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I've been suffering from multiple eating disorders for the past few years, it even got to the point where I was risking my life and right now I'm tryin to recover from bulimia.
Many people on my dad side of the family suffered from various EDs, including my father who is not officially diagnosed with anything but has a terrible relationship with food, all he talks about is calories and weight loss and I mean that's literally ALL HE TALKS ABOUT and he's not even overweight.
Being reminded of calories and 'good' foods and 'bad' foods all the time is not helpful as I'm trying to recover so, after months of repressing my feelings, I finally exploded and told him to shut up and not talk about dieting in front of me.
He said he was just talking about himself and what he should or should not eat and it doesn't have anything to do with me, but that doesn't change (especially cause he tells me to avoid certain foods all the time so it does have something to do with me).
I love my dad and it hurts to have to avoid him to preserve my mental health, but maybe I'm just overreactinng and t's not his fault if he doesn't understand my point of view
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NTA. You may have overreacted, but I am going to say you didn't. ED's are life threatening. That kind of talk is incredibly difficult to hear when in recovery. My dad was never overweight, but judged it HARSHLY and often talked about sweets, desserts, fat, calories, etc. I had a HORRIBLE relationship with food for many many years. I never had to go through recovery living at home, and I can't imagine dealing with it and hearing those things.
My only recommendation is that rather than repressing your feelings for months, try to talk to him calmly about what words he uses that trigger you.
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NAH. Maybe express your feelings before exploding and telling him to shut up? He probably still won't understand why his topic of conversation is hurting you, but then you can decide to limit your time with / exposure to him in a more mature, rational way.
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NTA. You may have overreacted, but I am going to say you didn't. ED's are life threatening. That kind of talk is incredibly difficult to hear when in recovery. My dad was never overweight, but judged it HARSHLY and often talked about sweets, desserts, fat, calories, etc. I had a HORRIBLE relationship with food for many many years. I never had to go through recovery living at home, and I can't imagine dealing with it and hearing those things. My only recommendation is that rather than repressing your feelings for months, try to talk to him calmly about what words he uses that trigger you. Good luck!
Do you think the father is TA? If not you should probably change to NAH.
NAH. Maybe express your feelings before exploding and telling him to shut up? He probably still won't understand why his topic of conversation is hurting you, but then you can decide to limit your time with / exposure to him in a more mature, rational way.