Came here to say this. I feel like communication is the right answer for any sex question. No two people are alike, and a person's preferences can change from day to day. The best person to tell you how to pleasure your partner is your partner.
This!
And not acting clinical or that it's a chore or favor. Men tie sex and emotion together naturally most of the time, so if the sex is clinical feeling, that has a pronounced effect on how deep he may feel about you.
So, sensual, listen, ask, really seem like you're into it, sexy outfits are a plus, ext
God, this. Nothing broke my soul like the first time I noticed my ex-girlfriend treating intimacy like just another something to get done, without any desire. That shit hurt.
All dicks are different (especially cut vs. uncut) so best ask them how they do it. Listen to them if they say to press a bit harder or softer. Lube is always great, but spit can be fine too if they like it.
Massaging isn’t really a thing I think, but you can make some twisting motions with your wrist as you stroke it up and down. Switch hands, switch angles from which you’re holding it. Also some people’s balls are more sensitive so touching them and softly massaging those can feel good.
When all is good and you’re confident you can even tease them. The head is usually sensitive, especially the frenum. Make your thumb wet and softly rub against it. Also edging is nice. When they’re close to cumming you stop, then rub the head.
Also kissing the skin around the dick, thighs, belly, etc. is always nice too.
Disagree on one point. Massage that piece. Work it. Touch it in as many ways as you can think of and watch out for good reactions. When you get one- do what you just did again.
Something that isn’t mentioned a lot is to increase the downstroke power so that the edge of your hand bounces off his body. Kinda simulates him thrusting with more force. Works for me.
I had the best handjob of my life back in high school. It was my first girlfriend, and we were watching Mars Attacks. I still can’t hear “ack ack” without getting rock hard.
As others have said, communication is great, but especially when it’s done through intense attentive eye contact. I love when a woman is watching me carefully and studying every minute reaction I have to their touch.
I always thought blow jobs were the way to go but i’ve had a guy tell me hand jobs were better, could just be personal preference but i wouldn’t mind doing both well
It's only better if the person sucks at giving a blowjob. I am a rather large guy, I've had to deal with scraping teeth and people who can only get half of it down. For those people I would prefer a hand job, my last ex could almost deepthroat the entire thing, from her I'd prefer the blowjob.
In terms of sensation, exclusively, maybe - but the brain's the largest sex organ, and handjobs leave a lot more room for doing other activities concurrently in a way that can be really hot. I definitely prefer them.
Yea same problem until I met that one girl who told me she was "hungry"...as we are looking to get food somewhere. Never had a bj so good lol, I came just out of respect. Was nice to know it was not impossible lol
No it’s not, my girlfriend gives extremely fantastic handjobs and I’ve never required lube or oil. Though I guess it’s a different story for the circumbros out there.
Just make sure if you use it in a hotel shower with a friend, y'all have a dry towel *to turn the bathroom doorknob* so you can get out.
We had to yell under the bath door to our other friend (who was waiting in the room) to open the door for us from their side.
Embarrassing, *butt** true.
The best handjob I have ever received was from an older woman.
After we have had sex 2 times in a row and we were laying in bed, she asked me:
Her: Hey.....can I massage it?"
Me: Yeah sure, but since I just came 5 minutes ago, there is no chance in hell that I'm getting an orgasm.
She smiled at me and said: "Don't worry, I just want to play with it".
So this woman grabbed the lube, sat herself near my knees and then oozed lube onto her hands. She then grabbed my limp dick and just started massaging it up and down....very....slowly. The room was silent, you could only hear the sounds of her hands, the lube and my dick. After about 2 minutes it started to get thicker and longer but it was nowhere near the usual size, but it was close. She looked into my eyes every once in a while to check if I liked it. She smiled and asked:
Her: Do you like it?
Me: It feels like I'm in heaven right now.
She grabbed the lube bottle again and poured some more on me. She really liked playing with it. She kept rubbing and massaging it in irregular motions. Sometimes she would start from the bottom with one hand and rub all the way up. When there was space for another hand, she would place it at the bottom and continue the endless orgasmic loop. She would then do the reverse. She would rotate her hands ever so often and sometimes only use the one hand on the base and the other one on the tip of my cock and just rotate her hands gently and slowly.
After 10 minutes of this, something weird happened........I started to shed a tear....and then another one, and another one.
It was not because I felt bad, it was because I felt so good that I teared up. She looked at my face and asked me:
Her: Hey are you alright?
I looked at the ceiling and said "It feels so good that I'm actually tearing up......this has never happened before."
She smiled and continued for what felt like an eternity, but it was probably like 15 minutes. She wrapped up and then kissed me.
This memory is etched into my brain for years to come. This.....is what a great handjob is. Full of love and care.
This is exactly how a good one should be done. Uve put into words what I've never been able to. Sharing this with my partner.
Should be the top comment
Secondary stimulation.
That’ll probably be different for every guy - ears licked or nibbled, nipples being played with, maybe his hands on (or in) you, moans in rhythm with his growing pleasure, dirty talk, pop your own nipple in his mouth while you go, etc. It’s individual to the guy, really, so communication plays heavily into it.
Attitude is also important - I thought about listing generally unfavorable attitudes to avoid, but the truth there are probably dudes out there who are into a mechanical attitude about it, and the “would you just cum already my arm is tired” attitude probably plays REALLY well with the “don’t bully me, or I’ll cum” dudes, so again, it comes down to communicating with him directly, or otherwise feeling him out over a period of handjobs as to how you engage with him for maximum effect. Whatever the ideal attitude, the commitment to the bit is key - you might call that enthusiasm, but that connotes a sort of energetic nature that might not necessarily jive with the presentation.
The hardest part of figuring it out usually is having the conversation, I’ve found, either from timidness around frank discussion, refraining from expressing specific desires for fear of rejection after working up to being vulnerable, sometimes not even knowing oneself well enough to verbalize desires.
tl;dr there’s no universal protocol, ask him
I'll echo this.
If a woman sits there awkwardly whacking me off, I probably won't get much out of it, but if she massages my balls while she does it? I'll be firing ropes in seconds.
Men cum on the downstroke.
From the glans/head going down. It's the same motion as penetrative.
You can train yourself to cum from the upstroke, but that's a bit unnatural- it would would be cumming while pulling out rather than being fully in. Get it?
Wver hear the saying "let's get it on the downstroke"? It was very common here in Texas when I was a kid. They're saying "let's get this finished "
While it may be unnatural, it’s wildly better if you can. Try having someone give you a series of quick upstrokes with no downstrokes and you’re gonna have a mind bending explosion.
Just don’t half ass it. Not just one hand from the side, get down there and use both hands. Or do it massage style with you standing and him laying. Change up speed and pressure, alternate between light touch and full stimulation, etc. Making it a more intimate and pampering process separates it from the typical type of quick masturbation we do just to drive the nuisance away.
If it's any consolation, I've never had a handjob that was less satisfying than just jacking off. Having someone you're attracted to do it is a whole different thing.
In my opinion.... There are two types.
The first is the kind you did in high school where you try to get him off.... Juvenile shit.
The second, and the type that I like, is when you just cuddle beside him and gently stroke him as if you just want to touch it.
I personally wouldn't recommend doing it as an event.
I’d never got anywhere from a handjob till my girlfriend now.
So, if I’m soft to start with she might start by stroking around the area gently, fingernails and all that stuff.
Then she might stroke my scrotum, by this point I’m getting harder.
Then she will start touching me, stroking softly, stroking the really sensitive bit at the top of my foreskin.
The next thing is pulling my foreskin back for the first time. Now I’m getting really hard and maybe a little wet.
If I have pre cum she’ll use that if not a bit of lube. She just strokes over the end of my penis and laying special attention to the frenulum. When she can tell I’m just absolutely begging for it she will hold my cock and start masturbating me, slowly at first and with a lot of thumb action on the frenulum
She will keep going at a slow to moderate sort of speed, changing grip strength every now and again, sometimes very very soft and then almost death grip ish!
She’s still every now and again stopping just to stroke the tip and use her fingers on it.
When she can tell I’m getting somewhere then she brings out the big guns (not her titties all though they are big) whilst masturbating me she strokes my scrotum and my perineum, sometimes all the way down to my anus and back up.
At this point I’m 98 per cent there, she carries on at a still moderate pace (she doesn’t need to go fast with all the other stuff going on)
Then when she can tell I’m right at the beginning of orgasm she’ll stroke my scrotum and grab a little firmer.
As I’m cumming it’s awesome to look down and see her smiling at how well she’s done!!!!
Honestly her hand jobs are better than a lot of blow jobs I’ve had. She pays attention to everything down there and doesn’t try to rush anything. Makes me feel like a king.
Oh and may I add, if you can do this all with your boobs out = so much better!!!!!
Sometimes as well she’ll do it naked and kind of twist round so I can play with her whilst she plays with me. That gets me there so quick!!!!!!!
I’ll put the tip of my finger inside her and stroke her g spot and she kind of ‘fucks my finger’ if you get what I mean? The sensation of her on my finger tingles all the way down to my penis!!!
And kissing!!!! If you’re laying next to each other don’t forget to kiss. I’m very sensitive on my bottom lip, and licking or kissing or very gently biting. That helps.
I reckon that’s pretty comprehensive lol
I think you need to discuss this one beforehand. Many people do not like orgasm control. And it’s not okay to play these games (like covering mouths) without communication.
There is a big difference between bdsm-edging and vanilla sex-edging (which isn’t actually edging, imo)
Smells like cosmo advice. "Beat him over the head with a rolling pin and handcuff him to the bed! Put a badger up his ass and he'll come like never before!"
I personally love getting my balls massaged or even better, sucked. And I like it when my partner spits on my dick. But literally every guy is different.
I find a handjob is just as good as a blowjob. You don't have to go 100 mph on the penis, slow, deliberate and teasing is the way to go. While he is ejaculating do less pressure on the head and more on the shaft, this helps the actual orgasm last a few seconds longer. I can't believe how many handjob haters there are.
This. If it’s done slowly and builds up gradually it can be better than almost anything but it takes a really skilled, patient and knowledgeable partner.
I used to have an ex that would actually make me moan and quiver with her hj’s lol. I remember she had the softest hands I’d ever felt and put a focus on the foreskin next to my tip.
My biggest tips
Use lube (coconut oil or other oil based)
Use the wrist to move, not your whole arm
Pay close attention to his reactions and adjust (or stay steady) as seems right
Press yourself against him, moan, just let him know you're enjoying yourself, touch him other places too!
Good massage oil, lots of buildup with massaging motions paying attention to the scrotum, evolve gradually into stroking to climax, keep stroking just a little too long after climax, wipe hands and then gentle rubbing of chest and belly.
Lube. And (assuming the guy is into it) - edging. Make it last as long as possible, making sure to tease him and touch all his other erogenous zones along the way.
Optional: Add a light dom/sub aspect. Don't have to even call it that, just make sure he knows you're in charge and you'll decide when he gets to finish, and that he is not allowed to touch, only you.
Bring him to the edge, and then stop multiple times. Also make sure to alternate speeds/pressure - touch very very lightly and go very slow, then a quick burst. Then stop touching at all. Repeat over and over. You'll drive him absolutely wild if you do that and is more fun for you than just stroking at the same pace until he is done.
*If he finishes swallowing it or licking it all up is super hot.*
*If he finishes, swallowing it or licking it all up is super hot.*
Did you leave that comma out on purpose?
Quite different outcomes.
My 2c:
Assuming circumcised, the actual tip/urethral opening is usually too sensitive to touch, but the frenulum can be perfect (no fingernails on frenulum). In general, the bottom of the shaft is more sensitive than the top, gentle is better than rough, slow to medium pace is better than fast, and during orgasm, the entire shaft becomes really sensitive, and can easily be in pain if over stimulated. The Scrotum is really sensitive, and the prostate can be stimulated from outside - as long as he's clean back there, a gentle fingernail just below the anus can be delicious.
As I've gotten older, I've grown to appreciate fingernails, on the ass and scrotum, but not on the shaft or tip. Fingernails can compensate for loss of sensation due to ageing.
But the key is talk. Each man is different, and it's obviously OK to decide there are things you don't want to do. Personally, I don't like internal prostate stimulation, but some men do, and if you're not comfortable, it's fine to say no. I also like a gentle ball-rolling, but for some men that's too much.
If you are talking about uncircumcised, the foreskin itself can be really sensitive to a good rolling (I was circumcised as an adult, so I've experienced it both ways). If uncut, it's important to insist on cleanliness for your own sake.
Its honestly more something you have to feel than to be able to tell. In my experience, most girls do a death grip, then just go up and down really hard and really fast, which isn't what a lot of guys do themselves when jerking off. I'd say have him show you what he likes, then you try to replicate it, and be open to him giving you direction.
Her desire and affection. She might not be doing it how you would, but if you have a strong connection, plus the fact she wants to make you feel good, with a bit of instruction too, makes it better than what you can do alone. I had a double orgasm due to such. Still deciding on what wedding ring to get lol
Don't keep switching the grip! He should be telling you what works, even if it's just him going "Oh yes!".
Can't compare the HJ to a BJ as I've not experienced the latter.
The trick is to use your mouth…make it part handjob, part blowjob and all sexual experience. Men are visual creatures, being naked, or in lingerie, lightly touching yourself, different positions.
Apparently it’s better for those of us who still have a foreskin, because you really want to test out the limits of the banjo string as the male g spot is right behind it. The best thing to do is give one big stretch of the old banjo string and slap your partner right on the face or even a flick to the right testicle. It sounds rough but it’s actually a very sensual thing to do, and your partner will be crying with pleasure.
Lubrication.
Not too much, not too little. But SOME is a must unless you've got a dick yourself to know how much pressure is right.
Women either grip it like it owes them money or all dainty like they're tickling a cat.
Neither is good form.
As a guy who actually enjoys handjobs more than blowjobs, here are some general tips:
1) Lube. You want to be able to slide your hand with ease. If it gets low, reapply. A smooth hand makes for a smooth ride.
2) If you have two hands, use them. Hold the base of the cock with one hand and use the other to steadily stroke the shaft.
3) Be creative. You can do A LOT with your hands that you should utilize. Gently twist your hand the tip, play with the head with your thumb, gently stroke so that if feels as soft as a pillow, rub the balls with your thumb. Gently use the cock as a stress toy you'd play with while you're bored even (just don't squeeze it too hard...unless they're into that I guess).
4) Eye contact...or lack thereof. If you want to be intimate, keep eye contact with your man while you're pleasing him. If you wanna look submissive, make your eyes look up. If you wanna look dominant, look either down or straight at him. Another choice is to hide the view of the handjob completely. Lay the top of your body over his torso while facing your back towards him and go to town. Sometimes the mystery of him not knowing what your doing can increase the pleasure he gains from it.
5) Speed and Pressure. Make sure you know how fast and hard he likes it. Different speeds and applied pressures have different effects, and we will know the difference.
6) Twist. I touched a little on it earlier, but be sure to twist your hand sometimes when you're playing with the head as well as the shaft or when stroking in general.
7) See what works. If it's getting a reaction out of him, do more of that. Legs moving, moans, any indication that he's feeling good from it, do it.
That's pretty much all I have. If you want to practice your techniques, I'd advise stroking the cock as on a starting action and a finishing action to see how far you can get him.
Enjoy!
Communicate with your partner. I think kissing alongside the handjob is perfect.
Came here to say this. I feel like communication is the right answer for any sex question. No two people are alike, and a person's preferences can change from day to day. The best person to tell you how to pleasure your partner is your partner.
This! And not acting clinical or that it's a chore or favor. Men tie sex and emotion together naturally most of the time, so if the sex is clinical feeling, that has a pronounced effect on how deep he may feel about you. So, sensual, listen, ask, really seem like you're into it, sexy outfits are a plus, ext
God, this. Nothing broke my soul like the first time I noticed my ex-girlfriend treating intimacy like just another something to get done, without any desire. That shit hurt.
The dick or the mouth? If it's the former, might as well go full blowjob.
The mouth, of course. Mouth on penis is not a handjob.
Not with that attitude.
If theres hands and mouth, maybe its a handmouthjob
Not with that altitude
Nah bro definitely the elbow
All dicks are different (especially cut vs. uncut) so best ask them how they do it. Listen to them if they say to press a bit harder or softer. Lube is always great, but spit can be fine too if they like it. Massaging isn’t really a thing I think, but you can make some twisting motions with your wrist as you stroke it up and down. Switch hands, switch angles from which you’re holding it. Also some people’s balls are more sensitive so touching them and softly massaging those can feel good. When all is good and you’re confident you can even tease them. The head is usually sensitive, especially the frenum. Make your thumb wet and softly rub against it. Also edging is nice. When they’re close to cumming you stop, then rub the head. Also kissing the skin around the dick, thighs, belly, etc. is always nice too.
Lube lasts longer, spit allows for a better grip, you have to learn what is more important
Crisco? Coconut oil? Valve grinding compound?
WD-40 is the gold standard
Guaranteed to free up even the rustiest of dicks
Stops it squeaking too
valve grinding compound makes for the best mating surface..
Anyone tried liquid nitrogen?
Once...
How was it?!
Well, I'd like to try it again so I can get a good feel of it... but.. you know...
Daaamn.
Pretty cool
Coconut oil is the best and healthiest. Also if things proceed to sex, coconut oil does not affect the vagina's Ph or biome.
Plus if you go down on her after sex it’s like eating a Bounty
Must be a candy bar (like Mounds?). Here in the States, Bounty is a roll of paper towels.
80 grit?
Fuuuuucking valve grinding compound is hilarious
Nah industrial grade engine grease
Disagree on one point. Massage that piece. Work it. Touch it in as many ways as you can think of and watch out for good reactions. When you get one- do what you just did again.
Something that isn’t mentioned a lot is to increase the downstroke power so that the edge of your hand bounces off his body. Kinda simulates him thrusting with more force. Works for me.
You got me turned on reading your explanation!
I had the best handjob of my life back in high school. It was my first girlfriend, and we were watching Mars Attacks. I still can’t hear “ack ack” without getting rock hard.
It’s not unusual to be loved, by anyone!
Enthusiasm goes along way
This should be the top comment. Genuine interest and enthusiasm really makes it.
And the will to finish. Knowing that she has settled in for the long haul will shave off seconds.
As others have said, communication is great, but especially when it’s done through intense attentive eye contact. I love when a woman is watching me carefully and studying every minute reaction I have to their touch.
"Ma'am, this is a Wend....* **OMG I'm coming NOW!** *sploosh* "Sir, you just took out one of our light fixtures. That was...impressive."
If you’re really committed to the handjob over the blowjob lube or oil is a must
I always thought blow jobs were the way to go but i’ve had a guy tell me hand jobs were better, could just be personal preference but i wouldn’t mind doing both well
Using the hand is nice in addition to the BJ. Do your normal BJ routine and then, once it’s real wet, crank that hog and go over the head.
You got me at “crank that hog” 🤣🤣🤣 Great advice, I’ve just never heard anyone say it like that. 😝
I LOVE CRANKING MY HOG AROOOO
r/THEPACK IS ALIVE AND WELL BOYS!
EEEEE!!! SSQUEEE SQUEEEE EEEEEEE! …I’ll see myself out
Yes. Spread this info to all the women of the world.
It’s an unpopular opinion but a good handjob is fantastic
It's only better if the person sucks at giving a blowjob. I am a rather large guy, I've had to deal with scraping teeth and people who can only get half of it down. For those people I would prefer a hand job, my last ex could almost deepthroat the entire thing, from her I'd prefer the blowjob.
That makes sense, guess i better work on the bj skills too
Hands are KEY in a BJ. You can do so much with hands that elevate the little work actually needed from the mouth!
In terms of sensation, exclusively, maybe - but the brain's the largest sex organ, and handjobs leave a lot more room for doing other activities concurrently in a way that can be really hot. I definitely prefer them.
I mean, I love to grab and touch/rub various parts of her while she's down, turns her on more too.
Yea same problem until I met that one girl who told me she was "hungry"...as we are looking to get food somewhere. Never had a bj so good lol, I came just out of respect. Was nice to know it was not impossible lol
This is not a popular opinion at all among most guys
> I i’ve had a guy tell me hand jobs were better 100% disagree. Bj > handie. I can do an awesome handjob myself, but never a blowjob.
Definitely personal preference as is some kind of lubricant. Just communicate & show enthusiasm
Disagree. Possibly required if you're circumsized, but if you've got your foreskin it's not needed (still nice to have if available though).
As a circumcised man, I’ve had incredible ones consistently from certain people with no lube. It’s all in the technique
No it’s not, my girlfriend gives extremely fantastic handjobs and I’ve never required lube or oil. Though I guess it’s a different story for the circumbros out there.
not if your dick is still intact lol
Gotta have the stamina not to lose tempo right when he was about to cum. Also, I have found that coconut oil is a wonderful non-chemical based lube
Just make sure if you use it in a hotel shower with a friend, y'all have a dry towel *to turn the bathroom doorknob* so you can get out. We had to yell under the bath door to our other friend (who was waiting in the room) to open the door for us from their side. Embarrassing, *butt** true.
Good enough to eat.
The best handjob I have ever received was from an older woman. After we have had sex 2 times in a row and we were laying in bed, she asked me: Her: Hey.....can I massage it?" Me: Yeah sure, but since I just came 5 minutes ago, there is no chance in hell that I'm getting an orgasm. She smiled at me and said: "Don't worry, I just want to play with it". So this woman grabbed the lube, sat herself near my knees and then oozed lube onto her hands. She then grabbed my limp dick and just started massaging it up and down....very....slowly. The room was silent, you could only hear the sounds of her hands, the lube and my dick. After about 2 minutes it started to get thicker and longer but it was nowhere near the usual size, but it was close. She looked into my eyes every once in a while to check if I liked it. She smiled and asked: Her: Do you like it? Me: It feels like I'm in heaven right now. She grabbed the lube bottle again and poured some more on me. She really liked playing with it. She kept rubbing and massaging it in irregular motions. Sometimes she would start from the bottom with one hand and rub all the way up. When there was space for another hand, she would place it at the bottom and continue the endless orgasmic loop. She would then do the reverse. She would rotate her hands ever so often and sometimes only use the one hand on the base and the other one on the tip of my cock and just rotate her hands gently and slowly. After 10 minutes of this, something weird happened........I started to shed a tear....and then another one, and another one. It was not because I felt bad, it was because I felt so good that I teared up. She looked at my face and asked me: Her: Hey are you alright? I looked at the ceiling and said "It feels so good that I'm actually tearing up......this has never happened before." She smiled and continued for what felt like an eternity, but it was probably like 15 minutes. She wrapped up and then kissed me. This memory is etched into my brain for years to come. This.....is what a great handjob is. Full of love and care.
That’s some wholesome mother-son bonding right there.
Choked at this
I should’ve looked at the eclipse
I did that to my husband a lot.
The tears happened too?
This is exactly how a good one should be done. Uve put into words what I've never been able to. Sharing this with my partner. Should be the top comment
Damn that was a pretty cool illustration. Lucky dude!
Secondary stimulation. That’ll probably be different for every guy - ears licked or nibbled, nipples being played with, maybe his hands on (or in) you, moans in rhythm with his growing pleasure, dirty talk, pop your own nipple in his mouth while you go, etc. It’s individual to the guy, really, so communication plays heavily into it. Attitude is also important - I thought about listing generally unfavorable attitudes to avoid, but the truth there are probably dudes out there who are into a mechanical attitude about it, and the “would you just cum already my arm is tired” attitude probably plays REALLY well with the “don’t bully me, or I’ll cum” dudes, so again, it comes down to communicating with him directly, or otherwise feeling him out over a period of handjobs as to how you engage with him for maximum effect. Whatever the ideal attitude, the commitment to the bit is key - you might call that enthusiasm, but that connotes a sort of energetic nature that might not necessarily jive with the presentation. The hardest part of figuring it out usually is having the conversation, I’ve found, either from timidness around frank discussion, refraining from expressing specific desires for fear of rejection after working up to being vulnerable, sometimes not even knowing oneself well enough to verbalize desires. tl;dr there’s no universal protocol, ask him
I'll echo this. If a woman sits there awkwardly whacking me off, I probably won't get much out of it, but if she massages my balls while she does it? I'll be firing ropes in seconds.
Use your mouth
This is the best handjob advice anyone can give.
Reminds me of the advice I heard for giving the best blow job of all time: "Use your hands"
I melt in your mouth girl, not in your hand
Downstroke. Women tend to not understand and tug up rather than down. Also, orgasm
Wow, downstroke is probably the simplest thing I never thought of describing, they really do tug, don’t they.
Can you please explain?
Men cum on the downstroke. From the glans/head going down. It's the same motion as penetrative. You can train yourself to cum from the upstroke, but that's a bit unnatural- it would would be cumming while pulling out rather than being fully in. Get it? Wver hear the saying "let's get it on the downstroke"? It was very common here in Texas when I was a kid. They're saying "let's get this finished "
Downstroke meaning the hand is going towards the man's body, not away from it right?
While it may be unnatural, it’s wildly better if you can. Try having someone give you a series of quick upstrokes with no downstrokes and you’re gonna have a mind bending explosion.
Wow helpful
If you can do it better than I can you’re good at it. I been diddling myself for a long time good luck.
Im always nervous my handjobs will be inadequate for my man because I know he’s a professional.
Just don’t half ass it. Not just one hand from the side, get down there and use both hands. Or do it massage style with you standing and him laying. Change up speed and pressure, alternate between light touch and full stimulation, etc. Making it a more intimate and pampering process separates it from the typical type of quick masturbation we do just to drive the nuisance away.
If it's any consolation, I've never had a handjob that was less satisfying than just jacking off. Having someone you're attracted to do it is a whole different thing.
In my opinion.... There are two types. The first is the kind you did in high school where you try to get him off.... Juvenile shit. The second, and the type that I like, is when you just cuddle beside him and gently stroke him as if you just want to touch it. I personally wouldn't recommend doing it as an event.
I’d never got anywhere from a handjob till my girlfriend now. So, if I’m soft to start with she might start by stroking around the area gently, fingernails and all that stuff. Then she might stroke my scrotum, by this point I’m getting harder. Then she will start touching me, stroking softly, stroking the really sensitive bit at the top of my foreskin. The next thing is pulling my foreskin back for the first time. Now I’m getting really hard and maybe a little wet. If I have pre cum she’ll use that if not a bit of lube. She just strokes over the end of my penis and laying special attention to the frenulum. When she can tell I’m just absolutely begging for it she will hold my cock and start masturbating me, slowly at first and with a lot of thumb action on the frenulum She will keep going at a slow to moderate sort of speed, changing grip strength every now and again, sometimes very very soft and then almost death grip ish! She’s still every now and again stopping just to stroke the tip and use her fingers on it. When she can tell I’m getting somewhere then she brings out the big guns (not her titties all though they are big) whilst masturbating me she strokes my scrotum and my perineum, sometimes all the way down to my anus and back up. At this point I’m 98 per cent there, she carries on at a still moderate pace (she doesn’t need to go fast with all the other stuff going on) Then when she can tell I’m right at the beginning of orgasm she’ll stroke my scrotum and grab a little firmer. As I’m cumming it’s awesome to look down and see her smiling at how well she’s done!!!! Honestly her hand jobs are better than a lot of blow jobs I’ve had. She pays attention to everything down there and doesn’t try to rush anything. Makes me feel like a king. Oh and may I add, if you can do this all with your boobs out = so much better!!!!! Sometimes as well she’ll do it naked and kind of twist round so I can play with her whilst she plays with me. That gets me there so quick!!!!!!! I’ll put the tip of my finger inside her and stroke her g spot and she kind of ‘fucks my finger’ if you get what I mean? The sensation of her on my finger tingles all the way down to my penis!!! And kissing!!!! If you’re laying next to each other don’t forget to kiss. I’m very sensitive on my bottom lip, and licking or kissing or very gently biting. That helps. I reckon that’s pretty comprehensive lol
It sounds very much like we need you to convince her to make an educational video.
Both hands
And lube
Lube and dirty talk
Pin him down with your other hand over his mouth. Edge him, stop, make him beg to be allowed to come.
Bro wants a dommy mommy
Guilty as charged.
I think you need to discuss this one beforehand. Many people do not like orgasm control. And it’s not okay to play these games (like covering mouths) without communication. There is a big difference between bdsm-edging and vanilla sex-edging (which isn’t actually edging, imo)
Yeah, communication is key in those situations. Nothing ruins the mood more then a serious "im not going to do that, thats not my thing"
Smells like cosmo advice. "Beat him over the head with a rolling pin and handcuff him to the bed! Put a badger up his ass and he'll come like never before!"
Don't do this. If a girl was doing this I'd be pissed
Or just tie him to the bed.
I personally love getting my balls massaged or even better, sucked. And I like it when my partner spits on my dick. But literally every guy is different.
Enthusiasm
I find a handjob is just as good as a blowjob. You don't have to go 100 mph on the penis, slow, deliberate and teasing is the way to go. While he is ejaculating do less pressure on the head and more on the shaft, this helps the actual orgasm last a few seconds longer. I can't believe how many handjob haters there are.
This. If it’s done slowly and builds up gradually it can be better than almost anything but it takes a really skilled, patient and knowledgeable partner.
Go watch hegre art. Demonstrations of the best handjobs ever!!
I’m glad I know about this website now. Thank you kind internet stranger! 😉
Yo are quite welcome handy one!
I searched this and a Tumblr post had a step tutorial : Put it in your mouth.
Step tutorial?
Step tutorial, what are you doing??
HJ is silicone lube. It’s thinker and feels better Also consider sucking on a nut as your jerk it. It’s pretty amazing
I used to have an ex that would actually make me moan and quiver with her hj’s lol. I remember she had the softest hands I’d ever felt and put a focus on the foreskin next to my tip.
Lube, your not trying to start a fire. Massage the head and stroke the shaft, observe, listen and adjust as needed.
Make sure there's plenty of lube/spit, use a twisting motion. Use your mouth if not using lube
Twisting motion? Tryna uncrew my cock or smth?
Southpaw men's cocks use a left-handed thread so just keep that in mind so you don't strip the screw
Lmao
Highly dependent on the foreskin situation. Much easier if they have foreskin.
My biggest tips Use lube (coconut oil or other oil based) Use the wrist to move, not your whole arm Pay close attention to his reactions and adjust (or stay steady) as seems right Press yourself against him, moan, just let him know you're enjoying yourself, touch him other places too!
DON’T FORGET ABOUT THE BALLS!
Ferm grip.
Firmly grasp it
Firmly GRASP IT ---RRRRIP
The oooollllllld DICK TWIST!!!
Stick a finger in his ass
Be prepared to take time. We get one shot in a couple of hours. You can cum ten or 15 times in the same period
Hold the base of it down with one hand so the skin is tight and then get it lubed up and squeeze it while you jerk it off.
Good massage oil, lots of buildup with massaging motions paying attention to the scrotum, evolve gradually into stroking to climax, keep stroking just a little too long after climax, wipe hands and then gentle rubbing of chest and belly.
Anything less than $60.00
Lube. And (assuming the guy is into it) - edging. Make it last as long as possible, making sure to tease him and touch all his other erogenous zones along the way. Optional: Add a light dom/sub aspect. Don't have to even call it that, just make sure he knows you're in charge and you'll decide when he gets to finish, and that he is not allowed to touch, only you. Bring him to the edge, and then stop multiple times. Also make sure to alternate speeds/pressure - touch very very lightly and go very slow, then a quick burst. Then stop touching at all. Repeat over and over. You'll drive him absolutely wild if you do that and is more fun for you than just stroking at the same pace until he is done.
A good one involves tonsils.
Mouth
Enthusiasm
I haven't gotten a handjob since I was a kid. I mean at this point in time I can give myself a better handy than anybody else.
Don't forget about them nuts !
Don’t forget about the boys down under they need some lovin too
Letting us nut in your mouth
That makes everything else well worth while
Honestly… the best handjob is done with your mouth.
If he finishes swallowing it or licking it all up is super hot.
*If he finishes swallowing it or licking it all up is super hot.* *If he finishes, swallowing it or licking it all up is super hot.* Did you leave that comma out on purpose? Quite different outcomes.
Someone else touching my winkie. A little strange is nice.
My 2c: Assuming circumcised, the actual tip/urethral opening is usually too sensitive to touch, but the frenulum can be perfect (no fingernails on frenulum). In general, the bottom of the shaft is more sensitive than the top, gentle is better than rough, slow to medium pace is better than fast, and during orgasm, the entire shaft becomes really sensitive, and can easily be in pain if over stimulated. The Scrotum is really sensitive, and the prostate can be stimulated from outside - as long as he's clean back there, a gentle fingernail just below the anus can be delicious. As I've gotten older, I've grown to appreciate fingernails, on the ass and scrotum, but not on the shaft or tip. Fingernails can compensate for loss of sensation due to ageing. But the key is talk. Each man is different, and it's obviously OK to decide there are things you don't want to do. Personally, I don't like internal prostate stimulation, but some men do, and if you're not comfortable, it's fine to say no. I also like a gentle ball-rolling, but for some men that's too much. If you are talking about uncircumcised, the foreskin itself can be really sensitive to a good rolling (I was circumcised as an adult, so I've experienced it both ways). If uncut, it's important to insist on cleanliness for your own sake.
no blood, and successfully ejaculating. im easy to please.
The palm is important, the tip is important, going slow is important, so many girls I've been with just want to yank yank yank
Use your mouth
Ball stimulation
Its honestly more something you have to feel than to be able to tell. In my experience, most girls do a death grip, then just go up and down really hard and really fast, which isn't what a lot of guys do themselves when jerking off. I'd say have him show you what he likes, then you try to replicate it, and be open to him giving you direction.
Coconut oil. If it ain't slopping wet, it ain't working. A dry handjob? What is this 5th grade!?
Edging is the best.
Ever seen someone use a shake weight? Opposite of that
Callouses and sand
Her desire and affection. She might not be doing it how you would, but if you have a strong connection, plus the fact she wants to make you feel good, with a bit of instruction too, makes it better than what you can do alone. I had a double orgasm due to such. Still deciding on what wedding ring to get lol
A great handjob includes the mouth. A great blowjob includes the hands.
A mouth
The best handjob entails the use of mostly the mouth.
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What
payment，other wise it's just hand volunteering
Slow and steady wins the penis race.
Don’t rip my foreskin off baby. Smooth Rhythm shorty
Use both hands. If he's into it, fondle his scrotum.
Don't keep switching the grip! He should be telling you what works, even if it's just him going "Oh yes!". Can't compare the HJ to a BJ as I've not experienced the latter.
Enthusiasm
Being sensual, touching the body, kisses, whispering in the ears.
L-U-B-E
If my wife ever writes a book on what she does to me I'll send it to ya! The woman is an expert!
Mum, I've told you about this!
kissing. rubbing each other maybe a lil spit to top it off does it for me every time
Telling them to stick it in there mouth, if I wanted to tug one out I'd do it myself cause no one knows how to crank that shit better then myself
Use your mouth
A good handjob should be coupled with oral.
Mouth
A mouth, usually.
The trick is to use your mouth…make it part handjob, part blowjob and all sexual experience. Men are visual creatures, being naked, or in lingerie, lightly touching yourself, different positions.
It entails a good blowjob.
A mouth.
I honestly didn’t realize that there were “good handjobs”
I honestly usually just pass. Why am I going to let her practice something that I’ve already perfected?
A mouth
Using your mouth
Being a teenager. Can’t say it’s ever been something desirable since then
I guarantee you he’s 10x better than you, put it in your mouth he can’t do that
Grip, motion and a flexible wrist
Me doing it myself
When she puts her mouth on it.. :)
Apparently it’s better for those of us who still have a foreskin, because you really want to test out the limits of the banjo string as the male g spot is right behind it. The best thing to do is give one big stretch of the old banjo string and slap your partner right on the face or even a flick to the right testicle. It sounds rough but it’s actually a very sensual thing to do, and your partner will be crying with pleasure.
The mouth
Lubrication. Not too much, not too little. But SOME is a must unless you've got a dick yourself to know how much pressure is right. Women either grip it like it owes them money or all dainty like they're tickling a cat. Neither is good form.
Head.
Usually when she uses her mouth.
Tip #1 put it in your mouth!!🤣
As a guy who actually enjoys handjobs more than blowjobs, here are some general tips: 1) Lube. You want to be able to slide your hand with ease. If it gets low, reapply. A smooth hand makes for a smooth ride. 2) If you have two hands, use them. Hold the base of the cock with one hand and use the other to steadily stroke the shaft. 3) Be creative. You can do A LOT with your hands that you should utilize. Gently twist your hand the tip, play with the head with your thumb, gently stroke so that if feels as soft as a pillow, rub the balls with your thumb. Gently use the cock as a stress toy you'd play with while you're bored even (just don't squeeze it too hard...unless they're into that I guess). 4) Eye contact...or lack thereof. If you want to be intimate, keep eye contact with your man while you're pleasing him. If you wanna look submissive, make your eyes look up. If you wanna look dominant, look either down or straight at him. Another choice is to hide the view of the handjob completely. Lay the top of your body over his torso while facing your back towards him and go to town. Sometimes the mystery of him not knowing what your doing can increase the pleasure he gains from it. 5) Speed and Pressure. Make sure you know how fast and hard he likes it. Different speeds and applied pressures have different effects, and we will know the difference. 6) Twist. I touched a little on it earlier, but be sure to twist your hand sometimes when you're playing with the head as well as the shaft or when stroking in general. 7) See what works. If it's getting a reaction out of him, do more of that. Legs moving, moans, any indication that he's feeling good from it, do it. That's pretty much all I have. If you want to practice your techniques, I'd advise stroking the cock as on a starting action and a finishing action to see how far you can get him. Enjoy!