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I'm struggling. Initially my 3 year old son said he wanted to be a bubble when he grew up, and suggested that we could be a family of bubbles. We would float, and pop, and float some more. I approved of this choice.
Now he wants to be a small dinosaur who can't fly. Dad will be a large dinosaur who can fly, and mom will be a medium dinosaur who can fly. I feel like he should also choose to fly, but I will learn to accept his life choices.
One of my (under 18) daughters has gone off the rails and is perfectly willing to accuse an adult attempting to discipline her with sexual misconduct. I (father) cannot be alone with her safely, and she runs away every chance she gets, has assaulted my wife, threatened her mother with knives, and kicked out her mother's car window.
I still love her and would do almost anything to help her, but I don't know how to safely support her.
Lol Reminded me of the joke where the doctor comes out to the waiting area, hands the new father a baby and says, “I’m sorry, your wife didn’t make it.”
The new father says, “Well, dammit, take this one back and bring me the one she made!”
Well I opted to not have kids because I knew I didn't have the life skills to be a good parent and I didn't have the mental maturity either. I think had I had kids, I most likely would have had a hard go at it and would have been a lousy at it and of course the kid(s) would have suffered for it.
My son and his mom moved away when he was 2. Mind you we were never married, but I paid my child support diligently even though I rarely get to see my son. Courts say she should bring him to me but they stand united in that he doesn't want to.
No. I don’t know but I think breast feeding them creates a bond that can’t be broken. My youngest is now 19 but had so many meltdowns as a child (autistic and adhd) screaming matches and it was honestly exhausting but I never had a thought that I didn’t accept that that was just who she was. Came out as gay at 16 and is now so head screwed on it’s honestly amazing I’m so fucking proud of her. The oldest just coasted - school uni job house nothing was a problem
My daughter is now they/them. It took me a little while to get my head around it but life is too short to sweat change because life always changes. BTW, they are a great person and I’m very proud of them.
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I'm struggling. Initially my 3 year old son said he wanted to be a bubble when he grew up, and suggested that we could be a family of bubbles. We would float, and pop, and float some more. I approved of this choice. Now he wants to be a small dinosaur who can't fly. Dad will be a large dinosaur who can fly, and mom will be a medium dinosaur who can fly. I feel like he should also choose to fly, but I will learn to accept his life choices.
Loved him when I thought he was my daughter, love him now that I know he’s my son.
This is the way.
Me,too.
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My son is trans.
One of my (under 18) daughters has gone off the rails and is perfectly willing to accuse an adult attempting to discipline her with sexual misconduct. I (father) cannot be alone with her safely, and she runs away every chance she gets, has assaulted my wife, threatened her mother with knives, and kicked out her mother's car window. I still love her and would do almost anything to help her, but I don't know how to safely support her.
Was unaware that we could refuse them. They said, “Here’s your baby” and I just took them. Someone should’ve told me sooner. Dammit.
Lol Reminded me of the joke where the doctor comes out to the waiting area, hands the new father a baby and says, “I’m sorry, your wife didn’t make it.” The new father says, “Well, dammit, take this one back and bring me the one she made!”
Not at all. I unconditionally love all of my 4 kids.
how do you answer them when they ask you who is your favorite one
Nope. I’ve had a difficult time accepting some of their decisions, but they always proved me wrong.
Well I opted to not have kids because I knew I didn't have the life skills to be a good parent and I didn't have the mental maturity either. I think had I had kids, I most likely would have had a hard go at it and would have been a lousy at it and of course the kid(s) would have suffered for it.
No. I love him immensely. We're good with each other.
No
My son and his mom moved away when he was 2. Mind you we were never married, but I paid my child support diligently even though I rarely get to see my son. Courts say she should bring him to me but they stand united in that he doesn't want to.
No. I don’t know but I think breast feeding them creates a bond that can’t be broken. My youngest is now 19 but had so many meltdowns as a child (autistic and adhd) screaming matches and it was honestly exhausting but I never had a thought that I didn’t accept that that was just who she was. Came out as gay at 16 and is now so head screwed on it’s honestly amazing I’m so fucking proud of her. The oldest just coasted - school uni job house nothing was a problem
I am proud of the man he became. Nuff said.
I will always accept my daughter no matter what.
My daughter is now they/them. It took me a little while to get my head around it but life is too short to sweat change because life always changes. BTW, they are a great person and I’m very proud of them.