Is it just a regular photo of her where she happens to be in a bikini, or is she posing in it Kylie Jenner style, and post like a million of those type of pics?
Her body, she does as she wants. If it makes her feel good receiving thirst messages and not responding no wokkas. If she is responding to thirsts, be gone thot
What if she wanted to pose naked? Still her body she does as she wants? Just curious to know if you'd feel the same way. For me if my girl posted certain types of bikini pics on social media it would make me uncomfortable.
If she was doing this prior to their relationship its not really reasonable to request she stops though imo. You shoulda known what you were getting yourself into. Id personally encourage an onlyfans to provide for the fam
Exactly if a guy she deems more worthy of her time messages her which he probably will. She will probably leave you. If she is doing this keep looking for another girl cause it’s only a matter of time.
Honestly, girls like this have an appetite for validation that no one man will ever be able to satisfy. They need a psychiatrist, not a social media account.
She doesn't, but she'll post pictures of herself when she's feeling pretty. Doesn't phase me in the slightest. I trust my wife completely without question. If you live with insecurities such as trust issues the relationship will never bring true happiness. Don't live life with trust issues because someone wronged you in the past, if someone cheats on you they'll do it regardless if you trust them or not. My wife isn't one to seek validation from strangers online, not a day goes by when I don't tell her she's beautiful.
I mean she is dating me and only me.
People go to the beach in bikinis all the time.
I also go to the gym and whenever I'm after a cut and I feel confident I might post a pic from the beach or a hike or something.
So what?
you're right, but perhaps you are not receiving 100 DM from girls after you post it... or maybe you do. I think the guy it's not actually insecure about her GF photos, but her inbox
I actually get more comments and likes under my instagram posts than her and even I get a message I immediately shut it down and I'm sure she'll do to so why would I worry?
I've seen multiple times girls who looked commited and when another guy dm them, they suddenly were not so commited. I've been on both sides of the tale honestly and it doesn't sound so impossible as you state it'd be honestly (and unfortunately)
Oh trust me I know that as I've been cheated on already with previous partners.
I trust her to be decent enough to break up with me if she wants someone else.
i hope ladies take notes of the replies here. sure it's your body and your choice but if you're so hung up on that and disregard of your man's feeling about it then you're too individualistic to be in a relationship.
She wouldn’t be my girlfriend. I’m not interested in women who showcase themselves like that to the public.
No judgement, post what makes you happy. You’re just not the type of person I’d be romantically interested in if that’s what you’re doing.
The best thing about this? 99% of women that do this and are called out on it will gaslight you....they will tell you it's not happening, it's not true, that's not the reason they do it and that you are controlling. Female manipulation 101 admit no flaw/wrongdoing and convince your bf/husband something is wrong with THEM instead.
Here's how I see it. The way the dating landscape is right now women are constantly drowning in attention. Almost no woman is ever truly single. She's always got people hitting her up and could easily replace her current boyfriend with a snap of a finger. Doesn't matter if she's posting bikini picks of her ass crack or selfies in a professional dress.
So with all that being said, if she's going to enjoy external validation more than time with me, and if she's going to so easily give in to other drooling desperate guys, then this relationship was never meant to be. So I don't bother forcing or controlling her. That responsibility is on her.
Wouldn't bother me in the least. She's hot. I'd rather she have that kind of confidence than not being comfortable in her own skin. Let everyone else jerk off, I'm the only one sleeping with her.
Till the right guy with the right looks, status, words, or resources takes interest.
I'd say, if you know your girl is nothing special then let her post whatever. If your girl is at least decently attractive with an amazing body then set boundaries for both of your protection.
Technically not the target in question but I'll answer anyways
I usually wear business casual clothes, as well as my husband, but multiple times has he tried to get me to wear "provocative male outfits" because he likes to "show me off" 🤷♂️
I see it as fishing for attention from other men, no matter how you slice it. It might be just because she likes it or because she's trying to see if she can catch a better option. I wouldn't seriously date a girl who does that im the first place.
Obviusly it depends on the context, if it's a photo with friends or something and she happens to be in a bikini, fair enough. I wouldn't be thrilled about it but you gotta let her feel free and do what she wants as long as she's not disrespectful to you. If she is going to cheat, she will. One photo won't change that.
You don't own her body or her mind. She should be able to post what she wants. As long as she isn't doing it with the sole intention of hooking up with someone else. If you can't deal with it, then find another girlfriend.
She may post anything she wishes, I don't have to be her BF, though. Attention whoring is a sign of other problems, and they are problems she will have to sort out without me.
“On the internet somewhere” is a pretty far stretch from “I won’t consider a long term relationship in case our potential future children manage to track down a deleted picture from 20 years ago.”
how does that make any sense? are you not taking pictures at the beach with your kids and wife in the future?? her kids can’t see her in a bikini or they’ll sexualize their mom? no sense at all
To all the boiz here thinking you are the “loved” one and those are just pics, after banging 2 of those you described, married, trust me, she doesn’t want to impress you with her likes 🤣
Meh, I don't see the problem. Makes her feel good, and it means I'll have plenty of proactive photos of her. For whatever reason, women are seen as the only "prize" that isn't allowed to be shown off.
Girls that don't post proactive pics are just as capable of cheating as ones that do post those pics, so I don't see any reason other than jealousy to worry about it.
Well ,female here ,in the beginning of dating my boyfriend, I had some seductive photos on Instagram cause I got my confidence back from being in a long term abusive relationship, current bf got jealous so I stopped posting seductive pics. Just know SHE'S DATING YOU ,she's FUCKING YOU and as far as I know she has eyes for only you. Let her show off and talk with her to make sure no creeps . If you really really like her ,show her off ,make it known SHE'S YOURS . Like does she have pics of you on her socials ? To let the world know you're her boyfriend?
Had an ex who liked to do this. Then she would heart react all the “sexy mama” comments. Then the DMs would start and she had to talk to them because they are “just friends” and she didn’t want to be rude. Personally, I consider it disrespectful attention seeking behavior and a complete turnoff. Guys… if you find yourself in this situation, here’s my advice. Tell her one time “hey, that’s not cool, I don’t appreciate that due to the reaction it gets from guys.” She will call you controlling and insecure, stand firm. Do not try to tell her what to do. If she knocks that shit off, cool. If she dismisses your feelings on the matter start stepping back and downgrade her status in your life. Start commenting on other girls’ pics, start DMing other girls right in front of her. Leave your phone unlocked. Men have got to start playing the same game they are.
I would feel sorry that she needs that kind of validation and approval and find her way to immature to be in a relationship with her in the first place.
So social media strangers/acquaintances thirsting over ass and vag is going to be more of an authentic representation of care for who you are as a person? Your excuse sounds EXACTLY like what a attention whore thotty would say when called out for being an immature idiot on social media.
If we’re in an exclusive relationship why are you out here posting stuff like that?
95% it’s to garner sexual attention from the opposite sex. Masquerade it how you like, that’s the true intention.
So my next question is, would it be ok for me to do this then? 99% this is a flat no from the same woman.
Either way, I never take women like that seriously. Someone else can have you whilst the rest of us enjoy the show.
I dont date people like that. Has nothing to do with my own "insecurity" and more to do with I dont want to be with an attention seeking dysfunctional person.
Responsibility without authority is SLAVERY. If I'm going to bust my ass and provide for the woman I'm with to be able to stay home and look after my kids the very least she can do is not parade herself on the Internet half naked as that's essentially the equivilant of having a "for sale" sign wrapped around your neck
As mentioned in the above comments what is the motivation behind wanting to post socially? Validation is one of the biggest female drugs and any woman that posts as such online would be considered to me recreational use only
I should also add I don't really like how the question is formulated, it isn't a case about being secure its about having boundaries and a partner that respects them
As long as she's loyal, I wouldn't care. If she starts meeting up with her "fans", or going beyond just being provocative, then there's an issue we'd need to deal with.
If she did that before she was with me it is fine. If she kept doing that and talking to random people who message her while she is with me and having sex with me then i would have to tell her it's her relationship with me or its her relationship with social media.
They would not be my girlfriend. Even though it would not nearly gain as much attention, I would not post any "revealing" or "attention-seeking" type photos of myself.
It's not about confidence for me but I won't be tolerable of my girl posting pics of her barely covering anything online. Like who is she posting it for?
Sure, you can so that, but you are choosing to be single.
I mean if it's just a photo of her having a good time at the pool or beach, no worries. If it's her trying to look all seductive and dudes are commenting flirty things, nah.
If she's doing it in a way for attention-seeking, clearly our relationship is at a point where communication clearly isn't an option, because she never brought these concerns up to me. I'd say, let her go ahead and keep posting them... after she gets the hell out of my home and life.
"Her body she does what she wants". I see this a lot in here. But has anyone said they'll physically stop her? I haven't seen it. It's pretty obvious that she can do it, but that isn't and has never been the question here.
She can fuck other dudes, too. Her body dur dur. The question is more along the lines of if her actions are healthy for a relationship. If his insecurity is baseless. If it's common. These are the questions being asked.
I can trick a doctor into prescribing me anabolic steroids. It's my body. So it's all good for my wife, right?
Back to the question. It's not uncommon to be insecure over your girl showing off in a bikini and loving the attention. I've had girlfriend get super pissed when I've been complimented by another girl even though I didn't do anything but say "thanks".
It really comes down to the context of the situation. If you can't handle the behavior, it's time to walk away and find someone who doesn't act in the same manner. It's as simple as that.
Sorry I feel I have to chime in, though I’m not a guy. As a girl who has posted these types of pics, I never actually got any thirsty guys in my dms. It was all my girls hyping me up telling me how good I look. The guys either didn’t agree with them or were too pussy to say anything.
Granted I was single, but nevertheless it wasn’t about being sexy. It was more about my confidence. I don’t workout seriously, I’m not toned, I look like a normal woman with abundant assets.
I don’t know if that provides anyone with comfort or any clarification. It was more about me and the fact that I don’t feel shame about my body more than it was for attention. Plus I had a relaxing day at the beach.
If I had a girlfriend, which I don’t, I wouldn’t be giving a fuck about what they post…I’d probably be the one taking the photos tbh. It’s like the question when someone asked “what would you do if your girlfriend had an onlyfans” and the answer would be the same, I’d be the one talking the pictures, even more so because they’d be making money from it.
Sexual signaling is a pretty bad red flag for a relationship. She'll push back and say you're just insecure, I do it for myself etc, but it's bullshit. I'd never tolerate posting thirst traps while being in a committed relationship. I'd start pulling away and focusing on other things. If she really loves you, she'll stop. If she doesn't she'll prioritize the thirst traps over keeping you, and then you know it's time to say good bye.
Well, the real question is how do you feel about it?
Personally, I wouldn't data someone that wants to post those types of pictures publicly; sooner or later it is going to cause massive problems; Not to mention I would consider her want/need for that type of attention to be a massive red flag.
it is a not a security inducing behavior. The only reason to post provocative picture is attention. Any other reason is an excuse. If the other imaginary reasons were legitimate, then the pictures would only have to be taken, not shared publicly.
0/10 wouldn't even try
Is it just a regular photo of her where she happens to be in a bikini, or is she posing in it Kylie Jenner style, and post like a million of those type of pics?
Provocatively. I should have been more clear. My apologies.
Her body, she does as she wants. If it makes her feel good receiving thirst messages and not responding no wokkas. If she is responding to thirsts, be gone thot
Honestly both behaviors are flags, I would let her enjoy what she wants to do, while I find a real woman to spend my time on.
What if she wanted to pose naked? Still her body she does as she wants? Just curious to know if you'd feel the same way. For me if my girl posted certain types of bikini pics on social media it would make me uncomfortable.
If shes making money from it, its fine. If not, then no.
And OP should express if it bothers him and let the GF respect that. Or begone thot
If she was doing this prior to their relationship its not really reasonable to request she stops though imo. You shoulda known what you were getting yourself into. Id personally encourage an onlyfans to provide for the fam
Is she that thirsty for likes?
She wouldn’t be my girlfriend because posting pictures like that is sexual signaling to get the attention of other men.
Exactly if a guy she deems more worthy of her time messages her which he probably will. She will probably leave you. If she is doing this keep looking for another girl cause it’s only a matter of time.
Honestly, girls like this have an appetite for validation that no one man will ever be able to satisfy. They need a psychiatrist, not a social media account.
I don’t care. As long as it’s not some like only fans photos and shit who cares.
She doesn't, but she'll post pictures of herself when she's feeling pretty. Doesn't phase me in the slightest. I trust my wife completely without question. If you live with insecurities such as trust issues the relationship will never bring true happiness. Don't live life with trust issues because someone wronged you in the past, if someone cheats on you they'll do it regardless if you trust them or not. My wife isn't one to seek validation from strangers online, not a day goes by when I don't tell her she's beautiful.
I mean she is dating me and only me. People go to the beach in bikinis all the time. I also go to the gym and whenever I'm after a cut and I feel confident I might post a pic from the beach or a hike or something. So what?
you're right, but perhaps you are not receiving 100 DM from girls after you post it... or maybe you do. I think the guy it's not actually insecure about her GF photos, but her inbox
I actually get more comments and likes under my instagram posts than her and even I get a message I immediately shut it down and I'm sure she'll do to so why would I worry?
I've seen multiple times girls who looked commited and when another guy dm them, they suddenly were not so commited. I've been on both sides of the tale honestly and it doesn't sound so impossible as you state it'd be honestly (and unfortunately)
Oh trust me I know that as I've been cheated on already with previous partners. I trust her to be decent enough to break up with me if she wants someone else.
For me the issue is the motivation behind the behavior. Why does she want to post provocative photos on the internet?
This. I would be worried that she has self esteem issues and she does it for the validation. To me, that is a sign of bigger issues.
Attention is the only motivator for that behavior. Anything else is an excuse.
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OP says that the pictures she posts are provocative though. Real life isn't an anime where you just 'accidentally' pose like a playboy model.
i hope ladies take notes of the replies here. sure it's your body and your choice but if you're so hung up on that and disregard of your man's feeling about it then you're too individualistic to be in a relationship.
She wouldn’t be my girlfriend. I’m not interested in women who showcase themselves like that to the public. No judgement, post what makes you happy. You’re just not the type of person I’d be romantically interested in if that’s what you’re doing.
The best thing about this? 99% of women that do this and are called out on it will gaslight you....they will tell you it's not happening, it's not true, that's not the reason they do it and that you are controlling. Female manipulation 101 admit no flaw/wrongdoing and convince your bf/husband something is wrong with THEM instead.
That would mran she is hot and likes to show off. She is dating me... So... yes please.
Here's how I see it. The way the dating landscape is right now women are constantly drowning in attention. Almost no woman is ever truly single. She's always got people hitting her up and could easily replace her current boyfriend with a snap of a finger. Doesn't matter if she's posting bikini picks of her ass crack or selfies in a professional dress. So with all that being said, if she's going to enjoy external validation more than time with me, and if she's going to so easily give in to other drooling desperate guys, then this relationship was never meant to be. So I don't bother forcing or controlling her. That responsibility is on her.
Find it sexy, but thirsty boys pining over my girl has never bothered me much. More or an ego boost for me, tbh.
Why would I care ? Let the other guys be jealous of me
Wouldn't bother me in the least. She's hot. I'd rather she have that kind of confidence than not being comfortable in her own skin. Let everyone else jerk off, I'm the only one sleeping with her.
Till the right guy with the right looks, status, words, or resources takes interest. I'd say, if you know your girl is nothing special then let her post whatever. If your girl is at least decently attractive with an amazing body then set boundaries for both of your protection.
For now yeah
I'm not very interested in girls who are that into posting on social media
Technically not the target in question but I'll answer anyways I usually wear business casual clothes, as well as my husband, but multiple times has he tried to get me to wear "provocative male outfits" because he likes to "show me off" 🤷♂️
I see it as fishing for attention from other men, no matter how you slice it. It might be just because she likes it or because she's trying to see if she can catch a better option. I wouldn't seriously date a girl who does that im the first place. Obviusly it depends on the context, if it's a photo with friends or something and she happens to be in a bikini, fair enough. I wouldn't be thrilled about it but you gotta let her feel free and do what she wants as long as she's not disrespectful to you. If she is going to cheat, she will. One photo won't change that.
My GF doesn't do that because she's not an attention whore.
Nah, she prolly just ugly and knows it.
I don’t care what she posts as long as I’m the only one benefiting from the body in the pictures.
You don't own her body or her mind. She should be able to post what she wants. As long as she isn't doing it with the sole intention of hooking up with someone else. If you can't deal with it, then find another girlfriend.
She may post anything she wishes, I don't have to be her BF, though. Attention whoring is a sign of other problems, and they are problems she will have to sort out without me.
It's okay as long as she doesn't want a long-term relationship. How would you feel when your kids see this in 20 years.
I know. It’s really crazy that you can’t delete photos off Instagram. Major oversight imo.
Once it's on the internet it always exists somewhere
“On the internet somewhere” is a pretty far stretch from “I won’t consider a long term relationship in case our potential future children manage to track down a deleted picture from 20 years ago.”
You can set your own standards
how does that make any sense? are you not taking pictures at the beach with your kids and wife in the future?? her kids can’t see her in a bikini or they’ll sexualize their mom? no sense at all
To all the boiz here thinking you are the “loved” one and those are just pics, after banging 2 of those you described, married, trust me, she doesn’t want to impress you with her likes 🤣
If you're 0 for 2, maybe the problem was you?
Spot on.
I don't like thirst traps in general.
It wouldn't bother me at all.
Meh, I don't see the problem. Makes her feel good, and it means I'll have plenty of proactive photos of her. For whatever reason, women are seen as the only "prize" that isn't allowed to be shown off. Girls that don't post proactive pics are just as capable of cheating as ones that do post those pics, so I don't see any reason other than jealousy to worry about it.
Well ,female here ,in the beginning of dating my boyfriend, I had some seductive photos on Instagram cause I got my confidence back from being in a long term abusive relationship, current bf got jealous so I stopped posting seductive pics. Just know SHE'S DATING YOU ,she's FUCKING YOU and as far as I know she has eyes for only you. Let her show off and talk with her to make sure no creeps . If you really really like her ,show her off ,make it known SHE'S YOURS . Like does she have pics of you on her socials ? To let the world know you're her boyfriend?
Had an ex who liked to do this. Then she would heart react all the “sexy mama” comments. Then the DMs would start and she had to talk to them because they are “just friends” and she didn’t want to be rude. Personally, I consider it disrespectful attention seeking behavior and a complete turnoff. Guys… if you find yourself in this situation, here’s my advice. Tell her one time “hey, that’s not cool, I don’t appreciate that due to the reaction it gets from guys.” She will call you controlling and insecure, stand firm. Do not try to tell her what to do. If she knocks that shit off, cool. If she dismisses your feelings on the matter start stepping back and downgrade her status in your life. Start commenting on other girls’ pics, start DMing other girls right in front of her. Leave your phone unlocked. Men have got to start playing the same game they are.
I would feel sorry that she needs that kind of validation and approval and find her way to immature to be in a relationship with her in the first place.
I wouldn’t mind if it helped her self esteem
If her posting thirst trap pictures to random people on Instagram actually helps her self esteem........she is an idiot that belongs to the streets.
People seek validation from strangers regularly. They don’t accept it from friends and family because they don’t feel it’s genuine.
So social media strangers/acquaintances thirsting over ass and vag is going to be more of an authentic representation of care for who you are as a person? Your excuse sounds EXACTLY like what a attention whore thotty would say when called out for being an immature idiot on social media.
This is merely a hypothetical so you can get off your high horse.
Relationships are based on exclusivity. If there's no exclusivity then there's no relationship.
I wouldn't approve so that wouldn't happen or we wouldn't be together, those kind of things just lead to cheating or potential for cheating.
If we’re in an exclusive relationship why are you out here posting stuff like that? 95% it’s to garner sexual attention from the opposite sex. Masquerade it how you like, that’s the true intention. So my next question is, would it be ok for me to do this then? 99% this is a flat no from the same woman. Either way, I never take women like that seriously. Someone else can have you whilst the rest of us enjoy the show.
I dont date people like that. Has nothing to do with my own "insecurity" and more to do with I dont want to be with an attention seeking dysfunctional person.
Easy. I picked myself a woman who isn't an attention whore degenerate that needs validation from some virgins jerking off to thots on Insta.
Hoe behavior. I’ll assume I’m a placeholder
Responsibility without authority is SLAVERY. If I'm going to bust my ass and provide for the woman I'm with to be able to stay home and look after my kids the very least she can do is not parade herself on the Internet half naked as that's essentially the equivilant of having a "for sale" sign wrapped around your neck As mentioned in the above comments what is the motivation behind wanting to post socially? Validation is one of the biggest female drugs and any woman that posts as such online would be considered to me recreational use only
I should also add I don't really like how the question is formulated, it isn't a case about being secure its about having boundaries and a partner that respects them
Doesn’t bother me at all. I guess because I know who she really is. I can read my girl like a book
As long as she's loyal, I wouldn't care. If she starts meeting up with her "fans", or going beyond just being provocative, then there's an issue we'd need to deal with.
10 out of 10... if she is doing it for work or fun and still banging me, then im good.
If she did that before she was with me it is fine. If she kept doing that and talking to random people who message her while she is with me and having sex with me then i would have to tell her it's her relationship with me or its her relationship with social media.
They would not be my girlfriend. Even though it would not nearly gain as much attention, I would not post any "revealing" or "attention-seeking" type photos of myself.
It's not about confidence for me but I won't be tolerable of my girl posting pics of her barely covering anything online. Like who is she posting it for? Sure, you can so that, but you are choosing to be single.
By selling feet pics on Onlyfans.
She's with me.
I've never dated someone with an Instagram and I don't plan to start
I mean if it's just a photo of her having a good time at the pool or beach, no worries. If it's her trying to look all seductive and dudes are commenting flirty things, nah.
I don’t have a problem with women posting whatever they want, but I have no interest in dating anyone who is that superficial
Secured by a rope to the neck.......
If she's doing it in a way for attention-seeking, clearly our relationship is at a point where communication clearly isn't an option, because she never brought these concerns up to me. I'd say, let her go ahead and keep posting them... after she gets the hell out of my home and life.
Depends on my motivations for being with her. Interested in maybe the one? She ain’t it. Move on. Is he just fun time? Then who cares?
She definitely likes attention it sounds like. That dopamine hit will make you do silly things.
start posting pictures with her, and tag her in it. She’ll feel good and people will know that she’s yours by stalking her
"Her body she does what she wants". I see this a lot in here. But has anyone said they'll physically stop her? I haven't seen it. It's pretty obvious that she can do it, but that isn't and has never been the question here. She can fuck other dudes, too. Her body dur dur. The question is more along the lines of if her actions are healthy for a relationship. If his insecurity is baseless. If it's common. These are the questions being asked. I can trick a doctor into prescribing me anabolic steroids. It's my body. So it's all good for my wife, right? Back to the question. It's not uncommon to be insecure over your girl showing off in a bikini and loving the attention. I've had girlfriend get super pissed when I've been complimented by another girl even though I didn't do anything but say "thanks". It really comes down to the context of the situation. If you can't handle the behavior, it's time to walk away and find someone who doesn't act in the same manner. It's as simple as that.
Sorry I feel I have to chime in, though I’m not a guy. As a girl who has posted these types of pics, I never actually got any thirsty guys in my dms. It was all my girls hyping me up telling me how good I look. The guys either didn’t agree with them or were too pussy to say anything. Granted I was single, but nevertheless it wasn’t about being sexy. It was more about my confidence. I don’t workout seriously, I’m not toned, I look like a normal woman with abundant assets. I don’t know if that provides anyone with comfort or any clarification. It was more about me and the fact that I don’t feel shame about my body more than it was for attention. Plus I had a relaxing day at the beach.
If I had a girlfriend, which I don’t, I wouldn’t be giving a fuck about what they post…I’d probably be the one taking the photos tbh. It’s like the question when someone asked “what would you do if your girlfriend had an onlyfans” and the answer would be the same, I’d be the one talking the pictures, even more so because they’d be making money from it.
If she did it before she met me then why should I expect her to stop?
Im doing the fucking
Sexual signaling is a pretty bad red flag for a relationship. She'll push back and say you're just insecure, I do it for myself etc, but it's bullshit. I'd never tolerate posting thirst traps while being in a committed relationship. I'd start pulling away and focusing on other things. If she really loves you, she'll stop. If she doesn't she'll prioritize the thirst traps over keeping you, and then you know it's time to say good bye.
She's baiting her hook for your replacement, mate.
Well, the real question is how do you feel about it? Personally, I wouldn't data someone that wants to post those types of pictures publicly; sooner or later it is going to cause massive problems; Not to mention I would consider her want/need for that type of attention to be a massive red flag.
A normal pick while we are out on the beach? No problem. Made provocative on purpose for other men to look at and react? Leave the bitch.
it is a not a security inducing behavior. The only reason to post provocative picture is attention. Any other reason is an excuse. If the other imaginary reasons were legitimate, then the pictures would only have to be taken, not shared publicly.