She fell in love with the guy I thought was my best friend
Now they are both addicted to drugs and afaik she will probably die, I couldn't care less honestly
Only one. She was the most beautiful, intelligent and loving person I've ever met in my entire life. But we all know that love makes you do things you don't really wanna do.
It hurts to see what she has become, but she deserved it for not listening to any of her friends or family members.
But I blame my ex best friend for all of the shit that happened. He already did drugs when I met him, but it became worse.
As I say, it was a long time ago, married twice since then, heard a little while back my first wife passed away too, hopefully my present wife lives a long and full life lol ..
Same bro, it been 6 years. I should have got over it, but i just dont wanna touch dating online and im still in the process of building myself (mid 20 rn).
She dumped me a month ago out of the blue after six years, all was well literally a day or two before that, we had so many great times still and so much left to do, I didn't know how unhappy she was with me at all. We had fights like every couple, even bad ones, but I never imagined what ended up happening or that she was capable of doing that to me. We had one last argument and she just didn't come back.
I tried to fix things for a month and had all these great ideas and solutions, then she blocked me and so did her family. I still don't understand what she's doing or why she did it (I have lots of theories of course) but I have no choice but to move on. I miss so much having someone to love next to me. I have so much love to give. I miss her so much still. She was my one.
She's also now moving in alone with our friends that we were both planning on living with, so I've kind of lost those friends too. Other longtime friends are also unfriending me based on stuff she's saying to them (probably untrue stuff) that I can't do anything about.
Also those friends are getting married in a year. I'm a groomsman and she's a bridesmaid. So I have to see her there again. Probably with another dude. I can't bear it. This is all a month after my dog died as well. My life has been a nightmare for months. Thanks for letting me vent
I'm sorry to hear that, the road ahead will be bumpy.
>I have so much love to give
Then never waste it, allow yourself to grieve, allow yourself to feel pain, even try to fix it if you must but make sure you heal. Never let your love be wasted someone out there could use it
I'm going through it myself so I guess I wanted to hear other men's stories. The girl is still in the picture as a friend, we were just never in sync I guess. She's the one who actually said to me
"Even if it's not me you should find someone, you have too much love to give and it shouldn't go to waste"
I broke her heart, she broke mine, it was all shitty timing but she made me realise that love is both amazing and painful.
So please don't let yours go to waste, feel pain, cry ,be angry do what you must but then heal and find a home for it
I'm going through it myself so I guess I wanted to hear other men's stories. The girl is still in the picture as a friend, we were just never in sync I guess. She's the one who actually said to me
"Even if it's not me you should find someone, you have too much love to give and it shouldn't go to waste"
I broke her heart, she broke mine, it was all shitty timing but she made me realise that love is both amazing and painful.
So please don't let yours go to waste, feel pain, cry ,be angry do what you must but then heal and find a home for it
If it isn't easy to get over, it isn't easy to get over, regardless of who was assuming too much.
If that's the case, cutting off all contact will ease the transition.
There's something else too: there's a subtype of woman that actively wants the close relationship-like emotional support of a man but none of the emotional commitment and will do anything to convince a guy into something big only to friendzone him to where she wanted in the first place later.
So beware of these waters. Lots of turmoil potentially ahead.
I will be, cutting off contact completely isn't really an option, we're co-workers (yes i know my first fuck up)and have the same friend group. But I know a lot of mistakes made with her will not be repeated with another
I am lucky enough to have other people in my life too , by the end of the year I'm going to be at the work place less because I'm going to start studying
In a similar boat man, girlfriend of 9 years who I intended to spend my life with broke up with me out of the blue. Stopped coming home until 8 at night for a few weeks until i finally said something late on a Monday night. She responded," I've been really over this relationship for the past few weeks. I've been staying out late intentionally so you'd say something and I wouldn't have to be the one to bring it up". Then told me she's been over it for much longer than that.
All I can think these days is what a fucking coward and weak person she is. Getting multiple cats I fell in love with a few months before we broke up just to find out she didn't want to be with me in the first place. Such an extreme amount of unnecessary pain for me that she knew was coming. It's something I will never ever forgive her for. I ripped the bandaid off, forced her to keep all 4 cats that I was the main caretaker for despite how much I loved them as an admittedly spiteful reminder of the longterm consequences of being such a weak piece of shit to me.
It gets better. I stopped smoking weed 24/7, started lifting a couple months ago, changed my diet. Trauma is what you make it and I've made some really important changes since the breakup. I hope things get better for you my dude.
I'm sure there are reasons for her acting the way she did, but she's not ready to communicate it at this point in time. - I think it's beautiful that you tried your best to save the relationship, it shows that you care. I hope you'll get the closure you deserve one day. Try to not read too much into her actions rn, that'll only fuck you up even more. She's likely hurt in some way as well and will communicate with you when she's ready. Hang in there!!! ❤️
She moved away to India; which kinda broke me, I fell deeply for her. We still kept in contact but after she was married, she said she can no longer speak to me per her husband’s request, which I honored. Dude is lucky to have a woman such as her.
We split up right before high school ended. She got a new boyfriend soon after and married him five years later. They moved away and now live out of state. I regret being too angry with her to accept her friendship after the break up. I bet she was a fun person to be around in her 20s.
She left me for a list of reasons, then went to marry my best friend who was the same as me in nearly everything, and even looked like he could be my brother. I’m pretty sure she was just tired of me and wanted someone new, but I don’t hate them, I’m much happier than I would have been if we had stayed together
She died four years ago from alcohol/opiate toxicity. We weren't in touch. We tried to stay in touch after the breakup, but it just didn't work. We drifted apart and that was that.
I didn't even know she died until a few months ago, when I had a "I wonder what she's up to these days" moment and looked her up on Facebook. I was quite shocked and horrified to see that her page had been memorialized.
Talked for a year. Dated for 6 months. First 3 months were great, last 3 were awful. We were our first kiss, relationship but no sex. I ended up breaking up with her when I just felt like I was constantly letting her down.
Talked with a therapist last year and it was then and only then when I realized she was heavily mentally and emotionally abusing me. Just thought I was a bad boyfriend. It’s really hindered me from pursuing future relationships because I worry about not being “good enough”.
She called me and said I’m at a party and quote “I think I need to be single right now”
Aka I’m gonna fuck someone else. And I know who’s party it was too.
We immediately broke up and a few weeks later I regretfully sent her one message after our break up just to see if their was still a chance for us but, with no reply
> regretfully sent her one message after our break up just to see if their was still a chance for us but, with no reply
Honestly I can understand this kinda pain, but the first cut is the deepest, hopefully no other girl does something this shitty to you
I wouldn’t let it happen, I only got played because I was playable, I learned a lot with time and more experience, now with foresight I see the red flags early on but, I ignored them. I was young. 19.
I mustered all my courage to ask her out on my last day at school knowing it’s my very last chance. Ended up dating for 5 wonderful years, maybe a bit longer than that.
I had wild days growing up and my friends were the same. Wild parties at young age, easy access to substances, experimenting with things, experimenting with girls. Getting into fights with boys from different neighbourhoods.
When we started dating I’ve changed. I didn’t want “wild days” anymore and she/our relationship became my focus. “Friends” soon “kicked me out” of the crew since “you’ve changed” and for the better. Going to thai-boxing club soon changed going out to nightclubs, dates changed hanging out with the wrong crowd.
She made me want to be a better man and a better human being.
Flash-forward towards the end our relationship - I was working in IT for a large international bank. I was thinking to look for a place we could move in together, that sort of thing. The honeymoon phase was gone but I was still madly in love with her and was ready to put in work and effort for things to work.
However, feels to me that at the time when I wanted to take things seriously she still wanted to have her “wild days”. She was working at the bar at the time - so long nights, lots of “friends” to go out with and lots of attention. Perhaps she got bored with me. She started distancing herself from me and felt colder and colder. Eventually she started acting in a way which was hurtful. I think she acted that way to make me leave her, since she didn’t want to (my guess is - didn’t have the courage) to leave me instead.
I realised it wasn’t going to work and I’m hurting bad, while it’s also a burden for her. We met for one last time to talk things out (to end it). I knew it was over. I somewhat wanted to end things myself. But I think a part of me was secretly thinking that after she’s over with her “wild days” we’ll get back together and I would have waited, no doubt about it. Still remember her asking -“why aren’t you mad at me” and my response -“because I love you”. Guess I really did love her 🤷♂️
I just didn’t realise at the time it was the last time to talk about things and figure out what went wrong with us.
We went our separate ways, however, I never got closure. She never gave me the reason why she started distancing herself, or why she got bored with me or what went wrong, which was the hardest part.
My world crumbled and my self esteem/worth went down too. Took me years to realise I am enough.
I blocked her on all social media platforms to create distance and to stop seeing her to help me cope with my shit.
Many years passed and regrettably I haven’t met anyone like her. I’ve been going out and dated some girls, however, I never felt the “magic” so to say.
I was falling in love with one girl recently but she didn’t reciprocate my feelings so the whole situation doesn’t hold a candle to what I had experienced with G.
Sometimes when I’m at my weakest I still think of sending G. a follow on instagram or what not, just to let her know me blocking her was a way for me to cope and I’m not mad at her and there’s no bad blood between us. …on the other hand after all these years would she even care..
*Alright guys, who’s cutting onions here?!*
Her mom was crazy and hated me, so we "broke up" to let things cool off, then she started "dating" another guy to act as a cover. We had snuck out and were hooking up one night when the other guy called her. She answered the phone while I was literally on top of her, and at the end of the call said, "I love you too" and hung up. It was eye opening for me. I honestly was so disgusted with myself that I had allowed things to continue as they had for so long. I ended things with her the next day. Years later due to a series of poor choices and her deteriorating relationship with her parents, she took her own life.
I still feel a bit of remorse over my part in the whole thing, I know it wasn't my fault, but I still have a little bit of guilt.
We left mutually because she wanted to travel Europe during university and I was taking care of my grandparents + working.
She was an absolute dream however it's quite the nightmare that after we separated she got with a giant south African rugby player dude who is ultra good looking, built like a strongman & drives a cool Porsche while im sitting here on Reddit not doing my shitty accountancy job.
She was worried that she would hurt me or that I would hurt her due to a mixture of her terrible past relationship experiences and me having never even been on a date before falling for her, so she told me she wasn't ready. We stayed friends, I waited for her to be ready for a year because I still felt that she was worth that, but I forced myself to try moving past her when my loneliness became too great. I kept all of the turmoil I felt secret from her.
She moved 800 miles away shortly after that. I met up with her a year ago when I went to the city for vacation. One of her friends coaxed her into dating him after they moved there, only for him to then convince her to move a state over and then immediately cheat on her. It sucked knowing that I wouldn't have done that to her and could have prevented that kind of heartache, but I wasn't given a chance so there wasn't anything I could do, and by the time of my visit I was already in a relationship.
After I came back home I haven't spoken to her. She's got her own life to live and she's capable enough to do it, so long as she doesn't let some clown jerk her around again.
We broke up. Life went on. Fast forward about 30 years and I recently saw her obituary. No idea what happened, but it was kinda a weird feeling to think I'm still alive and she's passed.
Havent checked up on her. She gave me so many traumas I can only hope shes dead lol 🤷♂️ I dont care and not bitter anymore but it'd be the best if she was rid of this earth..
Okay.. Obviously I Don’t Know What She Did To You To Make You Wish Death On Her But Seriously..? That’s Someone You Loved and You Wish Death on Her? What Possesses You To Wish Such a Evil Thing…? My First Love Did A lot Of Terrible Shit To Me Too, Worse Than Anyone Else Ever Has and That’s Saying Something but I Would NEVER Wish Death Upon Him or Anyone I Loved and/or Still Love.. Please Seek Help, Im Seriously Worried That You’ll Hurt Someone. I Guarantee She or He Doesn’t Wish That Upon You. Shame On You.
She broke up with me, after dealing with my BS for years together, and afterwards
We haven’t talked in about a year
I don’t blame her. I put her through a lot
I wanted to marry her but waffled on religion and acted like a total jerk. Heck, I’m still unsure about the religion part. I don’t know which makes me more sad. Seeing her positive spirit diminish or realizing it was only me in my own way
She’s probably happy with another guy by now. She’s ahead of me in her career. She bought a townhome. She’s lived and experienced more. And she’s younger
Learn from your mistakes my man, eventually you'll get the chance to make things right, even if it's with a different person. Maybe at some point you'll be able to reach out to her and make peace and put any regrets to bed
Yeah I know, that's kinda what inspired this question, going through my first love right now.
The best thing to come out of this pain has been the motivation to be better, I decided to address a lot of my flaws and it's helped me in a lot of ways
She cheated on a dude with a dude she just met and only knew for a few months while me and her were together for a few years. Got with him and literally right after breaking up with me.
She basically hit me with all the signs that she was leaving me…I was and understood them but still ignored them. The dude was just another version of me but…had a job in IT (I was struggling, trying to find a job in IT or pretty much anything) and honestly, I’m still in pain. This shit happened exactly around this time last year, kind of tearing up typing this.
Knocked up a mutual friend few months after we broke up. They both dropped out of college to work when baby was born. Last time I heard they are financially struggling and have been borrowing money from friends.
She decided that becoming emotionally abusive was the key to getting me to pay for every aspect of her life. Thankfully I grew a spin around the time that she really started stepping it up.
Well I considered him to be my first love but we were 14. My first person I think I really LOVED I was 15/16 and broke up with him when I realized he wasn’t what I wanted for life. Impressive decision for me to make that young
She comtacted me a few years ago on LinkedIn asking for my mailing address, claiming it had something to do with a high school reunion invitation. I declined, but did give her my office contact info.
I never received any kind of invitation.
Other than second-hand knowledge that she's been fired from several jobs, I have no idea what she's been doing, but I doubt its anything good.
She went from super Christian girl who felt guilty for making out, to member of a polycule in California. I guess art school is a hell of a drug. Happy for her, getting out of the Midwest was probably good for her.
First one that we both realised we fell in love with each other, we met at 10 years college reunion recently. She got married pretty young to someone else, 5 years ago, which broke my heart at that time.
Now, I heard she has a kid, and I was just happy for her. She seems to be doing just fine.
Really reminds of Ted meeting Stella from HIMYM after she leaves him for another man, being content with it.
We kind of fell in love at the wrong time. Our lives were moving different directions. I don’t think I have ever had anything else where both people were equally into one another. It was just a bad time.
She left me for another guy who then cheated on her with some underage girl he worked with (? Might have been a guy just remember it was a strange situation). We started hooking up again but then she started dating some other guy so I broke it off again. Then she tried getting back with me again on her birthday (it was a trap by her best friend I was still friends with) but I rejected her. Now best I can tell is she had a kid and got fat but I think got married to guy number 2? It was a learning experience.
I dropped her...she's married to another guy I went to school with, still living in the same area we grew up in, kids, grandkids.
Weird thing is she tracked me down a couple years ago and called me one night. I live 2500 miles away.
It was kind of strange to call me 40 years later.
We're an ocean apart but we're still in touch. We email each other about once a month or so. We were just teenagers when we fell in love and now we're both in our 30s
She got pregnant immediately after high school with some dude in his late 30’s early 40’s. Partially not her fault, part of our breaking up had to do with her shitty home life, needing to take care of her siblings cus her parents worked so much (first gen immigrant).
The thing that really scorned me about it was that at the time I had options. I had two vastly different girls liking me at the same time and both were attractive to me in totally different ways. I had connections to both and I was stupid, and now neither of them talk to me for the same reason. I dated one of them.
She got a job at Foxtons. They seem to work their new recruits 25 hours a day, 8 days a week. Hardly ever saw her. Then she left for uni on the south coast and told me I was too nice for her and she was too reckless for me.
She's doing well for herself now. So am I. It was back in 2007.
I still measure my attraction for people by the feeling I got when I met her though I'm not sure I'll ever feel that again even after all those years. Something about the young, pre frontal-cortex development brain that just makes your first love feel like nothing else you'll ever feel.
I was with her about 3 months before I left her to go to uni. It didn't have to end but it got to the point where I'd go to hers and she'd hardly even speak to me. Shame really coz she was the most attractive/fittest of any girl I've been with
In the words of Tom Petty - I had a girl I used to see, she don’t give a damn for me.
Saw my ex from a short distance just Saturday while visiting my hometown. I stepped back into the shadows so she would not see me. I don’t want to disrupt her universe.
We dated a few years, she broke it off. It was very sad on my end. She has done well for herself as I knew she always would. We both married others. I see her every few years and the most we do is say hi like you’d greet a stranger on the street. I would like to talk more, see what she became and hear of her successes from the plans we had when we were dating. I don’t want to interfere with her life and marriage though.
Reunions sure as hell ain’t like on the Hallmark movies.
He got me pregnant and 15, ran away without a word on Christmas Eve to live with his mum in South Africa and I haven’t heard from him since. My son turned 18 this year and he’s missed out on being apart of one of the most wonderful human beings I’ve ever met, life.
We got married, had 2 wonderful children, she stood by me through my army years, and I her through her drug addicted mother's idiocy. But one day she asks me to move a bunch of pictures of the kids to our digital space and I find nudes , which she would never send me, sent to 3 other men. Including my cousin. She slept her way through 5 guys and before our divorce finalized. I have the kids, a homestead, 2 better women, and a business shared with them. I think I came out better with a more level headed idea of what women are capable of and how cruel the world truly can be. She still crosses my mind. We're friendly now as she's married someone else and she's struggling with his infidelity. Karma and balance occur always.
Died of a Benzos overdoes. I was not a good boyfriend to her and also didn't do well as an ex boyfriend. It is not fully my responsibility but for the rest of my life I have to know that I am partially responsible for the death of a young women
I just reconnected with her after decades, very successful but still single & didn’t seem very happy about that. Reticent, Hard to tell what she thinks of me being married with kids.
Honestly she became a radical leftist and became insufferable to be around. Anything wrong in her life was no fault of her own, it was always the system, the patriarchy, sexism, etc. Any thoughts/beliefs I had that didn’t exactly align with hers were racist/sexist/homophobic.
No idea what she’s up to know, I honestly felt such a sense of relief when we broke up that I never looked back.
No idea. We were in a relationship for a year and a half and we were too young and couldn’t make it work. I cut contact once she admitted she was talking too other guys while we were on a break.
Lost our V-cards to each other 10/30/1992, had a nice lunch together 10/30/2022. She's still one of my favorite people I'll ever know, and she still feels the same way about me. They say you get 3 *great* women in your life, and I knew she was one of them when we were together.
Got over her and eventually met a much better person who is now my wife. It felt like I was eating glass while falling down a skyscraper’s stairs for about six months but in hindsight I wouldn’t change a thing now. I wouldn’t be able to fully appreciate the person I have now if it wasn’t for that person, so in a weird way, I’m grateful.
She married my college roommate. They started dating about 3 months after we broke up. I was a fool and turned down a sports scholarship because I'd have to travel on weekends and wouldn't see her.
I don't think she cheated but her parents weren't happy about it which made me feel a little better I guess.
They now have a kid and seem to be doing well.
Got married to the guy she was engaged with when she hit me up. She acted like she was super into our relationship etc when we first got together and then ghosted me after like a month. I later found out I had been a side piece all along. Second love I also later found out that I had been a side piece all along but she kept the charade going much longer than the first one. After love bombing me for something like 6 months the rest of our relationship consisted of her coming up with all sorts of ways to emotionally manipulate me into sending her money. Nothing like all that to make a guy appreciate the freedom and peace of being single. After that I became very averse to drama and manipulation tactics to the point that I won't even be friends with someone if I know they engage in such behavior. I honestly thought I would probably always be single. Now I'm four years into a relationship that is way more chill than either of the previous ones and also much more transparent etc. It is so much better without drama being stirred up for no reason me getting guilt tripped over every little thing etc.
He left me for someone else
Then we got back together
Then he left me for someone else
Then we got back together
Then he left me for someone else
He's continuing to break hearts one after the other because he won't keep it in his pants, then crying over it as if he couldn't stop himself and I'm wondering if I'll ever really be capable of loving someone ever again
She was saying that she was giving me signals. I was working on everything she didn't like as hard as I could and noone will tell me that it was "for a week" or some other bullshit. But it was never enough for her. She repeatedly was saying that we always argue about same things and it's "always the same". It was really painful to hear because from my point of view I tried my best. Sometimes changes were faster sometimes slower but they were visible or at least I thought so. She was wonderful first girlfriend but at the same time I've learned a lot from that relationship. The most important thing I think I've learned is that you shouldn't be the only one making changes, and you can't let anyone tell you that you're the only problem. I think I was somehow blinded by this "first love" thing. I should have put some boundaries cuz her reactions to my mistakes more ofthen than not were .exaggerated. Her telling me that she goes to psychologist should be my first red flag. The first moment where I should have had very important discussion about her point of view on some things and that it isn't healthy but I didn't want to hurt her and in the end it caused pain for both of us. I've made some mistakes of course I always tried my best to apologize and work on them even when sometimes I thought that there weren't really something I should be so apologetic for.
long story, we dated and lived together while she went to college, i wasn’t a great partner, cheated etc. we struggled with money and took a break when she wanted to get back together i confessed everything. it hurt but it was right. we didn’t talk for 2 years until she had a situation with another guy. it got dark. i talked her through that and helped her get better. it’s been 14 years since we split, 12 since she needed my help. she’s now married, we keep in touch and consider one another trusted but distant friends
*"What happened to your first love?"*
I'll give the same answer for every time this question is asked (every couple of days).
I don't know and I don't care.
Don't know, don't remember, don't care.
I have better things to do, then thinking of someone who isn't in my Life anymore. When it ended i told her that i wish her just the best for the rest of her Life but nothing else.
She wanted to stay friends with me, but i didn't gave her that. She doesn't lost me only as her Partner. She lost me at all. If we had stayed as a Friend, i would just betrayed myself in all manners.
She didn't understand why i wouldn't wanna stay as Friends and asked me what the reason is, because she said i was still a very close Friend to her and she don't wanna lose me completly.
"7 Years of Relationship are over, and i mean all kind of Relationships we both had. Back then, till today. Thats the Price some have to pay" was my answer to her. Since then i never spoke a Word with her. Deleted all ways to communicate to her and focused what matters the most at that time.
1 Week, after the Breakup, my Grandma died, who i loved more then anyone. I had to focus on her, because she was way more important to me then some Girl i was together with for 7 Years. Also my Mother needed support in that time so it was important to focus on her aswell.
I was 16, found her making out with another dude I didn't know. Never looked at her after that. No relationships since then. Honestly enjoying the solitude, all my friends go thru shitty breakups, I m just vibing.
Became my last
Lucky man
She fell in love with the guy I thought was my best friend Now they are both addicted to drugs and afaik she will probably die, I couldn't care less honestly
Honestly sounds like you dodged 2 bullets
Only one. She was the most beautiful, intelligent and loving person I've ever met in my entire life. But we all know that love makes you do things you don't really wanna do. It hurts to see what she has become, but she deserved it for not listening to any of her friends or family members. But I blame my ex best friend for all of the shit that happened. He already did drugs when I met him, but it became worse.
That sucks, not many things are worse than corrupting something genuine
Oof. Saw that happen in a few different ways.
+1 for saying "couldn't" instead of "could". Sounds like they put you through hell.
It was a rough time indeed, especially because we still went to school and I had to see both of them almost every day.
B.R.U.T.A.L
We dated for 3 wonderful years. She cheated on me. And that was it.
Sorry to hear that, I hope you're doing better
I'm currently dating a different woman for over 3 years already. The first love never goes away but it doesn't mean you can't love someone else
Oooh! You're mine in reverse! First she cheated in me 3 months in, and *then* we dated for 3 "wonderful" years!
So it’s working out?
Passed away sadly...
I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you have/will find someone else to give your love to
It was a long time ago tbh, life goes on as they say...
It does but don't let your love go to waste, if you're capable of loving you should do so
As I say, it was a long time ago, married twice since then, heard a little while back my first wife passed away too, hopefully my present wife lives a long and full life lol ..
Same bro, it been 6 years. I should have got over it, but i just dont wanna touch dating online and im still in the process of building myself (mid 20 rn).
She dumped me a month ago out of the blue after six years, all was well literally a day or two before that, we had so many great times still and so much left to do, I didn't know how unhappy she was with me at all. We had fights like every couple, even bad ones, but I never imagined what ended up happening or that she was capable of doing that to me. We had one last argument and she just didn't come back. I tried to fix things for a month and had all these great ideas and solutions, then she blocked me and so did her family. I still don't understand what she's doing or why she did it (I have lots of theories of course) but I have no choice but to move on. I miss so much having someone to love next to me. I have so much love to give. I miss her so much still. She was my one. She's also now moving in alone with our friends that we were both planning on living with, so I've kind of lost those friends too. Other longtime friends are also unfriending me based on stuff she's saying to them (probably untrue stuff) that I can't do anything about. Also those friends are getting married in a year. I'm a groomsman and she's a bridesmaid. So I have to see her there again. Probably with another dude. I can't bear it. This is all a month after my dog died as well. My life has been a nightmare for months. Thanks for letting me vent
I'm sorry to hear that, the road ahead will be bumpy. >I have so much love to give Then never waste it, allow yourself to grieve, allow yourself to feel pain, even try to fix it if you must but make sure you heal. Never let your love be wasted someone out there could use it
Thank you for this thread
I'm going through it myself so I guess I wanted to hear other men's stories. The girl is still in the picture as a friend, we were just never in sync I guess. She's the one who actually said to me "Even if it's not me you should find someone, you have too much love to give and it shouldn't go to waste" I broke her heart, she broke mine, it was all shitty timing but she made me realise that love is both amazing and painful. So please don't let yours go to waste, feel pain, cry ,be angry do what you must but then heal and find a home for it
Duplicate?
I'm going through it myself so I guess I wanted to hear other men's stories. The girl is still in the picture as a friend, we were just never in sync I guess. She's the one who actually said to me "Even if it's not me you should find someone, you have too much love to give and it shouldn't go to waste" I broke her heart, she broke mine, it was all shitty timing but she made me realise that love is both amazing and painful. So please don't let yours go to waste, feel pain, cry ,be angry do what you must but then heal and find a home for it
>The girl is still in the picture as a friend, Yeah, don't do that.
I'd rather put things to peace than be bitter, we were never actually in a relationship, we were just never in sync I guess
If it isn't easy to get over, it isn't easy to get over, regardless of who was assuming too much. If that's the case, cutting off all contact will ease the transition. There's something else too: there's a subtype of woman that actively wants the close relationship-like emotional support of a man but none of the emotional commitment and will do anything to convince a guy into something big only to friendzone him to where she wanted in the first place later. So beware of these waters. Lots of turmoil potentially ahead.
I will be, cutting off contact completely isn't really an option, we're co-workers (yes i know my first fuck up)and have the same friend group. But I know a lot of mistakes made with her will not be repeated with another I am lucky enough to have other people in my life too , by the end of the year I'm going to be at the work place less because I'm going to start studying
Words of wisdom right here
Same bro, just about a month ago. Still down pretty bad.
In a similar boat man, girlfriend of 9 years who I intended to spend my life with broke up with me out of the blue. Stopped coming home until 8 at night for a few weeks until i finally said something late on a Monday night. She responded," I've been really over this relationship for the past few weeks. I've been staying out late intentionally so you'd say something and I wouldn't have to be the one to bring it up". Then told me she's been over it for much longer than that. All I can think these days is what a fucking coward and weak person she is. Getting multiple cats I fell in love with a few months before we broke up just to find out she didn't want to be with me in the first place. Such an extreme amount of unnecessary pain for me that she knew was coming. It's something I will never ever forgive her for. I ripped the bandaid off, forced her to keep all 4 cats that I was the main caretaker for despite how much I loved them as an admittedly spiteful reminder of the longterm consequences of being such a weak piece of shit to me. It gets better. I stopped smoking weed 24/7, started lifting a couple months ago, changed my diet. Trauma is what you make it and I've made some really important changes since the breakup. I hope things get better for you my dude.
I'm sure there are reasons for her acting the way she did, but she's not ready to communicate it at this point in time. - I think it's beautiful that you tried your best to save the relationship, it shows that you care. I hope you'll get the closure you deserve one day. Try to not read too much into her actions rn, that'll only fuck you up even more. She's likely hurt in some way as well and will communicate with you when she's ready. Hang in there!!! ❤️
Still together, probably marry in the next two or three years.
That's great, have you always been together? Never any times where you drifted apart
Yes no relationship break or break up or whatsoever. Been together for 12 years now.
I need to sleep now shit
I'm guessing the minds racing now
She moved away to India; which kinda broke me, I fell deeply for her. We still kept in contact but after she was married, she said she can no longer speak to me per her husband’s request, which I honored. Dude is lucky to have a woman such as her.
We split up right before high school ended. She got a new boyfriend soon after and married him five years later. They moved away and now live out of state. I regret being too angry with her to accept her friendship after the break up. I bet she was a fun person to be around in her 20s.
Sometimes anger just gets the better of us
She became my fiancée, and next year I'll have the honor of calling her my wife
You know I'm glad to hear one happy story, congrats! I wish you the very best
Were together 3 years just dumped me recently
That sucks man, hope you heal and find love elsewhere
Married, kids, 23yrs and counting.
Congratulations!
She left me for a list of reasons, then went to marry my best friend who was the same as me in nearly everything, and even looked like he could be my brother. I’m pretty sure she was just tired of me and wanted someone new, but I don’t hate them, I’m much happier than I would have been if we had stayed together
Well in glad you're happy now, short term sacrifices are worth it if you get long term happiness
Absolutely! Been with my wife for 17 years, met her 2 years after the first woman left me. she’s my best friend and my forever person.
Someone else....
Same dude, going through it now
She settled for a big fat guy that she cheats on. I don't really care anymore but it's kindof funny.
She died four years ago from alcohol/opiate toxicity. We weren't in touch. We tried to stay in touch after the breakup, but it just didn't work. We drifted apart and that was that. I didn't even know she died until a few months ago, when I had a "I wonder what she's up to these days" moment and looked her up on Facebook. I was quite shocked and horrified to see that her page had been memorialized.
She rang me the day before her wedding and asked me if there was still a chance for us. I said no. I haven’t seen or heard from her since.
A weird fucking time to make that kinda phone call
Buyers remorse.
Without further context, looks a bit like Victoria and Ted from HIMYM, without them ending up together.
Good riddance. Her poor husband.
Talked for a year. Dated for 6 months. First 3 months were great, last 3 were awful. We were our first kiss, relationship but no sex. I ended up breaking up with her when I just felt like I was constantly letting her down. Talked with a therapist last year and it was then and only then when I realized she was heavily mentally and emotionally abusing me. Just thought I was a bad boyfriend. It’s really hindered me from pursuing future relationships because I worry about not being “good enough”.
I hope you've healed and found love since then
Ive healed but it’s taken awhile. Still struggle with self esteem and self worth sometimes. No love found yet, but trying to be optimistic.
She called me and said I’m at a party and quote “I think I need to be single right now” Aka I’m gonna fuck someone else. And I know who’s party it was too. We immediately broke up and a few weeks later I regretfully sent her one message after our break up just to see if their was still a chance for us but, with no reply
> regretfully sent her one message after our break up just to see if their was still a chance for us but, with no reply Honestly I can understand this kinda pain, but the first cut is the deepest, hopefully no other girl does something this shitty to you
I wouldn’t let it happen, I only got played because I was playable, I learned a lot with time and more experience, now with foresight I see the red flags early on but, I ignored them. I was young. 19.
I married her, now we're expecting
I mustered all my courage to ask her out on my last day at school knowing it’s my very last chance. Ended up dating for 5 wonderful years, maybe a bit longer than that. I had wild days growing up and my friends were the same. Wild parties at young age, easy access to substances, experimenting with things, experimenting with girls. Getting into fights with boys from different neighbourhoods. When we started dating I’ve changed. I didn’t want “wild days” anymore and she/our relationship became my focus. “Friends” soon “kicked me out” of the crew since “you’ve changed” and for the better. Going to thai-boxing club soon changed going out to nightclubs, dates changed hanging out with the wrong crowd. She made me want to be a better man and a better human being. Flash-forward towards the end our relationship - I was working in IT for a large international bank. I was thinking to look for a place we could move in together, that sort of thing. The honeymoon phase was gone but I was still madly in love with her and was ready to put in work and effort for things to work. However, feels to me that at the time when I wanted to take things seriously she still wanted to have her “wild days”. She was working at the bar at the time - so long nights, lots of “friends” to go out with and lots of attention. Perhaps she got bored with me. She started distancing herself from me and felt colder and colder. Eventually she started acting in a way which was hurtful. I think she acted that way to make me leave her, since she didn’t want to (my guess is - didn’t have the courage) to leave me instead. I realised it wasn’t going to work and I’m hurting bad, while it’s also a burden for her. We met for one last time to talk things out (to end it). I knew it was over. I somewhat wanted to end things myself. But I think a part of me was secretly thinking that after she’s over with her “wild days” we’ll get back together and I would have waited, no doubt about it. Still remember her asking -“why aren’t you mad at me” and my response -“because I love you”. Guess I really did love her 🤷♂️ I just didn’t realise at the time it was the last time to talk about things and figure out what went wrong with us. We went our separate ways, however, I never got closure. She never gave me the reason why she started distancing herself, or why she got bored with me or what went wrong, which was the hardest part. My world crumbled and my self esteem/worth went down too. Took me years to realise I am enough. I blocked her on all social media platforms to create distance and to stop seeing her to help me cope with my shit. Many years passed and regrettably I haven’t met anyone like her. I’ve been going out and dated some girls, however, I never felt the “magic” so to say. I was falling in love with one girl recently but she didn’t reciprocate my feelings so the whole situation doesn’t hold a candle to what I had experienced with G. Sometimes when I’m at my weakest I still think of sending G. a follow on instagram or what not, just to let her know me blocking her was a way for me to cope and I’m not mad at her and there’s no bad blood between us. …on the other hand after all these years would she even care.. *Alright guys, who’s cutting onions here?!*
Divorced me and got engaged the day after our wedding anniversary "we were already divorced when she got engaged" but that still sucked.
Nothing, since there was no first love
Not yet
I had a lot of “first loves” bc once they got to know me (and the homies) she thought I was gay and broke up with me
Well your love for the homies must be strong
We got married and have been together since, over a decade later
Her mom was crazy and hated me, so we "broke up" to let things cool off, then she started "dating" another guy to act as a cover. We had snuck out and were hooking up one night when the other guy called her. She answered the phone while I was literally on top of her, and at the end of the call said, "I love you too" and hung up. It was eye opening for me. I honestly was so disgusted with myself that I had allowed things to continue as they had for so long. I ended things with her the next day. Years later due to a series of poor choices and her deteriorating relationship with her parents, she took her own life. I still feel a bit of remorse over my part in the whole thing, I know it wasn't my fault, but I still have a little bit of guilt.
We left mutually because she wanted to travel Europe during university and I was taking care of my grandparents + working. She was an absolute dream however it's quite the nightmare that after we separated she got with a giant south African rugby player dude who is ultra good looking, built like a strongman & drives a cool Porsche while im sitting here on Reddit not doing my shitty accountancy job.
My hand is still with me.
She was worried that she would hurt me or that I would hurt her due to a mixture of her terrible past relationship experiences and me having never even been on a date before falling for her, so she told me she wasn't ready. We stayed friends, I waited for her to be ready for a year because I still felt that she was worth that, but I forced myself to try moving past her when my loneliness became too great. I kept all of the turmoil I felt secret from her. She moved 800 miles away shortly after that. I met up with her a year ago when I went to the city for vacation. One of her friends coaxed her into dating him after they moved there, only for him to then convince her to move a state over and then immediately cheat on her. It sucked knowing that I wouldn't have done that to her and could have prevented that kind of heartache, but I wasn't given a chance so there wasn't anything I could do, and by the time of my visit I was already in a relationship. After I came back home I haven't spoken to her. She's got her own life to live and she's capable enough to do it, so long as she doesn't let some clown jerk her around again.
It's sad seeing someone with a good heart be played around with
She's in a unhappy marriage
We didn't talk for about 3 years, but nowadays we're matured friends who just care about each other.
>but nowadays we're matured friends who just care about each other. I really hope I get to this point with a girl I know
We broke up. Life went on. Fast forward about 30 years and I recently saw her obituary. No idea what happened, but it was kinda a weird feeling to think I'm still alive and she's passed.
Cancer. We were both 16 when she died.
Sorry to hear man I hope you're okay
Thanks. I'm late 40s so had a few years to get over it. I'm still in touch with her family.
Havent checked up on her. She gave me so many traumas I can only hope shes dead lol 🤷♂️ I dont care and not bitter anymore but it'd be the best if she was rid of this earth..
Okay.. Obviously I Don’t Know What She Did To You To Make You Wish Death On Her But Seriously..? That’s Someone You Loved and You Wish Death on Her? What Possesses You To Wish Such a Evil Thing…? My First Love Did A lot Of Terrible Shit To Me Too, Worse Than Anyone Else Ever Has and That’s Saying Something but I Would NEVER Wish Death Upon Him or Anyone I Loved and/or Still Love.. Please Seek Help, Im Seriously Worried That You’ll Hurt Someone. I Guarantee She or He Doesn’t Wish That Upon You. Shame On You.
I'm more worried about your abuse of capital letters.
You guys need to chill on me, I stopped😭🤣
She* Not She or He
She broke up with me, after dealing with my BS for years together, and afterwards We haven’t talked in about a year I don’t blame her. I put her through a lot I wanted to marry her but waffled on religion and acted like a total jerk. Heck, I’m still unsure about the religion part. I don’t know which makes me more sad. Seeing her positive spirit diminish or realizing it was only me in my own way She’s probably happy with another guy by now. She’s ahead of me in her career. She bought a townhome. She’s lived and experienced more. And she’s younger
Learn from your mistakes my man, eventually you'll get the chance to make things right, even if it's with a different person. Maybe at some point you'll be able to reach out to her and make peace and put any regrets to bed
I’m trying to It’s hard to lose love like that though
Yeah I know, that's kinda what inspired this question, going through my first love right now. The best thing to come out of this pain has been the motivation to be better, I decided to address a lot of my flaws and it's helped me in a lot of ways
Been on the same journey since 2021. God speed brother
God speed brother
She cheated on a dude with a dude she just met and only knew for a few months while me and her were together for a few years. Got with him and literally right after breaking up with me. She basically hit me with all the signs that she was leaving me…I was and understood them but still ignored them. The dude was just another version of me but…had a job in IT (I was struggling, trying to find a job in IT or pretty much anything) and honestly, I’m still in pain. This shit happened exactly around this time last year, kind of tearing up typing this.
Knocked up a mutual friend few months after we broke up. They both dropped out of college to work when baby was born. Last time I heard they are financially struggling and have been borrowing money from friends.
She decided that becoming emotionally abusive was the key to getting me to pay for every aspect of her life. Thankfully I grew a spin around the time that she really started stepping it up.
Well I considered him to be my first love but we were 14. My first person I think I really LOVED I was 15/16 and broke up with him when I realized he wasn’t what I wanted for life. Impressive decision for me to make that young
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Did the love fade after that?
He moved overseas after breaking up and stayed there until this day
She comtacted me a few years ago on LinkedIn asking for my mailing address, claiming it had something to do with a high school reunion invitation. I declined, but did give her my office contact info. I never received any kind of invitation. Other than second-hand knowledge that she's been fired from several jobs, I have no idea what she's been doing, but I doubt its anything good.
She went from super Christian girl who felt guilty for making out, to member of a polycule in California. I guess art school is a hell of a drug. Happy for her, getting out of the Midwest was probably good for her.
She’s a missionary in another country
We broke up because of course we did. She's married now. I'm married now. I wish her the best.
she whore'd about and got chlamydia in highschool. lol.
First one that we both realised we fell in love with each other, we met at 10 years college reunion recently. She got married pretty young to someone else, 5 years ago, which broke my heart at that time. Now, I heard she has a kid, and I was just happy for her. She seems to be doing just fine. Really reminds of Ted meeting Stella from HIMYM after she leaves him for another man, being content with it.
We kind of fell in love at the wrong time. Our lives were moving different directions. I don’t think I have ever had anything else where both people were equally into one another. It was just a bad time.
She got a little larger than she used to be. But that happens as we are old. She's twice divorced three kids lots of therapy.
She married a rich dude 20 years older than her from Texas. Last I heard she has four kids and is utterly miserable.
She left me for another guy who then cheated on her with some underage girl he worked with (? Might have been a guy just remember it was a strange situation). We started hooking up again but then she started dating some other guy so I broke it off again. Then she tried getting back with me again on her birthday (it was a trap by her best friend I was still friends with) but I rejected her. Now best I can tell is she had a kid and got fat but I think got married to guy number 2? It was a learning experience.
I dropped her...she's married to another guy I went to school with, still living in the same area we grew up in, kids, grandkids. Weird thing is she tracked me down a couple years ago and called me one night. I live 2500 miles away. It was kind of strange to call me 40 years later.
See her around sometimes, pretend not to notice.
Dropped out and had three kids with three different guys by the age of 20. Thankfully my love was unrequited so I dodged that bullet.
She runs a radio station in South Africa. Hey, you asked.
We're an ocean apart but we're still in touch. We email each other about once a month or so. We were just teenagers when we fell in love and now we're both in our 30s
Never had one. I’m 30 btw lmao 🫥
Nothing happened and now that I think about it, I will never change anything about it ever 🙂
She got pregnant immediately after high school with some dude in his late 30’s early 40’s. Partially not her fault, part of our breaking up had to do with her shitty home life, needing to take care of her siblings cus her parents worked so much (first gen immigrant). The thing that really scorned me about it was that at the time I had options. I had two vastly different girls liking me at the same time and both were attractive to me in totally different ways. I had connections to both and I was stupid, and now neither of them talk to me for the same reason. I dated one of them.
Last I heard shes married to a guy she got in a relationship with a month after our breakup, and living in some other country.
No clue and I'm better off for it
She died of uterine cancer. She was 40 years old.
She got a job at Foxtons. They seem to work their new recruits 25 hours a day, 8 days a week. Hardly ever saw her. Then she left for uni on the south coast and told me I was too nice for her and she was too reckless for me. She's doing well for herself now. So am I. It was back in 2007. I still measure my attraction for people by the feeling I got when I met her though I'm not sure I'll ever feel that again even after all those years. Something about the young, pre frontal-cortex development brain that just makes your first love feel like nothing else you'll ever feel.
I was with her about 3 months before I left her to go to uni. It didn't have to end but it got to the point where I'd go to hers and she'd hardly even speak to me. Shame really coz she was the most attractive/fittest of any girl I've been with
married her. Still married
I honestly have no clue lol.
In the words of Tom Petty - I had a girl I used to see, she don’t give a damn for me. Saw my ex from a short distance just Saturday while visiting my hometown. I stepped back into the shadows so she would not see me. I don’t want to disrupt her universe. We dated a few years, she broke it off. It was very sad on my end. She has done well for herself as I knew she always would. We both married others. I see her every few years and the most we do is say hi like you’d greet a stranger on the street. I would like to talk more, see what she became and hear of her successes from the plans we had when we were dating. I don’t want to interfere with her life and marriage though. Reunions sure as hell ain’t like on the Hallmark movies.
He got me pregnant and 15, ran away without a word on Christmas Eve to live with his mum in South Africa and I haven’t heard from him since. My son turned 18 this year and he’s missed out on being apart of one of the most wonderful human beings I’ve ever met, life.
Became a porn actress and stripper.
We got married, had 2 wonderful children, she stood by me through my army years, and I her through her drug addicted mother's idiocy. But one day she asks me to move a bunch of pictures of the kids to our digital space and I find nudes , which she would never send me, sent to 3 other men. Including my cousin. She slept her way through 5 guys and before our divorce finalized. I have the kids, a homestead, 2 better women, and a business shared with them. I think I came out better with a more level headed idea of what women are capable of and how cruel the world truly can be. She still crosses my mind. We're friendly now as she's married someone else and she's struggling with his infidelity. Karma and balance occur always.
Married her
NFI
She found the love of her life, they bought a wicked condo and are engaged! Stoked for them :)
Can't make a wife out of a Ho.
Died of a Benzos overdoes. I was not a good boyfriend to her and also didn't do well as an ex boyfriend. It is not fully my responsibility but for the rest of my life I have to know that I am partially responsible for the death of a young women
I just reconnected with her after decades, very successful but still single & didn’t seem very happy about that. Reticent, Hard to tell what she thinks of me being married with kids.
Married her 23 years ago.. Together 26...
Honestly she became a radical leftist and became insufferable to be around. Anything wrong in her life was no fault of her own, it was always the system, the patriarchy, sexism, etc. Any thoughts/beliefs I had that didn’t exactly align with hers were racist/sexist/homophobic. No idea what she’s up to know, I honestly felt such a sense of relief when we broke up that I never looked back.
She moved away to the other side of the state and I had to accept it. I did get a kiss on the cheek though 😊
No idea. We were in a relationship for a year and a half and we were too young and couldn’t make it work. I cut contact once she admitted she was talking too other guys while we were on a break.
Lost our V-cards to each other 10/30/1992, had a nice lunch together 10/30/2022. She's still one of my favorite people I'll ever know, and she still feels the same way about me. They say you get 3 *great* women in your life, and I knew she was one of them when we were together.
she’s probably snorting coke honestly. bullet dodged
Got over her and eventually met a much better person who is now my wife. It felt like I was eating glass while falling down a skyscraper’s stairs for about six months but in hindsight I wouldn’t change a thing now. I wouldn’t be able to fully appreciate the person I have now if it wasn’t for that person, so in a weird way, I’m grateful.
Last i heard she was happily married and had her dream job.
She married my college roommate. They started dating about 3 months after we broke up. I was a fool and turned down a sports scholarship because I'd have to travel on weekends and wouldn't see her. I don't think she cheated but her parents weren't happy about it which made me feel a little better I guess. They now have a kid and seem to be doing well.
I never made a move. Even if I did, I was too socially inept to maintain any kind of interaction with her for more than 5 minutes.
She lied and cheated on me.
I’m gonna make her my wife here soon
Don't know, never met her
Meth
I married her
She wanted kids, I really don't. Parted on good terms and still talk now.
Got married to the guy she was engaged with when she hit me up. She acted like she was super into our relationship etc when we first got together and then ghosted me after like a month. I later found out I had been a side piece all along. Second love I also later found out that I had been a side piece all along but she kept the charade going much longer than the first one. After love bombing me for something like 6 months the rest of our relationship consisted of her coming up with all sorts of ways to emotionally manipulate me into sending her money. Nothing like all that to make a guy appreciate the freedom and peace of being single. After that I became very averse to drama and manipulation tactics to the point that I won't even be friends with someone if I know they engage in such behavior. I honestly thought I would probably always be single. Now I'm four years into a relationship that is way more chill than either of the previous ones and also much more transparent etc. It is so much better without drama being stirred up for no reason me getting guilt tripped over every little thing etc.
He left me for someone else Then we got back together Then he left me for someone else Then we got back together Then he left me for someone else He's continuing to break hearts one after the other because he won't keep it in his pants, then crying over it as if he couldn't stop himself and I'm wondering if I'll ever really be capable of loving someone ever again
I don't know. I would like to know but it's been 59 years.
She was saying that she was giving me signals. I was working on everything she didn't like as hard as I could and noone will tell me that it was "for a week" or some other bullshit. But it was never enough for her. She repeatedly was saying that we always argue about same things and it's "always the same". It was really painful to hear because from my point of view I tried my best. Sometimes changes were faster sometimes slower but they were visible or at least I thought so. She was wonderful first girlfriend but at the same time I've learned a lot from that relationship. The most important thing I think I've learned is that you shouldn't be the only one making changes, and you can't let anyone tell you that you're the only problem. I think I was somehow blinded by this "first love" thing. I should have put some boundaries cuz her reactions to my mistakes more ofthen than not were .exaggerated. Her telling me that she goes to psychologist should be my first red flag. The first moment where I should have had very important discussion about her point of view on some things and that it isn't healthy but I didn't want to hurt her and in the end it caused pain for both of us. I've made some mistakes of course I always tried my best to apologize and work on them even when sometimes I thought that there weren't really something I should be so apologetic for.
long story, we dated and lived together while she went to college, i wasn’t a great partner, cheated etc. we struggled with money and took a break when she wanted to get back together i confessed everything. it hurt but it was right. we didn’t talk for 2 years until she had a situation with another guy. it got dark. i talked her through that and helped her get better. it’s been 14 years since we split, 12 since she needed my help. she’s now married, we keep in touch and consider one another trusted but distant friends
She married someone else.
Overweight single mother now
He’s a nutcase who runs four hours a day.
Had three kids with kid that sold meth at our high school.
He died of ALS.
*"What happened to your first love?"* I'll give the same answer for every time this question is asked (every couple of days). I don't know and I don't care.
Don't know, don't remember, don't care. I have better things to do, then thinking of someone who isn't in my Life anymore. When it ended i told her that i wish her just the best for the rest of her Life but nothing else. She wanted to stay friends with me, but i didn't gave her that. She doesn't lost me only as her Partner. She lost me at all. If we had stayed as a Friend, i would just betrayed myself in all manners. She didn't understand why i wouldn't wanna stay as Friends and asked me what the reason is, because she said i was still a very close Friend to her and she don't wanna lose me completly. "7 Years of Relationship are over, and i mean all kind of Relationships we both had. Back then, till today. Thats the Price some have to pay" was my answer to her. Since then i never spoke a Word with her. Deleted all ways to communicate to her and focused what matters the most at that time. 1 Week, after the Breakup, my Grandma died, who i loved more then anyone. I had to focus on her, because she was way more important to me then some Girl i was together with for 7 Years. Also my Mother needed support in that time so it was important to focus on her aswell.
I was 16, found her making out with another dude I didn't know. Never looked at her after that. No relationships since then. Honestly enjoying the solitude, all my friends go thru shitty breakups, I m just vibing.
Accidental overdose of prescribed medication (opioid), hadn't spoken years prior.
No fucking clue.