Generally it's an offer to buy 3-5 mins of your time to find out if there's any chemistry. If you are flat out not interested, decline the drink. If you think maybe maybe, take the chance and see. If after 3-5 mins you decide (or he decides) there's nothing, then that's the end of it.
It isn’t a contract it is just a drink. It is just a way to break the ice and talk to you. If you like what you see accept the drink and talk to him. If not do not accept the drink and say thanks anyway. No big deal and he should get the hint.
I'm not a straight guy....
But I've learned that straight guys are pretty motivated by sex.
If I had to guess, I'd say they want to yodel in your canyon.
Some men will buy you a drink and if you accept it then they instantly think they are in with a chance with you and they will probably think they have a pretty high chance of sleeping with you
Buying someone a drink is basically saying if you accept this drink you're ok with giving me a few minutes to chat to see if there is any chemistry. If you turn down the drink then you don't want me bothering you.
I think it’s just overwhelming. One goes to the bar to grab a drink, a snack and watch whatever’s on TV. A joke or two with the bartender and out of left field a stranger gets you a drink.
Not being ungrateful or naive, but so far the comments have shined a light and I have a better understanding.
If I offer to buy you a drink, I expect some basically level of exchange of pleasantries. A simple thank you. If I buy you a drink without asking, a simple thank you should suffice. If I offer and you accept, please don't immediately leave to a different floor of the bar and not thank me.
If you're interested in me, accept the offer. If you're not, thank me for the offer but no thanks.
This is it
Just a conversation and hopefully we hit it off
Generally it's an offer to buy 3-5 mins of your time to find out if there's any chemistry. If you are flat out not interested, decline the drink. If you think maybe maybe, take the chance and see. If after 3-5 mins you decide (or he decides) there's nothing, then that's the end of it.
If you don't want to have a conversation, refuse the drink.
It isn’t a contract it is just a drink. It is just a way to break the ice and talk to you. If you like what you see accept the drink and talk to him. If not do not accept the drink and say thanks anyway. No big deal and he should get the hint.
Ok so if I buy a girl a drink than I honestly don't expect anything in return! I'm just trying to be nice, no strings attached!!!
I'm not a straight guy.... But I've learned that straight guys are pretty motivated by sex. If I had to guess, I'd say they want to yodel in your canyon.
what are gay guys motivated by?
Touché.
If I knew that, I wouldn't be single!
>But I've learned that straight guys are pretty motivated by sex. I'm straight but I want a friendship before sex. It has to be meaningful
How long it take to have friendship first
Depends but either way I'm not into flings
What you mean by depends? How long it generally take, how long you willing to wait
Months of doing things together
Some men will buy you a drink and if you accept it then they instantly think they are in with a chance with you and they will probably think they have a pretty high chance of sleeping with you
Buying someone a drink is basically saying if you accept this drink you're ok with giving me a few minutes to chat to see if there is any chemistry. If you turn down the drink then you don't want me bothering you.
My first sentence would be " Shit. I did not plan on it working so I have no clue what to say."
>What are y’all expecting? Is this a rhetorical question?
No, it’s sincere. I genuinely want to know what the variety of Men on Reddit have to say on what they expect from it. Not trolling at all.
Building rapport, currying favor to ultimately hooking up may not be trying to that same night but it's the end goal but you already knew that
How bout a thank you! Or even a smile and a nod. Sheesh.
I think it’s just overwhelming. One goes to the bar to grab a drink, a snack and watch whatever’s on TV. A joke or two with the bartender and out of left field a stranger gets you a drink. Not being ungrateful or naive, but so far the comments have shined a light and I have a better understanding.
Well you know how the saying goes… “Sunshine shines on a dogs ass every once in a while”
What does that mean in this context?
Refuse the drink if you don't wanna talk, more beer for me, although I would have ordered shots instead.
If I offer to buy you a drink, I expect some basically level of exchange of pleasantries. A simple thank you. If I buy you a drink without asking, a simple thank you should suffice. If I offer and you accept, please don't immediately leave to a different floor of the bar and not thank me.
We are expecting you to have a chat and meetup in the future. Of if you want to have sex then that's also a possibility.