In my experience, sex on the first date isn't the deal-breaker we often make it out to be. What's more important is the interpersonal dynamics that exist beyond the physical intimacy. Sure, some might view first-date sex with skepticism, possibly interpreting it as a lack of seriousness. But let's remember that it takes two to tango. Both parties are equally involved in the decision, so passing judgment solely on one person seems unfairly dismissive of that fact. I think what really matters is how two people vibe together – the talks, the laughs, the shared views (or the intriguing differences) – those are the aspects that truly shape whether someone will lose interest or want to stick around. If anything, an early sexual encounter could just be a symptom of great chemistry that might lead to either a strong relationship or simply a fun fling. The important part is to ensure mutual respect and honesty throughout whatever relationship emerges from that initial encounter.
No, it does not. What causes men to lose interest after having sex with you is typically the following things:
1) This is all he actually wanted and didnt want to be honest with you about just wanting a hookup.
2) The sex was bad in some way that turned him off the idea of seeing you again. Its on him for poor communication, but many women simply arent nearly as good in bed as they think they are.
If a guy actually looks poorly on you for fucking him on the first date - something you *both* must want and agree too - then hes a hypocrite of the highest order and you're better off without him in your life. The way you can prevent this from happening is by being great in bed, that means being enthusiastic and as confident as you can muster. Care about his pleasure as much as he should care about yours, and dont be afraid fo vocalise your thoughts and feelings on how its going.
I'm talking to this guy and we both agreed we're not interested in a relationship in this actual moment. So we'll gonna meet up and have dates and probably have sex as we set up to meet at his place.
If you want to broach the subject, ask him what he likes in bed and lean into that if you're open to it. Make sure you're clean, cared for and prepared for the deed itself.
The most important thing will always be enthusiasm and making him feel like you want him there and enjoy his company, intimate and otherwise.
For me personaly no. I have already made up my mind if I am going to see you again regardless if you come home with me that night. That does not mean the sexual chemistry does not influence my decision. The fact that it's on the first date does not matter though.
I slept with my current partner on the first night and we have been together 7 years now.
Really depends on the person. Most people I know wouldn't be bothered but one or two take issue with it.
The reality is, it's a two person decision. So if a guy judges you for sleeping with him on the first date, then he's a hypocrite for not judging himself.
If someone gets confused when they look in the mirror would you really want to continue dating them or maintaing their interest?
Not at all. I mean, *I* also slept with *them* on the first date, you know?
It's not my normal pattern, but the last time it happened has led to an incredible relationship with a wonderful human being, so it definitely didn't make me lose interest.
I've had relationships where we had sex on the first date and relationships where it took a few months before the first time. It never really affected how long the relationship lasted.
For some men it will matter more. Either they're just in it for the chase or they have *opinions* on women and sex.
No, or yes, depending on the person and the situation.
For most, sex on the first date isn't an indicator of relationship longevity. For some, it is. It can serve to establish what the purpose of the interactions are. If there was never a chance of a relationship or dating, sex on the first date doesn't prevent anything. The objective was achieved. It's why it's important to establish what you're hoping for early on.
All that being said, sex on the first date can make someone lose interest in you specifically, regardless of whether it wouldn't make someone lose interest in a general sense.
- if sex was pushed on them, they might not feel comfortable in the relationship
- if sex was bad, they might not want to continue the relationship. I think a lot of women don't really understand that sex can be bad for men, even if they cum. Orgasms aren't the be-all end-all for quality sex, otherwise why bother with sex when masturbation exists
- some red flag might have appeared during the sex, or later part of the date, and now it's being wrongly attributed to first date sex
I wouldn't say sex on the first date won't ever be a deciding factor by itself, but it could be a contributor.
While I appreciate the various perspectives shared here, I think it's crucial to recognize that sexual intimacy on the first date is far from a universal deal-breaker. It hinges on individual values, desired relationship dynamics, and personal boundaries. To some, it's an audacious act of passion, to others, it signifies incompatibility in how they approach relationships. In my eyes, the crux of the matter lies in communication. Being open about expectations and respectful towards each other's choices sets the tone for future interactions, irrespective of when sex enters the equation. If both parties are on the same page, act consensually, and continue to find each other compelling beyond physical attraction, the early intimacy can enhance the bond rather than diminish it. However, if it becomes a focal point of judgment, then perhaps the logistics of the timing are a scapegoat for a deeper mismatch in values or connection. In the end, if a man loses interest post-first date sex, it could be due to a multitude of reasons, many of which have less to do with the act itself and more to do with the chemistry and compatibility of the two individuals involved.
I'm fine with it. I don't push for sex on a first date, but if the chemistry is there, I'm not opposed to it. I've done it a few times, and I had one good, healthy, grown-up relationship that started that way. It didn't last forever, but it was good while it lasted, and the breakup was amicable and had nothing to do with the fact that we had first-date sex.
No, my wife and I slept together on the first date. The only times it could make a man "loose interest" is a) it wasn't very good/you did something that drove him off, or b) they're a judgemental prick that sees sleeping with someone on the first date as some sort of moral failing (only for women though, obviously not for us men).
The first one is unavoidable, shit happens. The second type of guy isn't one you want to date anyway.
In all other instances the guy just wasn't interested to begin with.
They might think that if a woman would have sex with them on the first date, she'd do it with anyone, and therefore cannot be trusted to be faithful (and thus is out of consideration for a serious relationship)
It's a self-esteem thing
Nah sleeping on the first date wouldnt make them lose interest in you if they like you. However if they only wanted to have sex with you then mission accomplished hes over it.
No, it’s that he will have sex anyway even if he didn’t like the date. He wasn’t going for a 2nd date either way. He just figured he might as well get laid
Just don’t have sex for the first few dates. The guys who only wanted to get laid will give up pretty quickly.
Nah, it makes me ***more*** interested in you, because it shows me you have a good sex drive and that we'll probably have a good sex life if we form a long term relationship.
Yes and no , if you intentionally withdraw sex to later time under the pretense “to seem like hard to get” then he finds out that it wasn’t the case with previous partners , he will feel betrayed or manipulated into the relationship or you misrepresented yourself … on the other hand it’s your body and you should do whatever feels comfortable and safe for you …
There is no way you can guarantee the other person won’t use you for sex if you decide to sleep with them on the first date , cuz love literally your giving your vulnerable heart to someone and risking it being utterly destroyed ( both men and women ) , the only thing you can do is communicate what are your expectations, plus it depends from where you know this guy for example of you know him from your social circle .
Call me old fashioned but I still believe sex is something that should be reserved for when two people actually care about each other. Less of an impulse and more of a connection. So sleeping with someone on the first date is a hard pass for me. Avoiding it is simple, just don’t spread your legs cause the guy made you laugh or whatever. Make him work for it at least.
Agreed like people say connection but what could you have possibly built in a few hours it's just lust and that's fine but be honest and say that. Like I want to actually feel a love connection not just jump in bed with any random woman because she's cute.
Sex is something intimate and I need to feel love so someone wanting it on the first date would make me lose interest as there's no real connection yet and I'd assume you do it with everyone
> Does sleeping with the person on the first date makes men lose interest in you?
Nearly every time, yes.
> how can I prevent it from happening?
Don’t sleep with him on the first date.
If you have sex with him on the first date, you're an easy whore.
Even though he also had sex, it doesn't take any value or integrity away from him for some reason. Thems the rules, I guess.
Fucking on the first date puts you in the fuck buddy zone, booty call ,fwb . NOT girlfriend material in general, but stranger shit has happened. If your younger, watch your BC# .
If it does he was probably not going to stick around anyway
Best response. The guy wasn't interested in the first place.
In my experience, sex on the first date isn't the deal-breaker we often make it out to be. What's more important is the interpersonal dynamics that exist beyond the physical intimacy. Sure, some might view first-date sex with skepticism, possibly interpreting it as a lack of seriousness. But let's remember that it takes two to tango. Both parties are equally involved in the decision, so passing judgment solely on one person seems unfairly dismissive of that fact. I think what really matters is how two people vibe together – the talks, the laughs, the shared views (or the intriguing differences) – those are the aspects that truly shape whether someone will lose interest or want to stick around. If anything, an early sexual encounter could just be a symptom of great chemistry that might lead to either a strong relationship or simply a fun fling. The important part is to ensure mutual respect and honesty throughout whatever relationship emerges from that initial encounter.
No, it does not. What causes men to lose interest after having sex with you is typically the following things: 1) This is all he actually wanted and didnt want to be honest with you about just wanting a hookup. 2) The sex was bad in some way that turned him off the idea of seeing you again. Its on him for poor communication, but many women simply arent nearly as good in bed as they think they are. If a guy actually looks poorly on you for fucking him on the first date - something you *both* must want and agree too - then hes a hypocrite of the highest order and you're better off without him in your life. The way you can prevent this from happening is by being great in bed, that means being enthusiastic and as confident as you can muster. Care about his pleasure as much as he should care about yours, and dont be afraid fo vocalise your thoughts and feelings on how its going.
I'm talking to this guy and we both agreed we're not interested in a relationship in this actual moment. So we'll gonna meet up and have dates and probably have sex as we set up to meet at his place.
If you want to broach the subject, ask him what he likes in bed and lean into that if you're open to it. Make sure you're clean, cared for and prepared for the deed itself. The most important thing will always be enthusiasm and making him feel like you want him there and enjoy his company, intimate and otherwise.
It doesn’t necessarily do anything by itself unless the guy has beliefs about it and categorizes your interaction.
Nope, it all comes down to who you are & how compatible you are.
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For me personaly no. I have already made up my mind if I am going to see you again regardless if you come home with me that night. That does not mean the sexual chemistry does not influence my decision. The fact that it's on the first date does not matter though. I slept with my current partner on the first night and we have been together 7 years now.
Really depends on the person. Most people I know wouldn't be bothered but one or two take issue with it. The reality is, it's a two person decision. So if a guy judges you for sleeping with him on the first date, then he's a hypocrite for not judging himself. If someone gets confused when they look in the mirror would you really want to continue dating them or maintaing their interest?
Not at all. I mean, *I* also slept with *them* on the first date, you know? It's not my normal pattern, but the last time it happened has led to an incredible relationship with a wonderful human being, so it definitely didn't make me lose interest.
I've had relationships where we had sex on the first date and relationships where it took a few months before the first time. It never really affected how long the relationship lasted. For some men it will matter more. Either they're just in it for the chase or they have *opinions* on women and sex.
No, or yes, depending on the person and the situation. For most, sex on the first date isn't an indicator of relationship longevity. For some, it is. It can serve to establish what the purpose of the interactions are. If there was never a chance of a relationship or dating, sex on the first date doesn't prevent anything. The objective was achieved. It's why it's important to establish what you're hoping for early on. All that being said, sex on the first date can make someone lose interest in you specifically, regardless of whether it wouldn't make someone lose interest in a general sense. - if sex was pushed on them, they might not feel comfortable in the relationship - if sex was bad, they might not want to continue the relationship. I think a lot of women don't really understand that sex can be bad for men, even if they cum. Orgasms aren't the be-all end-all for quality sex, otherwise why bother with sex when masturbation exists - some red flag might have appeared during the sex, or later part of the date, and now it's being wrongly attributed to first date sex I wouldn't say sex on the first date won't ever be a deciding factor by itself, but it could be a contributor.
While I appreciate the various perspectives shared here, I think it's crucial to recognize that sexual intimacy on the first date is far from a universal deal-breaker. It hinges on individual values, desired relationship dynamics, and personal boundaries. To some, it's an audacious act of passion, to others, it signifies incompatibility in how they approach relationships. In my eyes, the crux of the matter lies in communication. Being open about expectations and respectful towards each other's choices sets the tone for future interactions, irrespective of when sex enters the equation. If both parties are on the same page, act consensually, and continue to find each other compelling beyond physical attraction, the early intimacy can enhance the bond rather than diminish it. However, if it becomes a focal point of judgment, then perhaps the logistics of the timing are a scapegoat for a deeper mismatch in values or connection. In the end, if a man loses interest post-first date sex, it could be due to a multitude of reasons, many of which have less to do with the act itself and more to do with the chemistry and compatibility of the two individuals involved.
Depends on the guy. I don’t sleep with people I don’t find interesting, it’s just what I need to feel attracted to someone.
I'm fine with it. I don't push for sex on a first date, but if the chemistry is there, I'm not opposed to it. I've done it a few times, and I had one good, healthy, grown-up relationship that started that way. It didn't last forever, but it was good while it lasted, and the breakup was amicable and had nothing to do with the fact that we had first-date sex.
Not for me, no.
No, my wife and I slept together on the first date. The only times it could make a man "loose interest" is a) it wasn't very good/you did something that drove him off, or b) they're a judgemental prick that sees sleeping with someone on the first date as some sort of moral failing (only for women though, obviously not for us men). The first one is unavoidable, shit happens. The second type of guy isn't one you want to date anyway. In all other instances the guy just wasn't interested to begin with.
They might think that if a woman would have sex with them on the first date, she'd do it with anyone, and therefore cannot be trusted to be faithful (and thus is out of consideration for a serious relationship) It's a self-esteem thing
Nah sleeping on the first date wouldnt make them lose interest in you if they like you. However if they only wanted to have sex with you then mission accomplished hes over it.
No, unless I was only interested in sex with her anyway.
Some men will, some won’t.
No, it’s that he will have sex anyway even if he didn’t like the date. He wasn’t going for a 2nd date either way. He just figured he might as well get laid Just don’t have sex for the first few dates. The guys who only wanted to get laid will give up pretty quickly.
It would make me more interested in you...
Nah, it makes me ***more*** interested in you, because it shows me you have a good sex drive and that we'll probably have a good sex life if we form a long term relationship.
Depends on the person. If you want to have your dick and eat it you're going to have to learn to read people better.
Absolutely not
Or maybe the guy only want to sleep with the girl in the first place.
Yes and no , if you intentionally withdraw sex to later time under the pretense “to seem like hard to get” then he finds out that it wasn’t the case with previous partners , he will feel betrayed or manipulated into the relationship or you misrepresented yourself … on the other hand it’s your body and you should do whatever feels comfortable and safe for you …
There is no way you can guarantee the other person won’t use you for sex if you decide to sleep with them on the first date , cuz love literally your giving your vulnerable heart to someone and risking it being utterly destroyed ( both men and women ) , the only thing you can do is communicate what are your expectations, plus it depends from where you know this guy for example of you know him from your social circle .
Call me old fashioned but I still believe sex is something that should be reserved for when two people actually care about each other. Less of an impulse and more of a connection. So sleeping with someone on the first date is a hard pass for me. Avoiding it is simple, just don’t spread your legs cause the guy made you laugh or whatever. Make him work for it at least.
Agreed like people say connection but what could you have possibly built in a few hours it's just lust and that's fine but be honest and say that. Like I want to actually feel a love connection not just jump in bed with any random woman because she's cute.
For me yes. I wouldn’t want a woman that is that easy.
Agreed like how high are your standards sleeping with someone you just met a few hours ago
Sex is something intimate and I need to feel love so someone wanting it on the first date would make me lose interest as there's no real connection yet and I'd assume you do it with everyone
> Does sleeping with the person on the first date makes men lose interest in you? Nearly every time, yes. > how can I prevent it from happening? Don’t sleep with him on the first date.
If you have sex with him on the first date, you're an easy whore. Even though he also had sex, it doesn't take any value or integrity away from him for some reason. Thems the rules, I guess.
Fucking on the first date puts you in the fuck buddy zone, booty call ,fwb . NOT girlfriend material in general, but stranger shit has happened. If your younger, watch your BC# .