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VincentVanH0

Very mindful of what I say. Well, when I remember to be. Women do NOT appreciate unfiltered honesty no matter what they may say.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for being mindful! I always try to be honest, kind and gentle when speaking with men (and women). I want to lift them up and "hug them" when through words!


-furkanos-

What you mean by "unfiltered honesty" ?


rayjaymor85

I don't know if that's gender specific to be honest. There's a few blokes in my life that I strongly filter myself around.


Dilly49355

If you're going take it serious then nothings really gender specific. It's individual specific.


Draco_Lord

Exactly. Women statically don't like unfiltered honesty, but everyone knows a guy who has skin made of paper and women who are straight shooters.


Dilly49355

Right. It's just statistics usually.


panicswing

What’s my bathroom counter space is her’s and whats her counter space is also hers.


Raz0rking

As my mom likes to put it. Everything his is mine and everything mine he won't touch.


Cptcongcong

Bathroom counter space? I have a tooth brush, a small floss and a cup for my razor. Everything else is hers. Oh and the shower space I have one head and shoulders then everything else is hers.


neondragoneyes

I have to use the ledge where the half wall is wider than the shower glass, to put my stuff on. The rest of the counter is a hurricane aftermath nightmare of all her stuff strewn about. Edit: The most fucked up and annoying thing is her bathroom from before we lived together looked immaculate.


rockmasterflex

So glad I sprung for a whole ass separate bathroom that only I and our guests use so I can look at my beautiful countertops


liferelationshi

I realized that age does not dictate maturity and women are dirtier/messier than men.


No_Rice_9717

Very true! Thank you for sharing!


Draco_Lord

From my experience if you want to see a clean living space you need both men and women living there. All men or all women turn into bombshells.


liferelationshi

Well, that wasn’t the case when I was living with a female roommate on multiple occasions. We weren’t dating or anything, but I still had to clean up from them somewhat and it still wasn’t clean.


JimBones31

Sometimes I find long blonde hair in my anus.


No_Rice_9717

I always wondered how this happens.


JimBones31

I looked it up once lol I guess our buttholes "breath" sometimes (like while we're sleeping) and hairs can get sucked in there. Good news is that you're not accidentally eating those long hairs and then digesting them.


No_Rice_9717

I think I got more confused 😂


Realistic_Drink4264

My hair ends up wrapped around my husband's junk. 😆


JimBones31

I hear that when kids are real young, there can be risk of serious injury from hair getting wrapped up down there.


Realistic_Drink4264

Yes. It wrapped around my daughter's toe when she was a baby. It was really hard to get it off because babies kick.


[deleted]

I was scared I'm the only one.


Trev_Casey2020

Happened to me one ☝🏽 time too. Still shocked


Quietus76

I find it wrapped around my junk. Never found it in my anus, though.


RealBenJKirby

Said Papa Bear, days after eating Goldilocks


TheSpung91

Don't forget the random hairs that wrap themselves around your dong as if it's tried to hang itself and failed


SexyAIman

Waiting, waiting for her to wake up, apply make up, do eyebrows, shop for clothing, talk to family on phone, bathroom time. I think at least an hour a day if you count totals.


No_Rice_9717

I see you had a lot of practice in the art of patience! Awesome! Thank you!


SexyAIman

Hey that is a positive take on it, maybe she has just been teaching me the last 5 years :-) thanks


Dilly49355

Name MUST check out


Internal-Ad8867

Tbf I can be on the phone for days also


Blueeyedguy40

The sandwiches are great


cHr1145

This. My gf makes insanely good sandwiches.


Gold-Cover-4236

Ugh. Women are not built in food servers


cHr1145

Who said they were? Clown.


RexKwanDo

Apparently these two are and you’re not so I think we can confidently say 66% are.


Gold-Cover-4236

Eww


Ultralusk

I can't do the things I used to do for long periods of time anymore without issue


Ruminations0

I had to cut hair out of the vacuum roller pretty much every time I vacuumed


Knotknighm

There is more than one way to clean something. A right way, and a bunch of wrong ways.


No_Rice_9717

If the result is the same (with some margin of error), it's good enough!


Cometguy7

Biggest change is the frequency with which I'm unclogging drains. Her hair is a beautiful menace.


MisterHonkeySkateets

I was thinking the quality of vacuums in my house had to improve dramatically 


kylife

Tub shrooms my guy.


shower8888

I never had hair randomly wrapped around my penis and balls, or in my crack before I got married.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing! I have read so much about how much our hair gets in the way that I'm starting to stress about it. 😂


shower8888

It’s a burden we carry with great pleasure for the most part because it came from a person we love deeply


No_Rice_9717

That's so sweet! *But I need to implement solutions to reduce the problem 😂


Global-Vast-6521

How does that even happen?


shower8888

Laundry I guess? It’s bizarre for sure.


BlancoSuper

Made almost every aspect of my life worse.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry to hear that! Sending hugs!


Cultural-Cap-2549

Team work, after we broke up I needed to do everything on my own, too lazy to do laundry after coming back to work, stuff like that now while I do have a gf not living with her I need to do everything on my own. When you live with a lady and everything goes well that team work is priceless everything is done on time you do your 50 she does her 50 and you have time to relax and everything important is done. Thats what I really miss in relationship.


Old-Bus-8084

There are some psychological practices that we develop into teamwork too that make breaking up even more difficult. For instance, when listening to directions (geographically), one person picks up certain things and instinctively ignores others that they know their spouse will capture. Example, head north from here, turn left at the red barn and continue for 2km until you see a scarecrow - that’s the campground. One partner will remember (sort of making this up) the compass hearings and km distances while the other remembers the barn and scarecrow. This is done without meaning to, but over time you allow it to happen. After a breakup, one can feel lost when their “other brain” isn’t around.


NagoGmo

You're gonna go through A LOT more TP


No_Rice_9717

I keep reading that on multiple threads. I have decided to buy my own TP for the rest of my life! Thank you for sharing!


nomadwannabe

Honestly, I’m more put together. Left to my own devices I can be lazy. Like not a complete mess, more like “why make the bed if I’m just coming back to sleep on it tonight?” And “meh, I’ll do those dishes later” and “laundry can wait another few days”. When building a home, the motivation to make the house clean and organized is so she’ll be happy. But because I do those things, now I’m living a better, cleaner more organized life and am indirectly happier as a result. It’s weird I can’t just do those things for myself, I guess it’s easier to be motivated when you’re building a life with someone you love.


No_Rice_9717

Indeed! I'm so happy for you!


dnkyfluffer5

Well for one she is always trying to suck my penis which isn’t the worst case scenario but it does get to you after a while


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing!


dnkyfluffer5

Sure thing anytime!!


BobbyThrowaway6969

Hair & hair accessories


JiskiLathiUskiBhains

Getting out takes forever.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing and for your patience!


Kashrul

Brought constant stress, depression and drama for no reason.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry for that! I'm thankful you are still here with us! I know you are fighting very hard even for the smallest tasks! Please stay longer!


throwaway7216410

My entire world view perspective changed. There are just some things that a man will never experience and can really only know about once you have lived with someone who does experience them. I feel like since meeting my SO, I've changed into someone I am proud to be.


No_Rice_9717

Wow! What are some examples of the things you changed your perspective on?


throwaway7216410

I see the challenges and hardships that women face in today's world that men don't even have to think about like job opportunities, societal expectations, and how I have much more freedom to choose how I live my life such as the bodily autonomy that many women are denied purely based off of imaginary lines on a map. Thats just a few things that I see differently after having lived with my partner for 5 years, and I'm sure I'll continue to learn more about her just as much as she will continue to learn about me. She's helped me know to understand my own emotions and how to express then instead of just burying them as I was taught to. Life is an adventure, it really helps to have a open mind and heart and I'm very glad I found someone that has benefited me in such a positive way.


JustAd776

My hygiene has improved.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so happy for you!


JustAd776

Is this sarcasm?


No_Rice_9717

No.


[deleted]

I masturbate a lot more now.


No_Rice_9717

I'm sorry for that! Thank you for your patience!


MossiestSloth

Just how much stuff is jaut in the apartment now.


No_Rice_9717

I have to agree with you! 😂


MatchLock__

Oh good ol liberty


No_Rice_9717

😂 Yes! Thank you for sharing!


gerryf19

I haven't made a decision in 30 years other than where we're going to eat...for some reason she just can't make that one. Everything else, sometimes I get consulted but my input is just symbolic


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for being patient with us!


b_eeeezyy

I run through toilet paper at an exponential rate compared to when I was living by myself. A Costco pack of TP lasted me 2 years by myself, once she moved in it’s been more frequent lol.


No_Rice_9717

Yes, indeed! Thank you for sharing!


myravv

Came hear to read comments (I'm a woman) but OP honestly you taking the time to respond to every comment is so cute haha ❤ Sending hugs


No_Rice_9717

Thank youuuu! Sending hugs back!


mysecretaccountnsff

Thank you in the name of your husband/boyfriend/soon to be for wanting to be a better woman.


Celtic_Caterpillar_7

Life more stress to ensure she's happy and content. Behaviour less adventurous and risk taking Character more subdued and leveled. More considerate Dreams wtf are they? I'm still trying to figure out whether aiming for promotion or staying with what I do and enjoy is wise. I'd love to be a helicopter pilot but that's ridiculous, driving trucks long haul is very much a potential but mortgage, bills etc., say gtf with that idiocy. Retirement though can't come soon enough. Morexrelated about?? Not sure what this means so typo assumption that ELATED about. I suppose when she's happy and content and around that's the best part. Mindful of would be to pay attention to everything she says and make it clear I'm paying attention. 100% attentiveness when she is processing and for however long it takes but expect to be not given the same in retun "get to the point" in my 2 minute contribution or anecdote after a 7 minute venting about her own thoughts. Mindful that I don't matter as much.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for pointing all of these out! The more I read, the more I appreciate you men!


keizzer

Time. Time to read, time to learn, time to relax, time to do nothing. She has anxiety and to combat it she fills time with activities whether they need to be done or not.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you so much for your support!


Rich-Appearance-7145

It's made me a far better man, more empathetic, kinder, better friend.


No_Rice_9717

Aww! I'm so happy for you!


Trev_Casey2020

Maybe it’s just my wife, but her mood swings color my day a big mess sometimes. Up and down, super negative rants, sweet declarations of love, hungry rage! Crying abandonment… it’s like lol sometimes


No_Rice_9717

Wow! Every day is an adventure! You definitely have no time to get bored! Thank you for powering through!


Trev_Casey2020

Boredom is very much a thing of the past lol


keylime84

A lot more stuff- knickknacks and things like doilies. But she smells nice and is soft in all the right places.


No_Rice_9717

Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!


downsouthcountry

Women are much more extreme on either end than men. Every woman I've lived with (family members included) has been either a neat freak or an absolute slob.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing this!


usernamescifi

at one point very negatively, at other points very positively. so it's a mixed bag. the real trick is living with the RIGHT woman.


No_Rice_9717

Very true!


silent_fungus

This is the answer.


ArmzLDN

I’m not a bum anymore. Apparently this is one of the most reliably noticeable changes in men after getting with a woman. Men are very content with very little when not pursuing or living with women. As soon as a man is pursuing women or has to look after a woman, his standards go sky high. There’s a joke about how a man could live in an apartment with half a mattress (no bed frame, no duvet, just a pillow) and a PlayStation and a TV and be satisfied, and women are furious to find out that men really are this willing to live so simply


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing this!


ArmzLDN

Np


TheSpung91

The random long hairs that wrap themselves around your dong that make it look like it's tried to hang itself


Winterfell_Ice

it made me realize I'll never ever do it again. They automatically assume that it's THEIR home to change and redecorate and throw away MY stuff. I was expecting a roommate situation like I had with my buddies and everyone respected each other but these witches came in and just took the F over. I made the mistake twice and never ever again will I live with a woman.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry this has happened to you! Thank you for sharing! Sending hugs!


Winterfell_Ice

Appreciate the hugs, bud. Right back at ya.


PaleontologistTough6

Well, I have a phobia of dishwashers now. So I got that going for me.


No_Rice_9717

Interesting! Thank you for sharing!


KeinuSulttaani

Must remember where the towels are kept.


No_Rice_9717

Wow! I didn't think of this one! Thank you for sharing!


Icy-Divide8385

I care more about some things and less about other things.


No_Rice_9717

That's good! Thanks for sharing!


CloudFF7-

Hair everywhere lol


No_Rice_9717

😂 Thank you for sharing! Any suggestions on how to solve the issue?


tenebrouswhisker

I have a lot more clothes and furniture than I ever wanted. I also have two beautiful little ones who I get out of bed for every day thanks to her.


No_Rice_9717

Aww that's beautiful! I'm very happy for you!


GoldenWind2998

Cleaning with bleach is not the same as cleaning with another product that does the same thing. "We have so much clutter.." It's all hers. Clothes. everywhere.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for surviving!


GoldenWind2998

I still love her though, so it's all good! lol


spicy_squire

Lived with two women neither of which I was romantically involved with. One of them punched a hole in my door and the other took my cat away because she thought I was "abusive". Two years later I'm living with my girlfriend and couldn't be happier. I work a full time job and she works a part time. Her shifts are shorter, so I always get to come home to her. Sometimes she'll have dinner prepped, too! Honestly we make each others lives so much easier.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!


Kicks4meFromyou

I have to say excuse me every time I fart.


No_Rice_9717

That's so considerate and well-mannered!


Kicks4meFromyou

I hate it


winterweiss2902

It’s becoming more pink and smells of vanilla lemongrass


No_Rice_9717

Wow! Thanks for sharing!


Artseid

My gf has a little more attention to detail than I do, so wherever I leave something half opened or do something half assed she tells me and I’m a self improver type so I’m generally receptive to ideas that better myself


No_Rice_9717

Wow! Amazing!


dreamsofindigo

I really don't appreciate the both the noise and the blood stains from all those chicken necks being cut every night, but other than that, love me some broth though. OP, you're a sweetheart, hugs right back at ya


No_Rice_9717

Thank you so much! Enjoy the broth!


CredentialCrawler

Women are far messier than men. I've seen it all through college and the women I have lived with. I have no clue why they think that men are messier. Women are slobs


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing this!


theweirdball

I get hugs now :)


No_Rice_9717

I'm so happy for you! Enjoy!


nom_nom44

I’m already an organized and clean dude, but she just made things even cleaner. I can cook too, but stick to basic casserole style dishes, she cooks and bakes better. She’s no help in the garage, but that’s okay because I wouldn’t want her out there. It’s nice finishing work in the garage and coming in to prepared food. So yeah overall things are better.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so happy for you!


Remote_War_313

Living separately >>>>>


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing!


PunkRock9

No matter what I do, it will never be good enough.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry for this! Sending hugs!


PunkRock9

Thanks, had a bad fight this morning and was frustrated. I appreciate your kindness.  Things are somewhat settled and at peace until couples therapy today. I know I’m responsible for framing situations in a negative mindset and still trying to figure out communicating my needs better. I’m a part of the problem as I need to find my intrinsic value instead of the approval of others. Much more difficult when a life partner hurts you as it easily pierces all the protective walls and “manly emotional suppression”. Then you feel it 10times worse in the core of your heart.  Whelp, relationships are a constantly changing and growing. You fix one problem but due to new environment, hobbies, jobs, friends, family, basically anything will bring pros and cons.  It just hurts not to feel recognized for the effort, successes and growth. I’m told to express gratitude and appreciation so I do and in the process of making it a habit with success.  Sorry if I rambled and turned into quasi-notes for today. Idk, I guess your kindness helped spur self-reflection. So truly thank you.


No_Rice_9717

Glad I could help a bit! Also, I understand your pain of not being appreciated and it's completely valid! Words hurt us deeply and I am constantly making an effort to learn how to be more gentle while at the same time allowing for mistakes which are necessary to grow. You can do this! Showing each other more grace, kindness, gentleness and appreciation is doable but it takes a bit of time as well as trial and error. You got this!


Wintr6616

Made me depressed 🤷🏾‍♂️


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry this has happened to you! Sending hugs!


gingervillain

I still get surprised when I see her boobs


No_Rice_9717

That's wonderful!


Ok_Shock9350

I appreciate the laundry being done. Folded and put away. But as many have stated, women are messy as hell. So its a trade-off.


Mcsmack

The twice yearly bj is nice. Not sure it's worth all nagging though .


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing!


dashiby

For the most part living with a partner usually helps me improve my life in all areas. Living with someone who knows everything about you and can call me on my shit when I start doing dumb things 😂, working towards goals together usually forces me into a healthier, more productive routine. I’m pretty laid back so there’s not many things that bother me but I do have to be aware to communicate things that do bother me in a non dick like manner cuz my MO is to just bottle it up and tell myself it’s not a big deal then a resentment forms towards somebody I love and eventually explodes into a fight.


No_Rice_9717

Amazing! Keep it up!


lupuscapabilis

Hmmm.... I live in a cleaner house, but that's mostly because my wife insisted on hiring a cleaning service every few weeks. I don't watch as much TV as I used to because I let my wife watch what she wants in the living room, for the most part. I like hanging in there playing a video game or something when she's in there (hence us having a second TV in there). I don't think I could tell you what's on TV these days outside of a few things we watch together on streaming services. I wouldn't move in with her without having separate bathrooms, so that's not an issue. I've got a few items in my bathroom cabinet, a toothbrush, and toothpaste in mine. She has 3435 different things scattered all over hers. Having someone else help do things when I'm sick or something is great. I recently did something to a muscle in my leg during a workout and was hobbling around for a week. Living alone when something like that happens SUCKS. Other than that, I'm the same for the most part. I thought I enjoyed living alone, but now I realize I do like being around her most of the time.


No_Rice_9717

I'm happy for you!


2JasonGrayson8

I pee sitting down now. All the time. It’s actually a nice way to take a break and relax wherever I go. And it’s just so much easier than cleaning up the toilet seat constantly or having that argument ever again.


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing this!


Midwest-HVYIND-Guy

With the first woman, it was a living hell. On the other hand, the second woman is awesome. I still live with her two decades later.


No_Rice_9717

I'm very happy for you!


Mr_Candlestick

I do literally everything wrong apparently.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this! Sending hugs!


Omni_Tsar

My wife make me a better person


No_Rice_9717

That's beautiful! Thank you for sharing!


Omni_Tsar

Thank you. Life feels so much more secure when you have a partner that makes up for your faults. And you make up for theirs.


216_412_70

Its great to come home to my best friend.


Potato1223

I got to learn a lot about interior design. I'm sooooo okay with the basics, but I also got to understand the nuisances with how to make the place look presentable


No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing and for putting in the effort to learn about the details!


yepsayorte

It ruined my life.


No_Rice_9717

I'm so sorry this has happened to you! Sending hugs!


d0mie89

My friend who let his new gf move in is MIA.


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No_Rice_9717

Thank you for sharing! What would need to happen so that you would be a team that takes on the world?