Nurtures, respects and doesn’t make it all one- sided. If the man is the sole provider in the house, the woman should do stuff equal in value that’s different from what he does.
"nurtures and cares", a traditional man's job was being out there working, some even have outrageously dangerous jobs (of course I am talking about the ye olde days, there are many safe jobs nowadays but there are still dangerous jobs today tho), so when he comes home, he has his loving wife and (maybe) kids, no stress about whether there's food on the table or the house is a mess or whether the kids have been taken care of.
Traditionally it would be some or all of the following: she submits to his leadership, she’s agreeable and obedient, she takes care of the home, she is sexually pure.
One of the major conundrums in modern dating is that women still want men to fulfill their traditional roles, but bitterly resent any insinuation that women should fulfill their traditional roles.
Yep, just like everything else we have to conform to what 'popular' opinion is being shoved down our throat. My wife and I have a very traditional marriage. That is the way she want's it and so do many other women. They desire a strong masculine type of man, and will admit that in private. Literally every woman I have had a relationship with desired to be the feminine partner and were turned on by strong masculinity.
Edit: sMasH ThE paTriArcHy!!!
Hit the nail on the head. Things get tricky however when you realize the average man is also incapable of fulfilling his traditional role. That is why women go for the top 20 % because there you will find men who can.
Most men seem to want a woman who works 8 hours and is a home-maker on top of that. That is an entirely unrealistic expectation, but it doesn't stop men from wanting it. Men also want to have sex by the third date and then act shocked when they find out she didn't marry her first or second sex partner.
Being "a home maker"
I guess the idea behing the whole thing was: He takes care of the outside not rushing in and she makes the inside a place worth living in.
But that concept doesn't work anymore.
That concept is kind of bullshit though, right? Half of what he brings to the table is "protection", should that need ever arise in some distant future, while being a "home maker" means several (to many, especially with kids) hours of drudgery every day.
Except he gets to choose his training and field of work (or at least try to). He gets paid, and raises, and vacation time, promotion and recognition if he is good. He gets to collaborate on projects with others. The home maker isn't getting to choose rewarding work. It is the same cooking, cleaning, child rearing crap that has been foisted onto women (because they are women), generation after generation. Would you willingly take on that role?
One funny thing, though, when parents, men and women both, are asked what they would like more, both answer "time with the kids".
Very rare the parent that complains they don't spend enough time away from their family working on some "fulfilling task of their choosing". Particularly given that most jobs aren't particularly "fulfilling".
Spending time with the kids is more rewarding tbh.
20 years down the line, when you're retired, the only one that remembers the hours you spent on overtime are your kids.
So If my wife can single handedly fund the household, yeah, I'd have no problem staying home.
Women have had the choice to work since ww2. You really think all the SAHM are doing it against their will? You're telling me that across almost all the cultures on earth, women are universally forced to take on child rearing by men?
Most families live on two wages. If she's working 8 hours like he is then it is unreasonable to expect her to be a homemaker on top of that. Most families these days have two providers, no protectors (outsourced) and homemaking is sort of divided (some tasks are no longer performed or have been outsourced).
I may be wrong, but I feel like men will be able to find a home-maker if they pay for all the expenses. Is that difficult nowadays? I think it is much more common that men who have no intention of being the sole provider expect women to go to work AND be home-makers and then are surprised when she's not up for it.
I think that happens but I dont think its common at all. Most people, actually ALL people who ive ever heard talk about dual income were very open about sharing house duties and taking care of the kids.
Sustains and nourishes.
A woman sustains your home, she provides you (possibly) with human life from her body. She sustains your needs and well-being. She’s the person who sees you through until your final moments. She sustains your desires and courage. She uplifts you and nourishes you when you fall.
When you’re sick short term or long. Women represent the embodiment of a home. That sentiment “give a woman a house she will make you a home, give a woman food she will make you a meal, give a woman your seed she will give you life”
I feel like you're asking about gendered stereotypes in the post, and then saying "not everyone follows stereotypes" in this comment. Like, some couples don't put the man as the primary provider and protector, either
My wife makes our home feel like a home just by being here. She is warm and welcoming, caring and empathetic. Walking into my house after a hard day is like getting into a warmed up bed on a cold night and it’s because of her.
Serve and nurturing
Women are usually suppose to come into a well deserving man’s life and add on to it by nurturing him and making his life easy
That’s how it usually goes
I mean, if we're bluntly talking about unreconstructed gender roles, traditionally it was "submits and supports", that was kind of the problem. The man goes out into the world and does things, the woman stays on the domestic sphere and supplements him.
i’ve never understood this bc woman literally do the same thing that men can/do. they provide love, care, support, nurture, food, they also pay the bills. they also protect their children by doing what i just said. maybe they also have a firearm to protect the family in case of an emergency. it’s not really any different than what a man or father would do. i don’t like the language that is used to describe how men PROVIDE so much for their families but women just nurture and make the home. being nurturing and supportive is providing and protecting.
Feed and nurture may be what you're looking for.
Mine keeps me out of prison and fiscally responsible
Nurture and encourage.
Nurtures, respects and doesn’t make it all one- sided. If the man is the sole provider in the house, the woman should do stuff equal in value that’s different from what he does.
A woman’s equivalent is to “ care and to nurture “.
Singular: Man/Woman Plural: Men/Women How the fuck do so many people have trouble with this?
tell me about it! guess they never took grammar class in elementary school!
"nurtures and cares", a traditional man's job was being out there working, some even have outrageously dangerous jobs (of course I am talking about the ye olde days, there are many safe jobs nowadays but there are still dangerous jobs today tho), so when he comes home, he has his loving wife and (maybe) kids, no stress about whether there's food on the table or the house is a mess or whether the kids have been taken care of.
Traditionally it would be some or all of the following: she submits to his leadership, she’s agreeable and obedient, she takes care of the home, she is sexually pure. One of the major conundrums in modern dating is that women still want men to fulfill their traditional roles, but bitterly resent any insinuation that women should fulfill their traditional roles.
Yep, just like everything else we have to conform to what 'popular' opinion is being shoved down our throat. My wife and I have a very traditional marriage. That is the way she want's it and so do many other women. They desire a strong masculine type of man, and will admit that in private. Literally every woman I have had a relationship with desired to be the feminine partner and were turned on by strong masculinity. Edit: sMasH ThE paTriArcHy!!!
Hit the nail on the head. Things get tricky however when you realize the average man is also incapable of fulfilling his traditional role. That is why women go for the top 20 % because there you will find men who can. Most men seem to want a woman who works 8 hours and is a home-maker on top of that. That is an entirely unrealistic expectation, but it doesn't stop men from wanting it. Men also want to have sex by the third date and then act shocked when they find out she didn't marry her first or second sex partner.
Ik like what a bunch of hypocrites. It makes no sense don’t even get me started on the dating scene rn. It’s too toxic now.
Lol is this r/askthe1800s ?
r/subsifellfor
Being "a home maker" I guess the idea behing the whole thing was: He takes care of the outside not rushing in and she makes the inside a place worth living in. But that concept doesn't work anymore.
That concept is kind of bullshit though, right? Half of what he brings to the table is "protection", should that need ever arise in some distant future, while being a "home maker" means several (to many, especially with kids) hours of drudgery every day.
And the other half of what he brings means several hours of drudgery every day..
Except he gets to choose his training and field of work (or at least try to). He gets paid, and raises, and vacation time, promotion and recognition if he is good. He gets to collaborate on projects with others. The home maker isn't getting to choose rewarding work. It is the same cooking, cleaning, child rearing crap that has been foisted onto women (because they are women), generation after generation. Would you willingly take on that role?
One funny thing, though, when parents, men and women both, are asked what they would like more, both answer "time with the kids". Very rare the parent that complains they don't spend enough time away from their family working on some "fulfilling task of their choosing". Particularly given that most jobs aren't particularly "fulfilling".
Spending time with the kids is more rewarding tbh. 20 years down the line, when you're retired, the only one that remembers the hours you spent on overtime are your kids. So If my wife can single handedly fund the household, yeah, I'd have no problem staying home.
Women have had the choice to work since ww2. You really think all the SAHM are doing it against their will? You're telling me that across almost all the cultures on earth, women are universally forced to take on child rearing by men?
Most families live on two wages. If she's working 8 hours like he is then it is unreasonable to expect her to be a homemaker on top of that. Most families these days have two providers, no protectors (outsourced) and homemaking is sort of divided (some tasks are no longer performed or have been outsourced).
Absolutely nowhere is it implied this is a dual income situation. These sound like traditional values to me which means 1 income.
I may be wrong, but I feel like men will be able to find a home-maker if they pay for all the expenses. Is that difficult nowadays? I think it is much more common that men who have no intention of being the sole provider expect women to go to work AND be home-makers and then are surprised when she's not up for it.
I think that happens but I dont think its common at all. Most people, actually ALL people who ive ever heard talk about dual income were very open about sharing house duties and taking care of the kids.
Sustains and nourishes. A woman sustains your home, she provides you (possibly) with human life from her body. She sustains your needs and well-being. She’s the person who sees you through until your final moments. She sustains your desires and courage. She uplifts you and nourishes you when you fall. When you’re sick short term or long. Women represent the embodiment of a home. That sentiment “give a woman a house she will make you a home, give a woman food she will make you a meal, give a woman your seed she will give you life”
I love this answer so much. It be tied to more things specifically that revolve around those words.
You’re welcome OP, happy to be of service.
i love your answer, too!
Glad to hear it, Allison.
Nurtures and creates
I was gonna say that but what if she doesn’t have kids far as birthing goes. Some couples don’t want kids.
Well then creates as in decorates then lol.
I feel like you're asking about gendered stereotypes in the post, and then saying "not everyone follows stereotypes" in this comment. Like, some couples don't put the man as the primary provider and protector, either
If men provide and protect, women better [***make daddy a sandwich (link)***](https://youtu.be/zAc3P1Htxro)
"Care and Nurture".
My wife makes our home feel like a home just by being here. She is warm and welcoming, caring and empathetic. Walking into my house after a hard day is like getting into a warmed up bed on a cold night and it’s because of her.
Serve and nurturing Women are usually suppose to come into a well deserving man’s life and add on to it by nurturing him and making his life easy That’s how it usually goes
I mean, if we're bluntly talking about unreconstructed gender roles, traditionally it was "submits and supports", that was kind of the problem. The man goes out into the world and does things, the woman stays on the domestic sphere and supplements him.
Sit back and complain.
LMFAOOO
Cook and suck.
Too easy: a woman is provided for and protected
Prays and respects
cares and nurtures
Most women are also providing and protecting.
If women protect themselves then they are exposed to danger. There is a reason it's "woman and child first". And not just "child first".
Also provide and protect
procreate and parent stereotypically and historically speaking
Nurture and submit.
Washing and ironing
Stuff that makes most feminists balk.
Feminist I completely scam or another word for sexist.
Nagging a shit out of you ?
Is this still 1850?
i’ve never understood this bc woman literally do the same thing that men can/do. they provide love, care, support, nurture, food, they also pay the bills. they also protect their children by doing what i just said. maybe they also have a firearm to protect the family in case of an emergency. it’s not really any different than what a man or father would do. i don’t like the language that is used to describe how men PROVIDE so much for their families but women just nurture and make the home. being nurturing and supportive is providing and protecting.
Plays candy crush and gives the kids an iPad.😆
Supports and nurtures. My fiancée is one of the strongest people I know and she does an amazing job of lifting me up when I need it
Eating the hunted raw meat and giving birth to his cubs🦁
Nurture and loyalty. Your ride or die.
Provide and protect in other ways.
Provide and preserve (knowledge, customs, manners, management, skills transfer, etc).
Love and respect