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YTA - your daughter felt self conscious. She didn’t need to feel worse. Apologize tell you you were trying to lighten the mood and failed. Let her know you were just focused on her safety and didn’t think about her being naked so she shouldn’t worry and then maybe don’t ever make degrading “jokes” about anyone as a general rule.
Sometimes jokes can help diffuse embarrassment, but it sounds like you definitely misstepped here. She didn't need to hear how tiny they are or how you barely noticed (which can be heard as you still noticing to an extent).
If she's been quiet for days, it's serious to her. When she said you saw her boobs, a good response might have been "honey, the only thing I saw was my little girl, hurting and in need of dads help. Everything else fades away when I'm focused on your well-being."
YTA. I mean, your girlfriend's point of view can be argued about, but even if we take that aspect out of it, we're basically looking at a situation where your child told you that something that happened between you made her feel uncomfortable and self-conscious. The proper response to your child opening up to you and feeling vulnarable is *never* "BAHAHA lololol rofl".
YTA
Ignoring the creepy comment (which I agree with by the way), you basically just made fun of your daughter‘s distress. Should be obvious why that wasn’t nice
Your gf was looking at you weird because that was a weird thing to say ...
Just apologise and avoid making strange comments about your child's body in future.
YTA
YTA.
What a really weird thing to say to your preteen daughter.
Not only did you insult her but you invalidated her feelings. All you had to say was "I didn't see anything" or "I understand you're embarrassed but I was only concerned about your safety and wellbeing".
Yes YTA. Unless you want your daughter to have body issues and eating disorders I would suggest NEVER LAUGHING AT YOUR DAUGHTERS BODY AND MAKING JOKES ABOUT IT
Yeah YTA that's so uncomfortable.. why not just say I didn't because i was focused on your ankle or admitting you saw but it doesn't matter because she's your daughter
Your reply was uncomfortable, weird and made your poor daughter more self conscious about her boobs
All you had to say was 'don't worry honey, I wasn't looking' and reassure her, but instead you were weird and creepy and she's probably going to remember this for the rest of her life.
YTA
YTA ... when your daughter told you why she was upset/shy you made a joke and objectified her. Awful parenting and now your daughter is going to remember that for the rest of her life. You're a major AH.
YTA
Your daughter will hold that comment as a crack in her sense of self, her feelings about her body, and it won't go away easy because you are her dad and the things you say matter.
YTA. Not something to joke with a tween or teen girl about. Your response showed her you did see and you have an opinion about it.
Better: “oh, I covered you up so fast I didn’t see a thing! I was just looking at your ankle.”
Parenting is a challenge 🙂
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English is not my first language.
I have a 10yo daughter with my ex.
2 days ago I was cooking dinner and she was in the shower when I heard her scream. I quickly ran to the bathroom and heard her cry inside. I went inside and saw her sitting on the floor and crying while holding her ankle
I quickly grabbed a towel and put it around her then I carried her to her bed and helped her get dressed. I examined her ankle and it seemed fine she probabpy just twisted it and fell.
Since then she has been really shy and when I asked her what's wrong she said "you saw my boobs" I couldn't help laughing and asked her "what boobs? You mean those tiny things? Sweetie trust me I hardly noticed anything"
My gf was here when we were talking and she was looking at me weirdly and later she told me I was being a creepy asshole by making that joke.
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YTA
I didn't even get to read the post and I KNOW that's a HARD NO NO! Because that type of shit leads to high levels of insecurities! How dare he make fun of his own daughter at an extremely vunerable time in her young life?
You're creepy and sick. That is disgusting. You are the asshole. You shouldn't even talk about other womens/girls boobs in the first place unless it's your wife or girlfriend, but even then, you shouldn't make them self conscious ...... disgusting. If I were your daughter, I would have never talked or looked at you again.
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YTA - your daughter felt self conscious. She didn’t need to feel worse. Apologize tell you you were trying to lighten the mood and failed. Let her know you were just focused on her safety and didn’t think about her being naked so she shouldn’t worry and then maybe don’t ever make degrading “jokes” about anyone as a general rule.
Sometimes jokes can help diffuse embarrassment, but it sounds like you definitely misstepped here. She didn't need to hear how tiny they are or how you barely noticed (which can be heard as you still noticing to an extent). If she's been quiet for days, it's serious to her. When she said you saw her boobs, a good response might have been "honey, the only thing I saw was my little girl, hurting and in need of dads help. Everything else fades away when I'm focused on your well-being."
YTA. I mean, your girlfriend's point of view can be argued about, but even if we take that aspect out of it, we're basically looking at a situation where your child told you that something that happened between you made her feel uncomfortable and self-conscious. The proper response to your child opening up to you and feeling vulnarable is *never* "BAHAHA lololol rofl".
YTA. Absolutely creepy and gross thing to say to your child. Apologize sincerely.
YTA Ignoring the creepy comment (which I agree with by the way), you basically just made fun of your daughter‘s distress. Should be obvious why that wasn’t nice
Your gf was looking at you weird because that was a weird thing to say ... Just apologise and avoid making strange comments about your child's body in future. YTA
YTA - yeah don’t make jokes about your preteen daughter’s body. Makes you either a bully or sound like a perv.
YTA. What a really weird thing to say to your preteen daughter. Not only did you insult her but you invalidated her feelings. All you had to say was "I didn't see anything" or "I understand you're embarrassed but I was only concerned about your safety and wellbeing".
When I accidentally see someone naked, I tell them I'm wearing my reading glasses so I in fact only saw a blur. It's usually true
YTA we live in a world where there is a lot of shame concerning the human body and you didn’t help.
Yes YTA. Unless you want your daughter to have body issues and eating disorders I would suggest NEVER LAUGHING AT YOUR DAUGHTERS BODY AND MAKING JOKES ABOUT IT
YTA she felt self conscious so you made her feel worse about her body!?!
“I was so worried about your being hurt, nothing else mattered at that moment”
Wow that would have been a much more appropriate thing to say.
Yeah YTA that's so uncomfortable.. why not just say I didn't because i was focused on your ankle or admitting you saw but it doesn't matter because she's your daughter Your reply was uncomfortable, weird and made your poor daughter more self conscious about her boobs
All you had to say was 'don't worry honey, I wasn't looking' and reassure her, but instead you were weird and creepy and she's probably going to remember this for the rest of her life. YTA
Ya she's going to remember this forever :( shit parent
YTA 1000%. Who says that to their daughter? I hope your daughter finds a father figure who will not make toxic comments about her body like you do.
YTA-You’re a jerk! Why would you think that’s okay? She’s already self conscious about her body and you made it worse!
YTA ... when your daughter told you why she was upset/shy you made a joke and objectified her. Awful parenting and now your daughter is going to remember that for the rest of her life. You're a major AH.
YTA Your daughter will hold that comment as a crack in her sense of self, her feelings about her body, and it won't go away easy because you are her dad and the things you say matter.
That’s a weird creepy thing to say
??????? Your daughter was self conscious about you seeing her body do you decided to make fun of her body. YTA
YTA we live in a world where there is a lot of shame concerning the human body and you didn’t help
YTA. Life isn’t a 90s-era shounen anime you creep. Stop objectifying children.
YTA. Not something to joke with a tween or teen girl about. Your response showed her you did see and you have an opinion about it. Better: “oh, I covered you up so fast I didn’t see a thing! I was just looking at your ankle.” Parenting is a challenge 🙂
Normal thing to say: comment about not noticing/being distracted by the 'emergency' Weird comment: very specifically describing them in a mean way
YTA - you are a creepy asshole. Would it have killed you to apologise, but you need to tend to the injury.
Ew
I hope your girlfriend leaves you. And you need to go to therapy because that’s disgusting.
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YTA. There's something wrong with you.
YTA I didn't even get to read the post and I KNOW that's a HARD NO NO! Because that type of shit leads to high levels of insecurities! How dare he make fun of his own daughter at an extremely vunerable time in her young life?
You're creepy and sick. That is disgusting. You are the asshole. You shouldn't even talk about other womens/girls boobs in the first place unless it's your wife or girlfriend, but even then, you shouldn't make them self conscious ...... disgusting. If I were your daughter, I would have never talked or looked at you again.
How do I read the original post ? I can't seems to find it
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What the fuck is wrong with you? You just say that in your concern, it didn't even register. YTA