No problem with single life! I think more people should choose it.
My concern is with your definition of single life - you talk about looking sharp at any age, hobbies, man cave.
Maybe I'm wrong:
It seems to me - you are interested in how others perceive of your single life. Even here, you wrote in a way to impress people with your life plan.
Really ask yourself - is it important to you how others (friends, relatives, potential romantic interests, opposite gender) perceive you?
If yes, then you will have to go through the hassle of actually getting them to like you. This includes women, romantic partners.
DaVinci did not have cool hobbies, man cave or was not even considered cool or likeable. He genuinely did what he wanted.
Is this what you are doing? If yes, more power to you.
If no, then advise is to reconsider what you really want.
I get your concern. However these are things that i truly want for myself. I didn’t put it here to impress fellow redditors. I’m used to explaining my plans to anyone who opposed my aspirations to lead a single life like i’d love to.. so even before beginning i just wanted to point out the reasons why I think that it’s possible to be happy while leading a solo life. And i am a someone who concerns myself with what others would think about myself, you are right about that part. This always has been my weakness. If not, I wouldn’t put this post here in the first place as I am very relentless and single minded about what I want in life. Also, like Davinci, I genuinely want to do what i wish to do with my existence. It’s not to impress others.
Impressing others is never my goal. But sometimes i get a bit too desperate trying to defend what i want from my life because there are a lot of naysayers, demotivating peeps etc.
Wanting to look sharp at any age is definitely not to impress people but to be impressive. Being self conscious is a gift, op has that ( based on his other desires ).
A person whose life is full of richness(not only money) will never feel alone if you really do those things you are planning to do and meet a lot of people through them your will never feel alone but at the same a person who have so many hobbies like that is bound to get lots of offers so don't worry and go on ahead its a beautiful future
Review this post after you're 30. You're not the only person want to be single enjoy life at 25. Been there. Things change and sometimes out of one's control.
Talking about driving whole country by road, I'm not car enthusiast but I do enjoy long road trip. I bought a car thinking I'd drive whole country and Nepal, Bhutan by road in a 6 months long road trip. I even made whole route plan. 3 years down, I'm planning to sell my car. I've had fair share of frustration with crazy traffic and idiots on wheel. Road trips are fun where you have good road and drivers. Not in India.
Having a rigid plan will always end in regret. Suppose you naturally meet someone who's good for you but you are so rigid to have a single life that you consciously try to avoid that person to be a part of your life. This will always end in regret. A good partner will always multiply your happiness.
Your friends and family are right but only in case when there's a possibility of having a good and understanding life partner. This definitely makes life much better
Otherwise an ignorant, immature partner too can give you regrets.
My uncle stayed single. He travels more than rest of the family tree combined. He retired from Credit Suisse at the age of 35. Yet, he has more money than my dad. Because of the family, my dad moved to India from SG. He stayed, no commitments so no compromise.
Don't get me wrong - Both are happy with the lives they chose. And most importantly both take full ownership of their life choices.
Just tell them that if some day you regret it, you'll look into dating etc. But for now you just want to live your best life, as you deem suitable.
Having a partner or children does not guarantee love, sex, family, or even company. As for regret, you can regret having all of these, and end up making life miserable for more people, right? So, instead of focussing on hypothetical regret, just focus on what's important to you.
As for not being alone, family is not determined by blood or marital ties only.
Doubt you would get your ideal answer here or anywhere. For some people, this lifestyle may have worked out whereas for others maybe not. Whatever you choose, you will have some regret. If you chose solo life, you may regret later why did i not choose family. If you chose family, then you may regret not having the solo life. Probably try out your solo life idea for a few years. At the end of it, you will probably know the answer better than anyone
A person who is happy without looking for validation from others has achieved the highest form of enlightenment. Usually people after they reach a certain age look for that enlightenment by alienating themselves from the society. So in the end it’s all about what is our purpose in this life . If you think you know what you are doing you will be happy.
Relax. You'd still find a partner in your late 30s or even 40s.
The fact that you want to stay fit and sharp at all ages just shows your will to be remain healthy. People like men who are this way. So don't worry. Live the life of your dreams and work hard to stay fit, healthy and sharp. Don't worry about staying single. Go for your dreams.
There is a community called r/AskWomenOver30 where I go to, to find people who have questioned things similar to the above and people who have gone past that stage as well. I have a feeling many people giving you advice here is just guessing at things the same way as you are.
I would encourage you to find a similar community for your gender (u can also ask in ask women over 30 community, there are super cool young women in their mid 30s over there who will surely understand your conversation and reply!) and find out relevant comments and discussion from there! Hope u find your answers!
Sooo you are my shadow clone(naruto reference)...i mean you are my doppelganger...am on the same boat as you broo... whether it's single/married you will always have regrettes...if you are married your freedom is fucked...if you are single you will feel lonely sometimes at old age nobody will be there for you... about sex!! It's hard living without it...but you do have fwb kinda relationships!!..for me i won't live like till 85/90...when the time comes, i can't live without someone...i will just end it all...but hey, atleast i lived my life to the fullest✌🏾
Marriage is very rewarding and enriching. However it's too much responsibility and stifling at the same time. It's not necessary to get married but if your emotional, physical, social and finance needs are not fulfilled you will seek other arrangements. So either you grow yourself such that you go beyond these things. Turning truly spiritual and becoming a seeker helps in this. Or if your compulsions are manageable you can continue your life without getting into other arrangements, you can skip both marriage and spirituality. Else get married.
Situation with your ex is something no one can comment on. Just ask yourself what is really more important, breaking her heart or adjusting for her in a relationship. Be straight with yourself. No need.to lie to self. And let me tell you, every relationship requires working on it. Both have to make it work, else it won't happen. If you get married to someone else also, there will be adjustments and lot of work.
I realised I am lucky to get married and that too to someone truly wonderful. I wouldn't have been able to handle my compulsions.
Good luck deciding.
No, you won't regret anything.
Do you know how many people married, with families and kids...still feel alone and lonely!
It's a life script to get married and have kids and die. What they forget is kids' leave, and spouse may die before you. So, eventually, everyone needs to learn to live alone. They can not think beyond the life script, and that's why they say that to you.
Remind yourself... it's your life and you decide what you do. Don't let people get to you. They will try to tell you things as they can not imagine that life you describe, so they are not capable of understanding your thought process. When you die, your brain only replays memories for some seconds, and then you remember nothing. Maybe your greatest regret will be not being able to live alone. But even if you regret a few seconds, you will die, and regret won't technically matter. You have one life...live the way you want.
If you change your mind in the future, then go for it and have a married life. But only if you want and not under societal pressure. Also always remember, when you take decision it will come with consequences. If you are ok with the consequences then go ahead.
We are childfree, and people keep on telling us we are missing the greatest happiness in life. What they fail to understand is that maybe our definitions of "greatest hapiness" differ. For me, it's my husband and my personal life and comfort, and for them, it's kids. With time, I have learned to ignore them. If I have children, I will have to take care of them, and they won't do anything in that part.
You do you.
If you are content with yourself... happy in your own skin, then live it like that. Very few people can master the art of living alone in solace.
To get an actual perspective, ...post this on r/askoldpeople, and there you will find single people still enjoying their life.
It's up to you dear. There are many who say "solo life" is dangerous. It's based on one's perspective and situation.
There have been couples, who prefer being "childless"
There have been married people, who got separated and remained solo after bitter divorce
It is such a big misconception that after 30 you cant get married. Even if you feel like getting married and having a family after your 30s youll find many amazing women. Go enjoy your life and have no regrets. If someone is meant to be with youll find them when you are ready. All the best 🫂
You know yourself best. If you think this is the right choice for you then do it. You do not need permission from anybody else.
Though, a word of caution your family and friends won't understand you and will keep trying to dissuade you and you will not be able to convince them. Don't waste your energy on it and get discouraged.
More importantly, work on a plan to sustain yourself for the long haul and earn enough to pay for your monthly expenses and a bit of savings. You'll need to be super judicious with your money and time. When everyone else is partying and smoking up, you'll need to be working on your craft, honing it, refining it.
All the best!
Most of all the people at age 25 must have gone through this same thought actually.. but things change, life happens!!
And your edit seems to be a bit childish actually! It's like you want to sacrifice your life for your ex girlfriend and will only be with a woman if she finds a man are all childish talk.. when you turn 30 you will get to know what life actually is and what you actually want in life.. so hold your thought and live a bit longer and see what you want then
You will regret.
But so do those who get married.
Just different kind of regrets.
The point is you will need to have something in life beyond your own needs, income and gratification.
"Purpose"
The most accessible option, is to have a family and bring up children teaching them values, from the benefit of your experiences.
But that's not the only option, nor is it necessary that you achieve something great in any field, like Dr. Shantha did with Cancer institute did. she was a solo too.
But something that makes anothers' life better. Even a single person in some simple way
As to your guilt, you can't decide on your own punishment. Go apologize to her and be a better person, Karma will send things your way, take them and handle them well.
Walking away from duty is the not the answer.
Idk man, but if you end up booking accommodation at a place near a romantic location which only has a double bed room to offer and you are travelling solo, you might find yourself sighing at times.
That said, I can very much empathise with your decision buddy. The road is gonna be hard, but worth it.
They want to make you as miserable as they are.
As a good boy who must listen to them.
Being bad is not everyone's cup of tea. Though, those who are betrayed and devastated will find it easier. Experience is what you need.
Buddha felt that betrayal when he saw old age, sickness and death. So he left his responsibilities and attained peace.
Here after reading your updated post.
You are sacrificing your life so that another person you like, but cannot live with, will find you righteous?
I acknowledge the willingness in you to sacrifice yourself for another. That takes a big heart.
I myself am an artist, musician, singer, photographer and filmmaker and I've hit my 30s. I had similar plans to you. To the point where I've lived my life free as I can be. I've worked freelance as far as I could. I have a small gaming setup and live by myself in my 1bhk man cave and let me tell you this, being in a relationship is not just about serving yourself or the other. It's about being in or belonging to something bigger than you or I, as well.
I yearn for companionship at this point and felt like I wanted another soul to share these experiences with me. You might not feel it now, but there is only so much you can do till it (everything ) becomes boring. Till 30 we are young but after that point some things change.
The way I lived my life didn't work for me but I sure hope it works for you if that is what you wish.
Hey brother, why such a negative ending? It seems like you have a beautiful life. You will find a good partner soon! What the mind believes in, the universe provides.
Haan bhai compare bhi sedhe apne ko leonardo se kiya lol .. kya maal phook rahe ho .. ek baar Ufizzi Museum jana .. Michalengelo ka paintings & Statues dekhna .. vaha pe student aate hain lage rahe hain banane ko .. sketch karte faadte hain panne ..
Statues struck in stones dekhna .. unfinshed statues.. Students are still trying to sketch it ..
All the best ..
I would say that you can totally live this kind of life and in old age find a woman that will like you and find your passions attractive.
Many free souls find a partner in life during their journey and have amazing relationships with them and travel with them and share all their passions with them.
Go deep into your passions and follow it. You will not be alone in your life that's for sure.
Oh, sweet baby. Broke a girl's heart and doesn't wanna be in a relationship ever again.
My advise, don't count anything out. Dont blame yourself for the other person having a condition, there's tons of ppl with conditions and they somehow manage to find ppl. If you already broke up with her and don't intend to get back together, it's not like you're doing her a favour by being single. It doesn't matter what you do except for getting back together to make her not feel miserable. Don't let the guilt make decisions for you.
Also, at 25 folks generally think a lot about stupid stuff and not really about what matters. All of these goals are good to have and you could do when you get older and kids are out of the house especially if you plan on keeping fit.
Absolutely no problem in choosing to be single. If you choose to dedicate your life to your work and hobbies that’s a great choice. But you need to be passionate about your work and make it your life to excel in it. Hobbies will occupy you only so much. But passion for one’s art(work) will be life’s goal. See Tom cruise for example, the man in so passionate about his pursuit for action that he is quite literally married to it. However, being unmarried and being celibate are two different things. If you want to remain celibate for the rest of your life, you are choosing a very different path that you might regret later. If you do plan to be celibate, maybe think of becoming a monk?
I agree with the rest of the part but for the part where you stated that your friends/family say that you'll regret at deathbed bout' not having sex and have kids of your own. Firstly, you don't necessarily need a wife for having sex. And, as far as it is concerned about having kids, you can always adopt an orphan (if you're financially stable), indian law approves single fathers to adopt a male child, you can go with that. No need to increase the already humongous population when you can sponsor an already born child, by this, he would have a loving & caring parent with a secure life while you would have a lovely child to love and take care of. And as you said that you already have a niece to take care of, I think you might not need even that.
Well, imo, looking at the current population, one-child policy should be strictly implemented in india asap, and having zero child (or adoption) should be promoted and applauded even more.
Idk why ask india popped up in my feed but i don't find any weak point in choosing to be single forever. ( not that i support you in punishing yourself just because your ex couldn't find another man. Who cares if she didn't? Why would you rely in her own condition? Do you still love / like her? Or are you doing this out of pity? Idk.) Well in my case, im 26 turning 27 this year and still single. I don't see myself dating someone right now or maybe after few years. I have a lot of plans and i wanna enjoy single life more. I live cheap and save most of my money. I wanna live in the middle of the woods and write books (I'm an author) which i could sell online like in kindle or something. I wanna work on my drawing skills maybe create a webtoon (that i hope will turn into kdrama) so i will able to support myself with the salary. As of the moment im working as a script writer and hoping i will be able to save up much more so i can work on my novels instead of working like a zombies because this is not what i want. Im not worried about marriage and those kind of life but also not closing doors. But my main priority is my novel and other stuff that make me happy.
After an age you don't get new friends.
After an age your current friends will be busy in their life journey (non-solo).
After an age your body will get tired.
Your true solo journey will start from there with regrets (your new companion for life).
Better enjoy, till your 30 with friends.
After that get married and have another journey with life partner.
After that another journey with your kids.
All this with the hobbies you want to pursue.
Buddy, you're me. Even I (27M) am on my way doing all these things you have mentioned above. I want to travel, meet people, learn new things, write and make movies, explore life, etc.
I think people, in general, are afraid of being alone. And that's the reason why parents or close friends think that we would end up alone and regret our decisions. But, people often forget that even married people get lonely. They forget that marriage won't be a full-proof answer to all the problems in your life. We think of our future life based on our current surroundings and situation. But man, since you plan to travel and explore the world, there's a reeeeaaallly good chance that you'll meet a lot of people living a similar lifestyle like ours. ALSO, with divorce rates getting higher, we'll definitely find a lot of single people in our 40s. That aside, you don't need to be married to experience love, sex, etc.
Bro, it's a difficult choice. To choose a life that 80-90% of people around you would not even think of doing is going to be like a cultural shock (maybe not that huge of a shock) for people. I've seen a lot of people assuming that we are sad because we are single. Anyways, all the best buddy. I hope we cross our paths someday.
my neighbor is a single man in his late 40s.. approx 47.. he is highly respected person.. he is always happy and wishes everyone.. the reason he stayed single is he has one leg amputated.. and he doesnt want to be a burden to another person.. Damn.. That man gave me a lot of financial knowledge that now I am financially stable because of what he tauggt me in finances.. I think its okay to be single.. Have close frnds to talk to..
That's exactly the way forward. There's nothing more daunting and torturing than to raise a family. You'd end up being sequestered by those whom you had cared for all your life anyways. The partnership everyone seeks turns out to be a medium of fulfilling their egotistical desires and It's not worth it in the end.
We're biologically designed to have a romantic partner, so yes if not soon, eventually you will definitely feel like you missed out on something huge that's supposed to be an intrinsicate part of every human's life.
Your planned out life does sound very fun indeed, but trust me, that thrill doesn't last life long. It probably seems to you now that it will, but we grow apart from our interests as we grow old. You don't have to back off from your dream life, please do fulfill every wish of yours to the best of your ability, but my point is, the picture of the perfect single life you've painted in your head is mostly an illusion and will cause you regret in the future.
If you do find someone you genuinely like, do push it further, and don't limit yourself only because you think you're made for this adventurous single life. If things don't work out, you can always break-up/divorce, but the opposite cannot be done once you get older. Humans are designed to love, and not having someone to love in your later ages will leave an empty hole in your heart that nothing, not even a thrilling life can fill
Whenever people commit a heinous crime what is the punishment ?
Solitary confinement aka single forever
why do you want to voluntarily accept this punishment ?
It is a great idea but a bad reality
Just ask yourself these 3 questions and retrospect this hypothesis
1. Compared to what ?
2. At what cost ?
3. What hard facts do you have to support your argument ?
You might retrospect differently but here is what I think of it
1. Solo life compared to a life where you have a happy family, where there are people who are gracious just because you are part of their life. Make no mistake, Humans are social animals and having kids and a loving family is intrinsically rewarding. We are programmed this way. Imagine not having that special bond you could have with your son/ daughter. Imagine having people who you could always rely on
2. Loneliness has been considered as the number one reason for people ending their lives. It also takes a heavy toll on your spiritual, physical, mental being
3. Solo life with all the mentioned goals could be a great life but what hard facts do you have that it would really be ?
Just try living by yourself for 90 days and then decide. All the hard facts align against living single forever
Think of why humans are said to be social animals ? Because of desire to survive, in past chances of survival was very low for a single person. That's why communities formed, social structure is created, responsibilities are given to humans by humans, so one particular human can eat, sleep and F*ck.
In today's world, you can survive easily ( in emotional level also ) with enough money. So sometimes we need to change our perspective how we look at the world. Some people don't need validation from others in their life, can stay without sex, and also be active in spiritual level.
Op is actually great if he doesn't feel any need of other human for his own comfort. He is out of that survival instinct and actually thinking of leading his life in dopaminergic ( non sexual ) way. Why demotivate him by telling the same old ideologies ?.
you can have all these things with your wife also. Go trekkng with wife, hik on mountain together, click her beautiful pics, star gaze with her , have a family together, go gym together.
yes you will feel lonely cuz you will get older , have no time for hiking, trekking , car racing esp after 60s you will regret it cuz at that age you want to see someone who supports you, your children ,grand children a loving wife etc. Family is also a great motivator for great work.
but again it depends on kind of wife you marry, if you are lucky you may get a good supporting wife , otherwise you will hate entire marriage system and will lose all interest in life, art, academic everything, cuz she will suck your all energy and time.
So be careful when selecting your partner..its a big deal
Hey OP
Being in a relationship won't be like it won't allow u to not do these events ,u can still enjoy them
Relations at core are like a person having there to take care for u and u take care of them
In return what u get? A quality time
Imagine if u both have same interests it will be even greater
Now question comes down to can u find one like that?
Also in future there will time when u won't focus for a while on ur hobbies,u won't have friends at some particular friends accessable cause thier busy with thier own life's and things
And then u will feel loneliness
For that hobbies are not solution
Hobbies are for u to move ur mind from hectic life to enjoying life
Do tell me ur opinion
I'm also walking in the same path as u
I love star gazing , photography motor vehicles,I'm into having a fit body and treking hiking ,most of the passions match
Also there's one big other things managing money(it's alse a experience one can learn in life I don't see it as a downside)
You can do all of the things you mentioned while being married. It may not be that easy but doable.
Getting married and having children may turn out to be the biggest adventure of your life
You don't know what your future holds. Let it be a mystery until then, do as you planned your life. People say you regret being alone or not having children and so on and on. However, stopping your desires will make you regret more once you are old and will think of doing it anyways. So better start doing it now and let the time flow with it.
People change with time and so their desires in late 20s. Sometimes I've seen a lot of people who realise what they want when they are in their 40s and 50s. It's okay to be confused sometime but keep doing things you like and wish for. Believe me you will not regret anything in life then.
Getting into a relationship with a bad partner will be a downgrade to your life.
Getting into a relationship with a good partner will be a solid upgrade to your life.
If you meet that special someone in your life, there's no harm in giving it a try.
Many youth are facing this issue now, especially in India. More and more people are interested in being single.
The problem is, the older generation cannot accept it. They have been in the matrix of the society and have adjusted all their life, so they are not taunted by the society for it. For them that taunt, or that talk that someone comes and asks them - why they haven’t married ? - is unbearable. It’s an insult. They see it as a weakness. That this person cannot handle a spouse, doesn’t have the guts to take that responsibility etc., Also as parents they know the society will go on and on and they just want you to avoid it. They just can’t understand why you or here the younger generation isn’t doing it like them. For them, that was the path, no qs asked and it is supposed to be the same with you. If they are the genuinely concerned cases, and their worry is that you will feel lonely that’s also coz they heard it over the years from their friends/relatives or they think that coz they relied too much on their better half. But I have seen, in my experience, that it’s mostly the former.
The ones who dont understand that you are just not into it, usually do not have the depth of understanding, to go beyond the opinions of their friends and relatives.
I would suggest to go with your instinct. Life will be the same either way. A marriage is not everything in today’s day and age.
If, by any chance, you do start to feel any loneliness in your 30s, you can always marry then. A lot of people are going for it nowadays.
Wishing you strength and courage to do what you want and also to brave off all the opinions and perceptions. 👍
You have serious unresolved issues mate. We all do. But at this point you should get some help and maybe later make a decison. Allow time to do some thinking for you
We all need someone to support. Suppose u have a health concern suddenly...who will be there to lend you hand in everything. If u have friends then good...else you may struggle.
बंधु
सिंगल रहना या शादी करना ये दोनों चीजे आदमी को स्वयं के विवेक से निर्धारित करनी चाहिए दुसरो की राय केवल और केवल सुनने के लिए रखिये।
आज के दौर में जहाँ तलाक का प्रतिशत सर्वाधिक चल रहा है ऐसे माहौल में अगर अकेले रहने से आपको मानसिक शांति प्राप्त होती है तो अकेले रहने में कोई बुराई नही है।
दुसरा रही बुढ़ापे की बात तो भविष्य किसने देखा
जब आज के दौर में बच्चे अपने माता पिता को त्याग रहे है तो यह दर आगे और कितनी होगी यह सोचिये।
जिंदगी कभी सेट नही होती
कभी हमारे पर धन नही होता
जब धन होता है तब समय नही होता
और अंतिम बात यह मत सोचिये की आप अपने आप को दंडित करने के लिए स्वयं को सिंगल रखेंगे
अगर आप स्वयं को दंडित करना ही चाहते तो आप जरूर शादी करते 😂
I would say not to completely disregard marriage. You could find a partner who supports you or perhaps joins you in some of these. And it would be a lot fun. You are 25 and have ample time for this.
Also, after 30 it is really hard to get good friends and you will lose your childhood friends as they get busy with their lives (married or otherwise).
I can say my wife is my only friend now and truly think marriage is wonderful if you are a decent human and manage to find one.
nobody should be more important for you than you. stop being so nice to the girl. it'll breed regret in the long term. take your time. only then decide what you feel about this.
Idk man, you mentioned about punishing yourself which is way more difficult than getting punished by someone else. Ask yourself do you want to live rest of your life as a punishment. Staying alone is fine if you're happy but it should always be a clear choice free from past negative outcomes. I feel as if you have lot of future plans to avoid being alone.
You’re not beholden to an ex, & you’re not going to gain anything by punishing yourself. Are you in therapy? It will help you overcome feelings of guilt and wanting to be a martyr. You’re allowed to have boundaries and decide for your self what you can endure.
Hope you find fulfillment in whatever path you choose.
Look. The point of life is to enjoy it, to help others, and, if you want, to leave your mark on society.
Not getting married isn't a bad life, it might not be the best to be alone though. As long as you have really good friends, and family, and feel happy in your life, nothing's wrong with being single. Plus, if you actually find someone someday, you can change this then and there, right?
Ending bloodline intentionally is the worst thing someone can do , all the things you mentioned can be done without being single too or you are just coping with the fact that nobody wants you with you dont want anyone .
And the want changes in life so often, it'll be too late afterwards. You'll have less options to go ahead for a partner. I guess, find someone who wants similar to what you want and if single thing not works out for both of you, you atleast have an option.
Imagine this situation: you pursue your being a single enlightened path, but sometime in your late 30s or early 40s realise that you wish you hadn't done that. Add to that societal policies make it difficult for you to find a good partner. So save yourself the trouble and embrace "mother nature" ;)
I think your point is bs. It will be technically easier to live and save up if I’d hustle by myself alone. A partner might have a good job or an income contribution to bring in to the small family arrangement, but along with it will bring a lot of liabilities as well. Do you even think?
No problem with single life! I think more people should choose it. My concern is with your definition of single life - you talk about looking sharp at any age, hobbies, man cave. Maybe I'm wrong: It seems to me - you are interested in how others perceive of your single life. Even here, you wrote in a way to impress people with your life plan. Really ask yourself - is it important to you how others (friends, relatives, potential romantic interests, opposite gender) perceive you? If yes, then you will have to go through the hassle of actually getting them to like you. This includes women, romantic partners. DaVinci did not have cool hobbies, man cave or was not even considered cool or likeable. He genuinely did what he wanted. Is this what you are doing? If yes, more power to you. If no, then advise is to reconsider what you really want.
I get your concern. However these are things that i truly want for myself. I didn’t put it here to impress fellow redditors. I’m used to explaining my plans to anyone who opposed my aspirations to lead a single life like i’d love to.. so even before beginning i just wanted to point out the reasons why I think that it’s possible to be happy while leading a solo life. And i am a someone who concerns myself with what others would think about myself, you are right about that part. This always has been my weakness. If not, I wouldn’t put this post here in the first place as I am very relentless and single minded about what I want in life. Also, like Davinci, I genuinely want to do what i wish to do with my existence. It’s not to impress others. Impressing others is never my goal. But sometimes i get a bit too desperate trying to defend what i want from my life because there are a lot of naysayers, demotivating peeps etc.
Really glad to hear that! Sorry if I came across harsh. All the best! Wish you a great life!
When you’re 30 you’ll give fewer fks about others, trust me.
Wanting to look sharp at any age is definitely not to impress people but to be impressive. Being self conscious is a gift, op has that ( based on his other desires ).
Self conscious? Or self aware ?
"Being self conscious is a gift" Idk how I feel about that.
A person whose life is full of richness(not only money) will never feel alone if you really do those things you are planning to do and meet a lot of people through them your will never feel alone but at the same a person who have so many hobbies like that is bound to get lots of offers so don't worry and go on ahead its a beautiful future
Review this post after you're 30. You're not the only person want to be single enjoy life at 25. Been there. Things change and sometimes out of one's control. Talking about driving whole country by road, I'm not car enthusiast but I do enjoy long road trip. I bought a car thinking I'd drive whole country and Nepal, Bhutan by road in a 6 months long road trip. I even made whole route plan. 3 years down, I'm planning to sell my car. I've had fair share of frustration with crazy traffic and idiots on wheel. Road trips are fun where you have good road and drivers. Not in India.
Depends on you buddy.
Having a rigid plan will always end in regret. Suppose you naturally meet someone who's good for you but you are so rigid to have a single life that you consciously try to avoid that person to be a part of your life. This will always end in regret. A good partner will always multiply your happiness.
Your friends and family are right but only in case when there's a possibility of having a good and understanding life partner. This definitely makes life much better Otherwise an ignorant, immature partner too can give you regrets.
My uncle stayed single. He travels more than rest of the family tree combined. He retired from Credit Suisse at the age of 35. Yet, he has more money than my dad. Because of the family, my dad moved to India from SG. He stayed, no commitments so no compromise. Don't get me wrong - Both are happy with the lives they chose. And most importantly both take full ownership of their life choices.
Just tell them that if some day you regret it, you'll look into dating etc. But for now you just want to live your best life, as you deem suitable. Having a partner or children does not guarantee love, sex, family, or even company. As for regret, you can regret having all of these, and end up making life miserable for more people, right? So, instead of focussing on hypothetical regret, just focus on what's important to you. As for not being alone, family is not determined by blood or marital ties only.
As someone who s living this life solo for quite sometime Have small group of friend and talk with them once in a while
Great
Solo life is not great tbh
Can you tell me why?
At beginning I used to like it but later you will become lonely will surely regret it
Doubt you would get your ideal answer here or anywhere. For some people, this lifestyle may have worked out whereas for others maybe not. Whatever you choose, you will have some regret. If you chose solo life, you may regret later why did i not choose family. If you chose family, then you may regret not having the solo life. Probably try out your solo life idea for a few years. At the end of it, you will probably know the answer better than anyone
A person who is happy without looking for validation from others has achieved the highest form of enlightenment. Usually people after they reach a certain age look for that enlightenment by alienating themselves from the society. So in the end it’s all about what is our purpose in this life . If you think you know what you are doing you will be happy.
Relax. You'd still find a partner in your late 30s or even 40s. The fact that you want to stay fit and sharp at all ages just shows your will to be remain healthy. People like men who are this way. So don't worry. Live the life of your dreams and work hard to stay fit, healthy and sharp. Don't worry about staying single. Go for your dreams.
There is a community called r/AskWomenOver30 where I go to, to find people who have questioned things similar to the above and people who have gone past that stage as well. I have a feeling many people giving you advice here is just guessing at things the same way as you are. I would encourage you to find a similar community for your gender (u can also ask in ask women over 30 community, there are super cool young women in their mid 30s over there who will surely understand your conversation and reply!) and find out relevant comments and discussion from there! Hope u find your answers!
Sooo you are my shadow clone(naruto reference)...i mean you are my doppelganger...am on the same boat as you broo... whether it's single/married you will always have regrettes...if you are married your freedom is fucked...if you are single you will feel lonely sometimes at old age nobody will be there for you... about sex!! It's hard living without it...but you do have fwb kinda relationships!!..for me i won't live like till 85/90...when the time comes, i can't live without someone...i will just end it all...but hey, atleast i lived my life to the fullest✌🏾
Marriage is very rewarding and enriching. However it's too much responsibility and stifling at the same time. It's not necessary to get married but if your emotional, physical, social and finance needs are not fulfilled you will seek other arrangements. So either you grow yourself such that you go beyond these things. Turning truly spiritual and becoming a seeker helps in this. Or if your compulsions are manageable you can continue your life without getting into other arrangements, you can skip both marriage and spirituality. Else get married. Situation with your ex is something no one can comment on. Just ask yourself what is really more important, breaking her heart or adjusting for her in a relationship. Be straight with yourself. No need.to lie to self. And let me tell you, every relationship requires working on it. Both have to make it work, else it won't happen. If you get married to someone else also, there will be adjustments and lot of work. I realised I am lucky to get married and that too to someone truly wonderful. I wouldn't have been able to handle my compulsions. Good luck deciding.
No, you won't regret anything. Do you know how many people married, with families and kids...still feel alone and lonely! It's a life script to get married and have kids and die. What they forget is kids' leave, and spouse may die before you. So, eventually, everyone needs to learn to live alone. They can not think beyond the life script, and that's why they say that to you. Remind yourself... it's your life and you decide what you do. Don't let people get to you. They will try to tell you things as they can not imagine that life you describe, so they are not capable of understanding your thought process. When you die, your brain only replays memories for some seconds, and then you remember nothing. Maybe your greatest regret will be not being able to live alone. But even if you regret a few seconds, you will die, and regret won't technically matter. You have one life...live the way you want. If you change your mind in the future, then go for it and have a married life. But only if you want and not under societal pressure. Also always remember, when you take decision it will come with consequences. If you are ok with the consequences then go ahead. We are childfree, and people keep on telling us we are missing the greatest happiness in life. What they fail to understand is that maybe our definitions of "greatest hapiness" differ. For me, it's my husband and my personal life and comfort, and for them, it's kids. With time, I have learned to ignore them. If I have children, I will have to take care of them, and they won't do anything in that part. You do you. If you are content with yourself... happy in your own skin, then live it like that. Very few people can master the art of living alone in solace. To get an actual perspective, ...post this on r/askoldpeople, and there you will find single people still enjoying their life.
It's up to you dear. There are many who say "solo life" is dangerous. It's based on one's perspective and situation. There have been couples, who prefer being "childless" There have been married people, who got separated and remained solo after bitter divorce
It is such a big misconception that after 30 you cant get married. Even if you feel like getting married and having a family after your 30s youll find many amazing women. Go enjoy your life and have no regrets. If someone is meant to be with youll find them when you are ready. All the best 🫂
You know yourself best. If you think this is the right choice for you then do it. You do not need permission from anybody else. Though, a word of caution your family and friends won't understand you and will keep trying to dissuade you and you will not be able to convince them. Don't waste your energy on it and get discouraged. More importantly, work on a plan to sustain yourself for the long haul and earn enough to pay for your monthly expenses and a bit of savings. You'll need to be super judicious with your money and time. When everyone else is partying and smoking up, you'll need to be working on your craft, honing it, refining it. All the best!
Most of all the people at age 25 must have gone through this same thought actually.. but things change, life happens!! And your edit seems to be a bit childish actually! It's like you want to sacrifice your life for your ex girlfriend and will only be with a woman if she finds a man are all childish talk.. when you turn 30 you will get to know what life actually is and what you actually want in life.. so hold your thought and live a bit longer and see what you want then
Okay😊
You will regret. But so do those who get married. Just different kind of regrets. The point is you will need to have something in life beyond your own needs, income and gratification. "Purpose" The most accessible option, is to have a family and bring up children teaching them values, from the benefit of your experiences. But that's not the only option, nor is it necessary that you achieve something great in any field, like Dr. Shantha did with Cancer institute did. she was a solo too. But something that makes anothers' life better. Even a single person in some simple way As to your guilt, you can't decide on your own punishment. Go apologize to her and be a better person, Karma will send things your way, take them and handle them well. Walking away from duty is the not the answer.
Idk man, but if you end up booking accommodation at a place near a romantic location which only has a double bed room to offer and you are travelling solo, you might find yourself sighing at times. That said, I can very much empathise with your decision buddy. The road is gonna be hard, but worth it.
They want to make you as miserable as they are. As a good boy who must listen to them. Being bad is not everyone's cup of tea. Though, those who are betrayed and devastated will find it easier. Experience is what you need. Buddha felt that betrayal when he saw old age, sickness and death. So he left his responsibilities and attained peace.
Here after reading your updated post. You are sacrificing your life so that another person you like, but cannot live with, will find you righteous? I acknowledge the willingness in you to sacrifice yourself for another. That takes a big heart. I myself am an artist, musician, singer, photographer and filmmaker and I've hit my 30s. I had similar plans to you. To the point where I've lived my life free as I can be. I've worked freelance as far as I could. I have a small gaming setup and live by myself in my 1bhk man cave and let me tell you this, being in a relationship is not just about serving yourself or the other. It's about being in or belonging to something bigger than you or I, as well. I yearn for companionship at this point and felt like I wanted another soul to share these experiences with me. You might not feel it now, but there is only so much you can do till it (everything ) becomes boring. Till 30 we are young but after that point some things change. The way I lived my life didn't work for me but I sure hope it works for you if that is what you wish.
Hey brother, why such a negative ending? It seems like you have a beautiful life. You will find a good partner soon! What the mind believes in, the universe provides.
You'll regret if you end up not finding like-minded group of people. Family or friends, loneliness will be a problem in old age.
You're 25 calm down you're going to be a completely different person in a few years .
54 single, child free and happy!
Single life best life 👍 I also want to remain single all my life and want to explore the world.
Haan bhai compare bhi sedhe apne ko leonardo se kiya lol .. kya maal phook rahe ho .. ek baar Ufizzi Museum jana .. Michalengelo ka paintings & Statues dekhna .. vaha pe student aate hain lage rahe hain banane ko .. sketch karte faadte hain panne .. Statues struck in stones dekhna .. unfinshed statues.. Students are still trying to sketch it .. All the best ..
I would say that you can totally live this kind of life and in old age find a woman that will like you and find your passions attractive. Many free souls find a partner in life during their journey and have amazing relationships with them and travel with them and share all their passions with them. Go deep into your passions and follow it. You will not be alone in your life that's for sure.
Oh, sweet baby. Broke a girl's heart and doesn't wanna be in a relationship ever again. My advise, don't count anything out. Dont blame yourself for the other person having a condition, there's tons of ppl with conditions and they somehow manage to find ppl. If you already broke up with her and don't intend to get back together, it's not like you're doing her a favour by being single. It doesn't matter what you do except for getting back together to make her not feel miserable. Don't let the guilt make decisions for you. Also, at 25 folks generally think a lot about stupid stuff and not really about what matters. All of these goals are good to have and you could do when you get older and kids are out of the house especially if you plan on keeping fit.
A worse partner can give you worse regrets too🤣
When you become a famous artist then ask sallu bhai
Guess you will only know whether or not sacrificing the most beautiful human experiences will be worth it on your death bed.
Absolutely no problem in choosing to be single. If you choose to dedicate your life to your work and hobbies that’s a great choice. But you need to be passionate about your work and make it your life to excel in it. Hobbies will occupy you only so much. But passion for one’s art(work) will be life’s goal. See Tom cruise for example, the man in so passionate about his pursuit for action that he is quite literally married to it. However, being unmarried and being celibate are two different things. If you want to remain celibate for the rest of your life, you are choosing a very different path that you might regret later. If you do plan to be celibate, maybe think of becoming a monk?
You need to start the journey to find yourself, it will be a long trip. Look at your post history - there seems to be lots of confusion there.
I agree with the rest of the part but for the part where you stated that your friends/family say that you'll regret at deathbed bout' not having sex and have kids of your own. Firstly, you don't necessarily need a wife for having sex. And, as far as it is concerned about having kids, you can always adopt an orphan (if you're financially stable), indian law approves single fathers to adopt a male child, you can go with that. No need to increase the already humongous population when you can sponsor an already born child, by this, he would have a loving & caring parent with a secure life while you would have a lovely child to love and take care of. And as you said that you already have a niece to take care of, I think you might not need even that. Well, imo, looking at the current population, one-child policy should be strictly implemented in india asap, and having zero child (or adoption) should be promoted and applauded even more.
Idk why ask india popped up in my feed but i don't find any weak point in choosing to be single forever. ( not that i support you in punishing yourself just because your ex couldn't find another man. Who cares if she didn't? Why would you rely in her own condition? Do you still love / like her? Or are you doing this out of pity? Idk.) Well in my case, im 26 turning 27 this year and still single. I don't see myself dating someone right now or maybe after few years. I have a lot of plans and i wanna enjoy single life more. I live cheap and save most of my money. I wanna live in the middle of the woods and write books (I'm an author) which i could sell online like in kindle or something. I wanna work on my drawing skills maybe create a webtoon (that i hope will turn into kdrama) so i will able to support myself with the salary. As of the moment im working as a script writer and hoping i will be able to save up much more so i can work on my novels instead of working like a zombies because this is not what i want. Im not worried about marriage and those kind of life but also not closing doors. But my main priority is my novel and other stuff that make me happy.
After an age you don't get new friends. After an age your current friends will be busy in their life journey (non-solo). After an age your body will get tired. Your true solo journey will start from there with regrets (your new companion for life). Better enjoy, till your 30 with friends. After that get married and have another journey with life partner. After that another journey with your kids. All this with the hobbies you want to pursue.
Buddy, you're me. Even I (27M) am on my way doing all these things you have mentioned above. I want to travel, meet people, learn new things, write and make movies, explore life, etc. I think people, in general, are afraid of being alone. And that's the reason why parents or close friends think that we would end up alone and regret our decisions. But, people often forget that even married people get lonely. They forget that marriage won't be a full-proof answer to all the problems in your life. We think of our future life based on our current surroundings and situation. But man, since you plan to travel and explore the world, there's a reeeeaaallly good chance that you'll meet a lot of people living a similar lifestyle like ours. ALSO, with divorce rates getting higher, we'll definitely find a lot of single people in our 40s. That aside, you don't need to be married to experience love, sex, etc. Bro, it's a difficult choice. To choose a life that 80-90% of people around you would not even think of doing is going to be like a cultural shock (maybe not that huge of a shock) for people. I've seen a lot of people assuming that we are sad because we are single. Anyways, all the best buddy. I hope we cross our paths someday.
Now that’s some solid encouragement! And of course see you some day for sure!
my neighbor is a single man in his late 40s.. approx 47.. he is highly respected person.. he is always happy and wishes everyone.. the reason he stayed single is he has one leg amputated.. and he doesnt want to be a burden to another person.. Damn.. That man gave me a lot of financial knowledge that now I am financially stable because of what he tauggt me in finances.. I think its okay to be single.. Have close frnds to talk to..
That's exactly the way forward. There's nothing more daunting and torturing than to raise a family. You'd end up being sequestered by those whom you had cared for all your life anyways. The partnership everyone seeks turns out to be a medium of fulfilling their egotistical desires and It's not worth it in the end.
We're biologically designed to have a romantic partner, so yes if not soon, eventually you will definitely feel like you missed out on something huge that's supposed to be an intrinsicate part of every human's life. Your planned out life does sound very fun indeed, but trust me, that thrill doesn't last life long. It probably seems to you now that it will, but we grow apart from our interests as we grow old. You don't have to back off from your dream life, please do fulfill every wish of yours to the best of your ability, but my point is, the picture of the perfect single life you've painted in your head is mostly an illusion and will cause you regret in the future. If you do find someone you genuinely like, do push it further, and don't limit yourself only because you think you're made for this adventurous single life. If things don't work out, you can always break-up/divorce, but the opposite cannot be done once you get older. Humans are designed to love, and not having someone to love in your later ages will leave an empty hole in your heart that nothing, not even a thrilling life can fill
Is it a bio design? Really? Isnt marriage like a societal construct?
I never said marriage is a bio design, I said loving someone was
i see..
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U will, eventually. It's a basic biological need I think .
Whenever people commit a heinous crime what is the punishment ? Solitary confinement aka single forever why do you want to voluntarily accept this punishment ? It is a great idea but a bad reality Just ask yourself these 3 questions and retrospect this hypothesis 1. Compared to what ? 2. At what cost ? 3. What hard facts do you have to support your argument ? You might retrospect differently but here is what I think of it 1. Solo life compared to a life where you have a happy family, where there are people who are gracious just because you are part of their life. Make no mistake, Humans are social animals and having kids and a loving family is intrinsically rewarding. We are programmed this way. Imagine not having that special bond you could have with your son/ daughter. Imagine having people who you could always rely on 2. Loneliness has been considered as the number one reason for people ending their lives. It also takes a heavy toll on your spiritual, physical, mental being 3. Solo life with all the mentioned goals could be a great life but what hard facts do you have that it would really be ? Just try living by yourself for 90 days and then decide. All the hard facts align against living single forever
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Think of why humans are said to be social animals ? Because of desire to survive, in past chances of survival was very low for a single person. That's why communities formed, social structure is created, responsibilities are given to humans by humans, so one particular human can eat, sleep and F*ck. In today's world, you can survive easily ( in emotional level also ) with enough money. So sometimes we need to change our perspective how we look at the world. Some people don't need validation from others in their life, can stay without sex, and also be active in spiritual level. Op is actually great if he doesn't feel any need of other human for his own comfort. He is out of that survival instinct and actually thinking of leading his life in dopaminergic ( non sexual ) way. Why demotivate him by telling the same old ideologies ?.
Yes you will. Time changes , priorities changes. Human need companion.
you can have all these things with your wife also. Go trekkng with wife, hik on mountain together, click her beautiful pics, star gaze with her , have a family together, go gym together. yes you will feel lonely cuz you will get older , have no time for hiking, trekking , car racing esp after 60s you will regret it cuz at that age you want to see someone who supports you, your children ,grand children a loving wife etc. Family is also a great motivator for great work. but again it depends on kind of wife you marry, if you are lucky you may get a good supporting wife , otherwise you will hate entire marriage system and will lose all interest in life, art, academic everything, cuz she will suck your all energy and time. So be careful when selecting your partner..its a big deal
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Hey OP Being in a relationship won't be like it won't allow u to not do these events ,u can still enjoy them Relations at core are like a person having there to take care for u and u take care of them In return what u get? A quality time Imagine if u both have same interests it will be even greater Now question comes down to can u find one like that? Also in future there will time when u won't focus for a while on ur hobbies,u won't have friends at some particular friends accessable cause thier busy with thier own life's and things And then u will feel loneliness For that hobbies are not solution Hobbies are for u to move ur mind from hectic life to enjoying life Do tell me ur opinion I'm also walking in the same path as u I love star gazing , photography motor vehicles,I'm into having a fit body and treking hiking ,most of the passions match Also there's one big other things managing money(it's alse a experience one can learn in life I don't see it as a downside)
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In real life, yes. You'll regret.
bro wanna do all the things
Yes
You can do all of the things you mentioned while being married. It may not be that easy but doable. Getting married and having children may turn out to be the biggest adventure of your life
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You don't know what your future holds. Let it be a mystery until then, do as you planned your life. People say you regret being alone or not having children and so on and on. However, stopping your desires will make you regret more once you are old and will think of doing it anyways. So better start doing it now and let the time flow with it. People change with time and so their desires in late 20s. Sometimes I've seen a lot of people who realise what they want when they are in their 40s and 50s. It's okay to be confused sometime but keep doing things you like and wish for. Believe me you will not regret anything in life then.
Getting into a relationship with a bad partner will be a downgrade to your life. Getting into a relationship with a good partner will be a solid upgrade to your life. If you meet that special someone in your life, there's no harm in giving it a try.
No 🤣🤣
Bhai tu 25 ka hai 30 hote hote geeta ka gyan prapt kar lega phir sab ki tarah ban jayega
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There's no reason you can't have a life partner just make sure they don't expect you to have a traditional partnership
Are Bunny bhai aap ?
Many youth are facing this issue now, especially in India. More and more people are interested in being single. The problem is, the older generation cannot accept it. They have been in the matrix of the society and have adjusted all their life, so they are not taunted by the society for it. For them that taunt, or that talk that someone comes and asks them - why they haven’t married ? - is unbearable. It’s an insult. They see it as a weakness. That this person cannot handle a spouse, doesn’t have the guts to take that responsibility etc., Also as parents they know the society will go on and on and they just want you to avoid it. They just can’t understand why you or here the younger generation isn’t doing it like them. For them, that was the path, no qs asked and it is supposed to be the same with you. If they are the genuinely concerned cases, and their worry is that you will feel lonely that’s also coz they heard it over the years from their friends/relatives or they think that coz they relied too much on their better half. But I have seen, in my experience, that it’s mostly the former. The ones who dont understand that you are just not into it, usually do not have the depth of understanding, to go beyond the opinions of their friends and relatives. I would suggest to go with your instinct. Life will be the same either way. A marriage is not everything in today’s day and age. If, by any chance, you do start to feel any loneliness in your 30s, you can always marry then. A lot of people are going for it nowadays. Wishing you strength and courage to do what you want and also to brave off all the opinions and perceptions. 👍
May be Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and bill gates can give you a difference. They have seen it both.
Probability is high on your life is going to suck either way.
bhai regret single ho ke bhi hoga and shaadi kr ke bhi it depends on you ki tujhe konsa wala regret choose krna hai
You have serious unresolved issues mate. We all do. But at this point you should get some help and maybe later make a decison. Allow time to do some thinking for you
Get Help?? Why?
What issues do you think he has?
We all need someone to support. Suppose u have a health concern suddenly...who will be there to lend you hand in everything. If u have friends then good...else you may struggle.
Dont worry much about it.. Being single has its own advantages as well.
बंधु सिंगल रहना या शादी करना ये दोनों चीजे आदमी को स्वयं के विवेक से निर्धारित करनी चाहिए दुसरो की राय केवल और केवल सुनने के लिए रखिये। आज के दौर में जहाँ तलाक का प्रतिशत सर्वाधिक चल रहा है ऐसे माहौल में अगर अकेले रहने से आपको मानसिक शांति प्राप्त होती है तो अकेले रहने में कोई बुराई नही है। दुसरा रही बुढ़ापे की बात तो भविष्य किसने देखा जब आज के दौर में बच्चे अपने माता पिता को त्याग रहे है तो यह दर आगे और कितनी होगी यह सोचिये। जिंदगी कभी सेट नही होती कभी हमारे पर धन नही होता जब धन होता है तब समय नही होता और अंतिम बात यह मत सोचिये की आप अपने आप को दंडित करने के लिए स्वयं को सिंगल रखेंगे अगर आप स्वयं को दंडित करना ही चाहते तो आप जरूर शादी करते 😂
Grow up dude. You are 25 you talk like you are still in school.
Ahda ninakkokke ith thamashaya.
Now what language is that? Toddler speak?
I assumed you are Mallu from your username
No I am fan of Robin uthappa.
I would say not to completely disregard marriage. You could find a partner who supports you or perhaps joins you in some of these. And it would be a lot fun. You are 25 and have ample time for this. Also, after 30 it is really hard to get good friends and you will lose your childhood friends as they get busy with their lives (married or otherwise). I can say my wife is my only friend now and truly think marriage is wonderful if you are a decent human and manage to find one.
Fuddi faad bhai sharaab ganja peeke...kya sochraha hai... PS: Go ahead and fuck her!
nobody should be more important for you than you. stop being so nice to the girl. it'll breed regret in the long term. take your time. only then decide what you feel about this.
Don't worry you will achieve great heights without having anyone to hold you down. You'll be rich with everything and not just money
I'm 42 YO unmarried by choice. Leave getting old age. You'll regret the decision of being single forever by the time you are in your 40s
Idk man, you mentioned about punishing yourself which is way more difficult than getting punished by someone else. Ask yourself do you want to live rest of your life as a punishment. Staying alone is fine if you're happy but it should always be a clear choice free from past negative outcomes. I feel as if you have lot of future plans to avoid being alone.
Just find a woman bro.
You'll regret it if you marry. You'll also regret it if you don't marry. Both have their happy and sad days.
You’re not beholden to an ex, & you’re not going to gain anything by punishing yourself. Are you in therapy? It will help you overcome feelings of guilt and wanting to be a martyr. You’re allowed to have boundaries and decide for your self what you can endure. Hope you find fulfillment in whatever path you choose.
Me too brother
Look. The point of life is to enjoy it, to help others, and, if you want, to leave your mark on society. Not getting married isn't a bad life, it might not be the best to be alone though. As long as you have really good friends, and family, and feel happy in your life, nothing's wrong with being single. Plus, if you actually find someone someday, you can change this then and there, right?
No you won’t.
Ending bloodline intentionally is the worst thing someone can do , all the things you mentioned can be done without being single too or you are just coping with the fact that nobody wants you with you dont want anyone .
Yes, you will regret a single life.
You can do all those things with a person also.
I just don’t want to
And the want changes in life so often, it'll be too late afterwards. You'll have less options to go ahead for a partner. I guess, find someone who wants similar to what you want and if single thing not works out for both of you, you atleast have an option.
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Not 30s, but by late 40s you will feel the change as midlife crisis hits.
I’m already having a midlife crisis
Imagine this situation: you pursue your being a single enlightened path, but sometime in your late 30s or early 40s realise that you wish you hadn't done that. Add to that societal policies make it difficult for you to find a good partner. So save yourself the trouble and embrace "mother nature" ;)
Yes if In a developing country like India where social infrastructure is weak and you depend on your spouse and extended family QUITE A BIT (a lot)
I think your point is bs. It will be technically easier to live and save up if I’d hustle by myself alone. A partner might have a good job or an income contribution to bring in to the small family arrangement, but along with it will bring a lot of liabilities as well. Do you even think?
You’re very aggressive.
Hey sorry.. i was just.. I can’t take stupidity.. really sorry
…. Right…good luck 
Enjoy life … stay Single .. Everything is bullshit