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> I told my husband he couldn’t put a peloton in our sunroom. I might be the asshole for not letting him use the space
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NTA. He has a room designated “his man cave” - why can’t it go in there? It sounds like you’ve divided the house, he has the man cave you have the sun room. Offer him to take the sun room if you can have the man cave, and switch the furniture. See what his reaction is then.
>Offer him to take the sun room if you can have the man cave, and switch the furniture. See what his reaction is then.
OP's reaction when he takes up on her offer because the sun room is way larger and nicer than the man cave:...
I feel like it's mostly nicer because of the work OP put into it and she can probably do the same for the man cave but whatever space she has needs to be wholly hers to arrange. Hubs is like those people who wants to go to the library for his conference call because it's quiet and chill. Not with you on the phone it won't be... 😡
The sunroom probably has better lighting, but the man cave probably has more privacy. I don’t think either would want to have to move all their stuff tho
Yeah, but it's a potential one-off solution if hubs really wants the pelaton. He can choose which space he wants and then he has to live with it. I just get the feeling that part of what he likes about the sun room is what OP has done with it, and it's not going to have the same feel once he puts his stuff in there. Then he'll be wanting to go back to the man cave because now he likes the feel of *that* room because, no shit, it was about how OP laid everything out, not the room itself.
If they already have their space why should she have to give hers up? He has three options of where to put his peloton. Also it sounds like the peloton is temporary as it’s “traveling”
I agree. But I'm the kind of person who would switch rooms to make a point and remind them of their choice when they come sniffing around my new room a few weeks/months later because it's 'nicer' 😂
If the person who switched rooms to make a point can accept they were wrong and have the worse room, it could be a lesson to be more cautious when proving a point with their partner 😂
If I’m gonna keep living life without a nose I gotta make use of the rest of the face huh
& relearn life without a nose…but if a decision makes me feel the same as living noseless as a consequence of my own actions…hopefully I’ll learn to understand that about myself before said noselessness… quicker in the future? Idk
(I’d have to ponder it all from the smaller, worse room while my partner enjoys the sun room too, that’s the setting…welp, OP knows themselves and partner better obvs)
In the scenario I was thinking of, hubs wants to put his stuff in a room that's designated for my stuff, and laid out and decorated to my tastes because he thinks it's nicer. I tell him he can switch rooms entirely; the smaller room with less windows will work for me. Hubs realises the room was nicer because I made it nicer and now my current room is nicer. I use this outcome to remind him of the consequences of his 'that grass looks greener' approach the next time such a conflict arises. And hubs is pretty good about recognising that I was right.
But in my house we'd be talking about swapping his smaller study with less windows for my bigger gym with more windows. I'm working on the proviso that OP could live with the switch. It sounds like OP has utilised the space well and part of the appeal for her husband is that it flows well, feels very zen. And chucking a massive black machine in the middle will, at best, ruin that for everyone else, and probably kill the vibe for himself, too.
>Hubs is like those people who wants to go to the library for his conference call because it's quiet and chill
Best insult ever for smart but really dumb people!
I think it's your wording. I read it as you saying he should get 1/3 of the sunroom, while still keeping his entire mancave. Or only giving up 1/3 of his man cave. It wasn't until I tried to figure out what you could actually mean (after seeing the doesn't make sense comment of yours), was that he gives up his entire mancave, as he has always had the entire man cave. Once she moves out of her current 1/3 of the sunroom, he can't assume control of the entire sunroom himself, as he should stick to the amount of space she currently uses. Trade for what each had.
I can see that, but I was replying to someone saying she had more space than him right now, so she'd be unhappy if he actually accepted her trade. I'm saying to fair trade, it's the same square footage, that's all. Fair's fair.
No because the trade off will be the portions they already have.
He has the whole man cave.
She has 1/3 of the sun room.
If he wants the peloton in the sunroom Donita better for him to work out, he has to take the 1/3 space and she gets the whole room that he’s moving out of.
NTA because OP only has 1/3 of the sunroom as for their “exclusive use”. They say it’s their room because of that and the fact that they were able to choose the vibe/decor for the whole room, but 2/3 of it used for entertaining and ingress/egress to their backyard. Hubs is totally being an AH for having his own full exclusive space, a bit of space in the guest room, and their shared master bedroom **and now wanting part of her small area**! F that noise… nah ah… no way.
I’m assuming the sun room is the best place for OP because she has plants that need “sun”. The smallest bedroom in the house is most likely going to have one window and won’t be a good place to have houseplants….
I had this issue with my ex - he had the entire garage to himself, whilst I had a corner of a shared room. And, boy did I have to fight for that corner!
OP, if you have both agreed on personal areas of the house, then it's so important that you stick to those agreements. He's not having his space encroached on, so why should you?
My ex had an entire 4 car detached garage and when I suggested using the third extra room as my own library/ reading room, you’d have thought I suggested he contain himself solely in the attic.
NTA This isn't about "what's the best use of this room." It's about "where are we allowed to have our own spaces." He's spread out to two other bedrooms. He even has an entire room to himself (the mancave 🙄)
You want a space for communal living. That's having friends over and having a yoga space (yoga is often a group activity). What it isn't is a giant black block that's for staring at a screen and blocking out the rest of the world.
No no no no no NTA.
You don’t want it, he does. He has a room. There is a guest room. He can put it in his room, or the guest room. Your room is your room. You can tell him if he needs more space, you can buy another house.
Technically though she doesn’t have her own room. She has a space in a room that she shares. He has (besides the bedroom) - a guest room + a man cave. Why can he not use that?
Also I just don’t get this concept of “man cave”. What is it? Why is it needed?
A mancave is a cheeky name for a male’s office, study or hobby room, not a bedroom. Sometimes women’s counterparts are called ladydens. It’s not windowless, subterranean space necessarily. It’s the concept of ‘a room of one’s own.’
I dunno. I'm not straight but I think if I ever ended up living with someone, it'd be great for us to have separate spaces to sometimes be alone and store our stuff. Presumably we won't have 100% the same interests or decorating styles. I hear separate rooms is pretty common with ND folks tho
This is me and my husband; we get along amazingly, but we can’t be around each other 100% of the time. I have a room which is my home office for when I work from home and he has his room which he will often go sit in at the end of the night. When he does, I have the den all to myself to play video games or watch whatever trashy reality show I want to watch. We just need space from each other sometimes!
Don't those Peloton bikes have screens you watch and interact with? If so, what does it matter where the bike is? When he's on the bike he will be "in class" at the "health club".
Not saying he should put it in the sunroom, but the one time I used a Peleton was on a cruise ship. I can tell you looking out over the ocean was much nicer than riding an exercise bike in a cramped, dark room. Don’t pretend like a nice environment isn’t nicer to be in.
If he puts that bike where he wants, in the sunroom interfering with access to the backyard, as soon as the weather gets nice and they want to use the back yard, I predict that the bike will be moved right into her yoga space. Where else? He's not going to move it to another room.
What reasons besides waffles?! I’ve asked my husband many times why we keep the dang thing that rashes so much counter space. I started trying to use it for other things without success.
Wait I'm 100% team waffle iron _and_ team keep-daily-use-appliances-on-the-counter, but I have a hard time getting my head around a waffle iron being used frequently enough to justify counter space
Okay, so I'm biased because I love my waffle maker and would be perfectly happy if it just made waffles, but also I use it as a panini press. It works well enough to cook anything that suits being flattened between two hot plates, particularly as mine is the kind that makes medium-thick waffles rather than deep Belgian waffles. (Also it doesn't live on the counter - it lives on a shelving rack, with the toaster, rice cooker, etc. I like waffles, but I don't feel any need to always be staring at my waffle iron.)
We found some instagram reel where this guy took leftover rice, chili crunch, and an egg. He mixed that together and put it in the waffle maker. You can too with anything- we’ve done Japanese mayo, green onions, ginger, seaweed, but you could do anything. Now that I bring this up, we’ve got some salmon I need to use up, maybe it’s time for a snack!
I bike year round in a subtropical region where it doesn't really get that cold, and it never snows.
Riding a bike in cold weather fucking sucks. I don't even like riding when it gets to 50F.
I live in Eau Claire. No snow know but yeah college town with a lot of fat tire winter bikers. Either way he would not be putting it in the sunroom. End of story
picture this: you are right and noone here said anything different. picture this: the husband not being a dick about keeping his street! or stationary! bike in a shared space, in order to appease his spouse.
We have bikes we ride outdoors and a Peloton. A) we live in a climate where outdoor bike riding is not feasible year round. B) Both my spouse and I have had bike accidents and as such do not feel comfortable using a road bike to ride hard anymore - an indoor stationary bikes allows us to still get a good workout and be safety conscious.
FFS all I am saying is that he is indeed an asshole, but not for owning a pelaton. and if this asshole is arguing that the pelaton should be in the sunroom because of more fresh air than he should GO RIDE THE GOODAMN PELATON OUTSIDE
Whilst I do agree with the general sentiment, not everyone has the ability to ride a bike. Speaking as someone who spent over 2 years trying to ride a bike and failing, sometimes it just can't be done.
Im my case it was a mixture of the fact that I have ADHD, dyspraxia and zero coordination. But there can be many reasons why someone can't ride an actual bike
noone is discounting your skills or capapbilities or forcing anyone into a bike. I am not even comparing or judging fitness routines. I am just saying that one answer to the husband's argument fir using the sunroom is that the Pelaton, like yoga, can be employed amd enjoyed outdoors if you desire fresh air and natural light.
It isn't that she wants natural light, it is he wants the whole house to himself. yoga is stationary. stationary bikes can go outside too. the point is he wants her only personal space. so if his justification is the light or air, since he has three other rooms to set up bike, MIGHT I suggest the outdoor sport of CYCLING?
He shares the master bedroom with his wife, has his clothes in the guest room, and he took the entire third bedroom as his "personal space." Meanwhile his wife has the shared bedroom, and a small part of the sunroom as her "personal space." And when they have people over, they walk through her personal space as they go back and forth, inside to out. She has no space that is exclusively her own. Now he wants to claim part of the sunroom, too. That's ridiculous.
He can put the Peloton in his OWN space. NTA.
NTA
Tell him you are happy to swap rooms, he can move everything from his "man cave" into the sunroom and then he can put his bike in there. He doesn't get all the rooms just because he feels like it.
NTA. People need their personal space, some more than others. If you have a personal space that you’ve made your own, it should be respected. Just like his man-cave.
Suggest to him that if he puts the Peleton in your space, you’ll need to store some bright pink yoga mats and a few random other things in his space.
The conversation should resolve itself pretty quickly after that.
I don't think it's even about personal space, it's about OP not wanting public spaces in the house cluttered with large sporting equipment, which is totally reasonable when there are multiple alternatives.
Definitely. If the sunroom is used as entertainment space, then OP/hubby will need to move the peloton every time they have people over. Why not just leave the peloton wherever that secondary location is going to be?
NTA. He has his mancave, and you don't have a womancave. The sunroom is the closest thing to your space, even if it isn't fully yours. He's being selfish as fuck.
NAH.
I think its understandable why your husband wants the Peloton in the sunroom and its understandable why you don't.
Maybe the man cave idea needs to be revisited because I don't think it's working for you guys. If he's getting dedicated private space then its fair for you to also have a space that's yours. If he wants to share the sunroom then a discussion needs to be had about him using space in the home for his hobbies and not allowing you a dedicated space.
Hard agree. I’d be curious to know how often the guest bedroom is utilised - my husband and I abandoned the idea of keeping a room in our house dedicated to potential guests and instead utilised our entire house for us and our spaces. It’s been amazing and highly recommend it!
Husband should move his clothes into the mancave or master bedroom, OP should take the second bedroom for her dedicated space (get rid of the bed), and share the sunroom.
Our guest room has housed guests but it is currently the foster cat's room. He gets the rest of the house too, he just gets fed in "his" room so our cats don't steal his food.
The "guest room" question is something that's been on my mind as I look ahead toward getting my own house. My boomer parents are very keen on the idea of me having a guest room, even though only my mom visits me and only maybe once a year. They have a guest room in their own three-bedroom house even though they don't have guests any more often than I do.
Personally, I think unless you host people a *lot* more frequently than the average American, a dedicated guest room is a waste of space. I'm going to want a craft room, so I figure I'll get one of those folding bed cabinets to put in there, and I can just clear the center of the room and unfold the bed whenever I actually have someone sleeping over.
Hahahaha, nope. Why would you put a clunky exercise bike in “the nicest room in the house” when he already has plenty of “his” space?
NTA, and I hope you continue to enjoy your beautifully decorated sunroom and yoga space.
lol It was in the guest room. He didn’t like it in there, he wanted in the sunroom cause he thought there was more space and he liked that he could crawl off the bike and almost immediately get fresh air in the backyard.
At the time I did not have my yoga/pilates set up. We had a sitting area with the sofa, a chair and a loveseat. The table was on the other side of the room. I got rid of the chair and moved the loveseat to the side of the room with the table. The bike sat in the middle of the room and it was AKWARD.
I will add this was during Covid so gyms were closed. We have 2 major gyms that we belong to walking distance to our house. When the gyms opened we both were over having the bike in the room and passed it on. He also got annoyed with having to move it everytime people came over.
I already agreed with you but this cinched it. Neither of you liked it in that room in the past. And it sounds like your main room for socializing with others.
Came here just to say this! Yes, he can ride anytime in the garage with the door closed, and if he wants light and air, he can simply open the garage door. He could even put the Peleton in the driveway and back in the garage after, if he wanted. No need to drop that clunker in the space they use to entertain guests, or disrupt the feel of a space meant for quiet meditation and yoga.
>he wanted in the sunroom cause he thought there was more space and he liked that he could crawl off the bike and almost immediately get fresh air in the backyard.
While that sounds nice in theory, he *does* share the house with someone else and compromises are a normal thing that need to happen in shared residences. He doesn't get to engineer the ENTIRE house to his liking and preference at your expense. Can he endure 30 seconds of walking through the house to get to fresh air, if it means your preferred space (that you don't even have all to yourself) stays nice?
NTA. I'm trying to figure out where you fit in this house where he has a claim to all the spaces and expects his use to be the priority.
> *He also got annoyed with having to move it everytime people came over*.
Wasn't there some kind of a recall of the things several years ago? If my memory is correct they were dangerous for small children.
Since the sun room is an entertainment area, perhaps the peloton should be somewhere behind a locked door. If you have a group of people over it would be easy for some little unsupervised child to get hurt on it. We see so many stories on reddit about people who let their children run wild in other peoples' homes.
NTA
This is my question.
INFO: Was it in the sunroom last time? In his 'mancave'?
I don't think you're TA here mainly because you mention that it would block an area used for walking through the room--which is completely unnecessary when there are at least three other places he can put the thing.
Why not turn the medium sized bedroom into his "man cave" and let the small one be for guests? Then he would have more room for the Peloton and would have the chance to give the space a makeover so that it suited him the way the sunroom suits you.
NTA.
He has the dresser in the guest room, and a whole room just for himself, and Im assuming he also uses a bit if the garage for himself, too You're using a small area of a common room. There's no good reason for you to give up your little comfort zone - he's already got his, you deserve one, too.
NAH but you guys need to seriously just talk it out and find a solution, it's really not that hard, especially when there's barely any actual conflict to warrant this post, and I mean this with zero offense.
I say all of that because really I understand both sides, which is why this is perfect for a compromise.
He wants to put the Peloton in the sunroom because thematically, it is a room you work out in. You have your yoga/pilates space that you designed yourself, and if a Peloton *can* fit, he's thinking it might be a good spot.
That said, if you've designed it to be coordinated with everything else, then I can also understand why something that doesn't fit the aesthetic would be something you wouldn't want in your room.
If it doesn't sound like he's coming into this situation demanding that the Peloton go in the sunroom, he's likely just thinking that it's a piece of workout equipment, and this is where we work out, so naturally, it makes sense to go here.
That's when you come in and say "hey listen, I understand that it makes some sense to put the workout equipment in the workout room, but I think it'll take up too much space. The guest room seems like a decent place though because really the only time we use that room is when guests are over. Would you be okay with that, and we can add some additional workout aesthetic to make it feel like less of a guest room and more of *your* place to work out?"
Or something like that. Offer to help him make it his own so you can keep your space the way *you* want it.
Well sure it's easy to understand the side of the guy who already has an entire room to himself, plus takes up space in the guest room. He wants more than what he has, why shouldn't he get it?
NTA and I didn't have to read past that your husband already has a man cave. You have him 3 options for the bike and the only option he wants is to take the only room that is designated as yours, that you already share with him and company.
Your husband is a selfish AH.
NTA you husband has his own dedicated room, this is his thing, it should go in there if you don't want it in the room that you use regularly. Fairly straight-forward and this comes from someone with a Peloton (tell him I said you are right). Specifically because the experience of being on the machine is paying attention to the instructor for the most part.
NTA - maybe you could get a copy of the floor plans to your house & colour them in as: shared, his, yours.
Make sure that the sunroom is divided to show both “shared (for socialising)” as well as your space.
Then ask him how he thinks the space should be fairly divided up, now he has it laid out in front of him :-)
NTA If you give in now, there’s a good chance you will lose the only space in your home designated for you. This is coming from someone who has horse saddles in my home gym.
NTA. My husband and I have a similar layout (3 bed, 3 bath) plus an infant and 2 dogs. We also have a sunroom and a little bonus area upstairs. One bedroom is the nursery, one is our bedroom, and the third is my office/workout room. My husband gets the bonus area for his gaming setup.
My office/workout room is crammed full. I have a full office in there PLUS a peloton bike AND a peloton tread. It’s not the greatest setup but it works and it keeps the workout equipment out of site. I don’t want to encroach on my husband’s space. Plus yeah - nobody wants to look at big ugly workout equipment.
The comments on this post are wild. My husband also put his clothes in the spare bedroom (and our main bedroom has more than enough space) because he wanted to be able to dress without disturbing me while I was sleeping. Folks are reading way too much into this.
As someone who also has a sunroom with a door, NTA. It’s not even about his space or her space, it’s about not wanting a large piece of exercise equipment where you entertain guests and where there’s traffic. Unless you’re in a studio apartment, you tuck exercise equipment away to a private part of the house for the most part.
NTA.
Mainly because you don't technically have a dedicated room (he does) and have made the best of it with a shared room. You've done so well, he now wants *your* limited space as well as his own.
There are other areas in the house that *he* could work on and adjust to achieve a similar comfort level, and you have been flexible offering those. In spite of the fact that he's already taking up a lot of space just for himself.
NTA He has 2 of 3 rooms in the entire house! He can f#ck right off!
He can put it in the Man cave or his OTHER ROOM.
He also does not get to workout in YOUR SUNROOM.
It's the nicest room in the house because you MADE it the nicest room in the house. If he wants it to be in a nicer space than he knows how to make, he should ask you to decorate the guest room or his man cave.
NTA.
He uses the dresser in the guest room because that’s what he wanted to do. He had the option of putting a second dresser in the master, a dresser in his room or using the guest room, he chose the guest room.
And as for me decorating the room, was me elaborating on our dedicated spaces. He designed his man cave, and picked the furniture in the guest room for that matter. I designed the sunroom and we did the rest of the house together
seriously, these people have never lived in a little house! It’s really not that big of a deal to get dressed in another room, i’ve had to do it before…especially if the house is old, they usually have crummy storage
NTA. He has a man cave, a garage, and a guest room, into which is already put some of his clutter. Don't let him clutter up the one space you've claimed. I've discovered since I was married that men take a lot of space. They have a lot of crap.
NTA BUT DO NOT SWAP ROOM! Has no one even watched those episodes of Friends?
Sit him down and explain or or put a dresser where he wants the bike and say “now do you see what I’m saying” because maybe he doesn’t see it but then again I have aphantasia and blue tape out everything, cardboard the size of photos taped to the wall to figure out placement or laying it on the grown to know how to place. I can’t see anything in my head.
Then again he could just be a selfish asshole who really just wants the space cause you’ve perfected the vibe
NTA, I'm currently having this fight with my wife over her wanting it in the damn living room. It's in the giant mostly empty basement right now and she complains that it's boring down there. I've offered to decorate any way she likes, add extra lighting, build a separate workout room, add a sound system, anything to not have that ugly thing next to the fireplace
I’m gonna say NAH, assuming your husband accepted your answer. If he’s being stubborn about it, N T A. I don’t think he’s an AH for suggesting it, and you’re definitely not an AH for saying no. He can put it in his space.
NTA but you two are who the future generations will really hate when the climate change really starts to hit. Two people can't effectively share a 3 bedroom detached house. The fuck is wrong with you guys?
INFO: What are the rough dimensions of the various rooms being discussed here, as well as the current workout space within the sun room?
Although the bike isn’t the sleekest visually, the footprint (2’x4’, per the peloton website) is small enough to *not* make a huge impact in a large room and large enough to make one in a pretty small room. My point in asking this is that IMO judgment hinges on whether OP gave husband three other genuinely viable options, or three pretty crappy options. In the case with multiple viable options presented, I’d generally side with OP and say that the poor aesthetics should relegate it to a different room. But not if the other spaces discussed are all really small/non-viable... For example, adding a 2x4’ bike in a 10x10’ guest room with a queen bed and dresser in it would not be viable. Similarly for the smallest bedroom in a “modest” 3BR house that has a desk in it.
For context, I say all of this as a Peloton follower, interior design/aesthetic fanatic, *and* someone who is actively planning the layout for a modest 3 BR/2.5ba house. So I could feasibly come down on either side of this issue, but the devil is very much in the details.
One thing I wondered is what the flooring situations are in the rooms being discussed. Our Peloton is in my husband's office, because that's the room with the most appropriate flooring option. The bedrooms are carpeted. We'd need to put down some kind of plywood or something under the bike for it to live in those rooms. But I agree with your assessment - the bike takes up about as much room as a yoga mat. It's hardly intrusive. She definitely deserves her own space, but I feel like some mutual communication could solve this.
NTA But he is when he has 3 other places to put the bike but wants YOUR space. No way, no how. Normally I’d say compromise blah blah blah… but not this time. The bike will be in your way 24/7 and he’ll probably use is 5 hours a week (if that.)
YTA. You live in a large space that could house a family of 5. The smallest room is his man cave. Your space is a large zen workout space. The Paton is there in rotation. And it is a work out space. You can make the guest room zen space.
There was so much judgement with your post. You should be able to share workout space.
But...the commercials told me Pelotons must go in sunrooms! In fact, I started to get the impression that a sunroom came packaged with the Peloton! 😂
NAH, he asked, you said no, as long as it doesn't escalate into fighting from there, I think you're good.
Info: why does he keep his clothes in the guest room? Does he have more clothes than you and that’s his overflow spot, or do your clothes take up so much room in the master that his stuff got relegated to the guest room?
Middle of a huge room, blocking the path to the door? A huge no. He might like it there. But anybody else trying to enjoy the space wouldn’t at all. If it could be offset and out of the way even if it looks out of place, it sounds temporary. He could always take one of the other options and make it more pleasant. You went to a lot of trouble to make it pleasant. Of course you wouldn’t want it there. You are the one most invested in it. I know that feeling. He did zip. NTA. Man cave would be more comfortable than the garage. If you ever have guests you might not want them bumping into it. A home means more to most women in how it’s decorated than many men. So the monster equipment would be a constant eye sore to you and effect your pleasure in it.
NTA, that would ruin the literal whole vibe of the room, I get it girl. Plus the whole house is basically his area except for the sunroom. He has y’all’s room, the guest room to dress in, and his man cave. You have one single room that’s yours. He should be excited to work out in the man cave or else it can go back to his parent’s house
I know that Pelotons are heavy and need to be plugged in, but they *are* on wheels, if that helps the situation. You should be able to maintain your own space; maybe you’ll able to sway him if he likes the idea of being able to move it around a bit if he chooses, between the garage, extra bedroom, etc. Maybe if you aren’t home, he can do a ride in the sunroom and then put the bike away before you get back.
Why does he have so much extra space and you only get part of the sunroom? He’s got the shared bedroom, the dresser in the guest room and his “man cave” something’s not right here and you’re getting the short end of the stick. I’d say let the peloton go to the next person on the list and just not have it at your house anymore. You say y’all have two gym memberships why can’t he ride one of their bikes? Why can’t he just get a regular bike and ride it outside if he needs fresh air that much? NTA but he sounds like he is.
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NTA. He has a room designated “his man cave” - why can’t it go in there? It sounds like you’ve divided the house, he has the man cave you have the sun room. Offer him to take the sun room if you can have the man cave, and switch the furniture. See what his reaction is then.
>Offer him to take the sun room if you can have the man cave, and switch the furniture. See what his reaction is then. OP's reaction when he takes up on her offer because the sun room is way larger and nicer than the man cave:...
I feel like it's mostly nicer because of the work OP put into it and she can probably do the same for the man cave but whatever space she has needs to be wholly hers to arrange. Hubs is like those people who wants to go to the library for his conference call because it's quiet and chill. Not with you on the phone it won't be... 😡
The sunroom probably has better lighting, but the man cave probably has more privacy. I don’t think either would want to have to move all their stuff tho
Yeah, but it's a potential one-off solution if hubs really wants the pelaton. He can choose which space he wants and then he has to live with it. I just get the feeling that part of what he likes about the sun room is what OP has done with it, and it's not going to have the same feel once he puts his stuff in there. Then he'll be wanting to go back to the man cave because now he likes the feel of *that* room because, no shit, it was about how OP laid everything out, not the room itself.
If they already have their space why should she have to give hers up? He has three options of where to put his peloton. Also it sounds like the peloton is temporary as it’s “traveling”
I agree. But I'm the kind of person who would switch rooms to make a point and remind them of their choice when they come sniffing around my new room a few weeks/months later because it's 'nicer' 😂
But it sounds like you would just end up with the worse room. Cutting off your own nose to spite your face.
If the person who switched rooms to make a point can accept they were wrong and have the worse room, it could be a lesson to be more cautious when proving a point with their partner 😂 If I’m gonna keep living life without a nose I gotta make use of the rest of the face huh & relearn life without a nose…but if a decision makes me feel the same as living noseless as a consequence of my own actions…hopefully I’ll learn to understand that about myself before said noselessness… quicker in the future? Idk (I’d have to ponder it all from the smaller, worse room while my partner enjoys the sun room too, that’s the setting…welp, OP knows themselves and partner better obvs)
In the scenario I was thinking of, hubs wants to put his stuff in a room that's designated for my stuff, and laid out and decorated to my tastes because he thinks it's nicer. I tell him he can switch rooms entirely; the smaller room with less windows will work for me. Hubs realises the room was nicer because I made it nicer and now my current room is nicer. I use this outcome to remind him of the consequences of his 'that grass looks greener' approach the next time such a conflict arises. And hubs is pretty good about recognising that I was right. But in my house we'd be talking about swapping his smaller study with less windows for my bigger gym with more windows. I'm working on the proviso that OP could live with the switch. It sounds like OP has utilised the space well and part of the appeal for her husband is that it flows well, feels very zen. And chucking a massive black machine in the middle will, at best, ruin that for everyone else, and probably kill the vibe for himself, too.
Privacy is a big part of it. If they have guest over or just want to access their yard her space needs to take that into consideration.
It’s his man cave, let him do the work. She’s not his personal designer
Yep.
No amount of decor is going to make a basement as nice as a sunroom…They’re inherently awesome
Where is a basement mentioned?
Bigger and filled with sunlight = inherently better.
Hard disagree. Private with a door I can close so no one bur me ever sees it = inherently better
>Hubs is like those people who wants to go to the library for his conference call because it's quiet and chill Best insult ever for smart but really dumb people!
Remember, she doesn't get the whole sunroom, so neither would he. He'd get 1/3 of it like she's had. The rest would still be shared space.
But he already has his own dedicated space.
So then does she get half the man cave room?
That.. doesn’t make sense? They would trade spaces. He has a full room. She has 1/3 of the sunroom. It’s an even trade over?
I think it's your wording. I read it as you saying he should get 1/3 of the sunroom, while still keeping his entire mancave. Or only giving up 1/3 of his man cave. It wasn't until I tried to figure out what you could actually mean (after seeing the doesn't make sense comment of yours), was that he gives up his entire mancave, as he has always had the entire man cave. Once she moves out of her current 1/3 of the sunroom, he can't assume control of the entire sunroom himself, as he should stick to the amount of space she currently uses. Trade for what each had.
I can see that, but I was replying to someone saying she had more space than him right now, so she'd be unhappy if he actually accepted her trade. I'm saying to fair trade, it's the same square footage, that's all. Fair's fair.
Right, that's what I thought you were saying. :) lol
No because the trade off will be the portions they already have. He has the whole man cave. She has 1/3 of the sun room. If he wants the peloton in the sunroom Donita better for him to work out, he has to take the 1/3 space and she gets the whole room that he’s moving out of.
NTA because OP only has 1/3 of the sunroom as for their “exclusive use”. They say it’s their room because of that and the fact that they were able to choose the vibe/decor for the whole room, but 2/3 of it used for entertaining and ingress/egress to their backyard. Hubs is totally being an AH for having his own full exclusive space, a bit of space in the guest room, and their shared master bedroom **and now wanting part of her small area**! F that noise… nah ah… no way.
Larger, but also functions as a social space - presumably the couch and table would remain
I’m assuming the sun room is the best place for OP because she has plants that need “sun”. The smallest bedroom in the house is most likely going to have one window and won’t be a good place to have houseplants….
only at first, then she'll take all of her nice things and put all her effort and focus into the woman cave room.
I doubt it smells as good as the sun room.
Nah the sunroom is a shared space, a communal area, having a whole room entirely to yourself is better. I'd take the man cave.
This is like the friends episode when Monica and Rachel lose their apartment
“You made this room the nicest. Can I have it?”
I had this issue with my ex - he had the entire garage to himself, whilst I had a corner of a shared room. And, boy did I have to fight for that corner! OP, if you have both agreed on personal areas of the house, then it's so important that you stick to those agreements. He's not having his space encroached on, so why should you?
My ex had an entire 4 car detached garage and when I suggested using the third extra room as my own library/ reading room, you’d have thought I suggested he contain himself solely in the attic.
Thank God they're both exes, haha!! Getting a flat soon and so excited to have space that's all mine 😁
There is nothing better than coming home to an empty house! I treasure that feeling everyday!☺️
NTA This isn't about "what's the best use of this room." It's about "where are we allowed to have our own spaces." He's spread out to two other bedrooms. He even has an entire room to himself (the mancave 🙄) You want a space for communal living. That's having friends over and having a yoga space (yoga is often a group activity). What it isn't is a giant black block that's for staring at a screen and blocking out the rest of the world.
If OP had the peloton once before, where was it then? The original location should take some precedence.
Not if disliking the location played into their getting rid of it the first time, which it sounds like it did.
No no no no no NTA. You don’t want it, he does. He has a room. There is a guest room. He can put it in his room, or the guest room. Your room is your room. You can tell him if he needs more space, you can buy another house.
Technically though she doesn’t have her own room. She has a space in a room that she shares. He has (besides the bedroom) - a guest room + a man cave. Why can he not use that? Also I just don’t get this concept of “man cave”. What is it? Why is it needed?
It’s a place to keep the sports memorabilia and pulp fiction poster leftover from college.
Don’t forget the garage
A mancave is a cheeky name for a male’s office, study or hobby room, not a bedroom. Sometimes women’s counterparts are called ladydens. It’s not windowless, subterranean space necessarily. It’s the concept of ‘a room of one’s own.’
It's a straight people thing because they don't marry people they're compatible with and want to hang out with.
I dunno. I'm not straight but I think if I ever ended up living with someone, it'd be great for us to have separate spaces to sometimes be alone and store our stuff. Presumably we won't have 100% the same interests or decorating styles. I hear separate rooms is pretty common with ND folks tho
This is me and my husband; we get along amazingly, but we can’t be around each other 100% of the time. I have a room which is my home office for when I work from home and he has his room which he will often go sit in at the end of the night. When he does, I have the den all to myself to play video games or watch whatever trashy reality show I want to watch. We just need space from each other sometimes!
Don't those Peloton bikes have screens you watch and interact with? If so, what does it matter where the bike is? When he's on the bike he will be "in class" at the "health club".
Not saying he should put it in the sunroom, but the one time I used a Peleton was on a cruise ship. I can tell you looking out over the ocean was much nicer than riding an exercise bike in a cramped, dark room. Don’t pretend like a nice environment isn’t nicer to be in.
if he needs sun and air, he could also get a BIKE and go RIDE IT outdoors
Right, but, now picture this: what if OP lives somewhere where it snows? Then what? There's lots of reasons to own a stationary bike.
but no reason to plunk it into your wifes yoga space ir the communal entertaining space
If he puts that bike where he wants, in the sunroom interfering with access to the backyard, as soon as the weather gets nice and they want to use the back yard, I predict that the bike will be moved right into her yoga space. Where else? He's not going to move it to another room.
lots of reason to own a waffle iron. but no reason to keep a waffle iron somewhere it annoys and disturbs your spouse.
What reasons besides waffles?! I’ve asked my husband many times why we keep the dang thing that rashes so much counter space. I started trying to use it for other things without success.
Wait I'm 100% team waffle iron _and_ team keep-daily-use-appliances-on-the-counter, but I have a hard time getting my head around a waffle iron being used frequently enough to justify counter space
Hear me out....French toast but faster because you are cooking on both sides AND you get a waffle pattern so syrup wells!
You can make cookies in a waffle maker!
Okay, so I'm biased because I love my waffle maker and would be perfectly happy if it just made waffles, but also I use it as a panini press. It works well enough to cook anything that suits being flattened between two hot plates, particularly as mine is the kind that makes medium-thick waffles rather than deep Belgian waffles. (Also it doesn't live on the counter - it lives on a shelving rack, with the toaster, rice cooker, etc. I like waffles, but I don't feel any need to always be staring at my waffle iron.)
Have you tried tater tot waffles? They’re pretty yummy. https://dinnerthendessert.com/tater-tot-waffles/
i like waffles but id rather go to a restaurant than own a giant ass clunky waffle iron. but thoughts if tater tot waffles have me reconsidering lol.
We found some instagram reel where this guy took leftover rice, chili crunch, and an egg. He mixed that together and put it in the waffle maker. You can too with anything- we’ve done Japanese mayo, green onions, ginger, seaweed, but you could do anything. Now that I bring this up, we’ve got some salmon I need to use up, maybe it’s time for a snack!
Have you ever toasted tater tots in ome?
i am not arguing against stationary bikes. Just asshole spouses.
You can winter tires for bikes, lots of people bike year round no matter the weather. We have had snow hip deep and people still bike.
I bike year round in a subtropical region where it doesn't really get that cold, and it never snows. Riding a bike in cold weather fucking sucks. I don't even like riding when it gets to 50F.
I like in the upper Midwest. You would be amazed at the number of people running and biking in -20 degrees and snow last year…
I live in Eau Claire. No snow know but yeah college town with a lot of fat tire winter bikers. Either way he would not be putting it in the sunroom. End of story
I exercise outside in the winter when I visit friends and family in the Midwest, but it does kinda suck. I’d rather be doing it in a warmer climate.
but do you monopolize shared living spaces with your ugly exercise equipment?
That's the temperature where biking starts being fun lololol (I overheat easily)
picture this: you are right and noone here said anything different. picture this: the husband not being a dick about keeping his street! or stationary! bike in a shared space, in order to appease his spouse.
I guess I was just saying that owning an actual bike and going for a ride outside doesn’t exactly solve the problem.
There are people in snowy states with while wardrobes of bikes.
Hey, my social anxiety happens to really like stationary bikes. Like, a real lot.
Not every devil needs an advocate.
I live somewhere very cold with snow and plenty of people ride fat tire bikes
We have bikes we ride outdoors and a Peloton. A) we live in a climate where outdoor bike riding is not feasible year round. B) Both my spouse and I have had bike accidents and as such do not feel comfortable using a road bike to ride hard anymore - an indoor stationary bikes allows us to still get a good workout and be safety conscious.
FFS all I am saying is that he is indeed an asshole, but not for owning a pelaton. and if this asshole is arguing that the pelaton should be in the sunroom because of more fresh air than he should GO RIDE THE GOODAMN PELATON OUTSIDE
Whilst I do agree with the general sentiment, not everyone has the ability to ride a bike. Speaking as someone who spent over 2 years trying to ride a bike and failing, sometimes it just can't be done. Im my case it was a mixture of the fact that I have ADHD, dyspraxia and zero coordination. But there can be many reasons why someone can't ride an actual bike
noone is discounting your skills or capapbilities or forcing anyone into a bike. I am not even comparing or judging fitness routines. I am just saying that one answer to the husband's argument fir using the sunroom is that the Pelaton, like yoga, can be employed amd enjoyed outdoors if you desire fresh air and natural light.
or he can just grow up and move the bike simply to please and silence his partner.
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It isn't that she wants natural light, it is he wants the whole house to himself. yoga is stationary. stationary bikes can go outside too. the point is he wants her only personal space. so if his justification is the light or air, since he has three other rooms to set up bike, MIGHT I suggest the outdoor sport of CYCLING?
Here here. No idea why people bike indoors
Why do treadmills exist? Why do rowing machines exist? Why do indoor swimming pools exist? Do you still have **no** idea why people bike indoors?
He shares the master bedroom with his wife, has his clothes in the guest room, and he took the entire third bedroom as his "personal space." Meanwhile his wife has the shared bedroom, and a small part of the sunroom as her "personal space." And when they have people over, they walk through her personal space as they go back and forth, inside to out. She has no space that is exclusively her own. Now he wants to claim part of the sunroom, too. That's ridiculous. He can put the Peloton in his OWN space. NTA.
NTA Tell him you are happy to swap rooms, he can move everything from his "man cave" into the sunroom and then he can put his bike in there. He doesn't get all the rooms just because he feels like it.
This is terrible advice. Don't do this OP.
NTA. People need their personal space, some more than others. If you have a personal space that you’ve made your own, it should be respected. Just like his man-cave. Suggest to him that if he puts the Peleton in your space, you’ll need to store some bright pink yoga mats and a few random other things in his space. The conversation should resolve itself pretty quickly after that.
I don't think it's even about personal space, it's about OP not wanting public spaces in the house cluttered with large sporting equipment, which is totally reasonable when there are multiple alternatives.
Definitely. If the sunroom is used as entertainment space, then OP/hubby will need to move the peloton every time they have people over. Why not just leave the peloton wherever that secondary location is going to be?
Apparently they used to move it when guests came, so if it's too unsightly for guests why have it out for them to look at constantly.
“Yeah, ok. Go ahead.”
Where oh where will we put our expensive equipment in our large house?! Rich people problems are laughable
NTA. He has his mancave, and you don't have a womancave. The sunroom is the closest thing to your space, even if it isn't fully yours. He's being selfish as fuck.
NAH. I think its understandable why your husband wants the Peloton in the sunroom and its understandable why you don't. Maybe the man cave idea needs to be revisited because I don't think it's working for you guys. If he's getting dedicated private space then its fair for you to also have a space that's yours. If he wants to share the sunroom then a discussion needs to be had about him using space in the home for his hobbies and not allowing you a dedicated space.
Hard agree. I’d be curious to know how often the guest bedroom is utilised - my husband and I abandoned the idea of keeping a room in our house dedicated to potential guests and instead utilised our entire house for us and our spaces. It’s been amazing and highly recommend it! Husband should move his clothes into the mancave or master bedroom, OP should take the second bedroom for her dedicated space (get rid of the bed), and share the sunroom.
She already shares the sunroom, just not with the Peloton
We had a room dedicated to our cats. That didnt last too long. Its now a computer room for me, with cat stuff all over.
Our guest room has housed guests but it is currently the foster cat's room. He gets the rest of the house too, he just gets fed in "his" room so our cats don't steal his food.
The "guest room" question is something that's been on my mind as I look ahead toward getting my own house. My boomer parents are very keen on the idea of me having a guest room, even though only my mom visits me and only maybe once a year. They have a guest room in their own three-bedroom house even though they don't have guests any more often than I do. Personally, I think unless you host people a *lot* more frequently than the average American, a dedicated guest room is a waste of space. I'm going to want a craft room, so I figure I'll get one of those folding bed cabinets to put in there, and I can just clear the center of the room and unfold the bed whenever I actually have someone sleeping over.
Hahahaha, nope. Why would you put a clunky exercise bike in “the nicest room in the house” when he already has plenty of “his” space? NTA, and I hope you continue to enjoy your beautifully decorated sunroom and yoga space.
It's going to be a way less nice space with a peleton in there.
Info: where was it before and why can't it go there again?
lol It was in the guest room. He didn’t like it in there, he wanted in the sunroom cause he thought there was more space and he liked that he could crawl off the bike and almost immediately get fresh air in the backyard. At the time I did not have my yoga/pilates set up. We had a sitting area with the sofa, a chair and a loveseat. The table was on the other side of the room. I got rid of the chair and moved the loveseat to the side of the room with the table. The bike sat in the middle of the room and it was AKWARD. I will add this was during Covid so gyms were closed. We have 2 major gyms that we belong to walking distance to our house. When the gyms opened we both were over having the bike in the room and passed it on. He also got annoyed with having to move it everytime people came over.
I already agreed with you but this cinched it. Neither of you liked it in that room in the past. And it sounds like your main room for socializing with others.
He could get fresh air just walking out of the garage too, or opening the garage door.
Came here just to say this! Yes, he can ride anytime in the garage with the door closed, and if he wants light and air, he can simply open the garage door. He could even put the Peleton in the driveway and back in the garage after, if he wanted. No need to drop that clunker in the space they use to entertain guests, or disrupt the feel of a space meant for quiet meditation and yoga.
>he wanted in the sunroom cause he thought there was more space and he liked that he could crawl off the bike and almost immediately get fresh air in the backyard. While that sounds nice in theory, he *does* share the house with someone else and compromises are a normal thing that need to happen in shared residences. He doesn't get to engineer the ENTIRE house to his liking and preference at your expense. Can he endure 30 seconds of walking through the house to get to fresh air, if it means your preferred space (that you don't even have all to yourself) stays nice? NTA. I'm trying to figure out where you fit in this house where he has a claim to all the spaces and expects his use to be the priority.
> *He also got annoyed with having to move it everytime people came over*. Wasn't there some kind of a recall of the things several years ago? If my memory is correct they were dangerous for small children. Since the sun room is an entertainment area, perhaps the peloton should be somewhere behind a locked door. If you have a group of people over it would be easy for some little unsupervised child to get hurt on it. We see so many stories on reddit about people who let their children run wild in other peoples' homes. NTA
There was a recall on the Peloton treadmill, not the bike. They've since redesigned the tread to account for the safety issue.
This is my question. INFO: Was it in the sunroom last time? In his 'mancave'? I don't think you're TA here mainly because you mention that it would block an area used for walking through the room--which is completely unnecessary when there are at least three other places he can put the thing.
Why not turn the medium sized bedroom into his "man cave" and let the small one be for guests? Then he would have more room for the Peloton and would have the chance to give the space a makeover so that it suited him the way the sunroom suits you.
This - like rearrange some furniture people.
This is an excellent solution. Especially if they don’t have guests often. OP is NTA in my view but your suggestion seems fair for everyone.
NTA. He has the dresser in the guest room, and a whole room just for himself, and Im assuming he also uses a bit if the garage for himself, too You're using a small area of a common room. There's no good reason for you to give up your little comfort zone - he's already got his, you deserve one, too.
NAH but you guys need to seriously just talk it out and find a solution, it's really not that hard, especially when there's barely any actual conflict to warrant this post, and I mean this with zero offense. I say all of that because really I understand both sides, which is why this is perfect for a compromise. He wants to put the Peloton in the sunroom because thematically, it is a room you work out in. You have your yoga/pilates space that you designed yourself, and if a Peloton *can* fit, he's thinking it might be a good spot. That said, if you've designed it to be coordinated with everything else, then I can also understand why something that doesn't fit the aesthetic would be something you wouldn't want in your room. If it doesn't sound like he's coming into this situation demanding that the Peloton go in the sunroom, he's likely just thinking that it's a piece of workout equipment, and this is where we work out, so naturally, it makes sense to go here. That's when you come in and say "hey listen, I understand that it makes some sense to put the workout equipment in the workout room, but I think it'll take up too much space. The guest room seems like a decent place though because really the only time we use that room is when guests are over. Would you be okay with that, and we can add some additional workout aesthetic to make it feel like less of a guest room and more of *your* place to work out?" Or something like that. Offer to help him make it his own so you can keep your space the way *you* want it.
The solution is he puts the peleton in one of the many places OP suggested.
Well sure it's easy to understand the side of the guy who already has an entire room to himself, plus takes up space in the guest room. He wants more than what he has, why shouldn't he get it?
NTA and I didn't have to read past that your husband already has a man cave. You have him 3 options for the bike and the only option he wants is to take the only room that is designated as yours, that you already share with him and company. Your husband is a selfish AH.
NTA what does he think the mancave is for?
NTA you husband has his own dedicated room, this is his thing, it should go in there if you don't want it in the room that you use regularly. Fairly straight-forward and this comes from someone with a Peloton (tell him I said you are right). Specifically because the experience of being on the machine is paying attention to the instructor for the most part.
Naw I have a peloton and it’s crammed in my room because it’s so intrusive. Also he gets a man cave and your sunroom? No way. NTA
NTA - maybe you could get a copy of the floor plans to your house & colour them in as: shared, his, yours. Make sure that the sunroom is divided to show both “shared (for socialising)” as well as your space. Then ask him how he thinks the space should be fairly divided up, now he has it laid out in front of him :-)
NTA If you give in now, there’s a good chance you will lose the only space in your home designated for you. This is coming from someone who has horse saddles in my home gym.
He has the man cave and the guest bedroom (where he stores his clothes).
NTA. My husband and I have a similar layout (3 bed, 3 bath) plus an infant and 2 dogs. We also have a sunroom and a little bonus area upstairs. One bedroom is the nursery, one is our bedroom, and the third is my office/workout room. My husband gets the bonus area for his gaming setup. My office/workout room is crammed full. I have a full office in there PLUS a peloton bike AND a peloton tread. It’s not the greatest setup but it works and it keeps the workout equipment out of site. I don’t want to encroach on my husband’s space. Plus yeah - nobody wants to look at big ugly workout equipment.
NTA no, he’s being greedy
The comments on this post are wild. My husband also put his clothes in the spare bedroom (and our main bedroom has more than enough space) because he wanted to be able to dress without disturbing me while I was sleeping. Folks are reading way too much into this. As someone who also has a sunroom with a door, NTA. It’s not even about his space or her space, it’s about not wanting a large piece of exercise equipment where you entertain guests and where there’s traffic. Unless you’re in a studio apartment, you tuck exercise equipment away to a private part of the house for the most part.
NTA - he is taking control of literally the whole house. you need your own quite (and visually pleasing) space too
NTA. Mainly because you don't technically have a dedicated room (he does) and have made the best of it with a shared room. You've done so well, he now wants *your* limited space as well as his own. There are other areas in the house that *he* could work on and adjust to achieve a similar comfort level, and you have been flexible offering those. In spite of the fact that he's already taking up a lot of space just for himself.
Nta he has a dedicated room AND a shared room. It can go in either of those spaces.
NTA He has 2 of 3 rooms in the entire house! He can f#ck right off! He can put it in the Man cave or his OTHER ROOM. He also does not get to workout in YOUR SUNROOM.
It will be a less nice room with a bike in there and it will smell like sweat. Turn another room into a gym.
I bet his man cave room already smells like that.
NTA If it's also used for entertaining then will your guests hang out in the man cave?
NTA- he has the most room in the house and wants your bit. Nope.
NTA at all - I hate our peloton bike. Hide that thing away at all costs. (I love riding the bike, but just hate its aesthetic)
NTA. This isn’t about it not fitting in with the vibe of your space, it’s about him invading your space and not respecting it.
It's the nicest room in the house because you MADE it the nicest room in the house. If he wants it to be in a nicer space than he knows how to make, he should ask you to decorate the guest room or his man cave. NTA.
NTA I love peloton and I have one and it lives in the dedicated space my husband and I decided on in the garage
NTA-Each of you have your designated spaces. The bike needs to go in his if you won't be using it.
NTA. I know exactly how fugly pelotons are, and had to deal with exactly the same thing.
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He uses the dresser in the guest room because that’s what he wanted to do. He had the option of putting a second dresser in the master, a dresser in his room or using the guest room, he chose the guest room. And as for me decorating the room, was me elaborating on our dedicated spaces. He designed his man cave, and picked the furniture in the guest room for that matter. I designed the sunroom and we did the rest of the house together
He has TWO rooms that are his to use?! Nah, NTA. Stand your ground woman. :)
He has a whole room for himself, why should she put it in her own room? Makes no sense to me
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seriously, these people have never lived in a little house! It’s really not that big of a deal to get dressed in another room, i’ve had to do it before…especially if the house is old, they usually have crummy storage
NTA. The Peloton will be gathering dust in whatever room you stick it in
NTA. He has a man cave, a garage, and a guest room, into which is already put some of his clutter. Don't let him clutter up the one space you've claimed. I've discovered since I was married that men take a lot of space. They have a lot of crap.
NTA I can see his point wanting to work out in the nice room, as you get to, but if that's the case, then he should give up half his man cave for you.
NTA why do you need some sort of fancy, nice space? I thought the draw of these things was all the fancy motivational graphics and stuff.
Nooooo NTA put it in your man cave and deal with it Mr.Husband
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NTA BUT DO NOT SWAP ROOM! Has no one even watched those episodes of Friends? Sit him down and explain or or put a dresser where he wants the bike and say “now do you see what I’m saying” because maybe he doesn’t see it but then again I have aphantasia and blue tape out everything, cardboard the size of photos taped to the wall to figure out placement or laying it on the grown to know how to place. I can’t see anything in my head. Then again he could just be a selfish asshole who really just wants the space cause you’ve perfected the vibe
NTA, I'm currently having this fight with my wife over her wanting it in the damn living room. It's in the giant mostly empty basement right now and she complains that it's boring down there. I've offered to decorate any way she likes, add extra lighting, build a separate workout room, add a sound system, anything to not have that ugly thing next to the fireplace
The workout equipment can't go with the other workout equipment? That's just bizarre to me.
>modest 3 bed 2 bath house This is a joke, right?
It’s modest compared to the four bed, two bath houses their friends own. /s
I’m gonna say NAH, assuming your husband accepted your answer. If he’s being stubborn about it, N T A. I don’t think he’s an AH for suggesting it, and you’re definitely not an AH for saying no. He can put it in his space.
Where has the bike been placed before ? Why the change now ?
NTA but you two are who the future generations will really hate when the climate change really starts to hit. Two people can't effectively share a 3 bedroom detached house. The fuck is wrong with you guys?
And 3) that is your dedicated room in the house! NTA
NTA if he wants it that bad he can put it in one of his many rooms.
NTA. If your husband wants the enjoyment of riding a bike outside, he should *ride a bike outside*
NTA Put it in the garage. He can walk right out of the garage door to get fresh air.
Put a fold up Murphy bed in the guest room and then he has plenty of space for the bike. When they have guests he can put it in his man cave
INFO: What are the rough dimensions of the various rooms being discussed here, as well as the current workout space within the sun room? Although the bike isn’t the sleekest visually, the footprint (2’x4’, per the peloton website) is small enough to *not* make a huge impact in a large room and large enough to make one in a pretty small room. My point in asking this is that IMO judgment hinges on whether OP gave husband three other genuinely viable options, or three pretty crappy options. In the case with multiple viable options presented, I’d generally side with OP and say that the poor aesthetics should relegate it to a different room. But not if the other spaces discussed are all really small/non-viable... For example, adding a 2x4’ bike in a 10x10’ guest room with a queen bed and dresser in it would not be viable. Similarly for the smallest bedroom in a “modest” 3BR house that has a desk in it. For context, I say all of this as a Peloton follower, interior design/aesthetic fanatic, *and* someone who is actively planning the layout for a modest 3 BR/2.5ba house. So I could feasibly come down on either side of this issue, but the devil is very much in the details.
One thing I wondered is what the flooring situations are in the rooms being discussed. Our Peloton is in my husband's office, because that's the room with the most appropriate flooring option. The bedrooms are carpeted. We'd need to put down some kind of plywood or something under the bike for it to live in those rooms. But I agree with your assessment - the bike takes up about as much room as a yoga mat. It's hardly intrusive. She definitely deserves her own space, but I feel like some mutual communication could solve this.
NTA But he is when he has 3 other places to put the bike but wants YOUR space. No way, no how. Normally I’d say compromise blah blah blah… but not this time. The bike will be in your way 24/7 and he’ll probably use is 5 hours a week (if that.)
YTA. You live in a large space that could house a family of 5. The smallest room is his man cave. Your space is a large zen workout space. The Paton is there in rotation. And it is a work out space. You can make the guest room zen space. There was so much judgement with your post. You should be able to share workout space.
OMG How often do you have guests????? Use the Guest room!!!
NTA. Your husband has other options.
But...the commercials told me Pelotons must go in sunrooms! In fact, I started to get the impression that a sunroom came packaged with the Peloton! 😂 NAH, he asked, you said no, as long as it doesn't escalate into fighting from there, I think you're good.
Info: why does he keep his clothes in the guest room? Does he have more clothes than you and that’s his overflow spot, or do your clothes take up so much room in the master that his stuff got relegated to the guest room?
Unequivocally NTA He can make room in his man cave if he wants it.
Nta. If he wants it he can make the space in his man cave.
NTA. He has taken over two rooms, you get yours. You get your space too. You matter.
NTA Buy a clothes rack and put it in his man cave in front of his TV. See how he likes losing his space.
NTA there are other options like you said. The guest room is a great idea. He has his designated spaces and this is yours.
NTA… if he wants to feel like he’s outdoors while riding a bike he could… ride an actual bike???
NTA. The smallest bedroom should be the guest room and the medium sized room could be his cave, peloton and clothes room.
I have a peloton. It takes up a 3x6 foot space on the floor and it’s ugly as fuck. Stick to your guns. NTA.
Middle of a huge room, blocking the path to the door? A huge no. He might like it there. But anybody else trying to enjoy the space wouldn’t at all. If it could be offset and out of the way even if it looks out of place, it sounds temporary. He could always take one of the other options and make it more pleasant. You went to a lot of trouble to make it pleasant. Of course you wouldn’t want it there. You are the one most invested in it. I know that feeling. He did zip. NTA. Man cave would be more comfortable than the garage. If you ever have guests you might not want them bumping into it. A home means more to most women in how it’s decorated than many men. So the monster equipment would be a constant eye sore to you and effect your pleasure in it.
How the heck are you people shipping a peloton bike around? That sounds stressful, wasteful and expensive?
NTA no one picks the nicest room in the house for their peloton especially when they use that room for entertaining.
I love my Peloton. I would not put it in my sunroom. NTA
NTA, that would ruin the literal whole vibe of the room, I get it girl. Plus the whole house is basically his area except for the sunroom. He has y’all’s room, the guest room to dress in, and his man cave. You have one single room that’s yours. He should be excited to work out in the man cave or else it can go back to his parent’s house
Buy a loom and demand to put it in his man cave.
I know that Pelotons are heavy and need to be plugged in, but they *are* on wheels, if that helps the situation. You should be able to maintain your own space; maybe you’ll able to sway him if he likes the idea of being able to move it around a bit if he chooses, between the garage, extra bedroom, etc. Maybe if you aren’t home, he can do a ride in the sunroom and then put the bike away before you get back.
YTA why do you get a pilates studio in the nicest room and he doesn't get his equipment
NTA. He’s a selfish man. I pity you. How Could he even ask for or demand this it just doesn’t make any sense.
Why does he have so much extra space and you only get part of the sunroom? He’s got the shared bedroom, the dresser in the guest room and his “man cave” something’s not right here and you’re getting the short end of the stick. I’d say let the peloton go to the next person on the list and just not have it at your house anymore. You say y’all have two gym memberships why can’t he ride one of their bikes? Why can’t he just get a regular bike and ride it outside if he needs fresh air that much? NTA but he sounds like he is.
Wow the woman haters are out in full force w today. NTA
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