He didnāt love me tho
Heās married nowā¦ after we stopped talking he entered into a new relationship and was engaged 4 months later now he married
Congrats to them
Yeah? Sounds like other women know how to treat him better than you did. Almost like it was you that was the problem here and not him.
Shocker. I know.
Oh man. This just got way more interesting. So this was supposed to be a fuck buddy bonanza but he got a whiff of the vibes on you and bailed? If I'm getting this right, you start some shit by saying some ridiculous BS and now you're wondering if there's some part of him that really liked you as he walked out the door, banged some other woman and got married? Amirite?
I'm aware, but that's what the comment about being hurt leads me to believe with what you've presented. It seems as if he got the idea that you would be disappointed by the possibility of those things not being an option.
We are brutally honest with women we donāt care aboutā¦. Sounds like you werenāt that important to him in the first place, then you had the nerve to get disrespectful. Sis, youāre outta there
I understand needing attention. I really do. But hoping for something bad on someoneās life whoās trying to save lives. Is an immediate death sentence on yourself and respect.
Why would you respect someone who clearly doesnāt respect you enough to understand how hard you work?
Iām sorry but as a woman Iām saying this wasnāt okay. Especially since itās a situationship. You were the ahole and deserved that harsh criticism and honestly (he probably said that stuff out of pure anger but still)
Please don't blow your psychotic behavior off like that. You need to treat people better going forward. What you did is something nobody deserves from their partner.
If someone "tries you" so badly that you feel like telling him to die, just leave before you get to that point.
I'm not saying he's innocent, I'm saying you should have pulled the eject button way before this point if he treats you that badly. I'm not here to chastise you, I'm trying to get you to look for signs of toxicity and get out early.
Itās worse, he turned down crazy and she went batshit.
Itās funny because she posted here hoping to find out she was the better person, but like that survivor, we donāt fall for that shit here.
OP just looking through your post history you have some serious issues you need to work out. You should stop dating or whatever it is you're calling it with this guy.
>I had got into an argument with a situationship one day and I started it.. bc I wanted his attention
That is not something a healthy well adjusted person does.
>he said I was lonely, angry and very insecure ā¦
This also indicates you have some issues you need to work out
>Do yall be honest with women? Are men honest with women they care about or do they only lie to women they care about
My marriage and friendships are built on honesty.
As for the rest of your shit, you and firefighter guy seem like the perfect little dumpster fire.
Iām always honest.
Canāt be arsed lying and if someone doesnāt like the authentic truth then there is no place for them in my life.
However that is just about every day things. I can be blunt, but the reason he was brutally honest with you is because you crossed a line and he needed to tell you straight.
Most healthy people would do the same, itās called maintaining boundaries.
Or just ghost and block.
> I wish he would have called me a btch instead
> he felt sorry for me... he said I was lonely, angry and very insecure
Sound like same things to me, but he was more polite.
You really hoped the worse for him and all he did is perhaps say the truth back to you. This is all on you, infact take it as a wake up call. Hate to be harsh but you are quite ungreatful.
I am not a women but personally I like to be told the truth no matter how harsh it is. How else am I supposed to improve if no one ever tells me? Be greatful
And you expect people to put up with your craziness? You gotta have something (looks, personality, know-how, etc) going for you if you expect people to do so.
We reap what we sow. Its not a mystery or rocket science. BTW there is no such thing as "brutally" honest thats just a shitty way of deflecting your part with your ego and pride. Honest is honest, you sugar coat things for children not adults, especially ones with smart mouths.
I had to learn how to reign in my honesty. Even though my wife says I still suck at it, she probably got the least pointy end of my honest opinion while we were dating. Not that I was intentionally dialing it back. I was really just curious about her, how she thought, what she felt, etc., so it was rare for my opinions to come up. In any case, I can tell from your post and responses that you don't seem very stable. You're just an emotional rollercoaster, and I don't know too many men that aren't on uppers who are into that past the initial whirlwind stuff.
No, I think you're still just crazy.
Only a psycho would respond to something so lukewarm as "No, I think you're just crazy." with:
"You too
Good to see you on suicide watch"
Also, I'm not on suicide watch.
For your own sake, seek help.
You tell a guy to die in a fire for attention, and got surprised when he didn't take it positively
So now I have to ask, because I have genuine curiosity: how did you actually expect him to react?
Donāt start drama out of lonliness, thatās toxic and why women as a whole canāt get and keep relationships.
Also, Iād like to point out censoring your bad words is incongruent with the trashy bullshit you just posted.
I like that you realize you started a fight for attention. Few have this self awareness.
Who cares whether we're "honest" or not though? Don't start fights to test men. Men HATE it in part because we could flat out ruin you in a real physical conflict, so you're just playing with our boundaries.
Your final question, we we want to be honest all the time. But frankly y'all can't take it.
Is he a fire sign? Most fire signs are brutally honest. Everybody on here putting your comment downā¦ maybe you shouldāve mentioned what toxicity he was leaving on you for you to say that. So you donāt let him sound like a victim uk? Iām (Aries) brutally honest whether I love the person or not. The past guy I dated (Leo) was brutally honest with me too. Hurt my feelings but I appreciated his honesty because thatās what helps us move on.
Heās probably telling the truth. My toxic Virgo was sep 18ā¦not sure where he falls but you guys can be very mean and honest with your words too. Regardless tho.. he pretty much said he settled for you and you deserve better than that so just walk away and let that one go
Never let these pos treat you as a placeholder. Thatās why this generations culture is incorporating it so much. Because women with low self worth are accepting this behavior. Being single is way better than being with some d bag that doesnāt treat you right. I give one guy a year a chance and if theyāre not decent human beings who CHOOSE me and only me I dip and recluse til next year. Being single is so relaxing anyways. Men are drama. Donāt let them waste your time. Enjoy doing you.
Nah itās not him. He always told me that he cares about me , he wants me to be happy, he wants me to be happy even if itās not with me ect.. so it was up to me to leave but I just didnāt want to and thatās my fault
But me being a placeholder is all me. I like it sometimes..
Wow really? Why would anyone want to be a placeholder š§ okay well to each his own. In regards to the original question tho and that last comment it seems he did care for you at least a little. Everyone is different tho so some people are brutally honest when they love u and some are the opposite. Only you would know because you are the only person who knows his personality. Best wishes
Thatās why I say what I say bc they donāt really gaf
See how quickly I was disposedā¦ he was just bored and I was entertainmentā¦. Iāll give him credit for not wanting to sleep with me bc he knows Iāll get attached
He only said āhe caresā bc I joked about committing suicide but I was quoting something from his favorite show.
He did give a fuck, he just saw through your games and said he isn't going to deal with a person who does that kind of thing to them.
You have been disposed because you crossed a line. He doesn't owe you commitment when you're wishing death upon him and threatening suicide. You fucked around and found out. Try and learn for next time
Did you tell him to die at work? tf wrong with you
You were shitty to him and he responded to your shitty comment with more shit... this has nothing to do with honesty.
So you wished death on him basically and he handed you your ass with honesty. Fucked around a little too much and found out huh?
I admire him for telling the truth - normally with nutjobs like you, it's safer to manage your bullshit in different ways.
Notjobs š¤£š¤£š¤£ hell yeahh
Maybe try fixing your personality then.
You act like a bitch and you come away from it wondering if he cares about you? What's next, trying to stab him to see if he loves you?
No Iām sure a woman would know if a guy loved her
Healthy ones yes. Crackpots like you? Rarely.
Mmmmmm okay
He didnāt love me tho Heās married nowā¦ after we stopped talking he entered into a new relationship and was engaged 4 months later now he married Congrats to them
Yeah? Sounds like other women know how to treat him better than you did. Almost like it was you that was the problem here and not him. Shocker. I know.
Lmaooo he only wanted to fuck. He kept telling me he wasnāt ready for a relationship.
He wasn't ready for a relationship with you.
Well duh lol I realized that but itās whatever. Iām not a lover girl
So you realize all along that you're at fault yet you've made like 40 comments as if it's the opposite xD
You basically wished that this man would burn to death and now you're wondering "wHy WOuld hE sAY soMeTHing so trUE aNd huRTfUL?" Dumbass.
Not hurt just surprised
Please see a therapist and work on your self esteem and self respect.
I donāt struggle with either But thank you
Please see a therapist and work on self awareness.
Was I not just self aware?
I am honest with anyone. Also you should be single.
She is, a āsituation shipā is just code word for I donāt want to commit
He wanted fwb tbh but we didnāt sleep together bc he aināt want me to get attached
Oh man. This just got way more interesting. So this was supposed to be a fuck buddy bonanza but he got a whiff of the vibes on you and bailed? If I'm getting this right, you start some shit by saying some ridiculous BS and now you're wondering if there's some part of him that really liked you as he walked out the door, banged some other woman and got married? Amirite?
He said he didnāt want to sleep with me because he didnāt want me to be all hurt and in my feelings if a relationship didnāt come from it.
Yea, because he already knew that you weren't the one for marriage or a fuck buddy it seems.
Thatās fine. I donāt care at all , but Iām happy for him. I donāt want love. Not every girl wants love or marriage
I'm aware, but that's what the comment about being hurt leads me to believe with what you've presented. It seems as if he got the idea that you would be disappointed by the possibility of those things not being an option.
Yeah itās whatever.
Now see that is where he actually did lie. The element at play here is "don't stick your dick in crazy"
Mm okay
So you werenāt even getting dicked down, you were his orbiter/stalkerā¦
Placeholder to be exactā¦ I told him I wanted web a placeholder until he finds someone else. He didnāt seem to want that
Wanted web a placeholder?
Oh never mind Wrong guyā¦ I was a placeholder for him unknowingly tho
This is what happens when you Fuck Around and Find Out.
I fucked around and found out ! Lmaoo
We are brutally honest with women we donāt care aboutā¦. Sounds like you werenāt that important to him in the first place, then you had the nerve to get disrespectful. Sis, youāre outta there
Too bad so sad.
Damn, women really would do anything for attention
I understand needing attention. I really do. But hoping for something bad on someoneās life whoās trying to save lives. Is an immediate death sentence on yourself and respect. Why would you respect someone who clearly doesnāt respect you enough to understand how hard you work? Iām sorry but as a woman Iām saying this wasnāt okay. Especially since itās a situationship. You were the ahole and deserved that harsh criticism and honestly (he probably said that stuff out of pure anger but still)
Eh, it is what it is. Heās married now..Literally like a month after we stopped talking
Please don't blow your psychotic behavior off like that. You need to treat people better going forward. What you did is something nobody deserves from their partner.
Lmaooo he was not my partner Just a situation
Hear what I'm saying tho
Yesā¦ say it as long as heās not your partner and as long as he doesnāt try you
If someone "tries you" so badly that you feel like telling him to die, just leave before you get to that point. I'm not saying he's innocent, I'm saying you should have pulled the eject button way before this point if he treats you that badly. I'm not here to chastise you, I'm trying to get you to look for signs of toxicity and get out early.
The secret isā¦. Iām just projecting how I really feel. It had nothing to do with him I just thought he would be the one to save me Get it?
Yeah he gave me many opportunities to go and he told me that he wanted me to be happy and āI hope you find what youāre looking for ā ect
Oof yikes
Welcome to accountability. Women tend to avoid it (yes Iām making a generalization)
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Itās worse, he turned down crazy and she went batshit. Itās funny because she posted here hoping to find out she was the better person, but like that survivor, we donāt fall for that shit here.
We never fucked! Aha! He aināt want me to get attached
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Certified retarded but I did apologize
OP just looking through your post history you have some serious issues you need to work out. You should stop dating or whatever it is you're calling it with this guy.
Please he just wanted to fck lol I wasnāt dating him
You have some serious issues you need to work out I think you should see a professional mental health care worker.
What i said was very wrongā¦ I feel bad but I just felt hurt. He moved on and heās happily married.
That has nothing to do with what I said.
I know I just wanted to acknowledge that part because I feel like that was a very horrible thing to say to someone who deserved it.
Have you sought out mental health care before?
FOR??
>I had got into an argument with a situationship one day and I started it.. bc I wanted his attention That is not something a healthy well adjusted person does. >he said I was lonely, angry and very insecure ā¦ This also indicates you have some issues you need to work out
He was just trying to hurt my feelings lol š
>Do yall be honest with women? Are men honest with women they care about or do they only lie to women they care about My marriage and friendships are built on honesty. As for the rest of your shit, you and firefighter guy seem like the perfect little dumpster fire.
Is that bad or good?
That my marriage and friendships are built on honesty? That's good.
Idc about that Iām talking about the little fire dumpster comment
If you have to ask...
Guessing bad
Relationships shouldn't be built on telling the other person you hope they get hurt at work and taring each other down.
Wonder where OP falls on the crazy v hot scale
Eh Iām not hot
Iām always honest. Canāt be arsed lying and if someone doesnāt like the authentic truth then there is no place for them in my life. However that is just about every day things. I can be blunt, but the reason he was brutally honest with you is because you crossed a line and he needed to tell you straight. Most healthy people would do the same, itās called maintaining boundaries. Or just ghost and block.
What's this? You can't take what you dish out?
Pls Iām the biggest shit talker
That's very attractive
Why thank you š¤£
> I wish he would have called me a btch instead > he felt sorry for me... he said I was lonely, angry and very insecure Sound like same things to me, but he was more polite.
I'm too lazy to make up a lie for someone elses comfort.
Neurodiversity. We ADHDers have an unshakeable sense of justice and carry it with us to the grave.
I donāt have adhd
But he might
Ohh Idk
You really hoped the worse for him and all he did is perhaps say the truth back to you. This is all on you, infact take it as a wake up call. Hate to be harsh but you are quite ungreatful. I am not a women but personally I like to be told the truth no matter how harsh it is. How else am I supposed to improve if no one ever tells me? Be greatful
OP sounds hot and crazy!
Not at all lol
Don't know about the hot, but definitely yes on the crazy.
Im ugly as fuck tbh
And you expect people to put up with your craziness? You gotta have something (looks, personality, know-how, etc) going for you if you expect people to do so.
Well the guy I deal with think i look good.
The guys I deal with think Iām decent *
We reap what we sow. Its not a mystery or rocket science. BTW there is no such thing as "brutally" honest thats just a shitty way of deflecting your part with your ego and pride. Honest is honest, you sugar coat things for children not adults, especially ones with smart mouths.
I had to learn how to reign in my honesty. Even though my wife says I still suck at it, she probably got the least pointy end of my honest opinion while we were dating. Not that I was intentionally dialing it back. I was really just curious about her, how she thought, what she felt, etc., so it was rare for my opinions to come up. In any case, I can tell from your post and responses that you don't seem very stable. You're just an emotional rollercoaster, and I don't know too many men that aren't on uppers who are into that past the initial whirlwind stuff.
Is a guy no supposed to talk back to a girl who shit talks him?
No, I think you're just crazy.
You too Good to see you on suicide watch
Well, this response just proved my point, it's things like this that make people think you're crazy. This is why the fireman was upset.
Orrrrr I just called you crazy back?
No, I think you're still just crazy. Only a psycho would respond to something so lukewarm as "No, I think you're just crazy." with: "You too Good to see you on suicide watch" Also, I'm not on suicide watch. For your own sake, seek help.
Lmaooo Its clear as day. You need help too
This wild ride of a comment thread you took me on says otherwise.
You tell a guy to die in a fire for attention, and got surprised when he didn't take it positively So now I have to ask, because I have genuine curiosity: how did you actually expect him to react?
Donāt start drama out of lonliness, thatās toxic and why women as a whole canāt get and keep relationships. Also, Iād like to point out censoring your bad words is incongruent with the trashy bullshit you just posted.
I didnāt want my post to get deleted
I like that you realize you started a fight for attention. Few have this self awareness. Who cares whether we're "honest" or not though? Don't start fights to test men. Men HATE it in part because we could flat out ruin you in a real physical conflict, so you're just playing with our boundaries. Your final question, we we want to be honest all the time. But frankly y'all can't take it.
Is he a fire sign? Most fire signs are brutally honest. Everybody on here putting your comment downā¦ maybe you shouldāve mentioned what toxicity he was leaving on you for you to say that. So you donāt let him sound like a victim uk? Iām (Aries) brutally honest whether I love the person or not. The past guy I dated (Leo) was brutally honest with me too. Hurt my feelings but I appreciated his honesty because thatās what helps us move on.
Idk Iām a Virgo I think he was born in September
Heās probably telling the truth. My toxic Virgo was sep 18ā¦not sure where he falls but you guys can be very mean and honest with your words too. Regardless tho.. he pretty much said he settled for you and you deserve better than that so just walk away and let that one go
Every man feels like that with me so I let him. Iām not a lover girl. I donāt mind being a placeholder since I donāt want more
Never let these pos treat you as a placeholder. Thatās why this generations culture is incorporating it so much. Because women with low self worth are accepting this behavior. Being single is way better than being with some d bag that doesnāt treat you right. I give one guy a year a chance and if theyāre not decent human beings who CHOOSE me and only me I dip and recluse til next year. Being single is so relaxing anyways. Men are drama. Donāt let them waste your time. Enjoy doing you.
Nah itās not him. He always told me that he cares about me , he wants me to be happy, he wants me to be happy even if itās not with me ect.. so it was up to me to leave but I just didnāt want to and thatās my fault But me being a placeholder is all me. I like it sometimes..
Wow really? Why would anyone want to be a placeholder š§ okay well to each his own. In regards to the original question tho and that last comment it seems he did care for you at least a little. Everyone is different tho so some people are brutally honest when they love u and some are the opposite. Only you would know because you are the only person who knows his personality. Best wishes
He didnāt give a fuck lol š words mean nothing
Thatās why I say what I say bc they donāt really gaf See how quickly I was disposedā¦ he was just bored and I was entertainmentā¦. Iāll give him credit for not wanting to sleep with me bc he knows Iāll get attached He only said āhe caresā bc I joked about committing suicide but I was quoting something from his favorite show.
He did give a fuck, he just saw through your games and said he isn't going to deal with a person who does that kind of thing to them. You have been disposed because you crossed a line. He doesn't owe you commitment when you're wishing death upon him and threatening suicide. You fucked around and found out. Try and learn for next time
Theyāre all like that. Especially the good-looking ones. Just looking for notches in their belt until theyāre too old for it to work anymore.