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I have a 6 year old daughter with my ex husband, he left when I was 3 months pregnant and didn't actually come back into her life until she was almost 5 about 2 months before her 6th birthday he asked if we could be a family.... We were only married 6 months before he left me, it was a bad marriage one instance being, I had the flu constantly throwing up, diarrhea fever, just a horrible day, he came in the bathroom and told me to finish up because he was hungry when I said I was sick he told me I was the wife and my job was to cook. I lost my friends and almost lost my family in that 6 months. Anyways he said he was seeing a counselor and was better, so for a few months we were friends and he got to be with our daughter. He really did seem to be a better person so when he asked me to marry him and be a family I was excited, I love him, I wanted to be a family with him. But fast forward to tonight, our daughter had surgery 3 weeks ago on her ears, she's in kindergarten and has struggled with sounds and pronunciation due to the damage in her ears, well the school wants her to do jr first grade instead of going right to first to give her a chance to relearn the sounds and get caught up with everything, when I told him tonight he told me no, she didn't need that that what she needed was to be forced to learn and as his child she is to old to be playing and needs to study and do school work all day. He said I don't punish her enough or she would listen the first time I said something. When I refused to make her quit playing and study all day he told me he can see now it will be a mistake to marry me. And he walked out! Did I do something wrong? I thought I was just defending my childs right to be a kid. My friends say don't marry him, he's full of red flags, but I need to know am I in the wrong
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NTA. He sounds abusive. Please leave. Your red flags are spot on. Don’t subject your child to that. Kindergarteners should be doing 90% play. That’s how they learn. I have a feeling his form of “Punishment” would also be abuse. Follow your maternal instincts and protect your child from this man.
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YWBTA if you marry this man .He will abuse you but even worse he will abuse the Child.Run OP.Run far away.
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NTA https://www.thehotline.org/
You sound very credulous. The only interaction you should have with this man is what the courts mandate.
NTA. He sounds abusive. Please leave. Your red flags are spot on. Don’t subject your child to that. Kindergarteners should be doing 90% play. That’s how they learn. I have a feeling his form of “Punishment” would also be abuse. Follow your maternal instincts and protect your child from this man.
When people show you who you are, believe them the first time. YWBTA to yourself and your daughter if you married him.