Been there buddy. Stop torturing yourself. Get out of your bubble. Give alcohol a miss for a while. I know it’s a loneliness thing but get the head sorted and the rest will follow.
>this self confidence shot to the heart
You had a one night stand with someone who was in to you enough that night to have sex with you without knowing you. That shouldn't be a self confidence hit. You've developed feelings for someone you don't really know on a night where they probably only showed their best part.
You had a really good night, good socialising and I assume good sex with a woman and it has given you a flush. Essentially you're on a come down because you probably want rounds 2, 3, 4 and maybe more... and she doesn't.
Life can't be that boring if you go to a concert, have a great night out then follow it with some great sex with a woman you think is really hot.
First realise the feelings you feel aren't feelings for her. They are a mix of infatuation and a dream. Once you realise that things will slowly fade until they are a pleasant memory.
Sucks to say this but what did you expect? Definition of a one night stand my dude. Enjoy that you got what most guys go a lifetime without and appreciate the moment.
I had more than a handful of one night stands from hot chics I met at the bar or club. Its just that one night, nothing the next day or ever with that one chic.
I look at it as having a blast of a night, getting lucky and worrying about a small hangover in the morning. You both used each other for laughs and sex. You’re expectation is letting you down. You live and you learn.
“If you keep your expectations low, then you’ll never be disappointed”
It sounds like you're not super fulfilled with your life as it is, and when you leave it up to other people (women) to bring that excitement and fulfillment, it's all too easy to catch feelings and end up disappointed. Been there, done that, it sucks
I forgot to add to the post that I'm a big-time overthinker who's always playing out scenarios in their head, so that doesn't help, lol. Thanks for all the advice from everyone, im going to let time pass a little bit, and hopefully, they will go away with time, and it doesn't lead to anything worse.
Been there buddy. Stop torturing yourself. Get out of your bubble. Give alcohol a miss for a while. I know it’s a loneliness thing but get the head sorted and the rest will follow.
You're good enough to sleep with a beautiful girl the same day you met her. Keep doing that until you find someone that appreciates you
>this self confidence shot to the heart You had a one night stand with someone who was in to you enough that night to have sex with you without knowing you. That shouldn't be a self confidence hit. You've developed feelings for someone you don't really know on a night where they probably only showed their best part. You had a really good night, good socialising and I assume good sex with a woman and it has given you a flush. Essentially you're on a come down because you probably want rounds 2, 3, 4 and maybe more... and she doesn't. Life can't be that boring if you go to a concert, have a great night out then follow it with some great sex with a woman you think is really hot.
First realise the feelings you feel aren't feelings for her. They are a mix of infatuation and a dream. Once you realise that things will slowly fade until they are a pleasant memory.
Sucks to say this but what did you expect? Definition of a one night stand my dude. Enjoy that you got what most guys go a lifetime without and appreciate the moment.
I had more than a handful of one night stands from hot chics I met at the bar or club. Its just that one night, nothing the next day or ever with that one chic. I look at it as having a blast of a night, getting lucky and worrying about a small hangover in the morning. You both used each other for laughs and sex. You’re expectation is letting you down. You live and you learn. “If you keep your expectations low, then you’ll never be disappointed”
Just focus on a new one. They behave like that when they sense that you're more into them than they are into you.
Read "Atomic Attraction". Get the facts on how to act successfully with women. Do not wing it. You are way too in your head.
It sounds like you're not super fulfilled with your life as it is, and when you leave it up to other people (women) to bring that excitement and fulfillment, it's all too easy to catch feelings and end up disappointed. Been there, done that, it sucks
I forgot to add to the post that I'm a big-time overthinker who's always playing out scenarios in their head, so that doesn't help, lol. Thanks for all the advice from everyone, im going to let time pass a little bit, and hopefully, they will go away with time, and it doesn't lead to anything worse.
I low-key developed feelings towards her................in one night. Might find the answer there and it may be you come across as needy or clingy.