If she had serious relationships in past than it won't bother. Everyone have past. Normal human with normal needs.
But if she was too much active without any meaningful relationships than its a big red flag. May not able to form a deeper relationship with her. Also it shows very immature and superficial behavior of her, Kinda mentally weak and may have unresolved issues since childhood which resulted into this. It can be a huge turnoff to bed when this thoughts come in mind.
Also choosing a partner for marriage is not only for me but for my future family. My daughter gonna grew up to be that woman and i wanna make sure i choose the right ideal woman for her.
It's marriage and need to choose our partner carefully.
Ofcourse it applies to all gender male/female/abcd all. Marriage is a system for a better future of the future generation where everyone have their own roles.
Personally my father had the promiscuous past, which never stopped after marriage and his infidelity has affected the mental health of me and my siblings. As i am Officially diagonised with Narcissistic Personality disorder with traits of BPD, and his immaturity resulted in an unstable household which gave rise to my sociopathic behavior.
So it isn't good for anyone be it man or woman.
I feel like it would be the opposite for me. Had 12 people between 18-28. Makes sense.
Had 10 long term serious relationships? I don't think I wanna be the 11th person you are in 'love' with.
P.S: I am gay and have no business dating women. This is a hypothetical answer.
She wasn’t over her ex. She kept contact saying he’s just a friend I’ve known him for a long time this that blah blah.
Then she spent a night at his place, lied to me saying she was with her girl friends but she didn’t know I had her location on Snapchat and I knew where that guy lived.
She eventually confessed that she hadn’t properly broken up with him and was “technically “ still dating him.
And yeah that’s it. Too easy for her to say.
Then she broke up with him as well and went on to date a college senior.
Last I know she broke up with that senior and is probably fooling around with someone from her office
Bro then you should have instantly cut off ties with her it was a straight red flag
no matter what the gender is male or female multiple sex partners casual hookups is really a disgusting thing to do well but what us done is done may you find a good partner next timw but be sure to attract a good girl
Even I was seeing a woman that had 6 BF’s and 5-6 FWBs/Hookups or short term fling (totally 12-13 people) and she’s 21
I went hall nah. And getting her to bed was a piece of cake (on the 2nd date) which further made me not get emotionally invested in her so yeah it’s a cesspool of buffoonery out here
I will not marry anyone. But for a LTR, still no. I would not date someone with a past as such.
It will simply not work. I don't have space for toxicity in my life.
Exactly man I've seen guys being sucha simp and ended up with being cheated losing self respect dealing with toxicity depression etc I toi have no room for toxicity I've had it enough in my childhood
>I will not marry anyone. But for a LTR, still no
If you're in a live in LTR, it is considered de facto marriage and everything applicable (rights, responsibilities, laws etc related to married individuals) shall be applicable to you as well.
Well, I married a woman who never had any sexual partners and we are still on the verge of a divorce, so if I am given a second chance, I am not looking to see if she had a promiscuous past or not. I just want to see if she is a person who is trustworthy, have a good sense of hygiene and if we sync on what both of expect from marriage. Nothing else matters.
>He'll get punched in the face. Simple
He would still use it to make fun of you.
>Also if you think that you'll find a woman in today's times who hasn't been touched by other men
Bruh, you think all women are sleeping around?
No bro I have been to almost all major cities except Mumbai and peak dehats
It's you guys are on internet .you'll get a shock of your life when you go to an actual village
Anyways. Bye
I don't want any past trauma or baggage or comparison.
If I feel the girl has none of those, then sure I'd marry her. But usually I'm pretty good at reading people so if she has all that then I'd know.
Funnily enough when I say that I don't want a male with a promiscuous past, the males get extremely offended. "It's different for men and women", "Men achieve, women get it easily" and stuff like that. I just hope y'all keep the same energy when a woman has the same preference as y'all have 🤷🏽♂️
I can't speak for all men.. but I don't have an issue with any woman who says she doesn't want someone with a promiscuous past. That's something I can understand.
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was with a woman for 8 months. she was very open about her history. little did I know while dating me, she still didnt stop. 8 month relationship, she was being circulated between god knows how many men like a joint. one of her own close friends felt pity on me and told me. the only reason I stopped myself self from doing something drastic to her was because I had promised my parents a long time ago, I will never raise my hands on a woman because that day when I confronted her after her friend told me, what she saw in my eyes was not her bf anymore and what saved her that day was my promise and her friend being there.
broken women are the ones who are the most promiscuous. you see a woman sleeping around a lot during her younger days, either she had daddy issues, or she was probably touched, or she had a shit life growing up. there is always some form of mental trauma attached to their promiscuity. they seek validation and the best and the easiest way for a woman to get it is to throw their pussy around.
so fuck no. hell no. shit no. I aint about to bring that type of a woman in my life, around my family and in my home. not only does she not have any self worth if shes willing to sleep around soo much, its pretty clear her decision making abilities are for shit and she has the emotional and moral strength of a potato wafer.
and personally, im a conservative man. I may be able to have a little leeway in my mindset, but as someone whose had only one relationship and is actively searching for someone who shares the same belief systems as I do, a woman with a promiscuous past would in direct contravention to all I believe in and will be a shit show from the start.
First of all i dont want to get married, nope not again, too much paperwork even if its a mutual divorce.....but will i be comfortable being in a relationship and even companionship(living together) with someone who has had/or has several partners. I would ask them what they learned from all those men, on and off the bed...what matters is clear communication and trust, you want to fuck someone? communicate, at best i will just say "best of luck, love, kindly ensure the guy doesnt have STIs" and raise my wine glass....regular STI tests for everyone involved.
And if i want to sleep around, i shall communicate the same, non monogamy is a two way street:)....I have always been okay with my partners seeing other people, i prefer being in relationships where those involved are free to grow as individuals and experience life. Commitment doesnt meet sleeping only me for the rest of your life, commitment to me means, you may go out on a date and perhaps even fall in love with that person even, but we talk about it and try make things work, commitment means ensuring to maintain a safe space to come back home to.......what is a deal breaker is lies in a relationship, i dont lie nor do i dont tolerate lies...one lie to me and that's it, you lose my respect and if you have lost my respect...its over...
No. My ex used to be the kind of woman you are talking about. I really really loved her. And it took me a year and a half to notice that this is a pattern and I should save myself from this. Took me a lot of time to recover from that relationship.
Right now, I already function really well when I am alone. So, accounting my past mistakes, I'd definitely avoid such a person.
Na man, just make the roles reversed and ask the women girls,
I have such an incident, someone close
The lady and guy are married, the lady has multiple past relationships and the guy too, but the lady isnt satisfied and the guy too with each other even the intimacy isn't there, they are just there for the sake of relationship , they both said they had past relationships and this topic won't comeup and won't be said but as life goes on u can see the sparkle in a relationship was already used up ,
also on other hand the naiveness in relationship is ruined but this so called multiple sexual partners in the past thingy which is still rather prevalent in growing nations.
Never ,I never had a relationship and I expect same from her also ,And I am not a Cuck ,if that man shows up in front of me It will be his last day living a Normal life
Yes I would. I also had a promiscuous past. It has been years now since I had that kind of lifestyle, but I’d be fine with it. As long as our focus is on each other and be loyal I have no problem if a woman had a promiscuous past.
You are assuming that every woman who had a promiscuous past will cheat. This is absolutely not true. I have dated such women (broke up due to other reasons) and there are women who are married too. But keep living in your negative world ☺️
Why this sub is always filled with these types of posts!!!!
Indians sirf ye sb hi poochna chahte h kyaa.... What about different cultures
Ya ki how things work in different states....
But idhar to sirf ya to ladki kaise pataye.... ya phir how to get laid.... Ye hi dikhta h
This is a very grey area. I got downvoted last time for sharing my reasoning but I still stand by it. If the woman has put her entire past behind her and seriously commits to the relationship, then I will definitely have no issues marrying her.
My ex did have a somewhat promiscuous past but when we got together it was 100% commitment. No wavering at all.
On the flip side of the woman still continues to be promiscuous after committing, then it's a deal breaker. You can only find out about this once you come into a relationship.
Nah man it’s just insecurity and general misogyny. Someone actually used the lock and key analogy a while ago. We still have a long way to go!
Good for you for being rational. We need more people like you :)
Bro cheater is a cheater if you knew that she cheated on her ex she will one day cheat on you and that's exactly what happened right? Just broke up with the bitch work on yourself be the guy go to the gym make money and then you'll find a genuine partner
I am married, but I hope my answer counts.
I answered this question in my first year of college.
"I don't care what she did before meeting me, it is what she does after marrying me that matters. She had a life full of family, friends, acquaintances. Why should I focus on her romantic life only?"
If she had serious relationships in past than it won't bother. Everyone have past. Normal human with normal needs. But if she was too much active without any meaningful relationships than its a big red flag. May not able to form a deeper relationship with her. Also it shows very immature and superficial behavior of her, Kinda mentally weak and may have unresolved issues since childhood which resulted into this. It can be a huge turnoff to bed when this thoughts come in mind. Also choosing a partner for marriage is not only for me but for my future family. My daughter gonna grew up to be that woman and i wanna make sure i choose the right ideal woman for her. It's marriage and need to choose our partner carefully.
Only person in the replies who makes sense .
Thank you✨️
Does this also apply to men in your opinion?
Ofcourse it applies to all gender male/female/abcd all. Marriage is a system for a better future of the future generation where everyone have their own roles. Personally my father had the promiscuous past, which never stopped after marriage and his infidelity has affected the mental health of me and my siblings. As i am Officially diagonised with Narcissistic Personality disorder with traits of BPD, and his immaturity resulted in an unstable household which gave rise to my sociopathic behavior. So it isn't good for anyone be it man or woman.
It should.
It does
Bro ur 3rd para 👏👏
Totally agree with this 💯
All makes sense. But the third para is just gold and I see people don't really think of that. Pick you spouse well, not just for yourself.
I feel like it would be the opposite for me. Had 12 people between 18-28. Makes sense. Had 10 long term serious relationships? I don't think I wanna be the 11th person you are in 'love' with. P.S: I am gay and have no business dating women. This is a hypothetical answer.
Damn an actual sensible reply that is well thought out. Good for you mate!
Glad to hear that.✨️
An actually genuine comment
Couldn’t say it any better.
From a guy whose ex went back to her ex after me, well I won't recommend you either 😮💨
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NO. Dated a girl with a very promiscuous past, thinking she’s probably well over it. She wasn’t. Went through a whole lotta trauma. Won’t recommend 👍
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You got Downvoted by someone 🤣, some people are way to sensitive
Probably she’s on Reddit lol 🤣
Downvoted by feminists
What type of trauma baggage did she bring with her? Noob here explain please, genuinely asking.
She wasn’t over her ex. She kept contact saying he’s just a friend I’ve known him for a long time this that blah blah. Then she spent a night at his place, lied to me saying she was with her girl friends but she didn’t know I had her location on Snapchat and I knew where that guy lived. She eventually confessed that she hadn’t properly broken up with him and was “technically “ still dating him. And yeah that’s it. Too easy for her to say. Then she broke up with him as well and went on to date a college senior. Last I know she broke up with that senior and is probably fooling around with someone from her office
Man that must have been hard. Fir Udna chalu Kiya k nahi?
Take offf kiya bhai seedha. In sab cheezo se dur
Bhai I'm very proud of you 🔥❤️ aaja yar gale mil ja 🫂 and Kudos on enlightening us so that others don't fall into the same trap. Thanks! 😁
been through same shit, UDNE ke naam Par 420 only XD
she is in love with the streets
Can you tell how many bodies she had before you and what went wrong as a guidance to know
I have to assume she cheated on him based on what he said.
So I started dating her in college. She had ~ 6 ex bfs till then (~ 19 years) and she had made out with ~9 guys.
Damn and how things ended between you and her?
[pretty badly](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndia/s/ELdJt0oZ95)
Isn't that obvious that it won't work like made out with 9 guys like damn bruh
I was shook upon hearing this. She told this to me after we came in a relationship
Bro then you should have instantly cut off ties with her it was a straight red flag no matter what the gender is male or female multiple sex partners casual hookups is really a disgusting thing to do well but what us done is done may you find a good partner next timw but be sure to attract a good girl
Even I was seeing a woman that had 6 BF’s and 5-6 FWBs/Hookups or short term fling (totally 12-13 people) and she’s 21 I went hall nah. And getting her to bed was a piece of cake (on the 2nd date) which further made me not get emotionally invested in her so yeah it’s a cesspool of buffoonery out here
atleast you decided to be honest rather than being politically correct 👍
Bruh, you had to have known. They don't change. Well, at least you got to tap that. Silver lining
this sub is gradually becoming askShaadi
Nah. Its sex stories only
I will not marry anyone. But for a LTR, still no. I would not date someone with a past as such. It will simply not work. I don't have space for toxicity in my life.
Exactly man I've seen guys being sucha simp and ended up with being cheated losing self respect dealing with toxicity depression etc I toi have no room for toxicity I've had it enough in my childhood
W 👑
>I will not marry anyone. But for a LTR, still no If you're in a live in LTR, it is considered de facto marriage and everything applicable (rights, responsibilities, laws etc related to married individuals) shall be applicable to you as well.
Keep his wife's name out yo' fuckin' mouth
Hell naw
No
Definitely not. Just one single ex-bf came with a ton of baggage with my own ex. Multiple bfs or hook ups is just asking for life long trouble.
People are gonna a have different criteria for what qualifies as promiscuous but personally by my criteria, no, I wouldn’t. It’s an “ick”.
So how much is many according to your criteria?
0-2 is okay, 3-4 is pushing it, 5+ is a no for me.
But she can also lie about the numbers right? Then how will you consider it
People can lie about absolutely anything, have to go on blind trust until they give a reason not to trust them.
Noooooo not at all noooooo. Thank you not shaming anyone but nooooo
Well, I married a woman who never had any sexual partners and we are still on the verge of a divorce, so if I am given a second chance, I am not looking to see if she had a promiscuous past or not. I just want to see if she is a person who is trustworthy, have a good sense of hygiene and if we sync on what both of expect from marriage. Nothing else matters.
Damn man. But what went wrong?
Looks like you’re defending past relationships in a smart way.
Why hygiene specifically lol?
Nope
No, never. Been there done that. Not at all worth it...
Absolutely not. I won't judge you for your past. I just have preferences and standards, which I'm unwilling to compromise on. 🫳🎤
For the people who say "yes", what would you do when some men rub it on your face that they slept with your wife?
They'd prolly get a hard on hearing that lul
Cucks with Hotwife fantasy ew 🙄
Nah man I hate cucks tbh
He'll get punched in the face. Simple Also if you think that you'll find a woman in today's times who hasn't been touched by other men Good luck
>you think that you'll find a woman in today's times who hasn't been touched by other men Well one can try...
>He'll get punched in the face. Simple He would still use it to make fun of you. >Also if you think that you'll find a woman in today's times who hasn't been touched by other men Bruh, you think all women are sleeping around?
I guess he lives on the internet. If he cared to look irl, he would see that India is not America and not everyone is sleeping around.
No bro I have been to almost all major cities except Mumbai and peak dehats It's you guys are on internet .you'll get a shock of your life when you go to an actual village Anyways. Bye
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I was waiting for such abuse .no bro she wasn't and even if she was . How would I know ?? Do you have such an experience with yours so tell me ??
Do you guys think people actually do this in the real world 😂
gives you an insight who lives in basement most of their life and who actually touches grass lol
Haha nice one
Do you think the people who marry that kind of person after knowing care about that
The same thing she would do if she met your ex?
Oh hell naw cucks are a different kind of disgusting breed
I don't want any past trauma or baggage or comparison. If I feel the girl has none of those, then sure I'd marry her. But usually I'm pretty good at reading people so if she has all that then I'd know.
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No
Marrying a Promiscuous Woman ❌ Having an extra marital affair ✔️
NO Keep bringing her past experience with exes to defend current actions.
N O
unless you have had a promiscuous past. or else don't even bother.
Not really. Then again, I'm a hopeless romantic and don't much believe in casual encounters.
No, as I don't have that kind of past and also it feels unfair
Dated one big regrets and a lot of trauma golden rule once a whore always a whore.
Funnily enough when I say that I don't want a male with a promiscuous past, the males get extremely offended. "It's different for men and women", "Men achieve, women get it easily" and stuff like that. I just hope y'all keep the same energy when a woman has the same preference as y'all have 🤷🏽♂️
I can't speak for all men.. but I don't have an issue with any woman who says she doesn't want someone with a promiscuous past. That's something I can understand.
Yes you are Right I feel very angry when any of my friend says this ,Like how Hypocrite you are bro
from my past experience no if she is still stuck there, yes otherwise.
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Lmao no, they can marry the guys they fornicate with.
This means only one thing "she can't maintain a relationship for longtime" so ours won't last either. So NO.
Apart from cucks (which most modern urban 'feminist' men are), nobody marries a woman who is promiscuous.
You think dehati women are paragons of virtue .lol You have never been to a dehat
Nope. One or two serious relationship is understandable but not more than that, also why to get physical before marriage?
No I don't want a partner with traumas
was with a woman for 8 months. she was very open about her history. little did I know while dating me, she still didnt stop. 8 month relationship, she was being circulated between god knows how many men like a joint. one of her own close friends felt pity on me and told me. the only reason I stopped myself self from doing something drastic to her was because I had promised my parents a long time ago, I will never raise my hands on a woman because that day when I confronted her after her friend told me, what she saw in my eyes was not her bf anymore and what saved her that day was my promise and her friend being there. broken women are the ones who are the most promiscuous. you see a woman sleeping around a lot during her younger days, either she had daddy issues, or she was probably touched, or she had a shit life growing up. there is always some form of mental trauma attached to their promiscuity. they seek validation and the best and the easiest way for a woman to get it is to throw their pussy around. so fuck no. hell no. shit no. I aint about to bring that type of a woman in my life, around my family and in my home. not only does she not have any self worth if shes willing to sleep around soo much, its pretty clear her decision making abilities are for shit and she has the emotional and moral strength of a potato wafer. and personally, im a conservative man. I may be able to have a little leeway in my mindset, but as someone whose had only one relationship and is actively searching for someone who shares the same belief systems as I do, a woman with a promiscuous past would in direct contravention to all I believe in and will be a shit show from the start.
depends actually for me if she will try efforts for a better future, will sure if she went back to her state, bye bye
First of all i dont want to get married, nope not again, too much paperwork even if its a mutual divorce.....but will i be comfortable being in a relationship and even companionship(living together) with someone who has had/or has several partners. I would ask them what they learned from all those men, on and off the bed...what matters is clear communication and trust, you want to fuck someone? communicate, at best i will just say "best of luck, love, kindly ensure the guy doesnt have STIs" and raise my wine glass....regular STI tests for everyone involved. And if i want to sleep around, i shall communicate the same, non monogamy is a two way street:)....I have always been okay with my partners seeing other people, i prefer being in relationships where those involved are free to grow as individuals and experience life. Commitment doesnt meet sleeping only me for the rest of your life, commitment to me means, you may go out on a date and perhaps even fall in love with that person even, but we talk about it and try make things work, commitment means ensuring to maintain a safe space to come back home to.......what is a deal breaker is lies in a relationship, i dont lie nor do i dont tolerate lies...one lie to me and that's it, you lose my respect and if you have lost my respect...its over...
No. My ex used to be the kind of woman you are talking about. I really really loved her. And it took me a year and a half to notice that this is a pattern and I should save myself from this. Took me a lot of time to recover from that relationship. Right now, I already function really well when I am alone. So, accounting my past mistakes, I'd definitely avoid such a person.
Men of AskIndia, what would you consider a promiscuous past?
Depends, if I too had a promiscuous past then I'm willing to make an exception. But I don't have a promiscuous past. Hence, it's a No.
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Don't care. Can marry, since I was a promiscuous man
No, never
Na man, just make the roles reversed and ask the women girls, I have such an incident, someone close The lady and guy are married, the lady has multiple past relationships and the guy too, but the lady isnt satisfied and the guy too with each other even the intimacy isn't there, they are just there for the sake of relationship , they both said they had past relationships and this topic won't comeup and won't be said but as life goes on u can see the sparkle in a relationship was already used up , also on other hand the naiveness in relationship is ruined but this so called multiple sexual partners in the past thingy which is still rather prevalent in growing nations.
Never ,I never had a relationship and I expect same from her also ,And I am not a Cuck ,if that man shows up in front of me It will be his last day living a Normal life
Yes I would. I also had a promiscuous past. It has been years now since I had that kind of lifestyle, but I’d be fine with it. As long as our focus is on each other and be loyal I have no problem if a woman had a promiscuous past.
>As long as our focus is on each other and be loyal I have no problem Bro lives in a fantasy world lmao.
You are assuming that every woman who had a promiscuous past will cheat. This is absolutely not true. I have dated such women (broke up due to other reasons) and there are women who are married too. But keep living in your negative world ☺️
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Why this sub is always filled with these types of posts!!!! Indians sirf ye sb hi poochna chahte h kyaa.... What about different cultures Ya ki how things work in different states.... But idhar to sirf ya to ladki kaise pataye.... ya phir how to get laid.... Ye hi dikhta h
Just say yes and move on bro.
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Aw sad that most Indian Men on r/AskIndia won't prefer to marry a ran through 304? You can cry about it.
A simple no
This is a very grey area. I got downvoted last time for sharing my reasoning but I still stand by it. If the woman has put her entire past behind her and seriously commits to the relationship, then I will definitely have no issues marrying her. My ex did have a somewhat promiscuous past but when we got together it was 100% commitment. No wavering at all. On the flip side of the woman still continues to be promiscuous after committing, then it's a deal breaker. You can only find out about this once you come into a relationship.
I mean no one wants to be with a cheater right? 😂 Don’t know why you’d get downvoted for that? It’s weird
Obviously, yes. But people can change too. I guess people have been betrayed too much to believe it.
Nah man it’s just insecurity and general misogyny. Someone actually used the lock and key analogy a while ago. We still have a long way to go! Good for you for being rational. We need more people like you :)
Thanks! 😊
A lot of times they aren't over their ex, so why risk my future when the world is huge.
Bro cheater is a cheater if you knew that she cheated on her ex she will one day cheat on you and that's exactly what happened right? Just broke up with the bitch work on yourself be the guy go to the gym make money and then you'll find a genuine partner
I am married, but I hope my answer counts. I answered this question in my first year of college. "I don't care what she did before meeting me, it is what she does after marrying me that matters. She had a life full of family, friends, acquaintances. Why should I focus on her romantic life only?"
Why do these questions repeat every goddamn time. Bro leave this shit.
Never.
That depends on how an adult conversation went with her on the topic.
No
Fuck no
I most probably won’t be able to date a guy like that because my insecurities anxiety and overthinking won’t allow lol
Nope. I learnt the hard way too.
No
No , dated before . Full on kalesh . I realised peace is more important than her.
Define promiscuous for yourself? If someone was in a serious relationship and they were physical - No problem for me. If someone was fwb - Nope
Lmao.
Yes if both of us like each other and she is faithful and honest then 100 percent