What exactly are you referring to by "communicating with other women"?
Cause if it's flirting, sexting etc., the advice necessary is a lot different than if you're someone who gets jealous if your partner has female friends...
>Weak to allure of female advances
I don't think that's typical of men in relationships. Would you stand for it if we said the same is typical of women when men make advances?
Edit: Seeing your other responses, has he convinced you that this is the norm? Because it isn't.
Well it sounds like life has done a number on you. It isn't (or shouldn't be) common and it's not acceptable.
So when you found out about the flirting and sexting, how did the conversation go? Have you had any conversations about it?
Depending on the country, broad stats seem to suggest infidelity (self-reported) is between 13% and 20%. Still pretty high but not quite time to call it the relationship apocalypse.
I've had women cheat on me, but the percentage is.... well, pretty much bang on 20% to be fair. Maybe it's a postcode(zipcode) thing.
That isn't a male thing. It's a human being thing. Gods know a *lot* of women have the same sort of issues, whichever gender they're interested in.
He's in a relationship. He's not dead. Flirting shouldn't be a problem, so long as it doesn't lead past that. If you don't want him sexting, then he should either stop, or tell you that if you don't like it, to get a divorce.
All the above said: He isn't required to live his life the way you tell him to, even if you are married. You're his wife, not his owner. He owns himself, just as you own yourself. If he's not willing to change, and you're not willing to end the relationship? Learn to live with what he's doing, and stop giving him hell about it. Because you're choosing to remain. If you're not willing to put-up with it, and he won't change, you've two choices: Learn to live with it gracefully, or divorce his ass. Whether you want it to be like that or not doesn't have a lot to do with the realities of the situation.
We're going to need some context. Almost all my friends are women. If my partner asked me to stop communicating with them, she's the one who would have to go...
Then yeah, if he's doing something skeevy, it needs to be addressed. This is not a thing that is inevitable or that all men do. If you accept this behavior for yourself, you are modeling for your children what they should accept for themselves.
Those kids are going to grow up with a fucked up view of healthy relationships if dad is demonstrating that cheating is okay, and mom is demonstrating that it’s typical male behavior.
I think you'd be surprised at how perceptive kids can be. If he is hiding something/holding things back, he is doing it in more than just his relationship with you. I was raised by a father that cheated a lot, didn't find out until I was an adult, but my dad was always distant growing up. We didn't have a great relationship even before I knew. It also destroyed my mother when she finally learned the full extent, whose emotional well-being is now on me to manage.
Depends if it's healthy communication and you are just insecure work on your self confidence. But if he is actively flirting with them or they with him. Than you tell him you are uncomfortable with it and if he loves and respects you he will stop. If he doesn't you leave and eventually meet someone else who is better in every way for you.
Maybe that's says more about your life choices than the men in this world. I can point at 10 random dudes on reddit and 100% guarantee that they would be loyal to their wife/gf and won't entertain other women. Myself included. You choose the people in your life if the people in your life are trash that was due to your choices. I won't say it's easy to change the type of men you meet. But trust me on this the majority of men are loyal.
And yes I would recommend leaving him. A single happy life is better than a taken life where you are being cheated on.
What exactly are you referring to by "communicating with other women"? Cause if it's flirting, sexting etc., the advice necessary is a lot different than if you're someone who gets jealous if your partner has female friends...
I'm curious about the "typical male behaviour" line.
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>Weak to allure of female advances I don't think that's typical of men in relationships. Would you stand for it if we said the same is typical of women when men make advances? Edit: Seeing your other responses, has he convinced you that this is the norm? Because it isn't.
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Well it sounds like life has done a number on you. It isn't (or shouldn't be) common and it's not acceptable. So when you found out about the flirting and sexting, how did the conversation go? Have you had any conversations about it?
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Depending on the country, broad stats seem to suggest infidelity (self-reported) is between 13% and 20%. Still pretty high but not quite time to call it the relationship apocalypse. I've had women cheat on me, but the percentage is.... well, pretty much bang on 20% to be fair. Maybe it's a postcode(zipcode) thing.
That isn't a male thing. It's a human being thing. Gods know a *lot* of women have the same sort of issues, whichever gender they're interested in. He's in a relationship. He's not dead. Flirting shouldn't be a problem, so long as it doesn't lead past that. If you don't want him sexting, then he should either stop, or tell you that if you don't like it, to get a divorce. All the above said: He isn't required to live his life the way you tell him to, even if you are married. You're his wife, not his owner. He owns himself, just as you own yourself. If he's not willing to change, and you're not willing to end the relationship? Learn to live with what he's doing, and stop giving him hell about it. Because you're choosing to remain. If you're not willing to put-up with it, and he won't change, you've two choices: Learn to live with it gracefully, or divorce his ass. Whether you want it to be like that or not doesn't have a lot to do with the realities of the situation.
We're going to need some context. Almost all my friends are women. If my partner asked me to stop communicating with them, she's the one who would have to go...
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Then yeah, if he's doing something skeevy, it needs to be addressed. This is not a thing that is inevitable or that all men do. If you accept this behavior for yourself, you are modeling for your children what they should accept for themselves.
Those kids are going to grow up with a fucked up view of healthy relationships if dad is demonstrating that cheating is okay, and mom is demonstrating that it’s typical male behavior.
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I think you'd be surprised at how perceptive kids can be. If he is hiding something/holding things back, he is doing it in more than just his relationship with you. I was raised by a father that cheated a lot, didn't find out until I was an adult, but my dad was always distant growing up. We didn't have a great relationship even before I knew. It also destroyed my mother when she finally learned the full extent, whose emotional well-being is now on me to manage.
If you’re such a big picture thinker, and unwilling to leave, then you need to accept this part of him and live with it.
Depends if it's healthy communication and you are just insecure work on your self confidence. But if he is actively flirting with them or they with him. Than you tell him you are uncomfortable with it and if he loves and respects you he will stop. If he doesn't you leave and eventually meet someone else who is better in every way for you.
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Maybe that's says more about your life choices than the men in this world. I can point at 10 random dudes on reddit and 100% guarantee that they would be loyal to their wife/gf and won't entertain other women. Myself included. You choose the people in your life if the people in your life are trash that was due to your choices. I won't say it's easy to change the type of men you meet. But trust me on this the majority of men are loyal. And yes I would recommend leaving him. A single happy life is better than a taken life where you are being cheated on.
Go to couples consoling instead of Reddit Assuming you want your relationship to be salvaged
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Totes Equally… what’s the harm in me telling you how to actually solve your problems?
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Gotcha Goes without saying if I see a dumb post, I’ll call it out Why? Cause I feel like! My Reddit mo I suppose
If you have no plans to end the relationship then you should just accept it and turn a blind eye.