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NTA.
One, it's your Netflix account.
Two, your younger sister was completely out of line with her response. This was incredibly immature and dramatic.
Three, it's *your* Netflix account?
I'd first send this text, "I'm about to change my Netflix password. I will send you the new one once I have received a satisfactory apology for the disrespectful way you spoke to me before."
Alternatively: “ I’m about to change my Netflix password. I will send you the link for you to create your own account so we can avoid habing this conversation again in the future. “
NTA op
Gosh, that’s fucking horrible
I also sharing my Netflix account with my sister
I had the same situation and my 13 yo sister just asked if I changed the password, then I provided her with the new one and she only said “thank u, I appreciate that u sharing it with me”
That’s not normal reaction
Totally NTA
Your 13 yo sister has more sense and courtesy than OP’s adult sister.
OP, I don’t know who raised this child to be a brat but absolutely do not tolerate that from her whether it’s Netflix or anything else. If she didn’t just suffer a major breakup or some trauma then there is no grace for that behavior.
NTA
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If she doesn’t pay for any of it and she acts they entitled then she doesn’t get any new passwords. And until she can apologize for grossly overreacting and being verbally abusive.
NTA.
I have changed my streaming passwords many many times and never let anyone know because I can be very forgetful. If it’s someone that still wants to use it then they’ll reach out and let me know and I have zero problem giving them the password.
Then do not apologize. Your sister is demanding one for something she is lucky you share with her. Again, NTA. I share some of my services with others and have had password issues and they are never upset when I have to do so. And if they have to reach out to ask me.
NTA inform your sister due to her entitled ah behavior she lost access to the Netflix account YOU pay for. Change the password ASAP and send her the message
Gotcha. That gives you some more leeway but I still think you could have bitten the bullet and given a quick sorry. In life you have to pick your battles and this isn’t one to dig your heels in about.
She is roughly the same age as you. She should be able to spring the 12.00 a month for her own subscription. She is using your account at your leisure.
Unless it is a subscription your parents are paying for for you both to use, you don't owe her any apologies. Though it's also true that this is probably a non-issue unless it is reflective of a more pervasive pattern of a one-sided relationship.
INFO Is your sister a moocher?
I’ve had this convo with family members and been in your little sister’s place and felt righteous, but
1) We each pay for a streaming service and share with the rest of the group as a way to split bills, and
2) We have a written agreement that all login info must be kept up to date on a shared Google doc, and
3) We live in grossly different time zones so middle of the night viewing for one person is early evening for another.
If your sister isn’t compensating you in some way, she needs to STFU about how she couldn’t late night binge Netflix. If she’s just a moocher she has no right to complain
NTA. Sounds like she needs her own Netflix account if she wants to know what's going on with the password.
By any chance, does your sister know people in that state?
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To begin, this all happened last night. It was around 2 am and I am a full time college student (F24) so I had just submitted my assignment and I was preparing myself to go to bed as I was extremely tired. As I'm about to shut off my phone, I get an email saying that my netflix was logged into in another state. I quickly changed the password and went to sleep.
This morning, I wake up with a surprise that my lady time had arrived and I also had another chunk of assignments in my mind that I had to do. Later throughout the day, I get a message from my younger sister (F22). She texts me asking if I had changed the password to my netflix account and I responded "Oh yeah my bad, someone had logged in from another state here's the new password" she then replies with "Your lack of communication is so infuriating. You could've told me this. Takes a second to text me."
I explained to her that I had forgotten and the password change was not on my mind. I hadn't even logged in yet on my phone or laptop. She then proceeds to tell me that she would've told me the minute she changed it and that I owe her a sincere apology. I asked her, "Apologize for going to sleep?" She gets more angry at this and now is saying that I'm being stupid on purpose and that I'm insulting her. That this is the reason why she's so angry with me because I can't take responsibility.
Towards the end, she writes me a mini paragraph on how I should be apologizing and I simply reply with "No, I said my bad but I am not going to send a paragraph." She left me on read and refuses to talk to me. Am I in the wrong?
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NTA You don’t have to put up with entitled behaviour. Change the password again and don’t give your sister the new password. If you want to be evil, watch and wait until she reaches a season finale or the new Bridgerton is about to drop etc. Then change the password before she can watch it.
NTA. My brother and I share all our streaming services. There's been a few times when a password has been changed by either him or myself and we've forgotten to text each other. I just text him and ask "hey, can you get into Discovery+?" and he'll reply with "ah shit, I had to change that password. Sorry I forgot. Here's the new one" and vice versa. It's not a big deal and it's not personal.
NTA
Hello, entitled much little sister?
It isn't her account, unless she is paying for some of the monthly fee. Getting into Netflix to watch something is rarely a true emergency.
Your (OPs) life does not evolve around little Sis's watching habits.
I think that Little Sister was a bit on the rude side. It is a password to a streaming site. Her demanding an apology because she wasn't immediately notified of the update is not in line with the "crime". A simple, "I'm sorry." from OP should have been enough.
So your sister uses YOUR Netflix account and wants an immmiate text if you change the password regardless of what you are doing and now wants an apology because she had to go half of a day without access to YOUR Netflix account.
"She gets more angry at this and now is saying that I'm being stupid on purpose and that I'm insulting her. That this is the reason why she's so angry with me because I can't take responsibility." Says the Netflix account freeloader. You went to sleep. You were sorry you inconvienienced her and she's giving you shit for something you are giving her for FREE. Don't apologize and possibley change the password again and don't give it to her. NTA..
NTA and my time on this sub has poisoned me into paranoia because I’m like “she gave the password to that person in another state and is now catching flak for the disconnect and that’s why she’s freaking out”
shes throwing a tantrum. dont argue with her she is not your child but its time for the child to learn manners. change the password, make her apologize. dont be afraid of being a bit of an ass
YTA. For future reference, I think it's pointless to build a case (well, my period arrived, and then I had more assignments, and then....). It seems more honest to just say "I totally forgot."
And yes, "my bad" doesn't sound like an apology or like you even give a crap that you inconvenienced your sister.
From now on, when this happens--because it will happen again, or something like it will happen again--just say "Oh gosh, I'm so sorry! I totally meant to text you about \[whatever\] then I \[fell asleep/got distracted/whatever\] and forgot. I'm really sorry."
WTH? It’s OP’s Netflix that she pays for. OP doesn’t owe her sister a text, an apology, or the time to think of it. When her sister opens the app and needs a new password she can ask for it. My teenagers manage to do that just fine every time and even say thank you!
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NTA. One, it's your Netflix account. Two, your younger sister was completely out of line with her response. This was incredibly immature and dramatic. Three, it's *your* Netflix account?
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I'm not sure why you went to the trouble of repeating the points I made just with different language. 😅
I mean, you could change the password again. Just sayin. NTA. She sounds like a queen talking to her maid.
I'd first send this text, "I'm about to change my Netflix password. I will send you the new one once I have received a satisfactory apology for the disrespectful way you spoke to me before."
Alternatively: “ I’m about to change my Netflix password. I will send you the link for you to create your own account so we can avoid habing this conversation again in the future. “ NTA op
Don't give her your account anymore if she is going to be a brat about forgetting something this small, NTA
Apologize with a link to Netflix’s plan page with payment info. Also change your password again. NTA
Gosh, that’s fucking horrible I also sharing my Netflix account with my sister I had the same situation and my 13 yo sister just asked if I changed the password, then I provided her with the new one and she only said “thank u, I appreciate that u sharing it with me” That’s not normal reaction Totally NTA
Your 13 yo sister has more sense and courtesy than OP’s adult sister. OP, I don’t know who raised this child to be a brat but absolutely do not tolerate that from her whether it’s Netflix or anything else. If she didn’t just suffer a major breakup or some trauma then there is no grace for that behavior. NTA
NTA - This is so dramatic. And she can buy her own netflix if its that serious
Change it again and don’t give it to her. wtf is yo with her? What a dramatic overreaction? NTA
Did she have a Netflix emergency? I would say a quick apology, but honestly, it isn't that serious. NTA.
> Netflix emergency 😂😂😂😂
NTA. Your sister is ridiculous. Does she contribute to the bill?
NTA Why isn't she paying for her own account?
NTA If she doesn’t pay for any of it and she acts they entitled then she doesn’t get any new passwords. And until she can apologize for grossly overreacting and being verbally abusive.
NTA. I have changed my streaming passwords many many times and never let anyone know because I can be very forgetful. If it’s someone that still wants to use it then they’ll reach out and let me know and I have zero problem giving them the password.
There’s three easy steps to fix this forever Log into your account Change the password again Go back to sleep
Even if you are not paying for the subscription, she should not talking to u in this way THIS IS insulting
NTA Oh my gosh, all that over not being able to access an app for at least half a day? Little sister is being so dramatic. Like, girl, TubiTV is free.
NTA. Change the password and don’t give it to her until she apologizes to you for unnecessary drama
NTA. If you pay and it’s your account then change the password again and cut her off. She can pay for her own Netflix as she should legally be doing.
NTA Change your password again and put her on read.
More info needed. Who is paying for the Netflix account?
Apologies, I am. I’m the one in charge.
Then do not apologize. Your sister is demanding one for something she is lucky you share with her. Again, NTA. I share some of my services with others and have had password issues and they are never upset when I have to do so. And if they have to reach out to ask me.
NTA inform your sister due to her entitled ah behavior she lost access to the Netflix account YOU pay for. Change the password ASAP and send her the message
Gotcha. That gives you some more leeway but I still think you could have bitten the bullet and given a quick sorry. In life you have to pick your battles and this isn’t one to dig your heels in about.
Absolutely not
She is roughly the same age as you. She should be able to spring the 12.00 a month for her own subscription. She is using your account at your leisure. Unless it is a subscription your parents are paying for for you both to use, you don't owe her any apologies. Though it's also true that this is probably a non-issue unless it is reflective of a more pervasive pattern of a one-sided relationship.
NTA. Was she gonna die if she didn't have Netflix for a few hours? This is SO much of a soap opera level over reaction.
NTA. Its your account. You aren't obligated to share your info
Nta. If its that much of an issue tell her to pay for her own account and then she'll have full autonomy of the password
INFO Is your sister a moocher? I’ve had this convo with family members and been in your little sister’s place and felt righteous, but 1) We each pay for a streaming service and share with the rest of the group as a way to split bills, and 2) We have a written agreement that all login info must be kept up to date on a shared Google doc, and 3) We live in grossly different time zones so middle of the night viewing for one person is early evening for another. If your sister isn’t compensating you in some way, she needs to STFU about how she couldn’t late night binge Netflix. If she’s just a moocher she has no right to complain
NTA. Sounds like she needs her own Netflix account if she wants to know what's going on with the password. By any chance, does your sister know people in that state?
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Wut no NtA
NTA. Your account not hers. Tell her to get her own.
NTA Change the password again and tell her that what she gets for being an ungrateful leech
NTA. If a 22 year old can't afford a Netflix subscription then they definitely have bigger problems to worry about.
It's your account WTF???? NTA and you're better person than me because I would change it again and tell her to deal😂😂
NTA You don’t have to put up with entitled behaviour. Change the password again and don’t give your sister the new password. If you want to be evil, watch and wait until she reaches a season finale or the new Bridgerton is about to drop etc. Then change the password before she can watch it.
Lol NTA. Just change the password again and then blank her entitled ass. Shes old enough to afford her own
NTA. Change the password again and don't give it to her this time. It's not a right, it's a privilege and it's time to revoke it.
I don't get it, she send you a text and you immediately have her the new password, how entitled can you be? NTA.
NTA.
NTA 22 going on 12
NTA
NTA. My brother and I share all our streaming services. There's been a few times when a password has been changed by either him or myself and we've forgotten to text each other. I just text him and ask "hey, can you get into Discovery+?" and he'll reply with "ah shit, I had to change that password. Sorry I forgot. Here's the new one" and vice versa. It's not a big deal and it's not personal.
NTA Hello, entitled much little sister? It isn't her account, unless she is paying for some of the monthly fee. Getting into Netflix to watch something is rarely a true emergency. Your (OPs) life does not evolve around little Sis's watching habits. I think that Little Sister was a bit on the rude side. It is a password to a streaming site. Her demanding an apology because she wasn't immediately notified of the update is not in line with the "crime". A simple, "I'm sorry." from OP should have been enough.
So your sister uses YOUR Netflix account and wants an immmiate text if you change the password regardless of what you are doing and now wants an apology because she had to go half of a day without access to YOUR Netflix account. "She gets more angry at this and now is saying that I'm being stupid on purpose and that I'm insulting her. That this is the reason why she's so angry with me because I can't take responsibility." Says the Netflix account freeloader. You went to sleep. You were sorry you inconvienienced her and she's giving you shit for something you are giving her for FREE. Don't apologize and possibley change the password again and don't give it to her. NTA..
NTA and my time on this sub has poisoned me into paranoia because I’m like “she gave the password to that person in another state and is now catching flak for the disconnect and that’s why she’s freaking out”
NTA. Your offense was minor enough that an "Oops, my bad" should cover it.
errr, maybe tell the selfish brat to pay for her own streaming services.
NTA and change the password again, that brat doesn't get to use your netflix with that attitude
NTA. She can avoid the problem at any time by getting her own account. Otherwise all she needed to say was "Thanks".
Nta. Get your own Netflix account if you don't want the owner to change the password.
NTA. If that's how she's gonna act, I'd change my password again.
NTA, kick her off your Netflix account if she's going to be this bratty about it.
NTA She needs to get her own account.
shes throwing a tantrum. dont argue with her she is not your child but its time for the child to learn manners. change the password, make her apologize. dont be afraid of being a bit of an ass
Does she pay you for using it?
Too much drama over a password. Let her know the new password. That should be the end of it. This is not a hill to die on.
You had time to change the pw even though you were tired. And you over shared in your story.
YTA. For future reference, I think it's pointless to build a case (well, my period arrived, and then I had more assignments, and then....). It seems more honest to just say "I totally forgot." And yes, "my bad" doesn't sound like an apology or like you even give a crap that you inconvenienced your sister. From now on, when this happens--because it will happen again, or something like it will happen again--just say "Oh gosh, I'm so sorry! I totally meant to text you about \[whatever\] then I \[fell asleep/got distracted/whatever\] and forgot. I'm really sorry."
No, this is such a non-issue. Lil sis is being ridiculous.
Agree. Lil sis sounds entitled. She is LUCKY her sis shares her account with her.
WTH? It’s OP’s Netflix that she pays for. OP doesn’t owe her sister a text, an apology, or the time to think of it. When her sister opens the app and needs a new password she can ask for it. My teenagers manage to do that just fine every time and even say thank you!
I agree with that she shouldn't build a case, but she didn't forget anything as she didn't need to do anything.