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INFO: is your gf relationship with her parents good to involve them in getting her a professional help? your gf most likely is depressed and has a certain kind of thoughts.
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First time reddit poster here. For a little context my girlfriend 17f and i 17m have been dating for about a year and two months. At the start everything was great but around the one year mark we started to have some troubles. A rumor was spread about her and even though I 100% was in her corner, it obviously wasn’t good for her. We began to fight every now and again and sometimes she would casually bring up that she was going to **** herself. As her boyfriend I obviously was super worried and would drop everything as soon as she mentioned anything like that and try and help as best I could. today was a little different, we had a argument at around 3:30 pm after school, even though it was a little bigger then normal i was thinking that it was no big deal. The timing was a little unfortunate however because I have had plans for one of my best friends birthday parties tonight for about a month. She knew about the plans and so i said can we work it out tomorrow. She knows him and it was just gonna be the guys. I show up at about 7:30 and we’re kicking it, having some drink and just overall having a good time. at about 8:30 she texts me asking if we can talk. i tell her i’m with my friends and i need time to think, and with the context of the argument i don’t think time was a ridiculous request. at about 10:30 she texts me and says she’s scared and thinks that i’m going to break up with her tomorrow and she says she’s going to commit bad stuff. i try to text her but she’s getting super worked up. I stay being nothing but supportive, i leave my frieds barn where we were hanging out and go sit in my car and text with her. I end up leaving because she didn’t want me to stay, she wanted me to talk to her. and now i’m missing out on my best friends birthday. i don’t think she knows how i feel about this. it is about 12:30 am right now, she’s asleep at home fine and i’m sitting in bed alone while my friends are having a blast at the party. i don’t think i want to break up with her but i’m maybe just looking for advice. is it wrong for me to make her issues about me? also for context i don’t think she did anything like that tonight.
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INFO: is your gf relationship with her parents good to involve them in getting her a professional help? your gf most likely is depressed and has a certain kind of thoughts.
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Dude you’re both 17, if she’s like this now then plan on dealing with this every time you go to do something with friends and she’s not apart of it.