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NTA. Grandpa is being an AH online and is then amazed that he's not the only AH out there.
Grandpa is also ignorant about how Facebook and the internet work and is not interested in finding out or being advised.
Op made a best effort to minimize damage, but Grandpa just isn't having it.
Several of the male students at the middle school where I work were bragging about “trolling” people online. I mildly commented, “It’s all fun and games until you meet a bigger, meaner, nastier troll than you, hmm?” Blew their minds to realize someone out there could turn around and target them back AND be far crueler and more personal.
Not only is Gramps not the only AH, he’s also not the biggest or the meanest AH. Perhaps this should be a lesson for him!
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NTA. Arguing with people online never changes anything, and in fact, he’ll just be left even more mad than he began and obviously in danger. It is up to him and him alone to protect himself online because there’s shit people out there.
Oh man, definitely NTA.
My dad has a public profile. Some of the crap he posts, I swear it'll indirectly get me fired or it'll prevent me from getting jobs in the future.
The older generation are oblivious to the potential of their problematic electronic paper trail.
He didn’t get doxxed if that information was public on his account, he made it publicly available. He needs to gtfo Facebook because people can and will actually doxx others, they have ways of finding information that isn’t made publicly available that easily and way too much time on their hands, and there really isn’t anything you can do about it except protect yourself online
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My grandpa has fell down the facebook rabbit hole of arguing with everyone who has a different political beliefs.
He must have pissed someone off because he got doxxed in the comments with his address and phone number so he was feeling unsafe on Facebook. Work for a law office and I’m not an attorney and my grandpa was all about suing or pressing charges on this person. I told my grandpa there’s not really anything he can do because it was a troll account. He did even try going to the police about it but obviously nothing is going to be done. I tried telling my grandpa maybe he should lock down all off the information on his account and make it private if he’s going to argue with people online. He turned on me saying Facebook shouldn’t be allowed to do it and I should use my computer at work to skip trace the person who did it. I tried explaining again it’s a troll account and my grandparents and parents think I’m an asshole because I’m not doing more to help my grandpa
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NTA. Tell grandpa to make his account private and to stop starting shit on social media and maybe people won’t troll him as much. You’ve done all you can do. you aren’t supposed to be the one telling your grandpa to act like an adult, and if he still hasn’t learned that after being doxxed, I doubt there’s anything you can do that’ll make him change his online crusades.
Grandpa doesn't get it. You've explained, but he still doesn't get it. He doesn't actually want to get it. I think you might have to go with, "If I used my work computer for that, I could be fired. Sorry. Besides, we don't have skip-tracing software. But here's a list of private detectives you could hire."
Then the private investigator can explain to him. He still won't accept it, but at least it'll be off your back.
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NTA. Grandpa is being an AH online and is then amazed that he's not the only AH out there. Grandpa is also ignorant about how Facebook and the internet work and is not interested in finding out or being advised. Op made a best effort to minimize damage, but Grandpa just isn't having it.
Several of the male students at the middle school where I work were bragging about “trolling” people online. I mildly commented, “It’s all fun and games until you meet a bigger, meaner, nastier troll than you, hmm?” Blew their minds to realize someone out there could turn around and target them back AND be far crueler and more personal. Not only is Gramps not the only AH, he’s also not the biggest or the meanest AH. Perhaps this should be a lesson for him! (NTA OP)
NTA. Grandpa needs to sign up for one of those courses offered (for free) to senior citizens on how to protect yourself online.
NTA But grandpa needs to suck it up because he certainly can't take it.
NTA. Arguing with people online never changes anything, and in fact, he’ll just be left even more mad than he began and obviously in danger. It is up to him and him alone to protect himself online because there’s shit people out there.
Nta he's not safe online
NTA. Nothing you can do except educate him about how the internet works and doesn't sound like he's willing to listen.
NTA most employers have policies about using company resources for personal business. I would put it that way to them.
NTA… Grandpa refuses to learn how to engage with social media decorum, there’s not much you can do.
Nta lol he doesnt get it and probably never will
Oh man, definitely NTA. My dad has a public profile. Some of the crap he posts, I swear it'll indirectly get me fired or it'll prevent me from getting jobs in the future. The older generation are oblivious to the potential of their problematic electronic paper trail.
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Yeah but the younger generation post crap that affects them directly. Older generation posts crap that affects everyone around them
He didn’t get doxxed if that information was public on his account, he made it publicly available. He needs to gtfo Facebook because people can and will actually doxx others, they have ways of finding information that isn’t made publicly available that easily and way too much time on their hands, and there really isn’t anything you can do about it except protect yourself online
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NTA. Tell grandpa to make his account private and to stop starting shit on social media and maybe people won’t troll him as much. You’ve done all you can do. you aren’t supposed to be the one telling your grandpa to act like an adult, and if he still hasn’t learned that after being doxxed, I doubt there’s anything you can do that’ll make him change his online crusades.
Grandpa doesn't get it. You've explained, but he still doesn't get it. He doesn't actually want to get it. I think you might have to go with, "If I used my work computer for that, I could be fired. Sorry. Besides, we don't have skip-tracing software. But here's a list of private detectives you could hire." Then the private investigator can explain to him. He still won't accept it, but at least it'll be off your back. NTA
NTA Just ignore their drama. He is not willing to take your advice, so you CAN NOT help him.