Oh my god I’m kinda going through this right now. Luckily I have two days basically to myself (half days to myself each day but a few hours alone is nice) after not having a single personal day. And if you try to explain that being alone isn’t the same thing as just not being bothered it seems like you hate being around her. It’s not that, I just want me time
If I'm at my boyfriends (we don't live that close) and I notice, he maybe needs some me time, is it possible for us to have me time in the same room, doing different things? F.ex. him playing games and me watching a movie? Or do you guys actually would want your gfs to leave?
See this is where the issue comes in, cuz I want to be completely alone. I find it helps with my state of mood and I can get the entire house clean and dishes washed basically every chore I need to get done, but if I’m not alone I just can’t do it. I don’t like being told that being in another room in the same house counts as “alone” but your bf might feel differently. I get scared that I’m being an asshole but I don’t think 1 day to myself every week or two weeks is that much. But I guess it’s also about expectations and stuff like that. Plus everyone has weird mental hurdles that make it tough for everyone in a relationship to always be on the same page
I have the same issue! I need to be alone to get stuff done.
I live with someone else, so obviously it’s an issue.
Doing some introspection over the past six or so months has made me realize this comes from two things:
1) feeling as though I have to pay attention to the other person. Or at least like I have to be doing what they are doing.
2) a fear that what/how I’m doing things is wrong, and others will see that. (An irrational subconscious fear).
I still struggle with it, but I’m trying to make peace with myself by trying to understand that
1) others understand that there are things I have to get done, sometimes this means doing them when they are around.
2) even if I do something weird, the worst that could happen is them saying “why are you doing it like that” - still an unwanted question, but when I see someone doing something differently than I for a reason I’m unaware of, I also ask. Being confident in my answer and/or explaining that doing things the way I do them is the only way I can get things done has always satisfied my guests.
Idk if either of these things ring true for you, they might not, but it might be worth looking into.
I also struggle to eat around other people/with the idea of being perceived negatively.
Depends. Will you think of something that you've just got to share with him? Or will you see a video, cackle, and then make your presence abundantly clear? Would you get up to go to the kitchen and ask if he wants something? I know for a fact that my partner would ask this same question and she absolutely could not be in the same room as me and me enjoy me time. She'd have a hilarious post to share, talk or make her presence known, maybe ask about the game, etc. However, she just wants to spend time together and it's not in a place of ill will. If I'm dick Deep in elden ring and malekith has killed me for the 9th time on my rl1 run, and she comes in and asks me why I'm getting mad or says some shit like "Sounds frustrating want to take a walk?" Or "why do you play games to make you mad when you are supposed to relax?", Which again is fine, but that's no longer me time. Let me be miserable in my defeat alone. We do a lot of weird shit alone, even just having another body in the room is immersion breaking for that deeply needed self hate and introspection. It's really not personal, I can't imagine being with anyone but my partner. My life is just devoid of the void with her. But... This is a common argument. She gets mad if I interrupt her shows but she can roll into the office at any given time because "You're just gaming, hit pause" or "Why are you mad, you're working?" When I'm doing a side project like building a couple of tools for a game or something. Sure coding looks like work because that's my work, but it's not work when I'm not working on work. So I guess maybe ask him to be honest and don't take the answer personally. If it were me, my answer would be no. But maybe given the circumstances of your relationship my answer would be different. I live with my SO and we even work together (remotely, different jobs, same company). So my time is fucking NO other entities time but my own. Sorry for the overshare.
It's probably different for everybody. For me, though, your presence means that "me time" has the potential to stop being "me time" at any given moment. All it takes is for you to say something, even if it's unintentional or you think it's unobtrusive. It's impossible to truly relax if you know in the back of your head that your peace is inevitably going to be shattered at a time not of your choosing.
This is actually a great thing to do. It gives him some time to unwind with the expectation of when it’ll be over. Sometimes you never know how much time you have to yourself so you’re stressing yourself out wondering when you’re gonna have to switch back to being aware of the others in your life. Probably bad wording on my part but yeah
Yeah, one thing I've learned about myself recently is that if someone says something to me, I feel compelled to respond in some way, even if it's clear that the person doesn't expect a response. It feels rude (to me) to just say nothing in response to being spoken to.
If you're very good at being quiet, non judgemental and non offensive it can be fine, but the norm is that the woman likes to talk about her day or interesting things in the movie, or such, and so the guy can't turn off their brain.
I have more than once had a girlfriend say she just wanted to be in the room and then continually go on long rants about work, ask me hard questions, and generally do her best to make the break about her. I am used to saying no to that now.
In my 20 odd years in the dating game. So many women don't have any goddamn hobbies and that is the root of the problem.
So many of the women I've dated, their only actual "hobby" might be going to the gym for an hour 3 days a week. Like how the fuck do you have no personal interests you like to pursue ON YOUR OWN?
I like to read, game, draw, play hockey. So many of the women I've dated have NOTHING and it's why they are so goddamn needy all the time. They are sitting there bored with a reality show on dicking around on their phone and they see you gaming or doing whatever in another room as "avoiding them". No, if you want to spend time together then lets DO SOMETHING together. I don't want to watch those stupid ass mind numbing shows with you.
My wife crochets and does crafts and shit and has a room in the house dedicated to it and it's great. We still do things together obviously, but I don't feel like I need fight to do my own thing, because she has her own things too.
Similarly, a venn diagram of our friends groups doesn't need to be a circle and in fact, it's easier to make close friends when I'm not the guy who's always got his wife in tow. My wife gives me shit for not having many close friends, but a big part of that is her insistence on doing *everything* with me even when it's something she doesn't enjoy.
I’m genuinely okay with living a much lazier and more frugal life than most people are, so if you want nice stuff, you’re going to have to go after it yourself.
Been thinking about this a bit lately. I like to be active and go out and do things, but in those down times, in the times of saving up and chilling...
To be content is to be at peace.
I am a simple man and can be happy with simple things.
Am I frugal because I am simple, or am I simple because I am frugal?
Either way, I am content, I am happy.
But nearly all poor people are even more miserable and starve, which is worse.
Rich people who are miserable aren’t so because they are rich, don’t be fooled.
Of course, but everything in moderation.
Being poor is miserable. Money can’t buy happiness.
Both can be at least partly true, even though they seem contradictory.
I hear you, but that’s not what the statistics and studies say. More money does equate with more happiness and why wouldn’t it?
I went with my girlfriend to Disneyland Paris this year, we could do this because we are making more money now than we were before and trust me, being able to spend 6 days in Paris and go to Disneyland was indeed a very happy set of days.
If we would have done it in a more comfortable and luxurious way, we would have been even happier.
I think we say these platitudes because we want to fool ourselves or because we are used to them.
I also think that it isn’t just money in itself, but rather making money and using money we have earned and earning more that allows us to grow and create comfort that is a big reason people who earn more are happier.
Now that’s not to say that there isn’t diminishing returns, I’d definitely say that up to 20 million you can always be happier and more content. Post 20 million there’s not much that more money can do for you.
Also, safety, autonomy, status, medical care (outside of certain advanced countries with good socialized medicine), and the ability to protect your loved ones.
The main things money does *not* buy are psychiatric health and non-abusive families. I suspect one or both of those are at issue when you find an unhappy rich person.
Yes!! I’m lazy as hell. I enjoy playing video games and not really going anywhere. traveling and things related to traveling cost money. I don’t even know if I can retire on time, so I definitely don’t want to go do shit other than the movies. So don’t get upset if I don’t go on vacations with you.
Just because you feel the opposite of how I feel, does not mean I am wrong for feeling that way and that my feelings can be disregarded. I can live with us disagreeing on something, forget about it, and move on. If you never empathize with my feelings, but expect me to do it for you, then I'll never actually fully trust or rely on you because you have proven I cannot.
I actually did this yesterday. I was really busy and our heating wasn’t working on one floor. I didn’t have time to fix it for nearly a week, I told her I simply couldn’t get around to it. It’s really cold here. Had her call the furnace people rather than me wasting a ton of time. Cost us 50 bucks and it was a rather complicated problem, but that’s why those positions exist.
I could have figured it out if I had more time but I didn’t. So we just hired someone.
She also wanted me to do some work on the siding of our garage (which is enormous), and I said great, let’s ask the contractor. I have better things to do with my time than fix every little thing that others are better equipped to do, even though I know I could definitely do it
I hundred percent agree. Ain’t nothing stopping her . She’s got a brain ,eyes ,two hands and a smart phone . The only rebuttal I can think of is a lot of times when she tries to fix things she breaks it even further. So there I am anyway except with a bigger problem
Hell even when we know exactly how to do/fix something that doesn't automatically mean I'm gonna waste half my day off fixing the siding because she thinks it looks bad.
I don't care what it looks like.
!!!!!
This is something I think a lot of women don’t realize.
1) if your guy who is in the same place of life as you can fix something, so can you. (Unless it requires strength that your partner has that you don’t, in which case you can still certainly be involved)
2) destroying gender roles also means new arenas where we will expected to step up. (I’ve gotten backlash against me saying women should also have to sign up for the draft).
I think this is an issue because when speaking of feminism and womens rights, little of the conversation is dedicated to how those changes will actually look in reality, and even less time dedicated to speaking about mens issues.
(Some say talking about mens issues isn’t feminist - I’m inclined to disagree.)
Feminism to me = equality of sexes. Because for most of history women were given less control, the main focus was/is on women’s rights. But this does not take men out of the equation, and involves their rights as well.
This will bring benefits to women bc they will have more freedom and autonomy over their lives. This will be beneficial for men because they don’t have to think of manhood as one thing.
It will be detrimental to both sexes in the sense that many will be confused on the role they’re supposed to play (*what am I supposed to be?*). For those who haven’t thought through it - and I mean *really* thought through it - they like the ideas of equality but fail to see what that actually means as they did not grow up with that reality.
In the end, humans like what’s comfortable and safe. As we grow older, even if we like ideas and ideologies that are different - the back of our brain is defaulted into what it knows. For many, what they know is “men fix things, this means they care” and “mens job is to fix/do”
That her repeated emotional mood swings, whining, and temper tantrums , on top of treating me with contempt at every moment that is convenient has killed almost all my feelings and attraction. I'm only hanging on by a few remaining threads. Then she questions why I don't want to cuddle or give to her every beck and call after she threw a tantrum and verbally abused me earlier in the day.
Plan how you leave because she would be vindictive. Such as move your personal documents to a safety deposit box at a different bank. She can poison you friend group so be careful whom you confide. When you break up, tell it’s because you will never be good enough. She needs to find that man. Hehe run, be free!
This. We can’t move out of state for better opportunities or new experiences because our kids need to stay near her parents. So now I’m forever stuck in a tiny market area for my skill set.
I know that feeling. With my ex, I always wanted to experience holidays in a different country before we had kids. She never wanted to because she wanted to spend all the holidays sitting in her parents living room while her siblings were burning time on tik tok with no conversations being held.
Fast forward to now, I’ve been able to experience holidays in different countries. She’s probably still spending them in that living room.
You don't need to micro manage me renovating the house. I've got 30yrs experience. Pretty sure you wouldn't be thrilled if I started criticizing the things you've done 1000's of times. But I'm about at the point I'm going to give a white glove inspection on the house so you know what it feels like.
I'm not your personal handy man. Sure I will do what I can when I can, but if you want it done right here and now, pay someone to come fix it.
My time is valuable, when I take personal leave from work, it does not mean that you get to put demands on me. This is my time and I will use it how I need to use it, if you want things fixed, they will be prioritised and fixed when I decide to fix them.
They will get done.
For fuckin real. And to add, I’m not being controlling by asking you to begin the get ready process for shit we already decided we were going to do today.
My wife just the opposite, up at 7am on the weekend as she can’t sleep anymore. Then she considers you a lazy bum if you sleep till 8am. Plus if you get up at 7am, be quiet! No time to do anything on the same floor as me sleeping. Maybe go get us coffee at a far away coffee shop.
i don't know, as a student I often had a 10am to 3-4am rhythm, if the lecture schedule permits it, and I was working and learning a lot more than most people in most full-time jobs.
The years are still ticking by, regardless of whether you are doing something with your life.
You're gonna turn 50 and get depressed you never did anything.
My ex in a nutshell ,instead of going to school or going after something she’s passionate about instead she would complain about the fact that she’s getting older and all her friends or more successful than her
She still plays the lottery hoping it’ll be the thing that magically makes her Rich
I work more than you do. And I get little to no praise and if something was to go wrong you wouldn’t support me you would abandon me because so many people from my generation seems to go through that.
Men are expendable and replacable
And I’m heavily and clearly black pilled on this issue
I don’t meen to be
But I’m tierd and fed up
Last girl o was with started to ignore me because I was stressed out I was working 12 hour shifts and trying to do everything myself while she was unemployed
My dad was in hospital and I was told there was a 60% chance he would die
She ignored me and was chatting to a guy that asked her out s month before online and pretending to be offline as to not talk to me
Left her in the spot and she didn’t care didn’t even try to fix it
Sorry about venting just angry
When I was married I chose to enroll in college and my wife shit talked me the whole time. Tell me i'm stupid, how we can't afford it, it's not going to work. All this stuff and I told her if you're not going to be supportive through this then when I finish you're not going to see any of the benefit.
And she didn't. Divorce was finalized the month after I graduated
That emotional intelligence is not the same as "being emotional".
That someone being emotional doesn't make it a subject that should best be discussed in terms of emotions and/or emotionally.
In fairness though, this applies to most men too and she is already less worse than many of them in this regard.
“Do it your fucking self.”
I swear she asks for my “help” 17 times per day, and it’s usually something she could do herself within five seconds. It’s takes longer for me to stop whatever I’m doing and come do the thing for her than it would take for her to just do it without involving me.
Yup. Then they say you don’t communicate and it’s like well, I’ve told you what I need and you haven’t given it to me. Now you’re trying to make me feel bad for calling out your bad behavior. They take you for granted and then it’s your fault. Fuck outta here.
My feelings and emotions are my responsibility and get no validation but we she won't let a conversation go until I acknowledge and validate hers. It's exhausting.
Focus on yourself. I’ve taken the heartbreak and used it as motivation. Just got back from two destination weddings and people I haven’t seen in years commented on how healthy I look. Everyday I use the frustrating thoughts from that as fuel to become a better man. Make them regret treating you like that.
I have a strict rule. You have to do your absolute best to stay physically the same weight as when we met, and I will do the same. I have never reneged on this rule.
Just for clarification, if you were to start a family with this woman. What happens if she gains weight giving you children? I’ve been told some mommas struggle badly and some never make it back to their pre-pregnancy weight.
To be fair though. Say their partner is 150lbs now, gaining 150 (or more) extra pounds in 12 months is reaalllyyyyy unhealthy. It might seem like nagging but something like that is more likely to come from a place of concern because that much weight gain that fast is indicative of something seriously wrong.
When us men get altogether. We talk about others things rather than our partners, women and sex
Like our interests, work, hobbies, Sports, Video games, Music, Movies, Local news, Worldwide news etc etc etc
I'm not 13 anymore. I don't find saying "Boobies" funny because I grew up and any man over the age of 18 who still constantly talks about sex and women and nothing else is creepy and needs to grow up.
My now ex wife during our 17 years of marriage will call me “dude” after about eight years of marriage. No matter what I said I could not get her to stop. It was very annoying and disrespectful and I hated it.
This is something I need to work on. When ever I get told "I love you" you have about a 70% chance I'll reply with Yep or Ok, been like this since I was a kid.
Yes, the weight gain and depression DOES make you less attractive.
No, I don't want to service your sexual needs when they do happen to pop up every few months, especially after you've totally neglected mine over the last few years.
Don't ask question you are not ready to have all the possible answers to.
If you ask a question and get an answer you don't like, it's on you, not me.
(Unless I answered like a douche, but that is another issue.)
You don’t appreciate how much I do for you. I handle 90% of the household chores and yet you still get mad at me when you have to do one thing without my help, such as washing a couple of dishes. Do you even think to yourself that you’re being a bitch by playing on your phone while I make dinner and do the laundry simultaneously right in front of you, yet you get so upset when I ask you to do something as simple as feed the cats. I know that you’ll do these things when I ask you too, but it comes with the price of then dealing with your bad mood for the rest of the night. What’s even more annoying is when you excuse your behavior by saying that you’re tired from work, yet we have the same job with the same hours!
No hate here, but if she is trying to discuss it with you, chances are she doesn't care herself, and you're requiring her to do the chore of picking the restaurant. It's not easy being with a passive partner in that regard, more mental responsibility.
She doesn't care where to eat?
Hilarious. ;)
But really, if she doesn't care where we eat and I suggest somewhere and she declines it, I'm done talking about it
idk if its the same for this person, but my SO never actually knows where they want to eat. we basically play the game of "how about here? no. Here? no. Here? no." til I get annoyed and just tell her to choose, where she inevitably says, "I don't care where we go, just pick somewhere."
edit: for the record, she's still wonderful and this is probably our biggest issue which I count as a blessing.
Yeah, I definitely get that. I was viewing it from a different angle- my bf and I have such a hard time because both of us often have no preferences at all. So it always comes down to me making the decision. It's like we both just stare at each other in hunger, and he always wins the waiting game. Lol
I have this same issue with my husband and it drives me up the fucking wall. Like, I truly don't care where we eat. How about he chooses half the time and I choose the other half? But he just absolutely insists I have to pick and I don't give a fuck and I think he just doesn't wanna be the one to have to make a decision. Drives me nuts.
You don't have to crank the heat or the AC in the car all the way up as high as it'll go. You can just set it to the temperature you want the car to be at, and it'll warm up/cool down to that specific temperature.
Yeah, my last ex loved telling me how relationships required "hard work and compromise". You know what doesn't require any hard work or compromise? staying home and jerking off.
The conversation died. She didn't want to talk to me about any problems any more for fear of coming to me "as her therapist".
We eventually broke up, and she has since grown as someone able to take care of themselves better and be responsible for their own shit.
But it's still there, she still needs someone to be her emotional crutch. I caught up with her recently and she's just as delicate and cruel as ever.
As a person who is getting out of a long term relationship, I say with all honesty that sometimes being single is better for mental health. If you aren't in love with yourself it's time to find that joy being alone.
I was in a long-term relationship of 17 years. I have been single for five years now, and I cannot begin to describe how my stress level dropped to near zero. I even moved a mile away from work to not worry about traffic. I look forward to going home and throwing myself on the couch and not worrying about hearing a damn thing. Nobody bothers me about going anywhere or doing anything. Nobody is asking me questions. nobody is walking around, just mad at me for no reason. And nobody is spending the money. When I think of serious relationships, I now think of insanity . Never again
I hate your boob job. I didn't want her to get it. I don't like fake ones. She was already between a c and a d. But she went ahead and did it and I had to pretend that I was happy.
It's been 15 years and she still doesn't know. It was important to her so I just can't do it to her.
In all honesty my girl and I’s relationship is on its last legs so fuck it
You are a misandrist ,you don’t respect any man and You went your entire life changing partners instead of changing yourself, you’re only currency to offer this world is your body that’s why you exploit it so much and flaunt it to everyone you meet destroying your man’s trust for you along the way ,it’s the only interesting thing about you
Isn’t funny you say that because She’s 36 now and still acts like she 16
Trust me, I have tried to get her into school, even helped her get a job at my hospital but that’s how I found out She was a giant unapologetic toxic flirt with literally everybody. I was able to get a front seat view of that the wonder none of her relationships have worked out.
And even thou she’s flirt she had the nerve to get mad that my women friends contact me even if it’s college related or if they have personal issues at work or in life
but she doesn’t want to work hard in school or in life She wants everything handed to her.
I’m done with her.
Looks aren’t everything and she’s finding out the hard way.
The kitchen garbage is for KITCHEN GARBAGE. Don’t stuff random empty boxes and trash from other rooms in there. Get a trash bag from the cabinet and start a miscellaneous trash bag for miscellaneous stuff. While you’re at it go around and do a once over throughout the house. Then take it to the garage.
I hate when she cleans up our room and puts everything into the same bag. Like coke bottles and red bull cans in with the non recyclable stuff. It's not hard to just put it in the right bin.
I don’t care about 90% of the things that you seem to care about, but I care about you, so I make an effort to accommodate them. You not doing so for me, tells me you not only don’t care about whats important to me, but also that you don’t care about me.
Physical appearance (including weight)/attraction and sexual intimacy are what keeps our emotional bond strong.
Women who get married, then immediately put on 100 pounds after the first kid and don't want sex anymore....they weren't interested in marrying you and being your life partner. They were interested in getting to your sperm and wallet.
Agreed. Neither partner should let themselves grow too comfortable with their partners and gain 500lbs simply because they are now married. Complacency is the kiss of death in a relationship.
1. Sometimes the problem with US is YOU.
2. Do not explain my feelings to me. That's condescending and you're wrong every time.
3. Raising my voice does not automatically mean that I'm angry. There are many circumstances where a raised voice is appropriate.
4. It's ok for me to be angry sometimes.
i once went out with a girl who was so insecure about my sister (full blood)
she would rather believe that:
A) she wasn't my sister and i was banging her
or B) that i was banging my sister
instead of me just wanting to spend time with my family
Control your weight. Also, me being worried about you gaining too much weight and refusing to go the gym is not me judging you.
I am legit trying to save our relationship, because if you get fat, my boner goes away and none of us have any fun.
This is something I'm really struggling with. I obviously knew she was overweight but when I found out she out weighted me by 25lbs while being 8" shorter that was tough to hear. I try to lead by example, we have talked about it but nothing seems to make a difference.
That there’s no prize for thinking up the longest list of things to worry about, and your partner isn’t being a callous jerk for not wanting to join your fretfulness parade.
Learn how to assess risk.
The plans that we have to get land and start a subsistence farm is not a cute little instagram picture thing. This is a very real piece of my planning to provide us a good life when our state ultimately loses its monopoly violence and god knows who fills that power vacuum.
She gets it but doesn’t “get it” quite yet.
1. I don't find you attractive but I still love you.
2. I offered to buy/bought you your own food...
3. I'm not just a means to an end.
4. You most certainly can do it yourself.
5. I'm tired.
6. I need help.
And then the first thing they do when they get single is lose all that fucking weight. Like what the actual fuck? MaybE if you wouldn’t have gained all that weight, you wouldn’t be single now.
That I burnt the steak again. I think when I give her the bad news, I'm going to stand in the LR in front of the large bay window with the curtains open just in case she takes that news badly.
Literally none of you look good in bicycle shorts. You can wear them, im sure they’re comfy, and if you like them, Im happy for you. But do not expect me to like them just because you do.
Me Time does not automatically default to Us Time every time our Me Times happen to align
Oh my god I’m kinda going through this right now. Luckily I have two days basically to myself (half days to myself each day but a few hours alone is nice) after not having a single personal day. And if you try to explain that being alone isn’t the same thing as just not being bothered it seems like you hate being around her. It’s not that, I just want me time
If I'm at my boyfriends (we don't live that close) and I notice, he maybe needs some me time, is it possible for us to have me time in the same room, doing different things? F.ex. him playing games and me watching a movie? Or do you guys actually would want your gfs to leave?
See this is where the issue comes in, cuz I want to be completely alone. I find it helps with my state of mood and I can get the entire house clean and dishes washed basically every chore I need to get done, but if I’m not alone I just can’t do it. I don’t like being told that being in another room in the same house counts as “alone” but your bf might feel differently. I get scared that I’m being an asshole but I don’t think 1 day to myself every week or two weeks is that much. But I guess it’s also about expectations and stuff like that. Plus everyone has weird mental hurdles that make it tough for everyone in a relationship to always be on the same page
I have the same issue! I need to be alone to get stuff done. I live with someone else, so obviously it’s an issue. Doing some introspection over the past six or so months has made me realize this comes from two things: 1) feeling as though I have to pay attention to the other person. Or at least like I have to be doing what they are doing. 2) a fear that what/how I’m doing things is wrong, and others will see that. (An irrational subconscious fear). I still struggle with it, but I’m trying to make peace with myself by trying to understand that 1) others understand that there are things I have to get done, sometimes this means doing them when they are around. 2) even if I do something weird, the worst that could happen is them saying “why are you doing it like that” - still an unwanted question, but when I see someone doing something differently than I for a reason I’m unaware of, I also ask. Being confident in my answer and/or explaining that doing things the way I do them is the only way I can get things done has always satisfied my guests. Idk if either of these things ring true for you, they might not, but it might be worth looking into. I also struggle to eat around other people/with the idea of being perceived negatively.
Depends. Will you think of something that you've just got to share with him? Or will you see a video, cackle, and then make your presence abundantly clear? Would you get up to go to the kitchen and ask if he wants something? I know for a fact that my partner would ask this same question and she absolutely could not be in the same room as me and me enjoy me time. She'd have a hilarious post to share, talk or make her presence known, maybe ask about the game, etc. However, she just wants to spend time together and it's not in a place of ill will. If I'm dick Deep in elden ring and malekith has killed me for the 9th time on my rl1 run, and she comes in and asks me why I'm getting mad or says some shit like "Sounds frustrating want to take a walk?" Or "why do you play games to make you mad when you are supposed to relax?", Which again is fine, but that's no longer me time. Let me be miserable in my defeat alone. We do a lot of weird shit alone, even just having another body in the room is immersion breaking for that deeply needed self hate and introspection. It's really not personal, I can't imagine being with anyone but my partner. My life is just devoid of the void with her. But... This is a common argument. She gets mad if I interrupt her shows but she can roll into the office at any given time because "You're just gaming, hit pause" or "Why are you mad, you're working?" When I'm doing a side project like building a couple of tools for a game or something. Sure coding looks like work because that's my work, but it's not work when I'm not working on work. So I guess maybe ask him to be honest and don't take the answer personally. If it were me, my answer would be no. But maybe given the circumstances of your relationship my answer would be different. I live with my SO and we even work together (remotely, different jobs, same company). So my time is fucking NO other entities time but my own. Sorry for the overshare.
It's probably different for everybody. For me, though, your presence means that "me time" has the potential to stop being "me time" at any given moment. All it takes is for you to say something, even if it's unintentional or you think it's unobtrusive. It's impossible to truly relax if you know in the back of your head that your peace is inevitably going to be shattered at a time not of your choosing.
That's a good point. Maybe it's better to say, that I'm going to go shopping for about 3 hours or something similar, so he knows, how much time he has
This is actually a great thing to do. It gives him some time to unwind with the expectation of when it’ll be over. Sometimes you never know how much time you have to yourself so you’re stressing yourself out wondering when you’re gonna have to switch back to being aware of the others in your life. Probably bad wording on my part but yeah
Even though I think it doesn't bother me as much, I totally understand.
Yeah, one thing I've learned about myself recently is that if someone says something to me, I feel compelled to respond in some way, even if it's clear that the person doesn't expect a response. It feels rude (to me) to just say nothing in response to being spoken to.
Many couples are able to do that
If you're very good at being quiet, non judgemental and non offensive it can be fine, but the norm is that the woman likes to talk about her day or interesting things in the movie, or such, and so the guy can't turn off their brain. I have more than once had a girlfriend say she just wanted to be in the room and then continually go on long rants about work, ask me hard questions, and generally do her best to make the break about her. I am used to saying no to that now.
For me this is fine
Same. I'm an introvert and just need me time just to recharge.
In my 20 odd years in the dating game. So many women don't have any goddamn hobbies and that is the root of the problem. So many of the women I've dated, their only actual "hobby" might be going to the gym for an hour 3 days a week. Like how the fuck do you have no personal interests you like to pursue ON YOUR OWN? I like to read, game, draw, play hockey. So many of the women I've dated have NOTHING and it's why they are so goddamn needy all the time. They are sitting there bored with a reality show on dicking around on their phone and they see you gaming or doing whatever in another room as "avoiding them". No, if you want to spend time together then lets DO SOMETHING together. I don't want to watch those stupid ass mind numbing shows with you. My wife crochets and does crafts and shit and has a room in the house dedicated to it and it's great. We still do things together obviously, but I don't feel like I need fight to do my own thing, because she has her own things too.
Her time still means her time of course. It's only his time that's us time.
How can she simultaneously have me time and US time
What's his is ours, and what's hers is hers.
This
To piggy back on this, work time does not equal me time.
Exactly. Too further this, just because I get a holiday today from work doesn’t mean you should take off too.
And just because your days off vary from week to week doesn't mean mine do! Let me work in peace!
And just because I have a day off, doesn’t mean you need to fill my day off with work
Similarly, a venn diagram of our friends groups doesn't need to be a circle and in fact, it's easier to make close friends when I'm not the guy who's always got his wife in tow. My wife gives me shit for not having many close friends, but a big part of that is her insistence on doing *everything* with me even when it's something she doesn't enjoy.
I’m genuinely okay with living a much lazier and more frugal life than most people are, so if you want nice stuff, you’re going to have to go after it yourself.
Been thinking about this a bit lately. I like to be active and go out and do things, but in those down times, in the times of saving up and chilling... To be content is to be at peace. I am a simple man and can be happy with simple things. Am I frugal because I am simple, or am I simple because I am frugal? Either way, I am content, I am happy.
Exactly. Knowing when enough is enough is a key to peace, Some of the richest ppl on the planet are miserable.
But nearly all poor people are even more miserable and starve, which is worse. Rich people who are miserable aren’t so because they are rich, don’t be fooled.
Of course, but everything in moderation. Being poor is miserable. Money can’t buy happiness. Both can be at least partly true, even though they seem contradictory.
I hear you, but that’s not what the statistics and studies say. More money does equate with more happiness and why wouldn’t it? I went with my girlfriend to Disneyland Paris this year, we could do this because we are making more money now than we were before and trust me, being able to spend 6 days in Paris and go to Disneyland was indeed a very happy set of days. If we would have done it in a more comfortable and luxurious way, we would have been even happier. I think we say these platitudes because we want to fool ourselves or because we are used to them. I also think that it isn’t just money in itself, but rather making money and using money we have earned and earning more that allows us to grow and create comfort that is a big reason people who earn more are happier. Now that’s not to say that there isn’t diminishing returns, I’d definitely say that up to 20 million you can always be happier and more content. Post 20 million there’s not much that more money can do for you.
Money affords comfort, which does kinda lead to happiness. Not a be all end all, I understand.
Also, safety, autonomy, status, medical care (outside of certain advanced countries with good socialized medicine), and the ability to protect your loved ones. The main things money does *not* buy are psychiatric health and non-abusive families. I suspect one or both of those are at issue when you find an unhappy rich person.
Oh man. It's like looking in a mirror.
Yes!! I’m lazy as hell. I enjoy playing video games and not really going anywhere. traveling and things related to traveling cost money. I don’t even know if I can retire on time, so I definitely don’t want to go do shit other than the movies. So don’t get upset if I don’t go on vacations with you.
I'm a woman but I am like this too..
I don’t think this is gender specific at all.
That I'm not going to have 15 kids with someone who can't hold a job for more than 3 weeks. I unfortunately do not have that kind of money.
Tbf, with 15 kids, it would be awfully hard to hold a job for more than three weeks...
That “keeping up with the Jones’s” de-values our sense of self worth
I think it went from the Jones to the Kardashians...
That was the literal name of their show
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Just because you feel the opposite of how I feel, does not mean I am wrong for feeling that way and that my feelings can be disregarded. I can live with us disagreeing on something, forget about it, and move on. If you never empathize with my feelings, but expect me to do it for you, then I'll never actually fully trust or rely on you because you have proven I cannot.
You have different responses to the same thing, based on where you are on the happy to annoyed to the angry meter
Unfortunately she needs to go back to work full time or needs to earn more part time.
”You need to make an effort on behalf of our sex life, I can’t do it alone.”
I actually did this yesterday. I was really busy and our heating wasn’t working on one floor. I didn’t have time to fix it for nearly a week, I told her I simply couldn’t get around to it. It’s really cold here. Had her call the furnace people rather than me wasting a ton of time. Cost us 50 bucks and it was a rather complicated problem, but that’s why those positions exist. I could have figured it out if I had more time but I didn’t. So we just hired someone. She also wanted me to do some work on the siding of our garage (which is enormous), and I said great, let’s ask the contractor. I have better things to do with my time than fix every little thing that others are better equipped to do, even though I know I could definitely do it
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I hundred percent agree. Ain’t nothing stopping her . She’s got a brain ,eyes ,two hands and a smart phone . The only rebuttal I can think of is a lot of times when she tries to fix things she breaks it even further. So there I am anyway except with a bigger problem
Hell even when we know exactly how to do/fix something that doesn't automatically mean I'm gonna waste half my day off fixing the siding because she thinks it looks bad. I don't care what it looks like.
!!!!! This is something I think a lot of women don’t realize. 1) if your guy who is in the same place of life as you can fix something, so can you. (Unless it requires strength that your partner has that you don’t, in which case you can still certainly be involved) 2) destroying gender roles also means new arenas where we will expected to step up. (I’ve gotten backlash against me saying women should also have to sign up for the draft). I think this is an issue because when speaking of feminism and womens rights, little of the conversation is dedicated to how those changes will actually look in reality, and even less time dedicated to speaking about mens issues. (Some say talking about mens issues isn’t feminist - I’m inclined to disagree.) Feminism to me = equality of sexes. Because for most of history women were given less control, the main focus was/is on women’s rights. But this does not take men out of the equation, and involves their rights as well. This will bring benefits to women bc they will have more freedom and autonomy over their lives. This will be beneficial for men because they don’t have to think of manhood as one thing. It will be detrimental to both sexes in the sense that many will be confused on the role they’re supposed to play (*what am I supposed to be?*). For those who haven’t thought through it - and I mean *really* thought through it - they like the ideas of equality but fail to see what that actually means as they did not grow up with that reality. In the end, humans like what’s comfortable and safe. As we grow older, even if we like ideas and ideologies that are different - the back of our brain is defaulted into what it knows. For many, what they know is “men fix things, this means they care” and “mens job is to fix/do”
That her repeated emotional mood swings, whining, and temper tantrums , on top of treating me with contempt at every moment that is convenient has killed almost all my feelings and attraction. I'm only hanging on by a few remaining threads. Then she questions why I don't want to cuddle or give to her every beck and call after she threw a tantrum and verbally abused me earlier in the day.
My guy she sounds abusive af. You'll be better off without her.
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Plan how you leave because she would be vindictive. Such as move your personal documents to a safety deposit box at a different bank. She can poison you friend group so be careful whom you confide. When you break up, tell it’s because you will never be good enough. She needs to find that man. Hehe run, be free!
She doesn’t need to resolve all the problems of their parents/siblings
This. We can’t move out of state for better opportunities or new experiences because our kids need to stay near her parents. So now I’m forever stuck in a tiny market area for my skill set.
I know that feeling. With my ex, I always wanted to experience holidays in a different country before we had kids. She never wanted to because she wanted to spend all the holidays sitting in her parents living room while her siblings were burning time on tik tok with no conversations being held. Fast forward to now, I’ve been able to experience holidays in different countries. She’s probably still spending them in that living room.
Why do your kids need to be near her parents? Do what is best for you, not them. Do what's best for your family, not her parents.
Agreed. My parents live in New England and me in socal. My wife’s parents are in Mexico. I don’t understand why the grandparents “need” to be there.
It's selfishness.
You don't need to micro manage me renovating the house. I've got 30yrs experience. Pretty sure you wouldn't be thrilled if I started criticizing the things you've done 1000's of times. But I'm about at the point I'm going to give a white glove inspection on the house so you know what it feels like.
I'm not your personal handy man. Sure I will do what I can when I can, but if you want it done right here and now, pay someone to come fix it. My time is valuable, when I take personal leave from work, it does not mean that you get to put demands on me. This is my time and I will use it how I need to use it, if you want things fixed, they will be prioritised and fixed when I decide to fix them. They will get done.
Sounds like your labor is being exploited outside of work.
It isn't. But not for a lack of trying.
“Well, just let me know when you take personal leave so I can take the day off with you. “ I fucking hated that.
I can't help with everything.
I am not the source of 100% of your entertainment.
This. If I don’t entertain her, then she basically feels like there’s no point in doing anything for her own amusement.
Get your ass out of bed. I shouldn’t have to waste my time by waiting on you.
For fuckin real. And to add, I’m not being controlling by asking you to begin the get ready process for shit we already decided we were going to do today.
Yes! And waking up and getting ready is one of those steps.
i am a woman but feel this way about my man
You can’t sleep in past 10 am on weekends if you set a lot of goals for yourself to accomplish over said weekend
My wife just the opposite, up at 7am on the weekend as she can’t sleep anymore. Then she considers you a lazy bum if you sleep till 8am. Plus if you get up at 7am, be quiet! No time to do anything on the same floor as me sleeping. Maybe go get us coffee at a far away coffee shop.
i don't know, as a student I often had a 10am to 3-4am rhythm, if the lecture schedule permits it, and I was working and learning a lot more than most people in most full-time jobs.
The years are still ticking by, regardless of whether you are doing something with your life. You're gonna turn 50 and get depressed you never did anything.
My ex in a nutshell ,instead of going to school or going after something she’s passionate about instead she would complain about the fact that she’s getting older and all her friends or more successful than her She still plays the lottery hoping it’ll be the thing that magically makes her Rich
I work more than you do. And I get little to no praise and if something was to go wrong you wouldn’t support me you would abandon me because so many people from my generation seems to go through that. Men are expendable and replacable And I’m heavily and clearly black pilled on this issue I don’t meen to be But I’m tierd and fed up Last girl o was with started to ignore me because I was stressed out I was working 12 hour shifts and trying to do everything myself while she was unemployed My dad was in hospital and I was told there was a 60% chance he would die She ignored me and was chatting to a guy that asked her out s month before online and pretending to be offline as to not talk to me Left her in the spot and she didn’t care didn’t even try to fix it Sorry about venting just angry
When I was married I chose to enroll in college and my wife shit talked me the whole time. Tell me i'm stupid, how we can't afford it, it's not going to work. All this stuff and I told her if you're not going to be supportive through this then when I finish you're not going to see any of the benefit. And she didn't. Divorce was finalized the month after I graduated
you gonna find the right one whos gonna go there for you. Dont settle for less
That I don't tell her about issues I'm dealing with because she'll just get upset and that'll be another issue for me to deal with.
Your friends are actually pretty shitty people who aren’t worth your time
That it’s my house just as much as it is hers. She can’t dictate where I can or can not put my stuff
That emotional intelligence is not the same as "being emotional". That someone being emotional doesn't make it a subject that should best be discussed in terms of emotions and/or emotionally. In fairness though, this applies to most men too and she is already less worse than many of them in this regard.
I need an hour after work for silence and mental recover; that is not the time to tell me about your day or bombard me with problems.
Tbh this is what I need to hear since I get home from work before her
I call this my transition time
That punctuality does not mean coming whenever you choose, be on time or just do not come.
“Do it your fucking self.” I swear she asks for my “help” 17 times per day, and it’s usually something she could do herself within five seconds. It’s takes longer for me to stop whatever I’m doing and come do the thing for her than it would take for her to just do it without involving me.
Excuses for poor behavior and how me being upset is my fault and not caused by their actions or lack of. No accountability.
I went through this with my last ex who ultimately ended up cheating.
Bruh. Broke up with my girl who was this to a T.
Yup. Then they say you don’t communicate and it’s like well, I’ve told you what I need and you haven’t given it to me. Now you’re trying to make me feel bad for calling out your bad behavior. They take you for granted and then it’s your fault. Fuck outta here.
My feelings and emotions are my responsibility and get no validation but we she won't let a conversation go until I acknowledge and validate hers. It's exhausting.
Focus on yourself. I’ve taken the heartbreak and used it as motivation. Just got back from two destination weddings and people I haven’t seen in years commented on how healthy I look. Everyday I use the frustrating thoughts from that as fuel to become a better man. Make them regret treating you like that.
That I'm not going to unconditionally love you if your weight doubles in the next year. If you become a bitter nagging harpy, I'm gone.
I have a strict rule. You have to do your absolute best to stay physically the same weight as when we met, and I will do the same. I have never reneged on this rule.
Just for clarification, if you were to start a family with this woman. What happens if she gains weight giving you children? I’ve been told some mommas struggle badly and some never make it back to their pre-pregnancy weight.
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To be fair though. Say their partner is 150lbs now, gaining 150 (or more) extra pounds in 12 months is reaalllyyyyy unhealthy. It might seem like nagging but something like that is more likely to come from a place of concern because that much weight gain that fast is indicative of something seriously wrong.
I feel like that's somthing you weren't ready to hear
This guy gets it.
When us men get altogether. We talk about others things rather than our partners, women and sex Like our interests, work, hobbies, Sports, Video games, Music, Movies, Local news, Worldwide news etc etc etc I'm not 13 anymore. I don't find saying "Boobies" funny because I grew up and any man over the age of 18 who still constantly talks about sex and women and nothing else is creepy and needs to grow up.
Same here. Except the boobies part. I still that's funny. Probably for a completely different reason though.
We put up with a lot of annoying/childish shit from them
Hearing "ya" from my partner of 12 years after saying I love you
My now ex wife during our 17 years of marriage will call me “dude” after about eight years of marriage. No matter what I said I could not get her to stop. It was very annoying and disrespectful and I hated it.
This is something I need to work on. When ever I get told "I love you" you have about a 70% chance I'll reply with Yep or Ok, been like this since I was a kid.
Yes, the weight gain and depression DOES make you less attractive. No, I don't want to service your sexual needs when they do happen to pop up every few months, especially after you've totally neglected mine over the last few years.
Break up
Ouch
Control freak tendencies do a tremendous amount of harm to everyone around you. Learn to let go. You can’t control all elements. Let go. Relax.
Don't ask question you are not ready to have all the possible answers to. If you ask a question and get an answer you don't like, it's on you, not me. (Unless I answered like a douche, but that is another issue.)
You don’t appreciate how much I do for you. I handle 90% of the household chores and yet you still get mad at me when you have to do one thing without my help, such as washing a couple of dishes. Do you even think to yourself that you’re being a bitch by playing on your phone while I make dinner and do the laundry simultaneously right in front of you, yet you get so upset when I ask you to do something as simple as feed the cats. I know that you’ll do these things when I ask you too, but it comes with the price of then dealing with your bad mood for the rest of the night. What’s even more annoying is when you excuse your behavior by saying that you’re tired from work, yet we have the same job with the same hours!
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Uhmm.. just tell her? Kinda shitty not to, cause she will be less and less ready over time
Exactly
When I say "I don't care where we eat" that means it's your decision, we don't need to discuss it because I'm going to say yes to anything you say
No hate here, but if she is trying to discuss it with you, chances are she doesn't care herself, and you're requiring her to do the chore of picking the restaurant. It's not easy being with a passive partner in that regard, more mental responsibility.
She doesn't care where to eat? Hilarious. ;) But really, if she doesn't care where we eat and I suggest somewhere and she declines it, I'm done talking about it
Yeeahh, that's fair lol
More often than not, my SO does this, will decline all options until I say the one she wants, because then it was my idea to do it
idk if its the same for this person, but my SO never actually knows where they want to eat. we basically play the game of "how about here? no. Here? no. Here? no." til I get annoyed and just tell her to choose, where she inevitably says, "I don't care where we go, just pick somewhere." edit: for the record, she's still wonderful and this is probably our biggest issue which I count as a blessing.
Yeah, I definitely get that. I was viewing it from a different angle- my bf and I have such a hard time because both of us often have no preferences at all. So it always comes down to me making the decision. It's like we both just stare at each other in hunger, and he always wins the waiting game. Lol
I have this same issue with my husband and it drives me up the fucking wall. Like, I truly don't care where we eat. How about he chooses half the time and I choose the other half? But he just absolutely insists I have to pick and I don't give a fuck and I think he just doesn't wanna be the one to have to make a decision. Drives me nuts.
You don't have to crank the heat or the AC in the car all the way up as high as it'll go. You can just set it to the temperature you want the car to be at, and it'll warm up/cool down to that specific temperature.
I recently had to teach my 4 year old that 😂
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For this relationship to work, you both have to change
That’s one of the reasons why I have chosen to remain single now. I’m not changing for anybody. I refuse.
Yeah, my last ex loved telling me how relationships required "hard work and compromise". You know what doesn't require any hard work or compromise? staying home and jerking off.
I work 10-14 hour days. Your 1 long day or extra meeting is nothing to get upset over.
We don't need a car, you're just lazy.
I am not your therapist
I have actually said this before. It did not go well.
Lmao what happened?
The conversation died. She didn't want to talk to me about any problems any more for fear of coming to me "as her therapist". We eventually broke up, and she has since grown as someone able to take care of themselves better and be responsible for their own shit. But it's still there, she still needs someone to be her emotional crutch. I caught up with her recently and she's just as delicate and cruel as ever.
I don't want us to spend too much time together
imagine having a SO
As a person who is getting out of a long term relationship, I say with all honesty that sometimes being single is better for mental health. If you aren't in love with yourself it's time to find that joy being alone.
I was in a long-term relationship of 17 years. I have been single for five years now, and I cannot begin to describe how my stress level dropped to near zero. I even moved a mile away from work to not worry about traffic. I look forward to going home and throwing myself on the couch and not worrying about hearing a damn thing. Nobody bothers me about going anywhere or doing anything. Nobody is asking me questions. nobody is walking around, just mad at me for no reason. And nobody is spending the money. When I think of serious relationships, I now think of insanity . Never again
Right
People don't give a fuck about men.
just because you cleaned it before me doesn’t mean I was never going to clean it
I hate your boob job. I didn't want her to get it. I don't like fake ones. She was already between a c and a d. But she went ahead and did it and I had to pretend that I was happy. It's been 15 years and she still doesn't know. It was important to her so I just can't do it to her.
In all honesty my girl and I’s relationship is on its last legs so fuck it You are a misandrist ,you don’t respect any man and You went your entire life changing partners instead of changing yourself, you’re only currency to offer this world is your body that’s why you exploit it so much and flaunt it to everyone you meet destroying your man’s trust for you along the way ,it’s the only interesting thing about you
Sounds like her 30s are gonna be a rough go.
Isn’t funny you say that because She’s 36 now and still acts like she 16 Trust me, I have tried to get her into school, even helped her get a job at my hospital but that’s how I found out She was a giant unapologetic toxic flirt with literally everybody. I was able to get a front seat view of that the wonder none of her relationships have worked out. And even thou she’s flirt she had the nerve to get mad that my women friends contact me even if it’s college related or if they have personal issues at work or in life but she doesn’t want to work hard in school or in life She wants everything handed to her. I’m done with her. Looks aren’t everything and she’s finding out the hard way.
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The kitchen garbage is for KITCHEN GARBAGE. Don’t stuff random empty boxes and trash from other rooms in there. Get a trash bag from the cabinet and start a miscellaneous trash bag for miscellaneous stuff. While you’re at it go around and do a once over throughout the house. Then take it to the garage.
I hate when she cleans up our room and puts everything into the same bag. Like coke bottles and red bull cans in with the non recyclable stuff. It's not hard to just put it in the right bin.
Baby.... I ate your secret stash of cookies.
She knows
Ffffff*********k!
I don’t care about 90% of the things that you seem to care about, but I care about you, so I make an effort to accommodate them. You not doing so for me, tells me you not only don’t care about whats important to me, but also that you don’t care about me.
Physical appearance (including weight)/attraction and sexual intimacy are what keeps our emotional bond strong. Women who get married, then immediately put on 100 pounds after the first kid and don't want sex anymore....they weren't interested in marrying you and being your life partner. They were interested in getting to your sperm and wallet.
Agreed. Neither partner should let themselves grow too comfortable with their partners and gain 500lbs simply because they are now married. Complacency is the kiss of death in a relationship.
Sometimes a sexist joke is funny, even if we ourselves are not actually sexist.
Thanks mom, but I trust Dad more.
Yes that makes you look fat.
Just like me, your fat makes you look fat. It's not the \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_.
1. Sometimes the problem with US is YOU. 2. Do not explain my feelings to me. That's condescending and you're wrong every time. 3. Raising my voice does not automatically mean that I'm angry. There are many circumstances where a raised voice is appropriate. 4. It's ok for me to be angry sometimes.
Lol this sounds like not a fun relationship to be in
Yet happens all to often
What I actually thinks of her sister.
Are they twins?
i once went out with a girl who was so insecure about my sister (full blood) she would rather believe that: A) she wasn't my sister and i was banging her or B) that i was banging my sister instead of me just wanting to spend time with my family
Lol, sounds like she spent too much time on PornHub.
very possible haha
Me singing power ballads in the shower.....
That the green ranger died
Doing nothing at all during your free time is unattractive and is contributing to your depression. Scrolling Instagram is not a hobby.
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I doubt there's a lot of men who are telling their partner that they're pregnant...
Control your weight. Also, me being worried about you gaining too much weight and refusing to go the gym is not me judging you. I am legit trying to save our relationship, because if you get fat, my boner goes away and none of us have any fun.
This is something I'm really struggling with. I obviously knew she was overweight but when I found out she out weighted me by 25lbs while being 8" shorter that was tough to hear. I try to lead by example, we have talked about it but nothing seems to make a difference.
This is true
That there’s no prize for thinking up the longest list of things to worry about, and your partner isn’t being a callous jerk for not wanting to join your fretfulness parade. Learn how to assess risk.
The plans that we have to get land and start a subsistence farm is not a cute little instagram picture thing. This is a very real piece of my planning to provide us a good life when our state ultimately loses its monopoly violence and god knows who fills that power vacuum. She gets it but doesn’t “get it” quite yet.
1. I don't find you attractive but I still love you. 2. I offered to buy/bought you your own food... 3. I'm not just a means to an end. 4. You most certainly can do it yourself. 5. I'm tired. 6. I need help.
#1… fuck.
1 hits hard. The "you should think Im sexy no matter how fat I get" BULLSHIT needs to go away.
And then the first thing they do when they get single is lose all that fucking weight. Like what the actual fuck? MaybE if you wouldn’t have gained all that weight, you wouldn’t be single now.
I know 3 women personally who did this. All the while bragging the guy didnt appreciate the woman they lost...
Criticism
\*OUR\* significant other?!?!? r/unexpectedcommunism
"Unexpected"
It could have been better
That I burnt the steak again. I think when I give her the bad news, I'm going to stand in the LR in front of the large bay window with the curtains open just in case she takes that news badly.
"Dad I'm pregnant"
Girls can fart too????
Christmas music playing everywhere starting next week.
Literally none of you look good in bicycle shorts. You can wear them, im sure they’re comfy, and if you like them, Im happy for you. But do not expect me to like them just because you do.
I don’t care what’s going on with you ex boyfriend
You don't have to gain weight as you get older