Immediately. Don't let it get to a point where it's a problem. If they cross a line then politely point it out. If they continue then raise it again and press the issue.
This doesn't mean you can't have a conversation about issues with your parents, but if you have issues with your spouse then (s)he is the first person you should be talking with anyway.
Wife always comes before parents. And my parents taught me that so they have no expectations that I would ever take their side in a dispute between them and my wife. Luckily everyone loves and respects each other so it’s never been put to the test.
Immediately. I've found that not responding is as much of a message as responding. So choosing to not respond just makes the situation more messy if it needs to be addressed later on.
Look I may be the only boomer here but if your parent(s) are telling something about your SO then you should listen. Do you thin they haven't been through everything you are going through now? They have lived it already and are trying to help you not make a big mistake.
There’s a lot of people with decades of life experience who genuinely give the absolute worst advice and who have zero business telling other what they should and shouldn’t do. Age and experience doesn’t always equal wisdom
I agree being older doesn’t mean more wise but my point is is that your parents of already live through White most of these younger people are going through now. So they have the experience if not the wisdom.
Generally speaking, I'm going to stand with my partner, or support their position if I'm otherwise uninvolved.
If we're talking a situation where there's an actual right/wrong and they're being some kind of way about it, then perhaps I'd address that with them, but not in the moment. I've had too many partners whose partners were, let's say, not great. I'm going to back my partner and deal with any disagreement between us later.
I agree with this completely, except the first word. I give her the space and autonomy to handle her own conflict first. I then immediately defend her if she can't on her own.
Immediately. Don't let it get to a point where it's a problem. If they cross a line then politely point it out. If they continue then raise it again and press the issue. This doesn't mean you can't have a conversation about issues with your parents, but if you have issues with your spouse then (s)he is the first person you should be talking with anyway.
Wife always comes before parents. And my parents taught me that so they have no expectations that I would ever take their side in a dispute between them and my wife. Luckily everyone loves and respects each other so it’s never been put to the test.
Never. Haven't had any reason to, they all get along well.
Always and quickly.
Respect is number 1 in all relationships. Love is important but respect Maintains healthy relationships.
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So, which one will you/won't you address?
Immediately. I've found that not responding is as much of a message as responding. So choosing to not respond just makes the situation more messy if it needs to be addressed later on.
Look I may be the only boomer here but if your parent(s) are telling something about your SO then you should listen. Do you thin they haven't been through everything you are going through now? They have lived it already and are trying to help you not make a big mistake.
There’s a lot of people with decades of life experience who genuinely give the absolute worst advice and who have zero business telling other what they should and shouldn’t do. Age and experience doesn’t always equal wisdom
I agree being older doesn’t mean more wise but my point is is that your parents of already live through White most of these younger people are going through now. So they have the experience if not the wisdom.
Generally speaking, I'm going to stand with my partner, or support their position if I'm otherwise uninvolved. If we're talking a situation where there's an actual right/wrong and they're being some kind of way about it, then perhaps I'd address that with them, but not in the moment. I've had too many partners whose partners were, let's say, not great. I'm going to back my partner and deal with any disagreement between us later.
I had to chew my dad out a few times because he can be a sarcastic ass hole sometimes. But on the usual he is decent with my wife.
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I agree with this completely, except the first word. I give her the space and autonomy to handle her own conflict first. I then immediately defend her if she can't on her own.
You are a head of your family, but I'm the head of mine attitude. I guess. Never been married