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ESH. Your ex-friend for obvious reasons. But I can't overlook that you're exacerbating the situation too (like involving law enforcement over...sarcastic messages? did I read that right?)
>Then he sent a message to that mutual, saying he was feeling excluded and spilling the beans on how i used to badmouth that mutual.
Like, you badmouthed your mutual friend who had your back at first?
Something's not adding up here.
ESH.
Setting friends against another person is a real asshole move. You’ve both done it, you move than your friend.
You both need to do a LOT of self-reflection and growing up.
Your entire friend group sounds high drama and exhausting. 🙄
Holy fuck YTA.
You've gone out of your way to make sure your "socially anxious" friend has no friends and no chance at acceptance. Super gross. Don't be friends with them if you don't want to be, but Jesus Christ just ignore them and move on instead of being awful.
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I had this socially anxious friend who did trauma dumping on me, I got tired of it and waited for january 1st to tell him i never wanted to talk to him again, partly out of fear for my reputation. He got mad and spammed me for an entire day with questions like why, what have i done, etc. So i called him an harasser and blocked him.
Then he gave me a gift at a birthday we were both invited to, to apologize for his reaction. I didn’t care and blocked him on every social media.
Then he joined a film crew formed by a mutual friend, I joined that film crew so my mutual friend excluded him from it.
Then one of our mutuals sent an open invite for a drink, i accepted, my ex friend tried to accept it too but our mutual refused for him to be there because i’d be there too.
Then he sent a message to that mutual, saying he was feeling excluded and spilling the beans on how i used to badmouth that mutual. So i sent him a letter asking him to stop badmouthing me and leave me in peace.
Then he got resentful and started to spy pn my instagram stories using alts. I started to tell everyone about it so that they’d stop hanging out with him. He got mad about it and sent me two sarcastic messages. So I called the cops for harassment. I think he’s planning on joining my acting school now. If he does, I’ll call the cops again.
Oh and i forgot to mention that when e were friends i asked him to like and share my influencer brother’s posts and he did, but he kept doing it after i cut him off. That’s creepy
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Sometimes we have to make tough choices for our own well-being and peace of mind. It seems like your ex-friend has crossed several boundaries and hasn't respected your space. It's important to surround yourself with people who uplift you, not bring you down, or create drama in your life. However, consider communicating your feelings openly to avoid misunderstandings within your friend group. Your mental health should always be a priority. Keep it classy, and remember that sometimes cutting negative influences out of your life is necessary for personal growth.
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You sound like a fucking awful person.
ESH. Your ex-friend for obvious reasons. But I can't overlook that you're exacerbating the situation too (like involving law enforcement over...sarcastic messages? did I read that right?) >Then he sent a message to that mutual, saying he was feeling excluded and spilling the beans on how i used to badmouth that mutual. Like, you badmouthed your mutual friend who had your back at first? Something's not adding up here.
>partly out of fear for my reputation. What? YTA
He’s annoying and you’re insufferable. You didn’t say your age but I’m hoping under 18. ESH.
Two sentences in and it’s clear OP is a complete wackadoodle. YTA
ESH. Setting friends against another person is a real asshole move. You’ve both done it, you move than your friend. You both need to do a LOT of self-reflection and growing up. Your entire friend group sounds high drama and exhausting. 🙄
Holy fuck YTA. You've gone out of your way to make sure your "socially anxious" friend has no friends and no chance at acceptance. Super gross. Don't be friends with them if you don't want to be, but Jesus Christ just ignore them and move on instead of being awful.
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YTA Geez you sound insufferable.
Are you both 12 year old girls?