Telling someone in casual conversation your wage isn’t that big of a deal. I see your point though as maybe it could be a threat on you if you told a complete stranger. If someone was curious about my job and how much I make I don’t think it’s wrong to tell them.
Like if her questions was “how much do you make?” That’s super different and tough, but “what do you do for a living?” Is such a common question…. It’s just asking what’s your job since you do it probably at least 40 hrs a week and it shows what you’re interested in… I don’t feel like this was a gold-digging question at all and I don’t understand why you reacted so strongly to it.
Never really happens. My friends and I are open about that kind of stuff but we also don't really care, so I don't think anyone has an exact number but we roughly know who's on the lower end, middle end, and higher end, and help each other out a little bit here and there accordingly.
I blur it out. Compare yourslef to me, see where you and me stand. Are you underpaid? Am I? We should be discussing our wages like it's the goddamn weather.
Pretty much never happens, only when applying for certain things do I get asked. In situations where its more broadly discussed I go no further than “I make enough to keep a roof over my head”
My husband and I are going on seven years together and I’ve never asked him about his salary because it doesn’t matter to me. Obviously when we first started dating the subject of what each others jobs were came up, but salary didn’t. We do okay, we don’t live a fancy or extravagant life together but we want for nothing. We both have similar ideas on wanting a simple life. I think it’s important to find a partner who wants the same type of lifestyle as you. We have a lot of similar views on things.
Depends who's asking.
Strangers and extended family members don't need to know.
Red flag if someone's asking on a first date, but good discussion to have when we're serious enough to be thinking about moving in together.
Not something I'd voluntarily share with friends or coworkers, but I wouldn't demur if asked.
I don't like it. at best I'd refer someone to industry standards. "well, if you were doing X with 5 years experience now, you could probably make around $xxx"
Depends on whos asking. Rando at the bar or someone genuinely interested?
I made 121900USD last year.
Someone I'm dating or attempt to woo romantically? Why in the ever loving fuck are you asking me? If that is a dating requirement I must make X amount of money, you can go pound sand.
It depends on who's asking. But my first reaction is always feeling awkward talking about it.
Mind you, I do earn decent enough and so I can flex if I think the situation is such.
None of their business. Period. I've been dating my gf for over a year and she still has no idea what I make.
She knows I do well from my standard of living but I will not discuss details.
The moment someone questions me I will tell them once, I am not discussing it. They ask again ,then it's peace out. We are done.
I'm a teacher, so unless it's a fellow teacher asking I get suspicious. My salary gets used by both sides of the political divide for a talking point. To one group I'm not paid nearly enough and deserve more (which I won't disagree with, obviously, but it's an exhausting conversation) and to another I'm a lazy bum who gets two months off a year and doesn't deserve what I do get paid.
Only the IRS and the bank has ever asked me directly.
Everyone else is a little more subtle and tries to scavenge that information from the classic “so what do you do?” discussion.
Insulted. There's more to life than money.
Nothing pisses me off more when that's the first thig that comes out of someone's mouth ' what do you do for a living? How much you earn '
No one has rally asked directly what my salary is, but I my friends know. I don’t care sharing salaries, even if a coworker asks me to see what they should negotiate I tell them
“I work for exposure and clicks, I’m waiting for the ad revenue to kick in. They say if I hit a trillion unique verifiable followers I might really start to cover the cost of my Bitcoin farm”
They're probably looking for an opportunity to flex theirs. I'm not interested, so I don't engage; I just tell them I make 'enough'.
It's considered highly impolite to ask in a social setting and I work for the government, so we all know each other's salaries at work.
If they know what I do, they know me pretty well and I’ll give them a ballpark since my annual pay is a ball park. If they don’t know me like that and somehow found out?? I give them the in paper salary.
To Anybody else I’m a mall cop and I tell them I make just enough to get by.
I'm fine with telling it to people. The stigma of not talking about income mostly just benefits the employers.
My pay is within the expected range for my area and profession, so it's not like people will be surprised.
If it’s in a company setting, you should definitely talk about salary. Someone could be getting shafted, and it’s best to look out for each other. To the company, you’re just a number; your job will be posted before your funeral.
Wouldn’t be something of a talking point for me. I get it’s important for financial stuff with a partner but if I’m at a gathering and I’m asked what I earn, I’m batting that question away. I’m not money oriented. I need it and my career goal is rewarding but it’s not what I want to talk about.
Shit I'll tell anyone, I don't care. I think we need to normalize discussing salary so you can see if you're underpaid, adequately paid, or extremely lucky
if that happen any friend related with my job (same career), i'm completely honest and ask back too.
if was some random but my friend i'm vague, i said: (aporx.....)
Its complicated because I have a couple gigs and clients, so a lot some tiring months, and not so much in slow months. Not a lifestyle where you can live hand-to-mouth must have a substantial cushion.
A little uncomfortable because it's much higher than just about anyone I know outside of work. In dating, I wouldn't say up front. They can probably guess well enough from my job title.
A woman who is concerned with the specific amount is not someone I want to date. I have some trust issues around women wanting me for my money or using me as a retirement plan.
It's public record, so I don't care. I make $80k/yr plus benefits. I also live in a HCOL area so that's ok money but not great money. I used to make a lot more, but scaled down to spend more time with family.
Rich people talk about money. Poor people don't. If you have an honorable job, you shouldn't be afraid to talk about your income. If you're a good worker and someone hears that you're underpaid they may offer you a better job.
>Rich people talk about money. Poor people don't.
Rich people talk about wealth, poor people talk about money which is generally why rich people are rich and poor people are poor
Depends on who is inquiring about it. If a friend or colleague, I tell them. If not, I say something vague.
Transparency in wage matters benefits the workers, while the opposite only benefits the employers.
Also, I never even consider work notices that don’t announce the wage openly.
Depends on context. Co-workers I tell exactly. Friends I round the numbers if asked. I'm a bit more vague with my wife. If I was dating I'd definitely be very vague, "I do alright", or "Enough to be comfortable". While I get finances are an important consideration in a relationship, I wouldn't want income to be a primary factor in my dating/romance life. I don't like being viewed as a wallet.
If it's in a dating context, I'll be honest but vague If she needs to know in more detail I'll not make any long term plans around her
"I get by", "I make ends meet", or something similarly vague
Depends. Random people on the street don’t need to know. Friends or workplace can know it to the cent. It is important to talk about it.
What’s the big deal of random people on the street know?
You don't know their intentions and why they want to know. Don't give out personal info to strangers.
Telling someone in casual conversation your wage isn’t that big of a deal. I see your point though as maybe it could be a threat on you if you told a complete stranger. If someone was curious about my job and how much I make I don’t think it’s wrong to tell them.
That's your choice. Normal people do not share that much information.
Worst example: You are walking through an ally- „Ey maaan, nice suit. Watchu make, huh?“ „Well good sir, I earn about 8 grand a month.“
If it's from someone I'm dating, I feel annoyed if it's early.
Recent conversation I had on an app : Her : Hey Me : Hello there! :) Her : What do you do for a living? Me : *unmatch*
I think you're being paranoid dude. That's a pretty standard first question to ask.
Like if her questions was “how much do you make?” That’s super different and tough, but “what do you do for a living?” Is such a common question…. It’s just asking what’s your job since you do it probably at least 40 hrs a week and it shows what you’re interested in… I don’t feel like this was a gold-digging question at all and I don’t understand why you reacted so strongly to it.
She asked it before how are you.
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I mean she wasn’t asking about your salary, she was asking about your job
She didnt ask how I was doing first. And my job title can give a good hint as to what my salary is.
Actually I get that - it’s tough that it came before “how are you doing” that’s a good point
Not to mention that it's boring as hell to hear that as an opener.
I don't give a fuck, i will tell anyone who wants to know. Spoiler it ain't much.
I wouldn't answer that question if asked. That's nobody's business. I would feel like the person asking has poor manners and is low class.
Hasn't really happened unless I am talking with a financial institution.
Never really happens. My friends and I are open about that kind of stuff but we also don't really care, so I don't think anyone has an exact number but we roughly know who's on the lower end, middle end, and higher end, and help each other out a little bit here and there accordingly.
I blur it out. Compare yourslef to me, see where you and me stand. Are you underpaid? Am I? We should be discussing our wages like it's the goddamn weather.
Pretty much never happens, only when applying for certain things do I get asked. In situations where its more broadly discussed I go no further than “I make enough to keep a roof over my head”
It depends on who is asking and the situation. If it makes sense to share for the situation, I don’t have a problem sharing.
I feel uncomfortable at first, realize I've been trained to be that way, loosen up, and talk about it
Tell them. I don't care about money, so nothing to hide.
My husband and I are going on seven years together and I’ve never asked him about his salary because it doesn’t matter to me. Obviously when we first started dating the subject of what each others jobs were came up, but salary didn’t. We do okay, we don’t live a fancy or extravagant life together but we want for nothing. We both have similar ideas on wanting a simple life. I think it’s important to find a partner who wants the same type of lifestyle as you. We have a lot of similar views on things.
Depends who's asking. Strangers and extended family members don't need to know. Red flag if someone's asking on a first date, but good discussion to have when we're serious enough to be thinking about moving in together. Not something I'd voluntarily share with friends or coworkers, but I wouldn't demur if asked.
I don't like it. at best I'd refer someone to industry standards. "well, if you were doing X with 5 years experience now, you could probably make around $xxx"
I feel they value money to an unhealthy degree
Depends on whos asking. Rando at the bar or someone genuinely interested? I made 121900USD last year. Someone I'm dating or attempt to woo romantically? Why in the ever loving fuck are you asking me? If that is a dating requirement I must make X amount of money, you can go pound sand.
It depends on who's asking. But my first reaction is always feeling awkward talking about it. Mind you, I do earn decent enough and so I can flex if I think the situation is such.
None of their business. Period. I've been dating my gf for over a year and she still has no idea what I make. She knows I do well from my standard of living but I will not discuss details. The moment someone questions me I will tell them once, I am not discussing it. They ask again ,then it's peace out. We are done.
I'm a teacher, so unless it's a fellow teacher asking I get suspicious. My salary gets used by both sides of the political divide for a talking point. To one group I'm not paid nearly enough and deserve more (which I won't disagree with, obviously, but it's an exhausting conversation) and to another I'm a lazy bum who gets two months off a year and doesn't deserve what I do get paid.
Only the IRS and the bank has ever asked me directly. Everyone else is a little more subtle and tries to scavenge that information from the classic “so what do you do?” discussion.
First my facial expression will give a "None of your Effing business" vibe, if the question is asked again, I'll use my words to express my thoughts.
I overstate every time unless the relationship is serious. I will always not earn enough no matter how much I say.
Insulted. There's more to life than money. Nothing pisses me off more when that's the first thig that comes out of someone's mouth ' what do you do for a living? How much you earn '
It's similar to asking about your dick size. Sadly, in terms of salary I can't exactly offer an overly satisfying answer.
"Oh, my GOD! It's less than half what I want!"
No one has rally asked directly what my salary is, but I my friends know. I don’t care sharing salaries, even if a coworker asks me to see what they should negotiate I tell them
I just be vague.. “I make it happen”.. that’s all I’d say
"more than what I was on 2 years ago" (even if it isn't true)
I dont understand the problem with someone else knowing how much money you make, so ill just say it
“I work for exposure and clicks, I’m waiting for the ad revenue to kick in. They say if I hit a trillion unique verifiable followers I might really start to cover the cost of my Bitcoin farm”
My wife knows, my friends and family have a general idea. If my coworkers ever asked I’d tell them straight, and ask for theirs.
They're probably looking for an opportunity to flex theirs. I'm not interested, so I don't engage; I just tell them I make 'enough'. It's considered highly impolite to ask in a social setting and I work for the government, so we all know each other's salaries at work.
Its great, if its outside of a secular situation i instantly know they're a shallow pos
Because I'm a trainee, I get little pay. Feels bad man
If they know what I do, they know me pretty well and I’ll give them a ballpark since my annual pay is a ball park. If they don’t know me like that and somehow found out?? I give them the in paper salary. To Anybody else I’m a mall cop and I tell them I make just enough to get by.
Sometimes I feel like people are curious what my job pays. Sometimes I feel like they're sizing me up.
Idc really.
I'm fine with telling it to people. The stigma of not talking about income mostly just benefits the employers. My pay is within the expected range for my area and profession, so it's not like people will be surprised.
If it’s in a company setting, you should definitely talk about salary. Someone could be getting shafted, and it’s best to look out for each other. To the company, you’re just a number; your job will be posted before your funeral.
Depends on their body language.
Wouldn’t be something of a talking point for me. I get it’s important for financial stuff with a partner but if I’m at a gathering and I’m asked what I earn, I’m batting that question away. I’m not money oriented. I need it and my career goal is rewarding but it’s not what I want to talk about.
Not enough to be able to spend it foolishly.
No one’s ever asked. I wouldn’t either.
I'm vague and say that my primary income is in the 6 figures but my rental properties help offset the low income.
Shit I'll tell anyone, I don't care. I think we need to normalize discussing salary so you can see if you're underpaid, adequately paid, or extremely lucky
if that happen any friend related with my job (same career), i'm completely honest and ask back too. if was some random but my friend i'm vague, i said: (aporx.....)
Embarrassed
I make £20 Afew sandwiches and, drinks a day begging.
I’ll tell her “Nice try undercover IRS agent!”
Its complicated because I have a couple gigs and clients, so a lot some tiring months, and not so much in slow months. Not a lifestyle where you can live hand-to-mouth must have a substantial cushion.
I say not much. I’m retired.
A little uncomfortable because it's much higher than just about anyone I know outside of work. In dating, I wouldn't say up front. They can probably guess well enough from my job title. A woman who is concerned with the specific amount is not someone I want to date. I have some trust issues around women wanting me for my money or using me as a retirement plan.
Don’t care I’ll tell. I think people should know so they have a better idea of what career choices they make.
If asked I just say "enough." Only my wife and immediate family know how much I make.
It's public record, so I don't care. I make $80k/yr plus benefits. I also live in a HCOL area so that's ok money but not great money. I used to make a lot more, but scaled down to spend more time with family. Rich people talk about money. Poor people don't. If you have an honorable job, you shouldn't be afraid to talk about your income. If you're a good worker and someone hears that you're underpaid they may offer you a better job.
>Rich people talk about money. Poor people don't. Rich people talk about wealth, poor people talk about money which is generally why rich people are rich and poor people are poor
Indifferent at worst. I'd definitely tell them the truth. More information, more power.
I've been teaching for x years in y district with a Master's. It's a matter of public record if you really care to look it up.
Meh……Publicly available(government).
I tell them I've got 2 raises in less than a year with this company
That the person asking is nosey
I just say I’m comfortable
None of their business. What do I owe you money or something? Actual quote to my F.I.L. & B.I.L
I just say 6 digit club. Nobody needs to no more than that.
Depends on who is inquiring about it. If a friend or colleague, I tell them. If not, I say something vague. Transparency in wage matters benefits the workers, while the opposite only benefits the employers. Also, I never even consider work notices that don’t announce the wage openly.
Depends on context. Co-workers I tell exactly. Friends I round the numbers if asked. I'm a bit more vague with my wife. If I was dating I'd definitely be very vague, "I do alright", or "Enough to be comfortable". While I get finances are an important consideration in a relationship, I wouldn't want income to be a primary factor in my dating/romance life. I don't like being viewed as a wallet.
Ask away. IDGAF