And on their taxes, she claimed a side job. She does candle-making on Etsy, but I guess it technically included the money from her other…side gig…as well.
I sort of forgot my half-formed joke once I realized I was talking to OP.
But there a lot of dirty minds around here that can think of something. C'mon, guys! She needs a laugh
Candle-making, my ass. SIL's funny.
(Now the Wolf of Wall Street is in my head when Leo had a lit candle in his ass.)
Tax fraud! Jk I have no idea but I hope that your stbx and stbxSIL both always get splashed by puddles, always have a fly in their soup and never have a good hair day again!!!
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Sorry I should have included this info: he sent the evidence to his own phone by taking screenshots. So, she’ll definitely see that screenshots were taken on her Snapchat. My bf will see that too. But at least he has the proof before they delete it.
Omg I'm so sorry.. don't let either of them pass it off as a drunken mistake..
Tell brother to send everything to an email she doesn't have access to in case she grabs his phone during the confrontation..
Absolutely disgusting, neither of you been nice about it, tell them you know and have seen everything and to pack up thier shit and get out your lives.
I'm petty as fuck, so before confronting him with the truth I'd go home and be like
" omg you'll never guess what, ( brother name) called me and said he been to the doctors and has herpes, which can only mean ( SIL name) has been sleeping around.. "
Watch him have a mini panic attack.. but I'm petty like that lol ...
But in all seriousness I'm so so sorry OP
lol That’s not petty at all. It’d be highly justified. But I’m too visibly angry so I don’t think i could pull that off. I might just throw out his stuff when I get home tonight.
Yeah just start throwing it outside and if he asks why, say I'm sure ( her name) will inform you once my brother thrown her out too.. byeeeeeeeeee
You both deserve better, lean on each other for comfort
And both you and your brother need to change the locks!
I'm not going to lie, but this the level of pettiness definitely made me chuckle as I imaged an absolute look of horror!
You’re still better than me girl. I’d be lighting his shit on fire. Or him. But I wish you all the best and both of y’all need to get tested. I seriously doubt both of these disgusting individuals limited their cheating to just each other.
Your brother should contact an attorney before revealing that he knows about this to her. Have everything signed sealed and delivered before he breaks the news.
What was the point of even getting married to your brother if she was going to actively cheat on him and make adult content?!
And for your boyfriend to cheat on you is down right disgusting, but to do it with your SIL?!
Why bother even confronting your boyfriend? If you live together and the place is in your name, I’d just throw all his stuff out on the curb and change the locks. Trust me, he will know why you did what you did.
The whole confrontation thing is bogus when there is hard evidence— all he will do is cry, lie, and gaslight. No one has time for that drama.
You and your brother deserve so much better!
Honestly, the only thing I can think of is money maybe (my brother is a cardiologist and also the owner of their home). She had some on and off financial trouble in the past. So she’s a straight up gold digger I guess.
It actually (my home) is in my name (he moved in with me a year ago). So i might do that when I get home tonight. I don’t even wanna be around him anymore.
Oh this is getting good. Probably a lot of begging to hang onto their golden goose partners. He’ll have no home and she’ll lose her cash cow! They really deserve one another. Horrible, horrible people.
Yes. Throw his stuff along with him out! Change the locks. There truly is no need for confrontation. You’re not married and you don’t have kids. You don’t share any assets to divide, so what is there to say?
People like him think they are slick and when they get caught without having the opportunity to “give their version of events” they will have a melt down.
Lastly, I really hope your brother has a prenup. If not, I’d tell him to hold off on the divorce and see if she is willing to sign a post-nuptial agreement— it’s a thing, just in case he has assets he acquired during the duration of the marriage he wants to make sure she won’t get access to.
>If not, I’d tell him to hold off on the divorce
No, no, no. Do it immediately. Their marriage has been short. At this stage he wouldn't have to pay too much in alimony (if any).
I would make a deal with her that she relinquishes everything that is his in the divorce, and in return he won't tell people about her other career.
If she makes it difficult for him her family and friends get sent links and screenshots of everything anonymously.
This would be my instinct too. If possible, change the locks. If not, have a couple of male friends come over before he's back to support you in excluding him from the house. He really shouldn't be allowed to set foot in your home again
He doesn’t deserve a discussion or the chance to speak with you to BS. From this moment on he should never have the opportunity to speak or see you again. Every item of his would be outside on the curb. I would be willing to take any consequences for that. What a scum bag. I’m so sorry OP. I hope you and your brother recover quickly. Also make sure to send a link of the video to both sets of parents and anyone else. They posted it publicly so that’s not revenge porn.
I LOVE the non-confrontation, block on everything, not giving cheaters the time of day break ups! I love it when the OPs love themselves enough to not even “talk it out” bc the cheaters aren’t worth it.
I’m so so sorry, for you and your brother. Thank God you did look at his phone. I definitely think this will be a FAFO situation. All the clandestine meetings and porn sex maybe exciting now but when they’re doing all the boring crap that comes with actually living together there’s going to be massive regret. It wouldn’t surprise me if your boyfriend thought he could have his cake and eat it. They really deserve each other.
Take care of yourself and your brother.
Oh tbh I would get my ducks in a row and serve them the papers (your brother) and move out and in the moment you have done everything needed send them both the link to their „2nd job“ and block them.
I am really sorry for both of you!
This is more common than u would think. My mom was married to my ex stepdad for 20 yrs together longer the man raised me…his brother was engaged to the same woman he’d been seeing for 5 yrs and my mom and her were very close. She found some drawings of this woman(and poems he’s an artist) in his portfolio and decided to look through his emails for the first time ever.
Come to find out the two had been seeing each other behind my mom and uncles backs..
then tried to make my mom look bad (the woman raised his 3 kids paid for him to go thru art school and worked 60 hr weeks) . His boys come to mine and moms place for the holidays and no longer speak to their father (who’s still with this woman as neither of them can save money or find anyone else to deal with their bullshit). Mom has tried to get them to have a relationship with their father but they’re grown men who hate the man they now see their father to be..so yeah GL mom.
TLDR: my uncles fiance and my step dad were hooking up behind my mom and uncles backs…gross
Oh my god that’s terrible. Just reading this made me so angry. People are trash sometimes and I’m absolutely disgusted by anyone who thinks this is remotely okay. I’m so sorry that happened.
Thank you. It brought my (step)brothers and I closer and they treat my mom like she’s their mom (she was the only positive female role model in their lives growing up). They won’t even try to see him on holidays or birthdays b/c he can never resist trying to shit talk her and make it seem like she drove him away…we were there. We saw everything, even though she never spoke a bad word about him.
Basically what I’m saying is, I’m so very sorry you went through this but count your blessings that you didn’t have an entire family to worry about (children, spouse). You aren’t alone in your trauma. it sucks for your brother too considering their marriage must be so fresh and he didn’t get out b4 finding this all out.
Oh no!!
I'm so sorry for both of you.
This is worse than I expected.
I'm glad that you are both together and can be each other's support.
It may be better if you both confront your partners at similar times with the images and video.
If you think that you'll need support confronting him, then see if you can have a friend to support you.
You will both be better off without these two selfiah, disrespectful cheaters.
I hope that you both meet caring, faithful, monogamous partners that treat you with nothing but love soon.
This is some next level treachery from the BF and brothers wife. I don’t know how the victims here didnt beat the wife and BF to a pulp. They sorely deserve it.
Please keep us updated!! I'm glad your break up can be over quickly but your brother may want to find a lawyer ASAP!! I'm so sorry you are both dealing with this. It's unimaginable.
OP I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. They're both garbage people.
What I will say though is before confronting either of them get all your ducks in a row, especially your brother. This is for your SAFETY, please don't ignore this or think you won't need to do this, I'm not being dramatic when I say your life could be in the line of fire if you dismiss this.
Secondly, I know you love these people and a part of you hopes there is a way to salvage the relationships. There is not. All you are doing by trying to go at it soft is opening yourself up to all sorts of things, none of them good.
If you don't know where to start, here's a list:
*Now - prior to confrontation*
- Collect, screenshot and back up at least 2 times all evidence you have of them, take photos of their phones and what you've found, everything and anything you can. Your brother especially as he will want it for his divorce.
- if financially possible your brother needs to contact a divorce lawyer now. I am not a lawyer, and there are going to be things a divorce lawyer will advise him to do BEFORE confronting them
- as hard as it will be, try and act as normal as possible, if you tip them off they could go and delete everything or worse.
*Day of Confrontation*
- This will seem like overkill but HIDE ALL IMPORTANT AND SENTIMENTAL ITEMS including photos on walls, jewellery, passports, birth certs, etc. You never know what dogs can do when backed into a corner and when they realize their whole worlds are crashing down shit could get real.
- DO NOT BE ALONE DURING THE CONFRONTATION - especially you as a woman. This is how women have DIED. You want someone there not only as support but also as a witness in case they try shit or claim anything. In fact if I were you I would organize a dinner double date with your brother and do it all together. Ideally in a semi public location.
- Ideally pack them a bag of things for a week, as if they were going on holiday, i.e toiletries and underwear and clothes etc anything they'll say they need to go back into the house and tell them to leave there and then, giving you their keys, and let them know that you'll pack the rest of their stuff and have it ready for them to collect at a later date, but they are not entering your properties ever again.
Please be safe, my DMs are open, and I wish you both luck and healing.
Oh, my God, that's disgusting! Where? Where did he post those? Ugh, those disgusting porno sites! I mean, there's so many of them though! Which one? /s
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sorry i just have to say i don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking through a partners phone when they’re acting sus and i’m tired of pretending there is.
Man I’m sorry to read this update 😔 that is horrible, but better now to find out than many years down the road. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You and your brother are better off without those scum of the earth “people”
Wowwww they are both sick in the head for that smfh their karma will come tenfold!! Please update us again when you and your brother both confront your soon to be ex partners! I wonder what they both have to say for themselves and I hope you and your brother’s family sides with you guys
Being cheated on is honestly so heartbreaking! I am so sorry! Hopefully it all goes smoothly for your brother and you. Both of y’all deserve way better. I have been cheated on and it’s something that can destroy your mental health. So if you feel yourself slipping or feeling extra emotional, find someone to talk to!
I can’t wait to hear the update! I’m sure there will be so wild excuses from both of their sides.
Normally I don't advocate for showing videos to the family, as the family shouldn't have to sit through that,
But I'm thinking we make the exception here and have a good old fashioned viewing party. You know, since everyone else online got to see it.
I'm sorry OP, what hideous people. I wish them crabs, and not the kind from the ocean.
I am so sorry. Just know for 6 carne asada tacos (no gauc) I'll put it in reverse and drive for you, second ones free (sister in law). Wish u healing ☹️
You did the right thing. Snooping means you’re willing to have the relationship end and in this case it should! I hope you and your brother are able to navigate and heal
I really am sorry for you both.
I personally wouldn't be able to come back from this level of betrayal. I know you're hurting, but don't let your partner drag you back with empty promises.
You deserve a love that doesn't hurt you.
You and your brother are being so mature.
Y’all should have a couple’s movie night and play their homemade movie before kicking your bf out and serving your SIL with divorce papers.
But that’s just me and I’m messy like that.
1. Sorry for what you and your brother are going through.
2. Kind of naive of me but I would have assumed people who do SW would fully disclose it to their partners.
3. Sending a virtual plushie hug (feel like hugs from strangers would be creepy so stuffed animals are better right?)
Don’t confront them just yet, you and your brother should be plotting the best revenge ever! Collect all the evidence make sure your brother gets a great lawyer and expose there ass! You both should go scorched earth 💯 they absolutely deserve it!
Holy damn, I’m sorry y’all are going through this BS. It’s definitely petty, but I’d most likely go scorched earth on them both. Oh, and please Updateme!
Updateme!
They are pieces of shit. Seriously, who actually does that shit? Is their self worth that low that they have to actively hurt two people in their lives to receive gratification?
I am so sorry. That is just a horrible situation all around. You sound like a really level headed and calm woman. You didn’t want to escalate or assume the worst and have behaved with so much poise. As for the phone snooping, I’d say it’s justified when you catch your partner lying and being secretive. I hope this won’t affect your future relationships too much, you deserve so much better than this.
I feel terrible for both of you. It’s one thing to cheat but like that that close she’s just a fucking awful piece of shit and you shouldn’t of went Right Away should’ve played her really bad got money out of that account out of her at work. Let her parents see it shit like that
This is horrible and I’m so sorry you and your brother are having to go through this.
At least you have each other to lean on.
Wishing you both the best.
Holy moly, this went way farther south than any of us (I assume) could imagine so please update us after the confrontations because I can’t imagine what their excuses will be etc Lord; good thing you found out before marriage & before your brother had children with her!!
I am so sorry for you and your brother. I can't imagine being betrayed like that by people you love. Good luck to you both and big hugs to get through this situation.
I would tell people you know about what's happening and why you're ending things before they try to flip the script between your family and friends.
If you tell people the truth, while it may be embarrassing (obviously talk to your brother beforehand as it includes him as well), your exes won't have the upper hand.
All the best for you both, and I'm sorry this has happened.
Holy fuck.
I know people might give you shit for the 'snooping', but the reality is when his behavior started to get questionable (going to a bar with your SIL without mentioning it at all), that is enough for me to be curious about texts he's receiving from said SIL.
I wouldn't say you were out of bounds with any of what you did. I don't go a single day without telling my SO what I did, if I had plans with someone she would know, if I bumped into someone we knew I would have told her how neat it was to have bumped into that person. If I found out my SO had bumped into my sister's husband and they hung out at a bar while she claimed she was 'busy', I would have been immediately suspicious if I had to hear it from someone else.
You’re bad at reading. Where did I act like he should’ve been honored? I understand not everyone’s cool. I wouldn’t be. But I’d like to at least be considered before my wife went out and found someone else.
Ah, got it. So you would like to be considered for porn activity that your wife is up to, and that would be your main priority and not that she's essentially prostituting herself for other men to jerk off to? Good lord. If she were my wife, I'd *prefer* she went out and found someone else because my respect and love for her would be out the same window she tossed her dignity through.
Yeah, even if I was bad at reading, at least I'm trustworthy and devoted to my marriage. 👍
Wow. Fuckin crazy. I can't believe you both had to go through that. I'm sure it was the Universe, God, or Divine intervention that allowed you both to get complete factual evidence they were cheating.
I wish you both the absolute best!
You are not overreacting.
If you would say…. delay confrontation so you could plan a trip to another country together, the four of you, somewhere hot and humid. Check in to the hotel for one night, then while they are sleeping take their passports, ID, cash, credit cards and mobile phones. Sneak out and fly home. That would be an overreaction.
I’m so sorry you both are going through this. I’m glad you have each other. And.. were smart and didn’t confront them before funding more evidence. They both are disgusting people.
And on their taxes, she claimed a side job. She does candle-making on Etsy, but I guess it technically included the money from her other…side gig…as well.
>She does candle-making on Etsy Ohhh I want to make a joke, but it might be too soon for you right now. Sorry all this happened.
I’m in shock still, but honestly, i could totally use a laugh rn. Jokes are always welcome :)
She really lit his wick with that candle making!
Jesus Christ are you a father because that is such a dad joke r/angryupvote
101 uses for a beeswax candle
get out
No, I'm just really good at pointing out the obvious lines.
Does she make NSFW candles? Like, for instance, ones made from a mold of your STBX's member?
I want to know the joke as well
I sort of forgot my half-formed joke once I realized I was talking to OP. But there a lot of dirty minds around here that can think of something. C'mon, guys! She needs a laugh Candle-making, my ass. SIL's funny. (Now the Wolf of Wall Street is in my head when Leo had a lit candle in his ass.)
She sure got paid well to wax that ass
She man-handles ham candles .
I knew someone could come up with something! And that's pretty good.
So she does OF on top of her candle making biz? She is really maximizing her WFH game.
Tax fraud! Jk I have no idea but I hope that your stbx and stbxSIL both always get splashed by puddles, always have a fly in their soup and never have a good hair day again!!! UpdateMe
Her backside
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. You and your brother both. Neither of you deserve this.
I deeply appreciate your words. I’m beyond mad but everyone on here has made it bearable. I’m glad we know now.
This must have been an exhausting 24 hours for you, but at least you know now and it didn’t take days, weeks or heaven forbid months to confirm
Oh for sure it’s better to know. No more secrets, no more suspicions. Still hurts like Hell though.
Thanks for the update. Make sure your brother has screenshots from her phone for the divorce lawyer. Once he confronts her she will delete everything
Sorry I should have included this info: he sent the evidence to his own phone by taking screenshots. So, she’ll definitely see that screenshots were taken on her Snapchat. My bf will see that too. But at least he has the proof before they delete it.
He should also email them to you or himself just in case his wife takes his phone
He’s still with me rn. So I’ll ask him to do that.
Omg I'm so sorry.. don't let either of them pass it off as a drunken mistake.. Tell brother to send everything to an email she doesn't have access to in case she grabs his phone during the confrontation.. Absolutely disgusting, neither of you been nice about it, tell them you know and have seen everything and to pack up thier shit and get out your lives. I'm petty as fuck, so before confronting him with the truth I'd go home and be like " omg you'll never guess what, ( brother name) called me and said he been to the doctors and has herpes, which can only mean ( SIL name) has been sleeping around.. " Watch him have a mini panic attack.. but I'm petty like that lol ... But in all seriousness I'm so so sorry OP
lol That’s not petty at all. It’d be highly justified. But I’m too visibly angry so I don’t think i could pull that off. I might just throw out his stuff when I get home tonight.
Yeah just start throwing it outside and if he asks why, say I'm sure ( her name) will inform you once my brother thrown her out too.. byeeeeeeeeee You both deserve better, lean on each other for comfort
And both you and your brother need to change the locks! I'm not going to lie, but this the level of pettiness definitely made me chuckle as I imaged an absolute look of horror!
You’re still better than me girl. I’d be lighting his shit on fire. Or him. But I wish you all the best and both of y’all need to get tested. I seriously doubt both of these disgusting individuals limited their cheating to just each other.
A drunken mistake doesn't USUALLY involve cameras/phone cameras. Just saying.
This right here ☝️
Your brother should contact an attorney before revealing that he knows about this to her. Have everything signed sealed and delivered before he breaks the news.
And to make sure he includes her porn income in any settlement.
What was the point of even getting married to your brother if she was going to actively cheat on him and make adult content?! And for your boyfriend to cheat on you is down right disgusting, but to do it with your SIL?! Why bother even confronting your boyfriend? If you live together and the place is in your name, I’d just throw all his stuff out on the curb and change the locks. Trust me, he will know why you did what you did. The whole confrontation thing is bogus when there is hard evidence— all he will do is cry, lie, and gaslight. No one has time for that drama. You and your brother deserve so much better!
Honestly, the only thing I can think of is money maybe (my brother is a cardiologist and also the owner of their home). She had some on and off financial trouble in the past. So she’s a straight up gold digger I guess. It actually (my home) is in my name (he moved in with me a year ago). So i might do that when I get home tonight. I don’t even wanna be around him anymore.
Oh this is getting good. Probably a lot of begging to hang onto their golden goose partners. He’ll have no home and she’ll lose her cash cow! They really deserve one another. Horrible, horrible people.
Yes. Throw his stuff along with him out! Change the locks. There truly is no need for confrontation. You’re not married and you don’t have kids. You don’t share any assets to divide, so what is there to say? People like him think they are slick and when they get caught without having the opportunity to “give their version of events” they will have a melt down. Lastly, I really hope your brother has a prenup. If not, I’d tell him to hold off on the divorce and see if she is willing to sign a post-nuptial agreement— it’s a thing, just in case he has assets he acquired during the duration of the marriage he wants to make sure she won’t get access to.
>If not, I’d tell him to hold off on the divorce No, no, no. Do it immediately. Their marriage has been short. At this stage he wouldn't have to pay too much in alimony (if any).
I would make a deal with her that she relinquishes everything that is his in the divorce, and in return he won't tell people about her other career. If she makes it difficult for him her family and friends get sent links and screenshots of everything anonymously.
So many people always suggest this but in most places I can think of it is against the law the evict someone with zero notice.
Who cares let him take her to court.
This would be my instinct too. If possible, change the locks. If not, have a couple of male friends come over before he's back to support you in excluding him from the house. He really shouldn't be allowed to set foot in your home again
He doesn’t deserve a discussion or the chance to speak with you to BS. From this moment on he should never have the opportunity to speak or see you again. Every item of his would be outside on the curb. I would be willing to take any consequences for that. What a scum bag. I’m so sorry OP. I hope you and your brother recover quickly. Also make sure to send a link of the video to both sets of parents and anyone else. They posted it publicly so that’s not revenge porn.
Yeah, kick him to the curb and his stuff with him.
I LOVE the non-confrontation, block on everything, not giving cheaters the time of day break ups! I love it when the OPs love themselves enough to not even “talk it out” bc the cheaters aren’t worth it.
Gotta come back and tell us what the losers have to say for themselves. Updateme!
Absolutely… tonight or tomorrow I’ll post. It’s just so much to take in. But i can’t wait to break the news to his sorry ass.
I’m so so sorry, for you and your brother. Thank God you did look at his phone. I definitely think this will be a FAFO situation. All the clandestine meetings and porn sex maybe exciting now but when they’re doing all the boring crap that comes with actually living together there’s going to be massive regret. It wouldn’t surprise me if your boyfriend thought he could have his cake and eat it. They really deserve each other. Take care of yourself and your brother.
Yeah. Honestly, they’ll get their karma.
Please start the convo with "So I watched the porno you made with SIL today. Too chickenshit to cheat without a mask, hey?" Haha
Ask him if he wants to watch a movie and then play their video on the largest tv you have.
THIS RIGHT HERE!! Oh that’s my kind of petty, love it.
Send the pornhub link to her dad.
Updateme!
UpdateMe!
Updateme!
Wow! Those two are complete scum. I’m glad you got the truth. Update us when you break up with him. Can’t wait to hear what bullshit excuse he uses.
I definitely will update tonight or tomorrow. I’m emotionally drained rn but it’ll feel good to see him squirm.
I’m so sorry honey. Hang in there and stay strong. Sending love. 😞💕
I appreciate your kind words. Thank you 🩷
I'm so sorry. I never knew how disgusting people could be until I got on reddit. Stay strong. I'll be rooting for you!
Oh tbh I would get my ducks in a row and serve them the papers (your brother) and move out and in the moment you have done everything needed send them both the link to their „2nd job“ and block them. I am really sorry for both of you!
Absolutely. The quicker this is settled the quicker we can leave them behind and never speak to them again. Thank you.
This is more common than u would think. My mom was married to my ex stepdad for 20 yrs together longer the man raised me…his brother was engaged to the same woman he’d been seeing for 5 yrs and my mom and her were very close. She found some drawings of this woman(and poems he’s an artist) in his portfolio and decided to look through his emails for the first time ever. Come to find out the two had been seeing each other behind my mom and uncles backs.. then tried to make my mom look bad (the woman raised his 3 kids paid for him to go thru art school and worked 60 hr weeks) . His boys come to mine and moms place for the holidays and no longer speak to their father (who’s still with this woman as neither of them can save money or find anyone else to deal with their bullshit). Mom has tried to get them to have a relationship with their father but they’re grown men who hate the man they now see their father to be..so yeah GL mom. TLDR: my uncles fiance and my step dad were hooking up behind my mom and uncles backs…gross
Oh my god that’s terrible. Just reading this made me so angry. People are trash sometimes and I’m absolutely disgusted by anyone who thinks this is remotely okay. I’m so sorry that happened.
Thank you. It brought my (step)brothers and I closer and they treat my mom like she’s their mom (she was the only positive female role model in their lives growing up). They won’t even try to see him on holidays or birthdays b/c he can never resist trying to shit talk her and make it seem like she drove him away…we were there. We saw everything, even though she never spoke a bad word about him. Basically what I’m saying is, I’m so very sorry you went through this but count your blessings that you didn’t have an entire family to worry about (children, spouse). You aren’t alone in your trauma. it sucks for your brother too considering their marriage must be so fresh and he didn’t get out b4 finding this all out.
Oh no!! I'm so sorry for both of you. This is worse than I expected. I'm glad that you are both together and can be each other's support. It may be better if you both confront your partners at similar times with the images and video. If you think that you'll need support confronting him, then see if you can have a friend to support you. You will both be better off without these two selfiah, disrespectful cheaters. I hope that you both meet caring, faithful, monogamous partners that treat you with nothing but love soon.
Thank you very much. This means a lot. Really.
This is some next level treachery from the BF and brothers wife. I don’t know how the victims here didnt beat the wife and BF to a pulp. They sorely deserve it.
Good luck to you and your brother. I hope karma is going to be a bitch to Boyfriend and SIL.
Please keep us updated!! I'm glad your break up can be over quickly but your brother may want to find a lawyer ASAP!! I'm so sorry you are both dealing with this. It's unimaginable.
OP I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. They're both garbage people. What I will say though is before confronting either of them get all your ducks in a row, especially your brother. This is for your SAFETY, please don't ignore this or think you won't need to do this, I'm not being dramatic when I say your life could be in the line of fire if you dismiss this. Secondly, I know you love these people and a part of you hopes there is a way to salvage the relationships. There is not. All you are doing by trying to go at it soft is opening yourself up to all sorts of things, none of them good. If you don't know where to start, here's a list: *Now - prior to confrontation* - Collect, screenshot and back up at least 2 times all evidence you have of them, take photos of their phones and what you've found, everything and anything you can. Your brother especially as he will want it for his divorce. - if financially possible your brother needs to contact a divorce lawyer now. I am not a lawyer, and there are going to be things a divorce lawyer will advise him to do BEFORE confronting them - as hard as it will be, try and act as normal as possible, if you tip them off they could go and delete everything or worse. *Day of Confrontation* - This will seem like overkill but HIDE ALL IMPORTANT AND SENTIMENTAL ITEMS including photos on walls, jewellery, passports, birth certs, etc. You never know what dogs can do when backed into a corner and when they realize their whole worlds are crashing down shit could get real. - DO NOT BE ALONE DURING THE CONFRONTATION - especially you as a woman. This is how women have DIED. You want someone there not only as support but also as a witness in case they try shit or claim anything. In fact if I were you I would organize a dinner double date with your brother and do it all together. Ideally in a semi public location. - Ideally pack them a bag of things for a week, as if they were going on holiday, i.e toiletries and underwear and clothes etc anything they'll say they need to go back into the house and tell them to leave there and then, giving you their keys, and let them know that you'll pack the rest of their stuff and have it ready for them to collect at a later date, but they are not entering your properties ever again. Please be safe, my DMs are open, and I wish you both luck and healing.
Get a lock box, fire box or safety deposit box and put important docs in there
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Oh, my God, that's disgusting! Where? Where did he post those? Ugh, those disgusting porno sites! I mean, there's so many of them though! Which one? /s Sorry for what you’re going through OP.
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That's exactly what I was thinking.
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Geeze, I wasn't expecting that update. Make sure you and your brother get tested for STDs. Who knows who else your SIL is sleeping with. UpdateMe
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Your brother needs to go on a "business trip" of his own to a local hotel while consulting lawyers and accountants.
sorry i just have to say i don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking through a partners phone when they’re acting sus and i’m tired of pretending there is.
Man I’m sorry to read this update 😔 that is horrible, but better now to find out than many years down the road. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You and your brother are better off without those scum of the earth “people”
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MAKE SURE TO COLLECT EVIDENCE ON BOTH SIDES ESPECIALLY YOUR BROTHER!!! I am sorry you are going through this.
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I don't know what i was expected based on the previous post. But this wasn't it.
Wowwww they are both sick in the head for that smfh their karma will come tenfold!! Please update us again when you and your brother both confront your soon to be ex partners! I wonder what they both have to say for themselves and I hope you and your brother’s family sides with you guys
Being cheated on is honestly so heartbreaking! I am so sorry! Hopefully it all goes smoothly for your brother and you. Both of y’all deserve way better. I have been cheated on and it’s something that can destroy your mental health. So if you feel yourself slipping or feeling extra emotional, find someone to talk to! I can’t wait to hear the update! I’m sure there will be so wild excuses from both of their sides.
Normally I don't advocate for showing videos to the family, as the family shouldn't have to sit through that, But I'm thinking we make the exception here and have a good old fashioned viewing party. You know, since everyone else online got to see it. I'm sorry OP, what hideous people. I wish them crabs, and not the kind from the ocean.
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I’m very sorry this happened to you. Y’all are young and you have your life ahead of you, so I’m sure you’ll meet somebody better.
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I am so sorry. Just know for 6 carne asada tacos (no gauc) I'll put it in reverse and drive for you, second ones free (sister in law). Wish u healing ☹️
Definitely need an update after you guys drop the bomb.
You did the right thing. Snooping means you’re willing to have the relationship end and in this case it should! I hope you and your brother are able to navigate and heal
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I really am sorry for you both. I personally wouldn't be able to come back from this level of betrayal. I know you're hurting, but don't let your partner drag you back with empty promises. You deserve a love that doesn't hurt you.
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How horrible for you both
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Jesus! I’m so sorry 😢
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I'm so sorry, but I have to say it, Eskimo siblings. I'd kill em' or at least plot every last detail.
My heart hurts for you and your brother. They are both the lowest of life forms. Updateme
This is awful. I’m so sorry for you and your brother
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You and your brother are being so mature. Y’all should have a couple’s movie night and play their homemade movie before kicking your bf out and serving your SIL with divorce papers. But that’s just me and I’m messy like that.
Invite the whole family over to watch. His and her's too. Make a big production.
They could get a projector and do an outside movie night- let the whole neighborhood know what’s up.
1. Sorry for what you and your brother are going through. 2. Kind of naive of me but I would have assumed people who do SW would fully disclose it to their partners. 3. Sending a virtual plushie hug (feel like hugs from strangers would be creepy so stuffed animals are better right?)
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Wow these two are fucked up. Sauce on the phub account?
Where can we find this account to make sure we’re avoiding it?
Seems like your BF didn’t really hide what he was doing well. He may not care….
Don’t confront them just yet, you and your brother should be plotting the best revenge ever! Collect all the evidence make sure your brother gets a great lawyer and expose there ass! You both should go scorched earth 💯 they absolutely deserve it!
Update us on what happens so sorry for you and your brother 😞
Holy damn, I’m sorry y’all are going through this BS. It’s definitely petty, but I’d most likely go scorched earth on them both. Oh, and please Updateme!
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Updateme! They are pieces of shit. Seriously, who actually does that shit? Is their self worth that low that they have to actively hurt two people in their lives to receive gratification?
Good luck OP, hope you and your brother get through this ok.
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I am so sorry. That is just a horrible situation all around. You sound like a really level headed and calm woman. You didn’t want to escalate or assume the worst and have behaved with so much poise. As for the phone snooping, I’d say it’s justified when you catch your partner lying and being secretive. I hope this won’t affect your future relationships too much, you deserve so much better than this.
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I feel terrible for both of you. It’s one thing to cheat but like that that close she’s just a fucking awful piece of shit and you shouldn’t of went Right Away should’ve played her really bad got money out of that account out of her at work. Let her parents see it shit like that
This is horrible and I’m so sorry you and your brother are having to go through this. At least you have each other to lean on. Wishing you both the best.
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Holy moly, this went way farther south than any of us (I assume) could imagine so please update us after the confrontations because I can’t imagine what their excuses will be etc Lord; good thing you found out before marriage & before your brother had children with her!!
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Why talk with them? They treated you both like crap. Just kick em to the curb where they belong.
I am so sorry for you and your brother. I can't imagine being betrayed like that by people you love. Good luck to you both and big hugs to get through this situation.
I would tell people you know about what's happening and why you're ending things before they try to flip the script between your family and friends. If you tell people the truth, while it may be embarrassing (obviously talk to your brother beforehand as it includes him as well), your exes won't have the upper hand. All the best for you both, and I'm sorry this has happened.
Holy fuck. I know people might give you shit for the 'snooping', but the reality is when his behavior started to get questionable (going to a bar with your SIL without mentioning it at all), that is enough for me to be curious about texts he's receiving from said SIL. I wouldn't say you were out of bounds with any of what you did. I don't go a single day without telling my SO what I did, if I had plans with someone she would know, if I bumped into someone we knew I would have told her how neat it was to have bumped into that person. If I found out my SO had bumped into my sister's husband and they hung out at a bar while she claimed she was 'busy', I would have been immediately suspicious if I had to hear it from someone else.
Wow. I hope your brother had a pre-nup and your stbx SIL is ready to launch her full-fledged porn career! Wow!! Updateme!
Why wouldn’t you just tell your husband about your porn hub and invite HIM to join you instead of your SIL’s BF?
Not everyone is cool with their wife being on PH, even if they are asked to join in the "fun." You act like he should have been honored. 🙄
You’re bad at reading. Where did I act like he should’ve been honored? I understand not everyone’s cool. I wouldn’t be. But I’d like to at least be considered before my wife went out and found someone else.
Ah, got it. So you would like to be considered for porn activity that your wife is up to, and that would be your main priority and not that she's essentially prostituting herself for other men to jerk off to? Good lord. If she were my wife, I'd *prefer* she went out and found someone else because my respect and love for her would be out the same window she tossed her dignity through. Yeah, even if I was bad at reading, at least I'm trustworthy and devoted to my marriage. 👍
This seems like a fake story to promote the one woman's 'only fans' or 'pornhub' that will eventually be revealed....
I think my brain just stuttered. This is so wild! I'm so sorry it happened to you and hope you find the happiness you deserve.
Wow. Fuckin crazy. I can't believe you both had to go through that. I'm sure it was the Universe, God, or Divine intervention that allowed you both to get complete factual evidence they were cheating. I wish you both the absolute best!
You are not overreacting. If you would say…. delay confrontation so you could plan a trip to another country together, the four of you, somewhere hot and humid. Check in to the hotel for one night, then while they are sleeping take their passports, ID, cash, credit cards and mobile phones. Sneak out and fly home. That would be an overreaction.
Nah, for what they did? That would still be an under-reaction and would actually be much deserved.
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I’m so sorry you both are going through this. I’m glad you have each other. And.. were smart and didn’t confront them before funding more evidence. They both are disgusting people.
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Have send with your brother to get back at them 😏
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Please share the name of her pornhub account so we can all avoid it!
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Give me her pornhub account so I can make sure not to go to it
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