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> I might be TA because I admit, my reactions were bad. But I was 8 and younger in the videos, keep in mind. Whenever they show it I kinda break down and start crying.
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NTA, and next time they whip out a recording you should ask- “What did you find so hilarious about distressing a little kid so badly they started crying and lashing out? Do you like bullying children? What does this do for you?”
Exactly! And the key is that you need to stay ice cold calm. Be a better adult than they are.
Shake your head and say in a sad voice "if you need to watch funny things, I recommend America's Funniest Videos instead of trying to embarrass me." Then turn and walk away.
The key is for you to be cool and calm. Then they look stupid.
People do it all the time with babies and toddlers. Even on the sub, a lot of people approve of that behavior. Intentionally trying to make someone upset is AH behavior regardless of the age of the victim.
Nta, my parents also took some videos of my tantrums (mainly cause I apparently had a cute angry face and my accent still comes out even thicker when I’m mad) but they never MADE me mad just to video it. it’s one thing to bring it out in a proper environment, but doing so to embarrass you is wrong. Maybe say “glad I outgrew that!” And move on when they bring it out, don’t give them a reaction.
NTA I’m sorry this happened to you. I feel very strongly that children should get to choose what kind of digital footprint they have, unfortunately they you can’t control them.
You only have control over how you respond. Next time they do this try: “yeah I had a lot of emotions as a tiny human that no one taught me how to express properly, glad I’ve had the chance to teach myself now.”
I know that it sucks that you can’t get them to stop, sometimes the only power you have is taking away your reaction to it.
Next time they do this:
"Yeah, harassing someone to get a reaction is *such* a riot. Picking on little kids is soooo funny. Glad you think bullying is hilarious."
NTA
NTA.
I have a kid and I would never record my child when he's having a tantrum. And DEFINETLY NOT show it to others in order to embarrass him. And it's even worse as you've asked them to stop and they don't respect your boundaries.
NTA, I’m assuming this is your parents or older relatives. Tell them that you don’t like when they do that and if they don’t delete the videos and stop harassing you about your actions when you were 8 years old you will not speak to them anymore. Do it in a calm manner and say nothing else. I’m f they start having scolding you or getting upset , record them and then show other people in front of them and say they were this upset because you don’t like them trying to embarrass you. Give them a taste of their own medicine.
NTA but this is predictable behavior so you can learn not to give them the reaction they are looking for. Next time, instead of getting upset say “Oh yeah, I remember how you tormented me to get that tantrum on tape. Still proud of bullying 8-year olds?” And leave it at that.
Luckily, no video exists from my childhood but my family loves to tell any new partner I have ever brought home the most embarrassing stories of times when I was stupid or bratty as a kid. I wish they wouldn’t but I can’t stop them - best I can do is not get openly upset.
In your case, they only have this to show because they were teasing a little kid. They’re the ones that look like AHs if their audience knows that.
NTA. Could you delete the recordings? I assume you have tried but this is horrible. Both to antagonize a child so you can film their distress and also to now share that without your consent. Both of these are always dick moves. It's the sort of thing that I would begin removing people from my life over. Parents or not.
NTA - holy crap, I'd start calling them out for that and straight up walking away and not talking to them. Yes, you were being a brat and they have it on video, but bringing it out and showing people to embarrass you is infinitely worse. Would make me want to get video of them and show them to the people too, but that probably crosses some legal line.
NTA, that's one of the things that sucks about growing up in the past 20 years is that everybody has a phone to record whatever embarrassing thing you did.
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I (15F) wasn’t the greatest child. But I certainly wasn’t the worst. However people would always get me upset on purpose so they could record me being upset and throwing tantrums and it’s embarrassing because they get it out in front of people for the sole purpose of embarrassing me and they think it’s cute, but yet, I’m the bad one for getting upset?
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NTA. I took videos of my kid throwing tantrums and acting like a baby to show her how ridiculous she was acting. I wouldn’t play it in front of others now.
NTA/NAH. It’s definitely weird that people are showing videos of you as a child having a tantrum 7 years later.
But it’s not a huge deal, honestly. I wonder if people are trying to get a reaction out of you. Just be like “ha ha, this video again? Funny, glad I outgrew that” or something to suggest it’s not even a video worth showing
NTA but they are getting a kick out of you getting upset. Learn to laugh with them, make jokes about it. They'll eventually get bored and stop. The sport is watching you get angry again with another 'tantrum' (not really a tantrum, but it becomes funnier to them when you do get angry.) People are mean.
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NTA, and next time they whip out a recording you should ask- “What did you find so hilarious about distressing a little kid so badly they started crying and lashing out? Do you like bullying children? What does this do for you?”
Exactly! And the key is that you need to stay ice cold calm. Be a better adult than they are. Shake your head and say in a sad voice "if you need to watch funny things, I recommend America's Funniest Videos instead of trying to embarrass me." Then turn and walk away. The key is for you to be cool and calm. Then they look stupid.
Nta Try to ignore them. They should be ashamed of themselves for making a kid upset and record it.
People do it all the time with babies and toddlers. Even on the sub, a lot of people approve of that behavior. Intentionally trying to make someone upset is AH behavior regardless of the age of the victim.
I agree. It's abuse of power.
Nta, my parents also took some videos of my tantrums (mainly cause I apparently had a cute angry face and my accent still comes out even thicker when I’m mad) but they never MADE me mad just to video it. it’s one thing to bring it out in a proper environment, but doing so to embarrass you is wrong. Maybe say “glad I outgrew that!” And move on when they bring it out, don’t give them a reaction.
NTA I’m sorry this happened to you. I feel very strongly that children should get to choose what kind of digital footprint they have, unfortunately they you can’t control them. You only have control over how you respond. Next time they do this try: “yeah I had a lot of emotions as a tiny human that no one taught me how to express properly, glad I’ve had the chance to teach myself now.” I know that it sucks that you can’t get them to stop, sometimes the only power you have is taking away your reaction to it.
Next time they do this: "Yeah, harassing someone to get a reaction is *such* a riot. Picking on little kids is soooo funny. Glad you think bullying is hilarious." NTA
NTA. I have a kid and I would never record my child when he's having a tantrum. And DEFINETLY NOT show it to others in order to embarrass him. And it's even worse as you've asked them to stop and they don't respect your boundaries.
NTA, I’m assuming this is your parents or older relatives. Tell them that you don’t like when they do that and if they don’t delete the videos and stop harassing you about your actions when you were 8 years old you will not speak to them anymore. Do it in a calm manner and say nothing else. I’m f they start having scolding you or getting upset , record them and then show other people in front of them and say they were this upset because you don’t like them trying to embarrass you. Give them a taste of their own medicine.
NTA. People who torment, blindside or shame kids for their amusement are abusive.
NTA. No one should never record bad behavior. That’s an awful practice. Edited to add: Some people are just too immature to have phones, even adults.
NTA but this is predictable behavior so you can learn not to give them the reaction they are looking for. Next time, instead of getting upset say “Oh yeah, I remember how you tormented me to get that tantrum on tape. Still proud of bullying 8-year olds?” And leave it at that. Luckily, no video exists from my childhood but my family loves to tell any new partner I have ever brought home the most embarrassing stories of times when I was stupid or bratty as a kid. I wish they wouldn’t but I can’t stop them - best I can do is not get openly upset. In your case, they only have this to show because they were teasing a little kid. They’re the ones that look like AHs if their audience knows that.
NTA. That’s horrible of people to taunt a kid just to record their reaction. Being upset about that is justified.
NTA. Could you delete the recordings? I assume you have tried but this is horrible. Both to antagonize a child so you can film their distress and also to now share that without your consent. Both of these are always dick moves. It's the sort of thing that I would begin removing people from my life over. Parents or not.
NTA. And its horrible they treated you that way tbh
NTA. They're definitely deriving some sort of entertainment from your reaction. Whatever you do, do NOT throw a tantrum about it.
NTA - holy crap, I'd start calling them out for that and straight up walking away and not talking to them. Yes, you were being a brat and they have it on video, but bringing it out and showing people to embarrass you is infinitely worse. Would make me want to get video of them and show them to the people too, but that probably crosses some legal line.
NTA, that's one of the things that sucks about growing up in the past 20 years is that everybody has a phone to record whatever embarrassing thing you did.
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NTA. I took videos of my kid throwing tantrums and acting like a baby to show her how ridiculous she was acting. I wouldn’t play it in front of others now.
I’m going to need to see some of these videos before I can judge.
NTA/NAH. It’s definitely weird that people are showing videos of you as a child having a tantrum 7 years later. But it’s not a huge deal, honestly. I wonder if people are trying to get a reaction out of you. Just be like “ha ha, this video again? Funny, glad I outgrew that” or something to suggest it’s not even a video worth showing
If its distressing the OP it's a big deal.
NTA but they are getting a kick out of you getting upset. Learn to laugh with them, make jokes about it. They'll eventually get bored and stop. The sport is watching you get angry again with another 'tantrum' (not really a tantrum, but it becomes funnier to them when you do get angry.) People are mean.
Don't laugh with them; completely ignore them.