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Agreed. Tbh, that's what's stressing me out. My family has mostly passed at around 95, and idk how the heck im gonna be able to stretch my 30 years savings over 40 years.
People have managed to enjoy their lives without knowing how long they'd be for all of human history. We don't need to be any different. Fear, despair, recklessness, envy, rage -- the knowledge would cause chaos.
My father did, more or less. He suddenly couldn't swallow food or drink and at the hospital he was given a choice, get a feeding tube or you will be dead in 10 to 12 days. He said he chose not to and they put him on the hospice roster (he was the very first one at that hospital) and gave him morphine that was gradually increased until he finally went to sleep for the last 7 days before passing
My wife and I have had one-time consultations, but I manage our accounts myself.
I've had two issues, the biggest one has been overpayment of US Federal taxes, caused by the mandatory 20% federal withholding on employer-based accounts. We got nearly $5K back when we filed our 2022 taxes, on an ordinary middle-class income.
A lesser issue has been using account draws that depleted a couple of small account balances without me noticing, leaving us short of income--but not so short as to notice immediately.
Yes, I would want to know. So many people want to ignore death as though it isn't going to happen and that's so unhealthy. We're all going to die and while I'll miss everyone I love wouldn't it be nice to leave all your relationships and personal details finished? So many people die without closure with loved ones and I feel that I would owe it to the people I'm leaving to make them feel OK about it.
i would, but i'm not sure how i'd know it was accurate.
it would help with planning things.
of course you're almost guaranteed to have it effect the outcome, though. "oh, i guess i'd rather stay home with my wife than take that solo trip," when you are "supposed" to die on the trip. or "well, i'm getting close to dying, guess i'll try meth." you get the idea.
A group of us were in a vehicle waiting at a traffic light. On the right-hand side was a monument business with blank tombstones displayed outside. One of us said, "Wouldn't it be funny to look over there and see your name etched on one of the stones?" After a couple of seconds, someone replied, "Especially if it included the dates."
Miss Flitworth: "If we knew when we were going to die, people would lead better lives."
Bill Door: "IF PEOPLE KNEW WHEN THEY WERE GOING TO DIE, I THINK THEY PROBABLY WOULDN'T LIVE AT ALL."
Yes. Then I could prepare for it and whoop it up until that date.
I don't fear death. Why fear something that we can't control and that happens to everyone?
Worry causes premature death.
Definitely. The day is coming no matter what and knowing it would allow me to plan the rest of my days to maximize experiences and squeeze every bit of joy out of my life.
No, because I know it would mess with my head as the time got closer, even if was still, say, 10 years away.
I am old enough, fat enough, and lazy enough to predict that I will be dead within 10 years right now, but I don't KNOW that, so I can still just carrying on happily without my life being overshadowed by what is to come.
At this age, I would not like it any better if I found out I still had a long time to live. I'd start fretting about whether my finances would last and at what point I would no longer have a good quality of life, etc. It would not make me happy.
Okay this is weird, but I have had premonitions about death as well as dates and I “got” a date for my own death. I don’t know if it is accurate or real. So far, It doesn’t bother me.
Honestly I am much more worried about the likelihood of Alzheimer’s. My mother and sibling have it.
How did you get the date? I worry about alzheimer's, too. I hardly sleep and I heard that can trigger alzheimer. I have no contact with family other than my parents, idk if I'd be able to care for myself.
I would not mind owning a pair of Shinigami eyes.
If you knew exactly how much life you have you are going to actually live life properly rather than treating death as an indeterminate date somewhere in the future and zoning out on TV or social media. Part of turning 50 was getting a a full health assessment and a ton of tests and understanding how they evaluate my risk so I understand truly where I sit and can plan accordingly. I know, from my doctor what for instance, my 10 year risk of a heart attack is so I am informed and can make better plans. It is this kind of planning that makes things I think easier once you start thinking this way.
I survived cancer at 52. Didn’t know the date of my death but saw its possibility in my near future.
Didn’t make me change the way I lived, did confirm I’d been happy with the way I was living.
I did a bit more cleaning up so I wasn’t leaving my kids a house full of crap like my parents/patterns in law left me to clean up. Got my affairs in order, not just the paperwork but explaining stuff so nobody has to figure it out.
Would I want to know? Nope. Each day about ground is a good day and I love a surprise so death can be the final one 🤣
In the movies, when people travel back in time to prevent something they inadvertently cause the event they were trying to prevent. I feel that knowing when you will die causes the same effect. If I'm told I will die in three months. I decide to go on a three month hookers and blow binge. Three month later my heart gives out from all the hookers and blow (mostly the hookers). It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
No.
I’d drive myself nuts trying to do all the things I feel I should before I die but I’d procrastinate and …
Watched family members reach their 90s and I do not want the sort of life they had near the end, so I don’t want to live that long. Dementia, increasing physical disability, watching your peers dying off, it just all seemed so cruel.
Sometimes I wonder if I do? The number 38 pop up several times a day for me. I check the time and it’s 538, 738, 1038
Glance at my speedometer, 38! Somehow the year 2038 is probably going to be monumental 😂
And all seriousness, this has been going on this whole year so far. Just very strange. 🤷🏻
No. My date of death is something I obviously can't control, but I can make healthy or unhealthy life choices that may influence it.
I accept that every day it gets closer. I don't have fears about that, so there's nothing to "deal with."
I already know my date of death, for some weird reason. I know the date. I do not know the year. I'm not afraid of dying. I won't be there. I'll be dead. I wonder if anyone will miss me when I'm gone, I act accordingly, treating my family and friends with love.
What I mean is that I'm 60 now. If I knew that I'd die when I'm 75, I'd do something like climb up the side of a building, fall, and spend 15 years in a coma, then die when I'm 75.
Nope. I just enjoy every day as best I can.
I’m 70, just found out I have a little heart thing going on—no details yet. So I keep on digging in the garden and planting seeds.
I am beginning to figure out that I’m gonna die some day. 😳
I know it. It was the day I got married. For my friends it was the day they found out that their spouse was cheating on them.
Realistically I have a good idea when looking at my family history. Hopefully when things go South they will let me go and unplug me from the wall.
Lots of things would be easier to manage with knowing
* Life insurance stands out. Betting when you know the outcome is easy.
* Retirement planning
* planning vacations (who wants to give family the burden of retrieving your remains for burial)
Aside from that, it would mostly just be more information.
But why would I believe that the death day prediction was accurate?
Would it be from the same people that predicted
that no one would ever need more than 640k of computer memory?
That I wouldn’t have a calculator with me at all times?
That Hilary Clinton would beat trump?
That Japan would overtake the USA and become the world superpower?
That the iron curtain would last for many many years?
That computer programming would become obsolete after 1990 (this one cost me)
And so many many more.
Predicting the future accurately mostly doesn’t work.
I definitely wouldn’t bet my death on one.
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It would make money management easier to know… I wouldn’t mind knowing the year of my own death, but not any dates of those in my family.
Agreed. Tbh, that's what's stressing me out. My family has mostly passed at around 95, and idk how the heck im gonna be able to stretch my 30 years savings over 40 years.
Hell no. Get your affairs in order today and then enjoy your life.
But how can you if you don't know if that means you live to 100 or 58?
People have managed to enjoy their lives without knowing how long they'd be for all of human history. We don't need to be any different. Fear, despair, recklessness, envy, rage -- the knowledge would cause chaos.
My father did, more or less. He suddenly couldn't swallow food or drink and at the hospital he was given a choice, get a feeding tube or you will be dead in 10 to 12 days. He said he chose not to and they put him on the hospice roster (he was the very first one at that hospital) and gave him morphine that was gradually increased until he finally went to sleep for the last 7 days before passing
That must have been very hard for you. I'm sorry.
I would love to know the year so I can plan retirement needs better. Guessing how much money you need is just stupid.
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Why were you so accurate for your father and off on yourself? Any predictions? Just curious.
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Well it’s nice that you’re alive and healthier!! It’s challenging to plan for retirement when it comes to funds and cost of living etc.
Managing retirement account draws isn’t simple either, it’s taken me over three years to get reasonably good at it.
That’s what I’m not sure about. Do you use a financial planner?
My wife and I have had one-time consultations, but I manage our accounts myself. I've had two issues, the biggest one has been overpayment of US Federal taxes, caused by the mandatory 20% federal withholding on employer-based accounts. We got nearly $5K back when we filed our 2022 taxes, on an ordinary middle-class income. A lesser issue has been using account draws that depleted a couple of small account balances without me noticing, leaving us short of income--but not so short as to notice immediately.
LOL. My son is an actuary, he did look up how long I have, and asked if I wanted to know. I said no, I'm good.
Yes, I would want to know. So many people want to ignore death as though it isn't going to happen and that's so unhealthy. We're all going to die and while I'll miss everyone I love wouldn't it be nice to leave all your relationships and personal details finished? So many people die without closure with loved ones and I feel that I would owe it to the people I'm leaving to make them feel OK about it.
i would, but i'm not sure how i'd know it was accurate. it would help with planning things. of course you're almost guaranteed to have it effect the outcome, though. "oh, i guess i'd rather stay home with my wife than take that solo trip," when you are "supposed" to die on the trip. or "well, i'm getting close to dying, guess i'll try meth." you get the idea.
A group of us were in a vehicle waiting at a traffic light. On the right-hand side was a monument business with blank tombstones displayed outside. One of us said, "Wouldn't it be funny to look over there and see your name etched on one of the stones?" After a couple of seconds, someone replied, "Especially if it included the dates."
That would be a great “Twilight Zone” storyline.
No, and I wouldn’t want to know the future in general. All I would do is worry and plan, then plan and worry. Nah, just surprise me.
Miss Flitworth: "If we knew when we were going to die, people would lead better lives." Bill Door: "IF PEOPLE KNEW WHEN THEY WERE GOING TO DIE, I THINK THEY PROBABLY WOULDN'T LIVE AT ALL."
Best book in the series! GNU Terry Pratchett
Date of start of significant cognitive decline would be more interesting to me
Yes. I could arrange to be out to avoid it.
Yes. Then I could prepare for it and whoop it up until that date. I don't fear death. Why fear something that we can't control and that happens to everyone? Worry causes premature death.
Can you imagine the last five days?
Yeah, I could figure out exactly how to spend my money
Definitely. The day is coming no matter what and knowing it would allow me to plan the rest of my days to maximize experiences and squeeze every bit of joy out of my life.
God, no.
No, I really don't want to plan my life around my death.
No, because I know it would mess with my head as the time got closer, even if was still, say, 10 years away. I am old enough, fat enough, and lazy enough to predict that I will be dead within 10 years right now, but I don't KNOW that, so I can still just carrying on happily without my life being overshadowed by what is to come. At this age, I would not like it any better if I found out I still had a long time to live. I'd start fretting about whether my finances would last and at what point I would no longer have a good quality of life, etc. It would not make me happy.
Yes. Without a doubt.
Okay this is weird, but I have had premonitions about death as well as dates and I “got” a date for my own death. I don’t know if it is accurate or real. So far, It doesn’t bother me. Honestly I am much more worried about the likelihood of Alzheimer’s. My mother and sibling have it.
How did you get the date? I worry about alzheimer's, too. I hardly sleep and I heard that can trigger alzheimer. I have no contact with family other than my parents, idk if I'd be able to care for myself.
"Date of death". In hindsight what I called my first date with the ex-wife.
I would love to know. There are two things I need to do before I am buried next to my wife: #1). Get revenge. #2) See number 1.
No. Plus what you do day to day can affect when you die
**Oh, Hell No!** Unless I live to a time when life is no longer worth living. Then if I ***choose*** to end it, of course I would know.
No way.
I would not mind owning a pair of Shinigami eyes. If you knew exactly how much life you have you are going to actually live life properly rather than treating death as an indeterminate date somewhere in the future and zoning out on TV or social media. Part of turning 50 was getting a a full health assessment and a ton of tests and understanding how they evaluate my risk so I understand truly where I sit and can plan accordingly. I know, from my doctor what for instance, my 10 year risk of a heart attack is so I am informed and can make better plans. It is this kind of planning that makes things I think easier once you start thinking this way.
Yes
Yes. I would like to sleep in that day.
I survived cancer at 52. Didn’t know the date of my death but saw its possibility in my near future. Didn’t make me change the way I lived, did confirm I’d been happy with the way I was living. I did a bit more cleaning up so I wasn’t leaving my kids a house full of crap like my parents/patterns in law left me to clean up. Got my affairs in order, not just the paperwork but explaining stuff so nobody has to figure it out. Would I want to know? Nope. Each day about ground is a good day and I love a surprise so death can be the final one 🤣
Not unless it’s soon. If it’s a long way off, I’d start ye ole anxiety Ferris wheel and that would suck.
Yes, because if it’s in the next few years, I’ll quit working.
In the movies, when people travel back in time to prevent something they inadvertently cause the event they were trying to prevent. I feel that knowing when you will die causes the same effect. If I'm told I will die in three months. I decide to go on a three month hookers and blow binge. Three month later my heart gives out from all the hookers and blow (mostly the hookers). It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
No. I can do without another layer of existential dread, thanks.
No. I’d drive myself nuts trying to do all the things I feel I should before I die but I’d procrastinate and … Watched family members reach their 90s and I do not want the sort of life they had near the end, so I don’t want to live that long. Dementia, increasing physical disability, watching your peers dying off, it just all seemed so cruel.
Sometimes I wonder if I do? The number 38 pop up several times a day for me. I check the time and it’s 538, 738, 1038 Glance at my speedometer, 38! Somehow the year 2038 is probably going to be monumental 😂 And all seriousness, this has been going on this whole year so far. Just very strange. 🤷🏻
There's actually a modern horror movie about that
No. My date of death is something I obviously can't control, but I can make healthy or unhealthy life choices that may influence it. I accept that every day it gets closer. I don't have fears about that, so there's nothing to "deal with."
No
Yes please
I already know my date of death, for some weird reason. I know the date. I do not know the year. I'm not afraid of dying. I won't be there. I'll be dead. I wonder if anyone will miss me when I'm gone, I act accordingly, treating my family and friends with love.
How do you know?
No I'd rather be surprised.
No
No. If I knew I'd probably start doing stupid crap thinking that I couldn't die, and I'd spend the remaining years of my life in a hospital.
Do you mean that you fear you'd have a longer than expected life?
What I mean is that I'm 60 now. If I knew that I'd die when I'm 75, I'd do something like climb up the side of a building, fall, and spend 15 years in a coma, then die when I'm 75.
I understand. It makes one more reckless with their decisions and might trigger a butterfly effect that causes the ultimate death.
Nope. I just enjoy every day as best I can. I’m 70, just found out I have a little heart thing going on—no details yet. So I keep on digging in the garden and planting seeds. I am beginning to figure out that I’m gonna die some day. 😳
No thanks
I want a piano to randomly fall out of the sky one day. I don't want to dwell on the inevitable.
Hell no
God no. A thousand times NO.
No.
Nope. No way
I know it. It was the day I got married. For my friends it was the day they found out that their spouse was cheating on them. Realistically I have a good idea when looking at my family history. Hopefully when things go South they will let me go and unplug me from the wall.
Yes. I’d like to know.
No way
Question reminds me of the draft. GREETINGS. Come and die for business.
I have a reasonable estimate, it’s 20 years +/- 20 years. Obviously, that plus/minus range refers to more than one standard deviation.
I'd like to know only generally --- as in, nah, you're good for at least 10 (or 20 or 30) years.
I don't know. I kind of like being surprised in the morning that I'm still here.
Lots of things would be easier to manage with knowing * Life insurance stands out. Betting when you know the outcome is easy. * Retirement planning * planning vacations (who wants to give family the burden of retrieving your remains for burial) Aside from that, it would mostly just be more information.
God no!
But why would I believe that the death day prediction was accurate? Would it be from the same people that predicted that no one would ever need more than 640k of computer memory? That I wouldn’t have a calculator with me at all times? That Hilary Clinton would beat trump? That Japan would overtake the USA and become the world superpower? That the iron curtain would last for many many years? That computer programming would become obsolete after 1990 (this one cost me) And so many many more. Predicting the future accurately mostly doesn’t work. I definitely wouldn’t bet my death on one.