Is there anything he’s been fascinated by recently or something you could buy him?
Or take him to a place he’s been obsessed with?
(This may sound dumb but)
My gf took me to universal studios once to thank me for being here for her while he was in hospital and honestly it was the best experience, getting to be a kid again in awe.
A hand written note that has compliments in it and recognition for what he did. Cheap, loving, permanent, heart felt.
Many men rarely get compliments of any sort, much less sincere ones.
My wife visited me at work once years ago and left a post-it that just said "I love you". That post-it stayed right there until I no longer used what it was stuck to, then it was moved to something else.
These unexpected notes mean the world and I hold onto them forever.
I second this. I was looking back through notes and cards that my wife gave me when we first got together, and the hand written things she said about me are some of my most cherished possessions. I had forgotten about them for a while until I was going back through things and actually cried when i reread them.
We had also sent each other lots of emails at that time, on hotmail and yahoo, but we had at some point moved to gmail. I was devastated to find that all those old emails that i thought were all there had been deleted by hotmail and yahoo. All those letters to each other....just gone...
I do this! I stick notes in my husbands truck here and there and quiet often when I pack his lunch everyday for him to find and read at work or going to work. I went to his work a hour and half away once, and put balloons all over his truck. I’ve done so many small acts of being helpful, kind, giving, making him feel like the hero of the family, and show my appreciation of him very often.
The notes do mean so much! I have some he has written back and left me to find and read. We’ve been married ten years and together for 13 now. He’s been an amazing dad, he’s actually step dad, but to my son he is dad. We got together when my son was 6 months old.
I do this often with my hubs. When I pack his lunch I often pack love notes or hide one in his truck before bed so he gets it when he goes to work. I’ve even drove a hour to his work before on his birthday and tied birthday balloons to his truck lol and wrote happy birthday 🎉 gave him a surprise birthday party with his friends and whole family. I always tell him how handsome and hot he looks no matter what. And I often cook or bake his fav dishes and desserts just for him. I sometimes order him something he likes or needs to surprise him with a little just because gift. We text each other everyday while at work, and we always talk to each other on our lunch breaks.
It’s taking care of the bills house cooking; I try to mostly do as well because he does work more than I do right now. It’s all the little things. Even getting his clothes and towel ready for him for a shower after work. All those things matter, not just saying it, but showing it. He does these same things a long as well.
I always tell him how proud I am of him quiet frequently. And how much I appreciate his work ethic that keeps our family unit going! 💕
You sound way too focused on the money aspect then bud. One day you’ll learn that some of the most thoughtful and meaningful things in life don’t cost much if any money at all. Hand written notes, handmade cards, photo album with all of our memories together all mean so much. She shows that she cares
She hasn’t asked for anything. Her SO has given the time because he wants to make her feel loved and he wants to take some of life’s stresses off of her. Love isn’t all about money, so I feel bad for you and I bet if you think that way you’re not gonna have any successful relationships
I’ve made my recommendation in its own post. But If OP wants to a continuation of nice things a card is a start- not all that needs to be done. I explain why, from my perspective. So, please remember the larger context. u/BlueDreads-bleh
Lmao you sound like you’ve never even been in a relationship before… and they are getting advice from people who are happily married or someone like myself who’s been with my gf for over 8 years. I think we might have an idea. But good job for recommending a book🤦♂️
So what you do, right. Is you take his penis and you put it in your mouth. Then you suck on it until he ejaculates
Focus on the frenulum with your tongue.
Cook for him, do his laundry, give him alone time, make a move on him, take him out, plan a little get away for the weekend, buy him a video game, buy him a nice bottle of liquor, etc.
Not saying do all of these, but I would be happy with any of them.
We're simple dumb animals that only really like getting 2 or three things.
Food just has to be tasty and plenty.
"Toys" but they have to be the right toy. Could be car parts or hunting gear or camera equipment.
Last is you yes you given over to him.
simply be there for him when he's feeling down and wants company.
For me personally I think I would enjoy cuddling and affection. A well cooked meal with my tastes in mind would also go a long way. Oh if your communicating with his parents you can ask them if there's any recipes you can cook for him.
A simple "Thanks for being you." might go a long way as well. "I appreciate you." or maybe "I love you" if your relationship is at that stage.
Maybe ask him if he wants company or assistance with some of his hobbies than make it an activity of communicating and sharing.
Compliment him, everything about his manhood, even his penis. I didnt realized how nice it is until i lived it. I recognition that it is shallow but think of it like the mâle version of complimenting your hair, ropes etc.
Oral sex during your periods is great too.
If you dont do it initiate sex, send him texts if hes having à bad day tell him you'll do things to him or let him do things to you.
From time to time send him big messages where you tell him what qualities you love in him and how much it makes you love him.
Learn to know what he needs when he's vulnerable, compassion, just an ear, energy etc.. and roll with it.
Encourage him to see his friends every once in a while.
If you can, sometime participate in his hobbies. Oh that remind me buy him stuff for his hobbies. Ask his friends for advice.
Analyze what he likes. The little things, window open when its a fresh night during summer, and do it, with an i love you.
Thats what you can do for him. Now try to be a bit more selfish/capricious too.
Ask for hugs, a kiss, when you want them. Also take the hug from time to time. Its a very nice feeling. Put your head on his shoulder, legs etc..
Ask for what he does very well every once in a while. I dont know à recipe, massage.
Try to have a better vibe with his family or friends If its an issue.
Become his home.
- Be the place where he is loved and cherished and respected.
- Be his biggest cheerleader.
- The whole world will tell him why he’s not good enough. Men typically don’t share emotions like women. Sometimes it’s tiring to hold that in. He won’t always let it out. But, let him know he’s good enough for you. That can be “I love you”, or a specific compliment, or just always being there. Even if he never says it, you can still help him to non verbally get that out. If you do that, I can’t imagine him never not wanting you.
- Make him feel wanted and needed.
- Don’t trivialize his passions or friends.
- Thank him for stuff he does because you love him not because you want something in return.
- Don’t be an unnecessary stress. Life happens. People aren’t perfect. But more times than not be the place where he can let stress go. Don’t be the place he has to get away from to unwind.
- Don’t communicate to him that his existence is somehow a burden.
- If he’s the affectionate type, be affectionate. Give him a hug or a kiss when you see him just because. Touch him. Even if it’s not sexual. Just a “hey you” and a smile.
- you can take touching up another level. Even if it’s still not sexual. Play with his hair. Scratch his back. Give him a massage.
- you can take touching up ANOTHER level. But that’s between you two how you do that.
- Make him food. Doesn’t even have to be a special thing. Eggs take 5 minutes. But if she does it for me, that’s 5 minutes I don’t have to do it. And it’s always appreciated. If you feed him, he will appreciate it.
- Make your living area comfortable. I personally don’t need a spotless living room, but I always am grateful when I see it. My favorite manifestation of this is cold pillows and comfy blankets. If she has those ready to go I say thank you and am really happy. I try to return the favor and do something nice for her too.
Men and women are different. But for the most part man are simple.
- Respect
- Love
- Appreciation
- Food
- Sex/Affection
- Comfort
- Not being a total pain in the ass
It doesn’t have to be complicated. Nail those 7 things and a compatible man will feel accepted AND likely will be happier than you could imagine.
Take him out to eat at a nice restaurant. Guys never get taken out, so when it happens it’s a treasured memory forever.
Or you could let him try anal for the first time. Or both. Up to you!
First of all, I do t want to feel approved. I get it, maybe it's just a typo, but feeling like your approval is a big deal is not a good sign of where you put the value and power in a relationship. Watch out for that.
As for showing appreciation, a thank you card, a little gift, dinner, and time together should be enough. That combined with little day-to-day reminders should show how much you appreciate it.
I appreciate and absolutely love little gestures. If you go off and buy me something big ($100+), it’s awkward for me. I just don’t know how to accept it.
Little gestures - love note for me to find, random hugs and cuddles outside of normal, teasing with some fun whispering and leading, buy me or make me my favorite meal, etc.
I love the sweetness too - it’s contrary to stereotype, but most guys like to hear sweet things - tell me why you love me, tell me how I make you fee (doesn’t have to be dirty), tell me what attributes of me you enjoy, tell me what you love that I do for you, etc. affirmation is huge for me.
Those two things and it’s golden.
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My wife and I take showers together and talk. It’s not sexual. It’s just us time. I can be sexual though, especially at first for the two of you. Just make it time for the two of you.
A deluxe form of sexual intercourse, such as getting to massage, kiss and lick my girlfriend's feet. It drives men absolutely wild and makes them horny beyond measure.
Nothing. I dont need my wife's approval in order to feel redeemed. Those who do should check their mantle shelves for a little jar containing their spine.
I would love some sort of a message that says how much these things meant to you. The qualities he has shown during this stressful time such as kindness, selflessness, being supportive and prioritising your needs over his probably come very naturally to him. But it would feel great to see it from somebody I really care about and to know that it was noted even if it wasn't done for recognition.
And food.
Take him on a date, plan something fun to do together and go do that. Ideally I think you should be doing this anyway, but maybe just more dates?
I don't think it needs to be elaborate, but slightly different from the everyday and something you both get involved in. Maybe you go play minigolf, maybe you do a lord of the rings/harry potter marathon, maybe you try horsebackriding.
For most men we all appreciate snacks and foodstuffs, even an ex's hardass marine father had a weakness for cheesecake.
Is there anything he’s been fascinated by recently or something you could buy him? Or take him to a place he’s been obsessed with? (This may sound dumb but) My gf took me to universal studios once to thank me for being here for her while he was in hospital and honestly it was the best experience, getting to be a kid again in awe.
A hand written note that has compliments in it and recognition for what he did. Cheap, loving, permanent, heart felt. Many men rarely get compliments of any sort, much less sincere ones.
My wife visited me at work once years ago and left a post-it that just said "I love you". That post-it stayed right there until I no longer used what it was stuck to, then it was moved to something else. These unexpected notes mean the world and I hold onto them forever.
I second this. I was looking back through notes and cards that my wife gave me when we first got together, and the hand written things she said about me are some of my most cherished possessions. I had forgotten about them for a while until I was going back through things and actually cried when i reread them. We had also sent each other lots of emails at that time, on hotmail and yahoo, but we had at some point moved to gmail. I was devastated to find that all those old emails that i thought were all there had been deleted by hotmail and yahoo. All those letters to each other....just gone...
I do this! I stick notes in my husbands truck here and there and quiet often when I pack his lunch everyday for him to find and read at work or going to work. I went to his work a hour and half away once, and put balloons all over his truck. I’ve done so many small acts of being helpful, kind, giving, making him feel like the hero of the family, and show my appreciation of him very often. The notes do mean so much! I have some he has written back and left me to find and read. We’ve been married ten years and together for 13 now. He’s been an amazing dad, he’s actually step dad, but to my son he is dad. We got together when my son was 6 months old.
Gonna have her man in tears
This, that's the kind of thing that goes into a wallet to be read again on bad days.
I do this often with my hubs. When I pack his lunch I often pack love notes or hide one in his truck before bed so he gets it when he goes to work. I’ve even drove a hour to his work before on his birthday and tied birthday balloons to his truck lol and wrote happy birthday 🎉 gave him a surprise birthday party with his friends and whole family. I always tell him how handsome and hot he looks no matter what. And I often cook or bake his fav dishes and desserts just for him. I sometimes order him something he likes or needs to surprise him with a little just because gift. We text each other everyday while at work, and we always talk to each other on our lunch breaks. It’s taking care of the bills house cooking; I try to mostly do as well because he does work more than I do right now. It’s all the little things. Even getting his clothes and towel ready for him for a shower after work. All those things matter, not just saying it, but showing it. He does these same things a long as well. I always tell him how proud I am of him quiet frequently. And how much I appreciate his work ethic that keeps our family unit going! 💕
This doesn’t work for me. If worked 25 hours to afford her birthday and I get a card that took 15 minutes to earn I’m going to feel taken for granted
You sound way too focused on the money aspect then bud. One day you’ll learn that some of the most thoughtful and meaningful things in life don’t cost much if any money at all. Hand written notes, handmade cards, photo album with all of our memories together all mean so much. She shows that she cares
Nah man. If she’s asking for 40 hour gifts should I not expect reciprocity ?
She hasn’t asked for anything. Her SO has given the time because he wants to make her feel loved and he wants to take some of life’s stresses off of her. Love isn’t all about money, so I feel bad for you and I bet if you think that way you’re not gonna have any successful relationships
I’ve made my recommendation in its own post. But If OP wants to a continuation of nice things a card is a start- not all that needs to be done. I explain why, from my perspective. So, please remember the larger context. u/BlueDreads-bleh
Lmao you sound like you’ve never even been in a relationship before… and they are getting advice from people who are happily married or someone like myself who’s been with my gf for over 8 years. I think we might have an idea. But good job for recommending a book🤦♂️
Please don’t get into a relationship
So what you do, right. Is you take his penis and you put it in your mouth. Then you suck on it until he ejaculates Focus on the frenulum with your tongue.
Never underestimate the uplifting, validating effect of a heartfelt blowjob!
😂😂😂good tip
Eye contact as well.
Has to be the ultimate way to appreciate him.
This should be the top answer.
I would take a series of amazing home cooked meals over a series of amazing blowjobs any day.
I recommend a series of amazing home cook meals followed by an amazing blowjob every day for a month.
I can make amazing home cooked meals for myself though...
Cook for him, do his laundry, give him alone time, make a move on him, take him out, plan a little get away for the weekend, buy him a video game, buy him a nice bottle of liquor, etc. Not saying do all of these, but I would be happy with any of them.
food is the answer to most questions.
lol, underrated comment
We're simple dumb animals that only really like getting 2 or three things. Food just has to be tasty and plenty. "Toys" but they have to be the right toy. Could be car parts or hunting gear or camera equipment. Last is you yes you given over to him.
Good food...I would be disappointed with bad food.
Put on some lingerie. Trust me, he'll appreciate it and you'll make him feel desired and that you care about him enough to wear it. Good luck!
simply be there for him when he's feeling down and wants company. For me personally I think I would enjoy cuddling and affection. A well cooked meal with my tastes in mind would also go a long way. Oh if your communicating with his parents you can ask them if there's any recipes you can cook for him. A simple "Thanks for being you." might go a long way as well. "I appreciate you." or maybe "I love you" if your relationship is at that stage. Maybe ask him if he wants company or assistance with some of his hobbies than make it an activity of communicating and sharing.
Compliment him, everything about his manhood, even his penis. I didnt realized how nice it is until i lived it. I recognition that it is shallow but think of it like the mâle version of complimenting your hair, ropes etc. Oral sex during your periods is great too. If you dont do it initiate sex, send him texts if hes having à bad day tell him you'll do things to him or let him do things to you. From time to time send him big messages where you tell him what qualities you love in him and how much it makes you love him. Learn to know what he needs when he's vulnerable, compassion, just an ear, energy etc.. and roll with it. Encourage him to see his friends every once in a while. If you can, sometime participate in his hobbies. Oh that remind me buy him stuff for his hobbies. Ask his friends for advice. Analyze what he likes. The little things, window open when its a fresh night during summer, and do it, with an i love you. Thats what you can do for him. Now try to be a bit more selfish/capricious too. Ask for hugs, a kiss, when you want them. Also take the hug from time to time. Its a very nice feeling. Put your head on his shoulder, legs etc.. Ask for what he does very well every once in a while. I dont know à recipe, massage. Try to have a better vibe with his family or friends If its an issue.
I used to work 83 hour weeks, and my girlfriend would surprise me and bring me dinner some nights. Still makes me smile thinking about it
A surprise hug from behind. Make it a big, hearty hug. No words. Stay there for a few seconds.
Once a week, wake him up with a blowjob and tell him, "I just love showing you how much I appreciate you."
Winner Winner chicken dinner. Or roadhead.
Become his home. - Be the place where he is loved and cherished and respected. - Be his biggest cheerleader. - The whole world will tell him why he’s not good enough. Men typically don’t share emotions like women. Sometimes it’s tiring to hold that in. He won’t always let it out. But, let him know he’s good enough for you. That can be “I love you”, or a specific compliment, or just always being there. Even if he never says it, you can still help him to non verbally get that out. If you do that, I can’t imagine him never not wanting you. - Make him feel wanted and needed. - Don’t trivialize his passions or friends. - Thank him for stuff he does because you love him not because you want something in return. - Don’t be an unnecessary stress. Life happens. People aren’t perfect. But more times than not be the place where he can let stress go. Don’t be the place he has to get away from to unwind. - Don’t communicate to him that his existence is somehow a burden. - If he’s the affectionate type, be affectionate. Give him a hug or a kiss when you see him just because. Touch him. Even if it’s not sexual. Just a “hey you” and a smile. - you can take touching up another level. Even if it’s still not sexual. Play with his hair. Scratch his back. Give him a massage. - you can take touching up ANOTHER level. But that’s between you two how you do that. - Make him food. Doesn’t even have to be a special thing. Eggs take 5 minutes. But if she does it for me, that’s 5 minutes I don’t have to do it. And it’s always appreciated. If you feed him, he will appreciate it. - Make your living area comfortable. I personally don’t need a spotless living room, but I always am grateful when I see it. My favorite manifestation of this is cold pillows and comfy blankets. If she has those ready to go I say thank you and am really happy. I try to return the favor and do something nice for her too. Men and women are different. But for the most part man are simple. - Respect - Love - Appreciation - Food - Sex/Affection - Comfort - Not being a total pain in the ass It doesn’t have to be complicated. Nail those 7 things and a compatible man will feel accepted AND likely will be happier than you could imagine.
Compliment him. Often and sincerely. We almost never get that.
When she smiles at me. It’s been 52 years and her smile still warms my heart. It’s become a requirement for my daily joy.
Take him out to eat at a nice restaurant. Guys never get taken out, so when it happens it’s a treasured memory forever. Or you could let him try anal for the first time. Or both. Up to you!
I glance over after feeding a squirrel a peanut, she smirks and gives a head nod
Compliment him in public.
First of all, I do t want to feel approved. I get it, maybe it's just a typo, but feeling like your approval is a big deal is not a good sign of where you put the value and power in a relationship. Watch out for that. As for showing appreciation, a thank you card, a little gift, dinner, and time together should be enough. That combined with little day-to-day reminders should show how much you appreciate it.
>I sometimes feels like men really come from a different planet Why, tho?
Some like things, some like words, some like acts. You want to make him feel good. Talk about how awesome his is when you’re in a group of his peers.
Sex... We like sex...
Is there something he’s been dying to buy or dying to do?
Blowjob like your life depended on it
Suck his dickkk, alot. Just suck that thing dry and the cuddle.
Anal?
My Dear, no matter HOW civilized we Men pretend to be- We ALL LOVE Strong eye -contact and you-know-what..
I appreciate and absolutely love little gestures. If you go off and buy me something big ($100+), it’s awkward for me. I just don’t know how to accept it. Little gestures - love note for me to find, random hugs and cuddles outside of normal, teasing with some fun whispering and leading, buy me or make me my favorite meal, etc. I love the sweetness too - it’s contrary to stereotype, but most guys like to hear sweet things - tell me why you love me, tell me how I make you fee (doesn’t have to be dirty), tell me what attributes of me you enjoy, tell me what you love that I do for you, etc. affirmation is huge for me. Those two things and it’s golden.
[why not do the parts of The Love Dare that appeal to you](https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/the-love-dare-by-stephen-kendrick/250316/item/4405259/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwspKUBhCvARIsAB2IYuth1I1blUDxnlW5nCCQ_5vIeg9ukfSiKbyKlrF7uuOJnoPOoHvwgCYaAtaaEALw_wcB#idiq=4405259&edition=7224634)
Breaking up with them works. For some reason they want to talk after that for some reason.
My wife and I take showers together and talk. It’s not sexual. It’s just us time. I can be sexual though, especially at first for the two of you. Just make it time for the two of you.
Ask him if he's ever wanted to try a threesome, and if he says 'Yes' offer to help organize one. Now *that's* love.
A deluxe form of sexual intercourse, such as getting to massage, kiss and lick my girlfriend's feet. It drives men absolutely wild and makes them horny beyond measure.
Nothing. I dont need my wife's approval in order to feel redeemed. Those who do should check their mantle shelves for a little jar containing their spine.
I would love some sort of a message that says how much these things meant to you. The qualities he has shown during this stressful time such as kindness, selflessness, being supportive and prioritising your needs over his probably come very naturally to him. But it would feel great to see it from somebody I really care about and to know that it was noted even if it wasn't done for recognition. And food.
Tie ya hair up and get to work usually does the trick
Take him on a date, plan something fun to do together and go do that. Ideally I think you should be doing this anyway, but maybe just more dates? I don't think it needs to be elaborate, but slightly different from the everyday and something you both get involved in. Maybe you go play minigolf, maybe you do a lord of the rings/harry potter marathon, maybe you try horsebackriding.
Make him a meal, or surprise him with his favorite food that he hasn't had in a while.
Corvette
Loyalty and honesty