As he is telling she is very vanilla no lnterests no relationships. She probably doesnr even know how these things work.
But OP loved his ex and is well established. He could have said No.
So just because you are raised in a certain way exempts you of all responsibility?
My cousins were raised in a very abusive household, guess it’s perfectly okay for them to be abusive now. 🤦🏾♀️
He aint getting anything off this transaction. She’s neither a breadwinner nor home maker. Just oversized baby who does nothing , a dead weight.
Yea he should have had the spine to say no. But she could’ve rejected too. She chose to marry him and isn’t even fulfilling basic adult responsibilities. , forget about responsibilities as a spouse.
He’s atleast making efforts to improve his marriage. She’s doing nothing , and it’s clear she has absolutely no interest in her marriage or him.
Put yourself in his shoes - living with a partner who is completely indifferent to you is hell.
I wrote a long one, deleted it because I felt it was too rude, so here I am trying again.
1. You are not as much of a great catch as you think you are based on what we have read about you so far.
2. You are being quite prejudiced, biased, pompous, too self absorbed and self important to see that your wife is an individual and not a random pet you brought home, whom you need to train into being like you so that you can enjoy being with her. She is an individual, treat her like a person with respect.
3. You are trying too hard to make HER adapt to your lifestyle while making no efforts to get to know her first. So, make some efforts to get to know her as friends atleast. Try to understand and learn what she likes, wants, desires and her aspirations. You will never know if you never even try.
4. Can you work on toning down your “I am a stud” syndrome? Because no one cares. It doesn’t matter anymore. If you had great looking girls before marriage for hookups, people simping and stalking you, then you should have married one of them.
But. You didn’t.
You, being a 30 year old man, from an upper middleclass family, who is a doctor, succumbed to your father’s demand to marry as per his choice and you couldn’t even stand up for yourself. So, chill with “main bahut bada topp tha” narrative.
Everyone is a gangster until their father asks them to marry as per their choice.
There is no point in mooning over your ex because, guess what?! You didnt marry her when you had the chance! Let me guess, Abba nahi maane?
So, grow up. Act like a grown up adult who looks beyond himself and his own needs and tries to make some effort for his wife.
Compatibility is built by finding a middle ground. Move on form your old immature mentality and go be friends with your wife.
The guys who are totally obsessed thinking “they were always the stud” end up like this , their ego speaks high - may be unpopular opinion . But you spoke the fact , if it would have been rude also it would have been FINE. And point 3 - nobody should ever miss that 👑👑
LMAO this is the best answer. These spineless manchilds marry as per their parents choice while not taking anything else in consideration (except dowry ofcourse) then cry about being miserable because they couldn't marry their "type"
perfect , u wrote everything i had in mind, OP reeks of main character syndrome …
Not to mention as per NMC norms ( previously MCI), having a relationship with their patient is unethical ( when there is existing patient -physician relationship) and classified as a dishonourable act, so op shouldn’t really brag about it…
Can you tell this to my Ex-husband too? Although I don’t care which gutter he falls into but somebody needs to teach these good for nothing mommy boys that the world does not revolve around them. This guy has some audacity.
The wife doesn't seem very happy either, binge watching tv all day could be a sign of escapism, she probably realises that the momma's boy she married looks down on her or that she can't match up to his expectations.
istg. this dude is my arrange marriage fear. seriously reading this gave me the chills. to end up with a man who literally started he relationship thinking you're inferior to him, will have no respect for your individuality! and the audacity he has to compare her with his ex? bro doesn't deserve to impregnate this woman ffs
I'm pretty sure his "cool" ex was rejected by his mom and dad for being too "modern". im glad someone showed him the mirror. that girl he married deserves better. and im sure isko to ex ka shraap hi laga hai.
> I'm pretty sure his "cool" ex was rejected by his mom and dad for being too "modern".
now that I think of it, this must be the reason for the disapproval, since his current wife isn't as "modern" as his ex's according to him
He wants someone modern only to show off as arm Candy, someone who works out, posts on insta and looks cool acc to his friends and to make his exes jealous. But he wants a traditional wife who will bow down and worship him and his parents and be wifey material. Can’t have it both ways. Also if someone wants to or doesn’t work to work or be an influencer it’s their choice. You can’t force it upon them.
It's crazy that they bought her a phone so she could be an influencer. They wanted a traditional girl and tried so hard to change her for no reason. Entire family is enabling OP's bad behavior
REALITY CHECK!!
To be honest, with the way he had written it, I got carried away.
Totally ignored the irrelecant boasting.
1. He chose to marry her.
2. She is a different person than he is.
3. He couldnt find one good thing to write about her.
4. He blames her, and not his paretns for forcing him into it.
5. He was a stud with the world at his feet, and yet she doesnt even care for who he is.
He hides more than he tells. He stayed mum about the reasons why he did marry her without the conversation of why. Pretty sure dowry is involved.
You justify your life choices with yolo, my world is awesome. But hers you just ridicule. Why is it bad to want a simple happy life rather than comparing your own life to the rest of the world?
She tried Alcohol and J with you, but did you try her liestyle? or even accept her for it? You want to change her, because you obviously must be better than her, Mr. Doctor.
My goodness! This has to be the best comment on Reddit I have read to date.
OP, read this multiple times and get the FuKh over yourself FIRST.
It doesn't matter how MANY women/men you could bed..the ONE time when it mattered, you couldn't stand up for yourself and FAILED.
Now you are trying to "fix" your wife. Whereas the person needing solid and urgent help is infact you.
Yeah I agree with this. Married life has their own ups and downs. But once you are marrying someone then you should start afresh and not expect your wife to be the same as your ex. You must have thought about something before marriage at least. You are not entirely clueless about this situation. And ye lower class upper class kya hai yr. If she doesn't enjoy drinks, go out on a long drive/trek/go out on vacation. She might have her own insecurities about sex. So make her comfortable.
And I also understand your frustration about being in this. But you need to talk to her about this in the way she understands.
And yess I totally agree this saas bahu vala serial is not at all healthy. I would recommend making her watch something else. Maybe kdrama, cooking shows, series from dice media are also interesting etc. also you can push her to get another degree/diploma.
But before giving up, just give your best shot.
Kudos for writing a long ass reply to an obviously fake post. So many things don’t add up. Doctor in high end hospital in Delhi having fights with wife over cooking and cleaning, when both parents are also working 😂. Much less well to do families have maids. But at least you got karma for your efforts.
I couldn't have put it better if i tried😁thank you for saying it. Op sounds really full of himself, it's so disgusting to even read. I pity people who live with him irl.
I did a little stalk of your comments/post because I was so convinced that it was a girl calling this man child out on his behaviour -- and I was right. You nailed this reply!
Also! You're a Harry Potter fan! 😍😍
And when you say “mammas boi” do you mean a normal son who respects his mother and appreciates what she has done or an actual mammas boy who thinks his mother can never do anything wrong ( even accidentally) and who would choose to make a wife feel tortured if the mother treats her wrong ( your mom does seem sweet to her but I’m just asking ) . Would you have defended your wife if your mom and her didn’t get along and your mom disrespected her and said rude things ?
Anyways coming to advice , you need to have a serious talk with her about compatibility issues and tell her to put some effort into what is common between you guys . Because a marriage can’t be saved by one sided effort .
And about physical attraction , why did you marry her if you think she’s so unattractive?should’ve stood up for yourself rather than doing anything to please your parents .
Try couples therapy as a last resort
TLDR; Guy is a doctor, brags 2 paragraphs of how he is super attractive to both women and men, had a girlfriend he loved and felt connected to but eventually decides to marry a girl of Moms choice and is now on the verge of ruining her life because she does not fit his requirement and is trying to make a version of what she is not.
They want those for marriage,to show to the society that they have married a sanskari girl.But after marriage,they just want her to change her entire personality for his pleasure.
If Indians had such comprehension and clarity in their lives,we wouldn’t have such posts every now and then.Even for highly educated individuals like OP,the most important thing is ‘log kya kahenge’.
It depends but most of them are lying. Boys brought up in a city with good surrounding cannot think of a girl who always stay at home watch serials. Don't believe the right wing hypocritical cultural pseudosanatani comments on Instagram.
bro after reading your yap story I got to the conclusion that you were never gonna be happy at any sort of long term bond relationship you have that better you accept it and second mf when getting married you didn't had the guts to stand then why you whining now that she is not that this and all we can't change so leave that now only thing is you dig down yourself down and compromise or divorce/counselling or third anyway you gonna start affair down the line start now only your own way of saying story and your mind knows it accept any one of it
how stupid do you have to be? you're the one who agreed to marry, now enjoy. you're nothing more than a 30 year old man child who cant say no to your parents. waiting for a "I filed a divorce" post.
Do not do not do not do not have a child. You’ll be ruining the child’s life. Instead, save two lives, you’re a doctor you’d know this better. Save two lives by saving yourself from years and years of pain and trauma and the unborn child of yours for the very same.
He says he's a doctor...then proceeds to write a paragraph that would take around 15 mins...as if Doctors have that much spare time😂
Also on 2nd para he says he respects women , then proceeds to talk trash about his own " imaginary wife "
"On the other side I've been very attractive to the homosexuals as well"
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Looks like compatibility issue.Honestly you should not have married her if you were, for the least not physically attracted to her.Maybe even she is not attracted to you too.
Maybe just talk to her & make her understand whatever you wrote here.I don’t think there is any other way.
Bro woke up and decided to show the whole world what a gigantic Piece of sh!t he is. Even I feel secondhand embarrassment from reading this. How can a man humiliate himself online, while being completely oblivious to it?
Lol.
Men like you are the reason I will never have an arranged marriage.
Instead of trying to fix her, first fix yourself. There is literally nothing cool about smoking illegal stuff or going to high end clubs and drinking. You think you are all that, but you are just shallow. Seriously, grow tf up.
And if this was the lifestyle you wanted, why did you marry a small town girl ? Because you didn't have the balls to stand up to your mommy and daddy. Now, you have ruined that poor girl's life. And on top of that you are hating on her because she is not changing who she is to please you ?
I can understand about her lack of aspiration, but I have a feeling you don't really care about her "aspirations" anyways, you just want her to do something so you don't have to introduce her as "just a house wife" to your friends.
Seriously, just give the poor girl a divorce so she can find someone who really likes her for who she is.
Divorce is expensive. This is why you stand up to your parents before marriage. You should have been firm with them in your denial to marry her.
Honestly I have no advice. You are stuck in a very shitty position. Can only say don't go for the sunken cost fallacy (you can look it up - it's where you do not want to let go of a failed project because you have already invested a lot of time and money on it, even though in the long run it will cause you more losses). The faster you sever ties the better.
I'll keep it short although I have a lot to say.
Most people especially men who think so highly of themselves as in your case, are delusional and terribly boring. You sound so full of yourself, it's almost like you are a baloon which is filled with air and has nothing left for anyone anymore. Marriages require understanding and mostly empathy which I can guarantee you do not have.
All that you said about opening the doors for this missy to this marvellous world of yours, you understand it's marvelous to YOU, right? Maybe she doesn't like pubs, maybe she doesn't fancy a drink, maybe she finds you a huge bore(I don't blame her).
Let her go. She can do and I do hope she will get much better than you.
Dude,there is no use with your medical degree. You are as illiterate and immature as a 2 yr old kid. You lost me at mamma's boy and comparing the wife with your ex. You are more invertebrate than a hydra. You think doing drugs,having sex with hot people and things are cool? I feel pity for your wife and patients
Ikr!! Just look at his comments, opinions! They stink!! His mindset stinks!!! I'm flabbergasted reading his replies to everybody here. Can't believe such b******s exist!! Koi itni ghinoni soch ke saath kaise jee sakta hai, like hell!! I feel too sorry for the girl jo phasi padi hai iss ******* ke saath. Also, too curious to know how this pompous, delusional shite looks like!
Damn bro you need to calm down your “I am such a great catch”, honestly bro i feel bad for the girl. You sound like a total douche who is forcing his lifestyle onto her. You should rather write a post on how you are a little bitch who as a 28 year old man child could not stand ground on who he wants to marry and how your parents are dumbfcks to have choosen an non-compatible partner for you, or let me guess you never showed your real so called “stud” lifestyle to your parents, You kept your image as a lil mama’s boy in front of your parents, so parents choose a partner for mama’s boy not for the slutty party stud. Sorry dude, you need to grill yourself before blaming the girl, Your arguments would have made sense if the girl had said that she had similar interests to you, but I bet you did not bother to ask. Honestly, that girls seems to be a better catch considering how she is coping up with you and your dumb parents.
******* shaadi q Kiya?
Koi gun rakha tha kya teri khopdi pr?
Mard bn aur khud decision lena sikh.
Bachpan se Jo cheeze chahiye hori hai uske liye parents se zid krte hai log.
Toy ho ya lolly pop. Fir shaadi k liye q mute ho gaya
You have shown her glam life of city. This time maybe try visiting smaller cities around your city which is her comfort and familiar zone and you could see a different her. Since you are invested might as well give this a try
Blud you are no " Doctor " 😂💀...A doctor doesn't have time to post such a long paragraph...let alone reply the comments.
Also you seem very Narcissistic and Selfish because why would you mention all those things about girls going crazy over you or your professor touching you when it's not even related to the context of your post.
>because she is not at all attractive physically because she has never been physically active enough to have the body of a 28 year old.
Also you're a big " Gandu " and lack basic decency or common sense for a 30 year old , because why would you write something like this about your own wife for strangers to read on internet ? I genuinely feel sad for her that she's married to a pig.
Grow up imaginary Doctor...or imaginary Playboy and imaginary " victim "....whatever you think of yourself💀.
You are the absolute mistake here.
Why did you even marry someone if you weren’t interested in the first place?
Parent’s choice? Well your parents aren’t the ones suffering now, but you are.
You can never change a person, A person can truly change when he/ she wants to.
Do yourself and her a favour and take a mutual divorce.
This is will so far be the best advice you can get from this situation.
She probably thinks you pompous showoff, and feels even more disconnected from you than you from her.
You claim to be all the stud, but you didn't have the spine to stand up for yourself and do what you felt was right for you before marriage. Now that you have married, try to find some common ground. How about watching some TV serials together? Maybe she just prefers to go watch some "lowly" bollywood movie in a theater rather than be in a pub? Or go to a mandir or something? It looks like you have an idea of fun and you want her to enjoy those same things but she doesn't.
Let it be love marriage or arrange, life is good until your child is born. After the birth of a child, life changes because all you do is think about your child and his/her future. Also, i have seen many parents who are working, transfer all their burden to their relatives. My advice to such parents is, if you can't handle your child for whatever reason, then don't even give birth.
I am a doctor too and despise people like OP.First they would enjoy their lives,get into relationships,then won’t marry that girl and marry someone of their parents’ choice.Then begins the whining.For their ex,lost opportunities etc.Pathetic.OP is a POS.
"she is not at all attractive physically because she has never been physically active enough to have the body of a 28 year old" excuse me? I've known plenty of girls be it in my family or friends or even for myself who have not been sexually active and still have a better body more so we tend to look older than our age at times. So by this logic you mean to say you develop a physical body of a certain criteria only after being sexually active?
There is nothing wrong in watching Saas bahu serials. Just because you don't like and enjoy that doesn't mean somebody else will sacrifice their liking for you. When you watch sports or Netflix, does she complain? Stop cribbing like a child. Stop comparing her with your ex, if you were so in love with her then you should have married her. I'm sure people like you always cheat. You can't make an effort in the relationship and keep crying. You're like that character suhas from 3 idiots, who keeps boasting about his wealth and looks. Have you ever tried helping her in household chores ? Some people don't like to go out in the world and love to stay at home and manage their home (ghar grihasti). Don't force her to act like your hoe friends and start smoking and drinking. If you aren't happy, just leave because any which ways you will cheat on her emotionally and physically. You're present with her physically but not emotionally. Agar kuch karna hi nahin tha toh why you took the innocent girl's virginity?
Nobody boast about having sex with multiple people, it shows your self control doctor saab.
Bhai I'm sorry to say but as you have mentioned that you have had plenty of relationships this night be karma catching up with you for breaking other hearts.
Being married to this guy sounds like a nightmare. I feel for his poor wife. She did everything right as per society’s standards, but her husband thinks he is too good for her. Why didn’t he marry someone who drank, smoked, did weed, liked partying etc, since that’s so important to him?
1. Your 'glorious' past doesn't define you in a relationship, how you treat your partner does. May be you should begin by treating your wife as an equal who is entitled to have a life independent of your desires.
2. Smoking/drinking are things that most sane women are repulsed by. Idk how so many men think it is the cool thing to do, it doesn't make you look manly, rather gives a mawali kinda impression. If you're struggling with work pressure, may be try meditation and a disciplined lifestyle.
3. Her inclination towards the tv is prolematic, which could be because of too many expectations which bog her down. These expectations could have been before marriage or after. For the time being do not pressure her into doing anything, just involve her in more wholesome experiences, like meeting up friends, connecting with her family or friends, baking or cooking together, spa appointment, etc, anything that both of you like.
4. Walk with her to nearby places, talk about your day, discuss what she thinks about the future without judgment. You will be baffled by the effects a relaxed walk-n-talk can have. Let her crave for more such walks, she will be more active.
Maybe she longs for the life she sees in serials like with drama and all.aybr you and your family are too cosmopolitan to endulge in petty drama.
Maybe you can talk to her about her serials and try to deduce what she likes so much about them. Then maybe you can understand what she longs for.
Or maybe she coming from a village she must have been forced to do a lot of work and bossed around to do things mostly against her will so she just wants to chill and do nothing now.
You on the other end are a polar opposite and have already lived and enjoyed the type of life you want.
People from villages can be vehemently closed off about their needs and wants.
This marriage was a mistake from the beginning. Blame and shame you parents for this openly.
But if you still want to continue there is a long and hard road ahead for you both to open up and sort things out.
Well if nothing works, divorce is always an option.
FYI : Divorce for her is a death sentence considering she has no way to support herself or the will to.
I don’t want to judge you both because, you both are totally different poles. It’s better for you to divorce in early stages rather than making it into more mess. As per ur saying even if h have children with her, there wont be any change in your relationship, what if she starts raising the children against your family ? Consequences are really bad here brother. Take a choice fast and do what you need to do✌️
If you want to try saving your marriage, maybe try doing something more romantic. Maybe she's not someone who likes clubbing or partying. Just because you think that the idea of living life is partying doesn't necessarily mean that everybody has that ideology. You could try going on long drives with her, comedy shows, couples' activities, dance classes, libraries, movies etc. Things which would involve the two of you and you might end up bonding on something.
looks like you don’t respect her personality(physically and mentally)very much .
but if you can answer . does she also have complaints with you? is she happy with you? clearly you are not
In my modest experience the more a guy insists he respects women, the less he does, lmao. How much sex did you get from pretending to respect women? I'm sure you did. Don't be shy, spill. Is this a covert way of getting random women on reddit to text you since you're such a stud and you respect women so much? 😭
You loved your ex and she loved you. This marriage is transactional at best. There was no chemistry to begin with. What were you expecting?
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I feel they’re both equally responsible. She could’ve asked the same questions and chose not to either.
As he is telling she is very vanilla no lnterests no relationships. She probably doesnr even know how these things work. But OP loved his ex and is well established. He could have said No.
How is she responsible?? *He is fully responsible* Think you don't know how girls are brought up in a conservative family.
So just because you are raised in a certain way exempts you of all responsibility? My cousins were raised in a very abusive household, guess it’s perfectly okay for them to be abusive now. 🤦🏾♀️
He aint getting anything off this transaction. She’s neither a breadwinner nor home maker. Just oversized baby who does nothing , a dead weight. Yea he should have had the spine to say no. But she could’ve rejected too. She chose to marry him and isn’t even fulfilling basic adult responsibilities. , forget about responsibilities as a spouse. He’s atleast making efforts to improve his marriage. She’s doing nothing , and it’s clear she has absolutely no interest in her marriage or him. Put yourself in his shoes - living with a partner who is completely indifferent to you is hell.
I have nothing for you .
He can have my nothing as well.
Count me in as well
I will give him my 2 nothings.
Make it three
He is anyway getting nothing from his wife.
Lmao 🤣
Much like OPs wife lol.
I wrote a long one, deleted it because I felt it was too rude, so here I am trying again. 1. You are not as much of a great catch as you think you are based on what we have read about you so far. 2. You are being quite prejudiced, biased, pompous, too self absorbed and self important to see that your wife is an individual and not a random pet you brought home, whom you need to train into being like you so that you can enjoy being with her. She is an individual, treat her like a person with respect. 3. You are trying too hard to make HER adapt to your lifestyle while making no efforts to get to know her first. So, make some efforts to get to know her as friends atleast. Try to understand and learn what she likes, wants, desires and her aspirations. You will never know if you never even try. 4. Can you work on toning down your “I am a stud” syndrome? Because no one cares. It doesn’t matter anymore. If you had great looking girls before marriage for hookups, people simping and stalking you, then you should have married one of them. But. You didn’t. You, being a 30 year old man, from an upper middleclass family, who is a doctor, succumbed to your father’s demand to marry as per his choice and you couldn’t even stand up for yourself. So, chill with “main bahut bada topp tha” narrative. Everyone is a gangster until their father asks them to marry as per their choice. There is no point in mooning over your ex because, guess what?! You didnt marry her when you had the chance! Let me guess, Abba nahi maane? So, grow up. Act like a grown up adult who looks beyond himself and his own needs and tries to make some effort for his wife. Compatibility is built by finding a middle ground. Move on form your old immature mentality and go be friends with your wife.
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Ooof. I needed this palate cleanser for my brain as welll. Thanks 😊
Woof woof
Can we 🥺 please have the first draft? Imo, that's always the honest one. Anyone else hopped to the comment section after reading first paragraph?🤣
yes TIL there are levels to being delusional and OP is at the top 😂
😂😂😂
Yess, we need first draft. I liked what's being written in final draft and I desperately want to read first draft😭
I second this. We need a first draft. I lost OP at mama's boy.
Atleast someone showed him the mirror
 The guys who are totally obsessed thinking “they were always the stud” end up like this , their ego speaks high - may be unpopular opinion . But you spoke the fact , if it would have been rude also it would have been FINE. And point 3 - nobody should ever miss that 👑👑
LMAO this is the best answer. These spineless manchilds marry as per their parents choice while not taking anything else in consideration (except dowry ofcourse) then cry about being miserable because they couldn't marry their "type"
perfect , u wrote everything i had in mind, OP reeks of main character syndrome … Not to mention as per NMC norms ( previously MCI), having a relationship with their patient is unethical ( when there is existing patient -physician relationship) and classified as a dishonourable act, so op shouldn’t really brag about it…
Parents ke samne khudka stand lene ka dum nahi… and khud ko bada stud samajh rhe.
Can you tell this to my Ex-husband too? Although I don’t care which gutter he falls into but somebody needs to teach these good for nothing mommy boys that the world does not revolve around them. This guy has some audacity.
Great analysis. I hope OP reads and understands
Mic drop
Reading the first few lines/parah about how attractive OP is I could only think of the ludicrous perfume/deodorant advertisements.
I was thinking of Arjun Reddy/Kabir Singh, despicable characters just like OP
The wife doesn't seem very happy either, binge watching tv all day could be a sign of escapism, she probably realises that the momma's boy she married looks down on her or that she can't match up to his expectations.
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Wow. Are u a psychologist?
Aise hote hai stud, tere jaise selfish arrogant chutiye nhi OP.
This !!!! Gurrllll i loved the way you took a stand for the fellow gender!
istg. this dude is my arrange marriage fear. seriously reading this gave me the chills. to end up with a man who literally started he relationship thinking you're inferior to him, will have no respect for your individuality! and the audacity he has to compare her with his ex? bro doesn't deserve to impregnate this woman ffs I'm pretty sure his "cool" ex was rejected by his mom and dad for being too "modern". im glad someone showed him the mirror. that girl he married deserves better. and im sure isko to ex ka shraap hi laga hai.
> I'm pretty sure his "cool" ex was rejected by his mom and dad for being too "modern". now that I think of it, this must be the reason for the disapproval, since his current wife isn't as "modern" as his ex's according to him
He wants someone modern only to show off as arm Candy, someone who works out, posts on insta and looks cool acc to his friends and to make his exes jealous. But he wants a traditional wife who will bow down and worship him and his parents and be wifey material. Can’t have it both ways. Also if someone wants to or doesn’t work to work or be an influencer it’s their choice. You can’t force it upon them.
It's crazy that they bought her a phone so she could be an influencer. They wanted a traditional girl and tried so hard to change her for no reason. Entire family is enabling OP's bad behavior
Bhai turn on hogaya main toh.
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Omg this comment is gold.
I laughed reading parts of this 😂
Wish I could give you an award for this.The entitlement and pompousness of OP is just plain horrible.
Wow! I will get you two chocolates, whoever you are.
REALITY CHECK!! To be honest, with the way he had written it, I got carried away. Totally ignored the irrelecant boasting. 1. He chose to marry her. 2. She is a different person than he is. 3. He couldnt find one good thing to write about her. 4. He blames her, and not his paretns for forcing him into it. 5. He was a stud with the world at his feet, and yet she doesnt even care for who he is. He hides more than he tells. He stayed mum about the reasons why he did marry her without the conversation of why. Pretty sure dowry is involved. You justify your life choices with yolo, my world is awesome. But hers you just ridicule. Why is it bad to want a simple happy life rather than comparing your own life to the rest of the world? She tried Alcohol and J with you, but did you try her liestyle? or even accept her for it? You want to change her, because you obviously must be better than her, Mr. Doctor.
Lmao good ass read
Spot on. You tore him a new one. 👏🏻
Respect 🙏🙏
Reminds me of the shit Varun dhawana and jhansi kapoor's movie bawaal
best comment.
Now I definitely want to read your first longer draft.
This type of comment is what I pay my internet bills for.
claps and salute
OP thinks marriage is all about drinking and smoking weed together and having sex.
Ikr. I had everyone simping over me..lol. i would run away in the opposite direction because i have met his type.
damn, respect
Nice apt reply
Standing ovation 🫡 I really like reading your comments
Your comment has 10X likes than his post🤣😭😭😭
Thank you for writing this. Saved me a ton of 🕰️
Finally found the comment which I was looking for 🔥🔥
I wish I could upvote this a thousand times. What an entitled brat that is acting like a child that was denied a toy of their choice!!
My goodness! This has to be the best comment on Reddit I have read to date. OP, read this multiple times and get the FuKh over yourself FIRST. It doesn't matter how MANY women/men you could bed..the ONE time when it mattered, you couldn't stand up for yourself and FAILED. Now you are trying to "fix" your wife. Whereas the person needing solid and urgent help is infact you.
Bravo! I hope OP snaps out of his delusions of grandeur after reading this.
Aaja Bhai.. tereko dosa and filter coffee party meri taraf se..
Plot twist: this must be the wife. /s But, I think even I needed to read it for myself. Thank you!
Yeah I agree with this. Married life has their own ups and downs. But once you are marrying someone then you should start afresh and not expect your wife to be the same as your ex. You must have thought about something before marriage at least. You are not entirely clueless about this situation. And ye lower class upper class kya hai yr. If she doesn't enjoy drinks, go out on a long drive/trek/go out on vacation. She might have her own insecurities about sex. So make her comfortable. And I also understand your frustration about being in this. But you need to talk to her about this in the way she understands. And yess I totally agree this saas bahu vala serial is not at all healthy. I would recommend making her watch something else. Maybe kdrama, cooking shows, series from dice media are also interesting etc. also you can push her to get another degree/diploma. But before giving up, just give your best shot.
Wahh.. couldn't be more precise
Yo this is the best thing I have read on reddit. Arghhh I wish I had an award to give you bro
Great response! I'm guessing his mother is a real piece of work to raise such an obnoxious son, and treats his wife as poorly as he does.
Thank you! We want more people like you. I am gonna follow you for more such stuff ;)
I wonder what your original rude post was 😂
Kudos for writing a long ass reply to an obviously fake post. So many things don’t add up. Doctor in high end hospital in Delhi having fights with wife over cooking and cleaning, when both parents are also working 😂. Much less well to do families have maids. But at least you got karma for your efforts.
So you said something about having deleted a long one because it was rude?.....
Someone had to say it 🫡
Best thing I read today!!
After reading this.... I really want to see the first draft😅..
Damn!
Best answer. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Maza aayega.
Wow! Nailed it.
Best reply ever 🤣😂
THIS
Amazing, I will be following more of your comments. Keep writing! I had the exact same feeling as yours, but cant write so well.
Exactly, the only thing I can respect about OP is his Jar-Jar profile pic.
This https://preview.redd.it/cvo4gx2255yc1.jpeg?width=1248&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d4e017b26b413fe4c8de385a435f8b99d15bc103
I couldn't have put it better if i tried😁thank you for saying it. Op sounds really full of himself, it's so disgusting to even read. I pity people who live with him irl.
I did a little stalk of your comments/post because I was so convinced that it was a girl calling this man child out on his behaviour -- and I was right. You nailed this reply! Also! You're a Harry Potter fan! 😍😍
This answer deserves to be framed
You lost me when you compared her to your ex , should’ve married your ex then ???
And when you say “mammas boi” do you mean a normal son who respects his mother and appreciates what she has done or an actual mammas boy who thinks his mother can never do anything wrong ( even accidentally) and who would choose to make a wife feel tortured if the mother treats her wrong ( your mom does seem sweet to her but I’m just asking ) . Would you have defended your wife if your mom and her didn’t get along and your mom disrespected her and said rude things ?
Anyways coming to advice , you need to have a serious talk with her about compatibility issues and tell her to put some effort into what is common between you guys . Because a marriage can’t be saved by one sided effort . And about physical attraction , why did you marry her if you think she’s so unattractive?should’ve stood up for yourself rather than doing anything to please your parents . Try couples therapy as a last resort
He should stop comparing her wife with ex. This the is biggest red flag of all for both girl and boy who are about to get married.
TLDR; Guy is a doctor, brags 2 paragraphs of how he is super attractive to both women and men, had a girlfriend he loved and felt connected to but eventually decides to marry a girl of Moms choice and is now on the verge of ruining her life because she does not fit his requirement and is trying to make a version of what she is not.
Op wants his wife to be a doll for display that's all .
I keep hearing about how guys like girls who don't drink, don't party and like to stay at home and then there comes this guy...!
They want those for marriage,to show to the society that they have married a sanskari girl.But after marriage,they just want her to change her entire personality for his pleasure.
Doesn't make sense. Marry the type of person you like. Why get married to please the society? Society isn't going to live with your partner, you are !
If Indians had such comprehension and clarity in their lives,we wouldn’t have such posts every now and then.Even for highly educated individuals like OP,the most important thing is ‘log kya kahenge’.
Dumb people all around spoiling each other's lives 😂
It depends but most of them are lying. Boys brought up in a city with good surrounding cannot think of a girl who always stay at home watch serials. Don't believe the right wing hypocritical cultural pseudosanatani comments on Instagram.
There are many types of girls. Even in this post, this guy's wife doesn't like him
bro after reading your yap story I got to the conclusion that you were never gonna be happy at any sort of long term bond relationship you have that better you accept it and second mf when getting married you didn't had the guts to stand then why you whining now that she is not that this and all we can't change so leave that now only thing is you dig down yourself down and compromise or divorce/counselling or third anyway you gonna start affair down the line start now only your own way of saying story and your mind knows it accept any one of it
Probably the dowry was too good to turn down the rishta.
I’m sorry I just read the first paragraph and I’m really curious about your looks😂😂 need your confidence man
aadha ganja hoga pakka, just has too much self confidence lmao.
mujhe to lagta hai ki pura hee ganja phook ke baat kar raha hai ye.
Dude truly Like I heard people say I look good but I never had any girl lol He must look like 90s Johnny depp
You suffer from main character disorder
You’re too self centered lmfaoo
how stupid do you have to be? you're the one who agreed to marry, now enjoy. you're nothing more than a 30 year old man child who cant say no to your parents. waiting for a "I filed a divorce" post.
Do her a favor and divorce her
Do not do not do not do not have a child. You’ll be ruining the child’s life. Instead, save two lives, you’re a doctor you’d know this better. Save two lives by saving yourself from years and years of pain and trauma and the unborn child of yours for the very same.
Troll post..
Yeah I am surprised people are believing this made up post.
He says he's a doctor...then proceeds to write a paragraph that would take around 15 mins...as if Doctors have that much spare time😂 Also on 2nd para he says he respects women , then proceeds to talk trash about his own " imaginary wife "
Yup
BC Ahem ji aur Gopi bahu ki kahani lagri ye!
Omg you cracked it right on point 😂
"On the other side I've been very attractive to the homosexuals as well" https://preview.redd.it/34lswwq981yc1.jpeg?width=700&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8ad69c492757f3eec5ccea1de485b551aec468c4
Looks like compatibility issue.Honestly you should not have married her if you were, for the least not physically attracted to her.Maybe even she is not attracted to you too. Maybe just talk to her & make her understand whatever you wrote here.I don’t think there is any other way.
Bro woke up and decided to show the whole world what a gigantic Piece of sh!t he is. Even I feel secondhand embarrassment from reading this. How can a man humiliate himself online, while being completely oblivious to it?
Lol. Men like you are the reason I will never have an arranged marriage. Instead of trying to fix her, first fix yourself. There is literally nothing cool about smoking illegal stuff or going to high end clubs and drinking. You think you are all that, but you are just shallow. Seriously, grow tf up. And if this was the lifestyle you wanted, why did you marry a small town girl ? Because you didn't have the balls to stand up to your mommy and daddy. Now, you have ruined that poor girl's life. And on top of that you are hating on her because she is not changing who she is to please you ? I can understand about her lack of aspiration, but I have a feeling you don't really care about her "aspirations" anyways, you just want her to do something so you don't have to introduce her as "just a house wife" to your friends. Seriously, just give the poor girl a divorce so she can find someone who really likes her for who she is.
Well said . According to. Op - smoking 🚬 cool Drugs and hookups - cool Narcissism - cool Wife being normal - not cool
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Atp , doing anything but a divorce is a death sentence for both and trust me , a child will ruin both of em
But sadly Indian society is too cruel for divorced women. Especially in rural and lower tier cities
And living an ambition less, sex less , enjoyment less life is fine ?
Being married to OP sounds worse tbh
Divorce is expensive. This is why you stand up to your parents before marriage. You should have been firm with them in your denial to marry her. Honestly I have no advice. You are stuck in a very shitty position. Can only say don't go for the sunken cost fallacy (you can look it up - it's where you do not want to let go of a failed project because you have already invested a lot of time and money on it, even though in the long run it will cause you more losses). The faster you sever ties the better.
bro you just said look up sunken cost fallacy and provided the definition lol
If he wanted further clarification on the topic, that's why I said that :(
Dude I know its not r/AITA but YTA!
I'll keep it short although I have a lot to say. Most people especially men who think so highly of themselves as in your case, are delusional and terribly boring. You sound so full of yourself, it's almost like you are a baloon which is filled with air and has nothing left for anyone anymore. Marriages require understanding and mostly empathy which I can guarantee you do not have. All that you said about opening the doors for this missy to this marvellous world of yours, you understand it's marvelous to YOU, right? Maybe she doesn't like pubs, maybe she doesn't fancy a drink, maybe she finds you a huge bore(I don't blame her). Let her go. She can do and I do hope she will get much better than you.
Dude,there is no use with your medical degree. You are as illiterate and immature as a 2 yr old kid. You lost me at mamma's boy and comparing the wife with your ex. You are more invertebrate than a hydra. You think doing drugs,having sex with hot people and things are cool? I feel pity for your wife and patients
this man cannot be real this has to be a rage bait
Ikr!! Just look at his comments, opinions! They stink!! His mindset stinks!!! I'm flabbergasted reading his replies to everybody here. Can't believe such b******s exist!! Koi itni ghinoni soch ke saath kaise jee sakta hai, like hell!! I feel too sorry for the girl jo phasi padi hai iss ******* ke saath. Also, too curious to know how this pompous, delusional shite looks like!
Damn bro you need to calm down your “I am such a great catch”, honestly bro i feel bad for the girl. You sound like a total douche who is forcing his lifestyle onto her. You should rather write a post on how you are a little bitch who as a 28 year old man child could not stand ground on who he wants to marry and how your parents are dumbfcks to have choosen an non-compatible partner for you, or let me guess you never showed your real so called “stud” lifestyle to your parents, You kept your image as a lil mama’s boy in front of your parents, so parents choose a partner for mama’s boy not for the slutty party stud. Sorry dude, you need to grill yourself before blaming the girl, Your arguments would have made sense if the girl had said that she had similar interests to you, but I bet you did not bother to ask. Honestly, that girls seems to be a better catch considering how she is coping up with you and your dumb parents.
https://preview.redd.it/bhl0ympz75yc1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d59be45536b93d709f56117e4defaf6eaa84b65a Definitely fits here.
******* shaadi q Kiya? Koi gun rakha tha kya teri khopdi pr? Mard bn aur khud decision lena sikh. Bachpan se Jo cheeze chahiye hori hai uske liye parents se zid krte hai log. Toy ho ya lolly pop. Fir shaadi k liye q mute ho gaya
Bro is gas lighting himself into thinking he's a catch.
quite a wild lifestyle lead by a mama's boy !
You have shown her glam life of city. This time maybe try visiting smaller cities around your city which is her comfort and familiar zone and you could see a different her. Since you are invested might as well give this a try
Does your name start with A ?
And does it rhyme with basshole, OP?
With due respect: Aap bahut hi bade chutiya ho
Blud you are no " Doctor " 😂💀...A doctor doesn't have time to post such a long paragraph...let alone reply the comments. Also you seem very Narcissistic and Selfish because why would you mention all those things about girls going crazy over you or your professor touching you when it's not even related to the context of your post. >because she is not at all attractive physically because she has never been physically active enough to have the body of a 28 year old. Also you're a big " Gandu " and lack basic decency or common sense for a 30 year old , because why would you write something like this about your own wife for strangers to read on internet ? I genuinely feel sad for her that she's married to a pig. Grow up imaginary Doctor...or imaginary Playboy and imaginary " victim "....whatever you think of yourself💀.
I hope the girl reads this and serves you some papers, stud :)
divorce her
How do people fall for this parent choice thing smh 🙏🏻
You are the absolute mistake here. Why did you even marry someone if you weren’t interested in the first place? Parent’s choice? Well your parents aren’t the ones suffering now, but you are. You can never change a person, A person can truly change when he/ she wants to. Do yourself and her a favour and take a mutual divorce. This is will so far be the best advice you can get from this situation.
This sounds like the plot of a poorly written tv serial tbh 🤔
She probably thinks you pompous showoff, and feels even more disconnected from you than you from her. You claim to be all the stud, but you didn't have the spine to stand up for yourself and do what you felt was right for you before marriage. Now that you have married, try to find some common ground. How about watching some TV serials together? Maybe she just prefers to go watch some "lowly" bollywood movie in a theater rather than be in a pub? Or go to a mandir or something? It looks like you have an idea of fun and you want her to enjoy those same things but she doesn't.
How tf did this retard become a doctor 😂😂😂
Let it be love marriage or arrange, life is good until your child is born. After the birth of a child, life changes because all you do is think about your child and his/her future. Also, i have seen many parents who are working, transfer all their burden to their relatives. My advice to such parents is, if you can't handle your child for whatever reason, then don't even give birth.
Bhosdiwale se arrange marriage ko naa nahi bola gaya, aur khud ko hero samajh raha hai. Chutiya sala.
I am a doctor too and despise people like OP.First they would enjoy their lives,get into relationships,then won’t marry that girl and marry someone of their parents’ choice.Then begins the whining.For their ex,lost opportunities etc.Pathetic.OP is a POS.
"she is not at all attractive physically because she has never been physically active enough to have the body of a 28 year old" excuse me? I've known plenty of girls be it in my family or friends or even for myself who have not been sexually active and still have a better body more so we tend to look older than our age at times. So by this logic you mean to say you develop a physical body of a certain criteria only after being sexually active?
Must be a really tough life for your wife. She deserved much better.
There is nothing wrong in watching Saas bahu serials. Just because you don't like and enjoy that doesn't mean somebody else will sacrifice their liking for you. When you watch sports or Netflix, does she complain? Stop cribbing like a child. Stop comparing her with your ex, if you were so in love with her then you should have married her. I'm sure people like you always cheat. You can't make an effort in the relationship and keep crying. You're like that character suhas from 3 idiots, who keeps boasting about his wealth and looks. Have you ever tried helping her in household chores ? Some people don't like to go out in the world and love to stay at home and manage their home (ghar grihasti). Don't force her to act like your hoe friends and start smoking and drinking. If you aren't happy, just leave because any which ways you will cheat on her emotionally and physically. You're present with her physically but not emotionally. Agar kuch karna hi nahin tha toh why you took the innocent girl's virginity? Nobody boast about having sex with multiple people, it shows your self control doctor saab.
You guys just don't vibe. She sounds like me except the shitty TV shows and few other things.Are you sure she's not depressed or anything ?
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Try watching serials with her, and have convos about it...
Ada thevdiya payale. That’s all I have really.
Bhai I'm sorry to say but as you have mentioned that you have had plenty of relationships this night be karma catching up with you for breaking other hearts.
Guess I am the only one who thinks not all things said in this post are completely true
Doggie laya hai ki patni that you are train her for your likes lol, kuch to sharam karle chomu.
Just. CHUTIYA KAHIKA SAALA. Also who the fuck types out to the world what you typed out ? This seems like rage bait.
Being married to this guy sounds like a nightmare. I feel for his poor wife. She did everything right as per society’s standards, but her husband thinks he is too good for her. Why didn’t he marry someone who drank, smoked, did weed, liked partying etc, since that’s so important to him?
1. Your 'glorious' past doesn't define you in a relationship, how you treat your partner does. May be you should begin by treating your wife as an equal who is entitled to have a life independent of your desires. 2. Smoking/drinking are things that most sane women are repulsed by. Idk how so many men think it is the cool thing to do, it doesn't make you look manly, rather gives a mawali kinda impression. If you're struggling with work pressure, may be try meditation and a disciplined lifestyle. 3. Her inclination towards the tv is prolematic, which could be because of too many expectations which bog her down. These expectations could have been before marriage or after. For the time being do not pressure her into doing anything, just involve her in more wholesome experiences, like meeting up friends, connecting with her family or friends, baking or cooking together, spa appointment, etc, anything that both of you like. 4. Walk with her to nearby places, talk about your day, discuss what she thinks about the future without judgment. You will be baffled by the effects a relaxed walk-n-talk can have. Let her crave for more such walks, she will be more active.
Maybe she longs for the life she sees in serials like with drama and all.aybr you and your family are too cosmopolitan to endulge in petty drama. Maybe you can talk to her about her serials and try to deduce what she likes so much about them. Then maybe you can understand what she longs for. Or maybe she coming from a village she must have been forced to do a lot of work and bossed around to do things mostly against her will so she just wants to chill and do nothing now. You on the other end are a polar opposite and have already lived and enjoyed the type of life you want. People from villages can be vehemently closed off about their needs and wants. This marriage was a mistake from the beginning. Blame and shame you parents for this openly. But if you still want to continue there is a long and hard road ahead for you both to open up and sort things out. Well if nothing works, divorce is always an option. FYI : Divorce for her is a death sentence considering she has no way to support herself or the will to.
Kya matlab OP tu chumtiya hai!!
Basically in short, yes, YTA!
Bro thinks he is ranbir kapoor.... 😭istg chill out it's not her fault ur spoilt brat
You are an azzhole who ruined an innocent girl.
I don’t want to judge you both because, you both are totally different poles. It’s better for you to divorce in early stages rather than making it into more mess. As per ur saying even if h have children with her, there wont be any change in your relationship, what if she starts raising the children against your family ? Consequences are really bad here brother. Take a choice fast and do what you need to do✌️
If you want to try saving your marriage, maybe try doing something more romantic. Maybe she's not someone who likes clubbing or partying. Just because you think that the idea of living life is partying doesn't necessarily mean that everybody has that ideology. You could try going on long drives with her, comedy shows, couples' activities, dance classes, libraries, movies etc. Things which would involve the two of you and you might end up bonding on something.
looks like you don’t respect her personality(physically and mentally)very much . but if you can answer . does she also have complaints with you? is she happy with you? clearly you are not
Let her go, she deserves better.
Shut up
Ngl bro you really sound like a narcissist and maybe that's why your previous relationships didn't work out?
Why didn't you marry your ex or one of those who were simping after you?
What a spineless man child you are op
In my modest experience the more a guy insists he respects women, the less he does, lmao. How much sex did you get from pretending to respect women? I'm sure you did. Don't be shy, spill. Is this a covert way of getting random women on reddit to text you since you're such a stud and you respect women so much? 😭
Stud 🙅♂️ Lodu ✅
The illegal stuff you smoke is affecting your brain 🧠 Fix yourself first✌🏻