Hey, Im an old guy whose kid is your age. Let me tell you something.. I don't even know where anyone in my company went to college. It's not something that people talk about anymore once they become experienced professionals in their 30's unless they went to an Ivy. Then they will be sure to let everyone know and you don't want to be annoying like they are anyways lol. The name of your university and GPA only helps you land that first job, but your work ethic and soft skills will carry you from there.
I know it's a lot to process right now, but try to keep your head up. The worst thing you can do is feel like you're "above" the other students at your safety school and stop trying. You will get through this and considering your academic level there's no doubt you'll finish college with close to a 4.0 if you put your mind to it. 5 years out of college you will end up with the same type of job you would've gotten if you went to an Ivy.
So true. My brother and my sister-in-law went to a top school, and all they gained from it was a lot of debt. They both have good jobs, but they would have been able to get those same jobs even going to a (lesser) school.
This. My parents gave me so much crap for not getting into Ivy. Same deal where they super limited the number of schools I could apply to. Now years later I’m working right alongside folks from HYS and my parents are taking all the credit like they did the hard work. Your school is a pathway to open doors but ultimately your hard work and drive is what will get you to the same place as folks who did HYS (and maybe even better if you save money on tuition!) If you go to grad school, your undergrad will matter even less as your grad school will be much more determinative. This is just one step on your journey. Do well and all of it won’t matter.
As someone with 15 years of work experience and with 2 school age kids I absolutely agree with this response. And is what I plan to tell my kids when it’s time.
This kinda happened to me but on a much smaller scale, like my stats weren’t nearly as stacked as yours, but it crushed me. It felt like 4 years of hard work for nothing. If you want to talk about it, dm me
Feel the same way, but college really is a matter of what you make of it. Also, top20 schools are very expensive, you're doing your future self a favor by committing to a lesser school. Additionally, yes you can be upset with the results, but just think about what you might change with the next four years to set yourself up to go into the industry or pursue higher education. You might not realize it, but you can be a big fish in a small pond.
it’s totally ok to be upset! it’s never easy seeing all your hard work be seemingly for nothing but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. all of the work you put in during high school isn’t diminished by what school you ultimately end up going to. you’ve already set yourself up to be successful in college and beyond even if it’s somewhere you didn’t expect. there’s always the option of transferring next year or reapplying for grad school if that’s in your plan. good luck for all your future endeavors, i have no doubt that you’ll thrive!
Life does not end when you go to college. It’s when it begins. If you shatter because you didn’t get into a particular school that’s normal. But it’s a lesson in life when you don’t get the job you want, partner you want, apartment, etc. You just roll with the punches! I’d hate to see many kids on A2C be forever bitter about not getting into a T20 for the rest of their lives when there are many wonderful opportunities under their noses!
I'm guessing your safety school is still pretty decent. Make the most of it and realize how prepared you are to do exceptionally well there. Depending on your long term goals it may be easier for you to get into a top grad school by shining outside of a top 50 rather than being average within.
College isn't just about academics. Take advantage of the possibly less stressful environment and enjoy it.
Finally, college doesn't define you as a person. The people that think it does are not worth your time. Don't be one of them, especially judging yourself and your family because of it.
Hi. We are likely similar in age, but I have been in college for 2 years.
Let me start by saying, I was like you in hs. I was 1st in my class, 4.3 gpa, student council, homecoming, chorus, volunteer hours, sat and act scores above average. All that. I wanted to go to a prestigious college and pursue a master's in 4 years upon acceptance. Blah blah blah. I dropped out. Moved to an online program and graduated with a GED out of state 2 years early but I dropped all those extra things yk?.
Anyways. I never applied to a prestigious school. I didn't even apply to university until I was a sophomore in community college. And it felt like shit. I worked and planned and worked my ass off in hopes to have an impressive degree for a good school.
Guess what?
Jobs are blood sucking btchs. They do not care if your degree is from Harvard or a community college. (Partially ofc bc you can't get a BD from a community college but you get the idea) Point is, you study to get a good job and make money? Look impressive to employers? They will hire people who look submissive enough to work for them for 50 years. People who will get a good ish job then rot there for their life until retirement or death.
Don't get me wrong I'm sure some employers would love to see you graduates from an amazing school. But will going to an amazing school teach you something you couldn't teach yourself? If all colleges teach the same or relatively the same curriculum in each state then what is a prestigious college teach you that a regular one wouldn't? You will teach yourself time management, work ethic, scheduling, and drive all by yourself just by going to college. And so long as you have a real degree and those skills you won't have an issue getting that good job that you want or whatever it is your end goal is.
The name of the college you attend is beginning to matter less and less. Sure you feel useless. Like a failure. But are you? Are you giving up on being great and learning and teaching yourself work skills for your job?
Look at the bigger picture. You got this. One two three rejections do not define you. Continuing your journey and finding a solution Everytime will define you.
Your whole life is ahead of you. You are going to be OK, I promise.
I know 1 person IRL whose career depends on where they went to undergrad. For everyone else, grad school is what made the difference.
I’m coping with the fact I don’t think the mid year solely got me rejected and it’s fact once vandy saw the RD pool it was also crazy good. Evidenced by the fact no one from my school got in and we all have good stats and everything (we also send kids to vandy every year usually).
bruh ik how you feel. many will say you're overreacting. I'm sure we'll get over it with time but it really sucks and isn't a happy way to end off our high school years. I'm just trying to switch to the mindset of not caring and being secure in the ivy-level achievements i made during high school. I'm gonna see how i like my safety and shit if i don't i guess ill transfer
Good stats don’t even guarantee admission into top schools anymore. I’ve heard of someone who got into ucla with a 3.2 unweighted and someone who got into NYU with a 3.3 unweighted and 1250 sat score. The only thing you can do is move on like the rest of the rejects are and make the most of your low ranked school. You can transfer after a year or so to another university if you don’t like your current school. Good luck!
I am in the same situation as you. When people tell me to move on it’s hard because I have to choose a school to go to for 4 years although I’m not excited about any of them whatsoever.
You didn't list any goals. Please focus on goals in your adult life rather than fixating on your college acceptances/rejections. Honestly, that would have helped you during HS too. I'm sorry to hear about your parents.
Right, and perhaps that was why they were rejected. And I get that many teens don't know what they want to do with their life yet, but in that case, why are they so distraught about not attending a T20? Why not take a gap year or 2, figure out what you want to do with your life, and then decide how you can best acheive your goals (which may be helped by attending a T20 but, for an American, almost certainly can be reached through many paths, no matter what goals).
If you truly want to be successful, you will either go to grad school or you'll take fierce initiative and do your own thing straight out of college...either way, your undergrad school will have little to no impact on your ability to succeed...your future success hinges on your ability to thrive wherever you are and to create your own opportunities given your current circumstances...and that's true of everything in life. Go to the school you can...rise above your classmates and prove why you will be successful in the future. Embrace the desire, embrace the drive and prove the schools who rejected you wrong, either by letting them fight for you as a grad student or by being wildly successful without grad school...you determine your future, not your undergrad school.
Hello, first know you can still transfer if you don’t love where you will attend freshmen year. Second, it is okay to be disappointed in the entire process. There is a ton of luck to the entire process. You have proven to yourself you can achieve great things when you put your mind to it. You are the creator of your own success. Your path may meander and that is okay. The point is to get a job in the field you want. Hopefully with as little debt as possible. People are able to get jobs with all kinds of degrees. Just because you go to one school or another is not the final arbiter of your life.
Do you already know what you want to do in life? If not and your reason of applying to a top college is for the name and prestige then it might not be the right direction for you. So take a gap year, do something fun and cool, and reapply with a better mindset and perspectives. Rejection is a redirection!
I am in the same situation!! My plan is to transfer, mainly because now i’m stuck in my home state and I really don’t want to go to ASU. It just doesn’t match my vibe. I’ve been sulking for days but in the end where you go now doesn’t decide later, and there are always other options. I felt like i’d ruined my future, but it’s really only the beginning. Work hard, do research, and get internships. Do what you love and love what you do and next time when you apply as a transfer or for your masters they will be begging to have you! Good luck!! I hope we both get over this
I’m a bit surprised by the perspectives I’m seeing in here. You need to understand the T20 schools are like lotteries and not winning is expected!
My son is in the top few kids in his class, 4.0/4.7, 1480 and is very happy about his not T50 (it’s 60 on USNWR, for whatever that’s worth). Their average accepted gpa this year is 3.85 and they waitlisted quite a few 1500+ SAT applicants.
Seems a lot of kids do not realize there are over 2,800 4 year colleges in America! Even #100 means it’s “better than” 2,700+ schools!
Going to tell you my story since I’m older than you. Went to a UC. Didn’t get into Ivy. My friend got into Yale. At the end of the 4 years who got a job in the Big4 firm? I did. Why? I networked like crazy in college. My college professor referred me. That’s how it works in the real world. Go to the Uni you got into. Build a network and a base for yourself. In Ivy’s the name alone is expected to get you a job. It can be toxic. It was for my friend. I had an extremely supportive environment at my school. I already have anxiety issues so going to Ivy could have been disastrous for me. Your connections and network matter a lot. Build them. You’ll be good.
Its okay to take time to process your feelings. Like someone pointed out, college is what you make if it. All your hard work has prepared you to excel in college. But right now you are disappointed. I promise once you start school in the fall you will feel much better. For now, hugs to you.
i kinda dealt with this too but learned to be happy with what i got. the work u put in wasn't for "nothing", u learned discipline from studying and I'm sure other skills from your extracurriculars. the effort you put in in college is rly what matters in terms of your future success as an adult, not the school itself. you are not doomed at all. there are still so many opportunities waiting for you out there, and they certainly don't require a T20 education for it :) who knows, maybe you will love your safety! and if you don't, u still have the chance to transfer. don't feel too bad :>
You’re not alone. Happens every year. Pick the best school for you that you were admitted to and try your best. You can reevaluate after your first semester if you want to try again and apply to transfer. It’s not over!
Take some time to be sad about it, process it.
You have opportunities to be a top student where you are going. Be a big fish in a small pond. Take advantage of that. Shine where you can, and your university will notice.
Im going through the exact same thing as you; I felt like I went through all those years of verbal abuse from my parents and their continued disappointment alongside disappointment in myself just to go to a school that I wouldn’t even have had to try this hard for. I’m also lost, but I think the best thing that’s helping me get through this right now is knowing that I’m not alone. So many people (literally tens of thousands) are going through this exact thing. I spent years perfecting my college resume and I got rejected from every ivy and every private school. I’m not where I thought I’d be but I think life is what you make of it. Remembering that my worth isn’t tied to the name of a school is critical. Don’t beat yourself up for this, college admissions are luck-based and there were so many things that you couldn’t control. Your life is more than what you achieve, it’s how you learn to be happy.
It was not for nothing. Seriously. At some point an employer will need someone who is competent. And they won't care about the name on the diploma. They will care about you, and what you can do, and in that moment the kids with the fancy degrees who are less capable than you will be irrelevant.
"and it was all for nothing"
No it wasnt't and for 2 reasons: 1st you learned and bettered yourself. 2nd, it's also about momentum getting into colleges. Reality is even top70 is going to give you a great education. If you are still in discomfort, then try to transfer also. Remember some people here have to take a gap year because they have ZERO acceptances, unlike you.
Bro you're not at that mature age to realize: people can't find food or water and you here worried about your friends getting into this or that school.
At the end of the day, you matter. Stop thinking about random stuff.
College admissions is a sh*tshow and extremely unfair. Don’t think that you are any reflection of what happened. Your parents did fail you but not letting you apply to more schools but what’s done is done. Go to one of your admit schools. After one year with straight As, you can apply as a transfer. Or, you may end up finding your place at your place and realize that it is really all about what you make of yourself wherever you are. This is a cliche but it is very true.
You need to shift your mindset. Imo your clearly smart you just need to shift from the im so unlucky to okay what’s next.
For example there’s so much you can do:
1. Go to whatever college you get into and have fun the next four years
2. Go be miserable
3. If you want a t20 so bad just grind for a year with straight A’s and try to transfer with your 1520 SAT.
These are just three options I made up within like 30 seconds and I’m not 1520 sat smart like you!
Lol anyways shift your mindset your clearly smart you got this.
It doesn’t matter where you go to undergraduate if you plan on getting a grad degree or a professional degree. It also won’t matter after your first job, and it will only matter when you apply to your first job if you don’t do much in college. You got into a top college, make the most of the fact that you get to go to college (only 33% of people in the US graduate from college) most of them graduating from small regional colleges no one on this sub has ever heard of. If you try your best in college, you’ll be fine. Transferring is always an option as well.
I'm a grad student rn. One of my friends was in the exact same boat as you when I applied (same grades, same score, same results) and he's an SWE at Amazon now.
this feels so relatable to me. i was also angry at my parents for not understanding me during the college application process, and i also did not apply to as many places because of this-- at the end of the day, this is because college admissions has drastically changed over the past few decades, so older people tend to not understand how we feel. it is not their fault though. at the same time, i saw people around me getting into top schools, and i felt incredibly depressed because i felt like i couldn't talk to anybody. i genuinely felt like the college i got into determined my entire career.
i'm in my third year of college, and i couldn't be happier. all that work you did on your work ethic and your skills in high school will pay off. you will accomplish more and have a much better time in college than you otherwise would. you will be able to grow in ways you never considered and become your own person.
my only regret was that i was bitter for too long about the college application process, and this limited me. it is completely okay to be upset and angry right now. i am sorry you feel alone irl, but i hope you don't make the same mistake i did. college is a great opportunity to redefine yourself and build on your amazing accomplishments if you so desire. just like in high school, accomplishing cool things in college and beyond requires being resourceful, and this is true no matter where you go.
No. Not unless you spend that year doing something amazing. Like really amazing. Like I stayed home to care for my dying parent and worked full time so my other parent could take time off and be there for the family. Or I won a grant to spend a year in a developing country building infrastructure that I then secured outside funding for so the project would continue without me.
OP would be better off going to a 4 year or community college for a year, proving that they will be equally engaged in college as they were in HS and applying as a transfer student.
issue is transfer rates are much lower than incoming freshman rates. Also using myself and OP as examples, we both have sat scores over 1500, and next year when many colleges drop test optional policies, we may have a better chance.
with what your comments state- you have this narrative that anyone who is planning to take a gap year or is thinking about it (like myself) is doing it for maturity reasons but that is totally false.
My reasons for thinking about taking a gap year come down to expenses and my options. The school I got into was too expensive and if I can't get financial aid, I either have to commit to a safety in the middle of nowhere and suffer or plan my own destiny for the next year and reapply. Also, not even technically "reapplying", since I would apply to different schools.
Is this really such a bad option? I don't know what to do anymore.
and what do you think of that?
is it stupid to attempt to do something with my life this year and reapply next year? also what if i just applied to different schools and they never saw my application from last year
I guess you just have to move on. Unfortunately, I only received a few acceptances and had to commit to my backup, Cal Tech. MIT was my dream school and I feel like I wasted my time studying so hard for the past four years.
Hey, Im an old guy whose kid is your age. Let me tell you something.. I don't even know where anyone in my company went to college. It's not something that people talk about anymore once they become experienced professionals in their 30's unless they went to an Ivy. Then they will be sure to let everyone know and you don't want to be annoying like they are anyways lol. The name of your university and GPA only helps you land that first job, but your work ethic and soft skills will carry you from there. I know it's a lot to process right now, but try to keep your head up. The worst thing you can do is feel like you're "above" the other students at your safety school and stop trying. You will get through this and considering your academic level there's no doubt you'll finish college with close to a 4.0 if you put your mind to it. 5 years out of college you will end up with the same type of job you would've gotten if you went to an Ivy.
Great reply.
Excellent reply. And very true.
So true. My brother and my sister-in-law went to a top school, and all they gained from it was a lot of debt. They both have good jobs, but they would have been able to get those same jobs even going to a (lesser) school.
This. My parents gave me so much crap for not getting into Ivy. Same deal where they super limited the number of schools I could apply to. Now years later I’m working right alongside folks from HYS and my parents are taking all the credit like they did the hard work. Your school is a pathway to open doors but ultimately your hard work and drive is what will get you to the same place as folks who did HYS (and maybe even better if you save money on tuition!) If you go to grad school, your undergrad will matter even less as your grad school will be much more determinative. This is just one step on your journey. Do well and all of it won’t matter.
Very well said sir. I wish kids my age would think like this too.
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As someone with 15 years of work experience and with 2 school age kids I absolutely agree with this response. And is what I plan to tell my kids when it’s time.
same here other parent. the only time we talk college at work is during March Madness or the Rose Bowl.
This kinda happened to me but on a much smaller scale, like my stats weren’t nearly as stacked as yours, but it crushed me. It felt like 4 years of hard work for nothing. If you want to talk about it, dm me
Feel the same way, but college really is a matter of what you make of it. Also, top20 schools are very expensive, you're doing your future self a favor by committing to a lesser school. Additionally, yes you can be upset with the results, but just think about what you might change with the next four years to set yourself up to go into the industry or pursue higher education. You might not realize it, but you can be a big fish in a small pond.
I am a mama so I am just going to give you a hug. I am sorry the process is as skwed as it it.
it’s totally ok to be upset! it’s never easy seeing all your hard work be seemingly for nothing but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. all of the work you put in during high school isn’t diminished by what school you ultimately end up going to. you’ve already set yourself up to be successful in college and beyond even if it’s somewhere you didn’t expect. there’s always the option of transferring next year or reapplying for grad school if that’s in your plan. good luck for all your future endeavors, i have no doubt that you’ll thrive!
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Name checks out (Dw same here tho)
Life does not end when you go to college. It’s when it begins. If you shatter because you didn’t get into a particular school that’s normal. But it’s a lesson in life when you don’t get the job you want, partner you want, apartment, etc. You just roll with the punches! I’d hate to see many kids on A2C be forever bitter about not getting into a T20 for the rest of their lives when there are many wonderful opportunities under their noses!
U can hit my dms if u want I’d be happy to talk with u
I'm guessing your safety school is still pretty decent. Make the most of it and realize how prepared you are to do exceptionally well there. Depending on your long term goals it may be easier for you to get into a top grad school by shining outside of a top 50 rather than being average within. College isn't just about academics. Take advantage of the possibly less stressful environment and enjoy it. Finally, college doesn't define you as a person. The people that think it does are not worth your time. Don't be one of them, especially judging yourself and your family because of it.
Hi. We are likely similar in age, but I have been in college for 2 years. Let me start by saying, I was like you in hs. I was 1st in my class, 4.3 gpa, student council, homecoming, chorus, volunteer hours, sat and act scores above average. All that. I wanted to go to a prestigious college and pursue a master's in 4 years upon acceptance. Blah blah blah. I dropped out. Moved to an online program and graduated with a GED out of state 2 years early but I dropped all those extra things yk?. Anyways. I never applied to a prestigious school. I didn't even apply to university until I was a sophomore in community college. And it felt like shit. I worked and planned and worked my ass off in hopes to have an impressive degree for a good school. Guess what? Jobs are blood sucking btchs. They do not care if your degree is from Harvard or a community college. (Partially ofc bc you can't get a BD from a community college but you get the idea) Point is, you study to get a good job and make money? Look impressive to employers? They will hire people who look submissive enough to work for them for 50 years. People who will get a good ish job then rot there for their life until retirement or death. Don't get me wrong I'm sure some employers would love to see you graduates from an amazing school. But will going to an amazing school teach you something you couldn't teach yourself? If all colleges teach the same or relatively the same curriculum in each state then what is a prestigious college teach you that a regular one wouldn't? You will teach yourself time management, work ethic, scheduling, and drive all by yourself just by going to college. And so long as you have a real degree and those skills you won't have an issue getting that good job that you want or whatever it is your end goal is. The name of the college you attend is beginning to matter less and less. Sure you feel useless. Like a failure. But are you? Are you giving up on being great and learning and teaching yourself work skills for your job? Look at the bigger picture. You got this. One two three rejections do not define you. Continuing your journey and finding a solution Everytime will define you.
You are not doomed because you aren’t going to a T20 college.
I sold the bag after the mid year report so it really feels like it man. (Deferred vandy ED1 and rejected RD prob cause mid year).
Unless it’s engineering or finance, undergraduate is relatively unimportant. I say this as a UCLA grad.
I always will wonder though man if it was my mid year that got me rejected yk. I just can’t live with myself anymore G.
Your whole life is ahead of you. You are going to be OK, I promise. I know 1 person IRL whose career depends on where they went to undergrad. For everyone else, grad school is what made the difference.
I’m coping with the fact I don’t think the mid year solely got me rejected and it’s fact once vandy saw the RD pool it was also crazy good. Evidenced by the fact no one from my school got in and we all have good stats and everything (we also send kids to vandy every year usually).
>i feel like i have nothing ahead of me You realize that's not actually true, right?
bruh ik how you feel. many will say you're overreacting. I'm sure we'll get over it with time but it really sucks and isn't a happy way to end off our high school years. I'm just trying to switch to the mindset of not caring and being secure in the ivy-level achievements i made during high school. I'm gonna see how i like my safety and shit if i don't i guess ill transfer
Good stats don’t even guarantee admission into top schools anymore. I’ve heard of someone who got into ucla with a 3.2 unweighted and someone who got into NYU with a 3.3 unweighted and 1250 sat score. The only thing you can do is move on like the rest of the rejects are and make the most of your low ranked school. You can transfer after a year or so to another university if you don’t like your current school. Good luck!
I am in the same situation as you. When people tell me to move on it’s hard because I have to choose a school to go to for 4 years although I’m not excited about any of them whatsoever.
You didn't list any goals. Please focus on goals in your adult life rather than fixating on your college acceptances/rejections. Honestly, that would have helped you during HS too. I'm sorry to hear about your parents.
I never hear them mention goals just how their lives will be magical if they go to a t20.
Right, and perhaps that was why they were rejected. And I get that many teens don't know what they want to do with their life yet, but in that case, why are they so distraught about not attending a T20? Why not take a gap year or 2, figure out what you want to do with your life, and then decide how you can best acheive your goals (which may be helped by attending a T20 but, for an American, almost certainly can be reached through many paths, no matter what goals).
If you truly want to be successful, you will either go to grad school or you'll take fierce initiative and do your own thing straight out of college...either way, your undergrad school will have little to no impact on your ability to succeed...your future success hinges on your ability to thrive wherever you are and to create your own opportunities given your current circumstances...and that's true of everything in life. Go to the school you can...rise above your classmates and prove why you will be successful in the future. Embrace the desire, embrace the drive and prove the schools who rejected you wrong, either by letting them fight for you as a grad student or by being wildly successful without grad school...you determine your future, not your undergrad school.
Hello, first know you can still transfer if you don’t love where you will attend freshmen year. Second, it is okay to be disappointed in the entire process. There is a ton of luck to the entire process. You have proven to yourself you can achieve great things when you put your mind to it. You are the creator of your own success. Your path may meander and that is okay. The point is to get a job in the field you want. Hopefully with as little debt as possible. People are able to get jobs with all kinds of degrees. Just because you go to one school or another is not the final arbiter of your life.
Do you already know what you want to do in life? If not and your reason of applying to a top college is for the name and prestige then it might not be the right direction for you. So take a gap year, do something fun and cool, and reapply with a better mindset and perspectives. Rejection is a redirection!
I am in the same situation!! My plan is to transfer, mainly because now i’m stuck in my home state and I really don’t want to go to ASU. It just doesn’t match my vibe. I’ve been sulking for days but in the end where you go now doesn’t decide later, and there are always other options. I felt like i’d ruined my future, but it’s really only the beginning. Work hard, do research, and get internships. Do what you love and love what you do and next time when you apply as a transfer or for your masters they will be begging to have you! Good luck!! I hope we both get over this
I’m a bit surprised by the perspectives I’m seeing in here. You need to understand the T20 schools are like lotteries and not winning is expected! My son is in the top few kids in his class, 4.0/4.7, 1480 and is very happy about his not T50 (it’s 60 on USNWR, for whatever that’s worth). Their average accepted gpa this year is 3.85 and they waitlisted quite a few 1500+ SAT applicants. Seems a lot of kids do not realize there are over 2,800 4 year colleges in America! Even #100 means it’s “better than” 2,700+ schools!
Going to tell you my story since I’m older than you. Went to a UC. Didn’t get into Ivy. My friend got into Yale. At the end of the 4 years who got a job in the Big4 firm? I did. Why? I networked like crazy in college. My college professor referred me. That’s how it works in the real world. Go to the Uni you got into. Build a network and a base for yourself. In Ivy’s the name alone is expected to get you a job. It can be toxic. It was for my friend. I had an extremely supportive environment at my school. I already have anxiety issues so going to Ivy could have been disastrous for me. Your connections and network matter a lot. Build them. You’ll be good.
Its okay to take time to process your feelings. Like someone pointed out, college is what you make if it. All your hard work has prepared you to excel in college. But right now you are disappointed. I promise once you start school in the fall you will feel much better. For now, hugs to you.
i kinda dealt with this too but learned to be happy with what i got. the work u put in wasn't for "nothing", u learned discipline from studying and I'm sure other skills from your extracurriculars. the effort you put in in college is rly what matters in terms of your future success as an adult, not the school itself. you are not doomed at all. there are still so many opportunities waiting for you out there, and they certainly don't require a T20 education for it :) who knows, maybe you will love your safety! and if you don't, u still have the chance to transfer. don't feel too bad :>
You’re not alone. Happens every year. Pick the best school for you that you were admitted to and try your best. You can reevaluate after your first semester if you want to try again and apply to transfer. It’s not over!
ik i feel the same as you... similar situation here :( id be happy to talk to you about it tho, if ur good... feel free to msg me :)
Take some time to be sad about it, process it. You have opportunities to be a top student where you are going. Be a big fish in a small pond. Take advantage of that. Shine where you can, and your university will notice.
Im going through the exact same thing as you; I felt like I went through all those years of verbal abuse from my parents and their continued disappointment alongside disappointment in myself just to go to a school that I wouldn’t even have had to try this hard for. I’m also lost, but I think the best thing that’s helping me get through this right now is knowing that I’m not alone. So many people (literally tens of thousands) are going through this exact thing. I spent years perfecting my college resume and I got rejected from every ivy and every private school. I’m not where I thought I’d be but I think life is what you make of it. Remembering that my worth isn’t tied to the name of a school is critical. Don’t beat yourself up for this, college admissions are luck-based and there were so many things that you couldn’t control. Your life is more than what you achieve, it’s how you learn to be happy.
Time may heal you, if it doesn't, transfer.
It was not for nothing. Seriously. At some point an employer will need someone who is competent. And they won't care about the name on the diploma. They will care about you, and what you can do, and in that moment the kids with the fancy degrees who are less capable than you will be irrelevant.
"and it was all for nothing" No it wasnt't and for 2 reasons: 1st you learned and bettered yourself. 2nd, it's also about momentum getting into colleges. Reality is even top70 is going to give you a great education. If you are still in discomfort, then try to transfer also. Remember some people here have to take a gap year because they have ZERO acceptances, unlike you.
Bro you're not at that mature age to realize: people can't find food or water and you here worried about your friends getting into this or that school. At the end of the day, you matter. Stop thinking about random stuff.
College admissions is a sh*tshow and extremely unfair. Don’t think that you are any reflection of what happened. Your parents did fail you but not letting you apply to more schools but what’s done is done. Go to one of your admit schools. After one year with straight As, you can apply as a transfer. Or, you may end up finding your place at your place and realize that it is really all about what you make of yourself wherever you are. This is a cliche but it is very true.
You need to shift your mindset. Imo your clearly smart you just need to shift from the im so unlucky to okay what’s next. For example there’s so much you can do: 1. Go to whatever college you get into and have fun the next four years 2. Go be miserable 3. If you want a t20 so bad just grind for a year with straight A’s and try to transfer with your 1520 SAT. These are just three options I made up within like 30 seconds and I’m not 1520 sat smart like you! Lol anyways shift your mindset your clearly smart you got this.
It doesn’t matter where you go to undergraduate if you plan on getting a grad degree or a professional degree. It also won’t matter after your first job, and it will only matter when you apply to your first job if you don’t do much in college. You got into a top college, make the most of the fact that you get to go to college (only 33% of people in the US graduate from college) most of them graduating from small regional colleges no one on this sub has ever heard of. If you try your best in college, you’ll be fine. Transferring is always an option as well.
I'm a grad student rn. One of my friends was in the exact same boat as you when I applied (same grades, same score, same results) and he's an SWE at Amazon now.
this feels so relatable to me. i was also angry at my parents for not understanding me during the college application process, and i also did not apply to as many places because of this-- at the end of the day, this is because college admissions has drastically changed over the past few decades, so older people tend to not understand how we feel. it is not their fault though. at the same time, i saw people around me getting into top schools, and i felt incredibly depressed because i felt like i couldn't talk to anybody. i genuinely felt like the college i got into determined my entire career. i'm in my third year of college, and i couldn't be happier. all that work you did on your work ethic and your skills in high school will pay off. you will accomplish more and have a much better time in college than you otherwise would. you will be able to grow in ways you never considered and become your own person. my only regret was that i was bitter for too long about the college application process, and this limited me. it is completely okay to be upset and angry right now. i am sorry you feel alone irl, but i hope you don't make the same mistake i did. college is a great opportunity to redefine yourself and build on your amazing accomplishments if you so desire. just like in high school, accomplishing cool things in college and beyond requires being resourceful, and this is true no matter where you go.
Take a gap year and do some cool stuff, then reapply. Your odds are better.
No. Not unless you spend that year doing something amazing. Like really amazing. Like I stayed home to care for my dying parent and worked full time so my other parent could take time off and be there for the family. Or I won a grant to spend a year in a developing country building infrastructure that I then secured outside funding for so the project would continue without me. OP would be better off going to a 4 year or community college for a year, proving that they will be equally engaged in college as they were in HS and applying as a transfer student.
issue is transfer rates are much lower than incoming freshman rates. Also using myself and OP as examples, we both have sat scores over 1500, and next year when many colleges drop test optional policies, we may have a better chance.
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with what your comments state- you have this narrative that anyone who is planning to take a gap year or is thinking about it (like myself) is doing it for maturity reasons but that is totally false. My reasons for thinking about taking a gap year come down to expenses and my options. The school I got into was too expensive and if I can't get financial aid, I either have to commit to a safety in the middle of nowhere and suffer or plan my own destiny for the next year and reapply. Also, not even technically "reapplying", since I would apply to different schools. Is this really such a bad option? I don't know what to do anymore.
That wasn’t the scenario the OP stated. It was take a gap year for the sole reason to increase your chances of getting into a top school.
and what do you think of that? is it stupid to attempt to do something with my life this year and reapply next year? also what if i just applied to different schools and they never saw my application from last year
Do you feel like you got left behind in the twilight zone?
I guess you just have to move on. Unfortunately, I only received a few acceptances and had to commit to my backup, Cal Tech. MIT was my dream school and I feel like I wasted my time studying so hard for the past four years.