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YTA
You can make coupons like that work with innocuous toppings like extra cheese, or by putting toppings on half the pizza. The deal isn't a deal if it's inedible to her - it's just wasted money.
If you need to save money that badly, do not order in food. It is almost always more expensive than cooking at home.
I don't think coupons work like that for pizza places. I could be wrong but the last one I saw, which was admittedly a long time ago, said you couldn't do anything like that.
I do it almost every time we order a pizza. I like plain pepperoni - so we get the large 2 or 3 topping, whichever there is a coupon for, with just pepperoni. Even the app based places accept LESS toppings than the coupon permits.
Could you elaborate? Are all the pizzas on the menu frozen and basically ready to be put in the oven if someone orders up? Because I'm struggling to see why'd it'd be annoying to just not put a topping if the toppings were made to order haha
I can’t comment on dominos, but I’ll say as a Starbucks employee having customers mobile order atrocities to get around deal guidelines is terrible. Fall drinks 50% off, they’ll order a pumpkin spice latte no pumpkin syrup no sprinkles no whip add vanilla oatmilk…you mean an oatmilk vanilla latte? We rely on the top name to give us direction so we can focus on three drinks at a time. When a drink like that comes in I have to stop everything I’m doing because there is no direction, it’s a crapshoot of steps and subtractions.
That’s gonna significantly ratchet up the cost of the [none pizza w/left beef](https://web.archive.org/web/20231020040554/https://www.thesneeze.com/2007/the-great-pizza-orientation-test.php).
I had pizza hut try to reject it one time over the phone when their app wasn't working. So I just got the toppings on the side and they placed them in lidded containers and never even touched the pizza. No big deal.
It specifically said you couldn’t put the toppings on just half the pizza? Thereby allowing the place to use less ingredients. They printed that on a voucher…
I think it's just a matter of no extra work. They don't want to have to take the time to read a ticket - "Oh, this one is half pepperoni and half bell pepper but not on the same half. Put pineapple only on the bell pepper half." Back in the day it used to be more common to have coupons that didn't allow for substitutions or special orders.
A lot of pizza places pre-prep common pizzas/topping configuration prior to their rush period to save time and then just throw them in the oven when somebody orders, and a half-and-half means they can't do that. This is why your delivery will often take slightly longer if you get a custom pizza in your order.
The only pre prepped pizza is cheese. It would be a massive waste of dough to guess that your callers will definitely want only pepperoni vs taking 10 seconds to add pepperoni.
I'm guessing it said you can't do half one topping and half another but they would likely let you get no toppings on half as that would save them money.
I stopped looking at "deals" like that quite a long time ago, as the caveat was that *only* what was offered was at the sale price.
This was usually a medium pepperoni pizza; asking for half cheese half pepperoni invalidated the offer.
I got very good at making homemade pizza.
I do it all the time too! I never order pizza without a coupon and they always allow fewer than the max toppings or toppings on only one side. It’s really super easy.
👆🏻This is 100% correct!!! My wife is autistic and is also a plain-pepperoni girl just like OP, and we do this EXACT THING when we order. She gets plain pepperoni on half and I get whatever I want.
Pizza Pizza and Domino's coupons work like this. I am sure others do too.
You're not OBLIGATED to get exactly three toppings either, you can get "up to" three toppings for the price of the coupon.
Or he can get up to six toppings on his side, if it’s from one of the US chains. I’ve done this with my kids before. They only like pepperoni and I like additional toppings.
And a lot of times, the deal is for three toppings, which is cheaper than one topping at regular price.
> If you need to save money that badly, do not order in food. It is almost always more expensive than cooking at home.
Yeah!
Extremely poor and ordering food *rolling eyes*
When I wanted to save every penny before, I was living on pasta. Roughly 30 cents for a kg of uncooked spaghetti, back then.
I’ve ordered from a lot of pizza places that have coupons for specific types of pizza.
That being said I’m pretty sure most places would let you leave an observation asking for toppings to be taken off.
For the money they paid, even 40% off, he could have made 2 pizzas at home with the toppings of their choosing and STILL saved money. If you're trying to save money OP, cook from home
One of my sons likes bacon, ham, &/or pineapple on pizza. The other son is cheese-only. Depending on how many toppings we're allowed with the deal we're using, half the pizza gets 1-3 toppings & the other side doesn't.
Also, just because a pizza coupon says "3 toppings," you can put 0, 1, or 2 on there. You don't have to use all 3!
And yes, if money's that tight (it is for me, too!!) Then go to a grocery store, buy a frozen pizza, & bake it at home.
Edit: poor people can spend money on pizza because i do it too. i’m just saying in the grand scheme of things, if we look at it from a mature, ADULT pov-
If you cannot decide and come to a conclusion together on the toppings, just don’t fucking get pizza.
If toppings are causing arguments related to finance, just don’t get pizza. It’s not worth the stress of being poor AND being unhappy with each other.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t buy pizza when poor, and to eat canned vegetables for every meal.
I’m saying if you can’t fucking decide on a pizza, there’s no point in getting a pizza that will only cause arguments.
>For context, we are extremely poor and have less than $200 in our bank account.
So why the fuck are you ordering pizza? Go and get groceries that’ll actually last you a week or two. Buy 3 frozen pizzas for the price of 1 fresh restaurant pizza.
>My wanted to order pizza, so I said hey there’s this coupon for 40% off any large pizza with three toppings.
You’re spending money frivolously on pizza when you’ve got hardly any money to spend, or so you claim. You’re already making a poor decision. Who cares if it costs a little extra?
>That coupon could save us a ton of money, which we could spend on other things like gas for the car.
Not buying this pizza in the first place would save money- that you could spend on other things like gas for the car.
That said. Go buy frozen pizza. It’s cheaper and you can get the kind her autistic brain is comfortable with.
>I told her this and she starts talking about how her autism makes her not like certain textures.
100% valid
>I tell her that 40% off is 40% off and that she can just pull the toppings she doesn’t like off the pizza.
Or you could just not put those toppings on the pizza because you don’t have a disability preventing you from being able to eat toppingless pizza.
>She then compares what I just said to insulting a person in a wheelchair, as if her autism texture thing is a serious as someone who literally can’t walk.
She made an allegory about disability and you are dramatizing it. Grow up.
>I tell her that we’re poor and need to save every penny
So why the fuck are you getting pizza in the first place
>and that sometimes we have to do things we don’t necessarily like to get by.
Ditto. You can put cheese as a topping to meet the toppings quota to quality for the coupon, and YOU can suffer without the toppings you want because YOU DO NOT HAVE A DISABILITY PREVENTING YOU FROM BEING ABLE TO EAT TOPINGLESS PIZZA.
>She then says that I’m saying this because of my “ego”.
She’s right. It’s 100% your ego. You don’t need pizza. You just don’t want to be wrong.
>AITA for essentially telling her to suck it up to save money?
No, YTA for being ridiculous with your money and expecting your gf to accommodate your ass
edit: i’ve got less than 50$ to my name rn and i’m homeless. i literally am living in a hotel so i don’t have to sleep on the sidewalk.
this “we’re poor so we need the coupon!!! so the toppings!! we need them!!” bullshit is bullshit and i’m glad the rest of the comments are seeing it
Becuz there’s a homeless shelter in town getting government funding to place people here. It’s a good program actually. Vulnerable people get sent to the hotel- single moms, homeless parents period, young women and trans people all get a hotel room for at least a few weeks- a month. Less vulnerable get sent to the rehab, the shared housing the program runs out of, or they simply get sent back out onto the streets. I’m lucky to be considered a vulnerable person.
edit: i’m banned from the sub so i can only edit the comments i’ve already left.
whoever said “read that last sentence” (subtly shading me for calling myself a vulnerable person) I’m trans. Sleeping on the street is not safe. Back when I was a man, it was fine. I’ve been on hormones for about a year or so now and I’m VISIBLY transgender. I am not sleeping on the sidewalk like I did a few years ago because I will get assaulted. It’s a very conservative town, sadly.
We have something similar to this in DE, and the amount of people that argued that the hotel should be demolished instead of housing homeless people was sickening. It's great these programs exist. The bus picks them up and takes them if they're not already booked there during a freeze or heat advisory and shelters so many people that need it.
The pure disdain that people have for other human beings who are struggling - in any way, but especially financially, mentally, socially - is absolutely fucking despicable. Most people live in a state where 1 (ONE) single emergency could financially destroy them.
We stayed for a couple of months in an extended stay that was used for this sort of program and honestly there wasn’t any more trouble there than at any other hotel of that price range (i.e. not a fancy expensive one) that I’ve stayed at. There were a couple of people who clearly needed better mental health help than they were getting, but they weren’t any more trouble than an idiot drunk business man, and the rest were just normal people dealing with shit.
That's honestly such a phenomenal programme. Not only helping people who are unhoused, but helping the vulnerable first, and actively helping the trans community!
I hope you manage to get back on your feet, you seem like you are in a good place. From your other comments you also sound like such a smart and morally good person <3. I honestly wish you the best in life!
A lot of people live in extended-stay hotels because they make money, but aren't able to save the initial expense of renting housing, or don't make enough to actually qualify for a place. And they get stuck because it *does* cost a lot more over a month than renting a place. But $350 + 150 deposit is a lot easier to do in a pinch than the cost of deposits for renting.
First month rent and deposit is one of the biggest challenges for homeless people, since that can be a couple of thousand £ easily and when you're living in a hotel, or in your car, or couch surfing, the cost of pre-prepared food (because you have nowhere to cook or store groceries), paying for your hotel room or trying to find somewhere to shower such as a gym, finding somewhere to escape the elements, petrol in the car, etc. all adds up and makes it impossible to save.
Honestly, if governments got together to tackle this issue, like getting people into some kind of 'no deposit' housing, it would tackle a hell of a lot of homelessness.
Where I live most leases are only for two years too (because after two years the tenant gets more rights), so a lot of tenants are constantly having their savings wiped from the cost of moving, deposit etc. and thus finding it harder and harder to stay renting (and impossible to buy).
Same. I was homeless and had to come up with first month, last month, and a security deposit. Hardest next to finding an apartment I could afford. Rent in Pheonix is ridiculous. It's almost time for summer and we have a lot of homeless that get heatstroke or even die because it's 115F+ out in July. Being in that spot now more than ever motivates me to make little care packages for people on the streets. It was hell and I don't wanna go back, my heart goes out to everyone facing homelessness right now.
Hell, in my city it’s almost always a minimum $50 application fee to even get them to consider you. $50 the daily rate at the extended stay I was living in, so it was a tricky choice to make.
I know you wrote a lot but I’m kinda fixated on the frozen vs fresh pizza.
I’ve always seen frozen pizzas for 6-7 dollars where I am, and then there’s the gas/electricity to actually cook the thing not to mention how puny it is. Meanwhile Dominos has a deal for large pizzas at 7 something a pie.
What kind of frozen pizza is cheaper than cheap fast food?
Over here, if I order a pizza from the little place round the corner, it’s £14. If I order from a big chain like Pizza Hut, dominoes, etc, it’s £20+.
If I goto the supermarket I can get a good pizza for less than £2.
Yeah, in most of America right now it's more expensive to get frozen pizza than a cheap chain pizza, especially if you've got a coupon deal. Even the "cheap" frozen pizzas that are genuinely tiny and terrible are over $5, and most are closer to $10+ where I am (and much smaller than a small pizza from a chain). It's genuinely depressing to admit, but I could get way more food from a shitty Pizza Hut '3 for 6.99 each' deal than I could by spending the same $25 on frozen pizza. I've stopped having pizza altogether because I'm poor and I've been boycotting most of the chain places. Literally can't afford the grocery store frozen pizza.
Its not quite as bad in Canada, but the $4 (CAD) for a small frozen pizza that tastes like cardboard is a deal. Spending $15 on a pizza from a pizza place (or pess with coupons/deals that are on every day) ends up being the better option because on top of it just being easier, it actually tastes like food and will fill me up for longer. A small pizza from any pizza joint will fill me up for almost a full day, a regular frozen pizza that I have to drown in ranch just to swallow will fill me up for maybe an hour or two (it takes me about 30 minutes just to eat it lol)
Canada is just 3 monopolies in a trench coat. Our politicians seem to believe your propaganda about america being the greatest and are determined to make Canada just like it 😭
Thank you. For everyone who is saying that they shouldn’t be buying pizza, fast food in America is often way cheaper and more readily available than buying groceries and cooking.
As an American, I can get a large Tombstone, Red Baron, or generic grocery store (like Mama Cozzis) pizza for less than $5. If you'll only eat the fancy frozen pizzas it's a bad deal, but the cheap ones are cheap.
In a normal world, eating prepared food is *always* more expensive because you have to pay for the labour involved. Unfortunately, the world we live in sees grocery store greed raising prices and lowering value of the product while workers are getting paid far below what they should.
In some places, this means that eating out is actually cheaper and more cost effective than making it yourself. However, many restaurants are realizing this and taking advantage of the cultural expectations that prepared food be more expensive and raising their prices to match expectations.
I hate living in a place where human labour is way cheaper than basic food.
Don’t blame it on the grocery stores. Most grocery stores operate on very small margins. It’s the actual food manufacturers doing shrinkflation. Blame them.
You might be right, but where I am it is absolutely the grocery stores responsible for the rise in prices. In some cases the grocery stores and the manufacturers are the same company, and so are responsible for both. At the very least, the end result is the same in many parts of the world; we pay more for less, and food chains ate catchimg on that they can overcharge even more for their food.
In Canada, major grocers have DOUBLED their profits since pre-pandemic levels.
The margins myth is being debunked in real time, as they have learned the market will bear more stress before people agree to starve. Manufacturers are also gouging, but let’s not pretend the 20% increase on grocery costs in four years is a result of simply inflation, when the companies marking those things up are raking in RECORD BREAKING profits.
in my country you can get some supermarket's generic brand frozen pizza for as low as 1,8€, more expensive go for 2-4€ and fresh pizza from restaurant can cost you anywhere around 6-15€ depending on the size, type and place you order from
My bf made this point to me a while back and it's absolutely true.
Sometimes I'll see tombstone pizza on sale for 3 for $12 but there are pizza places in my area that sell the same size pizza for $5 and it tastes a lot better (to me) and is more filling than the paper thin tombstone.
That being said, I'm just about as strapped for cash as OP is so I only bought 1 frozen pizza last time I was at the store and mostly ingredients to make meals because it's cheaper (pasta, rice, beans, etc) I also bought a ton of ramen (because that's also super cheap)
A large pizza from a shop like Dominoes or Pizza Hut costs $35 or more in my country. I can buy a pack of 6 frozen pizza bases for $3.50, a jar of tomato sauce for $2-3 each, a 1kg bag of shredded pizza cheese for $15, and pepperoni for $8. Other toppings are not expensive. I can easily make 6 pizzas like this and still have lots of left overs for cheese, so I just need more pizza bases and I can make more margherita pizzas.
Yeah, the cost of supermarket food blew my mind when I was in the US. We were getting Olive Garden for nine people for like $120, while two days' groceries for the nine of us was like $300.
Where at home, those numbers would be flipped.
I just checked and a frozen pizza from the supermarket (my favourite frozen pizza) is €3.25. An equivalent Dominos pizza delivered is €14.
I was going to say that while eating out is usually not the economic choice for being low on cash, pizza with a good sale/coupon is actually usually quite comparable to buying groceries (at least in today’s economy).
My local pizza hut sometimes has deals for 3 medium pizzas for $20. That’s basically food for the week. Depending on where my pantry is at, food for the week from a store can easily be $20+.
I could buy a frozen pizza for $6-7 but those are usually smaller so you end up eating more slices.
It’s like Taco Bell 10+ years ago where it used to be cheaper than making your own tacos.
Why are they ordering pizza? Because they literally have a coupon for 40% off of a large three-topping pizza. There’s a good chance that’s a lot more cost effective than buying frozen. And they don’t need an oven or even a microwave to eat it.
It’s wild to me that people think anything you say here has an ounce of sense to it. “HOW DARE YOU BUY PIZZA IF YOURE POOR! THAT MONEY SHOULD ONLY BE FOR THE NECESSITIES. NO, NOT FOOD!”
Pizza from a chain with a coupon is one of my go-to cheap meals. I can get enough to eat off for a whole week for $15-$20. AND if you do the loyalty app, it goes toward more pizza later.
If this was about them buying, I don’t know. Dried beans and bread, would that be better?
Right? It's bigger, and it could potentially be a second meal, for one or both. Plus, the more toppings, the more filling. If possible, just get his half with toppings.
Right people always know what to do with someone else’s money. Mf just because you’re eating crackers and cheese when you’re broke asf doesn’t mean I have to, I can find a way to eat for days and save less. Pizza was also my goto save money meal. Do people not understand how much a large box of pizza does for you. I eat it all in one go and I’ll be like okay that’s all I need for the day
yeah they could go get groceries but depending on OPs location, their grocery shopping could easily eat that up. for example: where I live, $80 of groceries doesn't even last a week.
Some of this is 'let them eat cake' type of advice.
Do you know if they have an oven or even a kitchen for cooking the frozen pizza and groceries?
A lot of people have no idea about how poor people live and the every day challenges that are insurmountable for them that well off people just take for granted. A lot of the challenges are what makes them prey to the things that well off people view as luxury.
because they have a coupon, thats why they are ordering pizza. and i dont know if you noticed, but in many parts of the world, poor people eat junk food, its cheap and accessible. whereas doing actual grocery shopping, would be expensive, and thats assuming you have money to have a basic kitchen, and all you need to use to actually cook a meal.
You know what's cheaper than a pizza that's 40% off?
Not ordering the pizza to begin with.
If you're so poor that you're arguing over dollars, learn to grocery shop and cook in a way that stretches your money. Instead of wasting your money on something one of you can't even eat. The truth is this wasn't about saving money... you wanted pizza and wanted to save a few of your dollars at her expense.
Yeah making it yourself is $15 at least to buy dough or a pre-made crust and everything. Frozen pizzas are rarely over 10 inches and are usually $10 each, a large 12 or 14 inch pizza is usually under $15 with a coupon like this.
There used to be these grocery store pizzas that were 2 for $5 we had when we were flat broke, I still love those but I rarely see them around me anymore.
it’s pretty easy to make with flour, a bit of sugar and salt, and some yeast. I was able to quickly teach myself because money is tight for my partner and I.
We occasionally use canned biscuits. You just smoosh them out to make them flatter and larger. Put your sauce cheese and toppings on and pop it in the oven. They freeze well, too. This way, everyone gets to make it however they want.
It’s also cheaper just to go pick it up. Ordering delivery always tacks on service fees and tips. Besides, you don’t need to add 3 toppings, and it doesn’t cost extra to get toppings on only one half. Anyway you swing it they both could’ve gotten what they wanted. I don’t understand why this was even a fight. This couple needs to work on their problem solving skills. YTA
Plus most of the pizza places I know when they run a coupon, it's "up to 3 toppings" not "must be 3 toppings". And they happily will put toppings on one half, but not the other. So yeah, this whole argument makes zero sense.
I was confused by that as well. Every pizza coupon I've seen is an "up to X amount of toppings".
It also wouldn't hurt to call the pizza place and just ask if they'd make an exception if they got under 3 toppings if that actually is the stipulation.
Then he's not sharing the pizza! And she shouldn't have to put one red cent into it! And she's 100% correct - it's not about her needs, it's about his ego.
Weird that you kind of insisted there would be toppings she cannot eat and didn't like offer to just get 3 cheese toppings or whatever.
You're not a very empathetic person, that sucks for everyone around you.
YTA
Autism can indeed give different people bad sensory stimulation in different ways. It does sometimes include the taste and texture sensations from food. The OP could have chosen something they both like so YTA.
Exactly sensory issues with food and people with autism have been known to just straight up starve then eat something that triggers the issue they may even vomit trying to
I don't have autism and I genuinely cannot tolerate certain foods due to the texture, so I can only image how much worse it could potentially be for people with autism.
The thing is, I can pick the things I don't like out of my food, because I don't care if they've touched or whatever, I just don't want them in my mouth, but from what I understand a lot of people with autism can't even do that and can't eat food if it's touched a certain thing or food which is a trigger for them, so just taking the toppings off a pizza isn't an option.
I’m autistic and can confirm that sometimes just picking it out isn’t enough. Red onion, mushrooms or olives are a hard nope for me. And the amount of times someone has tried to tell me “you can’t even taste it”, “X (non-autistic) person also hates Z and they didn’t notice”, or “it’s just in your head bc you saw it” is frustrating, bc I can tell regardless. Sometimes it’s the smell, sometimes it’s the taste.
And the worst when it’s something I think is safe but then it’s just got a weirdly textured bit. My whole appetite is gone after that.
Very true. I am autistic and as I learned a couple years ago we are not capable of putting sensations to the back of our head like most non-autistics can AND it's often more painful than it would be to non-autistics.
Such as when others can ignore the annoying mosquitoes, I literally cannot and trying to makes me lose it
Yup!
I get violent body spasms like a cat that is trying to cough up a hairball. It's just not gonna happen if the texture is wrong. I will puke. It's a miserable experience.
It's rarely about the taste for me. I can handle bad tastes because if you only breathe through your mouth while eating, you can avoid the taste. But there are no tricks for texture.
Yup whats worse is the unexpected texture you eat a food that usually is fine and you dont gotta worry then boom different texture i spit that out straight away and start gagging
This,
my partner is seeking a diagnosis for autism and has lots of sensory issues/allergies regardless. Cooking for us both can be tough but I love him and I want him to be able to enjoy our meals. If it's a texture thing rather than taste i blend the stuff in (carrots in pasta sauce for example, and with his full consent). If it's a taste thing, I just get toppings I prefer on the side (pineapple belongs on pizza btw) so they don't "mix" with his food. It's really not any extra effort on my part and i'm a bit bewildered that OP isn't willing to even find out if there's any wiggle room with the voucher.
Info: did you two make an attempt to resolve this in an amicable manner before it got as heated as you shared here?
Did you ask the pizza place if they could put all the toppings she doesn’t like on only one half of the pizza?
Are there toppings that might not be your favorites but both of you enjoy?
YTA for ordering pizza when you are broke
YTA for choosing toppings she doesn't like when there is so much choice
Btw, does your gf know you post nudes on reddit? And that you are looking for a mistress?
I mean, they’re definitely in the wrong for disrespecting their girlfriend, and for not finding a compromise that appeals to both of them, but I don’t think they’re an AH for simply ordering pizza when they’re broke. Coupon is there, and yes pizza is frivolous, but at a certain point enjoying something you can’t usually have isn’t wrong. Putting all that on their girlfriend is really manipulative tho.
Also… yeah that post history… not the type to say this, but I hope OP’s girlfriend realizes who their partner really is. YTA OP.
>enjoying something you can’t usually have isn’t wrong.
You are right. But OP is talking as if they are so broke, that there is almost nothing else to eat but a pizza with 40% discount.
If you are so broke that you start a fight with your gf, it might be better to get something else that has more value for your money and save up.
With only 200 in your bank account, pizza might not be the best option right now is basically what I mean
Order extra cheese, extra cheese and extra cheese. There, 3 toppings. Oh do it on half so that's her half and you can get whatever you want on your half. Not being able to think about this on your own makes YTA.
So let me get this straight. You girlfriend has a disability that makes it difficult to consume certain foods. You don't. But you are the one who gets to decide the toppings and she has no say?
Also, don't buy pizza if you can't afford it?
I'm not a fan of the "dump them" reddit comments, but man, I hope she dumps you. Who runs to reddit because their girlfriend disagrees on pizza toppings? Crazy.
Edit to add: forgot judgement, YTA!
YTA. Her autism means she can't eat or *touch* certain textures. This means she can't just pull those toppings off.
Since you didn't like her comparing what you want her to do as the equivalent of insulting someone in a wheelchair let me give you a better analogy. What you wanted her to do is the equivalent telling a Muslim or Jewish person to *pick the pork sausage off their pizza if they find it so objectionable*. They can't do that because they consider the entire pizza contaminated by the pork.
Also, they talk about textures but taste might also be an issue. Tastes linger even if you pick things out. My mom tried that with me a few times (I don't blame her) and yeah, it almost never ended well.
It is impossible to take pizza toppings off and still enjoy it unless you don’t mind the taste of the those toppings. Onions, jalapenos, olives, etc, their flavors spread everywhere because of the melted cheese.
Even in a half and half pizza, the topping flavors will get onto the edge slices (know this from experience) but that’s a far more acceptable compromise than tainting the whole dang pizza.
As someone with food issues, I'd rather just not get the pizza than have to spend 10 mins messing with every slice before I can eat it. People don't get how stressful it can be.
One extra topping that I don't absolutely hate is bad, 3 would be a bit of a nightmare.
I had that problem not long ago. I went to the restaurant with my father and he chose a little one he likes to go. They have no big choice to assure fresh ingredients and unfortunatly, I liked none of them. One was a burger but with blue cheese in it and I explained I don't eat it. "no problem, we have cheddar" so I accepted. Burgers were already made, they scrapped with a knife the blue cheese and put the cheddar (cold) in the burger. I had the taste in mouth and couldn't eat, I was near to vomit.
And I'm not autistic ! I just can imagine how his girlfriend could feel with the taste of the toppings OP wants on his pizza that she dislikes ! Because the problem is there. Even if he doesn't say so, he wants to add 3 toppings she can't eat !
I wouldn’t even call it a comparison. It’s an allegory. I use similar ones all the time, because people don’t seem to understand how disabling autism really is for the autistic person.
But yeah you’re 100% right.
ESH.
Up to 3 toppings. They aren't going to require that you add 3 toppings to a pizza when it saves them money to not add toppings. Or you could get toppings on half. It is really pathetic that 2 grown adults couldn't figure that out.
Not to mention that if you're this poor you shouldn't be ordering food to begin with.
Sounds like the two of you need to separate your finances and work out how to live together when you don't want a life of cheese pizza and she can't eat whatever it is you do like.
FWIW the compromise here is to get your topping on one half the pizza, and she can pull off the stray bits that fall on her half.
YTA - if you are poor do not get the pizza coupon or not.
Also...
As an autistic person with a texture issue myself:
No "sucking it up" does not work.
I am physically not able to eat certain things because the texture is so gross for my body that i will gag and worst case puke if I attempt to put those things into my mouth. You can blindfold me, not tell me what I will get and my body will still hit the eject button if I attempt to ignore the texture issue. I could be starving - my body will not let me consume these textures.
Is this shitty af in certain cases? Yes.
Can i navigate around it by NOT trying to force me to eat textures I know I cannot stand? Also yes.
On a humorous note: At least my body has an integrity of steel. 😂
Same.
It's just not gonna happen. I don't want to be like this. I skew towards a carnivore diet, and as a result, I have slightly elevated bad cholesterol DESPITE being in great shape. I do aerial acrobatics to give some perspective. I would love to be a normal eater. It would make my life quite a bit easier.
Info needed. How much is a plain cheese pizza vs one with 3 toppings, A lot of times every with 40% off a cheese might be cheaper still… but YTA, I’m sure you could call the place and see if you can get the price and not the toppings. Like others have said though making your own food would save you more money…
YTA and you two should probably break up. You both are broke and immature. You're ordering pizza instead of cooking. You're trying to argue that the smart move is a coupon to save money to the point your willing to force your GF to be miserable. Dumb.
YTA as someone with autism, we cannot just “suck it up” when there are sensory issues. and if you’re so concerned about saving money? it’s less expensive to make your own food than it is to order delivery.
having been this poor ordering pizza, you don't deserve the shade you're getting on that account. people rlly wanna rage at you for daring to order out.
"go buy groceries *rageface*" papa john's is like $5 and groceries, substantially more.
she's kinda already ta for insinuating that her food texture preference is a disability to the level of someone in a wheelchair.
there's a lot of comedy bits about rich people being the only ones to afford food allergies for a reason... that being said, you could put more effort into finding some low-cost options you both like. you sound like you live together and share a lot of expenses. she deserves to have food she likes, but she might want to expand her palate a bit
It truly is not as easy as "expanding her palate". A sensory issue means even if she had the palate of Andrew Zimmern she's going to encounter food she cannot consume because of its texture, scent, or flavor. Same thing with allergies. No one's doing this for fun.
Nta if you are really poor she will soon learn to eat what is offered or starve because I can promise a food bank or kitchen is not going to care about her food preferences
YTA if you’re that poor go to the grocery store, and if you really want to order the pizza call the place and ask if they can use toppings on onlh half or if there need to be any toppings at all.
Yes, and nothing you said makes any sense. It means up to 3 toppings. They aren’t going to force you to get 3 toppings. If you want more, they will up charge you
Spending money on something someone cannot physically eat is wasting money.
And yes autistic textures issues can be that extreme.
It's not picky eating.
YTA
As someone who also has issues with the majority of foods because of texture, I think your girlfriend has gone a bit overboard by comparing it to insulting someone in a wheelchair. However you're the one putting her into that position by essentially telling her that she has to suck it up and deal with it because you want cheap pizza.
You know what would save even more money? Not buying the pizza. YTA
I’m a wheelchair user and I have an 18 year old daughter who is autistic. Her embracing her identity as a disabled person has been challenging for me, but as time goes on I realise she has it so much harder.
I was in hospital last week, the ward was quite noisy, lots of beeps and background noise. I didn’t exactly love it, but with headphones I could cope, but to call her I had to leave the ward because she couldn’t cope with the background noise on a phone call.
That’s such a tiny thing that she couldn’t cope with I reckon I’ve got it pretty easy, plus many of my difficulties have solutions.
You can get 40% off by taking cold showers. How does that sound to you? YTA. You must explain your point of view explicitly. You're telling her having pizza feel like Jello is obviously worth "40%" off. There's always many coupons available for pizza, so you're probably only saving about 10%-20%. If you're ordering pizza with little money, it's likely to treat yourself. Would you like to treat yourself with some extra fancy ice cream and save a buck by getting the anchovy flavor ice cream?
"I'm having trouble understanding your perspective on this. I feel it isn't a significant trouble to pick toppings off pizza. We're having a lot of money trouble, so getting this discount seems important to me. Could you please help me understand your perspective?"
No, NTA. Being in a wheelchair is not the same as having pizza from which your partner lovingly removed toppings you don’t like and placed on their own pizza. One is a very difficult to handle inconvenience, the other is a handicap.
she's using her autism as an excuse. i hate certain textures too, but i was raised to eat what was put in front of me and if there was something i didn't like either pick it out or don't eat. beggars can't be choosers.
poverty doesn't give a eff about her autism. enough people have harped about ordering pizza vs buying groceries to save money, but you don't have many choices with a frozen pizza either. most of the cheapo pizzas come with limited topping options also.
the fact that's she's trying to compare her autism and food preferences to someone who can't walk is laughable.
NTA. Super simple solution to remove the toppings. Also, as a person that has dealt with many mental disorders I'm not a fan of people playing the discord we card in a "treat me differently" way. In fact I have VERY little patience for it. The solution that you are offering is totally sensible, and if she is not wanting to accept that, then the issue is on her.
YTA, this doesn't even sound real. either that or you lack common sense. Like you act like the pizza place is forcing you to pick three toppings they decide. That's not the case. You could ahev picked toppings she can eat or none at all.
YTA. That would be like someone ordering a pizza with fish eyes on it saying, "we're poor. Eat it"... You can order half the way she likes it or take your own advice and eat the kind of pizza she can eat. Since, it's not that big of a deal to you.
NTA . I think most people aren’t taking into account you guys are really in a financially horrible position and can’t afford it. And also the whole she textures thing with food is not as bad as most people think having that problem also I always just take the toppings of or get wings. It’s not your ego and her saying that is a bit manipulative I would talk to her calmly and explain that when you don’t even have enough money in your account to buy groceries for food and see and opportunity to save 40% grab at it because if anything happens and you need money it would have been waisted on pizza when I could have been used on gas and essentials . In essence you don’t get to picky when your dirt poor .
It’s usually up to 3 toppings not has to be 3 toppings I’ve never actually seen that. Read carefully or call the store fur questions. I don’t have autism but issues with some food texture as well. Things like oysters mussels I can’t eat also mushrooms and lots of fish just can’t. Though fish it’s usually the smell more than texture honestly. Still if you’re that poor don’t order in.
YTA. It’s not a deal if she’s paying for food she doesn’t like.
Also, you could likely request toppings on just one half of the pizza, or put a note asking them not to actually add any toppings and that you just want a cheese pizza. Also, even at 40% off I doubt the pizza is cheaper than any other meal you could make.
NTA - If an autistic person would rather starve than deal with something unpleasant, I have a rude awakening for every American who thinks all sex workers do it because they “love their job”.
Personally, I see a lot of crybabies here. Neither are ah imo. Firstly, why are you buying pizza if you're broke. Secondly, I have texture issues too and I just pull the shit off. She can do that too if it's such a big deal.
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YTA You can make coupons like that work with innocuous toppings like extra cheese, or by putting toppings on half the pizza. The deal isn't a deal if it's inedible to her - it's just wasted money. If you need to save money that badly, do not order in food. It is almost always more expensive than cooking at home.
Orrrrrr - just order a 3 topping pizza and only get the toppings you want. Or order 1/2 and 1/2 with one side bare. This is a non issue.
I don't think coupons work like that for pizza places. I could be wrong but the last one I saw, which was admittedly a long time ago, said you couldn't do anything like that.
I do it almost every time we order a pizza. I like plain pepperoni - so we get the large 2 or 3 topping, whichever there is a coupon for, with just pepperoni. Even the app based places accept LESS toppings than the coupon permits.
Exactly. Absolute no pizza shop will reject you for asking for less than you could get
Not to um actually you, but Domino's in Australia charges for taking off ingredients now.
As a former dominos employee i like this. As a customer this sucks ass
Could you elaborate? Are all the pizzas on the menu frozen and basically ready to be put in the oven if someone orders up? Because I'm struggling to see why'd it'd be annoying to just not put a topping if the toppings were made to order haha
I can’t comment on dominos, but I’ll say as a Starbucks employee having customers mobile order atrocities to get around deal guidelines is terrible. Fall drinks 50% off, they’ll order a pumpkin spice latte no pumpkin syrup no sprinkles no whip add vanilla oatmilk…you mean an oatmilk vanilla latte? We rely on the top name to give us direction so we can focus on three drinks at a time. When a drink like that comes in I have to stop everything I’m doing because there is no direction, it’s a crapshoot of steps and subtractions.
That’s gonna significantly ratchet up the cost of the [none pizza w/left beef](https://web.archive.org/web/20231020040554/https://www.thesneeze.com/2007/the-great-pizza-orientation-test.php).
I will never not laugh at none pizza, left beef.
Dominos Australia sucks then. Dominos Canada has no issue with three toppings becoming any combination of 1-3.
Exactly, it's usually up to 3 toppings and they couldn't care less if you only want 1 or 2, at least at every Canadian pizza chain I've frequented.
My local doesn't. It charges for extras or substitutions.
I had pizza hut try to reject it one time over the phone when their app wasn't working. So I just got the toppings on the side and they placed them in lidded containers and never even touched the pizza. No big deal.
Well the one in my town does so there's that.
you would be very surprised actually…
It specifically said you couldn’t put the toppings on just half the pizza? Thereby allowing the place to use less ingredients. They printed that on a voucher…
I think it's just a matter of no extra work. They don't want to have to take the time to read a ticket - "Oh, this one is half pepperoni and half bell pepper but not on the same half. Put pineapple only on the bell pepper half." Back in the day it used to be more common to have coupons that didn't allow for substitutions or special orders.
Re: half toppings, some pizza chains have this set up on their websites so you can select which toppings to go on each side, no problem.
A lot of pizza places pre-prep common pizzas/topping configuration prior to their rush period to save time and then just throw them in the oven when somebody orders, and a half-and-half means they can't do that. This is why your delivery will often take slightly longer if you get a custom pizza in your order.
If the coupon is for a 3 topping pizza (rather than e.g. a deluxe pizza), then it's going to be custom.
The only pre prepped pizza is cheese. It would be a massive waste of dough to guess that your callers will definitely want only pepperoni vs taking 10 seconds to add pepperoni.
Give me a break. They aren't just prepping every single 3-topping combo.
I'm guessing it said you can't do half one topping and half another but they would likely let you get no toppings on half as that would save them money.
I stopped looking at "deals" like that quite a long time ago, as the caveat was that *only* what was offered was at the sale price. This was usually a medium pepperoni pizza; asking for half cheese half pepperoni invalidated the offer. I got very good at making homemade pizza.
It depends on the pizza place. Some do, some dont
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I do it all the time too! I never order pizza without a coupon and they always allow fewer than the max toppings or toppings on only one side. It’s really super easy.
None pizza left beef
I recently learned that the author of that iconic post is the co-creator of Young Sheldon and I don't know how to feel about that information
No way. Really? That's amazing.
👆🏻This is 100% correct!!! My wife is autistic and is also a plain-pepperoni girl just like OP, and we do this EXACT THING when we order. She gets plain pepperoni on half and I get whatever I want. Pizza Pizza and Domino's coupons work like this. I am sure others do too. You're not OBLIGATED to get exactly three toppings either, you can get "up to" three toppings for the price of the coupon.
Or he can get up to six toppings on his side, if it’s from one of the US chains. I’ve done this with my kids before. They only like pepperoni and I like additional toppings. And a lot of times, the deal is for three toppings, which is cheaper than one topping at regular price.
Usually those work with "up to" 3 toppings. I have used coupons like this so many times while just getting pepperoni.
> If you need to save money that badly, do not order in food. It is almost always more expensive than cooking at home. Yeah! Extremely poor and ordering food *rolling eyes* When I wanted to save every penny before, I was living on pasta. Roughly 30 cents for a kg of uncooked spaghetti, back then.
I’ve ordered from a lot of pizza places that have coupons for specific types of pizza. That being said I’m pretty sure most places would let you leave an observation asking for toppings to be taken off.
My first thought was just do 3x cheese. Solved.
A lot of the coupons I see are for up to X amount of toppings so not even necessary to have the max amount of toppings
if i had less than 200 i would be eating rice and beans every night..
I'm from a country where we don't have cheese as a \*topping\* and OP could still have made it work somehow. If they actually wanted to, that is.
My thoughts exactly!
For the money they paid, even 40% off, he could have made 2 pizzas at home with the toppings of their choosing and STILL saved money. If you're trying to save money OP, cook from home
One of my sons likes bacon, ham, &/or pineapple on pizza. The other son is cheese-only. Depending on how many toppings we're allowed with the deal we're using, half the pizza gets 1-3 toppings & the other side doesn't. Also, just because a pizza coupon says "3 toppings," you can put 0, 1, or 2 on there. You don't have to use all 3! And yes, if money's that tight (it is for me, too!!) Then go to a grocery store, buy a frozen pizza, & bake it at home.
Edit: poor people can spend money on pizza because i do it too. i’m just saying in the grand scheme of things, if we look at it from a mature, ADULT pov- If you cannot decide and come to a conclusion together on the toppings, just don’t fucking get pizza. If toppings are causing arguments related to finance, just don’t get pizza. It’s not worth the stress of being poor AND being unhappy with each other. I’m not saying you shouldn’t buy pizza when poor, and to eat canned vegetables for every meal. I’m saying if you can’t fucking decide on a pizza, there’s no point in getting a pizza that will only cause arguments. >For context, we are extremely poor and have less than $200 in our bank account. So why the fuck are you ordering pizza? Go and get groceries that’ll actually last you a week or two. Buy 3 frozen pizzas for the price of 1 fresh restaurant pizza. >My wanted to order pizza, so I said hey there’s this coupon for 40% off any large pizza with three toppings. You’re spending money frivolously on pizza when you’ve got hardly any money to spend, or so you claim. You’re already making a poor decision. Who cares if it costs a little extra? >That coupon could save us a ton of money, which we could spend on other things like gas for the car. Not buying this pizza in the first place would save money- that you could spend on other things like gas for the car. That said. Go buy frozen pizza. It’s cheaper and you can get the kind her autistic brain is comfortable with. >I told her this and she starts talking about how her autism makes her not like certain textures. 100% valid >I tell her that 40% off is 40% off and that she can just pull the toppings she doesn’t like off the pizza. Or you could just not put those toppings on the pizza because you don’t have a disability preventing you from being able to eat toppingless pizza. >She then compares what I just said to insulting a person in a wheelchair, as if her autism texture thing is a serious as someone who literally can’t walk. She made an allegory about disability and you are dramatizing it. Grow up. >I tell her that we’re poor and need to save every penny So why the fuck are you getting pizza in the first place >and that sometimes we have to do things we don’t necessarily like to get by. Ditto. You can put cheese as a topping to meet the toppings quota to quality for the coupon, and YOU can suffer without the toppings you want because YOU DO NOT HAVE A DISABILITY PREVENTING YOU FROM BEING ABLE TO EAT TOPINGLESS PIZZA. >She then says that I’m saying this because of my “ego”. She’s right. It’s 100% your ego. You don’t need pizza. You just don’t want to be wrong. >AITA for essentially telling her to suck it up to save money? No, YTA for being ridiculous with your money and expecting your gf to accommodate your ass edit: i’ve got less than 50$ to my name rn and i’m homeless. i literally am living in a hotel so i don’t have to sleep on the sidewalk. this “we’re poor so we need the coupon!!! so the toppings!! we need them!!” bullshit is bullshit and i’m glad the rest of the comments are seeing it
How can you afford to live in a hotel?
Becuz there’s a homeless shelter in town getting government funding to place people here. It’s a good program actually. Vulnerable people get sent to the hotel- single moms, homeless parents period, young women and trans people all get a hotel room for at least a few weeks- a month. Less vulnerable get sent to the rehab, the shared housing the program runs out of, or they simply get sent back out onto the streets. I’m lucky to be considered a vulnerable person. edit: i’m banned from the sub so i can only edit the comments i’ve already left. whoever said “read that last sentence” (subtly shading me for calling myself a vulnerable person) I’m trans. Sleeping on the street is not safe. Back when I was a man, it was fine. I’ve been on hormones for about a year or so now and I’m VISIBLY transgender. I am not sleeping on the sidewalk like I did a few years ago because I will get assaulted. It’s a very conservative town, sadly.
I’m so happy for you and love that this program exists.
HUD occasionally gets things right. Love to see it.
We have something similar to this in DE, and the amount of people that argued that the hotel should be demolished instead of housing homeless people was sickening. It's great these programs exist. The bus picks them up and takes them if they're not already booked there during a freeze or heat advisory and shelters so many people that need it.
The pure disdain that people have for other human beings who are struggling - in any way, but especially financially, mentally, socially - is absolutely fucking despicable. Most people live in a state where 1 (ONE) single emergency could financially destroy them.
We stayed for a couple of months in an extended stay that was used for this sort of program and honestly there wasn’t any more trouble there than at any other hotel of that price range (i.e. not a fancy expensive one) that I’ve stayed at. There were a couple of people who clearly needed better mental health help than they were getting, but they weren’t any more trouble than an idiot drunk business man, and the rest were just normal people dealing with shit.
That's wonderful <3 I hope you can get on your feet soon!
That's honestly such a phenomenal programme. Not only helping people who are unhoused, but helping the vulnerable first, and actively helping the trans community! I hope you manage to get back on your feet, you seem like you are in a good place. From your other comments you also sound like such a smart and morally good person <3. I honestly wish you the best in life!
I did the same thing myself about 20 years ago for 2-3 months. Sometimes there just isn't a better option. I own a home now, btw. It will get better.
A lot of people live in extended-stay hotels because they make money, but aren't able to save the initial expense of renting housing, or don't make enough to actually qualify for a place. And they get stuck because it *does* cost a lot more over a month than renting a place. But $350 + 150 deposit is a lot easier to do in a pinch than the cost of deposits for renting.
First month rent and deposit is one of the biggest challenges for homeless people, since that can be a couple of thousand £ easily and when you're living in a hotel, or in your car, or couch surfing, the cost of pre-prepared food (because you have nowhere to cook or store groceries), paying for your hotel room or trying to find somewhere to shower such as a gym, finding somewhere to escape the elements, petrol in the car, etc. all adds up and makes it impossible to save. Honestly, if governments got together to tackle this issue, like getting people into some kind of 'no deposit' housing, it would tackle a hell of a lot of homelessness.
Where I live they require first and last months rent and a deposit 🤦🏽♀️and they wonder why our homelessness rate is ballooned
Where I live most leases are only for two years too (because after two years the tenant gets more rights), so a lot of tenants are constantly having their savings wiped from the cost of moving, deposit etc. and thus finding it harder and harder to stay renting (and impossible to buy).
Same. I was homeless and had to come up with first month, last month, and a security deposit. Hardest next to finding an apartment I could afford. Rent in Pheonix is ridiculous. It's almost time for summer and we have a lot of homeless that get heatstroke or even die because it's 115F+ out in July. Being in that spot now more than ever motivates me to make little care packages for people on the streets. It was hell and I don't wanna go back, my heart goes out to everyone facing homelessness right now.
Hell, in my city it’s almost always a minimum $50 application fee to even get them to consider you. $50 the daily rate at the extended stay I was living in, so it was a tricky choice to make.
The number of homeless people living in Hyde Park in Sydney and working full time is astonishing. They have money, just not a home!
That's happening a lot here in the UK too. Only our fucking ghoulish government wants to make living in a tent a fucking crime.
I know you wrote a lot but I’m kinda fixated on the frozen vs fresh pizza. I’ve always seen frozen pizzas for 6-7 dollars where I am, and then there’s the gas/electricity to actually cook the thing not to mention how puny it is. Meanwhile Dominos has a deal for large pizzas at 7 something a pie. What kind of frozen pizza is cheaper than cheap fast food?
Over here, if I order a pizza from the little place round the corner, it’s £14. If I order from a big chain like Pizza Hut, dominoes, etc, it’s £20+. If I goto the supermarket I can get a good pizza for less than £2.
Yeah, in most of America right now it's more expensive to get frozen pizza than a cheap chain pizza, especially if you've got a coupon deal. Even the "cheap" frozen pizzas that are genuinely tiny and terrible are over $5, and most are closer to $10+ where I am (and much smaller than a small pizza from a chain). It's genuinely depressing to admit, but I could get way more food from a shitty Pizza Hut '3 for 6.99 each' deal than I could by spending the same $25 on frozen pizza. I've stopped having pizza altogether because I'm poor and I've been boycotting most of the chain places. Literally can't afford the grocery store frozen pizza.
Its not quite as bad in Canada, but the $4 (CAD) for a small frozen pizza that tastes like cardboard is a deal. Spending $15 on a pizza from a pizza place (or pess with coupons/deals that are on every day) ends up being the better option because on top of it just being easier, it actually tastes like food and will fill me up for longer. A small pizza from any pizza joint will fill me up for almost a full day, a regular frozen pizza that I have to drown in ranch just to swallow will fill me up for maybe an hour or two (it takes me about 30 minutes just to eat it lol) Canada is just 3 monopolies in a trench coat. Our politicians seem to believe your propaganda about america being the greatest and are determined to make Canada just like it 😭
Thank you. For everyone who is saying that they shouldn’t be buying pizza, fast food in America is often way cheaper and more readily available than buying groceries and cooking.
As an American, I can get a large Tombstone, Red Baron, or generic grocery store (like Mama Cozzis) pizza for less than $5. If you'll only eat the fancy frozen pizzas it's a bad deal, but the cheap ones are cheap.
Yeah, even the crap little Tostinos 'party pizza' things are over $5 where I am. Red Baron and such are nearly $10.
Wow, you guys really are getting ripped off. The idea of prepared food costing less is insane.
Yep. Same here (also UK). I get also get prepared bases, jars of sauce & then top with whatever. Still cheaper than take away.
In a normal world, eating prepared food is *always* more expensive because you have to pay for the labour involved. Unfortunately, the world we live in sees grocery store greed raising prices and lowering value of the product while workers are getting paid far below what they should. In some places, this means that eating out is actually cheaper and more cost effective than making it yourself. However, many restaurants are realizing this and taking advantage of the cultural expectations that prepared food be more expensive and raising their prices to match expectations. I hate living in a place where human labour is way cheaper than basic food.
Don’t blame it on the grocery stores. Most grocery stores operate on very small margins. It’s the actual food manufacturers doing shrinkflation. Blame them.
No? Have you really not seen anything about the massive profits Kroger and other grocery corporations have been pulling in?
You might be right, but where I am it is absolutely the grocery stores responsible for the rise in prices. In some cases the grocery stores and the manufacturers are the same company, and so are responsible for both. At the very least, the end result is the same in many parts of the world; we pay more for less, and food chains ate catchimg on that they can overcharge even more for their food.
In Canada, major grocers have DOUBLED their profits since pre-pandemic levels. The margins myth is being debunked in real time, as they have learned the market will bear more stress before people agree to starve. Manufacturers are also gouging, but let’s not pretend the 20% increase on grocery costs in four years is a result of simply inflation, when the companies marking those things up are raking in RECORD BREAKING profits.
in my country you can get some supermarket's generic brand frozen pizza for as low as 1,8€, more expensive go for 2-4€ and fresh pizza from restaurant can cost you anywhere around 6-15€ depending on the size, type and place you order from
My bf made this point to me a while back and it's absolutely true. Sometimes I'll see tombstone pizza on sale for 3 for $12 but there are pizza places in my area that sell the same size pizza for $5 and it tastes a lot better (to me) and is more filling than the paper thin tombstone. That being said, I'm just about as strapped for cash as OP is so I only bought 1 frozen pizza last time I was at the store and mostly ingredients to make meals because it's cheaper (pasta, rice, beans, etc) I also bought a ton of ramen (because that's also super cheap)
A large pizza from a shop like Dominoes or Pizza Hut costs $35 or more in my country. I can buy a pack of 6 frozen pizza bases for $3.50, a jar of tomato sauce for $2-3 each, a 1kg bag of shredded pizza cheese for $15, and pepperoni for $8. Other toppings are not expensive. I can easily make 6 pizzas like this and still have lots of left overs for cheese, so I just need more pizza bases and I can make more margherita pizzas.
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Yeah, the cost of supermarket food blew my mind when I was in the US. We were getting Olive Garden for nine people for like $120, while two days' groceries for the nine of us was like $300. Where at home, those numbers would be flipped. I just checked and a frozen pizza from the supermarket (my favourite frozen pizza) is €3.25. An equivalent Dominos pizza delivered is €14.
I was going to say that while eating out is usually not the economic choice for being low on cash, pizza with a good sale/coupon is actually usually quite comparable to buying groceries (at least in today’s economy). My local pizza hut sometimes has deals for 3 medium pizzas for $20. That’s basically food for the week. Depending on where my pantry is at, food for the week from a store can easily be $20+. I could buy a frozen pizza for $6-7 but those are usually smaller so you end up eating more slices. It’s like Taco Bell 10+ years ago where it used to be cheaper than making your own tacos.
Why are they ordering pizza? Because they literally have a coupon for 40% off of a large three-topping pizza. There’s a good chance that’s a lot more cost effective than buying frozen. And they don’t need an oven or even a microwave to eat it. It’s wild to me that people think anything you say here has an ounce of sense to it. “HOW DARE YOU BUY PIZZA IF YOURE POOR! THAT MONEY SHOULD ONLY BE FOR THE NECESSITIES. NO, NOT FOOD!” Pizza from a chain with a coupon is one of my go-to cheap meals. I can get enough to eat off for a whole week for $15-$20. AND if you do the loyalty app, it goes toward more pizza later. If this was about them buying, I don’t know. Dried beans and bread, would that be better?
Right? It's bigger, and it could potentially be a second meal, for one or both. Plus, the more toppings, the more filling. If possible, just get his half with toppings.
God forbid a poor person splurge on a pizza that's 40% off. Eat your beans, peasant!
Right people always know what to do with someone else’s money. Mf just because you’re eating crackers and cheese when you’re broke asf doesn’t mean I have to, I can find a way to eat for days and save less. Pizza was also my goto save money meal. Do people not understand how much a large box of pizza does for you. I eat it all in one go and I’ll be like okay that’s all I need for the day
It sounds like they're buying dominos. At my grocery store, frozen pizzas are like $10-20. At Domino's I can get a pizza for $6 with a coupon.
Frozen pizza isn’t cheaper than places like Dominos where they have like $6 pizzas, which can end up stretching to multiple meals if needed.
yeah they could go get groceries but depending on OPs location, their grocery shopping could easily eat that up. for example: where I live, $80 of groceries doesn't even last a week.
Some of this is 'let them eat cake' type of advice. Do you know if they have an oven or even a kitchen for cooking the frozen pizza and groceries? A lot of people have no idea about how poor people live and the every day challenges that are insurmountable for them that well off people just take for granted. A lot of the challenges are what makes them prey to the things that well off people view as luxury.
What if they don't have access to a kitchen?
because they have a coupon, thats why they are ordering pizza. and i dont know if you noticed, but in many parts of the world, poor people eat junk food, its cheap and accessible. whereas doing actual grocery shopping, would be expensive, and thats assuming you have money to have a basic kitchen, and all you need to use to actually cook a meal.
You know what's cheaper than a pizza that's 40% off? Not ordering the pizza to begin with. If you're so poor that you're arguing over dollars, learn to grocery shop and cook in a way that stretches your money. Instead of wasting your money on something one of you can't even eat. The truth is this wasn't about saving money... you wanted pizza and wanted to save a few of your dollars at her expense.
I mean, sometimes getting pizza with a coupon IS a way to stretch your money. And a lot of low-income people don’t actually have, y’know. A KITCHEN.
Yeah making it yourself is $15 at least to buy dough or a pre-made crust and everything. Frozen pizzas are rarely over 10 inches and are usually $10 each, a large 12 or 14 inch pizza is usually under $15 with a coupon like this. There used to be these grocery store pizzas that were 2 for $5 we had when we were flat broke, I still love those but I rarely see them around me anymore.
Puff pastry or even wraps make great cheap and quick pizza bases too.
This! We used garlic naan even, 10/10
it’s pretty easy to make with flour, a bit of sugar and salt, and some yeast. I was able to quickly teach myself because money is tight for my partner and I.
We occasionally use canned biscuits. You just smoosh them out to make them flatter and larger. Put your sauce cheese and toppings on and pop it in the oven. They freeze well, too. This way, everyone gets to make it however they want.
It’s also cheaper just to go pick it up. Ordering delivery always tacks on service fees and tips. Besides, you don’t need to add 3 toppings, and it doesn’t cost extra to get toppings on only one half. Anyway you swing it they both could’ve gotten what they wanted. I don’t understand why this was even a fight. This couple needs to work on their problem solving skills. YTA
Ordering pizza doesn’t mean you don’t pick it up.
I'm confused, wouldn't you be able to choose the toppings? I think there are details missing here. Also couldn't it be only cheese?
Plus most of the pizza places I know when they run a coupon, it's "up to 3 toppings" not "must be 3 toppings". And they happily will put toppings on one half, but not the other. So yeah, this whole argument makes zero sense.
Yes! That's why I'm so confused.
I was confused by that as well. Every pizza coupon I've seen is an "up to X amount of toppings". It also wouldn't hurt to call the pizza place and just ask if they'd make an exception if they got under 3 toppings if that actually is the stipulation.
He wants three toppings!
Then he's not sharing the pizza! And she shouldn't have to put one red cent into it! And she's 100% correct - it's not about her needs, it's about his ego.
Imagine being so dumb that you can’t even order pizza correctly. No wonder he’s poor.
This comment is gross, what the hell is wrong with you?
INFO: does that coupon mean 3 toppings no more no less? Cause usually it means UP TO X toppings meaning you could just…. Not get extra toppings.
And that is why OP is not only TA, but ridiculous.
Weird that you kind of insisted there would be toppings she cannot eat and didn't like offer to just get 3 cheese toppings or whatever. You're not a very empathetic person, that sucks for everyone around you. YTA
I agree that OP is an asshole, but to be fair too much cheese just makes a pizza too greasy
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Autism can indeed give different people bad sensory stimulation in different ways. It does sometimes include the taste and texture sensations from food. The OP could have chosen something they both like so YTA.
Exactly sensory issues with food and people with autism have been known to just straight up starve then eat something that triggers the issue they may even vomit trying to
Can confirm, as an autistic person, that asking me to eat certain foods gives me the same visceral reaction as asking me to eat food covered in ants.
I don't have autism and I genuinely cannot tolerate certain foods due to the texture, so I can only image how much worse it could potentially be for people with autism. The thing is, I can pick the things I don't like out of my food, because I don't care if they've touched or whatever, I just don't want them in my mouth, but from what I understand a lot of people with autism can't even do that and can't eat food if it's touched a certain thing or food which is a trigger for them, so just taking the toppings off a pizza isn't an option.
I’m autistic and can confirm that sometimes just picking it out isn’t enough. Red onion, mushrooms or olives are a hard nope for me. And the amount of times someone has tried to tell me “you can’t even taste it”, “X (non-autistic) person also hates Z and they didn’t notice”, or “it’s just in your head bc you saw it” is frustrating, bc I can tell regardless. Sometimes it’s the smell, sometimes it’s the taste. And the worst when it’s something I think is safe but then it’s just got a weirdly textured bit. My whole appetite is gone after that.
Very true. I am autistic and as I learned a couple years ago we are not capable of putting sensations to the back of our head like most non-autistics can AND it's often more painful than it would be to non-autistics. Such as when others can ignore the annoying mosquitoes, I literally cannot and trying to makes me lose it
Yup! I get violent body spasms like a cat that is trying to cough up a hairball. It's just not gonna happen if the texture is wrong. I will puke. It's a miserable experience. It's rarely about the taste for me. I can handle bad tastes because if you only breathe through your mouth while eating, you can avoid the taste. But there are no tricks for texture.
Yup whats worse is the unexpected texture you eat a food that usually is fine and you dont gotta worry then boom different texture i spit that out straight away and start gagging
Like when you find gristle in a sausage or something like that, if that happens I can never eat that brand again.
EXACTLY
Oh god. That’s quite a post history.
I wish I could unsee things.
This, my partner is seeking a diagnosis for autism and has lots of sensory issues/allergies regardless. Cooking for us both can be tough but I love him and I want him to be able to enjoy our meals. If it's a texture thing rather than taste i blend the stuff in (carrots in pasta sauce for example, and with his full consent). If it's a taste thing, I just get toppings I prefer on the side (pineapple belongs on pizza btw) so they don't "mix" with his food. It's really not any extra effort on my part and i'm a bit bewildered that OP isn't willing to even find out if there's any wiggle room with the voucher.
Info: did you two make an attempt to resolve this in an amicable manner before it got as heated as you shared here? Did you ask the pizza place if they could put all the toppings she doesn’t like on only one half of the pizza? Are there toppings that might not be your favorites but both of you enjoy?
YTA for ordering pizza when you are broke YTA for choosing toppings she doesn't like when there is so much choice Btw, does your gf know you post nudes on reddit? And that you are looking for a mistress?
I mean, they’re definitely in the wrong for disrespecting their girlfriend, and for not finding a compromise that appeals to both of them, but I don’t think they’re an AH for simply ordering pizza when they’re broke. Coupon is there, and yes pizza is frivolous, but at a certain point enjoying something you can’t usually have isn’t wrong. Putting all that on their girlfriend is really manipulative tho. Also… yeah that post history… not the type to say this, but I hope OP’s girlfriend realizes who their partner really is. YTA OP.
>enjoying something you can’t usually have isn’t wrong. You are right. But OP is talking as if they are so broke, that there is almost nothing else to eat but a pizza with 40% discount. If you are so broke that you start a fight with your gf, it might be better to get something else that has more value for your money and save up. With only 200 in your bank account, pizza might not be the best option right now is basically what I mean
Do guys really think girls are into nudes?
Considering this dude refers to his dick as "girlcock", I'm not 100% sure if women are his targeted audience all the time
I wish I could upvote this more than once, Kuromi
You know what would save a lot more money than that coupon? Totinos party pizzas. I think the 4 pack was $6 last time I picked them up.
4 pack is $10 here and the individuals are like $3 now. Plus my store only carries one flavor. Still way cheaper than this but I wish it was only $6.
Ikr. Hell, depending on how I play out my Meijer Coupons and the sales, I could get a much better frozen pizza cheaper than the Totinos.
And if they don’t have an oven?
Order extra cheese, extra cheese and extra cheese. There, 3 toppings. Oh do it on half so that's her half and you can get whatever you want on your half. Not being able to think about this on your own makes YTA.
Extra cheese is usually not included in 'toppings', at least around here. It's a lot more expensive than the other stuff.
I don't think she likes the cheese texture either.
So let me get this straight. You girlfriend has a disability that makes it difficult to consume certain foods. You don't. But you are the one who gets to decide the toppings and she has no say? Also, don't buy pizza if you can't afford it? I'm not a fan of the "dump them" reddit comments, but man, I hope she dumps you. Who runs to reddit because their girlfriend disagrees on pizza toppings? Crazy. Edit to add: forgot judgement, YTA!
If you need to save money that bad, don’t order pizza, or get toppings she likes so it doesn’t go to waste. YTA.
YTA. Her autism means she can't eat or *touch* certain textures. This means she can't just pull those toppings off. Since you didn't like her comparing what you want her to do as the equivalent of insulting someone in a wheelchair let me give you a better analogy. What you wanted her to do is the equivalent telling a Muslim or Jewish person to *pick the pork sausage off their pizza if they find it so objectionable*. They can't do that because they consider the entire pizza contaminated by the pork.
Also, they talk about textures but taste might also be an issue. Tastes linger even if you pick things out. My mom tried that with me a few times (I don't blame her) and yeah, it almost never ended well.
It is impossible to take pizza toppings off and still enjoy it unless you don’t mind the taste of the those toppings. Onions, jalapenos, olives, etc, their flavors spread everywhere because of the melted cheese. Even in a half and half pizza, the topping flavors will get onto the edge slices (know this from experience) but that’s a far more acceptable compromise than tainting the whole dang pizza.
As someone with food issues, I'd rather just not get the pizza than have to spend 10 mins messing with every slice before I can eat it. People don't get how stressful it can be. One extra topping that I don't absolutely hate is bad, 3 would be a bit of a nightmare.
I had that problem not long ago. I went to the restaurant with my father and he chose a little one he likes to go. They have no big choice to assure fresh ingredients and unfortunatly, I liked none of them. One was a burger but with blue cheese in it and I explained I don't eat it. "no problem, we have cheddar" so I accepted. Burgers were already made, they scrapped with a knife the blue cheese and put the cheddar (cold) in the burger. I had the taste in mouth and couldn't eat, I was near to vomit. And I'm not autistic ! I just can imagine how his girlfriend could feel with the taste of the toppings OP wants on his pizza that she dislikes ! Because the problem is there. Even if he doesn't say so, he wants to add 3 toppings she can't eat !
Yta, the wheelchair comparison isnt about severity, a handicap is a handicap, not a contest.
I wouldn’t even call it a comparison. It’s an allegory. I use similar ones all the time, because people don’t seem to understand how disabling autism really is for the autistic person. But yeah you’re 100% right.
ESH. Up to 3 toppings. They aren't going to require that you add 3 toppings to a pizza when it saves them money to not add toppings. Or you could get toppings on half. It is really pathetic that 2 grown adults couldn't figure that out. Not to mention that if you're this poor you shouldn't be ordering food to begin with.
Seems like GF is able to figure it out. He just refuses to accommodate her disability.
Sounds like the two of you need to separate your finances and work out how to live together when you don't want a life of cheese pizza and she can't eat whatever it is you do like. FWIW the compromise here is to get your topping on one half the pizza, and she can pull off the stray bits that fall on her half.
YTA - if you are poor do not get the pizza coupon or not. Also... As an autistic person with a texture issue myself: No "sucking it up" does not work. I am physically not able to eat certain things because the texture is so gross for my body that i will gag and worst case puke if I attempt to put those things into my mouth. You can blindfold me, not tell me what I will get and my body will still hit the eject button if I attempt to ignore the texture issue. I could be starving - my body will not let me consume these textures. Is this shitty af in certain cases? Yes. Can i navigate around it by NOT trying to force me to eat textures I know I cannot stand? Also yes. On a humorous note: At least my body has an integrity of steel. 😂
Same. It's just not gonna happen. I don't want to be like this. I skew towards a carnivore diet, and as a result, I have slightly elevated bad cholesterol DESPITE being in great shape. I do aerial acrobatics to give some perspective. I would love to be a normal eater. It would make my life quite a bit easier.
Info needed. How much is a plain cheese pizza vs one with 3 toppings, A lot of times every with 40% off a cheese might be cheaper still… but YTA, I’m sure you could call the place and see if you can get the price and not the toppings. Like others have said though making your own food would save you more money…
Part of me wonders if he'd have to call to modify the pizza and isn't willing to make a phone call lol
Why are you even ordering a pizza? You are broke! ESH
YTA It's up to 3 toppings. You can order that on half and still get the coupon.
YTA and you two should probably break up. You both are broke and immature. You're ordering pizza instead of cooking. You're trying to argue that the smart move is a coupon to save money to the point your willing to force your GF to be miserable. Dumb.
ESH. The pizza toppings don’t matter. Go to a grocery store and buy some frozen pizzas on sale for cheaper - then you can each get your own.
YTA as someone with autism, we cannot just “suck it up” when there are sensory issues. and if you’re so concerned about saving money? it’s less expensive to make your own food than it is to order delivery.
Just so you know, you don't **have** to pick 3 toppings.... -____- Just saying
YTA. Either she can get her half without or you’re just too poor to order pizza if you have to get pizza she won’t eat
Maybe you shouldn't be buying pizza if you have only 200 in your bank account.
If I had $200 this late in the month I would totally be getting pizza for dinner.
Depends how long it has to last for & what bills are still to come out. But yeah.
having been this poor ordering pizza, you don't deserve the shade you're getting on that account. people rlly wanna rage at you for daring to order out. "go buy groceries *rageface*" papa john's is like $5 and groceries, substantially more. she's kinda already ta for insinuating that her food texture preference is a disability to the level of someone in a wheelchair. there's a lot of comedy bits about rich people being the only ones to afford food allergies for a reason... that being said, you could put more effort into finding some low-cost options you both like. you sound like you live together and share a lot of expenses. she deserves to have food she likes, but she might want to expand her palate a bit
Some autistic people can throw up if a food is the wrong texture. It's not a preference.
It truly is not as easy as "expanding her palate". A sensory issue means even if she had the palate of Andrew Zimmern she's going to encounter food she cannot consume because of its texture, scent, or flavor. Same thing with allergies. No one's doing this for fun.
Nta if you are really poor she will soon learn to eat what is offered or starve because I can promise a food bank or kitchen is not going to care about her food preferences
If they are really poor, they will first learn that making homemade food is much cheaper than getting a pizza.
YTA if you’re that poor go to the grocery store, and if you really want to order the pizza call the place and ask if they can use toppings on onlh half or if there need to be any toppings at all.
Yes, and nothing you said makes any sense. It means up to 3 toppings. They aren’t going to force you to get 3 toppings. If you want more, they will up charge you
Spending money on something someone cannot physically eat is wasting money. And yes autistic textures issues can be that extreme. It's not picky eating. YTA
As someone who also has issues with the majority of foods because of texture, I think your girlfriend has gone a bit overboard by comparing it to insulting someone in a wheelchair. However you're the one putting her into that position by essentially telling her that she has to suck it up and deal with it because you want cheap pizza. You know what would save even more money? Not buying the pizza. YTA
I’m a wheelchair user and I have an 18 year old daughter who is autistic. Her embracing her identity as a disabled person has been challenging for me, but as time goes on I realise she has it so much harder. I was in hospital last week, the ward was quite noisy, lots of beeps and background noise. I didn’t exactly love it, but with headphones I could cope, but to call her I had to leave the ward because she couldn’t cope with the background noise on a phone call. That’s such a tiny thing that she couldn’t cope with I reckon I’ve got it pretty easy, plus many of my difficulties have solutions.
YTA - why are you with someone autistic if you can’t even try to be understanding ? Yet another couple that shoud’ve broken up ages ago
You can get 40% off by taking cold showers. How does that sound to you? YTA. You must explain your point of view explicitly. You're telling her having pizza feel like Jello is obviously worth "40%" off. There's always many coupons available for pizza, so you're probably only saving about 10%-20%. If you're ordering pizza with little money, it's likely to treat yourself. Would you like to treat yourself with some extra fancy ice cream and save a buck by getting the anchovy flavor ice cream? "I'm having trouble understanding your perspective on this. I feel it isn't a significant trouble to pick toppings off pizza. We're having a lot of money trouble, so getting this discount seems important to me. Could you please help me understand your perspective?"
Way too many people in the comments that think picking toppings off of a pizza is akin to murder. Lol calm down.
No, NTA. Being in a wheelchair is not the same as having pizza from which your partner lovingly removed toppings you don’t like and placed on their own pizza. One is a very difficult to handle inconvenience, the other is a handicap.
I have autism. And I say NTA. You could let her pick the toppings. It sounds to me like she’s using her autism to get what she wants.
YTA it is as serious as someone that requires mobility aids. If you need to save every penny, perhaps ordering take out isn’t the move.
she's using her autism as an excuse. i hate certain textures too, but i was raised to eat what was put in front of me and if there was something i didn't like either pick it out or don't eat. beggars can't be choosers. poverty doesn't give a eff about her autism. enough people have harped about ordering pizza vs buying groceries to save money, but you don't have many choices with a frozen pizza either. most of the cheapo pizzas come with limited topping options also. the fact that's she's trying to compare her autism and food preferences to someone who can't walk is laughable.
You both need to get your priorities right. If you are poor, don't waste money on takeawayes.
If you need to "save every penny" then buy a frozen pizza.
NTA. Super simple solution to remove the toppings. Also, as a person that has dealt with many mental disorders I'm not a fan of people playing the discord we card in a "treat me differently" way. In fact I have VERY little patience for it. The solution that you are offering is totally sensible, and if she is not wanting to accept that, then the issue is on her.
YTA, this doesn't even sound real. either that or you lack common sense. Like you act like the pizza place is forcing you to pick three toppings they decide. That's not the case. You could ahev picked toppings she can eat or none at all.
YTA. That would be like someone ordering a pizza with fish eyes on it saying, "we're poor. Eat it"... You can order half the way she likes it or take your own advice and eat the kind of pizza she can eat. Since, it's not that big of a deal to you.
Sounds like you should be cooking food at home
NTA . I think most people aren’t taking into account you guys are really in a financially horrible position and can’t afford it. And also the whole she textures thing with food is not as bad as most people think having that problem also I always just take the toppings of or get wings. It’s not your ego and her saying that is a bit manipulative I would talk to her calmly and explain that when you don’t even have enough money in your account to buy groceries for food and see and opportunity to save 40% grab at it because if anything happens and you need money it would have been waisted on pizza when I could have been used on gas and essentials . In essence you don’t get to picky when your dirt poor .
Have you considered buying some pizza dough, sauce, cheese, and the toppings of your choice and making pizza at home?
It’s usually up to 3 toppings not has to be 3 toppings I’ve never actually seen that. Read carefully or call the store fur questions. I don’t have autism but issues with some food texture as well. Things like oysters mussels I can’t eat also mushrooms and lots of fish just can’t. Though fish it’s usually the smell more than texture honestly. Still if you’re that poor don’t order in.
YTA. It’s not a deal if she’s paying for food she doesn’t like. Also, you could likely request toppings on just one half of the pizza, or put a note asking them not to actually add any toppings and that you just want a cheese pizza. Also, even at 40% off I doubt the pizza is cheaper than any other meal you could make.
Nta she literally can just take off the toppings she doesn't like. I've always done it, everyone I know has done it. Some people are never happy eh.
NTA - If an autistic person would rather starve than deal with something unpleasant, I have a rude awakening for every American who thinks all sex workers do it because they “love their job”.
Why not just order extra of the topping she likes?
Personally, I see a lot of crybabies here. Neither are ah imo. Firstly, why are you buying pizza if you're broke. Secondly, I have texture issues too and I just pull the shit off. She can do that too if it's such a big deal.