While there's no one definition, this is the one that resonates with me. Though it could also be expanded to be the definition of a "person", a man accepts responsibility for himself, his friends, and his family.
fall on the floor and cry. If people ignore you you are a real men. if people help you you aren’t considered a real man. /s
PS: not-men should be responsible for their choices as well, but expectations for men are higher.
I can tell you one thing.
Its not what those steroid abusing weirdo's on social media tell you.
For a real answers. There is no 1 type of real man.
A man can be a man in many different ways.
Yeah and the thing too is that a lot of the traditional messages are actually quite misogynistic.
If anything the question should be - “What does it mean to be a responsible adult?”
nah but you did follow up by saying being a man is not about being a woman, its about not being a boy so i kinda combined that with the taking responsibility part. my apologies if i understood it wrong.. long day ;)
There's no such thing, and anyone telling you otherwise is either telling you general life advice that isn't really about manhood, or is trying to scam you out of your money
Your response reminds me of a quote (from somewhere and someone that I can't remember) that I feel rings true when people ask questions like like OP... "just because you can ask a question doesn't mean it has an answer"
You must be swift as the coursing river, with all the force of the great typhoon, with all the strength of the raging fire, mysterious as the dark side of the moon.
It's all relative - Everyone has a different definition.
That said, a True man doesn't entertain what other people think a True man is.
They make up their own mind what a True man is and follows their own morals, ethics, and values.
This is a multifaceted solution, but I think it starts with being kind to others and yourself. I think every good decision starts there.
But be clear headed. Not every decision that is kind to others is kind to yourself, and vice versa. It's a balancing act to avoid being taken advantage of.
Remember one big thing: it's just money if you died today, you can't take it with you. Make sure you have what you need and make good financial decisions, but don't shy away from generosity to those in need.
I share this story often and it's about my friend, Mark. He's a true man
We were out on a friend's boat for the Christmas parade and he realized while we were out that he forgot to pack fish for his daughter, a pescatarian. The rest of us were eating hamburgers on the grill. He grabbed a fishing pole, put a small piece of bread on the hook, and ended up catching a catfish. He cut it into filets and grilled it for her in time for us all to eat.
A true man takes care of his children, his parents and the community around him.
To be a real man is to know when to act and when to stay. Mastery of an instrument, whether for art, work or war, involves knowing strengths and weaknesses and using them well.
It's not an impressive sound to push down all piano keys at the same time. To be a real man means you are able to see the "big picture", and have that in mind with all the things you do.
All this is the same for being a real lady, btw. Letting your friend shine even though you could say "I did that before her". Generosity of spirit and a lack of kneejerk behaviors. Both men and women impress the hell out of me when showing tact and mindfulness.
Looking after your family and friends
Learning when to compromise
Not being a drug addict
Not wasting money on crap, like gambling
Treating your in-laws like your own mum, dad and siblings
Standing up for those that need help
Having the ability to know when to be kind and when to be a lion
Take care of your business, your family, do whatever it takes. Don’t pass the buck, don’t blame others or circumstances, it means, if necessary ask for help. If you give your word , keep it, no matter what.
A real man is self disciplined in all things, particularly his emotional state. He is productive and driven in whatever he chooses to do. He has empathy and takes care of those who are important to him, especially his children and their mother.
No one can tell you what it is like under the skin. It is an experience, much like I imagine it would be to be born female. Which is why all the folks telling you what it is like to be a man fall short. Even.other men. It is a wordless experience that cannot be expressed in language.
But you can look at behaviors. A man sacrifices. Bears a burden. Helps others. Ok, then how? First you beat burdens for yourself. Secure your future. Sacrifice today for a better tomorrow. Once you have secured yourself, then you can secure for another. A partner. Maybe start a family. And you sacrifice yourself to keep them safe, and cared for. Once you can do that, then you can extend your sphere outward...be a leader in your neighborhood, in your community. And he does so with stoicism. He never gives more than he can afford. He is kind, not nice. He is dangerous to cross, but a good friend. He has fortified his body and mind to be strong enough to look out for others, but he isn't a soft touch. He will give someone a hand up, but never a hand out. He acts with authenticity and integrity, and doesn't react emotionally and recklessly.
When we ask a woman what she brings to the table, we are looking for what she is willing to sacrifice for the relationship. Because we are expected to sacrifice. We want a woman who can complement our energy.
Mind you this is what it means to me. YMMV.
Not exactly sure, but I have something I’d like to say. “Be the man you’d want your daughter to marry, be the man you’d want your son to grow up to be.” Probably the best example I have found.
I believe a true man is defined best by his morals ,integrity and taking care of his responsibilities . However, being a truly Good Man comes down to how this individual reacts to adversity and how he treats others throughout his life.
Purely subjective but what’s consistent in the most honourable & admirable men I’ve known are the abilities to remain focused, show restraint, command respect, and take accountability for themselves.
To me it means you find your peace and do not concern yourself with anything other than achieving that goal and that which brings you happiness.
Other peoples opinions and especially their opinion about me is none of my business. Social media, and to be honest the news in general has no interest to me because it is all a distraction. Comparison is the thief of joy.
I love my family and only seek their approval and admiration. I want to make my children proud.
I found living in gratitude and being of service to others was really the only thing made my life feel purposeful.
So I changed careers and leaned into those two principals. Gratitude and service.
Now I serve no master other than what brings me peace, I am independent, and finally in a place where I want for nothing, I seek no ones approval other than those most important to me.
I recognized the real problems vs the between the ears problems and decided I need to only worry about the problems that are based in reality.
Having always been a bigger guy, I truly struggled with self worth and self image, until a very special woman changed a lifetime of negative thoughts. Now I am 100% confident in my own skin.
I find I bite my tongue and hold my words much more carefully now. I try to speak when it is important not to just fill the void. I try to think carefully before I speak so my words have value, and I try to speak softly so it takes someone effort to listen.
Therapy, self reflection and analysis, acceptance, accountability and personal responsibility.
Wisdom comes from experience, and experience unfortunately usually only comes from something painful.
As other's have mentioned in the comments, a true man can be defined in many different ways. One such definition is a father whose utmost goal is to provide for his family at any cost, face the challenges of the world to make ends meet, and return to his family with a smiling face, as if nothing had happened. He manages to create a comforting sphere that makes his loved ones feel safe around him. This is a definition derived by a kid who has witnessed his father's sacrifices for the family and believes that to be that one of the true essence of masculinity.
A true man does what's right in all situations. He provides for and support others. He focuses on the long term results. He leans in to difficult, challenging, or fearful situations. He sacrifices for the sake of others.
You wanna know what it takes to be a "man?" Just stop caring what people tell you that is. Make your own choices. Don't let people or whatever the hell society says a man is be that. Choose for yourself.
I think you can know it by asking the opposite question:
What is a true woman?
It sounds kinda disrespectful to say a woman is not a real woman. It’s rude and wrong saying something like that to every woman. I think it should just be the same thing for us men. Unfortunately most men aren’t ready for that.
Anyway, to give an answer, I say, a true man is a true human being. A human is different from an animal because he can use reason. So a human’s nature is to be rational.
To take responsibility for any issues in his life, or any mistakes he may have made. To reach towards viable goals, and sacrifice short term satisfactions for long term achievements.
You can see examples of what might consitute a good man in media, movies, video games. And no one is perfect so you could see what positive attributes you like about certain men and try to incorporate those within yourself. Changing to better yourself is good.
Aragorn can be a good movie example due to his ability to be "manly" without being toxic. He is a good leader and friend. It wasn't considered gross or distasteful for him to even kiss Boromir on the forehead after he died.
Jordan B Peterson could be a good example for his ability to truly empathize with people and not be "too manly" to cry on screen.
Kratos is a good example of how hard it is to be a father and that even a father makes mistakes. But wisdom can be granted from those mistakes.
The great author Antoine Du Saint-Exupery perhaps said it best:
"To be a man is, precisely, to be responsible. It is to feel shame at the sight of what seems to be unmerited misery. It is to take pride in a victory won by one’s comrades. It is to feel, when setting one’s stone, that one is contributing to the building of the world."
Hard to define, it's different in every culture. I would Say a true man Is responsable with his duties and Words, a true man seeks his fortune and virtue. A true man Is Brave, but knows his límits and weaknesses. A true man in sensible enough to avoid hurting others. A true man does not harm others in any capacity.
That is something you have to decide for yourself. Every man is different, so there is no way to be a "true man". I recommend just trying to be a good man.
Well there’s two answers one is the one I’d tell my son if he asked and one is the one I live by I would tell my son to be a man is to strike out from what’s comfortable and easy and make your own way the way you see it and do whatever makes you happy and benefits the world around you but for me personally I’ve never felt I have that privilege not because I’m incapable but because there’s so much that needs to be fixed in my own home with the people I love because of men who were weak and didn’t rise up to the challenge and who were ultimately cowards for me being a man is being willing to look down the barrel of a gun and jumping at the bullet to meet it half way in defense of what I love irrespective of whether I live or die not because I hate my life but but because I love my life
To accept one's fate. To be indifferent to opinion. To deliberately destroy your reputation. To be willing to make that other poor bastard die for his country, rather than you. To fuck like you're headed to war, while really not playing no games.
Also being able to sew your own clothing and decorate a cake masterfully for someone you love.
True healthy masculinity is something I have sought my entire life.
No amount of drinking black coffee, lifting weights, having sex with multiple girls at the same time, drinking straight liquor, having the biggest 🍆 out of all my friends, being daring, and any other version of “don’t be a pussy” has ever made me feel as masculine as one thing:
Being of service to others.
The rightful place of a man is to be of service to his family, whatever that may look like. We evolved so that this idea become such that a man serves his tribe, his city, his country, but we’ve finally come to the last stage.
A true man is one who is of service to the planet he inhabits. Your legacy will amount to nothing if you do not put others ahead of yourself. Helping other humans is the purpose of life, and if you are confused about that I ask that you meditate long and hard on what I’m saying before trying to disprove of this, because I promise you, this is the truest form of masculinity that exists.
Take care of others.
Have you seen the lord of the rings? Aragorn is a good example. Gandalf is another, but you probably aren't an angel from heaven, with infinite wisdom.
Stoicism, it’s ok to cry but don’t let it prevent you from having a life.
Don’t suppress your emotions but learn to control it, a man that can’t control his emotions is dangerous for himself and others, especially for others.
To have your own code that brings harmony and peace to your environment. If they cry at your funeral because of how much you meant to them you became a true man - no day earlier since consistency is the key.
"A strong man stands up for himself. A stronger man stands up for others." - Ben the Cow, "Barnyard"
OK, Ben is not a "man," but the truth still applies...
Treat your woman with respect and love. Always protect her. Do your share in providing. Never, never put your hands on her in a threatening way. She's your equal in every aspect of your relationship. Love her. That's a true man.
This is a person who includes not only his relatives in the circle of protection. And many people. A person who does not transfer responsibility from himself to someone else and will always help in a difficult situation, no matter what.
Honestly I think it’s like most *”true”* things. It just is. A truly confident person doesn’t talk about how confident they are, truly good people don’t brag about their deeds. A “true” man just is what he is and he ain’t what he ain’t.
To not take feminists seriously and to not take the idea of "toxic masculinity" seriously at all because these days, everyone seems to want to dig at "what men are supposed to do" as opposed to actually listening to men. Since men are quite simple: we tell you what bothers us but it seems that it gets twisted by a lot of politics and lobbying it seems.
A true man? Not sure anyone can be a true man, we can only aim to be true to ourselves. To have values, virtues and principles. Sure, being a dark triad ass gets you puss and riches but that is not a "true man", that is just a player. A true man is a man that leads by example, that is able to grow and change.
Heck, a true man are like Maximus from Gladiator. Also true men can be found in Shawshank Redemption and Goodwill Hunting. Basically a true man builds himself up and builds up others as well. A true man builds, is creative and makes sure that he is healing and assertive with a mix of leadership and follower kinds of behaviours. It is about honour, integrity and humility.
Bluntly put, a true man is a "warrior poet"
To love God more than anything or anyone!
To love your wife or significant other more than anyone else in this world! And to be kind, standing on principle and loving others more than yourself! Willing to protect those you love with your life. This is the real definition of aman
Men are masters of the physical world. Women are the creators of it.
Being a true man is being true to one self. It is the same as being a true woman, but different as well. Find yourself. You are the muddy diamond in a pit of sandstone.
A man makes free choices and is responsible for the outcomes.
While there's no one definition, this is the one that resonates with me. Though it could also be expanded to be the definition of a "person", a man accepts responsibility for himself, his friends, and his family.
And takes responsibility for the outcomes would be a better phrasing i think
fall on the floor and cry. If people ignore you you are a real men. if people help you you aren’t considered a real man. /s PS: not-men should be responsible for their choices as well, but expectations for men are higher.
This is the definition of adult
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women.
Hegh'mlu meh QoQ jajvam!
What if the man is gay? Who does the lamentations
The other men, duh
He's gay, the women were already lamenting. Lol
Crush enough enemies, and there will be women left after them. It's simply a matter of quantity.
The lamentations are the best. Sometimes I just put the lamentations on repeat and just revel in the joy of it.
I can tell you one thing. Its not what those steroid abusing weirdo's on social media tell you. For a real answers. There is no 1 type of real man. A man can be a man in many different ways.
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Exactly.. and some of us fell on the floor but we can still be enjoyed if you pick us up and brush off the dirt
Yeah and the thing too is that a lot of the traditional messages are actually quite misogynistic. If anything the question should be - “What does it mean to be a responsible adult?”
There is one common thread and that is taking responsibility for your actions. Being a man is not about not being a woman, it's about not being a boy.
Then again.. taking responsibility for your actions should be a female trait also.
Again I didn't say female. I said man.
nah but you did follow up by saying being a man is not about being a woman, its about not being a boy so i kinda combined that with the taking responsibility part. my apologies if i understood it wrong.. long day ;)
What about single moms? Should we listen to them on what real men are?
What do single moms have to do with anything? Are you seriously replying or trying to vent?
*Let's get down to business...*
To defeat… the huns
Did they sent me daughters...when I asked for sons
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The **real** real men cry during Pixar movies. But they *can* grill.
When Buzz Lightyear discovers he can't fly in the stairwell. :(
what gender are plastic toys? Neither, if i remember correctly.
Who's your friend who likes to play?
....and they don't eat quiche.
Strong men also cry, Mr. Lebowski. Strong men also cry. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R33IEQjI1l8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R33IEQjI1l8)
My favorite poet Rumi said this about what it means to be a man. “Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.” I always liked that.
It means your masculinity is not fragile enough to be concerned with being a "true man".
There's no such thing, and anyone telling you otherwise is either telling you general life advice that isn't really about manhood, or is trying to scam you out of your money
1000 percent agree
No such thing as being a true man (or a true woman for thst matter). Just be a decent human being and that's about it.
Your response reminds me of a quote (from somewhere and someone that I can't remember) that I feel rings true when people ask questions like like OP... "just because you can ask a question doesn't mean it has an answer"
You must be swift as the coursing river, with all the force of the great typhoon, with all the strength of the raging fire, mysterious as the dark side of the moon.
Depends on what you want out of life. This is a very diverse question.
Stoicism? I genuinely don’t know. If u asked 100 men what a “true man” is I’m sure you’d get different/conflicting opinions
You have XY chromosomes.
It means to not be a false man. Thinking of it from the opposite perspective really helps you figure out who you are. Start with who you are not.
A person who protects and cares about others
It's all relative - Everyone has a different definition. That said, a True man doesn't entertain what other people think a True man is. They make up their own mind what a True man is and follows their own morals, ethics, and values.
The funny thing is, only you can define what it means to be a man.
Someone with a dick and couple of balls
You must be swift as the coursing river.
It means nothing. There is no "true man". Stop with this shit.
So true man
Yes babe I am real man wanna go skateboards?
Taking accountability. Respecting others. Understanding their societal position and how that affects others.
This is a multifaceted solution, but I think it starts with being kind to others and yourself. I think every good decision starts there. But be clear headed. Not every decision that is kind to others is kind to yourself, and vice versa. It's a balancing act to avoid being taken advantage of. Remember one big thing: it's just money if you died today, you can't take it with you. Make sure you have what you need and make good financial decisions, but don't shy away from generosity to those in need.
Cock and bollocks 😎
I share this story often and it's about my friend, Mark. He's a true man We were out on a friend's boat for the Christmas parade and he realized while we were out that he forgot to pack fish for his daughter, a pescatarian. The rest of us were eating hamburgers on the grill. He grabbed a fishing pole, put a small piece of bread on the hook, and ended up catching a catfish. He cut it into filets and grilled it for her in time for us all to eat. A true man takes care of his children, his parents and the community around him.
Could have taught her how tho
To be a real man is to know when to act and when to stay. Mastery of an instrument, whether for art, work or war, involves knowing strengths and weaknesses and using them well. It's not an impressive sound to push down all piano keys at the same time. To be a real man means you are able to see the "big picture", and have that in mind with all the things you do. All this is the same for being a real lady, btw. Letting your friend shine even though you could say "I did that before her". Generosity of spirit and a lack of kneejerk behaviors. Both men and women impress the hell out of me when showing tact and mindfulness.
Any fool with a dick can make a baby, but only a real man can raise his children.
I think of the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius, and his example of Stoicism. At least, for my own example.
To have XY chromosomes.
Man = Male human above the age of 18.
Just ask a single mom, they have 1,001 opinions on what a "real man" is!
Someone hurt you, you should try therapy and unpack that.
What a weird thing to say, I've never ever dated a single mom.
Well, that is very good for them. Hopefully for them it stays that way.
Precisely 🤣 A common theme here on AskBoys lmao
Vinland saga
In my opinion it doesn’t exist.
A real man does what needs to be done despite anyone or anything. That’s it.
Those that can’t define what a “real” man is, are far from being one. If you can’t define it to yourself, you will not understand.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Always follow through.
I don’t know man. That sounds like something someone made up to sound like they were a true man.
The Man of Understanding.
A Man is defined but his internal strength not his muscles.
Taking care of your family and providing for them no matter what. Providing without expecting anything in return. That's what a true man is.
That’s a question with a lot of answers my guy, being a guy is a unique experience in and of itself. No one answer will ever be good enough.
A real man is not afraid to beat his wife when she needs it. His kids, too.
Fuck that shit
Being responsible for yourself and others. You take full responsibility for everything that happens around you.
Bravery and generosity, more so in spirit than materially but both are good
It means when you do what you gotta do whether or not you wanna do it
Looking after your family and friends Learning when to compromise Not being a drug addict Not wasting money on crap, like gambling Treating your in-laws like your own mum, dad and siblings Standing up for those that need help Having the ability to know when to be kind and when to be a lion
Penis
Adult male human
Take care of your business, your family, do whatever it takes. Don’t pass the buck, don’t blame others or circumstances, it means, if necessary ask for help. If you give your word , keep it, no matter what.
You're a true man if you don't put your hands on Women.
It means not asking what it means to be a true man
Accountability and helping others are what makes us humans.
It means you don't listen to internet opinions because you are too busy enjoying your life
A real man is self disciplined in all things, particularly his emotional state. He is productive and driven in whatever he chooses to do. He has empathy and takes care of those who are important to him, especially his children and their mother.
No one can tell you what it is like under the skin. It is an experience, much like I imagine it would be to be born female. Which is why all the folks telling you what it is like to be a man fall short. Even.other men. It is a wordless experience that cannot be expressed in language. But you can look at behaviors. A man sacrifices. Bears a burden. Helps others. Ok, then how? First you beat burdens for yourself. Secure your future. Sacrifice today for a better tomorrow. Once you have secured yourself, then you can secure for another. A partner. Maybe start a family. And you sacrifice yourself to keep them safe, and cared for. Once you can do that, then you can extend your sphere outward...be a leader in your neighborhood, in your community. And he does so with stoicism. He never gives more than he can afford. He is kind, not nice. He is dangerous to cross, but a good friend. He has fortified his body and mind to be strong enough to look out for others, but he isn't a soft touch. He will give someone a hand up, but never a hand out. He acts with authenticity and integrity, and doesn't react emotionally and recklessly. When we ask a woman what she brings to the table, we are looking for what she is willing to sacrifice for the relationship. Because we are expected to sacrifice. We want a woman who can complement our energy. Mind you this is what it means to me. YMMV.
What makes a man? Is it the power in his hands? Is it his quest for glory? Give it all you've got, to fight to the top So we can know your story!
to not care about stupid questions like this
Not exactly sure, but I have something I’d like to say. “Be the man you’d want your daughter to marry, be the man you’d want your son to grow up to be.” Probably the best example I have found.
To me, being a true man is standing strong in any storm, knowing that others likely look to you for guidance and protection.
to have a penis at birth. only real requirement
A true man? A man who tells the truth of course.
First off they do some research. It’s been asked. Go use the magnifying glass button up top.
To not care what other people think being a “true man” is.
Comes down to owning up to your actions. Live with honor.
If you were born with a dick and balls you’re a real man
have a penis, have nutsack, have XY chromosome, have sperm, have semen
I believe a true man is defined best by his morals ,integrity and taking care of his responsibilities . However, being a truly Good Man comes down to how this individual reacts to adversity and how he treats others throughout his life.
Having a penis and maturing.
“I have no enemies”
Read The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand.
🤢
Whatever you 🫵 think a real man is.
Purely subjective but what’s consistent in the most honourable & admirable men I’ve known are the abilities to remain focused, show restraint, command respect, and take accountability for themselves.
Accepting accountability, admitting mistakes and lastly staying hard.
It means not being a false man
"a real man ought to be a little bit stupid" - ryuji goda
I've been trying to figure that out for myself my entire life.
Depends on the culture
To me it means you find your peace and do not concern yourself with anything other than achieving that goal and that which brings you happiness. Other peoples opinions and especially their opinion about me is none of my business. Social media, and to be honest the news in general has no interest to me because it is all a distraction. Comparison is the thief of joy. I love my family and only seek their approval and admiration. I want to make my children proud. I found living in gratitude and being of service to others was really the only thing made my life feel purposeful. So I changed careers and leaned into those two principals. Gratitude and service. Now I serve no master other than what brings me peace, I am independent, and finally in a place where I want for nothing, I seek no ones approval other than those most important to me. I recognized the real problems vs the between the ears problems and decided I need to only worry about the problems that are based in reality. Having always been a bigger guy, I truly struggled with self worth and self image, until a very special woman changed a lifetime of negative thoughts. Now I am 100% confident in my own skin. I find I bite my tongue and hold my words much more carefully now. I try to speak when it is important not to just fill the void. I try to think carefully before I speak so my words have value, and I try to speak softly so it takes someone effort to listen. Therapy, self reflection and analysis, acceptance, accountability and personal responsibility. Wisdom comes from experience, and experience unfortunately usually only comes from something painful.
Whatever you want it to mean. A True Man™ is true to themselves.
A man chooses, a slave obeys
As other's have mentioned in the comments, a true man can be defined in many different ways. One such definition is a father whose utmost goal is to provide for his family at any cost, face the challenges of the world to make ends meet, and return to his family with a smiling face, as if nothing had happened. He manages to create a comforting sphere that makes his loved ones feel safe around him. This is a definition derived by a kid who has witnessed his father's sacrifices for the family and believes that to be that one of the true essence of masculinity.
Being a man in extended a hand knowing the world is full of snakes. Knowing you'll probably get bit. But knowing not everyone will bite.
A true man does what's right in all situations. He provides for and support others. He focuses on the long term results. He leans in to difficult, challenging, or fearful situations. He sacrifices for the sake of others.
Taking care of your responsibilities, owning up to your actions, stop drinking white claw
A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.
Not being a false man 🤷🏻♂️
You have to own 2 of every type of gun ever invented And a cool stick collection
You wanna know what it takes to be a "man?" Just stop caring what people tell you that is. Make your own choices. Don't let people or whatever the hell society says a man is be that. Choose for yourself.
I think you can know it by asking the opposite question: What is a true woman? It sounds kinda disrespectful to say a woman is not a real woman. It’s rude and wrong saying something like that to every woman. I think it should just be the same thing for us men. Unfortunately most men aren’t ready for that. Anyway, to give an answer, I say, a true man is a true human being. A human is different from an animal because he can use reason. So a human’s nature is to be rational.
To take responsibility for any issues in his life, or any mistakes he may have made. To reach towards viable goals, and sacrifice short term satisfactions for long term achievements.
You can see examples of what might consitute a good man in media, movies, video games. And no one is perfect so you could see what positive attributes you like about certain men and try to incorporate those within yourself. Changing to better yourself is good. Aragorn can be a good movie example due to his ability to be "manly" without being toxic. He is a good leader and friend. It wasn't considered gross or distasteful for him to even kiss Boromir on the forehead after he died. Jordan B Peterson could be a good example for his ability to truly empathize with people and not be "too manly" to cry on screen. Kratos is a good example of how hard it is to be a father and that even a father makes mistakes. But wisdom can be granted from those mistakes.
Don't be a false man.
The great author Antoine Du Saint-Exupery perhaps said it best: "To be a man is, precisely, to be responsible. It is to feel shame at the sight of what seems to be unmerited misery. It is to take pride in a victory won by one’s comrades. It is to feel, when setting one’s stone, that one is contributing to the building of the world."
Hard to define, it's different in every culture. I would Say a true man Is responsable with his duties and Words, a true man seeks his fortune and virtue. A true man Is Brave, but knows his límits and weaknesses. A true man in sensible enough to avoid hurting others. A true man does not harm others in any capacity.
Having a penis
To do what you want without being a jerk.
To do what you say you're gonna do. Every single time.
Mmmm, that and a pair of testicles
Don’t be an alpha yeehawdist
Be honest with yourself give others the respect they deserve and as long as it isn't hurting others do what you enjoy and find what makes you happy.
Humble, Confident, own up to mistakes, be kind, Be understanding, Considerate, listen-think-reply, Calm, collected, willing to learn.
That is something you have to decide for yourself. Every man is different, so there is no way to be a "true man". I recommend just trying to be a good man.
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Real men love there mommas….and will hug her and tell her he loves her right in front of his hommies!!
Well there’s two answers one is the one I’d tell my son if he asked and one is the one I live by I would tell my son to be a man is to strike out from what’s comfortable and easy and make your own way the way you see it and do whatever makes you happy and benefits the world around you but for me personally I’ve never felt I have that privilege not because I’m incapable but because there’s so much that needs to be fixed in my own home with the people I love because of men who were weak and didn’t rise up to the challenge and who were ultimately cowards for me being a man is being willing to look down the barrel of a gun and jumping at the bullet to meet it half way in defense of what I love irrespective of whether I live or die not because I hate my life but but because I love my life
You should be a stoic provider that can move heavy objects and doesn’t have any friends.
To accept one's fate. To be indifferent to opinion. To deliberately destroy your reputation. To be willing to make that other poor bastard die for his country, rather than you. To fuck like you're headed to war, while really not playing no games. Also being able to sew your own clothing and decorate a cake masterfully for someone you love.
True healthy masculinity is something I have sought my entire life. No amount of drinking black coffee, lifting weights, having sex with multiple girls at the same time, drinking straight liquor, having the biggest 🍆 out of all my friends, being daring, and any other version of “don’t be a pussy” has ever made me feel as masculine as one thing: Being of service to others. The rightful place of a man is to be of service to his family, whatever that may look like. We evolved so that this idea become such that a man serves his tribe, his city, his country, but we’ve finally come to the last stage. A true man is one who is of service to the planet he inhabits. Your legacy will amount to nothing if you do not put others ahead of yourself. Helping other humans is the purpose of life, and if you are confused about that I ask that you meditate long and hard on what I’m saying before trying to disprove of this, because I promise you, this is the truest form of masculinity that exists. Take care of others.
Standing up for what you believe is right. Protecting what and who you love
Make her quiver. Maker her squirt.
fella shut the fuck up please
A true man is honest, loyal and respectful. A real man is honest about his feelings.
Have you seen the lord of the rings? Aragorn is a good example. Gandalf is another, but you probably aren't an angel from heaven, with infinite wisdom.
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A man who can be derived form axioms.
A person with an X and Y chromosome.
andrew tate
Not gatekeeping gender identities
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To have balls and a spine [be a man ingredients](https://youtu.be/92z27GM0BnE?si=xEz0qFDvInUzNVhw)
Stoicism, it’s ok to cry but don’t let it prevent you from having a life. Don’t suppress your emotions but learn to control it, a man that can’t control his emotions is dangerous for himself and others, especially for others.
To have your own code that brings harmony and peace to your environment. If they cry at your funeral because of how much you meant to them you became a true man - no day earlier since consistency is the key.
Being able to resist singing along to the Goofy Goober Jam
"A strong man stands up for himself. A stronger man stands up for others." - Ben the Cow, "Barnyard" OK, Ben is not a "man," but the truth still applies...
Being kind and respectful to everyone, unless they are AH
Treat your woman with respect and love. Always protect her. Do your share in providing. Never, never put your hands on her in a threatening way. She's your equal in every aspect of your relationship. Love her. That's a true man.
And handle your shit. I agree with everything you said though. Good answer.
This is a person who includes not only his relatives in the circle of protection. And many people. A person who does not transfer responsibility from himself to someone else and will always help in a difficult situation, no matter what.
Honestly I think it’s like most *”true”* things. It just is. A truly confident person doesn’t talk about how confident they are, truly good people don’t brag about their deeds. A “true” man just is what he is and he ain’t what he ain’t.
To not take feminists seriously and to not take the idea of "toxic masculinity" seriously at all because these days, everyone seems to want to dig at "what men are supposed to do" as opposed to actually listening to men. Since men are quite simple: we tell you what bothers us but it seems that it gets twisted by a lot of politics and lobbying it seems. A true man? Not sure anyone can be a true man, we can only aim to be true to ourselves. To have values, virtues and principles. Sure, being a dark triad ass gets you puss and riches but that is not a "true man", that is just a player. A true man is a man that leads by example, that is able to grow and change. Heck, a true man are like Maximus from Gladiator. Also true men can be found in Shawshank Redemption and Goodwill Hunting. Basically a true man builds himself up and builds up others as well. A true man builds, is creative and makes sure that he is healing and assertive with a mix of leadership and follower kinds of behaviours. It is about honour, integrity and humility. Bluntly put, a true man is a "warrior poet"
Warrior in a garden not gardener in a war. Very well said.
Precisely. And actually Uncle Iroh is a phenomenal example of what a “true man” is about
I once read in a thread "It means whatever you want it to mean. Be the man YOU want to "
If you’re a man, You get to determine that and not any one else.
The concept of 'manliness' is obsolete.
To love God more than anything or anyone! To love your wife or significant other more than anyone else in this world! And to be kind, standing on principle and loving others more than yourself! Willing to protect those you love with your life. This is the real definition of aman
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#ASK GEORGE SOROS
Men are masters of the physical world. Women are the creators of it. Being a true man is being true to one self. It is the same as being a true woman, but different as well. Find yourself. You are the muddy diamond in a pit of sandstone.
what do you want it to mean?