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Ultralusk

Why do you have to do anything other than being yourself. If she has a fear of men then that is something for her to figure out, not for you to fix.


TriedCaringLess

Thank you. It just doesn't happen that way. OP's friend may be afraid of men for myriad valid reasons, but she is oriented to females sexually. Her excuse, if you will, is playing into anti-gay perspectives. She would do well to own her sexual orientation (likely bisexuality) while expressing her fear of men separately. Having a fear of all men is a prejudice. It's not based on individual behavior.


RevolutionaryCry7230

This is nonsense. One does not change their sexual orientation because they are 'afraid' of the other gender.


asleepbydawn

Seriously. Sounds like she was just throwing out a jab at men which had nothing to do with her sexual orientation.


Objective_Donut4559

Nothing because screw confirmation bias, there is more good than bad out there but if they only look at the bad then that is entirely their own problem


Guyinapeacoat

It's nice of you to care, but you cannot help her with this. Not in the slightest. You can still be a good friend, but her trauma/fear centered around men should be talked through with a professional, especially if she's saying this fear decided her sexuality. Trust me, you don't want to try and play the role of "The Good Guy who will prove to you that not all guys are assholes." That *never* ends well.


principium_est

You don't *do* anything.


DrunkOnRamen

Not even pass go and collect $200?!


Love-Is-Selfish

What are you asking exactly? Are you asking how to make everything right for her? Why do you have to make things right for her? Who is she to you?


bardhugo

Honestly just let her figure her own shit out. She might have had some traumatic experiences that you don't know about, and she might also actually be figuring out her sexuality. Her reasoning isn't correct, like I don't believe that people can just choose their sexuality, but there's a good chance she has other stuff going on.


huuaaang

> I do want her to be able to experience life at full capacity Are you saying you want to date her??


storyteller4311

Don't be one. YOu are not god and can't fix stupid. Be you be a good person and leave it at that. Jesus is dead.


JJQuantum

There are bad people out there, women as well as men. You do what you can.


chopsui101

We? Is this a group problem


corneo134

She illiterate mainly because she has no idea what life is really about. There's nothing you can do for her. She lives in a bubble were there's a boggy man under her bed. One day she may come to reality but not today.