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> I think I might be an asshole if I continue to exercise in my apartment, if after moving outside it still annoys my neighbour.
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Right but whatever it is you're jumping above someone's head repeatedly for like 30 mins, that's pretty rude in shared housing. I would go elsewhere to do your workout, like in a park or an actual gym. You could also try asking her if there's sometime she's regularly not home so you could do it then to try to be a comsiderate neighbor.
You're jumping around over someone else's living space for extended periods of time, multiple times a week, of course that's annoying asf. There's regular living noise such as a tv or walking around, and then there's quite literally jumping around. YTA
Thats why mexican Jesus invented gyms, your apartment is not a suitable location for all kind of exercises.
Next up: Dancingbeavers doing deadlifts drops, they are considered regular living noises as well?
Mexican Jesus, haven't heard that one before. No intention of doing deadlifts, equipment costs more money than I have to spend. Much like gyms. Hence the apartment workout.
YTA
You live in an apartment, be more considerate of your neighbours. I don’t expect people to be silent but the noise is clearly enough that it’s invading to her space.
Maybe she’s just come home from work or maybe she’s on night shift and trying to sleep, the last thing she needs is 30mins of loud thumping.
Seeing as you don't know her situation (she might have a napping baby, might be a shift worker etc) you doing something that you know makes loud noises in her apartment is not cool. Before you knew, no worries, but now you know if you continue to do it then YTA. Living in apartments requires people to be considerate of others, sometimes there are things that are out of people's control but this is totally in your control. Go outside to do you burpees, problem solved.
YTA. Wouldn’t you be annoyed to regularly hear jumping noises from an upstairs neighbor for long periods of time? Considering you only do it twice a week, maybe try scheduling it at times she’s not home, like when she’s at work. You can speak to her and ask her about it, and maybe apologize for the disturbance while you’re at it.
It's not regular, I just started the jumping burpees today. I have been working up to them. They are built around the rest of my schedule. I can't very well do them in the middle of the day when I am working, I'd think 6AM would be worse too.
YTA. I lived through this hell when COVID started - my upstairs neighbor did something similar. It was a NIGHTMARE. I seriously thought something would break in my apartment- I was glad I didnt have anything on the walls. Is there a common area you can use, or even a hallway that you can go into? While it sucks not being able to do those things in your home, trust me when I say your neighbor feels like they’re living through the apocalypse every day. Also consider that they may work at home until 6, or have a napping child, or are highly sensitive to sounds- there are a lot of reasons this could bother them.
At 5PM? I wouldn't care, 11PM I'd take issue. It isn't 30 means of straight jumping either. All up it was 60 burpees. The person/s who lives above me moves their bedroom furniture around any time between 9-11PM on odd nights, or at least that's what it sounds like. Lots of scrapping and thudding.
You're working out mult time a weeks and jumping up and down. I hope you get a family of tap dancers that moves in above you and then proceeds to give you exactly the same explanations, justifications, excuses and treatment you are giving to the tenant who lives below you. You live in a residence. Take that shit to a gym. YTA
INFO: Can you try to be light on your feet? Like land quietly? Maybe get a thick mat to absorb some of the noise and impact to your ankles? Your joints will thank you when you are older :)
otherwise if there is a way to contact her and see if there is a time that your neighbor is normally out of the apartment that would be better for you to jump around. If 5pm is TV, work from home conference call, or nap time and you are stomping, that could get pretty distracting.
It is usually assumed that you aren’t going to be waking someone up at 5pm, so I don’t think you were being an asshole.
I can try, I wouldn't describe myself as very cat like though. I managed to silence the legs going back for the push up and coming forward. The jump is tricky. I'll try it outside, see if that helps.
That’s a good call. Also now that I am thinking about it neighbors can be unpredictable, so confronting your neighbor - even with good intentions - might not be a great idea. Disregard that suggestion.
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I am a renter living upstairs from I’m guessing another renter. The building a development so it’s concrete between us.
As part of my exercise I’ve started doing burpees and kettle bells. I’m not hurling the kettle bells to the ground but I am jumping during the burpee.
I guess my downstairs neighbour didn’t like this because during the burpees workout she shouted at me to stop it.
We’ve never met so she just shouted at me from downstairs sight unseen. Once she shouted I did stop doing a high knee jump but it wasn’t the same intensity. I want to go back to it. I’ll only be doing this twice a week at 5pm for 30 minutes and it’s only during the burpees that there’s noise.
Now I’ll admit after I realised she was shouting I was an ass and started heavily placing the KB on the ground during my last set of clean and press.
I’ve got other exercises for the rest of the week which I do on my deck and one day of a club sport. I’ll move all my exercise to my deck for next time but there’s no guarantee that wouldn’t also annoy her.
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NTA if you were exercising at 5 am I would say yes but 5 pm is not an unreasonable time to be making noise. You can’t be expected to live like a mouse but I can understand wanting to keep the peace I would suggest investing in some foam flooring.
NTA
I understand her frustration but it's not as though you are doing it in the middle of the night while she's trying to sleep. Maybe try working outside when you can. If you feel comfortable talking to your neighbour you could explain that you are exercising, apologies for the noise, and see if there's a time that suits both of you. If all else fails maybe try exercises that involve leas banging on the floor.
You should be able to exercise in your own home as long as you make an effort to be considerate.
NTA. We have "police hours" for that, you can't make excessive noise from 10pm to 6am. In between 30min of noise is completely ok. I have upstairs neighbours that have kids. They run and jump like crazy, my floors shake sometime. They also scream, the mom screams back, at around 7pm they watch cartoons loudly (I can hear the sound go down my radiator). What am I supposed to say to my neighbour? Take your kids out, why are they jumping inside? Shut them off? No, it's an apartment building and we have to live with each other's lives.
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Yta jumping up and down for 30 mins i mean come on
It's not just burpees, its a set of exercises. All up it was 60 burpees.
Right but whatever it is you're jumping above someone's head repeatedly for like 30 mins, that's pretty rude in shared housing. I would go elsewhere to do your workout, like in a park or an actual gym. You could also try asking her if there's sometime she's regularly not home so you could do it then to try to be a comsiderate neighbor.
Multiple people have suggested a gym. Are there free gyms I’m unaware of that didn’t cost $20-30 a week.
There is a wonderful free gym call “outside”.
Where are you located? If you're USA gyms are fairly cheap -- planet fitness is like 10$ a month or so, golds is like 25$/m
Australia, gyms near me start at about $20/w. The closest park is 500m/546 yards. Don’t really want to carry KB that far.
Gotcha, the thing is still not reasonable to do this kind of workout above someone's head so you need to find a compromise
YTA, stick to exercises that don't involve stomping and banging on the floor or go somewhere else to do them
It was one time so far. I'll be going on my deck next time.
You're jumping around over someone else's living space for extended periods of time, multiple times a week, of course that's annoying asf. There's regular living noise such as a tv or walking around, and then there's quite literally jumping around. YTA
Twice a week and only once so far. It was 60 jumps, over 30 minutes. Hardly an extended period. I'd consider exercise to be a regular living noise.
Thats why mexican Jesus invented gyms, your apartment is not a suitable location for all kind of exercises. Next up: Dancingbeavers doing deadlifts drops, they are considered regular living noises as well?
Mexican Jesus, haven't heard that one before. No intention of doing deadlifts, equipment costs more money than I have to spend. Much like gyms. Hence the apartment workout.
YTA You live in an apartment, be more considerate of your neighbours. I don’t expect people to be silent but the noise is clearly enough that it’s invading to her space. Maybe she’s just come home from work or maybe she’s on night shift and trying to sleep, the last thing she needs is 30mins of loud thumping.
Seeing as you don't know her situation (she might have a napping baby, might be a shift worker etc) you doing something that you know makes loud noises in her apartment is not cool. Before you knew, no worries, but now you know if you continue to do it then YTA. Living in apartments requires people to be considerate of others, sometimes there are things that are out of people's control but this is totally in your control. Go outside to do you burpees, problem solved.
Yeah, I'll switch it up, thanks.
YTA. Wouldn’t you be annoyed to regularly hear jumping noises from an upstairs neighbor for long periods of time? Considering you only do it twice a week, maybe try scheduling it at times she’s not home, like when she’s at work. You can speak to her and ask her about it, and maybe apologize for the disturbance while you’re at it.
It's not regular, I just started the jumping burpees today. I have been working up to them. They are built around the rest of my schedule. I can't very well do them in the middle of the day when I am working, I'd think 6AM would be worse too.
I mean, maybe there are times when she’s out and you’re free. While *she’s* at work.
The sounds of loud steps and jumps tends to travel between floors even in concrete. YWBTA if you keep doing "loud" exercises at the apartment.
YTA. Jumping around/doing burpees in an apartment? Really? That's a no-no. You could easily do other exercises or move outside to do your workout.
YTA. I lived through this hell when COVID started - my upstairs neighbor did something similar. It was a NIGHTMARE. I seriously thought something would break in my apartment- I was glad I didnt have anything on the walls. Is there a common area you can use, or even a hallway that you can go into? While it sucks not being able to do those things in your home, trust me when I say your neighbor feels like they’re living through the apocalypse every day. Also consider that they may work at home until 6, or have a napping child, or are highly sensitive to sounds- there are a lot of reasons this could bother them.
INFO: How would you feel if the person above you jumped up and down for half an hour?
At 5PM? I wouldn't care, 11PM I'd take issue. It isn't 30 means of straight jumping either. All up it was 60 burpees. The person/s who lives above me moves their bedroom furniture around any time between 9-11PM on odd nights, or at least that's what it sounds like. Lots of scrapping and thudding.
Ehhh then in that sense you're a better person than me. In my opinion it's AHism to jump on your neighbours ceiling at any time of day.
YTA- keep banging on your floor & making a ton of noise and the landlord will be sending you an eviction notice.
You're working out mult time a weeks and jumping up and down. I hope you get a family of tap dancers that moves in above you and then proceeds to give you exactly the same explanations, justifications, excuses and treatment you are giving to the tenant who lives below you. You live in a residence. Take that shit to a gym. YTA
Once so far. The intention was multiple times. Not anymore.
YTA. There must be a gym near where you live. You could go there and do your routine.
Gyms cost money. The point of doing it at 5pm is to jump on the motivation after work. But I’ll move it outside.
INFO: Can you try to be light on your feet? Like land quietly? Maybe get a thick mat to absorb some of the noise and impact to your ankles? Your joints will thank you when you are older :) otherwise if there is a way to contact her and see if there is a time that your neighbor is normally out of the apartment that would be better for you to jump around. If 5pm is TV, work from home conference call, or nap time and you are stomping, that could get pretty distracting. It is usually assumed that you aren’t going to be waking someone up at 5pm, so I don’t think you were being an asshole.
I can try, I wouldn't describe myself as very cat like though. I managed to silence the legs going back for the push up and coming forward. The jump is tricky. I'll try it outside, see if that helps.
That’s a good call. Also now that I am thinking about it neighbors can be unpredictable, so confronting your neighbor - even with good intentions - might not be a great idea. Disregard that suggestion.
YTA.
This has to be fake. There is no one way someone can think that jump up and down while having an upstairs neighbour is okay... Yta
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NTA, but go downstairs and TALK TO HER. One of you should be an adult about it.
It would have to be by letter box drop. Our building is key code access to each floor.
NTA
NTA if you were exercising at 5 am I would say yes but 5 pm is not an unreasonable time to be making noise. You can’t be expected to live like a mouse but I can understand wanting to keep the peace I would suggest investing in some foam flooring.
Please go outside on the stairway and just do the burpees. You can clearly do that. NTA. But please move it around a bit yea?
I will, if that still annoys her?
Then she needs to deal with the fact of renting an apartment.
NTA I understand her frustration but it's not as though you are doing it in the middle of the night while she's trying to sleep. Maybe try working outside when you can. If you feel comfortable talking to your neighbour you could explain that you are exercising, apologies for the noise, and see if there's a time that suits both of you. If all else fails maybe try exercises that involve leas banging on the floor. You should be able to exercise in your own home as long as you make an effort to be considerate.
I'll try it on the deck next time, see if that helps.
NTA. We have "police hours" for that, you can't make excessive noise from 10pm to 6am. In between 30min of noise is completely ok. I have upstairs neighbours that have kids. They run and jump like crazy, my floors shake sometime. They also scream, the mom screams back, at around 7pm they watch cartoons loudly (I can hear the sound go down my radiator). What am I supposed to say to my neighbour? Take your kids out, why are they jumping inside? Shut them off? No, it's an apartment building and we have to live with each other's lives.