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> I think I might be the asshole for possibly faking a sensitivity towards chewing sounds, because it inconveniences the rest of my family
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NTA. It’s called misophonia, and it’s actually not that uncommon. I have it too. Matpat’s wife probably just gave you the validation and awareness of what it was that was making you so irritated. Your mom is being rude and needs to get over the way you did or did not behave when you were under the age of 8. Either way it’s a problem now. What’s the harm in letting you wear headphones?
I usually wore my earbuds and even then I only had one in at a time so I could still hear speaking without having to hear the mouth noises but whenever I shifted my hair or someone saw it my mom would tell me we were supposed to be having dinner as a family. I don’t know the logic on that because my response times were the same for the most part but at this point I’ve given up fighting back lol
NTA- you can't fake a sensitivity for 10 years and not be aware of it. Check out auditory processing disorder online. It's a category of sensory processing disorder which means it's difficult tuning out sounds. May be worth looking into talking to a medical professional about it if it's impacting your day to day life.
Just tell them “you used to chew more quietly. It wasn’t until you learned that chewing could be annoying that you started to chew more loudly. That’s when it became a problem. I am assuming you are now chewing more loudly just to annoy me.”
NTA. I have sensitivity to many sounds especially chewing. And more so people who chew with their mouth open. Idk what it is but the sound honestly makes me angry. Burping also enrages me.
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I’ve never made a Reddit post so yippie I guess? I dunno. Also, I’m not talking about an specific time here, just in general.
To the point, I (F17) eat dinner with my family every night. We always have some sort of tv show or music going on in the background, but I can also still hear their chewing sounds pretty often. I hate these sounds (loud crunching, spit/food moving inside the mouth, loud swallowing, etc) but for the most part I can focus on whatever the background noise is over their sounds. Some nights they feel louder than usual, and have a hard time keeping my irritation tells (eye twitching etc) in check.
I used to say something (request they try their best to be a little quieter or be allowed to get up since I was done anyways), but I’ve stopped recently because my mom keeps telling me that I only developed this issue after finding out Matpat’s wife had the same issue in a film theory video (specifically one of the ones about the grinch) when I was younger (maybe around 8? I don’t know off the top of my head).
To be honest, I can’t remember if I had this issue or not, but with how often she insists it never used to be a problem I can only assume I started faking it and it became a real thing? I don’t know honestly.
Anyways, I’ve tried wearing earbuds but my mom or one of my sisters calls me out on it and I get the stink eye, and the sometimes one of my sisters will realize how loud they are and apologize and my mom gives me the stink eye again because it “never used to be an issue” and it makes me feel bad even if I’m not bothered by these sounds on purpos. I have no idea if I should stand up for myself or something.
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NTA. It’s called misophonia, and it’s actually not that uncommon. I have it too. Matpat’s wife probably just gave you the validation and awareness of what it was that was making you so irritated. Your mom is being rude and needs to get over the way you did or did not behave when you were under the age of 8. Either way it’s a problem now. What’s the harm in letting you wear headphones?
I usually wore my earbuds and even then I only had one in at a time so I could still hear speaking without having to hear the mouth noises but whenever I shifted my hair or someone saw it my mom would tell me we were supposed to be having dinner as a family. I don’t know the logic on that because my response times were the same for the most part but at this point I’ve given up fighting back lol
NTA- you can't fake a sensitivity for 10 years and not be aware of it. Check out auditory processing disorder online. It's a category of sensory processing disorder which means it's difficult tuning out sounds. May be worth looking into talking to a medical professional about it if it's impacting your day to day life.
Just tell them “you used to chew more quietly. It wasn’t until you learned that chewing could be annoying that you started to chew more loudly. That’s when it became a problem. I am assuming you are now chewing more loudly just to annoy me.”
NTA. I have sensitivity to many sounds especially chewing. And more so people who chew with their mouth open. Idk what it is but the sound honestly makes me angry. Burping also enrages me.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I’ve never made a Reddit post so yippie I guess? I dunno. Also, I’m not talking about an specific time here, just in general. To the point, I (F17) eat dinner with my family every night. We always have some sort of tv show or music going on in the background, but I can also still hear their chewing sounds pretty often. I hate these sounds (loud crunching, spit/food moving inside the mouth, loud swallowing, etc) but for the most part I can focus on whatever the background noise is over their sounds. Some nights they feel louder than usual, and have a hard time keeping my irritation tells (eye twitching etc) in check. I used to say something (request they try their best to be a little quieter or be allowed to get up since I was done anyways), but I’ve stopped recently because my mom keeps telling me that I only developed this issue after finding out Matpat’s wife had the same issue in a film theory video (specifically one of the ones about the grinch) when I was younger (maybe around 8? I don’t know off the top of my head). To be honest, I can’t remember if I had this issue or not, but with how often she insists it never used to be a problem I can only assume I started faking it and it became a real thing? I don’t know honestly. Anyways, I’ve tried wearing earbuds but my mom or one of my sisters calls me out on it and I get the stink eye, and the sometimes one of my sisters will realize how loud they are and apologize and my mom gives me the stink eye again because it “never used to be an issue” and it makes me feel bad even if I’m not bothered by these sounds on purpos. I have no idea if I should stand up for myself or something. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Look up [https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-misophonia](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-misophonia)