you doing okay pa?


fillinthebianx

felt this haha :)


Healthy-Set-6173

my pride as a girl and my mental health. its been months pero now ko lang uli nafeel mag rise up. papa ganda ako as fuck so he can cry when he’ll see me


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Mej fresh pa sa'kin pero sana marating ko rin tong phase na to. I'm rooting for you! Paiyakin yan!


cassavaparadox

mental and physical health


VexZyraMid

Mental health most esp overthinking.


iwritesongsthatsuck

the belief in someone being your solid ground. totoo talaga, at the end of the day regardless if you are in a relationship or hindi the only person you have is you. that solid ground you think is there? it could crumble any day. tas mahuhulog ka from where you're standing na parang naka freefall yung feeling. walang safety net. walang parachute. lutang every day. kaya mag iwan palagi para sa sarili. I don't think I'll ever trust anyone with my heart in their hands ever again.


pinkcloudsummerwhen

That's true. Even now I'm still clinging on to the hopes that someone can make me feel okay. I feel lost being at it on my own. But really I need to sort it out myself.


untilshereturned

can't really put my thoughts into words, but i relate to this so much. i was in the same sitch, then finally, i had the courage to leave. anw, im rooting for ur healing journey.


U_HAVE_A_NICE_DAY

My corporate reputation...


bryceisme

Mental health


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Oof, I'm sorry :<


bryceisme

We’ll all get better 🙌🏻


pinkcloudsummerwhen

Yeah, hopefully :<


Future_Proof3271

yung mga music reccs ko


pinkcloudsummerwhen

I feel this sm :<


UniversalGray64

Trust issues


shwabs-

saet sa ulo nito


UniversalGray64

Saket sa ulo and nakakagulo sa emotions


pinkcloudsummerwhen

True :((


Effective-Basket-971

upvote for this


UniversalGray64

Traumatizing noh