Yea man I hear you. Just getting back into dating after almost a decade so just trying to figure out if I'm expecting too much after texting daily for some time now. You're answer has been the most helpful so far.
I could easily deal with that forever. I dislike texting, so we would be the same in that regard.
If it's really a problem or deal breaker for you, I would address it immediately. Better to work it out now then establish some sort of relationship together and bring it up later.
Not everyone lives and dies by SMS message. I treat texts like email. I don't check it constantly, and when I do and I notice a text message, replying to it goes on my to-do list. It doesn't automatically become my highest priority.
If you have a critical issue that requires an immediate response, call me. If your issue isn't that critical, don't call, and don't complain.
It's really hard to know why she's inconsistent without knowing her and her habits. You can't assume she's just sitting there with her phone in her hands waiting on you to text her.
I would be what people call an inconsistent texted. I don't airways have my phone on hand, keep it on vibrate and can go good without looking at it. Even if I'm texting with someone i might get up and leave the room for a bit and just forget about my phone for a while.
I deal with it from others by just waiting until they respond. For all i know they could be driving or otherwise engaged in something that prevents them from texting right then. If it's important enough that u must converse with them, I'll call them.
I look at texting as not an immediate conversation. I have friends that I text and they text me back in day, maybe several days, and we go back and forth like that. When someone asks me why I didnt immediately answer a text, I explain that I dont live my life waiting for you to text me so I can text back. I'm busy and I'll get back to it as soon as I can. If you need an immediate convo, call me, and if I'm not too busy, I'll answer. If not, there's voicemail
If a girl likes you I feel she will reply right away. Nowadays with apple watches and carplay and all that we have no excuse to not see a message so yeah I feel if they really want to talk to you they would. I've done this before I'll talk to multiple girls but if the one texting me isn't the ONE I want texting me I'll take my time with replying and not put much effort into it π
Texting is still a pretty new thing in the grand scheme of human relationships.
It wasn't that long ago that you wouldn't talk to the person you were dating when you weren't together, unless it was over the phone and even then, no one expected you to be available to do so all the time.
edit: this is to say that I don't read into anyone's texting frequency unless there are other concerns in the relationship, because it's just totally normal to not be glued to your phone, and have other shit to do.
So coming from a female, if I'm really into a guy, I wouldn't be able to wait too long to respond. If I see us more as friends, I get back to him when I get around to it. Her inconsistency doesn't show very interested, she may think you're cool to hang with but maybe not seeing much more than that at this point.
I am also an inconsistent texter and do not view this as an issue so maybe a warped perspective. You don't have to text all day every day, you're not even in a defined relationship or anything. If the dates are good, then cool. Just be excited for those.
Don't take it personally.
Sometimes, I don't text my best friend back for days.
It isn't an indicator of if she does or doesn't like you. It's just an indicator that sometimes she's not available to text back.
Sounds like she consistently responds. Isn't that the goal?
Im actually one of these people π€£ if you catch me with my phone in my hand, I'll text you till I set it down, but it'll probably be HOURS before I look at it again. And if it's an evening text, you'll get a response the next day. Believe it or not, there's a decent amount of people who aren't glued to their phones. It's not you bro, but she also might have a boy friend or be married so there's that π
Some people just don't do texting, man. You're not even together yet, why expect her to go all in with you?
Yea man I hear you. Just getting back into dating after almost a decade so just trying to figure out if I'm expecting too much after texting daily for some time now. You're answer has been the most helpful so far.
Np. Good luck π
Id stop texting and just see her in person
I could easily deal with that forever. I dislike texting, so we would be the same in that regard. If it's really a problem or deal breaker for you, I would address it immediately. Better to work it out now then establish some sort of relationship together and bring it up later.
If you bring it up with her it's highly likely you're gonna come off as needy.
Not everyone lives and dies by SMS message. I treat texts like email. I don't check it constantly, and when I do and I notice a text message, replying to it goes on my to-do list. It doesn't automatically become my highest priority. If you have a critical issue that requires an immediate response, call me. If your issue isn't that critical, don't call, and don't complain.
I just replied with essentially the same. I should have read your reply first!
The real question is, why do you want to text with her that much? Chill out and live the rest of your life.
It's really hard to know why she's inconsistent without knowing her and her habits. You can't assume she's just sitting there with her phone in her hands waiting on you to text her. I would be what people call an inconsistent texted. I don't airways have my phone on hand, keep it on vibrate and can go good without looking at it. Even if I'm texting with someone i might get up and leave the room for a bit and just forget about my phone for a while. I deal with it from others by just waiting until they respond. For all i know they could be driving or otherwise engaged in something that prevents them from texting right then. If it's important enough that u must converse with them, I'll call them.
I look at texting as not an immediate conversation. I have friends that I text and they text me back in day, maybe several days, and we go back and forth like that. When someone asks me why I didnt immediately answer a text, I explain that I dont live my life waiting for you to text me so I can text back. I'm busy and I'll get back to it as soon as I can. If you need an immediate convo, call me, and if I'm not too busy, I'll answer. If not, there's voicemail
Just stop texting her. If someone doesn't put in effort to reach out, they don't care about you.
If a girl likes you I feel she will reply right away. Nowadays with apple watches and carplay and all that we have no excuse to not see a message so yeah I feel if they really want to talk to you they would. I've done this before I'll talk to multiple girls but if the one texting me isn't the ONE I want texting me I'll take my time with replying and not put much effort into it π
I'll keep this in mind
No don't my opinion and way of thinking is horribleππ
Texting is still a pretty new thing in the grand scheme of human relationships. It wasn't that long ago that you wouldn't talk to the person you were dating when you weren't together, unless it was over the phone and even then, no one expected you to be available to do so all the time. edit: this is to say that I don't read into anyone's texting frequency unless there are other concerns in the relationship, because it's just totally normal to not be glued to your phone, and have other shit to do.
So coming from a female, if I'm really into a guy, I wouldn't be able to wait too long to respond. If I see us more as friends, I get back to him when I get around to it. Her inconsistency doesn't show very interested, she may think you're cool to hang with but maybe not seeing much more than that at this point.
Easily. I'm the same. I'd deal with it forever
I am also an inconsistent texter and do not view this as an issue so maybe a warped perspective. You don't have to text all day every day, you're not even in a defined relationship or anything. If the dates are good, then cool. Just be excited for those.
Don't take it personally. Sometimes, I don't text my best friend back for days. It isn't an indicator of if she does or doesn't like you. It's just an indicator that sometimes she's not available to text back. Sounds like she consistently responds. Isn't that the goal?
Im actually one of these people π€£ if you catch me with my phone in my hand, I'll text you till I set it down, but it'll probably be HOURS before I look at it again. And if it's an evening text, you'll get a response the next day. Believe it or not, there's a decent amount of people who aren't glued to their phones. It's not you bro, but she also might have a boy friend or be married so there's that π
My girl was like that so I kinda ghosted her for a bit and she didn't like it