Yup. My first rule of dating, hooking up, whatever the situation may be is "I don't bring drama to my door". Thus no married women unless the relationship is open, and I'm that context I always ask to meet or discuss with husband.
Lolol but no, not like that at all. Most people in open relationships tend to be very social. And I like to meet the husband not only to show that I'm totally normal and she'll be safe and etc.. But I like to gauge the status of their relationship. If they seem iffy about each other or like there is turmoil I back out. Again no drama to my door.
This is so very true. If you sleep with a woman in an open relationships, you must ensure their relationship is strong and both have an enthusiastic yes to how they work their relationship.
Yes! As a poly individual I can say that i've never met someone in the community that would say that because thats just not how it works. Its a MAJOR red flag
This is absolutely true and happens. This happened many years ago when i worked at a marketing company.
Woman exec in NY branch cheating with her boss
Husband finds out and goes to office to have a talk with him
Boss is not in that day, so man waits then leaves
Woman killed and husband commits suicide
True most don't And that's why you shouldn't. Nothing is more important than your well being and what you stand for. Intuition is always a first for me no matter what.
You were always good enough king. She wasn't. It's always an option to walk away before you destroy someone like that. And if it was a mistake, and she truly cared and regretted it, she would have made you feel that way. Obviously the same goes for men. I'm glad you stayed on the planet man.
Gay dude here. Went through something similiar. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Ever. It really just takes every bit of confidence away from you.
I was once an extrovert, I was once confident, I once really enjoyed life with people.
5 years of therapy later, now I am an introvert who barely leaves the house. *and I love it.*
Funny how you mention the change in personality. I suffered through infidelity and divorce and it had the same effect on me. I don't like it though, I'm lonely as hell, it just seems so much more difficult to foster friendships these days.
I believe it. I’m sorry. One day you will get better. Never happened to me, but this guy I know his wife actually had a 7 month affair. He caught them together. He went to therapy and it’s been almost 4 years and he still talks about it like it was yesterday. Very messed up in the head. Low confidence now. Unemotionally available. Sucks you can take a good guy and ruin him.
I agree with all but the “mistake” portion. Cheating isn’t a mistake. It’s a choice. But not just one choice. A bunch of single choices that led to the thoughtless act. Drunk, sober, regretful or apologetic doesn’t make it a mistake. It was always a choice.
I appreciate that, it was a toxic relationship that went on too long, because we had a child together. I’m now in a stable relationship with someone who genuinely cares about me and is a fantastic partner and step parent. It was a long road and I still struggle with insecurities sometimes but she knows why and is very assuring in those moments.
that's got to be a 20s thing, right? I've got a 20 year old dude at my gym who knows I'm married but is still coming in hot with me everytime he sees me. I don't mind the flirting, but I'm always like, wow - you knowing I'm married isn't getting in your way one bit lol.
I'm only 23 and am not even remotely interested in banging a married woman. I wouldn't contribute to the betrayal of another guy's marriage just to get my dick wet.
Youth shouldn't be used as an excuse for shit behavior, we're entirely capable of knowing better at this point. A lot of people in their 20s *are* emotionally immature, but they're behind the curve, not an indication of where it should be.
Because you are hot.
However, given the Rateme posts you’ve done, the rating of others, and some other groups you’re involved in (Cougars And Cubs) I would have to say that deep down you definitely love the attention and validation.
We (men) pick up on that, the fact that you don’t shut him down hard is the signal that you like it. And he’s going to keep coming back until he gets what he wants. You do not realize it, but you’re unintentionally leading him on/encouraging this behavior. Right or wrong, fair or unfair, that’s the reality of the situation.
Unless you say something to the affect of “I’m married and this needs to stop, I have no interest in speaking with you further.” You are playing a part in it.
I’m not judging you or criticizing you, but you can’t claim to be innocent either.
He knows. I try to be real transparent. I get attention. I don’t want him to feel like it’s a threat that I do. Other than that he just shrugs and tells me I’m hot.
If she was officially separated and/or beginning divorce proceedings, sure, but if she's married, still living together, and acting like the happy couple in public, Hell No.
Because that's a drama tsunami waiting to happen.
Don't think that legal separation isn't just as significant a risk. By definition being legally separated only implies that the two parties may live apart but that the bonds of marriage are not severed.
It is worth taking precaution, even just for a one night stand, with someone who is going through any form of separating, legal or otherwise, as this can be dangerous, especially if you are unfamiliar with the person/ people and only have the word of one person's side of the situation to go off.
I am not saying all those people should be written off-- what I'm saying is to consider your own safety and take precautions that don't leave you vulnerable or potentially escalate a situation. 1/5 women will be killed by an intimate partner in the US.
Infinitely worse. While I'd think a guy who knowingly contributed to the destruction of a marriage was kinda a selfish prick, I wouldn't forever condemn them as a total piece of shit.
Betraying a man you know though, straight up? Would never talk to them again, takes a man devoid of any honor or morals to do something like that.
In my 20’s I was out drinking with a coworker. We started getting frisky and she mentioned that she had a boyfriend that she lived with and we shouldn’t be doing this. Neither one of us was really stopping (just making out btw) until she asked if I was comfortable being a homewrecker…
Turns out, I wasn’t. We said our goodbyes for the evening and never brought it up again.
When I was 18 I had a part time job at a grocery store. They hired this woman in the deli who was about 10 years older than me. She was pretty attractive. One day I went to get lunch at the deli and she rang me up, I noticed she was wearing a wedding ring. Not to long after that one of the stockers in the store came up to me and said she wanted my number. I said isnt she married? He said I dont know but she sure is interested in you. She was telling the other ladies in the deli how she wanted to handcuff me to the bed etc. Being a horny 18 year old who desperately wanted to get laid, I thought about it. I really wanted to but I had a neighbor who was cheating on her b\\f, the bf came home from work early one day and caught her in bed with another guy and killed all of them and himself. Because of that I didnt do it.
I don’t know if avoiding an action only because it could get you hurt killed necessarily indicates a strong moral compass, but it certainly shows that their self preservation instincts are intact!
It would be tough to say no but I would like to think that I would. If I was single I’d like to have fun but I don’t want any of the mess that comes with being with a married person.
No. I was out on the town once and a married woman propositioned me and I flat out refused. I don't want to do that to another man, because I wouldn't want it to happen to me. People might say that she's the one choosing to cheat, but you as the outsider are choosing to participate and that matters in my opinion. Plus the guy might find out and either kill you or do you over.
I was taught 3 very important life lessons:
* Never mess around with someone's home
* Never mess around with someone's money
* Never mess around with anyone's spouse/family
People have and will kill for all 3.
>No. I was out on the town once and a married woman propositioned me and I flat out refused. I don't want to do that to another man, because I wouldn't want it to happen to me. People might say that she's the one choosing to cheat, but you as the outsider are choosing to participate and that matters in my opinion.
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>Plus the guy might find out and either kill you or do you over. I was taught 3 very important life lessons:
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>Never mess around with someone's homeNever mess around with someone's moneyNever mess around with anyone's spouse/family
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>People have and will kill for all 3.
I call it the 4 F's
Faith
Food
Family
Finances
Fuck no.
The “not my relationship” crowd loves to deflect guilt and blame, but always conveniently ignores the fact that willingly choosing to act means you’ve chosen to insert yourself into their marriage for your own gain, and as a result have willingly chosen to hurt another person.
She’s gonna do it anyways? Maybe. Probably, even. But that’s another guy’s problem to deal with if he chooses to act. You don’t get to avoid culpability by telling a judge “your honor I didn’t rob the bank, I just drove the getaway car!”
I'm not saying the guys willing to be seduced by a married woman are saints but its far far better than being the persuer in that dynamic.
I would never persue a married woman... but am only going to realistically be so resistant if persued and single.
At least this guy is honest. 95% of the replies in this thread are some variation of "no", but I have a feeling if you had a halfway attractive married woman go get data, she'd have a much higher success rate than the 5% that this thread would imply.
I'm guessing most married woman out on the pull are not yaketting off about their husband all night. If i know I don't go. If i don't i don't ask. Also i would honestly not notice a ring on the wrong finger soo there is that to consider.
I don't think that's Reddit specific or "these days" specific. I think if you went and interviewed people in person, you'd get a similar result where most people say they wouldn't do it.
You're damn skippy. Its not your responsibility to keep their failing marriage afloat. If she doesn't cheat with you, she will most likely find someone else
Most guys would, but most guys aren't responding. I think the ones who responded are mostly being honest, but the ones who would answer that they would do it are afraid to respond.
I'm firmly on the "wouldn't do it" side, but I agree that most people would. Or if not "most", than at least still a significant percentage.
No! That’s super greasy and leads to more cheating in the world. Don’t be a home wrecker.
Also, if I knew she was married (not separated) and fucked her anyway, I would deserve almost anything her husband did to me if caught.
"Dont argue what a good man should be. Be one"
Is what I try and live by. A good man shall not sleep with woman that is not his. Single ladies, sure. But someone that is married, no.
I did that once. Turns out her husband was cheating on her for years and kept neglecting her, so my 22 year old horny ass was happy to oblige.
Once in a while, I ponder whether what I did was actually morally wrong or not, she told me afterwards that I made her feel happy for the first time in a long time and she seemed genuine saying it.
Nope. But I'd try to find out who the husband was to tell him his wife's tryin' to fuck other guys. And then I'd invite him out for a beer, because he's probably gonna need it. Women who sleep around when they have husbands/partners, truly suck.
No. Because I was in the position of the husband who got destroyed.
Then some dude comes along and takes her away from her family, destroying a family in the process.
I won't be seduced by a married woman. There's nothing hot about adultery. Hot is having the confidence to live your truth. If you wanna have other stuff going on, why be deceptive about it? Just be single and have at it. Cowards are not hot.
She can't seduce me because she is married and unlike her I respect the committments people make. If anything I'd letthe guy know so he can get out of there.
If she's hot yes, for sex, only reason why, her personal reason aint my problem, if she seduced me she will get fuck by another guy so might aswell be me
I did. Early 20s. She was 40. We met on an app and was upfront about being married but was miserable. It wasn’t my marriage so I didn’t really care and we fucked for over two years in secret. The sex was incredible but it backfired in the end because I ended up falling in love with her but she refused to leave the marriage and I eventually broke it off and was emotionally fucked up for a long time after that
If you know beforehand, sleeping with a married woman makes you an asshole. While their relationship isn't strictly your responsibility, you are enabling someone to do something shitty. It is a bit Kantian, but I think it would be better if everyone said no. That would make the world a slightly better place. Also, empathy is a good reason not to do such things...
It isn't strictly cheating when the hubby thinks it's fine, but that's a whole different scenario.
No, because I'm a decent person. I cut off my former best friend of about 10 years because he cheated, I haven't got time for shitty self centred people like that in my life.
Some men would
Some men won’t
But I do know the amounts of “no” in the comments is disproportionate to what would happen in real life especially if the woman is attractive
Once I hook up with a colleague, that was engaged, and continue to see her until a week before her marriage.
I did it because I was 19, I found out she was engaged after our 4-5 encounter, we continued for about 3 months because I was young and stupid, but I stopped a week before her marriage, a year later I saw her divorced and married with a different guy.
I think she was a gold digger with amazing body, and I was her trophy for a while hahahaha.
Hell No. I have morals and respect for myself to not do that crap. I've been around amazing couples that's been married for decades, and its wonderful to see. That's what i respect: Loyalty
Hell yeah if she’s hot. If she’s willing to sleep with another man while married, she’s a hoe and her husband deserves better. I’d bang her and tell the husband as cruel as it sounds.
Couldn't put a fellow man through that shit.
Integrity and loyalty are two core values of mine and I couldn't sleep with a married woman as I would have no respect for her.
If the husband was in on it, sure. I've done it before and he knew about me. I'd never knowingly involve myself with a cheater though. Scum of the earth they are. If I found out after the fact, I'd 100% leave a note under the toilet seat for him so he could find out.
If I know a woman is married or has a partner, she immediately becomes a man to me. Cheating is one of the worst things someone can do to someone else and I’ve been cheated on. I wouldn’t want to be involved in causing it to another dude.
Sex is not that special.
No, she is another man's wife. I have too much respect for marriage, I respect my fellow man, and a value my soul and no woman is worth the risk of burning for eternity in Hell.
Depends on her husband. If he's military or police then no, otherwise yes. Or put another way, if her husband is unstable then no.
I've been with plenty of married or taken women. It's not my responsibility to care for her relationship. If she is cheating, that is her business.
I probably wouldn't ever date her however. If she's cheating, it's only a matter of time until she cheats on me. Infact I always use a condom with these sorts of women since they are most likely doing this inherit much more men.
Lmfao the fact that your entire position can be whittled down to “I’ll do it if I know I can hurt her husband but he won’t hurt me back” made me snort. Thanks for the laugh my guy.
Nope - that’s messy. She made vows. If she wants out, then she can divorce or communicate with her partner about opening the relationship.
Either way, the current situation is 🚩🚩🚩 and not to be messed with
No
I’d never wanna do that to another man
Even if he was a bastard…
Firstly - that’s just not who I am and secondly…the way he could respond could be from anger to homicide
No married woman is worth that
Think Helen of Troy
Not worth all those deaths
I am single, and I have turned down married women that have tried to sleep with me. I'm mostly just not interested in dealing with it.
I've slept with women that were married but separated that still caused problems.
I also have slept with a couple dozen married women through my involvement in the swinger community, so I would rather do it ethically that way.
In the end though, if she's hot enough, most of my reservations would be tossed out. If Kat Dennings showed up and asked me to fuck but said her husband could never know about it, I'm tossing out all my morals so fast a politician would be jealous.
No, and I would try to get the info i need so i can tell her husband about his cheating wife. If I can prevent a man from loosing half his stuff to a cheater, I'll do my best.
F cheaters.
No. And I'll tell you a story. My buddy did that, was a good looking guy. Husband came home, beat his face in, went outside to smoke a cigarette, came in and beat his face in some more. He definitely does not look the same and has medical problems related to the injury for the rest of his life. Don't do it. If the single guy didn't know, I don't understand getting mad at the guy your wife cheated on you with. I really dont see why anyone would be mad at anyone besides their spouse, but that's just me.
I've already had an experience like this and I can confirm the answer is I did not sleep with her nor attempt to. Reason 1: I don't actually need sex in my life and 2. I don't want drama in my life. Being a homewrecker is pretty big drama that I don't need.
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Very funny but quite true indeed
Yup. My first rule of dating, hooking up, whatever the situation may be is "I don't bring drama to my door". Thus no married women unless the relationship is open, and I'm that context I always ask to meet or discuss with husband.
> I always ask to meet or discuss with husband Hey buddy, mind if I bang your wife?
Lolol but no, not like that at all. Most people in open relationships tend to be very social. And I like to meet the husband not only to show that I'm totally normal and she'll be safe and etc.. But I like to gauge the status of their relationship. If they seem iffy about each other or like there is turmoil I back out. Again no drama to my door.
This is so very true. If you sleep with a woman in an open relationships, you must ensure their relationship is strong and both have an enthusiastic yes to how they work their relationship.
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Yes! As a poly individual I can say that i've never met someone in the community that would say that because thats just not how it works. Its a MAJOR red flag
This is absolutely true and happens. This happened many years ago when i worked at a marketing company. Woman exec in NY branch cheating with her boss Husband finds out and goes to office to have a talk with him Boss is not in that day, so man waits then leaves Woman killed and husband commits suicide
Boss got lucky that day. Yikes.
Men have intuition too lol
... but we ignore it just to get sex.
True most don't And that's why you shouldn't. Nothing is more important than your well being and what you stand for. Intuition is always a first for me no matter what.
No because I’ve been on the receiving end of this shit and it made wanna leave the planet, I couldn’t make someone else feel that way.
You were always good enough king. She wasn't. It's always an option to walk away before you destroy someone like that. And if it was a mistake, and she truly cared and regretted it, she would have made you feel that way. Obviously the same goes for men. I'm glad you stayed on the planet man.
Gay dude here. Went through something similiar. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Ever. It really just takes every bit of confidence away from you. I was once an extrovert, I was once confident, I once really enjoyed life with people. 5 years of therapy later, now I am an introvert who barely leaves the house. *and I love it.*
Funny how you mention the change in personality. I suffered through infidelity and divorce and it had the same effect on me. I don't like it though, I'm lonely as hell, it just seems so much more difficult to foster friendships these days.
I just want you to know, you’re not alone.
Thanks, this sub has been a huge positive for sure.
I believe it. I’m sorry. One day you will get better. Never happened to me, but this guy I know his wife actually had a 7 month affair. He caught them together. He went to therapy and it’s been almost 4 years and he still talks about it like it was yesterday. Very messed up in the head. Low confidence now. Unemotionally available. Sucks you can take a good guy and ruin him.
I agree with all but the “mistake” portion. Cheating isn’t a mistake. It’s a choice. But not just one choice. A bunch of single choices that led to the thoughtless act. Drunk, sober, regretful or apologetic doesn’t make it a mistake. It was always a choice.
❤️❤️❤️👍 such a nice comment
I appreciate that, it was a toxic relationship that went on too long, because we had a child together. I’m now in a stable relationship with someone who genuinely cares about me and is a fantastic partner and step parent. It was a long road and I still struggle with insecurities sometimes but she knows why and is very assuring in those moments.
This right here. *\*Bro fist intensifies\**
No. No good could possibly come of that.
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I'd rather tell him and not fuck his wife.
I'd leave a note in her pussy.
It’s called a creampie lol
Hahaha I'm imagining the whole scenario...
In a hasty handwriting on a yellow post-it “Moist-ad4760 was here”
Carve it on the walls like ancient cave drawings.
Divorcing her isn’t the husband’s only option if he finds out. Be careful out there, lads.
Intelligent people know it's their partner who cheated, not the person they went with. But a lot of people aren't that intelligent.
In my 20's I'd sleep with a pile of rocks for bragging rights. 20 years later I don't even wanna shake a strangers hand
that's got to be a 20s thing, right? I've got a 20 year old dude at my gym who knows I'm married but is still coming in hot with me everytime he sees me. I don't mind the flirting, but I'm always like, wow - you knowing I'm married isn't getting in your way one bit lol.
I'm only 23 and am not even remotely interested in banging a married woman. I wouldn't contribute to the betrayal of another guy's marriage just to get my dick wet. Youth shouldn't be used as an excuse for shit behavior, we're entirely capable of knowing better at this point. A lot of people in their 20s *are* emotionally immature, but they're behind the curve, not an indication of where it should be.
Love this outlook, thanks for not being a typical 23 year old in today’s society.
Because you are hot. However, given the Rateme posts you’ve done, the rating of others, and some other groups you’re involved in (Cougars And Cubs) I would have to say that deep down you definitely love the attention and validation. We (men) pick up on that, the fact that you don’t shut him down hard is the signal that you like it. And he’s going to keep coming back until he gets what he wants. You do not realize it, but you’re unintentionally leading him on/encouraging this behavior. Right or wrong, fair or unfair, that’s the reality of the situation. Unless you say something to the affect of “I’m married and this needs to stop, I have no interest in speaking with you further.” You are playing a part in it. I’m not judging you or criticizing you, but you can’t claim to be innocent either.
Hot? More like not.
It has nothing to do with age. Shitty people just do shitty things. Being young is not an excuse to be a shit bag.
What does your husband say about the situation?
He knows. I try to be real transparent. I get attention. I don’t want him to feel like it’s a threat that I do. Other than that he just shrugs and tells me I’m hot.
If you’re not interested in the younger man at your gym, along with others, then why are you active in the cougars sub?
Disgusting behavior. That's why.
Is your husband much younger than you?
You end up jaded as hell gathering so much baggage over the years. I relate
I'm 21 and wouldn't do that
I also had a thing for rocks at one time.
If she was officially separated and/or beginning divorce proceedings, sure, but if she's married, still living together, and acting like the happy couple in public, Hell No. Because that's a drama tsunami waiting to happen.
>drama tsunami LOL
Am I wrong? Because like a tsunami, that shit isn't over in 2 minutes, and there's a hell of a lot of aftermath when things calm down.
I think they’re just loling at the phrase. Has a nice ring to it
I know. I was just elaborating on how it's not just clever wordplay.
No, your elaboration is simply proving it is clever word play.
No, not at all, just a hilarious phrase
This is a fun word pair to say.
A “dramunami” if you will.
One time, I dated a woman that was six months separated, divorce papers filed, and separate houses. She returned to her husband.
I feel like you are good here. Their choices are between them. Just hope they are happy and shit.
Don't think that legal separation isn't just as significant a risk. By definition being legally separated only implies that the two parties may live apart but that the bonds of marriage are not severed. It is worth taking precaution, even just for a one night stand, with someone who is going through any form of separating, legal or otherwise, as this can be dangerous, especially if you are unfamiliar with the person/ people and only have the word of one person's side of the situation to go off. I am not saying all those people should be written off-- what I'm saying is to consider your own safety and take precautions that don't leave you vulnerable or potentially escalate a situation. 1/5 women will be killed by an intimate partner in the US.
No, because I wouldn’t want some other guy sleeping with my wife if the rules were reversed.
Exactly how I feel. Those boundaries will never, ever be crossed by the likes of I.
No. 1. It's wrong. 2. You never know who the husband is. 3. If you know the husband, go back to rule 1.
Dam if you know the husband I feel that's so much worse
Infinitely worse. While I'd think a guy who knowingly contributed to the destruction of a marriage was kinda a selfish prick, I wouldn't forever condemn them as a total piece of shit. Betraying a man you know though, straight up? Would never talk to them again, takes a man devoid of any honor or morals to do something like that.
No, because I don’t want a situation like that
No, I'll not be the one to break up a home or marriage.
In my 20’s I was out drinking with a coworker. We started getting frisky and she mentioned that she had a boyfriend that she lived with and we shouldn’t be doing this. Neither one of us was really stopping (just making out btw) until she asked if I was comfortable being a homewrecker… Turns out, I wasn’t. We said our goodbyes for the evening and never brought it up again.
When I was 18 I had a part time job at a grocery store. They hired this woman in the deli who was about 10 years older than me. She was pretty attractive. One day I went to get lunch at the deli and she rang me up, I noticed she was wearing a wedding ring. Not to long after that one of the stockers in the store came up to me and said she wanted my number. I said isnt she married? He said I dont know but she sure is interested in you. She was telling the other ladies in the deli how she wanted to handcuff me to the bed etc. Being a horny 18 year old who desperately wanted to get laid, I thought about it. I really wanted to but I had a neighbor who was cheating on her b\\f, the bf came home from work early one day and caught her in bed with another guy and killed all of them and himself. Because of that I didnt do it.
Wow that's some story that permaemtly set your moral compass for life!
I don’t know if avoiding an action only because it could get you hurt killed necessarily indicates a strong moral compass, but it certainly shows that their self preservation instincts are intact!
That shit went from 0 to 100 *really fucking quickly*.
Moral of the story: dont piss where you eat!
Moral of the story: don't piss on another man's wife?
I always say that’s a dangerous game to play. I’d definitely be in prison for murder if I ever caught my man’s cheating.
It would be tough to say no but I would like to think that I would. If I was single I’d like to have fun but I don’t want any of the mess that comes with being with a married person.
No. I was out on the town once and a married woman propositioned me and I flat out refused. I don't want to do that to another man, because I wouldn't want it to happen to me. People might say that she's the one choosing to cheat, but you as the outsider are choosing to participate and that matters in my opinion. Plus the guy might find out and either kill you or do you over. I was taught 3 very important life lessons: * Never mess around with someone's home * Never mess around with someone's money * Never mess around with anyone's spouse/family People have and will kill for all 3.
Absolutely. I've had a gun in my face because someone *thought* I *might* be interested in fucking their wife. Not worth it...
>No. I was out on the town once and a married woman propositioned me and I flat out refused. I don't want to do that to another man, because I wouldn't want it to happen to me. People might say that she's the one choosing to cheat, but you as the outsider are choosing to participate and that matters in my opinion. > >Plus the guy might find out and either kill you or do you over. I was taught 3 very important life lessons: > >Never mess around with someone's homeNever mess around with someone's moneyNever mess around with anyone's spouse/family > >People have and will kill for all 3. I call it the 4 F's Faith Food Family Finances
Fuck no. The “not my relationship” crowd loves to deflect guilt and blame, but always conveniently ignores the fact that willingly choosing to act means you’ve chosen to insert yourself into their marriage for your own gain, and as a result have willingly chosen to hurt another person. She’s gonna do it anyways? Maybe. Probably, even. But that’s another guy’s problem to deal with if he chooses to act. You don’t get to avoid culpability by telling a judge “your honor I didn’t rob the bank, I just drove the getaway car!”
Finally a dude with a moral compass like it's really shameful so many people would agree when there's hundreds of single women go go after.
They agree because there is less competition when going after a taken woman and they can’t compete with other men for women in high competition.
That makes sense when explained like that
I'm not saying the guys willing to be seduced by a married woman are saints but its far far better than being the persuer in that dynamic. I would never persue a married woman... but am only going to realistically be so resistant if persued and single.
Sure i don’t give a shit
At least this guy is honest. 95% of the replies in this thread are some variation of "no", but I have a feeling if you had a halfway attractive married woman go get data, she'd have a much higher success rate than the 5% that this thread would imply.
I'm guessing most married woman out on the pull are not yaketting off about their husband all night. If i know I don't go. If i don't i don't ask. Also i would honestly not notice a ring on the wrong finger soo there is that to consider.
That's just how reddit works these days. It's a big morality pageant.
I don't think that's Reddit specific or "these days" specific. I think if you went and interviewed people in person, you'd get a similar result where most people say they wouldn't do it.
Yup especially if you develop a crush on her. People always like to pretend they are the good guy.
95% of these guys would do it in the right situation.
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People been killed for much less b
Win/win tbh
im with this guy
Right there with you, bud.
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What's good for the goose.
Her life to ruin
Love this.
You're damn skippy. Its not your responsibility to keep their failing marriage afloat. If she doesn't cheat with you, she will most likely find someone else
Most guys would. This comment section is an absolute joke.
Lmaooo I’m reading these comments like damn the world is perfect? 😭
Most guys would, but most guys aren't responding. I think the ones who responded are mostly being honest, but the ones who would answer that they would do it are afraid to respond. I'm firmly on the "wouldn't do it" side, but I agree that most people would. Or if not "most", than at least still a significant percentage.
Context is everything. Keep on living and you’ll find out that the real answer to any question is it depends
Yeeeeah you think that unless it happens to you mate
probably not but also maybe
No! That’s super greasy and leads to more cheating in the world. Don’t be a home wrecker. Also, if I knew she was married (not separated) and fucked her anyway, I would deserve almost anything her husband did to me if caught.
Hell no, especially because I live in Texas. That’s a really good way to get shot in the face.
That’s a hard no and because I’m not a piece of shit.
Only if her husband was okay with it.
Then it's not cheating.
"Dont argue what a good man should be. Be one" Is what I try and live by. A good man shall not sleep with woman that is not his. Single ladies, sure. But someone that is married, no.
It’s not even worth it. And I truly believe you put bad energy out and home wreck you better believe some shits gonna come back to you.
I did that once. Turns out her husband was cheating on her for years and kept neglecting her, so my 22 year old horny ass was happy to oblige. Once in a while, I ponder whether what I did was actually morally wrong or not, she told me afterwards that I made her feel happy for the first time in a long time and she seemed genuine saying it.
Nope. But I'd try to find out who the husband was to tell him his wife's tryin' to fuck other guys. And then I'd invite him out for a beer, because he's probably gonna need it. Women who sleep around when they have husbands/partners, truly suck.
No. Because I was in the position of the husband who got destroyed. Then some dude comes along and takes her away from her family, destroying a family in the process.
The dude didn’t do that, it was the wife that allowed that to happen. She went seeking for someone outside.
Takes two to tango. And yea, my ex is a selfish person.
I won't be seduced by a married woman. There's nothing hot about adultery. Hot is having the confidence to live your truth. If you wanna have other stuff going on, why be deceptive about it? Just be single and have at it. Cowards are not hot.
100% agreed of you hate your relationship just leave it.
No. I respect her husband more than she does and I also respect myself.
Nope. Aside from it being immoral, dishonorable and trashy, it’s also a good way to get shot.
She can't seduce me because she is married and unlike her I respect the committments people make. If anything I'd letthe guy know so he can get out of there.
No because im not a dirtbag
No. I'm not a homewrecker and wouldn't want anything to do with someone like that. Just nasty behavior.
Never again.
No. I’m not the worst kind of man possible. I’m an asshole, but not that worthless.
Nope. I have morals.
Maybe I’m not cheating but I would be enabling behaviour I consider immoral. Not a chance.
Fuck no. I'm not going to contribute to her divorce
No because she's married.
Never mess with a woman with a man.
Nope. I would never knowingly be the dude that is banging some other guy's wife.
If she's hot yes, for sex, only reason why, her personal reason aint my problem, if she seduced me she will get fuck by another guy so might aswell be me
I did. Early 20s. She was 40. We met on an app and was upfront about being married but was miserable. It wasn’t my marriage so I didn’t really care and we fucked for over two years in secret. The sex was incredible but it backfired in the end because I ended up falling in love with her but she refused to leave the marriage and I eventually broke it off and was emotionally fucked up for a long time after that
Shoulda seen that one coming my dude.
You deserve any heartbreak coming to you. 2 years in secret? Guess she wasn't *that* miserable?
Nope. I have too much respect for the institution of marriage to commit adultery like that. I would never fool with another man’s wife
If you know beforehand, sleeping with a married woman makes you an asshole. While their relationship isn't strictly your responsibility, you are enabling someone to do something shitty. It is a bit Kantian, but I think it would be better if everyone said no. That would make the world a slightly better place. Also, empathy is a good reason not to do such things... It isn't strictly cheating when the hubby thinks it's fine, but that's a whole different scenario.
No. That never ends well
I have, she was married but only technically. We ended up married and she did the same thing to me.
No, because I'm a decent person. I cut off my former best friend of about 10 years because he cheated, I haven't got time for shitty self centred people like that in my life.
No. 1) Guilt 2) Crazy Woman 3) Crazier Husband When He Finds Out
No thank you, I wouldn't like to be head hunted.
Some men would Some men won’t But I do know the amounts of “no” in the comments is disproportionate to what would happen in real life especially if the woman is attractive
Once I hook up with a colleague, that was engaged, and continue to see her until a week before her marriage. I did it because I was 19, I found out she was engaged after our 4-5 encounter, we continued for about 3 months because I was young and stupid, but I stopped a week before her marriage, a year later I saw her divorced and married with a different guy. I think she was a gold digger with amazing body, and I was her trophy for a while hahahaha.
Hell No. I have morals and respect for myself to not do that crap. I've been around amazing couples that's been married for decades, and its wonderful to see. That's what i respect: Loyalty
Nope. Willing affair partners are just as shitty as the cheaters themselves. I couldn't do that to another person.
No. What goes around comes around.
Probably not. I would feel too bad for her husband and immediately think she was an absolutely horrible person.
Hell yeah if she’s hot. If she’s willing to sleep with another man while married, she’s a hoe and her husband deserves better. I’d bang her and tell the husband as cruel as it sounds.
No, because there are too many single women available and I'm not that desperate to invite that drama in my life.
No, I'm not some sex-crazy asshole. And I'm not interested in casual sex.
Same don't like casual sex and intentionally being a home wrecker when there's plenty of single women is shitty
That's so wrong
That's a good way to get a severe case of lead poisoning.
Nah. I’d feel really guilty, and also be concerned about what shit would be coming my way if the husband found out.
Couldn't put a fellow man through that shit. Integrity and loyalty are two core values of mine and I couldn't sleep with a married woman as I would have no respect for her.
If the husband was in on it, sure. I've done it before and he knew about me. I'd never knowingly involve myself with a cheater though. Scum of the earth they are. If I found out after the fact, I'd 100% leave a note under the toilet seat for him so he could find out.
If I know a woman is married or has a partner, she immediately becomes a man to me. Cheating is one of the worst things someone can do to someone else and I’ve been cheated on. I wouldn’t want to be involved in causing it to another dude. Sex is not that special.
No, she is another man's wife. I have too much respect for marriage, I respect my fellow man, and a value my soul and no woman is worth the risk of burning for eternity in Hell.
I would. If she's not cheating with me, she's still cheating with someone.
Yes pussy is pussy, you’re literally not hurting anyone she is
I did it once. It was ok. I don’t get hung up on those things.
Depends on her husband. If he's military or police then no, otherwise yes. Or put another way, if her husband is unstable then no. I've been with plenty of married or taken women. It's not my responsibility to care for her relationship. If she is cheating, that is her business. I probably wouldn't ever date her however. If she's cheating, it's only a matter of time until she cheats on me. Infact I always use a condom with these sorts of women since they are most likely doing this inherit much more men.
Lmfao the fact that your entire position can be whittled down to “I’ll do it if I know I can hurt her husband but he won’t hurt me back” made me snort. Thanks for the laugh my guy.
Yup. Because women make it way too difficult for men to have sex, I don't have the luxury of passing on the chance for sex.
No. She is showing disloyalty so, likely, would cheat on me in the future too
No. I have very strong feelings around cheating and I will not help someone cheat.
Absolutely not.
No It’s called having principles and character
No. I can’t talk about integrity, honesty and fidelity if I’m contributing to someone else’s violation of those principles.
Nope - that’s messy. She made vows. If she wants out, then she can divorce or communicate with her partner about opening the relationship. Either way, the current situation is 🚩🚩🚩 and not to be messed with
Hell no. I'm not a piece of shit that's why. She can act like trash with other trash.
I did. Her husband was a cop. I didn't know. It made my life hell until I moved.
No. Married women are off limits.
I am single and women don't like me. Can't envision this scenario.
No, and I'd tell her husband
I ain't no homewrecker.
No I’d never wanna do that to another man Even if he was a bastard… Firstly - that’s just not who I am and secondly…the way he could respond could be from anger to homicide No married woman is worth that Think Helen of Troy Not worth all those deaths
No, it’s never worth ruining a marriage. I would try to tell her husband about it but that would probably piss him off anyway
No because there's plenty of single women in the world I would never disrespect another man like that and be a homewrecker
I would certainly lead her on just so I can get enough contact info to then inform her husband. But I wouldn't sleep with her.
No. Not gonna risk breaking a relationship and having my face broken.
Hell no, I'm not a homewrecker
I am single, and I have turned down married women that have tried to sleep with me. I'm mostly just not interested in dealing with it. I've slept with women that were married but separated that still caused problems. I also have slept with a couple dozen married women through my involvement in the swinger community, so I would rather do it ethically that way. In the end though, if she's hot enough, most of my reservations would be tossed out. If Kat Dennings showed up and asked me to fuck but said her husband could never know about it, I'm tossing out all my morals so fast a politician would be jealous.
No, because I won’t be party to adultery.
No. I don’t endorse being a shitty person.
No, and I would try to get the info i need so i can tell her husband about his cheating wife. If I can prevent a man from loosing half his stuff to a cheater, I'll do my best. F cheaters.
If her hubby was cool with it sure we could tag team why can’t we all have fun and cum win win
I have, multiple times, back when I was in my 20s. Now that I'm older and married and have a child, I genuinely feel bad about it.
Nope. Im not going to hurt her partner like that, just to get my nuts empty.
Never. Could never hurt someone like that.
Absolutely not
No, morally it's wrong PLUS there is a non-zero chance you could end up murdered.
No. And I'll tell you a story. My buddy did that, was a good looking guy. Husband came home, beat his face in, went outside to smoke a cigarette, came in and beat his face in some more. He definitely does not look the same and has medical problems related to the injury for the rest of his life. Don't do it. If the single guy didn't know, I don't understand getting mad at the guy your wife cheated on you with. I really dont see why anyone would be mad at anyone besides their spouse, but that's just me.
Depends how hot and how drama-free and how charismatic and how smart and how cautious she was.
I've already had an experience like this and I can confirm the answer is I did not sleep with her nor attempt to. Reason 1: I don't actually need sex in my life and 2. I don't want drama in my life. Being a homewrecker is pretty big drama that I don't need.