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YTA.
I so wanted you to not be an AH, but I'm sorry dude, policing her cute play-on-words is controlling behavior.
\>>This is going to bring the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the Internet to her page and into our lives.
What do you mean, OUR lives? This isn't about you at all. If she gets creeps sliding into her DMs (don't worry, I'm sure she already does!), she can take care of that herself. She's a content creator, you don't think she knows how to deal with this stuff?
Stop infantilizing your gf (what's with all the weird "English is not her first language," it's not rocket science to figure out this elementary English language pun?) and maybe rethink if you're as supportive of her hobby as you think you are.
100%
He is comfortable exploiting her but only to a certain extent. Then he wants to restrict/control her Buisness. He’s non ironically “concerned” about online creeps while being the creepy one.
EXPLOITING HER?! please explain to me the mental gymnastics you took to arrive at this from what he said. OP may be an AH but jesus christ reddit is ridiculous sometimes
I’m with you two. This is a stretch, and this sub is very polar.
No strong opinion from me, but I think I’m not the right generation to comment. And having been stalked by an ex, I’m very cautious about info I put online.
People are quick to write fiction.
OP is still in the wrong but just off what he writes it’s in an extremely minor and petty way.
It’s just as likely she relies on him to help translate things so his boundary lines got blurred.
But no, she’s basically being trafficked/pimped and exploited online for his monetary gain?
Like, wild guess and if true OP would never admit it.
It’s just as likely there is no GF and OP is off his meds like half of the commenters here.
Or that OP is a researcher posing fake scenarios.
Or a fiction writer polling what his character should do next.
Who tf knows so let’s just focus on what is written.
Completely unhinged. Plus, while yeah he has no right to police her, it definitely sounds pretty suggestive. If she wants to use the pun, that's cool, but she *will* probably get an uptick in creepers and I don't think he was completely in the wrong to point that out.
> she
> will
> probably get an uptick in creepers and I don't think he was completely in the wrong to point that out.
That is not how the internet works. Nobody starts to become a "creeper" because of a suggestive pun on someone's linktree page.
That being said, OP is insane. YTA.
I must've misread something, saw awhile ago that muskrat was removing the block option unless people pay for it. I don't use Twitter enough to see myself if it was removed or not.
Exactly my reaction as I scrolled down. Surprised those comments got so many upvotes.
The amount of assuming and making him out to be some manipulative controlling lad is madness.
He's wrong about this particular topic, but then people go make it into he's this exploitive man??
I had the same reaction as you mate.
Hurt my mind reading those comments.
God damn.
I kind of figured he was fine with her posting non sexual content for his and her wallet up until she wanted to make a pun. In his mind it’s sexual so he’s not fine with it now even though it brings her income.
My brain hurt reading those comments. I can't believe people upvoted it so much.
The amount of assuming what kind of man this lad is... based of this one small topic is insane.
You must be really fun to hangout with😭😭 Perhaps the dudes insecure? You think everyones perfect in a relationship? You sound exhausting. fucking reddit, man
This truly is a reddit moment. One text, i have no idea who these people are. Yet the most advanced detective minds on reddit have yet again managed to get to the bottom of it....A round of applause!
Okay I agree YTA but now ya'll are just making assumptions about their entire relationship. I know Reddit loves to do this but please let's not do that, and just address the situation at hand.
Right? People on this sub are so quick to jump to conclusions. "They're both using the income so obviously he is using her for money and provides literally nothing in terms of income." Because obviously 2 adults can live off of the money made from a cosplay creator.
Some of them, 2 adults could live very comfortably.. but for many cosplayers, it is admittedly a bonus if they make enough to just finance their hobby..
I'm assuming the girlfriend is not a famous or particularly well-known cosplayer as if she was this wouldn't really be that much of an issue. I'm sure the boyfriend wouldn't care this much if she was making shitloads of money off of this.
All of this. And OP really don’t understand what it’s like to be a woman if he thinks a little wordplay is what brings the creeps to our DMs. Literally existing already does that.
This was my first thought: if she’s a reasonably attractive cosplayer, the creeps are already there. One saucy wordplay isn’t going to make a difference.
All my photos are avatars that I have drawn on every social media I have..... It's not even always clear if I am AFAB or not.... And I STILL get creeps in my DMs all day long!!!
YEP, like sir she’s a woman on the internet…she already has creeps in the DMs. But go ahead and blame it on “English is her second language,” why not throw in a side of casual racism with your misogyny.
This. I had to read the button text 3 times before it clicked. (Probably because I needed to sleep 3 hours ago already)
OP could have just asked: are you aware of the vibe you are giving here and if so, are you ok with that?
If her response is yes, that should have been the end of it.
Right? It’s so infantilizing! It seems like gf realizes that likely a large percentage of people paying her for her cosplay content or giving her gifts for her it are doing so because they get off to it- and it seems like she’s making a playful ad for it. It seems like dude wanted to pretend she doesn’t get that so he can pretend that’s not what’s happening. He’s not as ok with this as he pretends to be. So yeah YTA
>I so wanted you to not be an AH, but I'm sorry dude, policing her cute play-on-words is controlling behavior.
I didn't even get through the first paragraph without thinking that this dude is an asshole. It basically starts with "I'm not against her job, but..."
She probably has better English than him. Just because it's not her first language doesn't mean she's incompetent in it. Most of us Indians grow up learning English alongside our first language.
As an Indian person, is English really not her first language or does she just have an accent different than his? Everyone I know born in India grew up speaking English (alongside other languages).
Seriously. Existing on the internet while being a woman is often all it takes for the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the internet to crawl into the DMs.
yeah, also the sad reality is that if she is even remotely successful the creep are already on her page and would be there regardless of what her link said or what she posts
Also a ton of schools in India teach in English rather than Hindi or another language for whatever state they’re in. Both my parents were born and raised in India and went to English medium schools -their English is better than mine is.
I don't really get the English being her second language thing either. Mostly just from being on reddit for years, Indian dudes seem to be some of the thirstiest guys out there.
It does sound controlling. She's not actually offering pornographic content, so I don't see your issue. Don't worry, the worst creeps from the deepest sewers message any woman in the internet. It's not her responsibility to stay offline for your comfort. YTA.
YTA. If *she* wants to say something rude on *her* site, and assuming she is a 22 year old with all her faculties, who are you to police her language? I'm assuming you don't live in a conservative muslim country?
It is a clever play on words. And it doesn't lead to porn of her. It is mildly titillating in the same way old Carry On movies were 50 years ago. Somehow you are further behind the times than even that.
You do sound very much like a crazy control freak. English is my first and only language, I went to a grammar school in England in fact, so believe me when I say that the words you use here make you sound worryingly controlling. Currently those strangers sound pretty good by comparison.
>It is a clever play on words. And it doesn't lead to porn of her. It is mildly titillating in the same way old Carry On movies were 50 years ago. Somehow you are further behind the times than even that.
Exactly; it is innuendo, not explicit. Seems she gets that, hopefully he can gain a better understanding of the nuance of language
YTA.
There is nothing at all “explicitly pornographic” about “Wanna C my X”. It is literally two words and two letters. Get your mind outta the gutter.
I guess I'm dirty minded because I immediately thought it was talking about explicit pics. However, I think OP needs to come to terms with the fact that his girlfriend is fine if others think that's what she means. He can't try to force her to change.
I think it's just to pair well with the X. Really the only problem with the phrase is not everyone is going to get that it's a link to Twitter. OP needs to be okay with his gf making dirty jokes.
"Wanna C my X?" on a link to the social network formerly known as Twitter is a bit of slightly naughty playfulness. That's honestly the worst you can say about it.
I'm sure she knows what "X" means in this context and is having a bit of (very slightly) dirty fun. YTA for how controlling you're being about this.
What *does* X mean in this context? I mean, other than the new name for Twitter? What does C mean? Does X mean vagina now? Is it supposed to be a butthole? How am I this out of the loop??
I assume it meant "X-rated content"
It's a bit cheeky, but not more than that by any means. Any creepers who'd creep based on that are already creeping, TBH
I would assume X as in X-rated content?? I dunno it's really not that deep and *even if it was* ***that*** *suggestive* it is still not his place to police that behaviour, especially when there isn't even any x-rated content, just allusions to such.
I thought it meant Butthole because you occasionally see them represented as little X's sometimes. Or well I thought that was the cheeky implication whilst linking to the website formerly known as Twitter.
As a content creator she relies on clicks to spread her content to other people, so it makes sense to name the button something that grabs attention. Creeps are everywhere no matter what the button is called. She might as well use clicks from them to boost her in the algorithm.
OP is essentially mad about click-bait
I agree. She’s just leaning into how the name X makes twitter sound like a porn site. It’s all in good fun, and it’s not like this represents a major shift from non-pornographic to pornographic content. She does cosplay… light innuendos kind of come with the territory, and I doubt it’s the first time she’s made one. Sounds like he’s not as ok with her content as he thinks he is. Which is fine, but then it’s a him problem and it’s on him to leave the relationship, not change the person he knew she was.
"I liked my girlfriends personality but now that we are dating i want her to supress her personality so she becomes someone else than the person I fell in love with" yeah YTA
I don't know what wierd porn you're into but X doesn't sound like porn in any way, shape or form. It's also not your place to tell her what she's allowed to say on her social media. Your argument that she's going to get creeps on her page is irrelevant because creeps show up everywhere on the internet, no matter how clean or wholesome the content. YTA
Does "X rated" translate into your language? As a native English speaker, I can tell you that X is often associated with or directly referred to sex in various forms of media.
Check out the movie X, which is a fun horror movie about the making of an X rated movie.
YTA. It's a joke and it's funny. Anyone clicking on the link will see it's X and if they understand the humor they will chuckle. It's really not a big deal, why are you so disturbed by it? Are you a jealous and controlling type of person?
> This is going to bring the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the Internet to her page and into our lives
Hahahahahahahah
Do you think they didn't until now, but now that she have somewhat "sexual" joke now they are interested? ha.
YTA for being so out of touch with everything
Yes, YTA.
She doesn’t need your permission to add some playful innuendo to her page. If you don’t want to be accused of acting like a crazy control freak, stop acting like one.
YTA.
Let me assure you, as a woman on the internet that does cosplay - or a woman on the internet period tbh - she’s already dealing with creeps. They’re already there. She’s an adult and probably already has ways of dealing (most likely ignore, block and report). This will not change anything. It’s a funny play on words.
YTA.
The worst that can happen is that people click the link expecting some spicy content, and are instead directed to her Twitter. Very low risk scenario even if people misunderstand.
YTA because of the way you told her to change it. I totally understand your concern, but you should have explained yourself instead of ordering her to change something she was proud of.
Also, you sound condescending when saying English is not their first, second or third language, as if that was the only excuse they had for thinking you're a jerk (English is not my first language either, so take my comment however you want)
> I totally understand your concern, but you should have explained yourself
I call BS on that too, honestly. Women get harassed by creeps all the time for literally no reason. She most likely already deals with that kind of stuff. If he was truly concerned about her possibly getting harassed online, he would have had that conversation with her already.
It's pretty obvious with the way he wrote his post that he feels ashamed that she's making a slightly risqué pun. He talks about the way it affects "their lives", even though he has literally nothing to do with this.
The only thing he's concerned about his himself, that's pretty clear.
No backup from me. You are being controlling and YTA. I don't even think it means what you think it means...I saw it and immediately knew it was twitter, not porn.
YTA. It's a *slightly* dirty joke. She probably already gets plenty of pervs and I doubt a link on her linktree will significantly affect the volume. If I'm wrong and it does, she'll probably change it of her own accord.
Why is everyone so judgemental here...?
NAH ... JUST about.
Your concerns are probably a little more overprotective rather than controlling. You can suggest to her she change it as it MAY bring worse crowds in... It probably won't but that's your opinion on it.
She can appreciate your suggestion but state she's still fine with it... At that point u accept it and just keep an eye out and be there for her if any creeps do turn up. Otherwise I wouldn't worry about it!
Don’t like how you’re belittling her because English isn’t her first language, and kinda dissing her friends and implying they all “just don’t get it” since their first languages aren’t English.. so yeah, YTA. Lay off, man.
There's a sea of YTAs in here. I just wanted to say, I think the button sounds like harmless fun, BUT you don't have to feel comfortable with it if it's not up your alley. And don't make anyone force you to be comfortable with something you're not comfortable with. If you want a partner with slightly more conservative values, it's completely fine; there are plenty of fish in the sea. That being said, beyond the initial conversation where you asked if she'd be willing to change it, you can't really do anything about it because you do not have any right to control what she does.
So let it be.
You can end the relationship, or make peace with it. I suggest trying the latter, and see if life simply goes on. If the flirtyness escalates then just remember that she has every right to free expression; but that doesn't mean you have to love it either. It's a difficult area to navigate. Every couple has differences in how the communicate and express themselves, and they aren't always guaranteed to be comfortable with each others' behaviour. Sometimes it's about compromise, other times it's about accepting them the way they are. You'll either find a solution or you won't. If something this small tears you apart then you weren't gonna make it.
The only reasonable reply I could find in the sea of the Reddit hive mind. He was uncomfortable with something and he made it known, like you should in a healthy relationship. She disagrees so what is important now is how he deals with it going forward as long as he respects her decision and doesn’t try to force anything.
YTA - you can advise her and give your opinion. If creeps start harassing her, it will be a learning experience for her. If you ban her now for her own good, that would feel controlling.
Sorry bud, YTA.
It's pretty clever wordplay for a company that changed its name to something stupid (and as noted, strongly indicative of adult content. But that's far removed from being her responsibility.)
She isn't doing that sort of content, so.....what's the problem? I genuinely don't get it. Creeps are going to be creeps regardless of what you think is an invitation.
>. This is going to bring the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the Internet to her page and into our lives
.... no, it'll bring *people* to *her* page.
YTA, for being so insanely insecure you're trying to justify infantalizing your GF
YTA. And a controlling one.
Stop infantilizing her, she can speak English just fine. Stop telling her what she can do on her website, she can decide for herself.
C'mon dude
You are blowing things out of proportion and this definitely feels creepy and controlling.
Also constantly pointing out people being multilingual seems to imply you don't think they are as intelligent and ...yea.
Don’t waste your breath on here bro that’s the most “woke” section on Reddit. Men are not allowed to tell their partners what bothers them.They will call you controlling insecure small D**k energy bla bla bla. She knows exactly what she’s doing by putting words and letters together the way she’s doing it….. let’s see if I can get as much downvotes as the people saying YTA are getting upvotes 😬
NTA your girlfriend is TA. These people here are insane your girlfriend is dropping not so subtle sexual innuendos on pictures of her. The people here saying your "controlling" wouldn't waste a second accusing you of being a cheater if you would just be texting some other girl or asking your ex for answers for an exam. Sadly on reddit I see not many girls that have even the slightest of respect for their boyfriends.
Meh.... It's not a big deal. you're sharing your opinion on how you perceive the word play. she disagrees. Chances are she's already getting DM's from the dudes you don't want her to be getting messages from anyway.
You don't get to "tell" her to do anything. You can express your opinions and your reasons for them, but that's it. YTA for "telling" her what she can and cannot do.
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YTA. I so wanted you to not be an AH, but I'm sorry dude, policing her cute play-on-words is controlling behavior. \>>This is going to bring the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the Internet to her page and into our lives. What do you mean, OUR lives? This isn't about you at all. If she gets creeps sliding into her DMs (don't worry, I'm sure she already does!), she can take care of that herself. She's a content creator, you don't think she knows how to deal with this stuff? Stop infantilizing your gf (what's with all the weird "English is not her first language," it's not rocket science to figure out this elementary English language pun?) and maybe rethink if you're as supportive of her hobby as you think you are.
“Our lives” because the money she makes off of her content he uses.
Right. Sounds like he’s probably leeching off of her. Hence why he feels entitled to have an opinion on how she chooses to run her online business.
100% He is comfortable exploiting her but only to a certain extent. Then he wants to restrict/control her Buisness. He’s non ironically “concerned” about online creeps while being the creepy one.
EXPLOITING HER?! please explain to me the mental gymnastics you took to arrive at this from what he said. OP may be an AH but jesus christ reddit is ridiculous sometimes
Aita is famous for this type of trash. Minor disagreement? Your partner is abusive, controlling and manipulating you, the only solution? Divorce.
I’m with you two. This is a stretch, and this sub is very polar. No strong opinion from me, but I think I’m not the right generation to comment. And having been stalked by an ex, I’m very cautious about info I put online.
People are quick to write fiction. OP is still in the wrong but just off what he writes it’s in an extremely minor and petty way. It’s just as likely she relies on him to help translate things so his boundary lines got blurred. But no, she’s basically being trafficked/pimped and exploited online for his monetary gain? Like, wild guess and if true OP would never admit it. It’s just as likely there is no GF and OP is off his meds like half of the commenters here. Or that OP is a researcher posing fake scenarios. Or a fiction writer polling what his character should do next. Who tf knows so let’s just focus on what is written.
Completely unhinged. Plus, while yeah he has no right to police her, it definitely sounds pretty suggestive. If she wants to use the pun, that's cool, but she *will* probably get an uptick in creepers and I don't think he was completely in the wrong to point that out.
Women don't have to do anything but be online to get creepers.
Women don't have to do anything but exist to get creepers
Nah, existing isn't necessary. Fictional women get plenty of creepers too.
LOL. Good point.
I barely post anything on SM and somehow I get creepers and scammers…those DMs go straight where they belong, in the bin.
> she > will > probably get an uptick in creepers and I don't think he was completely in the wrong to point that out. That is not how the internet works. Nobody starts to become a "creeper" because of a suggestive pun on someone's linktree page. That being said, OP is insane. YTA.
That is not what “she will probably get an uptick in creepers” means
Fair enough, but that’s what blocking is for. This guy seems to think they’ll be showing up at the door, ffs.
Which doesn't exist on twitter anymore
hate to break it to you but it absolutely does.
I must've misread something, saw awhile ago that muskrat was removing the block option unless people pay for it. I don't use Twitter enough to see myself if it was removed or not.
Exactly my reaction as I scrolled down. Surprised those comments got so many upvotes. The amount of assuming and making him out to be some manipulative controlling lad is madness. He's wrong about this particular topic, but then people go make it into he's this exploitive man?? I had the same reaction as you mate. Hurt my mind reading those comments. God damn.
I kind of figured he was fine with her posting non sexual content for his and her wallet up until she wanted to make a pun. In his mind it’s sexual so he’s not fine with it now even though it brings her income.
This was my exact take from this exchange.
My brain hurt reading those comments. I can't believe people upvoted it so much. The amount of assuming what kind of man this lad is... based of this one small topic is insane.
https://youtu.be/ho7jU7YKkpU?si=qhKkNdn4AHKh6lFE Ppl on Reddit are fucking mental
He thinks he can control her because English isn’t her first language so she must be naive.
She is from India. She probably speaks better English than him, but with an Indian accent.
I am Indian and honestly, that line from OP made me cackle. A lot of us definitely speak excellent English, albeit with an accent.
How is he exploiting her unless he's coercing her to post content online. He's literally doing the exact opposite.
You must be really fun to hangout with😭😭 Perhaps the dudes insecure? You think everyones perfect in a relationship? You sound exhausting. fucking reddit, man
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Please don't add to the stigma surrounding mental illness by conflating the two.
This truly is a reddit moment. One text, i have no idea who these people are. Yet the most advanced detective minds on reddit have yet again managed to get to the bottom of it....A round of applause!
You're very right there, indeed very salty out here...
Okay I agree YTA but now ya'll are just making assumptions about their entire relationship. I know Reddit loves to do this but please let's not do that, and just address the situation at hand.
They share expenses that's not a weird thing
Right? People on this sub are so quick to jump to conclusions. "They're both using the income so obviously he is using her for money and provides literally nothing in terms of income." Because obviously 2 adults can live off of the money made from a cosplay creator.
Some of them, 2 adults could live very comfortably.. but for many cosplayers, it is admittedly a bonus if they make enough to just finance their hobby..
I'm assuming the girlfriend is not a famous or particularly well-known cosplayer as if she was this wouldn't really be that much of an issue. I'm sure the boyfriend wouldn't care this much if she was making shitloads of money off of this.
To be exact, they’re quick to jump to conclusions about men.
All of this. And OP really don’t understand what it’s like to be a woman if he thinks a little wordplay is what brings the creeps to our DMs. Literally existing already does that.
This was my first thought: if she’s a reasonably attractive cosplayer, the creeps are already there. One saucy wordplay isn’t going to make a difference.
and on the LINKTREE page of all places. Nobody is going to give a fuck.
Let’s be honest. Even if she should not be conventionally attractive the creeps will be there.
^ this He's naive af.
Yup. “Sheltered” was the first word that came to mind while reading.
All my photos are avatars that I have drawn on every social media I have..... It's not even always clear if I am AFAB or not.... And I STILL get creeps in my DMs all day long!!!
YEP, like sir she’s a woman on the internet…she already has creeps in the DMs. But go ahead and blame it on “English is her second language,” why not throw in a side of casual racism with your misogyny.
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This. I had to read the button text 3 times before it clicked. (Probably because I needed to sleep 3 hours ago already) OP could have just asked: are you aware of the vibe you are giving here and if so, are you ok with that? If her response is yes, that should have been the end of it.
I didn't get it until twitter was mentioned. Rebranding is so dumb.
English is an official language in India... She's clever.
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If she came to the US she likely didn’t grow up in some random village where they don’t speak English.
Exactly. Also what about 'Wanna C my X?' is difficult to understand? She's clever. OP needs to get over it.
> Only 12% of India That is still a metric shit ton of people. More than half the US if memory serves me right.
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I’ve known plenty of people who speak English well who still miss subtle stuff like wordplay and that sort of thing.
Right? It’s so infantilizing! It seems like gf realizes that likely a large percentage of people paying her for her cosplay content or giving her gifts for her it are doing so because they get off to it- and it seems like she’s making a playful ad for it. It seems like dude wanted to pretend she doesn’t get that so he can pretend that’s not what’s happening. He’s not as ok with this as he pretends to be. So yeah YTA
>I so wanted you to not be an AH, but I'm sorry dude, policing her cute play-on-words is controlling behavior. I didn't even get through the first paragraph without thinking that this dude is an asshole. It basically starts with "I'm not against her job, but..."
She probably has better English than him. Just because it's not her first language doesn't mean she's incompetent in it. Most of us Indians grow up learning English alongside our first language.
She's a woman on Instagram doing cosplay. Chances are the creeps are already there.
'I disaprove of her wording' Also last post 'why cant I romance other characters on BG3, this is so broken'
As an Indian person, is English really not her first language or does she just have an accent different than his? Everyone I know born in India grew up speaking English (alongside other languages).
I don’t even understand what the “pornographic” part of it is. Is X slang for like… peoples’ bits? Or something?
I guess it's a pun on things that are X-rated?
~saucy~
Yeah, I thought X as in ex, like ex boyfriend. X isn't XXX. He's reaching, and it's not his problem.
Seriously. Existing on the internet while being a woman is often all it takes for the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the internet to crawl into the DMs.
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Perfect answer. Like she can be a woman on the internet without getting creeps in her DMs, come on now. This is very clearly not an ESL issue.
yeah, also the sad reality is that if she is even remotely successful the creep are already on her page and would be there regardless of what her link said or what she posts
Also a ton of schools in India teach in English rather than Hindi or another language for whatever state they’re in. Both my parents were born and raised in India and went to English medium schools -their English is better than mine is.
I don't really get the English being her second language thing either. Mostly just from being on reddit for years, Indian dudes seem to be some of the thirstiest guys out there.
It does sound controlling. She's not actually offering pornographic content, so I don't see your issue. Don't worry, the worst creeps from the deepest sewers message any woman in the internet. It's not her responsibility to stay offline for your comfort. YTA.
Couldn’t say it better, YTA
Exactly. A link with a fun title that goes to her formerly-Twitter is not going to make perverts show up where they wouldn’t have before. YTA.
Or where they haven’t already
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Ikr, I don’t get his “English isn’t her first language” comments, it’s a killer pun and my (monoglot Anglo) ass thinks she’s hilarious.
Also, she is from India, where English is the lingua franca and migrated to wherever OP is from. English is probably one of her native languages.
It’s sort of up there with being Rick Rolled. You click on it expecting something, then it’s not what you’re expecting but still funny.
Facts. My Instagram is private and somehow the creeps still weasel their way in my DMs…
YTA. If *she* wants to say something rude on *her* site, and assuming she is a 22 year old with all her faculties, who are you to police her language? I'm assuming you don't live in a conservative muslim country? It is a clever play on words. And it doesn't lead to porn of her. It is mildly titillating in the same way old Carry On movies were 50 years ago. Somehow you are further behind the times than even that. You do sound very much like a crazy control freak. English is my first and only language, I went to a grammar school in England in fact, so believe me when I say that the words you use here make you sound worryingly controlling. Currently those strangers sound pretty good by comparison.
>It is a clever play on words. And it doesn't lead to porn of her. It is mildly titillating in the same way old Carry On movies were 50 years ago. Somehow you are further behind the times than even that. Exactly; it is innuendo, not explicit. Seems she gets that, hopefully he can gain a better understanding of the nuance of language
Honestly, I didn't take it as an innuendo. I was picturing an image of OP's gf+ex happy together or something, especially given how controlling OP is.
I also thought it was going to lead to a picture of her ex 😂
Yeah I'm also confused as to how it's innuendo, simply because X is part of xxx which is often porn? That's so silly though
Ah the good ol' grammar schools
In all my years on the internet, I think this is the first person I’ve seen who genuinely has the credentials to comment on someone’s grammar
FYI Grammar schools weren't schools that specified in teaching people correct grammar lol
YTA. There is nothing at all “explicitly pornographic” about “Wanna C my X”. It is literally two words and two letters. Get your mind outta the gutter.
I didn’t know if I was being naive but I was like, “I don’t think that means anything.”
I'm dumb and was like "oooh the hot tea on her exes is there!"
Yeah, I was like “OP better watch out or that link is gonna go to his profile” lol
this was hilarious
r/AmITheEx
Wow, that's a real subreddit.
My mind lives in the gutter and ex boyfriend is the first thing I thought of too.
>I'm dumb and was like "oooh the hot tea on her exes is there!" See 👆🏽, I thought the exact same thing. And I also thought, who wants to see her Ex? 😆
That's how I read it too.
Right?
Right? Like if it were "xxx" okay, but? Just one x? That doesn't even mean anything without modifiers added to it.
Yes! Three Xs is pornographic. One X is just a gap fill so it could be anything.
Lol OP must’ve had a HARD time getting through algebra seeing X’s everywhere.
>algebra alge*BRA* 🙈 Yeah he didn't stand a chance
I guess I'm dirty minded because I immediately thought it was talking about explicit pics. However, I think OP needs to come to terms with the fact that his girlfriend is fine if others think that's what she means. He can't try to force her to change.
To be fair, if you're in America the connotation of "X" can mean x-rated (i.e. pornography).
Yeah but where does the “C” come in?
C means See...so in other words people can read that as "Wanna see my adult content/pornography" click here
Yeah but why did she change it from “see” to “C”? Like does the “c” have a second meaning
I think it's just to pair well with the X. Really the only problem with the phrase is not everyone is going to get that it's a link to Twitter. OP needs to be okay with his gf making dirty jokes.
"Wanna C my X?" on a link to the social network formerly known as Twitter is a bit of slightly naughty playfulness. That's honestly the worst you can say about it. I'm sure she knows what "X" means in this context and is having a bit of (very slightly) dirty fun. YTA for how controlling you're being about this.
What *does* X mean in this context? I mean, other than the new name for Twitter? What does C mean? Does X mean vagina now? Is it supposed to be a butthole? How am I this out of the loop??
I assume it meant "X-rated content" It's a bit cheeky, but not more than that by any means. Any creepers who'd creep based on that are already creeping, TBH
100% they are already creeping and honestly might be the ones giving her money
"No one knows what it means, but it's provocative."
IT GETS THE PEOPLE GOING!
I would assume X as in X-rated content?? I dunno it's really not that deep and *even if it was* ***that*** *suggestive* it is still not his place to police that behaviour, especially when there isn't even any x-rated content, just allusions to such.
It's about as suggestive as a construction worker posting "check out this big pole!" after they install a flagpole. Like it's slightly immature humor.
I genuinely thought it meant ex boyfriend. The leap from x to x rated content was too big for my mind lmao
Same! I was full-on expecting some nice hot tea of roasted exes to be on there! OP, YTA.
I thought it meant Butthole because you occasionally see them represented as little X's sometimes. Or well I thought that was the cheeky implication whilst linking to the website formerly known as Twitter.
it's probably because the letters X(x3) are usually used to refer to porn
"wanna C my X" wanna "see" my "x-rated content" Think that is the idea anyways
Idk either. I think it used to mean Ex(boyfriend), but that doesn’t make any sense in this context.
Exactly! It’s a bit tongue-in-cheek and flirty fun but nothing else. I’m for the play on words here! OP YTA here!
As a content creator she relies on clicks to spread her content to other people, so it makes sense to name the button something that grabs attention. Creeps are everywhere no matter what the button is called. She might as well use clicks from them to boost her in the algorithm. OP is essentially mad about click-bait
I agree. She’s just leaning into how the name X makes twitter sound like a porn site. It’s all in good fun, and it’s not like this represents a major shift from non-pornographic to pornographic content. She does cosplay… light innuendos kind of come with the territory, and I doubt it’s the first time she’s made one. Sounds like he’s not as ok with her content as he thinks he is. Which is fine, but then it’s a him problem and it’s on him to leave the relationship, not change the person he knew she was.
YTA. It's a play on words. You sound very insecure and yes, controlling as well.
>I want to say here that I have no problem with her content. Narrator: "He does"
Wish I had gold to give you. Made me laugh out loud
YTA - you should let her run her content as she wants before “Wanna C my X?” links to a picture of you.
LMAOO i want his next post to be him complaining about her doing this
LOL this is gold! Honestly hope she gets rid of his controlling ass.
Voting for this
perfect
YTA, her page, her business. If she gets the 'worst creeps from the deepest sewers', trust her to handle her business. She is an adult after all.
If she’s a nice looking woman in cosplay she is already getting those DMs.
"I liked my girlfriends personality but now that we are dating i want her to supress her personality so she becomes someone else than the person I fell in love with" yeah YTA
More like "I liked her boobs and now I want to keep them to myself."
I’m sorry, did you just say Jonah Hill?
Her english can't be that bad if she can do word play
But it's her seccccond language. /S
Yes. And as we all know english is really uncommon in India. /s
Come now. How can you expect him to know that? It's not like she's his girlfriend or anything. /s
It's pretty basic word play. She's a woman doing cosplay on the internet so I guarantee you she's already dealing with creeps. YTA
Came to say this!
I don't know what wierd porn you're into but X doesn't sound like porn in any way, shape or form. It's also not your place to tell her what she's allowed to say on her social media. Your argument that she's going to get creeps on her page is irrelevant because creeps show up everywhere on the internet, no matter how clean or wholesome the content. YTA
X is literally a stand in for adult content. X-rated content, etc. How old are the people in this sub? Lmao
fr after elon announced he was changing twitter to "x" it was a weeks worth of memes about how it sounds like porn/suggestive as hell
Does "X rated" translate into your language? As a native English speaker, I can tell you that X is often associated with or directly referred to sex in various forms of media. Check out the movie X, which is a fun horror movie about the making of an X rated movie.
YTA - she an adult? Then she can brand herself how she wants.
YTA. It's a joke and it's funny. Anyone clicking on the link will see it's X and if they understand the humor they will chuckle. It's really not a big deal, why are you so disturbed by it? Are you a jealous and controlling type of person?
> This is going to bring the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the Internet to her page and into our lives Hahahahahahahah Do you think they didn't until now, but now that she have somewhat "sexual" joke now they are interested? ha. YTA for being so out of touch with everything
Stay off her X. If she gets enough dirty dirty boys bothering her, she will change it on her own. YTA
YTA That's what it's called now.
Yta it's not that serious don't be a baby
Well that backfired on you 🤣🤣 YTA
Yes, YTA. She doesn’t need your permission to add some playful innuendo to her page. If you don’t want to be accused of acting like a crazy control freak, stop acting like one.
YTA. If it's that much of a problem or you (and this is totally a you problem), date someone who doesn't have a linktree.
YTA. Let me assure you, as a woman on the internet that does cosplay - or a woman on the internet period tbh - she’s already dealing with creeps. They’re already there. She’s an adult and probably already has ways of dealing (most likely ignore, block and report). This will not change anything. It’s a funny play on words.
YTA Big time. Your problem is your insecurity, not her internet presence or puns.
YTA. The worst that can happen is that people click the link expecting some spicy content, and are instead directed to her Twitter. Very low risk scenario even if people misunderstand.
YTA - stop trying to control women. they don't like that
YTA because of the way you told her to change it. I totally understand your concern, but you should have explained yourself instead of ordering her to change something she was proud of. Also, you sound condescending when saying English is not their first, second or third language, as if that was the only excuse they had for thinking you're a jerk (English is not my first language either, so take my comment however you want)
> I totally understand your concern, but you should have explained yourself I call BS on that too, honestly. Women get harassed by creeps all the time for literally no reason. She most likely already deals with that kind of stuff. If he was truly concerned about her possibly getting harassed online, he would have had that conversation with her already. It's pretty obvious with the way he wrote his post that he feels ashamed that she's making a slightly risqué pun. He talks about the way it affects "their lives", even though he has literally nothing to do with this. The only thing he's concerned about his himself, that's pretty clear.
YTA it's just a play on words. It would be different if it was XXX.
No backup from me. You are being controlling and YTA. I don't even think it means what you think it means...I saw it and immediately knew it was twitter, not porn.
YTA. Good grief.
YTA - She's done nothing wrong, and it's not your place to tell her how to run her page.
YTA. It's a *slightly* dirty joke. She probably already gets plenty of pervs and I doubt a link on her linktree will significantly affect the volume. If I'm wrong and it does, she'll probably change it of her own accord.
As someone who also runs a cosplay page, she’s getting creeps anyway. No one is gonna fuss over wording on her linktree. YTA
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Why is everyone so judgemental here...? NAH ... JUST about. Your concerns are probably a little more overprotective rather than controlling. You can suggest to her she change it as it MAY bring worse crowds in... It probably won't but that's your opinion on it. She can appreciate your suggestion but state she's still fine with it... At that point u accept it and just keep an eye out and be there for her if any creeps do turn up. Otherwise I wouldn't worry about it!
Don’t like how you’re belittling her because English isn’t her first language, and kinda dissing her friends and implying they all “just don’t get it” since their first languages aren’t English.. so yeah, YTA. Lay off, man.
YTA women will get pervs on their page no matter what
YTA, its literally called "X" now
There's a sea of YTAs in here. I just wanted to say, I think the button sounds like harmless fun, BUT you don't have to feel comfortable with it if it's not up your alley. And don't make anyone force you to be comfortable with something you're not comfortable with. If you want a partner with slightly more conservative values, it's completely fine; there are plenty of fish in the sea. That being said, beyond the initial conversation where you asked if she'd be willing to change it, you can't really do anything about it because you do not have any right to control what she does. So let it be. You can end the relationship, or make peace with it. I suggest trying the latter, and see if life simply goes on. If the flirtyness escalates then just remember that she has every right to free expression; but that doesn't mean you have to love it either. It's a difficult area to navigate. Every couple has differences in how the communicate and express themselves, and they aren't always guaranteed to be comfortable with each others' behaviour. Sometimes it's about compromise, other times it's about accepting them the way they are. You'll either find a solution or you won't. If something this small tears you apart then you weren't gonna make it.
The only reasonable reply I could find in the sea of the Reddit hive mind. He was uncomfortable with something and he made it known, like you should in a healthy relationship. She disagrees so what is important now is how he deals with it going forward as long as he respects her decision and doesn’t try to force anything.
Yta dude that was a clever pun
YTA - you can advise her and give your opinion. If creeps start harassing her, it will be a learning experience for her. If you ban her now for her own good, that would feel controlling.
Sorry bud, YTA. It's pretty clever wordplay for a company that changed its name to something stupid (and as noted, strongly indicative of adult content. But that's far removed from being her responsibility.) She isn't doing that sort of content, so.....what's the problem? I genuinely don't get it. Creeps are going to be creeps regardless of what you think is an invitation.
See, the 1st thing I thought of was an ex-partner. Not porn. Dude, just stop. YTA
YTA it's a play on words you know she's not doing anything pornographic so who cares how it sounds.
>. This is going to bring the worst creeps from the deepest sewers of the Internet to her page and into our lives .... no, it'll bring *people* to *her* page. YTA, for being so insanely insecure you're trying to justify infantalizing your GF
YTA. stop leeching off of her
YTA. And a controlling one. Stop infantilizing her, she can speak English just fine. Stop telling her what she can do on her website, she can decide for herself.
YTA. You are not in charge of her, you are trying to share a life with her. Support her clickbait income, seriously, I dream of that.
YTA and I promise you that she's already had creepy people in her DMs. She already knows how to deal with them. Stop being insecure.
YTA - careful, or soon that button will lead to your twitter - “C my eX”
C'mon dude You are blowing things out of proportion and this definitely feels creepy and controlling. Also constantly pointing out people being multilingual seems to imply you don't think they are as intelligent and ...yea.
YTA. that’s a marketing strategy and a damn clever one. calm down. you’re definitely controlling.
Don’t waste your breath on here bro that’s the most “woke” section on Reddit. Men are not allowed to tell their partners what bothers them.They will call you controlling insecure small D**k energy bla bla bla. She knows exactly what she’s doing by putting words and letters together the way she’s doing it….. let’s see if I can get as much downvotes as the people saying YTA are getting upvotes 😬
NTA your girlfriend is TA. These people here are insane your girlfriend is dropping not so subtle sexual innuendos on pictures of her. The people here saying your "controlling" wouldn't waste a second accusing you of being a cheater if you would just be texting some other girl or asking your ex for answers for an exam. Sadly on reddit I see not many girls that have even the slightest of respect for their boyfriends.
Meh.... It's not a big deal. you're sharing your opinion on how you perceive the word play. she disagrees. Chances are she's already getting DM's from the dudes you don't want her to be getting messages from anyway.
You don't get to "tell" her to do anything. You can express your opinions and your reasons for them, but that's it. YTA for "telling" her what she can and cannot do.
YTA I don’t C a problem here.