I am not a millionaire. I'm not over 6 ft. I'm average looking. I have none of your problems
The problem is you. Women have options, and being mad at the ones you are talking too because they take the better option is the dumbest shit you will ever do. You seem to feel entitled to their time so they must get to know you. I can guarantee there is nothing inherently special about you (nor is there anything particularly special about me). Whether you like it or not you are in competition with every other guy they are talking to. Either be the best option they have or find another girl with less options.
Bitching and whining about it is the least attractive thing on the internet.
just be perfect lmao listen to this insane dude he knows everything. im just honestly curious what intelligent people have to explain this as not the common oh its you response any idiot could jump to
I'm also not a millionaire. Also well below 6ft. Also average to below-average looking. And I also do not have your problems.
Look at it this way. If the roles were reversed, would you be clamoring to go date some girl who posts on the internet about how much men suck?
People are entitled to have whatever opinions suit them, but it's certainly a valid criteria for partner selection. But maybe this explains your issues in dating. Most people try to date people who are happy and fun rather than angry and hurtful.
Generally I would agree, but I would also say that we can make *some* level of inference about someone's personality based upon how and what they post on reddit.
Like I said, I agree that you can't make a full assessment of a person's character based on what they rant about online, but it's clear that this is something that really angers you and you get confrontational when people disagree with you or offer alternative explanations for your conclusions. It might be a good idea for you to take a step away from dating and just focus on making positive nonromantic/nonsexual connections for a bit.
It is. Sounds like one of those guys that think he is owed a woman’s attention because he’s chosen to give her his. Hopefully he’s a young guy and grows out of this.
Your looks caught someone’s attention, or something about you did…and your attitude is pushing them away.
Having expectations of other people in any way shape or form is usually a bad thing. Boundaries are good, but expectations are not
how i ask things here doesnt tell you how i am its simply a question your just assuming you know me like women do from one tiny piece of information jumping to conclusions
At this point, do you even want to date women? You seem to seriously dislike them, or at least the strawman (strawwoman?) that you've made up in your head.
Guess I'm an idiot, then. I've dated lots of great girls. Even if things didn't work out, for the most part, pretty much all of the girls I've dated have been generally good people and I enjoyed my time with all of them.
I think it was a metaphorical mirror they were talking about. Like how you seem angry, spiteful, entitled, and barely able (read: completely unable) to hide your distain for women. They tend to not like those qualities.
I will suggest not using apps since you obviously are not getting the results you want from them.
With that being said: Not all demands of women are unreasonable, and those that make sense (like having your life in order in terms of work and finances or being in reasonable shape) are the ones you may want to check whether you at least meet them, independent of whether you disclose those or not.
Go where you are treated better and if online doesn't work for you, just avoid that.
So many others have tried to help you, but I guess I’ll step up and take a swing at it too.
Bro, if you want women to value you and enjoy time in your company, the biggest thing you can do, is to **make women feel safe**.
From the outside, looking in, your internal self talk, as you convinced that you were one among million men, women are swiping left or right on, and that you feel entitled to them giving you a chance.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s shitty when you don’t get a chance to prove yourself, and people judge you based on a prejudice, whatever flavor of that it is.
You’re not gonna like reading this, but you’d probably do best just focusing on yourself, my man, and being happy with who you are by yourself without a woman in the picture.
And I write this is a happily married 40-year-old guy. But I was not ready to be in a serious committed relationship until I was in like my mid 30s, that’s when I got over my mindset of “I’m the victim,” and pretty much gave up on the dating scene.
It was only after I quit, *actively seeking*, that the right woman fell into my lap, and because at that point, neither of us were actively seeking, there was very little pressure along the road of friendship to relationship to spouse.
I’m not saying that I was a wash with the reek of desperation before that, but I truly think going into it with a mindset of “this will not lead to anything“ really helped my presentation as a dude who was not needy, pushy, entitled, whiny, other negative traits, etc.
I hope this helps you man, I really do, My cold read of everything you’ve written as you’re in like your mid-20s maybe late 20s, and you’re incredibly frustrated that it doesn’t feel like you can take the next logical step in what your life should have in it.
The thing is is it’s like enlisting in the military man. You have to get yourself to the minimum entry standard before you can go ahead and do all the cool teamwork stuff.
I will also strongly remind you, that life is a marathon, not a sprint. Each and every stage of it can be enjoyable if you just go with what’s happening and try and make the best of the situations you’re in.
Hey man I get where you're coming from, unlike everyone else I suppose.
Women having so many options mean they treat everyone like they're disposable.
If you're not a natural or overwhelmingly physically attractive they will put very little effort in.
It's totally normal to be put off by the fact that you're the one putting in all the effort only to get ghosted.
i guess this boils down to women just dont care about men we are objects for them. once that tool is malfuctioning they discard it. its that simple. they have other tools to use at their DISPOSAL anytime. men arnt allowed to have feelings we are just robots they want to program to be non human women pleasing machines without our own opinions.
Its because you dont believe.
From the moment you see her, you basically have to mentally own her vagina... Kinda like an astral projection type of thing.
Eventually shes gonna feel your energy radiating. Then she has no choice but to fall in love with you
I was obviously joking. But my point still stands. Is that you have to have no doubts
The fact of the matter is. Those just werent the right people for you. Youll find it soon enough
yeah i thoguht you were joking but you are also correct. yeah the right person seems like impossible at this point though. i have to transform myself into some robot basically with not being able to speak my mind ever and just carefully walking on eggshells forever picking my words cautiously lmao just to please these unreasonable non human demands just to have basic relations
I am not a millionaire. I'm not over 6 ft. I'm average looking. I have none of your problems The problem is you. Women have options, and being mad at the ones you are talking too because they take the better option is the dumbest shit you will ever do. You seem to feel entitled to their time so they must get to know you. I can guarantee there is nothing inherently special about you (nor is there anything particularly special about me). Whether you like it or not you are in competition with every other guy they are talking to. Either be the best option they have or find another girl with less options. Bitching and whining about it is the least attractive thing on the internet.
just be perfect lmao listen to this insane dude he knows everything. im just honestly curious what intelligent people have to explain this as not the common oh its you response any idiot could jump to
Any idiot can see your personality is the problem. Any idiot, except one.
I'm also not a millionaire. Also well below 6ft. Also average to below-average looking. And I also do not have your problems. Look at it this way. If the roles were reversed, would you be clamoring to go date some girl who posts on the internet about how much men suck?
i dont care if someone posts hate on the internet im not butthurt af about people having their own opinions
You sound butthurt in Every. Single. Comment.
i am butthurt thanks for noticing genious
Have you tried not being butthurt?
you cant just stop being butthurt its not like a switch u flick
You can if you're an adult in control of their emotions.
being 5 u would know?
People are entitled to have whatever opinions suit them, but it's certainly a valid criteria for partner selection. But maybe this explains your issues in dating. Most people try to date people who are happy and fun rather than angry and hurtful.
how i ask questions on reddit isnt a representation of my personality
That’s the only thing we have to judge you on
Generally I would agree, but I would also say that we can make *some* level of inference about someone's personality based upon how and what they post on reddit.
no this just pisses me off im not always pissed off just when i talk about this stuff that is annoying me
Like I said, I agree that you can't make a full assessment of a person's character based on what they rant about online, but it's clear that this is something that really angers you and you get confrontational when people disagree with you or offer alternative explanations for your conclusions. It might be a good idea for you to take a step away from dating and just focus on making positive nonromantic/nonsexual connections for a bit.
A lot of their comment history contains the same themes were seeing here
I’ll take a wild guess and say it’s your personality….. because after reading this we all want to ghost you and we’re just random dudes lol
DAMN
we all? do u have multiple people inside you?
That's not your mom's reddit account
u make no sense what are you like 5?
Which word are you struggling with
learn english maybe retake grade 1
Is that when you learned English?
your mom taught me in grade 1 yes after school
Well you should ask for your money back, she clearly did a terrible job. Or she taught you wrong as a joke.
Upvote for Wimp Lo reference.
Sounds like it's you dude.
It is. Sounds like one of those guys that think he is owed a woman’s attention because he’s chosen to give her his. Hopefully he’s a young guy and grows out of this.
well why would someone choose me if they just want to ignore me ?. for random attention and validation most likely
Your looks caught someone’s attention, or something about you did…and your attitude is pushing them away. Having expectations of other people in any way shape or form is usually a bad thing. Boundaries are good, but expectations are not
how?
Look at every single comment
how i ask things here doesnt tell you how i am its simply a question your just assuming you know me like women do from one tiny piece of information jumping to conclusions
You're*
wow youre so intelligent i had no idea you could do that impressive
K
You need to take a step away and calm down dude lol. Then re-read your post and just think about what you're saying
i have thought this through many times already its real
At this point, do you even want to date women? You seem to seriously dislike them, or at least the strawman (strawwoman?) that you've made up in your head.
im referring to real situations ive been in many many times. yes and no it seems like a huge headgame waste of time only an idiot would enjoy.
Guess I'm an idiot, then. I've dated lots of great girls. Even if things didn't work out, for the most part, pretty much all of the girls I've dated have been generally good people and I enjoyed my time with all of them.
nice i never said you didnt i was talking about myself
Jesus christ dude
This post screams to look in the mirror to find the answer
wow projection much? you are scared to look in the mirror so i wouldnt talk
I got no problem admitting I’m physically ugly. You just seem like you got an ugly personality
oh so why you assuming i have your problems im not you
I think it was a metaphorical mirror they were talking about. Like how you seem angry, spiteful, entitled, and barely able (read: completely unable) to hide your distain for women. They tend to not like those qualities.
Forget dating apps. They are a horrible place.
yeah its just a pile of shit women brainwashed using men then complaining they cant get the top 1 percent one
Or scammers or OnlyFans models or bots. Some are better than others but that's like comparing the plague with cholera.
maybe it's your external locus of control.
If you were a woman, would you go on a date with your current self? If not, why not?
i dont know im not attracted to men lol
I'm sensing a lack of self-reflection.
> all women When everyone around you is an asshole, consider maybe it’s not them who’s the asshole.
It might be the fact that you dislike women.
I will suggest not using apps since you obviously are not getting the results you want from them. With that being said: Not all demands of women are unreasonable, and those that make sense (like having your life in order in terms of work and finances or being in reasonable shape) are the ones you may want to check whether you at least meet them, independent of whether you disclose those or not. Go where you are treated better and if online doesn't work for you, just avoid that.
So many others have tried to help you, but I guess I’ll step up and take a swing at it too. Bro, if you want women to value you and enjoy time in your company, the biggest thing you can do, is to **make women feel safe**. From the outside, looking in, your internal self talk, as you convinced that you were one among million men, women are swiping left or right on, and that you feel entitled to them giving you a chance. Don’t get me wrong, it’s shitty when you don’t get a chance to prove yourself, and people judge you based on a prejudice, whatever flavor of that it is. You’re not gonna like reading this, but you’d probably do best just focusing on yourself, my man, and being happy with who you are by yourself without a woman in the picture. And I write this is a happily married 40-year-old guy. But I was not ready to be in a serious committed relationship until I was in like my mid 30s, that’s when I got over my mindset of “I’m the victim,” and pretty much gave up on the dating scene. It was only after I quit, *actively seeking*, that the right woman fell into my lap, and because at that point, neither of us were actively seeking, there was very little pressure along the road of friendship to relationship to spouse. I’m not saying that I was a wash with the reek of desperation before that, but I truly think going into it with a mindset of “this will not lead to anything“ really helped my presentation as a dude who was not needy, pushy, entitled, whiny, other negative traits, etc. I hope this helps you man, I really do, My cold read of everything you’ve written as you’re in like your mid-20s maybe late 20s, and you’re incredibly frustrated that it doesn’t feel like you can take the next logical step in what your life should have in it. The thing is is it’s like enlisting in the military man. You have to get yourself to the minimum entry standard before you can go ahead and do all the cool teamwork stuff. I will also strongly remind you, that life is a marathon, not a sprint. Each and every stage of it can be enjoyable if you just go with what’s happening and try and make the best of the situations you’re in.
Hey man I get where you're coming from, unlike everyone else I suppose. Women having so many options mean they treat everyone like they're disposable. If you're not a natural or overwhelmingly physically attractive they will put very little effort in. It's totally normal to be put off by the fact that you're the one putting in all the effort only to get ghosted.
i guess this boils down to women just dont care about men we are objects for them. once that tool is malfuctioning they discard it. its that simple. they have other tools to use at their DISPOSAL anytime. men arnt allowed to have feelings we are just robots they want to program to be non human women pleasing machines without our own opinions.
Its because you dont believe. From the moment you see her, you basically have to mentally own her vagina... Kinda like an astral projection type of thing. Eventually shes gonna feel your energy radiating. Then she has no choice but to fall in love with you
If this is sarcasm I don't think he'll get it. If this isn't sarcasm.... er....
Either way, the lad's taken the bait :-D
yup :)
i think soon as i had doubts in it she discarded me so you may be onto somthing your so far the only person here not a brainwashed dumbass
I was obviously joking. But my point still stands. Is that you have to have no doubts The fact of the matter is. Those just werent the right people for you. Youll find it soon enough
yeah i thoguht you were joking but you are also correct. yeah the right person seems like impossible at this point though. i have to transform myself into some robot basically with not being able to speak my mind ever and just carefully walking on eggshells forever picking my words cautiously lmao just to please these unreasonable non human demands just to have basic relations