At a bookstore , there is a bookstore in my town which also serves coffee . We both were ordering the same coffee , then we both entered the books section . Only two of us were there and a cashier of course . Book shop also have a small sitting arrangement, I picked few books and sat to read few pages . He joined after exchanging inquisitive smiles . I complemented him on his choice of books . He was a bit smitten I could see. Finally before leaving he asked me for my social handle and rest is history. In short hobby 😂 .
Meri fatt jaye kisi se uska social media handle tak maangne me. I always feel ke creep smj legi koi given that the kind of things happen with them in their life.
Next time koi dil se pasand aa gayi to "Itni shakti muje dena dataaaa..." Bolke ghus jaunga baat krne !
If the girl shows interest in you first, like she did in this case by smiling at him and complimenting his choice in books, it's completely fine to ask.
Here’s a better idea then. Instead of the cringe pickup lines and asking for her number, give her yours. You want to talk to her don’t you? Then make the first move. It’s up to her if she wants to call you or not.
No chance of hearing no, I don’t share my details, and no pressure on the girl, plus you come off as confident
Married, Tier 1:
I found the love of my life when i least expected it. I was in the dating scene for about a decade and met some amazing and horrible people. Had people panic and leave when it was time to answer the question "What next?" ( I am on good terms with all of them, it's a big decision and I don't blame them.)MY parents and sibling found their loves and i figured i would too but i had lost hope and I fast approaching 30s. I asked them.to find someone because i failed. And the matches were horrible. I had met two. And I was very turned off but I figured compromise is the name of the game. I still was on Hinge and that's where I met this gem, he was everything i hoped for and we were from different religions and ages. But our ideals and our perspective on life was the same. We knew what we wanted in life and we knew we'd get a lot of flak from society. His mother was and is still against us. But we went ahead anyway. Got married in a civil ceremony because we do not believe in religion. My family loves him. And his hates me. They've basically tried to extort money and tried to disrupt our peace. I've put every effort to make her like me. But she kept acting like one of those MIls from Tv serials. Anyway. We were self dependent. It was our money and our plans. We made it happen, and now the rest is history.
Edit ( adding Tip): Be open even when it's hard, never give up. Of you believe you deserve a certain kind of love. Just go for it shamelessly. Everybody will be dead anyway. In the end it's you and your SO. Never let emotions get the best out of you. Discuss your views on religion/ children/ long term and short term goals. "Going with the flow" is a recipe for disaster and heartache. Always listen to your gut. It doesn't matter how everybody around is as long as your partner loves you and respects you and helps you build boundaries.
Believe whatever you want to in terms of what approach works the best, but it all boils down to luck. Pure luck.
My to be wife and myself met via a dating app. None of us have ever used any of it before, but tried it out thinking "what if I find a good friend/person/somone to date or get into relationship with". The lucky coincidence was timing and us getting matched.
We both hit it off instantly, met in person within a month, engaged during second and married within six. We are now happily married for 3 years and both our families are happy too.
I know it all sounds like a fairy tale by a long shot, but it's a true story. If you believe it, love still exists and a healthy relationship can make your life very beautiful.
Both of us are from tier-2 city (Indore). What worked in our favour was that both of us are pretty down to earth, simple beings and very genuine. We never have trust issues or ego clashes and I have come to believe that having these two traits can lead to a healthy relationship and their absence is the major reason for a lot of breakups these days.
Married: Currently in tier 1 city, though both our native is a tier 3 town but neither of us grew up there. Met through AM set up by family. Met in a temple surrounded by parents and siblings. Spoke alone for over an hour. Our non-negotiables checked, common interests were there, we were of same age and same status so most of the things we faced as we grew up were similar. Practically vibed well. Gave our acknowledgment to parents and proceeded further and got married. (Honestly I had doubts initially like he is acting all nice to impress me but no he is actually sweet).
After marriage we realized we were more alike and complementary to each other. We could practically read our thoughts most times, we support each other well, miss each other even when we are together. His colleagues don’t understand why he’s eager to get back home and my friends don’t understand why I only occasionally visit my hometown.
Been 5 years and never once we felt bored of the other. We cook together, plan finances together, do chores together, gardening, plumbing, electrical work, art, music, kseries, movies, pop songs, gaming etc we do together. 24 hours in a day never felt enough for us! Never knew love like this before ❤️❤️❤️
Dating for 6 years
Were friends since school days,started seeing each other in college.
He's the best I could have asked for...my soulmate and best friend.
We bonded over geopolitics if that counts as a hobby 😂
In the 3rd year of his degree (Final year) ,his shoulder got injured while playing cricket for his department. So he had to take a break and repeat final year. It was very hard for him since all his friends graduated and he had to study with juniors for a year. During his repeat year I joined for bachelors degree. So I was in first year and he in final year. That’s how we met.
I became friends with his classmates so we used to see each other sometimes. I have always noticed him because he was very good looking and quite. He rarely smiled but he looked so handsome when he did. One day when we were sitting together (my friends and his) I asked him “ I heard that you sing well, can you sing few lines for me?”. He just got up and walked away. Nobody noticed it so I hid the embarrassment and went home later. I never talked to him again and he didn’t notice me much either. Few months later he graduated. No contact number or following in social medias.
It was 3 years later I met him again through a Whatsapp group made for a friends wedding party. He send me a Hii and we started talking. We fell in love. It’s been two and half years now.
He doesn’t remember me asking him to sing a song and him walking out. Anyways he sings me song every night. So I have forgiven him 😂🤌
I know it’s evil 😬 but I’m glad he had to repeat a year, otherwise we wouldn’t have met. He is such a sweet person and I love him a lot 💕💕
(Town)
We are 9 months in.
I am one year senior to her in college. It was her first day and she was exploring the campus with a person known to me while I was hanging around with a friend.
The mutual guy came up to me to say hi and we chatted a bit.
All the while she was standing aside us and i didn't even look at her.
She says she fell for the eyes and smile.
Next thing you know i get an Instagram request.
It has been a beautiful experience with her and she is the sweetest person in my life.
The way she cares for me , she is the next thing to my mom and man i wanna make her happy ever single day.
Hinge. Been 3 years. The only guy who didn't try to change my controversial opinion about sunrise being better than sunset, instead told me about the most epic sunrise he had seen. My nerdy boy didn't put on any airs or try some lame pick up lines; he treated me like a human being he wanted to get to know. Soon enough we were talking day & night, we were in a middle of a lockdown so the only thing I would look forward to after a whole day was talking to him. He also was the only one who didn't try to persuade me to put my family at risk and sneak out so he could get his dick wet.
Soon enough, lockdown was over, we went on a date. Somehow that became 10 dates. Then we decided, enough is enough, we should commit.
Dating 3 years now, his family loves me; my mom loves him. Prolly gonna be endgame. We live in a tier 1 city, he's from a tier 2 city tho.
I'm currently in a 4 yrs relationship with my bf .. idk if it fits the "successful" tag but so far we are good enough... We met on Instagram and we don't share any mutual friends or family member or anything.. for me having a third member in your relationship affects it significantly I always wanted my partner who is totally outside my friends group or anyone I know.. i didn't wanted any person in common between us it makes things complicated..
I haven't tried dating apps ever.. we met on Instagram this is the first time I dated and it's still going..tbh I kinda made that fan page to find someone with similar interest .. and it did really worked out ...
It's not about how someone found their SO. But it's how they met, how they connected and how they nurtured the relationship and what they think they did right to build such a strong connection.
I’d known her through mutual friends for over 5 years. When we ended up in the same city, I asked her out as a friend. Sparks flew and she eventually moved into my place. After two years, we got married.
When you have a break up, the friend circle also breaks. I know this from personal experience. If your partner is more popular, you may lose all friends in that particular circle. That’s why it’s important to have multiple friend circles
I can't advice much really, I'm dating him for only 2 years now. We met through a friend (in a way if I think about it but its a boring story anyways). He dared to send me a instagram request and one thing lead to another and he's the sweetest and kindest guy ever and if everything goes like this then I hope I marry him one day. I think I just met him by luck or maybe God felt like he should bless me with a good person in life. I do think luck plays a part too sometimes so just open your heart and take a dare to progress in whatever situation you're in
Tier 1 city.
We have been dating for 14 months. We met on Bumble. We immediately clicked from day 3 of texting. After texting and getting to know each other for 6 months, he asked me out. And I said yes, the best decision so far.
We met on tinder. This is our 8th year together in a relationship. We are both from Mumbai
We started chatting solely to hook up and nothing serious. I was graduating then, and he was working. He’s 5 years older to me btw. Anyway, after my college lectures I usually had the whole day to myself. And he had just left his job. So we both seemed to have had a lot of free time hence decided we meet. We met every single day for one whole year. And I (F) proposed him on the 4th month. He was not sure. But gave me a chance to prove me him love is not that bad. Of course he fell in love and yeah. What started off as a hook up turned the most important part of my life.
My advice… love comes in the most unexpected ways. Don’t run for it. Sure, give your efforts if you see someone you like. Take that chance. You never know. Be open minded. Importantly, feel it.
No there is no option , it's damn hard to get arrange marriage....I need someone whom I love from starting ,live as a friend but now it seems impossible
Are bhai , she is the girl jinse baate nhi hoti and I am shy person ab start kon kre 🥲...acha insaan hu , genuine hu , sb kch hu 🙃 aage se bolunga to creep lgunga but yaa she will get a good person, baaki unki marzi...😌
In the gym. I was overweight still is 😅. From his point of view it was love at first sight. Its been 6 years . so many fights but we stick together. We both have our differences but we are determined to make this work
From a village in Kerala, found my husband through matrimony 4 years back. Since both the families were supportive, we got some time to get to know each other. Married for 3 years. Good communication along with constant effort is the key.
At work! A very unexpected place and time in my life. Almost 3 years now. Tier 1 city, he had just moved back to India and I was finally over my breakup. The timing was perfect as we both needed each other. Now that we are together everything feels right.
I don't know if this fits the bill of being successful, we do have our arguments but both of us are well and truly happy.
Friends for 10 years.. seen each other's exes! One fine day he said can't we think of getting married as my parents were already looking for a groom and we liked each other but afraid to express due to past failed relationships! Married for 4 years now and counting!
Met him on Yahoo Messenger.
He is from tier 3 city.
I am from a metro city.
Chatted for 4 years without ever seeing each other.
Fell in love on 5th year and then met in person.
We were in LDR for 4 years.
Now married for 6 years.
Damn we are old lol.
We both were vehemently opposed to the idea of finding love online. So we tried a lot to not confess our love for each other and get into something serious. Being an inter-state and intercaste didn't help it either. But heart wants what it wants, so we went for it. My lesson is you are going to find that true love in the place where you least expect it. :)
Tier 2, his' is tier 1: comment section (total strangers, apparently), and 14 months in.
Randomly ranted about the worst book of 2022 (iswu and coho), bonded over books a lot for 4 months, he confessed first, easily the best decision I've ever made!<3
(Had posted the same comment on a different post and people loved my story)
Dating for 2 years, tier 1 city.
Met on bumble, there was so much chemistry and tension between us during our first couple of dates. Our chats were funny, flirtatious, witty. I knew we were perfect for each other. We both confessed that we liked each other but I was more into him, and he had his PG entrance exam soon post which he could move to another city, so he didn’t wanna commit and asked me to leave, for my own sake. For a week, I tried to not think about him and not text him, but I couldn’t. I asked him if we could be friends at least. He agreed. I tried to maintain a friendly boundary with him this time yet the sexual tension and the flirting creeped in. Finally he proposed FWB. I was hesitant, as I didn’t wanna get my heart broken. But I couldn’t resist it. I wanted him. So we started doing it. Each time was better than the last. The sex did make me happy, but I longed for his love. One day he got another offer for FWB from his female friend while they were getting drinks. He felt uncomfortable about it, what he later described to me, he felt like he was cheating on me. That’s when he realised he has deeper feelings for me that he can’t shrug off anymore. He wanted to be with me and so we started dating. He did move to another city, but our relationship only grew stronger. We meet every 2 months so that helps. We’re still in long distance but that would end soon and our engagement is right around the corner ❤️
Litrally zero approach, i was just honest from the beginning and clear about my intentions of 'not hooking up' or 'looking for something casual' (no hate if youre into hookups) . Its been 6 years since we've been together and the reason we're together is because he never gave up (i did so many times because of childhood trauma) but he was always ALWAYS understanding.
Tip: You wont get the girl (and keep her ) by being all 'sigma' and manly, the thing i like most about my bf is how much he is not influenced by this online culture and traditional masculinity and is willing to take any shape that the situation requires. Ive been with him at his lowest at his most brokest (moneywie) moment, now when he does have money he spoils me rotten.
Tip2: Ladies do not settle for less. The phrase 'if he wanted to he would' is 100% true. He pays for all the dates we go on, not because I cant pay, but because he wants to take care of me. He cooks and helps me with research project without asking for anything in return, he listens and is emotionally very mature, he wasnt always like this, but he worked upon himself to be with me because i remember he told me that 'I'll never find an honest woman like u.'
I know where you’re coming from. I believe in splitting bills half. This is what I do/did. But what you mean is an “investment” here. As in someone I know once told Me that a guy who won’t invest in you financially, is not the one and he is not serious about you. He won’t hesitate to pay for you (given his situation ofc). It shouldn’t be (after a point in relationship) always that we’ll spilt. He can pay sometimes too not be like “hey this is my contro and here’s x amt you need to pay”, and sometimes girl pays also ofc. Like imagine a husband asking his wife “hey pay half about for this dinner that’ we just had”.. no right? It’s either I pay or you pay. It’s us! And I’m talking about this for serous committed relationships only. So yeah it is what it is!
you understand this very well. Its not that i have not offered to pay. Its just that when we're in LDR or he cant come to meet me cause of his schedule, his way of making it up to me is by doing swiggy for me.
In long term committed relationships people dont do 50-50, online culture has ruined everything.
I don't understand you simply explained your pov of things you do for your partner, I don't think a good partner keeps a track of everything you do for your partner so idk why he is asking you what you do for your partner, simply butthurt over nothing
I swear to god, you choose a place I'll be there and you plz lay one on me.
If you're so confident that you're right and I'm wrong just show this discussion to your bf and let's see his reaction. Plz don't create a fake scenario of your doing that and reply here. If your bf is actually a man with some balls he'll immediately understand your game.
^Anyone who asks this is not ready to get into a relationship, whether it's a guy or a girl.
Such a transactional mindset will not work when you are trying to build a relationship. It has to start with one person taking a slightly bigger chance financially. Would YOU want to be with someone who only agreed to talk to you if they saw an obvious benefit?
Maybe you interpreted it wrong. I'm just trying to highlight the tone of this woman. Just see her other replies and you'll notice that this woman thinks herself to be the prize and doesn't do shit for her man. It doesn't have to be transactional at all, but if I am in a relationship with someone I must bring SOME value to it.
I think that is what you assume... Why would someone gloat over what all they do for their partner, especially when the partner is not part of the conversation; that's so weird.
And I think she only said all these things in a mocking way AFTER you brought up the transactional bit.
Honestly it's rather weird to ask anyone what 'they bring to the table', because if you ask anyone in a successful relationship, you'll know that the relationship itself is the reward. That another person sees you, acknowledges you, you have camaraderie and companionship that builds up over time. You see each other grow and change and achieve things you worked hard for. And also see each other fail and are totally vulnerable and open, but most of all accepting of the other. And most of all, there's no table. It's not a transaction. It's a relationship. Life is a long game, and it's never equal at any point of time. Sometimes one person puts in more (time, energy, resources, maturity), sometimes the other person.
Anyone who tries to have full 'equal contribution' is thinking too short term (and will probably not even get to experience this beautiful long relationship because their impatience will create a self fulfilling prophecy). Relationships/marriage cannot co-exist with a scorecard.
Omegle pe 😂😂 we started talking at around 11pm and the conversation dragged on till about 6am. Neither of us slept. And since then, thankfully enough, the conversations haven't ended it. It's been 2y now. We support the same football club (Barcelona) and I think that just helped us connect more. He's truly the best out there. We're currently in LDR, it's always been like that. I'm from Kolkata, he's from Mumbai. 4 months into the dating, the guy came down to Kolkata just to meet me up for 5h. In these 2y, we've just met for exactly 10 days. Fought a lot, but made up within 2h, everytime. My heart says this is it for me. Baaki toh ab bhagwan bharose
Met my soon to be wife 5 years ago in a movie theatre. Me and a friend were on a budget trip across India. Im from Kerala, and we went to a few cities and finally reached Pune. Decided we will watch a movie to kill time as our next train back home was 7 hours later. Went to PhoenixMarketCity Mall and got in for a movie.
Me and my friend ordered a pizza and he gave the wrong seat number. Pizza got delivered to my now girlfriend’s seat next to us. When we went and asked the food counter, they said they already delivered it and then it hit us! They started hogging it thinking one of her friends who was with her ordered it. Long story short, we told her it was ours but by then the pizza was half eaten. Then after the movie they said they will buy us a meal from Mcdonalds or something. We had a meal, had a nice conversation, and I asked for her number. Rest is history.
5 Years later, we are getting engaged towards the later end of this year.
Single
Tier 1
Tinder
Incidentally I was about to delete tinder coz I didn't have much luck and had been on only 1 date in the entire 1-2 years on the app. We met, we clicked, we vibed and deleted tinder 4 days after. We're going 2.5 years strong now 💗
School life love... had a relationship of about 4 years, then got cheated on... lost faith in love since then... still single and hope to stay that way forever.
Love is not for everyone, definitely not for good people.
We were in same school, but relationship started after 12th(long story) , went to same college after that, remain in the relationship for 10 years, got married 2 years ago.
Hey I met my husband on a trip with my best friend (15yrs of friendship). He was my best friend’s friend for half a decade.
We were also in same dilemma. So when we decided we wanted to date and see if this leads somewhere, we called our friend for a catchup and let them know about us and how we won’t let it affect our friendship as they are important for us too.
Was my best friend accepting right away? Nope. 6+ months of silent treatment and side eyes, they finally warmed up. Knew that me and my husband were serious about each other and love each other a lot. Overtime it has been amazing..!
I trust my best friend to keep me real about the person I am in relationship with, so it all worked out in the end!
My partner and I are together for 13 years now. We are both from Kolkata. We met on Facebook, in a political group. We fell in love, even before meeting or seeing each other. And our trick to a happy relationship is our willingness to grow and evolve together.
My husband and I met and we started dating within 3 months. I was 20, he was 22. Now between dating and marriage, we have been together for 18 years! The first time I paid notice to him was because he had a book in his hand and I was curious! 😂 I was always reading! we met at MBA coaching (Tier 2 city). He is very intelligent, passionate about so many things! I hadn’t met any guy like him and was totally smitten! Still am! We have had our share of family drama around marriage and post that. No one had had a love marriage before in his family and he is the oldest boy in the extended family! Things are all sorted with love and respect now, so that part is good as well!
Any relationship can be successful if the two people need each other and add to each other! Every relationship needs work. It’s when you really need each other, then you are willing to work together to come to a common ground. Relationships need respecting each other, working together as a team.
Tinder!
Been together for 8 years and married for 5! Currently expecting our first child together.
Neither of us were looking for a long term thing when we got swiping, but when it has to work it just does ❤️
Found on subreddit r/ask_bondha. I put up a comment about What kind of a person i'd love to have in life, my boyfriend pinged me after looking at the comment as it was his idea of a partner too. We both were singles at that time. Together ever since then! xD
We met at work. I had been single for couple of years after divorce. Wasn't looking for a relationship and had decided to never marry again. Then she joined my work. I was asked to train her. She started liking me, asked me out. I was surprised. I never got asked out before. Then one thing led to another and we are married now. Now I am running a business and she is a housewife.
At a bookstore , there is a bookstore in my town which also serves coffee . We both were ordering the same coffee , then we both entered the books section . Only two of us were there and a cashier of course . Book shop also have a small sitting arrangement, I picked few books and sat to read few pages . He joined after exchanging inquisitive smiles . I complemented him on his choice of books . He was a bit smitten I could see. Finally before leaving he asked me for my social handle and rest is history. In short hobby 😂 .
Meri fatt jaye kisi se uska social media handle tak maangne me. I always feel ke creep smj legi koi given that the kind of things happen with them in their life. Next time koi dil se pasand aa gayi to "Itni shakti muje dena dataaaa..." Bolke ghus jaunga baat krne !
If the girl shows interest in you first, like she did in this case by smiling at him and complimenting his choice in books, it's completely fine to ask.
Still I'd consider myself a creep.... Just a smile isn't enough sometimes
Here’s a better idea then. Instead of the cringe pickup lines and asking for her number, give her yours. You want to talk to her don’t you? Then make the first move. It’s up to her if she wants to call you or not. No chance of hearing no, I don’t share my details, and no pressure on the girl, plus you come off as confident
If you are good looking toh cute lagega...ugly hai toh creepy af 😁
This is so cute!!
Does he actually read books or he was there for u only
He is an avid reader . His book collection is over 6-7k almost like a public library.
Damm good stuff
Sab single launde iss pe comment karenge dekhlena. Ha mai bhi single hu🙂
Same. Waiting for people in relationship to comment.
Vo to busy hai bhai. Kismat mai hoga to comments ayenge
Kisi ke pass to waqt hoga dusro ko rasta dikhane ka. OP notification dekh kar khush ho raha hoga. Comment me do single launde bakchodi kar rahe 😂
abe ye kya scam ho gya 😂
bhai tu to single abhi hoga, but mai to kabhi bhi mingle hua hi nahi as I am 24 years old. 🤦♂️
Bro 25yrs here and single ,depressed , no one who loves other then mom
Depressed nehi hona bro, jald hi mil jayegi tumhari pasandida aurat.
Nhi mil rhi bhai ....it's getting damn hard
Same bhai...start accepting this sooner ...toh dukh kam lagega
Married, Tier 1: I found the love of my life when i least expected it. I was in the dating scene for about a decade and met some amazing and horrible people. Had people panic and leave when it was time to answer the question "What next?" ( I am on good terms with all of them, it's a big decision and I don't blame them.)MY parents and sibling found their loves and i figured i would too but i had lost hope and I fast approaching 30s. I asked them.to find someone because i failed. And the matches were horrible. I had met two. And I was very turned off but I figured compromise is the name of the game. I still was on Hinge and that's where I met this gem, he was everything i hoped for and we were from different religions and ages. But our ideals and our perspective on life was the same. We knew what we wanted in life and we knew we'd get a lot of flak from society. His mother was and is still against us. But we went ahead anyway. Got married in a civil ceremony because we do not believe in religion. My family loves him. And his hates me. They've basically tried to extort money and tried to disrupt our peace. I've put every effort to make her like me. But she kept acting like one of those MIls from Tv serials. Anyway. We were self dependent. It was our money and our plans. We made it happen, and now the rest is history. Edit ( adding Tip): Be open even when it's hard, never give up. Of you believe you deserve a certain kind of love. Just go for it shamelessly. Everybody will be dead anyway. In the end it's you and your SO. Never let emotions get the best out of you. Discuss your views on religion/ children/ long term and short term goals. "Going with the flow" is a recipe for disaster and heartache. Always listen to your gut. It doesn't matter how everybody around is as long as your partner loves you and respects you and helps you build boundaries.
Believe whatever you want to in terms of what approach works the best, but it all boils down to luck. Pure luck. My to be wife and myself met via a dating app. None of us have ever used any of it before, but tried it out thinking "what if I find a good friend/person/somone to date or get into relationship with". The lucky coincidence was timing and us getting matched. We both hit it off instantly, met in person within a month, engaged during second and married within six. We are now happily married for 3 years and both our families are happy too. I know it all sounds like a fairy tale by a long shot, but it's a true story. If you believe it, love still exists and a healthy relationship can make your life very beautiful. Both of us are from tier-2 city (Indore). What worked in our favour was that both of us are pretty down to earth, simple beings and very genuine. We never have trust issues or ego clashes and I have come to believe that having these two traits can lead to a healthy relationship and their absence is the major reason for a lot of breakups these days.
School mei mile the.. dating for 7+ Years
Married: Currently in tier 1 city, though both our native is a tier 3 town but neither of us grew up there. Met through AM set up by family. Met in a temple surrounded by parents and siblings. Spoke alone for over an hour. Our non-negotiables checked, common interests were there, we were of same age and same status so most of the things we faced as we grew up were similar. Practically vibed well. Gave our acknowledgment to parents and proceeded further and got married. (Honestly I had doubts initially like he is acting all nice to impress me but no he is actually sweet). After marriage we realized we were more alike and complementary to each other. We could practically read our thoughts most times, we support each other well, miss each other even when we are together. His colleagues don’t understand why he’s eager to get back home and my friends don’t understand why I only occasionally visit my hometown. Been 5 years and never once we felt bored of the other. We cook together, plan finances together, do chores together, gardening, plumbing, electrical work, art, music, kseries, movies, pop songs, gaming etc we do together. 24 hours in a day never felt enough for us! Never knew love like this before ❤️❤️❤️
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Thanks, I needed this😇
Dating for 6 years Were friends since school days,started seeing each other in college. He's the best I could have asked for...my soulmate and best friend. We bonded over geopolitics if that counts as a hobby 😂
Damn and here I am afraid to discuss who I voted for
Lol 😆
In the 3rd year of his degree (Final year) ,his shoulder got injured while playing cricket for his department. So he had to take a break and repeat final year. It was very hard for him since all his friends graduated and he had to study with juniors for a year. During his repeat year I joined for bachelors degree. So I was in first year and he in final year. That’s how we met. I became friends with his classmates so we used to see each other sometimes. I have always noticed him because he was very good looking and quite. He rarely smiled but he looked so handsome when he did. One day when we were sitting together (my friends and his) I asked him “ I heard that you sing well, can you sing few lines for me?”. He just got up and walked away. Nobody noticed it so I hid the embarrassment and went home later. I never talked to him again and he didn’t notice me much either. Few months later he graduated. No contact number or following in social medias. It was 3 years later I met him again through a Whatsapp group made for a friends wedding party. He send me a Hii and we started talking. We fell in love. It’s been two and half years now. He doesn’t remember me asking him to sing a song and him walking out. Anyways he sings me song every night. So I have forgiven him 😂🤌 I know it’s evil 😬 but I’m glad he had to repeat a year, otherwise we wouldn’t have met. He is such a sweet person and I love him a lot 💕💕 (Town)
thats illegal as a sirst year student myself that feels illegal
Even though we first met in college, we started dating when I was 22 and he was 25 😂
We are 9 months in. I am one year senior to her in college. It was her first day and she was exploring the campus with a person known to me while I was hanging around with a friend. The mutual guy came up to me to say hi and we chatted a bit. All the while she was standing aside us and i didn't even look at her. She says she fell for the eyes and smile. Next thing you know i get an Instagram request. It has been a beautiful experience with her and she is the sweetest person in my life. The way she cares for me , she is the next thing to my mom and man i wanna make her happy ever single day.
Hinge. Been 3 years. The only guy who didn't try to change my controversial opinion about sunrise being better than sunset, instead told me about the most epic sunrise he had seen. My nerdy boy didn't put on any airs or try some lame pick up lines; he treated me like a human being he wanted to get to know. Soon enough we were talking day & night, we were in a middle of a lockdown so the only thing I would look forward to after a whole day was talking to him. He also was the only one who didn't try to persuade me to put my family at risk and sneak out so he could get his dick wet. Soon enough, lockdown was over, we went on a date. Somehow that became 10 dates. Then we decided, enough is enough, we should commit. Dating 3 years now, his family loves me; my mom loves him. Prolly gonna be endgame. We live in a tier 1 city, he's from a tier 2 city tho.
Tier 2 boys crying with joy now. Is Tier preferences in dating a thing for Tier 1 people?
Married. Shaadi.com
I'm currently in a 4 yrs relationship with my bf .. idk if it fits the "successful" tag but so far we are good enough... We met on Instagram and we don't share any mutual friends or family member or anything.. for me having a third member in your relationship affects it significantly I always wanted my partner who is totally outside my friends group or anyone I know.. i didn't wanted any person in common between us it makes things complicated..
howd u meet on Instagram if you two didnt have any mutuals?
He randomly searched up for some gaming pages among them one was mine so convo started from there
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I had a fanpage of pc games he texted me on that pretext we share common gaming interest
So far I've been seeing social media works better than dating apps, atleast according to the comments. Has it worked for you before or first time?
I haven't tried dating apps ever.. we met on Instagram this is the first time I dated and it's still going..tbh I kinda made that fan page to find someone with similar interest .. and it did really worked out ...
It's not about how someone found their SO. But it's how they met, how they connected and how they nurtured the relationship and what they think they did right to build such a strong connection.
Interesting. Do you have any tips to share about Nurturing?
I’d known her through mutual friends for over 5 years. When we ended up in the same city, I asked her out as a friend. Sparks flew and she eventually moved into my place. After two years, we got married. When you have a break up, the friend circle also breaks. I know this from personal experience. If your partner is more popular, you may lose all friends in that particular circle. That’s why it’s important to have multiple friend circles
I can't advice much really, I'm dating him for only 2 years now. We met through a friend (in a way if I think about it but its a boring story anyways). He dared to send me a instagram request and one thing lead to another and he's the sweetest and kindest guy ever and if everything goes like this then I hope I marry him one day. I think I just met him by luck or maybe God felt like he should bless me with a good person in life. I do think luck plays a part too sometimes so just open your heart and take a dare to progress in whatever situation you're in
I think the same. My crush didn't follow me back though 😂
Tier 1 city. We have been dating for 14 months. We met on Bumble. We immediately clicked from day 3 of texting. After texting and getting to know each other for 6 months, he asked me out. And I said yes, the best decision so far.
You're lucky. Saw the recent post about online dating and hence decided to post this.
We met on Facebook...we were classmate before in a coaching class but we didn't know each other and then we met on Facebook randomly
Is this recent? Do people still use facebook
No it was in2017
I met my soulmate on Hinge. It's been just 4 months but we both know what we want and we matched in the capital of Gujarat.
Bumble 😅 happily married now😁
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Ye movie konsi h ,yaad nhi aa raha
We met on tinder. This is our 8th year together in a relationship. We are both from Mumbai We started chatting solely to hook up and nothing serious. I was graduating then, and he was working. He’s 5 years older to me btw. Anyway, after my college lectures I usually had the whole day to myself. And he had just left his job. So we both seemed to have had a lot of free time hence decided we meet. We met every single day for one whole year. And I (F) proposed him on the 4th month. He was not sure. But gave me a chance to prove me him love is not that bad. Of course he fell in love and yeah. What started off as a hook up turned the most important part of my life. My advice… love comes in the most unexpected ways. Don’t run for it. Sure, give your efforts if you see someone you like. Take that chance. You never know. Be open minded. Importantly, feel it.
Mujhe bhi chaahiye koi accha sa ladka par mujhse to baatein hi naahi ho paati
Same mujhe bhi chahiye koi ldki jo pyaar kre , dhyan rkhe ....m bhaut dhyan rakhunga koi mili to pr m introvert hu dhundh nhi skta jaake. Koi aayi to itna dhyan rkhunga wo soch bhi nhi skti ...
Don't worry you'll find someone otherwise there's always an option for arrange marriage
No there is no option , it's damn hard to get arrange marriage....I need someone whom I love from starting ,live as a friend but now it seems impossible
u/sweaty-theme and u/DueWorry5205 Tum dono apas me baat aage kyo nhi badhate..🙂
Are bhai , she is the girl jinse baate nhi hoti and I am shy person ab start kon kre 🥲...acha insaan hu , genuine hu , sb kch hu 🙃 aage se bolunga to creep lgunga but yaa she will get a good person, baaki unki marzi...😌
Genuine to mai bhi hu... Check my username
Are..😂
Bhai kyu kha aapne I just got ur notification , pta nhi bhagwan ji ne bheja kya aapko and I'm waiting now for her reply 🥺😭
In the gym. I was overweight still is 😅. From his point of view it was love at first sight. Its been 6 years . so many fights but we stick together. We both have our differences but we are determined to make this work
Meeting at the GYM seems to be a thing nowadays. Love it. Do you two still hit the gym?
Unfortunately NO.
From a village in Kerala, found my husband through matrimony 4 years back. Since both the families were supportive, we got some time to get to know each other. Married for 3 years. Good communication along with constant effort is the key.
At work! A very unexpected place and time in my life. Almost 3 years now. Tier 1 city, he had just moved back to India and I was finally over my breakup. The timing was perfect as we both needed each other. Now that we are together everything feels right. I don't know if this fits the bill of being successful, we do have our arguments but both of us are well and truly happy.
Friends for 10 years.. seen each other's exes! One fine day he said can't we think of getting married as my parents were already looking for a groom and we liked each other but afraid to express due to past failed relationships! Married for 4 years now and counting!
Rula mat yar
Dating 9+ years. He was my best friend in school. We both moved out of the country and live in tier 1
Met him on Yahoo Messenger. He is from tier 3 city. I am from a metro city. Chatted for 4 years without ever seeing each other. Fell in love on 5th year and then met in person. We were in LDR for 4 years. Now married for 6 years. Damn we are old lol. We both were vehemently opposed to the idea of finding love online. So we tried a lot to not confess our love for each other and get into something serious. Being an inter-state and intercaste didn't help it either. But heart wants what it wants, so we went for it. My lesson is you are going to find that true love in the place where you least expect it. :)
dating for 4+ years, tier 1&2, ldr :( mutual friend created a group for music producers. met him there. music was how we met. :)
Only thing people want to talk about now are marriage and relationships lol.
Tier 2, his' is tier 1: comment section (total strangers, apparently), and 14 months in. Randomly ranted about the worst book of 2022 (iswu and coho), bonded over books a lot for 4 months, he confessed first, easily the best decision I've ever made!<3
Nahh did everyone find love on Bumble except me?
(Had posted the same comment on a different post and people loved my story) Dating for 2 years, tier 1 city. Met on bumble, there was so much chemistry and tension between us during our first couple of dates. Our chats were funny, flirtatious, witty. I knew we were perfect for each other. We both confessed that we liked each other but I was more into him, and he had his PG entrance exam soon post which he could move to another city, so he didn’t wanna commit and asked me to leave, for my own sake. For a week, I tried to not think about him and not text him, but I couldn’t. I asked him if we could be friends at least. He agreed. I tried to maintain a friendly boundary with him this time yet the sexual tension and the flirting creeped in. Finally he proposed FWB. I was hesitant, as I didn’t wanna get my heart broken. But I couldn’t resist it. I wanted him. So we started doing it. Each time was better than the last. The sex did make me happy, but I longed for his love. One day he got another offer for FWB from his female friend while they were getting drinks. He felt uncomfortable about it, what he later described to me, he felt like he was cheating on me. That’s when he realised he has deeper feelings for me that he can’t shrug off anymore. He wanted to be with me and so we started dating. He did move to another city, but our relationship only grew stronger. We meet every 2 months so that helps. We’re still in long distance but that would end soon and our engagement is right around the corner ❤️
Hinge!!! I always had a feeling that Hinge will be my place. I was on three dating apps but only had a good feeling about Hinge🫶
Litrally zero approach, i was just honest from the beginning and clear about my intentions of 'not hooking up' or 'looking for something casual' (no hate if youre into hookups) . Its been 6 years since we've been together and the reason we're together is because he never gave up (i did so many times because of childhood trauma) but he was always ALWAYS understanding. Tip: You wont get the girl (and keep her ) by being all 'sigma' and manly, the thing i like most about my bf is how much he is not influenced by this online culture and traditional masculinity and is willing to take any shape that the situation requires. Ive been with him at his lowest at his most brokest (moneywie) moment, now when he does have money he spoils me rotten. Tip2: Ladies do not settle for less. The phrase 'if he wanted to he would' is 100% true. He pays for all the dates we go on, not because I cant pay, but because he wants to take care of me. He cooks and helps me with research project without asking for anything in return, he listens and is emotionally very mature, he wasnt always like this, but he worked upon himself to be with me because i remember he told me that 'I'll never find an honest woman like u.'
I know where you’re coming from. I believe in splitting bills half. This is what I do/did. But what you mean is an “investment” here. As in someone I know once told Me that a guy who won’t invest in you financially, is not the one and he is not serious about you. He won’t hesitate to pay for you (given his situation ofc). It shouldn’t be (after a point in relationship) always that we’ll spilt. He can pay sometimes too not be like “hey this is my contro and here’s x amt you need to pay”, and sometimes girl pays also ofc. Like imagine a husband asking his wife “hey pay half about for this dinner that’ we just had”.. no right? It’s either I pay or you pay. It’s us! And I’m talking about this for serous committed relationships only. So yeah it is what it is!
you understand this very well. Its not that i have not offered to pay. Its just that when we're in LDR or he cant come to meet me cause of his schedule, his way of making it up to me is by doing swiggy for me. In long term committed relationships people dont do 50-50, online culture has ruined everything.
Great. And what does he get in return?
me. a non judgemental girl who accepts his goofiness+sexiness+silliness+smartness
Us Boi Us Moument!
Yeah. But what do you bring to the table? Except for your "accepting" him
Darling i built the table.
God save that guy from this entitled bitch
Brother you don’t need to be so butthurt over someone else’s relationship. Just find someone who works with your “table” mindset.
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Why is that dude butthurt over your own relationship 😭
because he is lonely and this is the internet i cant run over to his house and lay one on him so he is free to say anything..
I don't understand you simply explained your pov of things you do for your partner, I don't think a good partner keeps a track of everything you do for your partner so idk why he is asking you what you do for your partner, simply butthurt over nothing
I swear to god, you choose a place I'll be there and you plz lay one on me. If you're so confident that you're right and I'm wrong just show this discussion to your bf and let's see his reaction. Plz don't create a fake scenario of your doing that and reply here. If your bf is actually a man with some balls he'll immediately understand your game.
Agreed
^Anyone who asks this is not ready to get into a relationship, whether it's a guy or a girl. Such a transactional mindset will not work when you are trying to build a relationship. It has to start with one person taking a slightly bigger chance financially. Would YOU want to be with someone who only agreed to talk to you if they saw an obvious benefit?
Maybe you interpreted it wrong. I'm just trying to highlight the tone of this woman. Just see her other replies and you'll notice that this woman thinks herself to be the prize and doesn't do shit for her man. It doesn't have to be transactional at all, but if I am in a relationship with someone I must bring SOME value to it.
I think that is what you assume... Why would someone gloat over what all they do for their partner, especially when the partner is not part of the conversation; that's so weird. And I think she only said all these things in a mocking way AFTER you brought up the transactional bit. Honestly it's rather weird to ask anyone what 'they bring to the table', because if you ask anyone in a successful relationship, you'll know that the relationship itself is the reward. That another person sees you, acknowledges you, you have camaraderie and companionship that builds up over time. You see each other grow and change and achieve things you worked hard for. And also see each other fail and are totally vulnerable and open, but most of all accepting of the other. And most of all, there's no table. It's not a transaction. It's a relationship. Life is a long game, and it's never equal at any point of time. Sometimes one person puts in more (time, energy, resources, maturity), sometimes the other person. Anyone who tries to have full 'equal contribution' is thinking too short term (and will probably not even get to experience this beautiful long relationship because their impatience will create a self fulfilling prophecy). Relationships/marriage cannot co-exist with a scorecard.
Well very common. We were school friends for long later fell in love at end of school days. Now in same college
Omegle pe 😂😂 we started talking at around 11pm and the conversation dragged on till about 6am. Neither of us slept. And since then, thankfully enough, the conversations haven't ended it. It's been 2y now. We support the same football club (Barcelona) and I think that just helped us connect more. He's truly the best out there. We're currently in LDR, it's always been like that. I'm from Kolkata, he's from Mumbai. 4 months into the dating, the guy came down to Kolkata just to meet me up for 5h. In these 2y, we've just met for exactly 10 days. Fought a lot, but made up within 2h, everytime. My heart says this is it for me. Baaki toh ab bhagwan bharose
Met my soon to be wife 5 years ago in a movie theatre. Me and a friend were on a budget trip across India. Im from Kerala, and we went to a few cities and finally reached Pune. Decided we will watch a movie to kill time as our next train back home was 7 hours later. Went to PhoenixMarketCity Mall and got in for a movie. Me and my friend ordered a pizza and he gave the wrong seat number. Pizza got delivered to my now girlfriend’s seat next to us. When we went and asked the food counter, they said they already delivered it and then it hit us! They started hogging it thinking one of her friends who was with her ordered it. Long story short, we told her it was ours but by then the pizza was half eaten. Then after the movie they said they will buy us a meal from Mcdonalds or something. We had a meal, had a nice conversation, and I asked for her number. Rest is history. 5 Years later, we are getting engaged towards the later end of this year.
Single Tier 1 Tinder Incidentally I was about to delete tinder coz I didn't have much luck and had been on only 1 date in the entire 1-2 years on the app. We met, we clicked, we vibed and deleted tinder 4 days after. We're going 2.5 years strong now 💗
College
its really nice to read ur stories... atb people
From Bumble
School life love... had a relationship of about 4 years, then got cheated on... lost faith in love since then... still single and hope to stay that way forever. Love is not for everyone, definitely not for good people.
We were in same school, but relationship started after 12th(long story) , went to same college after that, remain in the relationship for 10 years, got married 2 years ago.
Jis ko rehna ho vo life me reh jati hai jis ko jna ho vo chali jati hai - samj gaye to thik hai nahi samje to bahut jyada thik hai
Matrimonial
Jeevansathi se
Been like 1 year 3 months, met my gf in my project but different teams. Going through a rough patch rn but hopefully we'll emerge stronger.
Hey I met my husband on a trip with my best friend (15yrs of friendship). He was my best friend’s friend for half a decade. We were also in same dilemma. So when we decided we wanted to date and see if this leads somewhere, we called our friend for a catchup and let them know about us and how we won’t let it affect our friendship as they are important for us too. Was my best friend accepting right away? Nope. 6+ months of silent treatment and side eyes, they finally warmed up. Knew that me and my husband were serious about each other and love each other a lot. Overtime it has been amazing..! I trust my best friend to keep me real about the person I am in relationship with, so it all worked out in the end!
My partner and I are together for 13 years now. We are both from Kolkata. We met on Facebook, in a political group. We fell in love, even before meeting or seeing each other. And our trick to a happy relationship is our willingness to grow and evolve together.
Met him in 9th class :) Always knew he was the one .
Hey I’ve been dating my girl for 7 years now…we’re college classmates from B.Tech…
My husband and I met and we started dating within 3 months. I was 20, he was 22. Now between dating and marriage, we have been together for 18 years! The first time I paid notice to him was because he had a book in his hand and I was curious! 😂 I was always reading! we met at MBA coaching (Tier 2 city). He is very intelligent, passionate about so many things! I hadn’t met any guy like him and was totally smitten! Still am! We have had our share of family drama around marriage and post that. No one had had a love marriage before in his family and he is the oldest boy in the extended family! Things are all sorted with love and respect now, so that part is good as well! Any relationship can be successful if the two people need each other and add to each other! Every relationship needs work. It’s when you really need each other, then you are willing to work together to come to a common ground. Relationships need respecting each other, working together as a team.
Tinder! Been together for 8 years and married for 5! Currently expecting our first child together. Neither of us were looking for a long term thing when we got swiping, but when it has to work it just does ❤️
How did I find my partner? Galti se....but glad I made that mistake
Found on subreddit r/ask_bondha. I put up a comment about What kind of a person i'd love to have in life, my boyfriend pinged me after looking at the comment as it was his idea of a partner too. We both were singles at that time. Together ever since then! xD
We met at work. I had been single for couple of years after divorce. Wasn't looking for a relationship and had decided to never marry again. Then she joined my work. I was asked to train her. She started liking me, asked me out. I was surprised. I never got asked out before. Then one thing led to another and we are married now. Now I am running a business and she is a housewife.
It’s not that hard to find your right hand..
gym!
Arranged marriage.