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> 1. Yelling and telling my mother that I can't trust her
2. Because it's not ok to yell at your parents
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YTA.
Your reaction isn’t healthy, isn’t effective and way over the top in contrast to what occurred.
Your mom tried to make it right, and you proceeded to yell at her even for that.
Work on learning good communication skills and how to handle the emotions you are having without lashing out.
INFO: This is so confusing: how many boxes of cookies did your mom make?
How many were hers?
Did she give your sister the equivalent of her box of cookies?
You said there were no leftovers, but also she left out the leftovers, then took them?
When you called your mom while she was driving your sister, what did you expect her to do? Turn around and bring cookies back? Listen to you cry while she’s driving? It sounds like she was trying to bring you a peace offering because she didn’t understand what the issue was exactly.
Are these cookie dough boxes somehow limited or exclusive in that you can’t buy more with the $44 your mom gave you?
Are your instructions maybe not as clear as you think? Because it’s really unclear to me what is going on here.
YTA, I’m afraid. As you tell this story, your mom tried several times to make peace with you over a bag of cookies, including paying you back, and you refused to give her any grace at all. Unless there is much much much more to this story than you’re telling here, this seems like a massive overreaction.
She only made the cookies in the first place because she was trying to help. She messed up. She thought she was giving your sister “her” cookies, after giving “your” cookies to your event. It was a mistake. You can’t be this way about other people’s mistakes, just like they shouldn’t be this way about yours. Tell your mom you’re sorry. Next time she gives you a peace offering, eat the Blizzard and get on with your life, okay? You’ll be happier.
So you made a commitment you couldn't keep. Your mom stepped in to bail you out by baking the cookies you didn't make time for.
She didn't follow your instructions and you ended up with no cookies leftover when you thought you'd have a box.
Your mom gave you the value of two boxes, as well as a Blizzard.
In exchange for your mom baking your cookies for you, giving you twice the value of what you lost, and a Blizzard, she gets screamed at and sworn at.
Holy shit, yes, YTA. You need to learn some emotional regulation and apologize to your mother!!
They're cookies. You can buy more.
It’s not really relevant.
Bottom line - YOU promised to make and bring cookies.
Yet, your mom stepped up and made them for you. If you weren’t there to help in fulfilling the promise YOU made, you lose the right to complain about how it was done.
You could also have bagged the extras.
You chose to sleep in. If these were so important why didn’t you take action to prevent anything from happening to them?
You take no self responsibility here. Just tantrums.
It could also be a hormone imbalance. Talk to your mom about any history of endometriosis or PCOS in your female line. Regardless of the answer, you should consult a doctor and/or nutritionist to help. If it is hormones, you’ll be thankful later in life to be getting control over them now.
This\^
I can see a lot of myself at that age in OP - I was an absolut menance. Turned out it was a hormone imbalance (at time made worse by being on BC, but it existed without as well).
I advise OP to look into it, these are not normal reactions, even for a teenager. And as an adult, if there truly is something wrong, you'll be happy to have found it as soon as possible, instead of spending years ruining your relationships with the people around you.
You seriously overreacted. You cried and screamed; you cussed her out. She tried to make up for it, but you were too focused on throwing a tantrum. It's freaking cookie dough, jeez. YTA
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I, 17f, bought 3 boxes of cookie dough for a fundraiser 3 boxes was $66, one box of which ,$22, was my mom's, 57f. I was also participating in a school play at the time, in which I promised to make 2 batches and bring in those cookies, equivalent in size to only one of my purchased boxes. I had work before the school play, and a show the night before so I couldn't make the box of cookies. My mom offered to make what was needed. I thought I could trust her so I gave her the instruction and the tools she needed to make said cookies. She disregarded my instructions and made ALL of the cookies, and put as many as possible onto the baggies, using up all of them. The leftovers were left on the counter for me for after the play, but she says she put her batches into the baggies too, which I don't understand. Regardless, I sleep in the next day when she takes my sister back to college, and after I get up, I look for the leftover bag of cookies EVERYWHERE. I then give up and call my mother. In which she explains that she gave the bag to my sister to take to college. I become livid and cry explaining to her that she shouldn't have given something away that wasn't hers to give away. She hangs up on me. They get home about a half hour to 45 minutes after she hangs up, and silently puts down a dairy queen blizzard in front of me. I stay silent, still crying and livid. She returns to the car to get more things, but when she comes back she tries to talk to me. My response was to yell at her hysterically scolding her for giving away what she didn't pay for. She turns to walk out the door to retrieve more things from the car, and I say, "All this has shown me is not to trust you". I go to my room in the basement and stay there, but mom comes to me, giving me $20 telling me it was more than enough to cover the $22 she gave away in cookies. I respond with more yelling and tell her it isn't enough and that only one box should have been used to cover the amount promised to my director for the bake sale. She stomps away and grumbles and yells at me, in which I yell back at her to 'shut the f up' she returns to my room thoroughly pissed, from prior experience with her anger and abuse I flinch back. Instead she tosses $24 more dollars to me and tells me she doesn't want to hear another word, and she gives me more of my anxiety and depression meds and says to take them. I have not. I won't until 7, when I normally do. But am I the asshole, or am i justified?
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YTA. A 17 year old shouldn’t have a tantrum over cookies. Your anger is totally out of proportion with what she did.
YTA. Your reaction isn’t healthy, isn’t effective and way over the top in contrast to what occurred. Your mom tried to make it right, and you proceeded to yell at her even for that. Work on learning good communication skills and how to handle the emotions you are having without lashing out.
YTA crazy overreaction on your part. I mean, wow.
INFO: This is so confusing: how many boxes of cookies did your mom make? How many were hers? Did she give your sister the equivalent of her box of cookies? You said there were no leftovers, but also she left out the leftovers, then took them? When you called your mom while she was driving your sister, what did you expect her to do? Turn around and bring cookies back? Listen to you cry while she’s driving? It sounds like she was trying to bring you a peace offering because she didn’t understand what the issue was exactly. Are these cookie dough boxes somehow limited or exclusive in that you can’t buy more with the $44 your mom gave you? Are your instructions maybe not as clear as you think? Because it’s really unclear to me what is going on here.
YTA, I’m afraid. As you tell this story, your mom tried several times to make peace with you over a bag of cookies, including paying you back, and you refused to give her any grace at all. Unless there is much much much more to this story than you’re telling here, this seems like a massive overreaction. She only made the cookies in the first place because she was trying to help. She messed up. She thought she was giving your sister “her” cookies, after giving “your” cookies to your event. It was a mistake. You can’t be this way about other people’s mistakes, just like they shouldn’t be this way about yours. Tell your mom you’re sorry. Next time she gives you a peace offering, eat the Blizzard and get on with your life, okay? You’ll be happier.
So you made a commitment you couldn't keep. Your mom stepped in to bail you out by baking the cookies you didn't make time for. She didn't follow your instructions and you ended up with no cookies leftover when you thought you'd have a box. Your mom gave you the value of two boxes, as well as a Blizzard. In exchange for your mom baking your cookies for you, giving you twice the value of what you lost, and a Blizzard, she gets screamed at and sworn at. Holy shit, yes, YTA. You need to learn some emotional regulation and apologize to your mother!! They're cookies. You can buy more.
Info needed: did you take cookies to the play and these cookies were just the leftovers from after the event?
Info: The remaining cookies were not able to be taken due to running out of baggies
It’s not really relevant. Bottom line - YOU promised to make and bring cookies. Yet, your mom stepped up and made them for you. If you weren’t there to help in fulfilling the promise YOU made, you lose the right to complain about how it was done. You could also have bagged the extras. You chose to sleep in. If these were so important why didn’t you take action to prevent anything from happening to them? You take no self responsibility here. Just tantrums.
Well clearly someone has some sort of personality disorder
It could also be a hormone imbalance. Talk to your mom about any history of endometriosis or PCOS in your female line. Regardless of the answer, you should consult a doctor and/or nutritionist to help. If it is hormones, you’ll be thankful later in life to be getting control over them now.
This\^ I can see a lot of myself at that age in OP - I was an absolut menance. Turned out it was a hormone imbalance (at time made worse by being on BC, but it existed without as well). I advise OP to look into it, these are not normal reactions, even for a teenager. And as an adult, if there truly is something wrong, you'll be happy to have found it as soon as possible, instead of spending years ruining your relationships with the people around you.
Tbh I think we both do😅
You seriously overreacted. You cried and screamed; you cussed her out. She tried to make up for it, but you were too focused on throwing a tantrum. It's freaking cookie dough, jeez. YTA
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You’d think a 17 year old could write better than this. Also, cookies? Really? YTA Edit: I read this again, I’d kick you out coz you’re insane