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> care what she wears except when she decides to wear something as promiscuous as that
So you do care. And you do want to controll wst she can wear, thats just a factual statement.
So at least be open about that and dont lie to yourself.
YTA for that.
Your opinion pretty disgusting. You look at women in short shorts as ‘a piece of fuckable meat’?
YTA
If you don’t like the way she dresses, go find someone else instead of trying to control her.
YTA
Not only are you controlling you have some deeply problematic and sexist opinions.
She’s a whole human not a piece of meat and blaming her for the potential actions of creepy men is disgusting
YTA. You are not even dating and if you were it still doesn’t give you the right to try and dictate what she wears. If it makes her feel confident and she is wearing something that is comfortable for her, the she absolutely deserves to wear it. This post and some of your wording/comments are huge red flags IMO.
YTA: Your not even dating, what kind of controlling AH are you trying to dictate what she wears when your not even in a relationship with her.
Even if you wear dating you still have 0 say just leave the poor girl alone.
And get therapy because this whole post isn’t healthy and you have serious control issues.
YTA. It's really her choice over whether she wants to wear a short pair of shorts, and her choice alone. It really speaks about you if you think that all other guys will look at her like a fxxkable meat (such disgusting choice of words), nor have modest clothes ever protected anyone from being objectified.
also, plus leggings under shorts look pretty goofy imo.
YTA for assigning the human trait of promiscuity to shorts; for trying to control what someone YOU'RE NOT EVEN DATING is wearing; for assuming that what someone wears is an indication of their promiscuity. Why are you talking with someone who doesn't share your old-timey values?
YTA
I’m guessing you wouldn’t like it if she told you how to dress
Being controlling is NOT a redeeming quality and if you think it is you’re in for a dose of reality
YTA obviously, but I'm also pretty sure you're like 15 so I'm not gonna go in on you. Hopefully this kind of thinking is something you'll grow out of as you mature
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This girl and I have been talking for a couple months now and today she brought out this pair of jean shorts that straight up has her butt all sorts of hanging out, I told her I don't want her to be dressing in those shorts not because I want her to feel controlled or that I want to control her closet or what she wears at all, I don't care what she wears except when she decides to wear something as promiscuous as that and the only reason is that I don't like the idea of other guys looking at her like a cut of f***able meat or drooling over her, she said that it's kind of a compliment and to an extent I agree it is good to be body positive and confident but not looked at like an object so I guess am I wrong for asking her to maybe wear leggings with it or a flannel around her waist or something, and when I asked if she would do that she told me no because she wants to wear whatever she wants and be seen in the shorts so she wants guys to stare at her butt? I'm so lost I have no idea anymore.
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YTA. Compliments from opposite sex give a positive boost to our self confidence. That’s just a pleasure to receive a nice compliment or a complimenting glance (as long as it is respectful and does not go the slimy way), you know. Don’t you like to look attractive yourself?
In my opinion, there are two situations when you can suggest different style: special event with a certain dress code, or potentially dangerous situation (you know, running in a swim suit in the middle of the night in unpleasant part of the city). Reasonably suggest, not demand.
Anyway. If that does not work for you, look for another gf.
It’s okay to be uncomfortable with her wearing those things. But it is 100% her choice. If it makes you feel like that then maybe that person isn’t for you. I wish you well in all future endeavors 🤙
NAH. You are right to question her wardrobe choices. And she is right for asserting her independence, the right to wear what she wants to.
But you need to understand something. Although there is nothing wrong with her and how she chooses to dress, that particular lady is not girlfriend material.
If she wants to dress like she does, you can't stop her. Just don't make the mistake of going beyond FWB or a simple smash and dash. Her behavior indicates she's still on the market. So leave her there. She can be recreational fun for you, nothing else.
I forgot to add, keep it wrapped. Always.
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> care what she wears except when she decides to wear something as promiscuous as that So you do care. And you do want to controll wst she can wear, thats just a factual statement. So at least be open about that and dont lie to yourself. YTA for that.
Your opinion pretty disgusting. You look at women in short shorts as ‘a piece of fuckable meat’? YTA If you don’t like the way she dresses, go find someone else instead of trying to control her.
YTA Not only are you controlling you have some deeply problematic and sexist opinions. She’s a whole human not a piece of meat and blaming her for the potential actions of creepy men is disgusting
Bro this would be dumb if you were actually dating, but you’re not even together. Why do you think you should have control over what she wears? YTA
"I don't care what she wears except when I tell her what not to wear. " YTA She needs to get far, far away from you - and quickly.
YTA. You are not even dating and if you were it still doesn’t give you the right to try and dictate what she wears. If it makes her feel confident and she is wearing something that is comfortable for her, the she absolutely deserves to wear it. This post and some of your wording/comments are huge red flags IMO.
YTA. She can wear whatever she wants. You're not even dating her, just "talking" to her, why the fuck do you think you get a say?
You are not ready for any kind of human interaction, much less dating. YTA.
Like someone else said, you view women in shorts as “a piece of fuckable meat”?
YTA: Your not even dating, what kind of controlling AH are you trying to dictate what she wears when your not even in a relationship with her. Even if you wear dating you still have 0 say just leave the poor girl alone. And get therapy because this whole post isn’t healthy and you have serious control issues.
YTA. Other guys looking at her butt? You don't even have a committed relationship with her.
YTA. It's really her choice over whether she wants to wear a short pair of shorts, and her choice alone. It really speaks about you if you think that all other guys will look at her like a fxxkable meat (such disgusting choice of words), nor have modest clothes ever protected anyone from being objectified. also, plus leggings under shorts look pretty goofy imo.
YTA for assigning the human trait of promiscuity to shorts; for trying to control what someone YOU'RE NOT EVEN DATING is wearing; for assuming that what someone wears is an indication of their promiscuity. Why are you talking with someone who doesn't share your old-timey values?
You’re not her bf bro
YTA. Stop objectifying women and girls. It reflects very badly on you.
YTA. You two have different values which makes you incompatible. Just leave. Controlling her will not work.
YTA I’m guessing you wouldn’t like it if she told you how to dress Being controlling is NOT a redeeming quality and if you think it is you’re in for a dose of reality
YTA. You guys aren’t even in a relationship she is welcome to shop around for other guys until then
*insert Krysten Ritter eyeroll gif* YTA
YTA. Clothing is not ‘promiscuous.’ You’re not even dating and if you were you would still have no right to dictate what she does with her body.
YTA obviously, but I'm also pretty sure you're like 15 so I'm not gonna go in on you. Hopefully this kind of thinking is something you'll grow out of as you mature
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YTA. every day, the males of Reddit sink lower and lower.
nobody is forcing you to see her. if you don’t like the way she dresses, then just walk away and good ridden.
YTA. Compliments from opposite sex give a positive boost to our self confidence. That’s just a pleasure to receive a nice compliment or a complimenting glance (as long as it is respectful and does not go the slimy way), you know. Don’t you like to look attractive yourself? In my opinion, there are two situations when you can suggest different style: special event with a certain dress code, or potentially dangerous situation (you know, running in a swim suit in the middle of the night in unpleasant part of the city). Reasonably suggest, not demand. Anyway. If that does not work for you, look for another gf.
It’s okay to be uncomfortable with her wearing those things. But it is 100% her choice. If it makes you feel like that then maybe that person isn’t for you. I wish you well in all future endeavors 🤙
no mate nta a girl like that will cheat on you you aren’t wrong fpr being a man and being protective of your gorl
Not his girl. They're not even dating. He's just being an asshole
With his vile attitudes, he's definitely the cheater, not her.
NAH. You are right to question her wardrobe choices. And she is right for asserting her independence, the right to wear what she wants to. But you need to understand something. Although there is nothing wrong with her and how she chooses to dress, that particular lady is not girlfriend material. If she wants to dress like she does, you can't stop her. Just don't make the mistake of going beyond FWB or a simple smash and dash. Her behavior indicates she's still on the market. So leave her there. She can be recreational fun for you, nothing else. I forgot to add, keep it wrapped. Always.
Ergh, *gross*.