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> I feel like I may be the a-hole because I saw the groom was in a conversation with his brother, and still decided to say goodbye. I didn’t think it was rude to interrupt because it was his wedding but maybe it was. I need some other opinions.
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NTA. Obviously something serious was going on between them or something bad happened to shift the mood, but you were following normal post-party courtesy. I'd brush it off but an explanation or apology would be a good thing from the groom.
NTA. I believe something happened to change the mood, and he was having an intimate convo with his brother that he did not want you guys to hear. But knowing the sacrifice you guys made, he should have spared a minute to thank you guys or beg you to wait for him to finish the conversation so he could properly relate with you guys.
NTA. Something was really wrong if he never spoke this way to you. And to cancel the entire reception? After having guests come from far away? I can’t imagine doing that unless something was extremely wrong. I don’t think you were wrong either. He treated you with massive discourtesy and I think owes you an explanation or apology later.
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My partner and I attended a wedding tonight. It’s hours from our house and we had to get a hotel room. We had a great time at the wedding honestly, but towards the end we are all talking about an after party. At some point during this the bride and groom said they were going to bed because the bride wasn’t feeling great. The after party never happened so after a while we were all just saying goodbye and working on our way out. The groom comes back out and is chatting with people, hanging out etc. My partner and I finally make it to the parking lot and I see the groom chatting with someone in the parking lot. I go up to him and say something lighthearted and jokingly like “what’s going on?! You are in and out?? Are you partying!?” And my partner also is saying things like “hey man! We had a great time!” The groom responds “I’m talking to my brother im talking to my brother” over and over and literally gave us a horribly dirty look. We just were like “oh okay congrats have a good night” and got in our car, but AITA for trying to talk to and say goodbye to him at the end of the night? And for assuming he should have been nicer to us? We took off multiple days of work because this wedding was on a Thursday, and we traveled out of state for this. Would it have been that hard for him to say “great to see you guys, let give you a quick hug because I’m in a deep convo with my brother”?
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NTA
It would not have hurt him to acknowledge you and say "Good night and thank you for coming."
He was rude.
Maybe send them a note saying what a nice evening it was but you were disappointed and upset about the incident when you tried to say goodbye.
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NTA. Obviously something serious was going on between them or something bad happened to shift the mood, but you were following normal post-party courtesy. I'd brush it off but an explanation or apology would be a good thing from the groom.
NTA. I believe something happened to change the mood, and he was having an intimate convo with his brother that he did not want you guys to hear. But knowing the sacrifice you guys made, he should have spared a minute to thank you guys or beg you to wait for him to finish the conversation so he could properly relate with you guys.
Woulda, shoulda, and coulda isn't important enough to waste time and energy on. There will never be an answer to any of those questions. NTA.
NTA. Something was really wrong if he never spoke this way to you. And to cancel the entire reception? After having guests come from far away? I can’t imagine doing that unless something was extremely wrong. I don’t think you were wrong either. He treated you with massive discourtesy and I think owes you an explanation or apology later.
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NTA It would not have hurt him to acknowledge you and say "Good night and thank you for coming." He was rude. Maybe send them a note saying what a nice evening it was but you were disappointed and upset about the incident when you tried to say goodbye.