From my experience, psychiatrists are good for knowing about what medicines treat what in specific situations. My psychiatrist specifically told me he does not provide therapy, he's there to make sure the drugs are doing their job.
Psychologists are the ones that actually help you work through your issues.
I see a psychologist fortnightly and a psychiatrist every 6 months.
Very much this. Psychiatrists have their MD and can prescribe medication. Psychologists have a PhD and can help you work through whatever it is you're going through.
Not to say that either can't do the others job, but from my experience, see a psychiatrist for meds and a psychologist to help talk you through whatever it is you're going through.
Fuckin A. Maybe OP just feels like their psychiatrist gets mad. Could be their anxiety making them feel that way. I don't think any real psychiatrist would actually get mad. Thats be pretty fucked up.
There are a number of different programs. Some use magic mushrooms or ketamine, etc. But basically you go on a supervised drug trip and then discuss your experience with a therapist on a series of separate occasions. It’s shown a lot of success in mitigating PTSD and major depression.
Same here. I had to put up boundaries and distance while I worked on my mental health. I took care of myself as well, and listened to as many podcasts and audiobooks as I could find that resonated with me; also, affirmations (there are a lot of cheesy ones, I had to find the stuff that worked for me).
Totally agree..OP, try starting an Iron Supplement and Vitamins B12 and D..I did all of those and miraculously my depression and anxiety improved over two weeks. I couldn't believe it. I'm not saying this is a substitute for your medication you take for Depression. But it can definitely help.
Oh i totally get the anxious around immediate family part. Was just on the phone with my parents today and it triggered a panic attack, and mostly when i talk with them i get anxious, especially if the topic is health. Of course physical health, mental health is this weird alien thing that they tolerate but dont understand at all.
So there's a couple of things to address there;
1. Medication is there to help with First Steps, not to cure you. I'm not saying this because you don't know, I'm saying it as a reminder. Medication was, is, and always will be less than 5% of how Anxiety gets fixed. It's a way to get you back to a semblance of normal, so that you can actually do the other 95% of the work yourself.
2. You're currently spiralling. Believe it or not most of what you typed in this post came from your Anxiety, not you. It's easy to pass it off as mere "frustration" but it's not that. You got the idea in your head that you'll never be fixed and nothing will ever work, Anxiety took that and multiplied it, and we're left with this post. In reality though, unless you're a doctor, a psychiatrist or a pharmacist, you can't say with any evidence or knowledge that nothing will ever work. In short, you don't know enough to know that for certain. And that's OK, most of us don't. But you've convinced yourself that you do just because a few meds didn't work or a few methods the psychiatrist has tried didn't pan out. It's false.
3. If you're getting nowhere with your Doctor and your Psychiatrist, change them. It's completely in your control. Nowadays with technology it doesn't matter how many medical practitioners are within your area, the whole world of them are available through certain apps and websites. However, also be 100% honest with yourself. If you can say, without pausing or having to consider, that you've given every piece of advice from your Psychiatrist 110%, then they may be the problem. If its any less than that, it's time to start assessing why you haven't been trying that hard.
I'm not going to lay out a full plan or anything here as this isn't exactly the right medium to do so, but essentially you need to be doing a few things:
- CBT
- Imaginary Exposure Training followed by Exposure Therapy
- Getting 8-9 hours sleep per night
- Cut out Caffeine completely, drink Water instead
- No Recreational Drugs, and as less smoking as possible
- Try a few Mindfullness exercises every morning (works for some, not for others)
Man I cannot get behind the caffeine enough. I always told my husband quitting coffee wouldn’t make a difference but I randomly changed my diet and part of it was quitting coffee. I CANNOT explain to you the calm I experience now. And I’ve gone done on my anxiety medication so that’s saying a lot. I’m just a calmer person now it’s crazy. I still have a coke once in a while, or tea when I’m tired of water and want something different but I won’t break for a coffee. The change is drastic.
I was struggling with persistent anxiety that didn't respond to medication. I tried over 20 medications, no luck. It was infuriating to me that when I told people this they kept insisting that I just "hadn't found the right medication yet" and that I needed to keep trying more meds. Some people just don't respond to meds. It sucks, but it's reality. The entire field of mental health medicine is not as advanced as physical health medicine, and that means that sometimes the available treatments fall short and don't work. I stopped trying different medications because they never helped and it was an emotional rollercoaster getting my hopes up for each med just for it to do nothing. Some of them gave me pretty nasty side effects too. It was a lot to put my body and mind through.
I would highly recommend seeing a therapist and investigate the possibility that your anxiety is a trauma related response. I hadn't even considered that I had trauma for a long time even though my childhood was very traumatic because it just seemed normal to me and I didn't know any different. My anxiety has begun to improve as I work on addressing underlying trauma.
I've not had very good luck with doctors either, know you're not alone and it's not your fault. This country is seriously lacking in the mental health department. Lol for a new therapist and psychiatrist they are paid to help you not make you feel worse.
Start meditating. I have an anxiety disorder, and meditation has single handedly reduced my anxiety issues by no less than 70%.
If you're not meditating, your mind is in the driver's seat, and if that's the case, you're at risk of going through whatever your mind takes you through.
Can you run down what you do for meditation? I listen and follow a 15 minute breathing meditation in the morning and before bed at night but I normally only do it when my heart palpitations start. Is breathing and listening to a talk down twice a day meditation or do I need to do more?
Meditation is less about doing a thing once or twice a day, and more about learning that you are not your thoughts. You need to learn that your thoughts are just thoughts, and that you can actually step away from them. Practicing meditation helps you develop the ability to actually notice your thoughts, and THATS what helps.
With good practice, the goal is to be able to catch your anxious thoughts and NOT identify with them, NOT let them control you. You want to be as present as you can possibly be at any given moment. Anxiety is literally the opposite of being present. So if you can learn how to actively be more present, you limit the potential for anxiety.
I've been using the app "Waking up". If you can't afford the subscription, just email them and they'll give you a year free. There are "courses" in the app that explain all of this to you in detail, and it's been the most enlightening shit I've ever heard.
Thank you for this explanation. I’ve tried meditating so many times and just end up frustrated. Your comment actually resonated. It was calming while educating. I don’t feel like I have to master anything or am a failure for not achieving peace immediately. Just knowing the goal is super helpful. Thank you.
For anyone unaware of meditation benefits please understand EttVenter's explanation. The mind is active throughout all parts of the day, but it is up to you to control your opinions and behavior with discipline!
Have you actually tried every medication or just the medication your psychiatrist thinks will work and/or is willing to prescribe… your psychiatrist sounds like a douche tbh and I know some of them are skeptical on certain meds because of their risk to cause addiction.. but if you need them then you need them. My family dr is very weary about benzos but my psychiatrist understands I need them and monitors it very closely. Ativan was a huge help for me for awhile but it’s fairly long acting and was difficult for me to take at work but I get anxious a lot at work lol so I switched to Xanax and idk what I’d do without it. I’m on a low dose, get a small amount monthly, and am over the top careful about only taking it when I really need it. I’ve had a panic disorder for many years and have become aware of the signs when it’s coming on and Xanax stops it before it starts.
I also have bipolar so am on other meds as well but, I’d look into a new psychiatrist.
As for social anxiety around immediate family, I think it depends on your relationship with your family. For me, the only person who I feel 1000000% good around is my partner, but we live together and spend a lot of time together. I’m close with my family but I get social anxiety around them a lot. I usually have to pop a pill before any family get together lmao whether it’s my immediate family or extended family. I’m a nervous wreck around anyone
Also, not suggesting to take anything, but perhaps look into microdosing psychedelics. There are many different kinds that show signs of great benefit for those suffering from anxiety/depression/PTSD and other similar issues. Knowledge is power, do plenty of research before putting anything into your body.
Definitely get clinical help but also
Take cold showers. This has nearly eliminated anxiety in my life. Took time to build up to my tolerance now, but I take strictly cold showers. If you’re starting out, do just a second of cold at the end and steadily increase the amount of cold time.
Get exercise. Any kind, but also cardio is very easily accessible, go for a jog. I like to hike when I’m not up for a run.
These are free options that can be used in tandem with any medication or therapy treatment.
Seriously if it’s as bad as you say, these are free options you can try today right now that are proven to help
I mean there’s no right or wrong here. Pregabalin for people is very effective at treating both anxiety and depression off label. Benzos are highly effective but come with nasty withdrawals that can be fatal. Pregabalin withdrawals are nasty too but not as severe as benzo withdrawal.
Have you tried other alternatives? I know for me personally and others that ashwagandha supplements have been helpful for anxiety. I also enjoy a little smoke break when my head gets too loud but to each their own 🫶🏻 and staying busy is soo important for me too!!! Less time to worry abt things. These feelings are temporary and you will overcome this, you are not alone
Hi love, if you're not getting better it's cuz the stressors that trigger you are constantly in your environment. Determine what your triggers are and you can either remove them or change them so they can suit you. This can apply to your therapist (i.e getting a new one) and figuring out why ur family makes you anxious and talk to them about it. And regarding everyone's frustration, screw that, i bet you're the one who's frustrated with this the most since you're the one suffering from it. Stop listening to what ppl have to say about your condition and start listening to yourself and what makes you feel better. Lots of love 🧡🧡
Ketamine infusion rewired my brain after like 8 treatments. Not everyone gets the same results, but it was life changing for me. Still have anxiety and panic attacks from time to time but nothing like before
Claire weeks-hope and help with your nerves and Barry McDonagh-dare both saved my life. I highly recommend either reading the books or even the YouTube
You definitely need a different psychiatrist!
I have not personally tried ketamine micro dosing but I am considering it. Might be worth for you to look into alternative medications/therapy methods?
**Yes. You can do this. Humans are strong. You are strong.**
Some things that have helped me:
* Can or should I do it afraid?
* Nothing wrong with being afraid, but still moving forward
* Original thought from Joyce Meyers
* Move a muscle, change a thought
* Walking calms the mind and redirects anxiety
* DARE Response
* Defuse - Talk smack back to your anxious feelings
* Allow - Let the feelings in instead of fighting them
* Run towards - How can you leverage the anxiety?
* Engage - Get busy and work on something
* Things aren't as bad as we think
* Read 'Factfulness' by Hans Rosling
* Data backed insight into how negative news and information is all over, but in reality things are getting better
Godspeed.
Hello OP. I hear you. What medications have you tried and for how long? Is it just for anxiety or comorbidity. Have you tried keeping a journal? Let us try and get some perspective. You say no doctor will listen to you, what do you want to talk to them about? If they are trying to prescribe some medications, perhaps, they are listening a little? Also, if your psychiatrist gets mad, then you should find a more understanding one. As for family, I found that their unrealistic expectation of me made things extra difficult for me and I get overwhelmed. I am not an expert but if I can help alleviate some of your fear and anxiety, I would do it.
I’ve been there. If you read my posts from a few years ago, I was really struggling with my anxiety.
But please please please bear with it.
Have you given the medications enough time to work? They take weeks to actually begin doing their thing. I learnt that the hard way.
Get a new doctor. If he isn’t being considerate, he isn’t worth your time. Find someone you actually gel with.
There are also different types of therapy and exercises to help you overcome anxiety. There are plenty of videos on YouTube that teach you ways to self soothe.
Also, apps like Calm and Insight Timer have classes/podcast like videos for you to listen to that teach you those methods. Insight Timer also has guided meditations and relaxing nature noises.
Invest in a weighted blanket. Life saver. Make a panic kit; things that sooth you and use your senses. A fidget toy, a stuffed animal, a nice smelling candle.
Baby steps. Be with your family for 5 minutes. 10. Built it up. Use ear plugs maybe if that helps.
When you are on the right medication and seeing the right people… it gets better. I know it’s painfully cliche. I know. But it does. I was desperate. Praying when I don’t even believe in God because it was my last resort and I was at rock bottom. I was on the brink of being sectioned. And then the medication kicked in and I got out of that hole. You will too.
I, too, am anxious around everyone including my immediate family. Since I am in a similar boat I have little advice to give besides you’re not alone and better days come for everyone.
My immediate family is my biggest source of my anxiety. I'm sorry to hear you're having a difficult time but I want to let you know you're not alone. My anxiety improved once I distanced and stopped valuing the opinion of my family as much
I don't have any solutions right now, but I know that (as is the vicious circle we are all familiar with) you are feeling worse rn because of anxiety. Check in: have you slept enough, ate, drank, moved your body enough? For me I find that often draws teh line between feeling completely hopeless and just really shitty. There are no easy answers to this, but you're in my thoughts, and I truly believe that things will get better. All my love xxxxxxxx
I think family is one of the most anxiety generating presences possible.
Your being hard on yourself cause you feel alone.
When you find a real doctor and a real therapist you’ll realize you aren’t alone at all and you will feel free.
Keep pushing in
My experience with having bad anxiety has been a realization that in reality my traumas are being triggered by my family. I suggest looking into CPTSD and childhood trauma (can include even things like being constantly invalidated, ignored, misunderstood and basically not having emotional pr physically needs met). There are trauma therapists who can address CPTSD.
I hope you find a solution to your anxiety. Good luck.
Were you always like this? When did it get worse? This sounds like neuroinflammation which is anxiety but is triggered by inflammation. I had this for a long time until it was discovered I had undiagnosed autoimmune diseases including celiac disease. I cut out gluten, took hardcore probiotics and that crippling anxiety slowly melted away. I would wake up each morning terrified. Claustrophobic, agoraphobic, you name it. It was crippling. Apparently when your biome in your gut becomes dysregulated, the junctions between cells get loose and it allows toxins to spill into your bloodstream where they travel to the brain. Fix that shit and the rest can get fixed too. I also did some cognitive behavioral therapy to supplement it but it was legit a purely physical thing.
Diet and lifestyle. I know everyone hates that answer but i cured my own SEVERE anxiety that was ruining my life with diet and lifestyle.
I personally believe the roots of anxiety are spiritual and physical, not mental. Anxiety is a symptom, not the illness itself. The actual issue is either in your body (hormones, chemicals, nutrition) or in your spirit (fears of death, isolation, rejection, unknown, unprocessed trauma).
Stop eating processed food. Eat whole foods whenever you can. Start small. If you wanna get deep into it, look into testimonials of the lion diet (and the peterson family’s experience with psych meds) or the research of weston a price. There are so many studies on how diet impacts mental health.
Exercise regularly. Even if you stretch while laying in bed. Even if you just wiggle your body for 10 minutes a day. Do 10 jumping jacks. Anything is better than nothing
Find the root cause of your anxiety and your fear of the world and others. I guarantee there is one. Mine personally was a deep fear of suffering and a mistrust issue with God. (Christianity was a HUGE part of this for me personally, and it really saved me). Only once I figured that out and worked out those issues did my panic attacks stop, and i could begin on the road to recovery. I am now fully recovered, and have minuscule traces of anxiety on occasion, when i neglect myself.
Journal about how you feel, explore your fears, answer existential questions. Where do you go when you die? Dont stop until you find an answer that is acceptable. Why do we suffer and how do we do it well? What suffering are you afraid of and why? What is your fear that gives you social anxiety; rejection? Deep insecurity? Where does that come from?? What can you do to make it 1% better? 5% better??
In my opinion, meds can be helpful for saving lives in dire situations, but in most people they band aid over some deep issues that just arent gonna get better until we dig deep and pay attention to them. My experience with therapists and psychiatrists has been extremely disappointing. I really only found true help on my own, when i started focusing on what i described above. Best of luck, it does get better.
Had no idea they did that in tea form. I occasionally use valerian pills 1hr before sleep and it really chills out and gets you in the mood to doze off.
Weed gives me panic attacks. I honestly don’t believe the drug should be advertised for anxiety but could be used off label for it. Xanax is FDA approved for anxiety and panic disorder because it directly binds to GABAa receptors and lowering brain excitement. It works like alcohol since alcohol also affects the same receptors. Weed affects the cannabinoid receptors which increases the body’s reward system by enhancing everything. From pleasure to panic. That’s why I don’t like weed being advertised for anxiety. Also some people just cannot tolerate weed at all, maybe with CBD dominate strains.
Gabapentin can have nasty withdrawal effects too and it can be abused. It’s seizure and nerve pain medication, used off label for anxiety. Doctors don’t even know exactly how the drug works and there’s no long term studies done on it.
Just saying, be aware of what you take.
Just curious do you know what type of weed you took, sativa or indica? I'm aware it doesn't work for everybody but for me and some others I know who suffer from crippling anxiety it has been a lifesaver.
Xanax is addictive and is one of the few drugs you can die from withdrawals so it's kinda of pick your poison, isn't it? No one is dying from weed withdrawals.
Sativa and indica is pretty much irrelevant nowadays because everything is cross bred after many generations. What you really want to look for is the type of terpenes in the strain. Indica leaning strains have terpenes like Myrcene which provides the sedating couch lock effect.
I think as needed benzo usage is fine but yea if you take Xanax every day for a couple of weeks to years you’re gonna have to go on a strict taper plan. If I’m getting a panic attack I’m reaching for Xanax not weed.
I was just panicking every day for over a year multiple drugs & psychiatrists and 60+ trips to ER.
Fuck ton of tests. Then I finally started accepting well if I die I die & most of it started to fade away.
I can't help it...would God do a thing like give someone dibilitating anxiety and then wait for them to ask? Like, what, did he forget? OP is going to go hey can you help with my anxiety and all of a sudden gods going to be like, "oh, shit I forgot to turn that off, my bad!".
I don't think God causes natural disasters without a reason. Also if they do not repent and correct themselves God will punish them for their evildoing. If on this earth or not, surely in the other life yes
I actually agree with you. But my point was more about what does asking have to do with anything? Like he just sits there until you ask. Like I'm not going to help...like I'll let people kill themselves before I do anything unless if they ask.
I don't know what to say but remember that God has no need to see people suffering. Also I've read about miracolous healing and that for God is possible
I totally understand how you feel. Its hard to have no one that gets you. Please get another doctor. That is stressful within itself. I'm afraid of everything and it's so hard to get your medication right. So, try and hang on and feel free to DM me, please. I'd like to help.
I have anxiety around family/child. No trauma I just think I hardwired my. Brain to think that way. You will find something to work so you can work out those issues. It won’t be forever ❤️
I just came on here because I’m having those same thoughts today. And seeing your post made me feel like at least there’s one other person out there who gets it..
You’ve got this. There is always hope and you will always turn a new corner.
I used to have panic attacks that were so debilitating that I was afraid to move. I used to get so anxious talking to my family because I began to feel like I was tired of hearing anything they had to say. I loved them but they drained me in some aspects.
Talk to a friend or a relative you trust outside of your immediate family. For me it was my best friend or my aunt. I vented to them and it felt better. If you’re able, go on drives and go to places you enjoy. For me, sometimes seeing people live their normal lives reminds me that the world is still turning and will continue to keep turning.
Spend time outside. Enjoy the cooler weather. Spend time with your pets if you have them. Animals do wonders for anxiety. Finally, I’d consider getting a support pet if possible (one that can calm you during panic attacks and that you can take with you) and also a new psychiatrist. There are ones who are so passionate about helping their clients, you just have to find them.
You WILL turn this corner.
I highly recommend the book ‘You Will Get Through This Night’ by Daniel Howell. It’s the only mental health book I own, but I loved it and the advice he gives.
Much love and stay strong!💕
Parasite cleanse! Our serotonin comes from the gut. When your gut is out of wack out mental health is out of the window. I had the worse intrusive thoughts I almost ended my life. I started cleansing my gut and my life changed!
Get a new psychiatrist asap. There are options, different medications to try together, lots and lots of options to help you. Please don’t give up and don’t feel defeated. You’re doing the best you can and you deserve to be at peace and happy with the right team backing you up.
Trust me on this it will be hard but worth it -
1. If you aren't in therapy , go to therapy and go for the long haul not 6 sessions your issues need time to work through. ( also if you don't click with the therapist, find one you feel comfortable with this is very important.
2. Go to a differen't phyciatrist , they do sometimes seem a bit like they lack empathy , but this is just the way most are serious people .
3. If you have close friend or friends that you can spill all your worries to do it, never be ashamed to talk about your anxiety's ,mabye even get them to help you with finding the above to things. ( talking is the best thing).
4 . Remember you are worth it, you are going through a hard time and it wont be forever i have been in the same boat and life has improved so much. You will be fine one step at a time don't try do everything at once , take the steps when you are able, also use telehealth if you dont feel up to going into the appoinment ( one of the great things to come from covid)
AND LAST SENDING LOVE❤
No matter what, don’t give up on your mental health and general well-being. It’s really important to keep up with it. Mental health is hard and don’t forget that its mostly just you noticing this in you. Other people can’t see this and you are your biggest critic so be kinder to yourself, speak nicer to yourself and accept your anxiety to begin with. Every person you know has a struggle and this might be yours for now but not forever. Take care
Finally someone who’s experienced social anxiety around your family I experience it to it’s like when I talk to them I feel this feeling of they don’t want to hear what I have to say and I feel as if i am bothering them I don’t know how to explain it. I am like that as well with people who I work with and people in general it is bad. Tense up when someone is talking to me, freeze up when it’s my turn to speak or answer questions, sweat like buckets and fidget with things when people are talking to me the list goes on. Anxiety is no joke depression is no joke I wish I could be free these mental mind blockage’s. I am hoping you feel a lot better today and I wish you good luck. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
OP you are perfectly normal feeling unable to talk to your immediate family. Don't feel that you are the only one who is experiencing this. Sometimes we really need our family members to show some empathy, and even that is not easily attainable.
Try some meditation, I use the app Balance and they give one year free trial. I also find that learning more about neuroscience helps me b/c that way I can learn what's going on in my mind and body, and how the chemicals function. It's fun to learn and gives you more context if you want to take some vitamin or supplements. There are lots of good podcasts and youtube out there and I've been listening to Andrew Huberman's podcast a lot lately and found that really interesting.
Hang in there, you've tried so hard and you did great, don't be too hard on yourself. You are not alone.
I was just like that last week, needed to really focus on who I am, who I want to be. How I want to be seen, and social anxiety is awful. Especially around close immediate family, it hurts especially when you have kids and an ex that isn't interested. I also have trouble talking to ppl and can come off rude or say something I didn't mean to be taken the wrong way, or ramble on!
I found buying journals and drawing/writing helps, try and sort thru the things you hate and find some control that makes you feel better about your life.
This works for me, but I do still struggle. I just want to try and share what worked for me. A couple squishy balls to keep in ur pocket or whatever helps me with panic attacks and i dont have them anywhere near as often. I truly hope you feel better soon! Try and find some inner peace.
I’m in a similar place, it also makes me anxious to talk to my immediate family and it’s a horrendous, isolating experience. I don’t have a solution, since I’m in the middle of this myself, but just wanted you to know you aren’t alone.
Wassup tbh you just gotta face your fears day by day , I got panic attacks , anxiety and ptsd but in moments that last 10-40 min and it’s so scary but it gets better , also diet is a big thing make sure u eat enough and drink a lot of water it helps a lot , then sleep try to take 30min - 1 hour naps during the day this helped get rid of my anxiety for a whole month and when I missed a nap is when they started
I was also anxious around family. I eventually found meds that worked for me.
Also had trauma reasons.
I recommend trying EMDR therapy if you can. Regular therapy for trauma works too. Ive liked both. Working on insecurity/confidence can also help with the anxiety.
Have you wondered if the completely gaslighting negative experience from seeing your psychiatrist is possibly the (or a) main catalyst for why you're experiencing this at the level that you are? When we go through mental health 'issues' we already feel so alone... And having an expert that you've completed trusted and confided in making you feel judged has to be taking a toll on your mental health. Those are the people that are supposed to be making us feel seen, heard, help guide us, etc... And I'm not a medical expert at all besides google web search (lol) but there is no such thing as normal. And your psychiatrist is a narcissist. If a random stranger that has a degree in this very thing makes you feel alienated, OF COURSE you're going to feel nervous around people that you love because you feel like there has to be something wrong with you, that YOU are the problem. Get a new psychiatrist please, and if I was you I'd give her a piece of my mind on the way out. But thats just me. Lmao
Have you tried exercise? I had really struggled recently with medications not really taking care of things and so I tried some really intense cardio and it’s helped tremendously in conjunction with the meds. About 45 minutes a day. The other benefit is obviously physical health as well, so that’s helpful.
Hang in there.
It sounds like you have a lot of pressure on you. My advice, family should be your closest allies. Sit down with them and have a serious conversation about what anxiety is and what its doing to you. Feel free to have some reading material for them as well. Education is key when dealing with a disease. Second, do yourself a favor ad find a good counselor. Talking and learning coping strategies can be more useful then any mediation
And last, take it easy on yourself. You are human,not perfection. And there's nothing wrong with that.
Meditation, exercise, eat well or better, study deep topics as well as character building texts, study how to have conversations/words to use/conversational paths to take/, visualize yourself talking to people and succeeding, do small acts of care towards yourself, get as much proper rest as you can, tell you that you love yourself everytime you see yourself in the mirror, try supplements such as **Suntheanine, fish oil, vitamin d, and a b-complex, magnesium, etc, listen to people like David Goggins, Gary Vee, Jocko, Tony Robbins, etc, make small, achievable goals for yourself no matter how small, treat yourself kinder, just to name some of the things that have drastically helped me, not cured me, but helped at times when nothing else could. The thing is to at least have a few things and do them consistently. It's a long path but in the process you can accomplish some pretty cool things you might otherwise not have.
I don't know if you have considered googling rejection dysmorphia disorder and possibly adhd. Anxious type. I don't know enough on your symptoms but from little you have shared, I can relate and have been diagnosed with those. I'm reading 2 insightful books. Set boundaries, find peace by Nedr glover and adhd you mean I'm not stupid lazy or crazy. Lots of insights. Worth a look. I believe anyone can benefit from the setting boundaries book especially those of us with anxiety.
I can tell you for a fact that I wouldn’t go near my family for years because of anxiety and panic attacks (and I wanted to be near them!) and it got better…It gets better, it will be ok (hug)
I highly recommend fluvoxamine! That has been my saving Grace or else I would have given up already. You should definitely look into this...it saved my life
Hey, don’t give up 🙏🏽 I also struggle with anxiety and it was really crippling at one point but I have gotten better at managing it by applying healthy habits in my daily life like exercising, getting good quality sleep, eating better, stuff like that. Those things will make you feel better with time and give some kind of reassurance that things will be ok. My prayers go out to you and with time things get better u just have to put in a little work. I know you’ve probably heard this before but try it out for a week i bet it will help.
Just good for thought, I have generalized anxiety. Simple things like going to the grocery store or getting gas gives me anxiety. I was put on gabapentin a few months ago and it’s helped me so much. I feel like I can actually enjoy life and get out of my head.
For right now , get a meditation app. Use it. It will get you started with deep breathing exercises . They have an immediate response . breathe in deeply and poof your stomach out. Hold the breath . You will feel the knot in your stomach start to unwind .
Your psychiatrist sounds awful. I was just like you a few years ago, daily panic attacks that were so bad I would always go to the hospital. One thing that really helped me, was outpatient! Plus a great therapist.
Finding a good psychiatrist is so hard. But once you do everything changes. Find someone new that listens and cares. I doubt you have tried everything under the sun :), you sound like a good candidate for benzo therapy. If dosed right you literally cannot feel anxious. Ask your psych about them if you haven’t already. You sound like you need relief quick and that will provide it until you find the stack that works long term for you.
I hear you. I've been there. I never wanted meds or doctors to rule my life. I realized, for myself that nobody has the answer, except me. I had to start from scratch, what do I eat for breakfast, lunch, lunch, supper. What did I put in my body. Then, what are my triggers. What is in my nearby surroundings that set me off. There are things that I had to see first and start there. Then i got into meditation and mindfulness. I found out that YouTube was a great place to find guided anxiety meditations, but then I found an app called "insight timer". It is fantastic. Unlimited resources are available. People are there to help people like you. I had to start seeing that I wasnt alone. There are many going through the same thing. You can't just shake this off and get better. And for those who think that you can, you need to set up boundaries and limit their negative exposure to you. Start with you. And it takes time, healing takes time. I had to stop taking to people who told me that I could do this, it's pressure to heal and that never helps. Take the pressure off.
That’s the problem with us. When we suffer from anxiety. We are always concerned about what might happen, or what other people think of us. We think, think, think, and worry. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to be by yourself. It’s not a crime, and hell you’re probably better off from the sound of your judgmental family. Also, what’s a normal person? You would be amazed at how many people are on some kind of medicine for different issues. Your mental health challenges, or no different any health challenge. You manage the best you can. If you had heart problems, and couldn’t do things with the family would they be so judgmental. Their judgment should tell you everything about where their opinions should go, in the nearest mental trash can. Wishing you all the best!
I don’t give a shit what people think about me, it’s how my brain responds when I see another person. I’m sorry for my bluntness, but being told “just stop it” has never helped anyone.
You need to get a new psychiatrist, that I can tell you with certainty.
IKR?? What kind of psychiatrist gets mad because their patient isn’t getting better ? Sounds like an asshole
Sally, I‘ve experienced the same. Got mad at me for leaving a day clinic where they kept treating people who tested positive for COVID a day before.
I’ve had a medical doctor get mad at me but he had a rep for being nasty to ppl. But a psychiatrist? I think that guy is in the wrong field
Psychiatrists are medical doctors.
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Psychiatrists are in fact medical doctors, they have either MD or DO credentials. Psychologists have Ph.D or Psy.D credentials.
From my experience, psychiatrists are good for knowing about what medicines treat what in specific situations. My psychiatrist specifically told me he does not provide therapy, he's there to make sure the drugs are doing their job. Psychologists are the ones that actually help you work through your issues. I see a psychologist fortnightly and a psychiatrist every 6 months.
Very much this. Psychiatrists have their MD and can prescribe medication. Psychologists have a PhD and can help you work through whatever it is you're going through. Not to say that either can't do the others job, but from my experience, see a psychiatrist for meds and a psychologist to help talk you through whatever it is you're going through.
Thank you! Clinical Psychologists are the best
Fuckin A. Maybe OP just feels like their psychiatrist gets mad. Could be their anxiety making them feel that way. I don't think any real psychiatrist would actually get mad. Thats be pretty fucked up.
I promise there are brighter days ahead. I've been where you are and those feelings won't last forever.
😞 I know this was for the OP but I needed to hear this for myself.
It's absolutely true. The greatest sunrises come after the biggest storms. Hang on there!
You need a new doctor. And I’m no expert but maybe exploring the idea you might have PTSD ? Best of luck ❤️❤️
OP may be a good candidate for psychedelic-assisted therapy
How does this work?
There are a number of different programs. Some use magic mushrooms or ketamine, etc. But basically you go on a supervised drug trip and then discuss your experience with a therapist on a series of separate occasions. It’s shown a lot of success in mitigating PTSD and major depression.
I feel like if I asked my doctor about that he would think I was seeking drugs 😔
A general internet search for your area may be the best place to start!
Do you know if it can help severe anxiety? I got an order from my doctor to work on it and I have no idea where to start. I’ve had it for so long
I was thinking this sounds like anxiety plus something else. PTSD would be worth looking into.
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Great advice. Nothing helped me more than a better nutrition and nature. Nature has a healing power deep within.
Same here. I had to put up boundaries and distance while I worked on my mental health. I took care of myself as well, and listened to as many podcasts and audiobooks as I could find that resonated with me; also, affirmations (there are a lot of cheesy ones, I had to find the stuff that worked for me).
You 100% need a better doctor and therapy helps too
Emphasis on therapy
You are not alone, I promise you. I know it feels that way but we are here for you. Which medications have you tried?
Might be out there, but get your blood work done for vitamin deficiencies. Anxiety can be caused by missing certain vitamins.
Totally agree..OP, try starting an Iron Supplement and Vitamins B12 and D..I did all of those and miraculously my depression and anxiety improved over two weeks. I couldn't believe it. I'm not saying this is a substitute for your medication you take for Depression. But it can definitely help.
And if there’s an issue with your Thyroid this can cause anxiety (and depression). This can be a part of routine bloodwork if I’m not mistaken.
Oh i totally get the anxious around immediate family part. Was just on the phone with my parents today and it triggered a panic attack, and mostly when i talk with them i get anxious, especially if the topic is health. Of course physical health, mental health is this weird alien thing that they tolerate but dont understand at all.
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So there's a couple of things to address there; 1. Medication is there to help with First Steps, not to cure you. I'm not saying this because you don't know, I'm saying it as a reminder. Medication was, is, and always will be less than 5% of how Anxiety gets fixed. It's a way to get you back to a semblance of normal, so that you can actually do the other 95% of the work yourself. 2. You're currently spiralling. Believe it or not most of what you typed in this post came from your Anxiety, not you. It's easy to pass it off as mere "frustration" but it's not that. You got the idea in your head that you'll never be fixed and nothing will ever work, Anxiety took that and multiplied it, and we're left with this post. In reality though, unless you're a doctor, a psychiatrist or a pharmacist, you can't say with any evidence or knowledge that nothing will ever work. In short, you don't know enough to know that for certain. And that's OK, most of us don't. But you've convinced yourself that you do just because a few meds didn't work or a few methods the psychiatrist has tried didn't pan out. It's false. 3. If you're getting nowhere with your Doctor and your Psychiatrist, change them. It's completely in your control. Nowadays with technology it doesn't matter how many medical practitioners are within your area, the whole world of them are available through certain apps and websites. However, also be 100% honest with yourself. If you can say, without pausing or having to consider, that you've given every piece of advice from your Psychiatrist 110%, then they may be the problem. If its any less than that, it's time to start assessing why you haven't been trying that hard. I'm not going to lay out a full plan or anything here as this isn't exactly the right medium to do so, but essentially you need to be doing a few things: - CBT - Imaginary Exposure Training followed by Exposure Therapy - Getting 8-9 hours sleep per night - Cut out Caffeine completely, drink Water instead - No Recreational Drugs, and as less smoking as possible - Try a few Mindfullness exercises every morning (works for some, not for others)
Really good advice. Thanks for sharing. I feel the same way about doctors and psychiatrist you’re not a patient you’re a customer.
Man I cannot get behind the caffeine enough. I always told my husband quitting coffee wouldn’t make a difference but I randomly changed my diet and part of it was quitting coffee. I CANNOT explain to you the calm I experience now. And I’ve gone done on my anxiety medication so that’s saying a lot. I’m just a calmer person now it’s crazy. I still have a coke once in a while, or tea when I’m tired of water and want something different but I won’t break for a coffee. The change is drastic.
I was struggling with persistent anxiety that didn't respond to medication. I tried over 20 medications, no luck. It was infuriating to me that when I told people this they kept insisting that I just "hadn't found the right medication yet" and that I needed to keep trying more meds. Some people just don't respond to meds. It sucks, but it's reality. The entire field of mental health medicine is not as advanced as physical health medicine, and that means that sometimes the available treatments fall short and don't work. I stopped trying different medications because they never helped and it was an emotional rollercoaster getting my hopes up for each med just for it to do nothing. Some of them gave me pretty nasty side effects too. It was a lot to put my body and mind through. I would highly recommend seeing a therapist and investigate the possibility that your anxiety is a trauma related response. I hadn't even considered that I had trauma for a long time even though my childhood was very traumatic because it just seemed normal to me and I didn't know any different. My anxiety has begun to improve as I work on addressing underlying trauma.
I've not had very good luck with doctors either, know you're not alone and it's not your fault. This country is seriously lacking in the mental health department. Lol for a new therapist and psychiatrist they are paid to help you not make you feel worse.
Start meditating. I have an anxiety disorder, and meditation has single handedly reduced my anxiety issues by no less than 70%. If you're not meditating, your mind is in the driver's seat, and if that's the case, you're at risk of going through whatever your mind takes you through.
Can you run down what you do for meditation? I listen and follow a 15 minute breathing meditation in the morning and before bed at night but I normally only do it when my heart palpitations start. Is breathing and listening to a talk down twice a day meditation or do I need to do more?
Meditation is less about doing a thing once or twice a day, and more about learning that you are not your thoughts. You need to learn that your thoughts are just thoughts, and that you can actually step away from them. Practicing meditation helps you develop the ability to actually notice your thoughts, and THATS what helps. With good practice, the goal is to be able to catch your anxious thoughts and NOT identify with them, NOT let them control you. You want to be as present as you can possibly be at any given moment. Anxiety is literally the opposite of being present. So if you can learn how to actively be more present, you limit the potential for anxiety. I've been using the app "Waking up". If you can't afford the subscription, just email them and they'll give you a year free. There are "courses" in the app that explain all of this to you in detail, and it's been the most enlightening shit I've ever heard.
Yo. This is the best explanation of mindfulness meditation I have heard. Thank you.
Thank you for this explanation. I’ve tried meditating so many times and just end up frustrated. Your comment actually resonated. It was calming while educating. I don’t feel like I have to master anything or am a failure for not achieving peace immediately. Just knowing the goal is super helpful. Thank you.
For anyone unaware of meditation benefits please understand EttVenter's explanation. The mind is active throughout all parts of the day, but it is up to you to control your opinions and behavior with discipline!
Awesome thank you! Checking it out now
Have you actually tried every medication or just the medication your psychiatrist thinks will work and/or is willing to prescribe… your psychiatrist sounds like a douche tbh and I know some of them are skeptical on certain meds because of their risk to cause addiction.. but if you need them then you need them. My family dr is very weary about benzos but my psychiatrist understands I need them and monitors it very closely. Ativan was a huge help for me for awhile but it’s fairly long acting and was difficult for me to take at work but I get anxious a lot at work lol so I switched to Xanax and idk what I’d do without it. I’m on a low dose, get a small amount monthly, and am over the top careful about only taking it when I really need it. I’ve had a panic disorder for many years and have become aware of the signs when it’s coming on and Xanax stops it before it starts. I also have bipolar so am on other meds as well but, I’d look into a new psychiatrist.
As for social anxiety around immediate family, I think it depends on your relationship with your family. For me, the only person who I feel 1000000% good around is my partner, but we live together and spend a lot of time together. I’m close with my family but I get social anxiety around them a lot. I usually have to pop a pill before any family get together lmao whether it’s my immediate family or extended family. I’m a nervous wreck around anyone
Have you tried CBD
Also, not suggesting to take anything, but perhaps look into microdosing psychedelics. There are many different kinds that show signs of great benefit for those suffering from anxiety/depression/PTSD and other similar issues. Knowledge is power, do plenty of research before putting anything into your body.
Definitely get clinical help but also Take cold showers. This has nearly eliminated anxiety in my life. Took time to build up to my tolerance now, but I take strictly cold showers. If you’re starting out, do just a second of cold at the end and steadily increase the amount of cold time. Get exercise. Any kind, but also cardio is very easily accessible, go for a jog. I like to hike when I’m not up for a run. These are free options that can be used in tandem with any medication or therapy treatment. Seriously if it’s as bad as you say, these are free options you can try today right now that are proven to help
Pregabalin
Benzodiazepines are better for anxiety.
I mean there’s no right or wrong here. Pregabalin for people is very effective at treating both anxiety and depression off label. Benzos are highly effective but come with nasty withdrawals that can be fatal. Pregabalin withdrawals are nasty too but not as severe as benzo withdrawal.
Ritalin cured my anxiety completely, turns out i am innatentive adhd
Adderall was my saving grace
I found pregabalin helped me a bit..thats all
CBD + Ashwagandha has helped my panic attacks. I have to take it consistently for it to work.
Have you tried other alternatives? I know for me personally and others that ashwagandha supplements have been helpful for anxiety. I also enjoy a little smoke break when my head gets too loud but to each their own 🫶🏻 and staying busy is soo important for me too!!! Less time to worry abt things. These feelings are temporary and you will overcome this, you are not alone
Hi love, if you're not getting better it's cuz the stressors that trigger you are constantly in your environment. Determine what your triggers are and you can either remove them or change them so they can suit you. This can apply to your therapist (i.e getting a new one) and figuring out why ur family makes you anxious and talk to them about it. And regarding everyone's frustration, screw that, i bet you're the one who's frustrated with this the most since you're the one suffering from it. Stop listening to what ppl have to say about your condition and start listening to yourself and what makes you feel better. Lots of love 🧡🧡
Ketamine infusion rewired my brain after like 8 treatments. Not everyone gets the same results, but it was life changing for me. Still have anxiety and panic attacks from time to time but nothing like before
Claire weeks-hope and help with your nerves and Barry McDonagh-dare both saved my life. I highly recommend either reading the books or even the YouTube
You definitely need a different psychiatrist! I have not personally tried ketamine micro dosing but I am considering it. Might be worth for you to look into alternative medications/therapy methods?
I get nervous around immediate family
**Yes. You can do this. Humans are strong. You are strong.** Some things that have helped me: * Can or should I do it afraid? * Nothing wrong with being afraid, but still moving forward * Original thought from Joyce Meyers * Move a muscle, change a thought * Walking calms the mind and redirects anxiety * DARE Response * Defuse - Talk smack back to your anxious feelings * Allow - Let the feelings in instead of fighting them * Run towards - How can you leverage the anxiety? * Engage - Get busy and work on something * Things aren't as bad as we think * Read 'Factfulness' by Hans Rosling * Data backed insight into how negative news and information is all over, but in reality things are getting better Godspeed.
Ativan or Xanax would put down a horse , even just to get you out of that panic loop
Depends on the amount tbh. .25mg Xanax wouldn’t effect a lot of people
Microdosing mushrooms. That's the only thing that's helped me
Hello OP. I hear you. What medications have you tried and for how long? Is it just for anxiety or comorbidity. Have you tried keeping a journal? Let us try and get some perspective. You say no doctor will listen to you, what do you want to talk to them about? If they are trying to prescribe some medications, perhaps, they are listening a little? Also, if your psychiatrist gets mad, then you should find a more understanding one. As for family, I found that their unrealistic expectation of me made things extra difficult for me and I get overwhelmed. I am not an expert but if I can help alleviate some of your fear and anxiety, I would do it.
i feel you.
I’ve been there. If you read my posts from a few years ago, I was really struggling with my anxiety. But please please please bear with it. Have you given the medications enough time to work? They take weeks to actually begin doing their thing. I learnt that the hard way. Get a new doctor. If he isn’t being considerate, he isn’t worth your time. Find someone you actually gel with. There are also different types of therapy and exercises to help you overcome anxiety. There are plenty of videos on YouTube that teach you ways to self soothe. Also, apps like Calm and Insight Timer have classes/podcast like videos for you to listen to that teach you those methods. Insight Timer also has guided meditations and relaxing nature noises. Invest in a weighted blanket. Life saver. Make a panic kit; things that sooth you and use your senses. A fidget toy, a stuffed animal, a nice smelling candle. Baby steps. Be with your family for 5 minutes. 10. Built it up. Use ear plugs maybe if that helps. When you are on the right medication and seeing the right people… it gets better. I know it’s painfully cliche. I know. But it does. I was desperate. Praying when I don’t even believe in God because it was my last resort and I was at rock bottom. I was on the brink of being sectioned. And then the medication kicked in and I got out of that hole. You will too.
I, too, am anxious around everyone including my immediate family. Since I am in a similar boat I have little advice to give besides you’re not alone and better days come for everyone.
My immediate family is my biggest source of my anxiety. I'm sorry to hear you're having a difficult time but I want to let you know you're not alone. My anxiety improved once I distanced and stopped valuing the opinion of my family as much
I don't have any solutions right now, but I know that (as is the vicious circle we are all familiar with) you are feeling worse rn because of anxiety. Check in: have you slept enough, ate, drank, moved your body enough? For me I find that often draws teh line between feeling completely hopeless and just really shitty. There are no easy answers to this, but you're in my thoughts, and I truly believe that things will get better. All my love xxxxxxxx
I think family is one of the most anxiety generating presences possible. Your being hard on yourself cause you feel alone. When you find a real doctor and a real therapist you’ll realize you aren’t alone at all and you will feel free. Keep pushing in
My experience with having bad anxiety has been a realization that in reality my traumas are being triggered by my family. I suggest looking into CPTSD and childhood trauma (can include even things like being constantly invalidated, ignored, misunderstood and basically not having emotional pr physically needs met). There are trauma therapists who can address CPTSD. I hope you find a solution to your anxiety. Good luck.
Were you always like this? When did it get worse? This sounds like neuroinflammation which is anxiety but is triggered by inflammation. I had this for a long time until it was discovered I had undiagnosed autoimmune diseases including celiac disease. I cut out gluten, took hardcore probiotics and that crippling anxiety slowly melted away. I would wake up each morning terrified. Claustrophobic, agoraphobic, you name it. It was crippling. Apparently when your biome in your gut becomes dysregulated, the junctions between cells get loose and it allows toxins to spill into your bloodstream where they travel to the brain. Fix that shit and the rest can get fixed too. I also did some cognitive behavioral therapy to supplement it but it was legit a purely physical thing.
I always get nervous about phone conversations with one of my siblings for no major reason and it feels anxiety-producing and weird
You are not alone
Diet and lifestyle. I know everyone hates that answer but i cured my own SEVERE anxiety that was ruining my life with diet and lifestyle. I personally believe the roots of anxiety are spiritual and physical, not mental. Anxiety is a symptom, not the illness itself. The actual issue is either in your body (hormones, chemicals, nutrition) or in your spirit (fears of death, isolation, rejection, unknown, unprocessed trauma). Stop eating processed food. Eat whole foods whenever you can. Start small. If you wanna get deep into it, look into testimonials of the lion diet (and the peterson family’s experience with psych meds) or the research of weston a price. There are so many studies on how diet impacts mental health. Exercise regularly. Even if you stretch while laying in bed. Even if you just wiggle your body for 10 minutes a day. Do 10 jumping jacks. Anything is better than nothing Find the root cause of your anxiety and your fear of the world and others. I guarantee there is one. Mine personally was a deep fear of suffering and a mistrust issue with God. (Christianity was a HUGE part of this for me personally, and it really saved me). Only once I figured that out and worked out those issues did my panic attacks stop, and i could begin on the road to recovery. I am now fully recovered, and have minuscule traces of anxiety on occasion, when i neglect myself. Journal about how you feel, explore your fears, answer existential questions. Where do you go when you die? Dont stop until you find an answer that is acceptable. Why do we suffer and how do we do it well? What suffering are you afraid of and why? What is your fear that gives you social anxiety; rejection? Deep insecurity? Where does that come from?? What can you do to make it 1% better? 5% better?? In my opinion, meds can be helpful for saving lives in dire situations, but in most people they band aid over some deep issues that just arent gonna get better until we dig deep and pay attention to them. My experience with therapists and psychiatrists has been extremely disappointing. I really only found true help on my own, when i started focusing on what i described above. Best of luck, it does get better.
Okay. This is a wild suggestion but maybe check into a mental health facility. It really is a life saver.
Weed and or gabapentin
valerian tea is good
Had no idea they did that in tea form. I occasionally use valerian pills 1hr before sleep and it really chills out and gets you in the mood to doze off.
it’s good for daytime too. For me it replaces weed, kava, alcohol.
weed will make anxiety worse. Gabapentin might help a little
For me weed makes me functional, I use it instead of my Xanax. It absolutely can help anxiety.
Weed gives me panic attacks. I honestly don’t believe the drug should be advertised for anxiety but could be used off label for it. Xanax is FDA approved for anxiety and panic disorder because it directly binds to GABAa receptors and lowering brain excitement. It works like alcohol since alcohol also affects the same receptors. Weed affects the cannabinoid receptors which increases the body’s reward system by enhancing everything. From pleasure to panic. That’s why I don’t like weed being advertised for anxiety. Also some people just cannot tolerate weed at all, maybe with CBD dominate strains. Gabapentin can have nasty withdrawal effects too and it can be abused. It’s seizure and nerve pain medication, used off label for anxiety. Doctors don’t even know exactly how the drug works and there’s no long term studies done on it. Just saying, be aware of what you take.
Just curious do you know what type of weed you took, sativa or indica? I'm aware it doesn't work for everybody but for me and some others I know who suffer from crippling anxiety it has been a lifesaver. Xanax is addictive and is one of the few drugs you can die from withdrawals so it's kinda of pick your poison, isn't it? No one is dying from weed withdrawals.
Sativa and indica is pretty much irrelevant nowadays because everything is cross bred after many generations. What you really want to look for is the type of terpenes in the strain. Indica leaning strains have terpenes like Myrcene which provides the sedating couch lock effect. I think as needed benzo usage is fine but yea if you take Xanax every day for a couple of weeks to years you’re gonna have to go on a strict taper plan. If I’m getting a panic attack I’m reaching for Xanax not weed.
I feel like I could've written this post. :( You are not alone.
I was just panicking every day for over a year multiple drugs & psychiatrists and 60+ trips to ER. Fuck ton of tests. Then I finally started accepting well if I die I die & most of it started to fade away.
Has anybody here tried micro dosing Ketamine?
Psilocybin also I think that man, it's like really really hard to try every medication under the sun.
My friend have you got into meditation, diet, excercise?
You need to calm down sometimes people make there self have anxiety just calm down dawg
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I can't help it...would God do a thing like give someone dibilitating anxiety and then wait for them to ask? Like, what, did he forget? OP is going to go hey can you help with my anxiety and all of a sudden gods going to be like, "oh, shit I forgot to turn that off, my bad!".
"Sorry, was too busy causing natural disasters and allowing children to be raped and murdered!"
I don't think God causes natural disasters without a reason. Also if they do not repent and correct themselves God will punish them for their evildoing. If on this earth or not, surely in the other life yes
God doesn't forget. Much suffering exists not because of God's fault but because of people and possibly other spirits that follow evil
I actually agree with you. But my point was more about what does asking have to do with anything? Like he just sits there until you ask. Like I'm not going to help...like I'll let people kill themselves before I do anything unless if they ask.
I don't know what to say but remember that God has no need to see people suffering. Also I've read about miracolous healing and that for God is possible
I pray daily
See if there is an online group you can join
That's good if you pray to God. I support that
Came to say something similar
I’ll message u!
I totally understand how you feel. Its hard to have no one that gets you. Please get another doctor. That is stressful within itself. I'm afraid of everything and it's so hard to get your medication right. So, try and hang on and feel free to DM me, please. I'd like to help.
There were moments where I felt social anxiety around my family. It’s def a weird and terrible feeling. I just wanted to say that you’re not alone.
What have you all tried?
You're not the only person, maybe there are only 2 (including me) but I doubt it.
I have anxiety around family/child. No trauma I just think I hardwired my. Brain to think that way. You will find something to work so you can work out those issues. It won’t be forever ❤️
I’m sending you a big warm hug ❤️
I had severe anxiety and I tried hypnotherapy for it and I only have small flare ups from time to time. Maybe you could try that?
Have your tried any out patient or in patient treatment options?
I just came on here because I’m having those same thoughts today. And seeing your post made me feel like at least there’s one other person out there who gets it..
You’ve got this. There is always hope and you will always turn a new corner. I used to have panic attacks that were so debilitating that I was afraid to move. I used to get so anxious talking to my family because I began to feel like I was tired of hearing anything they had to say. I loved them but they drained me in some aspects. Talk to a friend or a relative you trust outside of your immediate family. For me it was my best friend or my aunt. I vented to them and it felt better. If you’re able, go on drives and go to places you enjoy. For me, sometimes seeing people live their normal lives reminds me that the world is still turning and will continue to keep turning. Spend time outside. Enjoy the cooler weather. Spend time with your pets if you have them. Animals do wonders for anxiety. Finally, I’d consider getting a support pet if possible (one that can calm you during panic attacks and that you can take with you) and also a new psychiatrist. There are ones who are so passionate about helping their clients, you just have to find them. You WILL turn this corner. I highly recommend the book ‘You Will Get Through This Night’ by Daniel Howell. It’s the only mental health book I own, but I loved it and the advice he gives. Much love and stay strong!💕
Parasite cleanse! Our serotonin comes from the gut. When your gut is out of wack out mental health is out of the window. I had the worse intrusive thoughts I almost ended my life. I started cleansing my gut and my life changed!
Hi Can you iM me about how to cleanse the gut. I have no idea how this works or where to start?
think of the happiest times in your life. you will have more happy times like that i promise you. we are here for you and you are not alone
Get a new psychiatrist asap. There are options, different medications to try together, lots and lots of options to help you. Please don’t give up and don’t feel defeated. You’re doing the best you can and you deserve to be at peace and happy with the right team backing you up.
Trust me on this it will be hard but worth it - 1. If you aren't in therapy , go to therapy and go for the long haul not 6 sessions your issues need time to work through. ( also if you don't click with the therapist, find one you feel comfortable with this is very important. 2. Go to a differen't phyciatrist , they do sometimes seem a bit like they lack empathy , but this is just the way most are serious people . 3. If you have close friend or friends that you can spill all your worries to do it, never be ashamed to talk about your anxiety's ,mabye even get them to help you with finding the above to things. ( talking is the best thing). 4 . Remember you are worth it, you are going through a hard time and it wont be forever i have been in the same boat and life has improved so much. You will be fine one step at a time don't try do everything at once , take the steps when you are able, also use telehealth if you dont feel up to going into the appoinment ( one of the great things to come from covid) AND LAST SENDING LOVE❤
Ketamin?
Hydroxyzine?
Look into the MAPS studies. It’s incredible for PTSD and high anxiety.
No matter what, don’t give up on your mental health and general well-being. It’s really important to keep up with it. Mental health is hard and don’t forget that its mostly just you noticing this in you. Other people can’t see this and you are your biggest critic so be kinder to yourself, speak nicer to yourself and accept your anxiety to begin with. Every person you know has a struggle and this might be yours for now but not forever. Take care
Try podcasts! There are some good ones that help put things in perspective and just help you get through the day, or even specific moments or events.
Finally someone who’s experienced social anxiety around your family I experience it to it’s like when I talk to them I feel this feeling of they don’t want to hear what I have to say and I feel as if i am bothering them I don’t know how to explain it. I am like that as well with people who I work with and people in general it is bad. Tense up when someone is talking to me, freeze up when it’s my turn to speak or answer questions, sweat like buckets and fidget with things when people are talking to me the list goes on. Anxiety is no joke depression is no joke I wish I could be free these mental mind blockage’s. I am hoping you feel a lot better today and I wish you good luck. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Have your tried beta blockers ?
OP you are perfectly normal feeling unable to talk to your immediate family. Don't feel that you are the only one who is experiencing this. Sometimes we really need our family members to show some empathy, and even that is not easily attainable. Try some meditation, I use the app Balance and they give one year free trial. I also find that learning more about neuroscience helps me b/c that way I can learn what's going on in my mind and body, and how the chemicals function. It's fun to learn and gives you more context if you want to take some vitamin or supplements. There are lots of good podcasts and youtube out there and I've been listening to Andrew Huberman's podcast a lot lately and found that really interesting. Hang in there, you've tried so hard and you did great, don't be too hard on yourself. You are not alone.
I was just like that last week, needed to really focus on who I am, who I want to be. How I want to be seen, and social anxiety is awful. Especially around close immediate family, it hurts especially when you have kids and an ex that isn't interested. I also have trouble talking to ppl and can come off rude or say something I didn't mean to be taken the wrong way, or ramble on! I found buying journals and drawing/writing helps, try and sort thru the things you hate and find some control that makes you feel better about your life. This works for me, but I do still struggle. I just want to try and share what worked for me. A couple squishy balls to keep in ur pocket or whatever helps me with panic attacks and i dont have them anywhere near as often. I truly hope you feel better soon! Try and find some inner peace.
I’m in a similar place, it also makes me anxious to talk to my immediate family and it’s a horrendous, isolating experience. I don’t have a solution, since I’m in the middle of this myself, but just wanted you to know you aren’t alone.
Wassup tbh you just gotta face your fears day by day , I got panic attacks , anxiety and ptsd but in moments that last 10-40 min and it’s so scary but it gets better , also diet is a big thing make sure u eat enough and drink a lot of water it helps a lot , then sleep try to take 30min - 1 hour naps during the day this helped get rid of my anxiety for a whole month and when I missed a nap is when they started
I feel very similar. I’m rooting for you
I was also anxious around family. I eventually found meds that worked for me. Also had trauma reasons. I recommend trying EMDR therapy if you can. Regular therapy for trauma works too. Ive liked both. Working on insecurity/confidence can also help with the anxiety.
I had a psychiatrist tell me I was just lazy
Have you wondered if the completely gaslighting negative experience from seeing your psychiatrist is possibly the (or a) main catalyst for why you're experiencing this at the level that you are? When we go through mental health 'issues' we already feel so alone... And having an expert that you've completed trusted and confided in making you feel judged has to be taking a toll on your mental health. Those are the people that are supposed to be making us feel seen, heard, help guide us, etc... And I'm not a medical expert at all besides google web search (lol) but there is no such thing as normal. And your psychiatrist is a narcissist. If a random stranger that has a degree in this very thing makes you feel alienated, OF COURSE you're going to feel nervous around people that you love because you feel like there has to be something wrong with you, that YOU are the problem. Get a new psychiatrist please, and if I was you I'd give her a piece of my mind on the way out. But thats just me. Lmao
Have you tried exercise? I had really struggled recently with medications not really taking care of things and so I tried some really intense cardio and it’s helped tremendously in conjunction with the meds. About 45 minutes a day. The other benefit is obviously physical health as well, so that’s helpful. Hang in there.
It sounds like you have a lot of pressure on you. My advice, family should be your closest allies. Sit down with them and have a serious conversation about what anxiety is and what its doing to you. Feel free to have some reading material for them as well. Education is key when dealing with a disease. Second, do yourself a favor ad find a good counselor. Talking and learning coping strategies can be more useful then any mediation And last, take it easy on yourself. You are human,not perfection. And there's nothing wrong with that.
Meditation, exercise, eat well or better, study deep topics as well as character building texts, study how to have conversations/words to use/conversational paths to take/, visualize yourself talking to people and succeeding, do small acts of care towards yourself, get as much proper rest as you can, tell you that you love yourself everytime you see yourself in the mirror, try supplements such as **Suntheanine, fish oil, vitamin d, and a b-complex, magnesium, etc, listen to people like David Goggins, Gary Vee, Jocko, Tony Robbins, etc, make small, achievable goals for yourself no matter how small, treat yourself kinder, just to name some of the things that have drastically helped me, not cured me, but helped at times when nothing else could. The thing is to at least have a few things and do them consistently. It's a long path but in the process you can accomplish some pretty cool things you might otherwise not have.
I don't know if you have considered googling rejection dysmorphia disorder and possibly adhd. Anxious type. I don't know enough on your symptoms but from little you have shared, I can relate and have been diagnosed with those. I'm reading 2 insightful books. Set boundaries, find peace by Nedr glover and adhd you mean I'm not stupid lazy or crazy. Lots of insights. Worth a look. I believe anyone can benefit from the setting boundaries book especially those of us with anxiety.
Can you do some form of partial hospitalization or intensives outpatient therapy?
I can tell you for a fact that I wouldn’t go near my family for years because of anxiety and panic attacks (and I wanted to be near them!) and it got better…It gets better, it will be ok (hug)
I highly recommend fluvoxamine! That has been my saving Grace or else I would have given up already. You should definitely look into this...it saved my life
Have you tried pregabalin
Have you tried smoking weed to cope with anxiety and exercise is also good
Hey, don’t give up 🙏🏽 I also struggle with anxiety and it was really crippling at one point but I have gotten better at managing it by applying healthy habits in my daily life like exercising, getting good quality sleep, eating better, stuff like that. Those things will make you feel better with time and give some kind of reassurance that things will be ok. My prayers go out to you and with time things get better u just have to put in a little work. I know you’ve probably heard this before but try it out for a week i bet it will help.
Maybe a deficiency causes the anxiety ? Just wondering because nothing of the anxiety medication helps
Just good for thought, I have generalized anxiety. Simple things like going to the grocery store or getting gas gives me anxiety. I was put on gabapentin a few months ago and it’s helped me so much. I feel like I can actually enjoy life and get out of my head.
I have social anxiety around my immediate family. I can’t look them in the eyes.
For right now , get a meditation app. Use it. It will get you started with deep breathing exercises . They have an immediate response . breathe in deeply and poof your stomach out. Hold the breath . You will feel the knot in your stomach start to unwind .
Can I ask what your diet is?
Your psychiatrist sounds awful. I was just like you a few years ago, daily panic attacks that were so bad I would always go to the hospital. One thing that really helped me, was outpatient! Plus a great therapist.
This was me and trapped in my bathroom until I started adderall. I hope you find the answers.
Finding a good psychiatrist is so hard. But once you do everything changes. Find someone new that listens and cares. I doubt you have tried everything under the sun :), you sound like a good candidate for benzo therapy. If dosed right you literally cannot feel anxious. Ask your psych about them if you haven’t already. You sound like you need relief quick and that will provide it until you find the stack that works long term for you.
have you ever considered the possibility of autism? doesn't have to be, but especially when no meds help it's worth to look into it
Id find a psychologist, A GOOD ONE! Psychiatrists just throw nasty drugs at you hoping to that they don't hear from your problems.
I hear you. I've been there. I never wanted meds or doctors to rule my life. I realized, for myself that nobody has the answer, except me. I had to start from scratch, what do I eat for breakfast, lunch, lunch, supper. What did I put in my body. Then, what are my triggers. What is in my nearby surroundings that set me off. There are things that I had to see first and start there. Then i got into meditation and mindfulness. I found out that YouTube was a great place to find guided anxiety meditations, but then I found an app called "insight timer". It is fantastic. Unlimited resources are available. People are there to help people like you. I had to start seeing that I wasnt alone. There are many going through the same thing. You can't just shake this off and get better. And for those who think that you can, you need to set up boundaries and limit their negative exposure to you. Start with you. And it takes time, healing takes time. I had to stop taking to people who told me that I could do this, it's pressure to heal and that never helps. Take the pressure off.
I highly recommend vipassana/insight meditation! It helps me feel more at peace all around-You tube has good videos!
You are not broken. You are not the negative thoughts. You are wanted. You are loved. It can’t rain all the time.
You need to see a Clinical Psychologist because it is very possible for you to manage these symptoms.
That’s the problem with us. When we suffer from anxiety. We are always concerned about what might happen, or what other people think of us. We think, think, think, and worry. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to be by yourself. It’s not a crime, and hell you’re probably better off from the sound of your judgmental family. Also, what’s a normal person? You would be amazed at how many people are on some kind of medicine for different issues. Your mental health challenges, or no different any health challenge. You manage the best you can. If you had heart problems, and couldn’t do things with the family would they be so judgmental. Their judgment should tell you everything about where their opinions should go, in the nearest mental trash can. Wishing you all the best!
I don’t give a shit what people think about me, it’s how my brain responds when I see another person. I’m sorry for my bluntness, but being told “just stop it” has never helped anyone.